Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

You will learn how to connect with your kids from Peace and Parenting's Michelle Kenney.  Michelle's tools on connecting with kids rather than discipling them has changed my parent child relationship first hand.  I am feeling blessed to be able to share her insights with you.  When you see behavior in your child that you know isn't helpful you can connect with them and help them think well.  Michelle teaches that empathy, play and one on one connection are the ways you can connect and then model behavior that will serve them through life.  I was struck by her comment that kids really don't learn from our verbal instruction.  80% of learning comes from modeling.  So if we can model good behavior life will teach them the rest! Michelle also share's some of the biggest road blocks kids face during divorce.  You can find Michelle at: Michelle's website Michelle's instagram Michelle's facebook Peace and Parenting Podcast Lesa Koski's website Lesa's instagram Lesa's facebook Mentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

In this episode you will learn how to deal with stress through laughter.  Join us as we learn how laughter can change your life and it doesn't even have to be something that you think is funny.  Lauren and Alik AKA The laughing lovebugs https://www.laughinglovebugs.com/ share their story of healing through laughter.  Go to LesaKoski.com for more information about how to begin a healing journey through divorce. https://www.familyandcivilmediation.com/ Mentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

In this episode you will learn the 5 simple steps to self coaching from my very own personal coach Tracy Pleschourt.  Join us and begin the healing journey through divorce.  Find Tracy at https://www.self-madeu.com/work-with-me.  Please use the code VIP to get 50% off her upcoming crash course.  Find us at LesaKoski.com. Mentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

If you are wondering about your divorce options this episode describes when mediation is appropriate and when you may want to get attorneys involved. Mentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

Learn all about Collaborative Law with our special guest Attorney Angela Heart. Mentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

This Podcast is a Business Talk Radio interview of host Lesa Koski.  You will learn all things mediation! Mentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

Divorce, mortgages, and the marital home can become one of the most costly mistakes women make after divorce. In this episode, divorce mediator Lesa Koski is joined by mortgage expert Tami Wollensak to break down what really happens when you try to keep the house after divorce—and why so many women regret the decision later.Divorce mortgages and keeping the marital home after divorce can derail your financial future. Learn what most women are never told before signing.Tami shares her own divorce story, the hard lessons she learned by keeping the marital home, and why emotional decisions around housing often lead to long-term financial stress. Together, Lesa and Tami unpack mortgage assumptions, interest rates, lender timelines, hidden costs, and why divorce agreements don’t bind banks.If you’re divorcing—or advising someone who is—this episode will help you avoid common traps, ask smarter questions, and create a Plan B that protects your future.This is an essential listen for women navigating divorce, post-divorce decisions, and housing uncertainty.⏱️ Timestamps(00:00) Introduction & why this is Lesa’s return to divorce work(04:30) Tami’s divorce story and the mistake of keeping the marital home(09:15) Why keeping the house feels safe—but often isn’t(14:20) Mortgage assumptions explained in plain English(19:40) Why lenders are not bound by divorce decrees(24:10) The hidden costs and timelines of mortgage assumptions(30:00) How HELOCs can completely derail an assumption(36:30) Why attorneys and mediators must plan beyond the paperwork(41:15) The importance of Plan B when the house doesn’t sell(47:00) Today’s mortgage rates and why the market is different now(52:40) Post-divorce fallout and why issues resurface years later(58:00) Empowerment, hope, and making informed decisions during divorce(01:02:30) Final advice for women navigating divorce and home decisions✅ Key TakeawaysKeeping the marital home after divorce often creates financial strain, not stabilityMortgage assumptions are complex, slow, and frequently deniedDivorce agreements do not bind lenders or banksHELOCs and hidden liabilities can make mortgage assumptions impossibleHaving a Plan B is critical to avoiding post-divorce litigation and stress👤 Guest BioTami Wollensak is a mortgage consultant who specializes in working with women navigating divorce and major life transitions. Having lived through divorce herself, Tammy brings both technical expertise and deep empathy to her work. She helps clients understand mortgage options, assumptions, refinancing risks, and long-term financial consequences so they can make informed decisions—not emotional ones—during divorce.🔗 Resource LinksConnect with Tammy Woolens: https://www.tamiwollensak.com/Divorce Mediation & Coaching with Lesa Koski: https://www.lesakoski.com/Related episode: Divorce Planning & Financial Clarity After 40🏷️ Tags / Keywordsdivorce mortgage, keeping the marital home after divorce, divorce and...

