I Must Be BUG'N

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yv2NuYvVBDFsNlFQ3YP531x65wKnWuk3_DjkPR2SjI0/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummaryIn this episode, I speak with Aurora Remember, a school psychologist and host of the "Embracing Intensity" podcast. We discuss the concept of neurodivergence, the difference between self-control and self-regulation, burnout and how to recover from it as well as how to improve the school experience for neurodivergent learners, especially twice-exceptional ones and those with disabilities. Aurora shares her personal journey of embracing her intensity and the challenges faced by gifted individuals. We go on to discuss the importance of creatively engaging the brain in learning, the challenges parents face in modern times, and the need for a shift in educational approaches to accommodate diverse learning styles. She also dispels the myth that "higher-level thinking" is hierarchical. Aurora shares insights that apply to everything from schools, friendships and even dating.Key PointsIntensity can overwhelm some but it can also be a strength.Neurodivergence includes a range of experiences that deviate from the norm.Self-regulation is more effective than self-control for managing energy.Authenticity is crucial for personal and professional fulfillment.Schools often overlook the internal struggles of neurodivergent students.Challenging preconceived notions in education can lead to better outcomes.Higher-level thinking is not always hierarchical, especially with neurodivergent minds.Creative problem-solving is essential for engaging gifted students."Basic" tasks can be difficult for neurodivergent individuals.It's important to find joy in everyday tasks.Ditching all-or-nothing thinking can lead to better outcomes.Stay in Contact with Aurora:@auroraremember on most platforms (embracing intensity on YouTube and IG)Embracing Intensity Podcast - https://embracingintensity.com/media/podcast/Aurora's Website - https://embracingintensity.comHelpful Links:Hire me to speak or as your personal gifted or neurodivergent discovery coach!: https://sheldongayisbugn.comFree list of Therapists for Melanated and Marginalized Groups: https://sheldongayisbugn.com/#resourcesFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/resourcesKeywordsneurodivergence, burnout recovery, energy management, giftedness, self-regulation, education, authenticity, creativity, school psychology, embracing intensity, neurodiversity, twice-exceptional, education, parenting, learning challenges, self-regulation, higher-level thinking, emotional intelligence, energy balance, communicationIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1zgSP6jBArpGXJ0hDdJkjdQls-w4rb3aUKgXV2aT8mGo/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummaryIn this short, reflection episode, I talk about a few key reflections on my recent episode with Shakela Strawberry. I discuss the importance of adult's taking responsibility for educating our youth, including neurodivergent children. I speak about how the education industry can be a powerful arm of the oppressive systems we're fighting against. I also discuss the relevancy to recent developments regarding the US Department of Education's attempts to remove DEI initiatives. I also urge us to continue to imagine new educational paradigms that promote freedom and peace for all.Key PointsWhat the adults in schools need for successWhy we need to pay attention to how our schools are structuredThe impact of the Education Department's "Dear Colleague Letter" defeat regarding DEIHelpful Links:A.D.E. website: www.audacitytodaretoeducate.orgFollow A.D.E. on Instagram: a_d_e_labA.D.E. on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/audacitytodaretoeducate/Email Shakela: shakela@audacitytodaretoeducate.orgHire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.comFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/Keywordsdear colleague, neurodivergence, advocacy, education, minority youth, parenting, school-to-prison pipeline, accommodations, giftedness, diversity, communityIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1RsG6zlv0jLTM7nK1CIR3VgjK4W57S5qVnxmlCVmqaMA/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummaryIn this episode, I chat with Shakela Strawberry, a mom, special-education teacher and non-profit founder who is a dedicated advocate for neurodivergent people. Shakela shares her journey from being a mother to an advocate and educator, highlighting the challenges faced by neurodivergent children in the education system. She discusses her nonprofit, A.D.E. (Audacity to Dare to Educate), which empowers neurodivergent folks. We talk about the complexities of mental health, especially as it relates to Black and otherwise melanated youth. She also speaks to the importance of having empathy as a parent and an educator. This leads to discussions such as how depression often manifests as anger in young Black men. Shakela shares alarming statistics about neurodivergence in