Divorce stress, anxiety relief, nervous system regulation—this episode shares practical tools to calm anxiety fast during divorce for women over 40. If divorce stress has you spinning out, this conversation will help you regulate your nervous system, calm anxiety fast, and find clarity in the moment. Host Lesa Koski welcomes DNA nutritionist and mindfulness teacher Elaine “Lane” Kennedy to talk nervous system regulation, stress management, and how lifestyle habits influence gene expression. You’ll learn what to do when self-coaching feels impossible, why movement can help more than journaling in traumatic moments, and how support and community help you navigate divorce stress with more calm and confidence. If you’re a woman over 40 navigating divorce, anxiety, and overwhelm, this episode offers real tools and hope—because midlife isn’t a crisis, it’s your comeback.Timestamps (in parentheses):(Note: Adjust to match your final edit timecodes.)(00:00) Welcome + why this episode matters for divorce stress and anxiety(02:10) Meet Elaine “Lane” Kennedy: DNA nutritionist + mindfulness teacher(06:00) The “white truck” moment: how stress shows up before we notice(11:20) Why “pause” is the first step in nervous system regulation(16:10) When “feeling your feelings” is too much: what to do instead(19:45) Move your body to calm anxiety fast: shaking, walking, getting outside(24:30) Why trauma shouldn’t be handled alone: community and co-regulation(30:10) Protecting your peace when a partner is dysregulated(36:40) DNA testing + gene expression: why one-size-fits-all wellness advice fails(44:20) Alcohol, anxiety, and stress: why it often makes things worse(49:10) The missing piece: fun, joy, and nervous system healing in midlife(55:30) Closing encouragement + how to connect with LaneKey Takeaways:Pause first: nervous system regulation creates clarity when divorce stress is high.Move before you process: in traumatic moments, movement can calm anxiety faster than journaling.Co-regulation matters: hard seasons feel lighter when you’re supported by safe people.Protect your peace: you are not responsible for regulating your partner’s emotions.Personalized wellness wins: DNA-informed lifestyle changes can support long-term health and resilience.Guest Bio:Elaine “Lane” Kennedy is a California-based DNA nutritionist and mindfulness teacher who helps people reduce stress, regulate the nervous system, and support health through personalized lifestyle...

Divorce mediation can save you time, money, and emotional stress. Learn how divorce mediation works, why mediation matters, and how to divorce with dignity and peace.If you’re facing divorce, this episode walks you through exactly why divorce mediation may be the smartest first step you take. As an attorney, mediator, and life coach, Lesa shares how divorce mediation helps couples avoid court battles, reduce legal costs, and protect their kids while keeping their dignity intact.You’ll learn the 3 powerful reasons divorce mediation works better than litigation — plus the 3 big decisions you should make before filing paperwork so you feel prepared instead of overwhelmed.This is real, compassionate guidance for women and families who want to do divorce differently — calmer, smarter, and with less damage.Because midlife isn’t your crisis… it’s your comeback.Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome + why divorce feels so heavy(02:10) Why Lesa returned to mediation after stepping away(04:05) What a divorce mediator actually does (and how it’s different from attorneys)(06:30) Reason #1: Mediation saves time(08:12) Reason #2: Mediation saves money(09:45) Reason #3: Mediation protects your peace and dignity(12:20) The 3 decisions to make before starting divorce(13:00) Dividing assets: homes, 401(k)s, pensions explained(18:40) Maintenance/spousal support basics(22:15) Child support + parenting plans(25:30) Why mediation is critical for co-parenting(28:10) Parenting plan course + free masterclass(30:00) Encouragement for high-conflict or difficult co-parenting situations(32:20) Final thoughts: doing divorce with dignity + where to get helpKey Takeaways:• Divorce mediation helps you avoid costly court battles• You can save thousands of dollars by reaching agreements together• Calm communication leads to better long-term co-parenting• Decide finances, income/maintenance, and parenting plans early• Divorce doesn’t have to be a war — it can be handled with dignityGuest Bio:Lesa Koski is an attorney, divorce mediator, life coach, and host of Doing Divorce Different. With decades of legal and mediation experience, she helps women and families navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Her mission is simple: help people protect their peace, their finances, and their kids while creating a healthier next chapter.Resource Links:🌿 Work with Lesa (mediation + coaching): https://lesakoski.comDIY Parenting Plan CourseFind More From Lesa Here!Sign up for my newsletter https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjTags/Keywords:divorce mediation, divorce help, divorce process, divorce support for women, co parenting tips, mediation vs divorce lawyer, peaceful divorce, divorce coaching, family mediation, child custody help, midlife transitions, women over 40 divorce, divorce advice, divorce podcast, how to divorce peacefully

Core wounds healing + nervous system rewiring for women over 40. In this episode, JJ Flizanes joins Lesa Koski to unpack core wounds healing, the “core wound map,” and how your subconscious beliefs shape people-pleasing, abandonment fears, and everyday triggers. You’ll learn why core wounds healing isn’t just awareness—it’s rewiring, stretching past comfort zones, and building new neural pathways. JJ shares how core wounds healing can change your patterns in real time, and why choosing yourself is the pathway out of abandonment loops. Plus, a powerful look at 2026’s “Year of the Fire Horse” energy—movement, action, and expansion after a season of shedding.If you’re navigating midlife change, divorce recovery, emotional healing, or you’re ready to stop spiraling and start choosing you, this conversation will meet you right where you are.Timestamps (in parentheses):(These are listener-friendly timestamps—adjust to match your final audio.) (00:00) Welcome + why JJ is a “big deal” and where to find her work (02:10) Lesa’s healing journey + why the Core Wounds course mattered (05:10) JJ explains core wounds as subconscious beliefs (and why therapy can stall) (10:40) The “core wound map” + why people process differently (moon signs + patterns) (16:30) Why awareness isn’t always enough: rewiring requires stretching (20:30) The “video that made her cry” example + how the brain flags “unsafe” (24:40) Neuroplasticity story: cats in an RV + how the brain learns “I didn’t die” (28:40) Lesa gets real: people-pleasing, overexplaining, and tiny daily triggers (33:10) Abandonment wound: the belief underneath it + “How do you abandon yourself?” (38:15) “Choose you” homework: one daily small step + one bigger weekly stretch (42:30) Healing in relationship vs healing alone + the power of mirroring (47:10) Tribe + community: why group energy accelerates growth (50:25) 2025 shedding → 2026 Year of the Fire Horse begins Feb 17, 2026 (55:10) How to work with JJ + her application link + closingKey Takeaways:Core wounds are subconscious beliefs that shape how you see yourself and relationships—often without you realizing it.Awareness is step one, but rewiring requires action that stretches your comfort zone and builds new neural pathways.People-pleasing and overexplaining can be signs of an abandonment pattern—your nervous system trying to stay “safe.”Healing isn’t just emotional; it’s nervous-system and behavior change, practiced moment-to-moment and proactively.Community matters: being in a tribe of people on a similar growth path keeps your “coal” warm and your progress moving.Guest Bio:JJ Flizanes is a personal development coach, podcast host, and creator of emotional healing programs focused on identifying and rewiring subconscious patterns. She developed the Core Wound Map, expanding on the core wound exercise from Imago therapy, and continues to teach tools for emotional resilience, nervous system awareness, and practical rewiring strategies.Resource Links:DIY Parenting Plan CourseFind More From Lesa Here!Sign up for my newsletter  https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyj

Healing from trauma, childhood grief, miscarriage, and generational pain starts with one step: choosing yourself. In this powerful episode of Doing Life Different, Lesa Koski talks with life coach Vivian Moyo about healing trauma, the impact of losing a parent young, how silence in families creates emotional wounds, and how choosing yourself becomes an act of self-love. Vivian shares her story of childhood loss, two devastating miscarriages, and the moment she began her healing journey. If you’re navigating midlife trauma, divorce recovery, grief, anxiety, or a major life change, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported, and hopeful.In this episode, we talk about trauma healing, generational trauma, grief recovery, and how to choose yourself when life feels heavy. Vivian’s message is a reminder that healing is possible—and midlife is not your crisis, it’s your comeback.🎧 Listen now and share this with a woman who needs encouragement today.In this episode, we talk about trauma healing, generational trauma, grief recovery, and how to choose yourself when life feels heavy. Vivian’s message is a reminder that healing is possible—and midlife is not your crisis, it’s your comeback.🎧 Listen now and share this with a woman who needs encouragement today.Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome + technical difficulties + introducing life coach Vivian Moyo(02:10) Vivian’s background: born in Zimbabwe, now living in London(04:20) Losing her mother at age three and having no memory of her(07:10) The trauma of family silence and not knowing how her mother died(10:35) Why children need truth, support, and emotional safety(13:50) Generational trauma and how pain gets passed down(16:30) Moving to the UK at 11 and feeling different within the family(20:05) Miscarriage and heartbreak: losing her first pregnancy at five months(22:45) Losing a second pregnancy at five months and reaching a breaking point(25:30) Suicidal thoughts and the “still voice” that changed everything(28:10) Vivian’s calling: helping young girls build confidence and self-worth(31:10) Supporting women through domestic abuse and trauma recovery(33:45) Vivian’s upcoming book: The Invisible Girl (launching in June)(36:10) One powerful tip for self-love: “Choose yourself”(38:05) Final encouragement + how to connect with VivianKey Takeaways:Trauma can start early, and silence often deepens the woundGenerational trauma is real, but healing can break the cycleGrief and miscarriage loss can create deep emotional pain, but recovery is possibleHealing often begins when we choose support, truth, and self-compassion“Choosing yourself” is one of the strongest acts of self-love and boundary-settingGuest Bio:Vivian Moyo is a London-based life coach, speaker, and founder of women-focused healing initiatives supporting survivors of trauma and domestic abuse. Born in Zimbabwe, Vivian has transformed her personal journey of loss and resilience into a mission to help women heal, build confidence, and reclaim their lives. She is the author of the upcoming book The Invisible Girl, launching in June.Resource Links:Vivian:Youtube Channel : https://www.youtube.com/@MoyoWellnessTherapyTikTok : a...

Perimenopause symptoms can feel confusing—mood swings, brain fog, weight gain, sleep issues, and even cholesterol changes. In this episode, Lesa Koski talks with women’s health journalist and author Meghan Rabbitt about perimenopause vs. menopause, the most common perimenopause symptoms, what’s “normal,” and what deserves a doctor visit. You’ll learn how to track symptoms, ask better questions, and advocate for yourself during the menopause transition. If you’re navigating perimenopause symptoms in midlife, this conversation will help you feel informed, empowered, and supported.(Primary keyword used 3–5x: perimenopause symptoms)Timestamps (in parentheses):(00:00) Welcome + why women’s health needs new rules (02:10) Meghan’s story: writing on women’s health and Maria Shriver’s invitation LinkedIn (06:15) “We are not small men” and what that means for care (10:05) Perimenopause vs. menopause: definitions and the 12-month rule (14:40) Tracking cycles + when bleeding after a year matters (18:30) Perimenopause symptoms you might not connect to hormones (25:10) Mood changes, anxiety, rage, and brain fog (30:55) Vaginal/urinary symptoms and why women should talk about them (36:45) Cholesterol, heart health, and menopause-related risk shifts (42:25) Hormone therapy: what we know now vs. what we feared (49:10) Lifestyle tools that truly help (sleep, stress, strength training) (56:00) The “doctor visit” strategy: list symptoms and prioritize (59:30) Book recap + closing encouragementKey Takeaways:Perimenopause symptoms can include mood changes, brain fog, joint pain, skin changes, and cholesterol shifts—not just hot flashes.You’re not in menopause until you’ve gone 12 full months without a period.Track symptoms and cycles so you can advocate clearly at appointments.Prioritize your top 2–3 concerns for each doctor visit to get better care.Hormone therapy is more nuanced than many women were led to believe; ask informed questions.Guest Bio:Meghan Rabbitt is an award-winning journalist and editor covering women’s health, nutrition, and psychology. She’s an editor and writer at Shriver Media and the author of The New Rules of Women’s Health: Your Guide to Thriving at Every Age (foreword by Maria Shriver).