education and its relationship to juvenile detention. She also discusses the importance of recognizing the strengths of neurodivergent people and the historical context of education for marginalized communities. This is a really good episode for parents, educators and those who felt the school system treated them more like a problem to fix than a human whose needs deserved support.Key PointsNeurodivergence is often misunderstood and misrepresented in education.Labels can be harmful and do not define a person's abilities.Neurodivergent individuals have unique strengths that should be embraced.Parents can educate themselves on how to support their neurodivergent children.Understanding the root cause of behavior is crucial for effective parenting.Community education is essential for understanding neurodivergence.Empathy can be cultivated through experiential learning and simulations.The school-to-prison pipeline disproportionately affects neurodivergent youth.Accommodations like audiobooks can significantly aid learning for neurodivergent students.A world where people are free to accept themselves without stigma is crucial to empowering neurodivergent individuals.Helpful Links:A.D.E. website: www.audacitytodaretoeducate.orgFollow A.D.E. on Instagram: a_d_e_labA.D.E. on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/audacitytodaretoeducate/Email Shakela: shakela@audacitytodaretoeducate.orgHire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.comFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/Keywordsneurodivergence, advocacy, education, dyslexia, special education, creative learning, equity, awareness, empowerment, depression, minority youth, parenting, school-to-prison pipeline, accommodations, giftedness, diversity, communityIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sQCSGiPcKZn1fOb1yXof3Bxcbg9BM-RcmREiqR6E2W0/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummaryIn this episode, I speak with Michael Asaku-Yeboah, a vocational therapist and inclusion consultant. This is a DEEP conversation where we discuss things like the importance of understanding one's neurodivergence, what it's like for neurodivergent people in corporate spaces and how he's doing work to help Fortune 100 companies and others create spaces where all minds can thrive. Michael has seen the qualitative and quantitative impacts of his work, repeatedly demonstrating that this work isn't just about feeling good, it can save and earn companies significant amounts of money and other resources. Michael is making an impact not only in the US but also in his home country of Ghana where many of the schools are also suffering from colonized curriculum. This is a conversation about self-discovery and acceptance as well as how companies can avoid unwittingly creating barriers to the very culture and goals they say they desire.Key PointsWe should be questioning our perceptions of intelligence, i.e. favoring memorization over demonstrated understanding.Diagnosis and self-identification of neurodivergence can be life changingNeurodivergent individuals often face unique challenges in corporate settings.Inclusive education can help change narratives around learning. Neurodivergent individuals can be highly intelligent but may struggle with traditional learning methods.Even parents can be unaware that their children may be neurodivergent.There's substantial data that demonstrates that supporting neurodivergent people has material financial benefits for companiesCoaching can help neurodivergent individuals navigate workplace challenges effectively.Neurodivergent individuals often contribute significantly to innovation and creativity.Intersectionality plays a crucial role in understanding neurodivergent experiences.Complex trauma can significantly impact neurodivergent individuals' behaviors.Helpful Links:Connect with Michael Asaku-Yeboah: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maykoi/Eisenhower Matrix: https://asana.com/resources/eisenhower-matrixNeuroNest (Under Construction as of Feb 2026): https://neurovocafrica.com/neuro/Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.comFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/Keywordsneurodiversity, inclusion, disability management, coaching, education, corporate culture, Ghana, mental health, intersectionality, workplace inclusion, perfectionism, empathyIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/17YKf0QfVIfN03XpHUCXwUSNWbvFqQUSKN2SLM6Pkm9I/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummary:In my latest conversation, I get the honor of chatting with David Hester, PhD again. Per usual, we talked about just about EVERYTHING (haha). David shares his thoughts on neuroplasticity (old dogs CAN learn new tricks), the promise and dangers of artificial intelligence and the need for ethical tech, perceptions of neurodivergence that aren't based in deficits and a future where diverse perspectives are valued and integrated into decision-making processes. We also explore the intersection of technology, masculinity, and emotional intelligence. He shares the ways in which he's looking to impact a billion people through his work at LifeGuides, MusingU and more. We simply let our minds and hearts delve into every topic as if there are no boundaries...because there really aren't when you've got a mind like Dave's. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of community, healthy relationships, and the being free of binary thinking, while also addressing the future of humanity in a technologically advanced world.Key Points:Neuroplasticity allows for continuous learning and adaptation.We must demand equitable access to technology for all communities.Neurodivergent people can possess unique perspectives that can drive innovation.Understanding our own narratives can shift perceptions of self.Representation of Black men in various spaces is crucial.Artificial intelligence is being used to do things like implant ideas in dreamsCreating inclusive and engaging work environments requires ongoing training.Masculinity as a binary isn't a global belief-systemHelpful Links:Connect with David Hester, PhD: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhesterjr/The Union - Coworking and Collaborating Space (Seattle): https://www.theunion.io/Dr. Tracy Marks YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/drtraceymarksKeywords:neuroplasticity, neurodivergence, giftedness, organizational growth, representation, equity, technology access, personal growth, societal norms, community, technology, social impact, AI, neuroscience, ethical AI, corporate culture, technology, masculinity, emotional intelligence, gender fluidity, community, relationshipsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Whi98bPoD7JApOXYX5IkbaMbD9XzSRSBd7UdwhKwKfs/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummary:In this episode, I reflect on some of my favorite episodes that are good to review during this time of rest and restoration. Listen to hear how you can help 2026 be a transformative year for me.Suggested copy for introducing me to your network:Hi [Insert Name] — I wanted to put Sheldon Gay on your radar. He’s doing thoughtful and timely work around giftedness, neurodivergence, leadership, and burnout, especially for Black and other traditionally marginalized groups. I immediately thought of your team when I learned he’s available for speaking. Given the challenges many teams are facing right now with regard to inclusion efforts as well as recruiting and retaining top talent, I thought his perspective could be especially helpful. If it’s useful, I’d encourage you to reach out and connect with him directly. Here's his website: sheldongayisbugn.com.Helpful Links:Season 1 Episode 2 "Why Are We BUG'N?": https://open.spotify.com/episode/4suruvJEx1sdqw1kdOEKUz?si=zL8mWVCpScWUjPcLW5n8EgSeason 3 Episode 2 "Why Anger is Necessary for Joy": https://open.spotify.com/episode/1OCMXHZWRC2iOsau77e3Jv?si=i01SJ3yQTmWUP_goL_kZXQSeason 3 Episode 1 "Is it a Neurodivergent Excuse or Reason?": https://open.spotify.com/episode/0lOLLlDt2JzivxUie0o3gn?si=t0BXb7XpQri7_3t3TjnrKQSeason 2 Episode 11 "It Must Be My MEgo": https://open.spotify.com/episode/1CoIkccfPzeLfxaLkZ6L1S?si=mPDBBV5jTW6d26uaAleXhgSeason 3 Episode 3 "Mom...I'm Autistic": https://open.spotify.com/episode/7C8HTURxc6bL0eiVOY2DTJ?si=FFc7FGPCRRiLbarRpfbaVgSeason 2 Episode 7 "It Must Be Good Grief": https://open.spotify.com/episode/6HAw4IM2SWSPlEgnQTzUYJ?si=61d3b4ef53084e4eCosmic Cheer Squad Guest Interview "Compassionate Mirrors": https://open.spotify.com/episode/5WV81qYuymV9wVTyZ5UT8g?si=QgPSG3ZkTv-D0BHs29jD8QHire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.comFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_linkKeywords: podcast, reflection, support, neurodivergent, community, personal growth, Black men, mental health, grief, joyIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1rNjh4fS_StpHON-a-EEk_n_dH4hGK46s0EPe5o5U2Qc/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummary:In this episode, I speak with Dr. Jeff, an expert helping people with ADHD transform their lives, especially in the workplace. We discussed Dr. Jeff's personal journey with ADHD, the challenges he faced, and how he developed a system to help others harness their ADHD. He tells us about being saved from wandering into the street, teaching himself to code, how Adderall was helpful until he had a heart attack and couldn't take it anymore and much more. Dr. Jeff helps us see how humor can bring peace with our journey. Key Points:ADHD doesn't have to be viewed as a deficitHow accountability can help change habits and achieve goals.Self-compassion is key; failure is not a reflection of one's worth.Mindset shifts can transform one's approach to challenges.Community support enhances personal growth and accountability. Understanding ADHD can lead to better career choices.Living with uncertainty can heighten adrenaline and dopamine levels.Being able to laugh at life can help us find a way throughCreating supportive environments can