Why do we do things we know aren’t right for us? In this episode, Lesa Koski shares personal stories—from a disastrous snorkeling trip to an icy ski fall—to explore midlife mindset, intuition, and why ignoring our inner knowing leads to unnecessary pain.Using her S.O.U.L. self-coaching method, Lesa walks through how stillness, surrender, and aligned decisions help women over 40 stop fighting themselves and start living with more clarity. This episode is especially helpful for women navigating divorce, boundaries, people-pleasing, or major life transitions who want to make choices that actually feel right.Timestamps(00:00) Welcome + why the New Year feels like a reset(03:40) The question that won’t leave us alone: why do we go against ourselves?(07:20) The Hawaii snorkeling story (red flags we ignored)(15:10) The icy ski fall + ignoring inner knowing(24:30) How people-pleasing overrides intuition(30:40) Using the S.O.U.L. Method before making decisions(39:00) Purpose vs. obligation: when sacrifice is aligned(48:10) Divorce Clarity 40+ community invitationKey TakeawaysIgnoring inner knowing often leads to unnecessary sufferingPeople-pleasing can override intuitionStillness reveals what we already knowAlignment feels different than obligationPurposeful sacrifice brings peace, not resentmentGuest BioLesa Koski is a former family law attorney turned mediator, divorce coach, and mindset coach. She helps women over 40 navigate divorce, midlife transitions, and emotional overwhelm with clarity, faith, and grounded tools. Lesa is the host of Doing Life Different and creator of the S.O.U.L. Method™.Resource LinksBook a coaching session with Lesa: Find More From Lesa Here!Sign up for my newsletter https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjMarrie Simpson’s Metabolic Reseta...

How to Process Unwanted Feelings After 40 | The S.O.U.L. Method for Emotional ClarityEpisode DescriptionUnwanted feelings after 40 can feel overwhelming—especially during divorce or emotional seasons. In this episode, Lesa shares her S.O.U.L. Method to calm emotions, regulate your nervous system, and move forward with clarity. Learn how to process unwanted feelings, set boundaries, and choose aligned action with faith-based support. This episode is for women navigating divorce, emotional overwhelm, and midlife transitions who want clarity instead of chaos.Timestamps(00:00) Why unwanted feelings surface during the holidays (05:12) Introducing the S.O.U.L. Method (10:08) Stillness and surrendering emotions to God (18:30) Identifying beliefs behind your feelings (26:15) Using empathy and strengths on yourself (34:40) Aligned action and setting guilt-free boundaries (41:50) Divorce Clarity 40+ community invitationKey TakeawaysUnwanted feelings are signals, not failuresStillness helps regulate emotional overwhelmQuestioning beliefs reduces sufferingBoundaries are an act of self-respectSmall aligned actions build self-trustGuest BioLesa Koski is a former family law attorney turned mediator, divorce coach, and mindset coach. She helps women over 40 navigate divorce, emotional overwhelm, and midlife transitions with clarity, faith, and grounded decision-making.Resource LinksBook a coaching session with Lesa: Find More From Lesa Here!Sign up for my newsletter https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjMarrie Simpson’s Metabolic Resetjjflizanes.com/lesaSign up for my newsletter! https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjEbook https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G4B2ZY1W?ref=yb_qv_ov_kndl_dp_rwDivorce Clarity 40+...

Forgiveness After 40: How Letting Go Heals Your Heart, Body & FaithEpisode DescriptionForgiveness after 40 can unlock emotional healing, peace, and renewed faith. In this heartfelt holiday episode, Lesa Koski shares how forgiveness changed her life and helped her release anger, anxiety, and judgment. Through personal stories, faith-based reflection, and practical steps, this episode explores forgiveness as a path to healing—not for others, but for yourself. If you’re navigating divorce, grief, or emotional wounds in midlife, this conversation will help you reconnect with God, reclaim joy, and move forward lighter and freer.(Primary keyword: forgiveness after 40 — used naturally throughout)Timestamps(00:00) Holiday reflections, grief, and why forgiveness matters (04:15) Lessons learned through chaos and childhood stories (10:40) Teaching through stories instead of advice (16:05) Why forgiveness accelerates healing and growth (20:50) Core wounds, stillness, and listening for God (27:30) A faith-based practice for forgiveness and release (35:10) Letting God judge instead of carrying anger (41:45) Forgiveness, health, and emotional freedom (48:20) Forgiving without an apology and finding peace (55:30) Closing reflections and holiday blessingKey TakeawaysForgiveness is a healing practice that frees you, not the other personStillness and prayer help create space to hear God clearlyYou don’t need an apology to forgive and move forwardCarrying anger can impact emotional and physical healthForgiveness opens the door to greater joy, peace, and faithGuest BioLesa Koski is a family law attorney turned mediator, life coach, and host of Doing Life Different. She supports women over 40 navigating divorce, faith, forgiveness, and midlife reinvention with clarity, compassion, and grounded wisdom.Resource LinksCore Wounds Course: JJ Flizanes – https://jjflizanes.com/lesaSign up for Lesa’s Newsletter: https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjLesa’s Ebook: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G4B2ZY1W?ref=yb_qv_ov_kndl_dp_rwPodcast Episode Mentioned: Andy Bull interview on forgiveness and healing (search within the show archive) Andi Bull's episode: https://player.captivate.fm/episode/e87157ca-599f-4155-9b7e-3d577d1ee81d/J

Menopause and divorce can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to break you. In this powerful conversation, we explore menopause and divorce as opportunities for growth, healing, and self-love. Host Lesa Koski shares her personal menopause journey alongside Coach Tracy, unpacking how hormonal changes, mindset, anxiety, weight gain, and emotional regulation intersect during midlife. This episode reframes menopause and divorce as chapters—not endings—and offers practical tools to help women navigate this season with clarity, compassion, and confidence. If you’re facing menopause, divorce, or both, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more empowered.Timestamps(00:00) Introduction to menopause, divorce, and midlife transitions(03:15) Why menopause and divorce often overlap during midlife(07:42) Weight gain, loss of control, and learning self-acceptance(12:30) Menopause as a physiological and emotional circumstance(17:10) Metabolic health, hormones, and mindset explained(22:45) Anxiety, panic, and changing your relationship with your thoughts(28:30) The role of self-love, shame, and acceptance in healing(33:50) Hormone testing, functional medicine, and natural support options(39:20) Why menopause can be an opportunity instead of a setback(44:10) Final encouragement for women navigating menopause and divorceKey TakeawaysMenopause and divorce are life circumstances, not personal failuresHormonal changes impact mental, emotional, and metabolic healthMindset plays a powerful role in how menopause symptoms are experiencedAnxiety is often driven by thought patterns—not permanent conditionsMidlife can be a season of self-love, growth, and reinventionGuest BioCoach Tracy is a life coach specializing in mindset, metabolic health, and emotional resilience for women navigating major life transitions. Through her coaching programs and tools, she helps women understand the connection between thoughts, feelings, hormones, and behavior—empowering them to move through menopause, anxiety, and midlife change with clarity and confidence.Guest Bio: Coach Tracy is a master life and weight coach and the creator of the Self-Made U™ method and planner, where she helps high-achieving women and men learn how to manage their minds, regulate emotions, and create results from the inside out. As Lesa’s longtime coach, Tracy has walked alongside her through breast cancer, major life transitions, and the process of “doing life different,” equipping her with tools that now support women in midlife all over the world.Resource Links:Learn more about coaching with Lesa KoskiListen to more episodes of Doing Life Different: Self-Made U™ Planner & tools from a...

Midlife mindset, stress relief, and emotional healing for women over 40. In this episode, we explore how to shift your midlife mindset, lower stress, and stop white-knuckling your way through life. Host Lesa Koski and her coach, Coach Tracy, unpack the beliefs that keep women stuck in “it has to be hard” mode and show you how slowing down can actually lead to better results in your health, relationships, and emotional well-being.You’ll hear how Lesa’s breast cancer journey forced her into stillness, why cortisol and hormones matter more than we think, and how tools like daily self-coaching and intentional planning can transform your midlife mindset. If you’ve ever felt like you’re grinding through your days, pushing harder but feeling worse, this conversation will help you see a softer, more sustainable way forward.Listen in to learn how to name your emotions without judgment, examine the thoughts driving them, and give yourself permission to move at a healthier pace—without losing your ambition or your identity. This episode is a powerful invitation to reframe your midlife mindset and start doing life different.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to why we make life harder than it needs to be(03:10) Lesa’s breast cancer story and the surprising power of stillness(07:45) White-knuckling, overachieving, and the “no pain, no gain” myth(13:20) Cortisol, hormones, and why stress can block weight loss and healing(18:50) The courage to slow down and sit with your emotions(23:30) Naming feelings, stopping judgment, and shifting core beliefs(29:05) Using intentional planning to decide how you want to feel(34:40) Practical micro-steps to create more ease in everyday life(39:10) Final encouragement: it doesn’t have to be hard & how to get supportKey Takeaways:Ease can create better results than effort. Slowing down, resting, and listening to your body often leads to deeper healing and more sustainable progress than constant pushing.Your thoughts—not your circumstances—create your emotional experience. When you can name what you’re feeling and see the belief behind it, you can finally change it.Stress and cortisol matter. White-knuckling, over-fasting, and over-training can backfire, especially for midlife women, by raising cortisol and blocking physical and emotional results.Stillness takes courage, not weakness. Sitting with your emotions, instead of fixing or judging them, is a powerful way to lower stress and reclaim your peace.You can decide how you want to feel ahead of time. Intentional planning—choosing your desired feeling and thought before events—can transform everything from social gatherings to work commitments.Guest Bio:Coach Tracy is a master life and weight coach and the creator of the Self-Made U™ method and planner, where she helps high-achieving women and men learn how to manage their minds, regulate emotions, and create results from the inside out. As Lesa’s longtime coach, Tracy has walked alongside her through breast cancer, major life transitions, and the process of “doing life different,” equipping her with tools that now support women in midlife all over the world.Resource Links:Learn more about coaching with Lesa KoskiListen to more episodes of Doing Life Different: Self-Made U™ Planner & tools from a...