enhance productivity.Helpful Links:Email Dr. Jeff: Drjeff@Drgetinfocus.comSchedule a call with Dr. Jeff: https://drgetinfocus.com/schedule-page (for clarity Kick-start session)Video about study demonstrating racial disparity in hiring: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DG1grIqvz_N/Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.comFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_linkKeywords: ADHD, neurodivergence, superpower, productivity, accountability, mindset, personal growth, mental health, self-awareness, SchlemielIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Acast - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ujE9yulu1kvNze2q99xDQO4qvt_pUdr0ISkiX_xhPtI/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummary:In this episode, we speak with Ayanna Sanaa Davis, an award-winning autism advocate, discussing her unique journey as a Black autistic woman. She shares about her misdiagnosis where she was erroneously institutionalized as well as how art has given her a voice, even when she hasn't wanted to verbalize. She even shares about the time she experienced physical violence in the classroom because someone lacked compassion for her neurodivergence. We explore the importance of representation, the journey to diagnosis, the impact of race on autism, and the cultural aspects of neurodivergence. The conversation emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding in a world that often overlooks the unique experiences of neurodivergent individuals.Key Points:Neurodivergent advocacy is evolving beyond just accommodations.Art is a beautiful outlet for expressing emotions and thoughts.Representation is crucial for Black autistic individuals, especially young ones.Being undiagnosed can lead to a lifelong search for identity.Cultural aspects significantly influence the experience of autism.Autistic burnout is distinct and can have lasting effects.Community support is essential for neurodivergent individuals.Empathy is needed to understand the challenges faced by neurodivergent people.Race plays a critical role in the experiences of autistic individuals.Education on neurodivergence should include cultural competence.Helpful Links:Follow Ayanna across ALL social platforms at @phenomenallyautisticConnect with Ayanna and all her projects: https://linktr.ee/PhenomenallyautisticHire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.comFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_linkKeywords: neurodivergence, autism, representation, black community, art, healing, social justice, advocacy, mental health, cultural aspects, bipolarIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nKIvlOlsje1bGu6wDyEdTNxG4Dfk2LKSMN3M_cPbkK8/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummary:In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Janelle Johnson, LMFT-S, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as a neurodiversity and disability advocate. We had a good ole time discussing the future of intersectional neurodivergent advocacy, especially as it relates to race and gender. Janelle shared a POWERFUL personal story about her own self-diagnosis. Janelle shared about her critically important research and her vision for a future where neurodivergent leaders are prominent in various sectors, advocating for equity and representation. We also discussed the importance of self-reflections, especially as it relates to our own internalized ableism. We also discuss some of the challenges neurodivergent folks face in therapy, as well as some helpful tips for identifying the right therapist for you. Janelle also shared some truly striking stats from her research as it relates to what the true "face of autism" looks like now and in the future. She is an amazing thought-leader in this space and I'm super excited for you to listen to our discussion.Key Points:Neurodivergent advocacy is evolving beyond just accommodations.You can't speak about neurodivergence or disability without talking about race and gender.Self-diagnosis is valid and can be a powerful realization.Beatboxing can be a form of stimming for some individuals.Therapists need to understand the cultural context of their clients.Emerging data shows disparities in autism diagnoses among racial groups.Neurodiversity should be rethought beyond traditional labels.The future should include more neurodivergent leaders in various fields.Community is enough and has always been enough.Challenging internalized ableism is crucial for personal growth.Embracing one's identity can lead to joy and fulfillment.Nuance and intersectionality are vital in understanding diverse experiences.Helpful Links:Janelle's Mental Health Practice - Bridges Family Life Center: http://www.bridgesflc.com/Take the neurodivergent research survey, and share with your networks! https://ncsu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3yOrtajDF32kG8eMalcolm X quote on Black women: https://speakola.com/political/malcolm-x-speech-to-black-women-1962Neurodivergent Therapist