Stillness, midlife anxiety, Christian mindset, healing, surrender, and purpose—this episode dives into stillness as the first daily shift to heal your mindset. Stillness is the doorway to hearing your calling, calming anxiety, and reconnecting with God when life feels loud and out of control.In this solo episode, host and author Lesa Koski shares how stillness became the unexpected beginning of her healing journey after a breast cancer diagnosis. She walks you through her come-to-Jesus moment in Arizona, the shock of hearing “you have cancer,” and the deep, surprising peace she found on the morning of her surgery.You’ll learn why stillness is not passive or weak, but a powerful spiritual and emotional reset that breaks the cycle of overthinking, people-pleasing, and white-knuckling your way through life. Lesa offers real-life tools to help you practice stillness when your mind is spinning—whether you’re facing cancer, divorce, health fears, or simply the quiet ache of a life that feels “too much.”If you’re a woman over 40 or 50 feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or burned out, this conversation will show you how stillness can become your first daily shift toward peace, purpose, and a more joyful, God-led life. Stillness doesn’t remove the hard things, but it changes how you move through them.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to stillness as the first daily shift(02:05) Living in lifelong anxiety, fear, and fight-or-flight(04:12) The Arizona come-to-Jesus moment and praying for healing(07:03) The mammogram callback and terrifying biopsy experience(09:45) Hearing “you have breast cancer” and being forced to stop(12:18) Letting go of control and surrendering outcomes to God(14:40) Crying on hay bales, walking in the woods, and praying through fear(17:02) The morning of surgery, malignant hyperthermia, and supernatural peace(19:30) Why stillness is the foundation of healing and mindset work(21:08) Practical tools to access stillness when your mind is spinning(23:05) Using the feelings wheel and Scripture to name and process emotions(24:15) How to get Lesa’s ebook, newsletter, and next steps for your healing journeyKey Takeaways:Stillness is the first daily shift that opens the door to hearing your calling and healing your mindset.A crisis (like cancer, divorce, or a child in trouble) can force you into stillness—and that stillness can become holy ground.You can’t control outcomes, but you can control how you move through hard seasons by surrendering to God.Stillness isn’t about doing nothing; it’s about feeling your feelings, noticing God’s presence, and interrupting anxiety’s momentum.Simple practices—walking, crying in a safe place, grounding in your body, and using a feelings wheel—can help you access stillness even in the middle of chaos.Guest Bio:Lesa Koski is an attorney/mediator, podcast host, breast cancer survivor, and author of 5 Daily Shifts to Hear Your Calling and Heal Your Mindset. She helps women over 40 and 50 move from anxiety and overwhelm into peace, purpose, and God-led confidence by teaching practical, faith-centered mindset tools and daily shifts that support midlife reinvention.Resource Links:📘 5 Daily Shifts to Hear Your Calling and Heal Your Mindset (ebook)🎁 Free Feelings Wheel Download: a...