Database: https://ndtherapists.com/Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.comFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_linkIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1DvxQW82DslhfTiUMwO0q8tBhsxxuLMdTYndyXqY1pmQ/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummaryIn this episode, I delve into the complexities of anger, highlighting a number of ways that its presence is a pathway to healthier relationships. I discuss the importance of investigating anger rather than suppressing it and, furthermore, how societal norms, especially those dictated by systems of oppression, create extra burdens for melanated and marginalized people. I also share how anger helped me discover I was gifted and how it can help you understand your mind as well. I then provide actionable steps for harnessing your anger constructively to transform your life and community.Key Points:Acknowledging anger is essential for manifesting joy.Understanding emotions is crucial for personal growth.Safety in relationships starts with Self.Healthy relationships require the ability to express anger constructively.Investigating anger can reveal deeper traumas and needs.We must create safe spaces for all emotions, including anger.Helpful Links:Josh Johnson uses humor to discuss angerHire me to speak or buy some merch!: sheldongayisbugn.comFree GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNGND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.appUmbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_linkIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1JKjcPA2Usu4lG5bYSKkLeUPB8Su5KGsRFNe87mXeFgE/edit?usp=sharingFollow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugnSummaryIn this episode, I explore and explain something that can be a bit confusing, the difference between excuses and reasons. Many of us have seen this come up in our neurodivergent communities. It seems we run into challenges when sharing our intent and thought process. It's frustrating because we want to improve and maintain our relationships. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, I help you understand how radical accountability and prioritizing connection can foster healthier relationships.Key Points:* Radical accountability involves taking ownership of one's actions and their impact.* Healthy relationships require prioritizing connection over being right.* Modeling healthy behavior can help others learn how to communicate effectively.* Being an elite apologizer means acknowledging impact first, then intent.* Personal growth involves recognizing our own triggers and patterns.Helpful Links:* Hire me to speak or buy some merch!: sheldongayisbugn.com* Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG* ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app* Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/* Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_linkIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album NevermoreIcons from flaticon.com * Like (https://www.flaticon.com/free-icons/like)* Bell (https://www.flaticon.com/free-icons/bell) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGSummaryIn this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Reverend Nicholas Young about the intersections of faith, mental health, and the unique challenges faced by gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people. We touch on the importance of community, the role of grief in both ministry and therapy, and how to continue to center love and connection in a world filled with so many challenges. We also talk about the importance of working with Black boys to give them the things we wish we had as children. This is an important discussion for our community. Please connect with Nick and let me know what you think about this conversation!Key Points:The intersection of faith and mental health is crucial for holistic healing.Grief work is a significant part of both ministry and therapy.Community plays a vital role in combating loneliness, especially for gifted individuals.Creating safe spaces for Black boys is essential for their emotional well-being.Love and connection are fundamental to overcoming life's challenges.Gifted individuals may feel isolated and misunderstood in traditional settings.It's important to honor each person's unique experiences and needs.Therapists and ministers should work together to provide comprehensive support.Connect with Rev. Nicholas Young on socials at @nickyoungslifeHelpful Links:Hire me to speak or buy some merch!Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adultsCommunity for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGSummaryIn this episode, I explore the concept of being a mirror in relationships and how we can learn emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and personal growth. I delve into how our interactions with others can serve as mirrors, revealing lessons about ourselves. I discuss leveraging boundaries, the role of triggers in emotional responses, and the necessity of compassion for oneself and others. We talk a little James Baldwin and Rumi. This episode is about how we take more control of how we feel about our lives, spend less time bound by what happens around us and, ultimately, create amazing relationships that have more compassion, joy and safety.Key Points:Why being a mirror is critical to our best relationshipsLove involves magnifying each other's strengths and lightHow triggers reveal unresolved feelings from our past and a meaningful path forwardUsing self-reflection as a powerful tool for personal growthWhy boundaries are essential for protecting our emotional well-beingWhy validating our emotions as valid can serve as a guide for self-discoveryIncreasing our awareness of times when people are projecting their insecurities onto usHow investigating our own perceptions can lead to healthier relationshipsHelpful Links:Hire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGSummaryIn this episode, I discuss the recent proposal by RFK Jr. to create a database of autistic individuals, expressing deep concern over the implications of such a move. He emphasizes the importance of community, advocacy, and understanding the complexities surrounding autism and neurodivergence. Sheldon calls for collective action against systemic oppression and misinformation, urging listeners to remain vocal and supportive of marginalized communities.Key Points:The proposal to create a national database tracking autistic people is extremely problematicI acknowledge my privilege in choosing a neurodivergent label with less stigmaThe increase in autism diagnoses is due to better awareness, not an epidemic.This should be yet another reason we start taking data-privacy more seriouslyThe narrative around autism needs to be more inclusive and expansiveHelpful Links:What You Need to Know About the New Autism Data Registry2019 Study on ADHD Rates by Race/Ethnic GroupBackground of LebensbornHire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGIn this episode, I take my time really digging into the concept of ego, exploring its role in self-awareness and personal identity. I discuss the importance of understanding the ego as both a source of strength and a potential obstacle. I briefly discuss Freud while leaning much more heavily on the thoughts of Mooji and my own thoughts about how we conceptualize our Self. I talk a bit about psychological theories and then continue my journey by discussing the nature of consciousness, identity, and the transient nature of our experiences. I really go into the complexities of identity, authenticity, and the role of ego in shaping our self-perception. I also make sure to frame this from a neurodivergent perspective, since that significantly shapes how we see and interact with the world. At the end of the day, this is a deep and complex conversation about how to become truly aware of our true Selves so that we can not just survive but thrive through the connections we foster from a truly authentic and unmovable place that isn't bound by current or past circumstances.Key Points:We are not our bodies or minds; they are vessels and lenses through which we experience Life.Ego can manifest as both strength and obstacle.Self-acceptance is crucial as we navigate change.We must challenge our perceptions of Self.Connection is fundamental to our existence and well-being.We often see others through the lens of our own experiences.Shame and guilt can prevent personal growth and acceptance.We are all interconnected, and our experiences shape our identities.Helpful Links:Mooji on "What is Ego?"Annaka Harris discusses the illusion of self and free willAudre Lorde - "Learning from the '60s""Ego Tripping" by Nikki GiovanniHire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGIn this episode, I reflect on some things we need to leave in 2024 and some key things we need to make sure we're honing in on for 2025. I discuss things like patriarchy, the importance of internal validation, and the need for authentic community connections. How healthy boundaries and the power of imagination in creating new ways of being change our future? Join me as I think critically about our roles in perpetuating and dismantling oppressive systems while embracing our own power and authenticity moving forward into the new year.Key Points:Why we must name patriarchy and accept that it harms and is perpetuated by more than "men"Healthy boundaries are true game-changers for lifeImagining new ways of being can truly be an act of resistance and disrupt systems of oppressionHelpful Links:Lecrae interviews Jason WilsonAdam Grant interviews Loretta J. RossHire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGIn this previously recorded episode, I speak with Dr. Matt Zakreski, a clinical psychologist specializing in neurodivergence and giftedness. We explore the complexities of being neurodivergent, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for supportive environments for gifted individuals. Dr. Matt shares his personal experiences as someone who was identified as gifted early but had to wait several years to be diagnosed with ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and the necessity of creating inclusive spaces that recognize and nurture diverse talents. We also discuss the significance of DEI work, the need for community and connection, and the role of self-awareness in navigating systemic issues that impact us all. This is a great start to our discussion that we will pick up again in the new year. Take a listen and check out Dr. Matt's book via the link below as well. Stay in contact with Dr. Matt:Dr. Matt on InstagramDr. Matt's websiteHelpful Links:Grab Dr. Matt's Book!Hire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGDon't forget to subscribe, SHARE and leave a reviewSummary:In this episode, I explore the complex nature of grief through personal experiences I've encountered over the past year or so. I reflect on the multiple deaths/transitions that led me to this point in my journey. I discuss the death of our cat, my grandmother, the challenge of ending a long-term marriage as well as the death of Self. Through these stories, I outline griefs as an integral part of love and personal growth. It's likely my most personal episode to date.Key Points: Grief is part of loveThe loss of a pet is not something to be overlookedBeing present during a loved one's transition is a deep act of love.The end of a marriage is a special kind of grief.The death of Self requires powerful internal work and ongoing challengesGrief is not something to be avoided; it can be a teacher.Helpful Links:Hire me to speak or buy some merch! - HOLIDAY 2024 SALE use code "SKULLGERBIL"Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGDon't forget to subscribe, SHARE and leave a reviewIn this episode, I reflect on the emotional aftermath of the recent elections in the United States. I acknowledge the real and healthy grief many of us are experiencing. I spoke off the cuff and without any notes or quotes or prepared thoughts, just my heart. I give the briefest glimpse into why this goes much deeper than whether "my team won". I also mention how it caused me to further reflect on the grief from deaths, divorce and more in the past year or so. I emphasize why and how we should process grief as a natural part of love and connection. Whether or not you listen to the episode, I urge you to seek community and not face this journey in isolation.Key Takeaways:Today has been tough for many, especially marginalized communities.The US political system is often inhumane and unjust.Grief is a natural response to love and loss.Processing grief is essential for mental health.Community support is crucial during difficult times.It's important to make peace with our attachments.Isolation can exacerbate feelings of grief and despair.Finding community can help in navigating grief and identity.Helpful Links:Support the podcast by buying "I Must Be BUG'N" merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Dr. Mick - Licensed Therapist who shares knowledge while gamingUmbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyBloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook GroupNeurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook GroupSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)Follow I Must Be BUGN on IGDon't forget to subscribe, SHARE and leave a reviewToday we're welcoming back friend of the podcast, Dr. Kimberly Douglass. We're catching up with her and speaking more in-depth about what it means to, as she says, "Decolonize Neurodivergence" as well as why it's so important. Per usual, we just vibe and share our thoughts about how systems of oppression create unnecessary and harmful conditions we must work to free ourselves from, especially melanted and marginalized communities. Dr. Kimberly also discusses her program for women that helps them tackle this problem in their lives.Key Takeaways:How "Gifted and Talented" programs often fail students by creating a sense of exceptionalism while neglecting their human needs.Why we need to continue the pursuit of community-centered support rather than individualism.Recognizing and challenging oppressive systems is crucial in reshaping familial and societal dynamics.Futurism should focus on redefining relationships and include marginalized voices in shaping the future.Self-reflection and healing are crucial in the process of decolonization.Connect with Dr. Kimberly Douglass:Decolonizing Neurodivergence Program for Womendouglass@drkimberlydouglass.comdrkimberlydouglass.comHelpful Links:Wait, Could I Be Gifted? The "Quiz"Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild MindsUmbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online Neuro-inclusive CommunityNeurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook GroupSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood InsightsIntro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the alb Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.