Confident life, faith, clarity, and rewriting your story—this empowering conversation with attorney Hannah Hembree Bell shows women how to move from feeling stuck to building a confident life they truly love. If you’ve ever settled for “fine,” felt disconnected from yourself, or questioned whether you deserve more, this episode will speak directly to your heart.Hannah, founder of My Confident Divorce, shares her powerful journey from small-town bride and overwhelmed young mother to attorney, mother of four, and mentor to women seeking a confident life rooted in courage, identity, and truth. Together, we explore how to recognize when you’re stuck, how women lose themselves in motherhood and marriage, and why faith is essential when stepping into a confident life filled with meaning and purpose.You’ll learn Hannah’s five-step framework for creating a confident life—whether you choose to stay, pursue a confident divorce, or completely reinvent your identity in midlife. Her story will inspire you to believe you deserve joy, clarity, and a confident life where your dreams, needs, and voice finally matter.If you’re longing for confidence, craving direction, or ready to rebuild your life with intention, this episode will give you hope and practical tools to begin again.(Main keyword used: confident life)Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to Hannah Hembree Bell & My Confident Divorce(02:15) “I think I’ve made a terrible mistake”—Hannah’s early marriage story(05:42) Baby having babies: motherhood masking deeper issues(08:30) The Facebook scroll moment that woke her up(11:05) The “medium suck” life & signs you’re truly stuck(14:18) Mental health, truth-telling & the first permission slip: “You deserve a happy life”(17:40) Betting on yourself & stepping toward a confident life(20:55) The cost of going into divorce depleted and unprepared(24:32) Jury trial, custody, and rebuilding life after losing primary parenting time(28:10) Why Hannah now helps women create a confident life(30:45) Divorce as an on-ramp to a new life (and other wake-up calls: death, illness, job loss)(33:02) Why women struggle to believe they deserve happiness(36:15) Derivative identity: wife/mom vs. who you truly are(39:05) Empty nest, gray divorce & midlife reinvention(41:22) How to rediscover what you enjoy & who you are(44:10) The “joy journal” + following breadcrumb interests(46:38) Hannah’s 5-step framework for designing a confident life(50:05) Step 1: Proclaiming you deserve a fulfilled, joyful life(52:00) Step 2: Start with the end in mind—your future self(53:40) Step 3: Honest inventory of what isn’t working(55:12) Step 4: Identify your biggest constraint(56:20) Step 5: Take the next right step toward a confident life(57:30) Final encouragement: it’s never too late to start overKey Takeaways:A confident life starts with believing you deserve happiness, purpose, and joy.A “medium suck” life is still misaligned—and a powerful signal that it’s time for change.Women often lose themselves in a derivative identity (wife/mom). True confidence comes from knowing who you are apart from roles.Faith and clarity are essential when stepping into a confident life or confident...

Joy, aging well, midlife mindset shifts, and vibrant living—this Saddle Up segment dives into the real tools women need to feel more joyful, purposeful, and empowered. In this episode, Lesa shares four practical steps to experience more joy daily, inspired by her powerful conversation with 67-year-old competitive athlete and ballroom dancer Robin Kencel. Learn how meaning, mindset, judgment, and surrender impact your ability to live joyfully after 40. This episode will help you rethink joy, deepen purpose, and take simple steps toward a more vibrant, aligned life.In this conversation, you’ll hear how joy connects to purpose, why joy is a choice, how joy grows when judgment stops, and the mindset shifts that create more joy in midlife and beyond.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to joy, aging well & vibrant living(01:12) Lessons from podcast guest Robin Kencel(03:15) Joy comes from meaning and purpose(05:24) Why joy is a choice (and how small shifts change everything)(08:06) The “pick your joy” mindset and tiny habit building(11:10) How judgment steals your joy(13:20) Rewiring old thought patterns in midlife(15:18) Surrender: letting go of the oars(17:30) A simple thought that instantly brings more peace(19:02) Episode recap: the 4 steps to grow joy every day(20:12) Closing encouragement & next week’s guest teaseKey Takeaways:Joy comes from meaning and purpose—alignment creates energy and ease.Joy is a choice, built through daily mindset decisions.Judgment blocks joy, both self-judgment and judging others.Surrender allows clarity—letting go of urgency creates immediate peace.Small steps compound, making joy and well-being more sustainable.Guest Bio (from Tuesday’s main episode):Robin Kencel isn’t just breaking records—she’s redefining what it means to age with purpose. She is the reigning Ms. Senior Connecticut and finished third runner-up in the national Ms. Senior America competition. A seven-time U.S. Pro-Am Ballroom Champion, Robin draws on decades of competitive dance experience to inspire others to stay active, confident, and spiritually grounded at any age.Her philosophy blends faith, fitness, and mindset, encouraging women to embrace every season of life with grace and joy.Resource Links:Listen to the full episode with Robin Kencel (Tuesday’s main show) Join the Doing Life Different Newsletter here!Follow the Saddle Up Segment for weekly inspirationTags/Keywords:joy, midlife joy, aging well, women over 40, mindset shifts, purpose and meaning, vibrant living, midlife wellness, surrender mindset, stop judging, emotional health, personal growth, women’s empowerment, joy tools, aging with confidence, Saddle Up segment, Lesa Koski, Doing Life Different, midlife coaching