Career Espresso

Everything's fine at work. Not exciting, but fine. You're getting on with it, you know what you're doing, and there's enough going on that you haven't had time to think about much else. Then the restructure gets announced. Or your manager leaves. Or your role is suddenly "under review." And you're scramblin. Updating a CV you haven't touched in three years, reaching out to people you've barely spoken to, making decisions from panic instead of from a position of choice.This episode of Career Espresso is about building career options before you're in that situation. Not a constant side hustle of networking and CV polishing. A quiet, deliberate approach that means if something shifts, you're never starting from nothing.What you'll discoverWhy the usual advice including networking constantly and always be looking, creates exhaustion before you've even started, and what actually works insteadThe specific dynamic that keeps women in roles and organisations longer than is good for them, and why thinking about your options doesn't make you disloyalThree types of leverage that give you real career options and why you probably have more of them than you realiseWhat to actually do with your network if traditional networking makes you want to run in the opposite directionWhy understanding your market value matters even if you're not going anywhere and how it changes how you show up every day.Perfect for women who want to feel like they have real choices at work, not just a job they're grateful to have.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to be direct at work without the three-paragraph explanationYou know what you want to say. That's not the problem. The problem is what happens between your head and the page. By the time it's written, or said, there's a disclaimer at the start, a softener in the middle, and another one at the end just to be safe. And somewhere in all of that, the actual point got lost.This episode of Career Espresso is about why this happens and what you can do differently, without sounding cold, blunt, or difficult.What you'll discoverWhy over-explaining isn't a bad habit, it's a response to a real pattern women experience at work.The filler words most people don't notice they're using, and what they signal to the people reading and listeningA simple way to structure what you need to say so the point lands first and the context actually helpsWhy you're probably anticipating a reaction that hasn't happened yet. And how that shapes everything before you've even startedPerfect for anyone who knows what they need to say but keeps finding ways to bury it.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What to do when your authority keeps getting questioned?You make a decision. A clear one. And before you've even finished explaining it, someone's already pushing back. Not with better information. Not with a genuine concern. Just... pushing. So you explain more. You walk through your reasoning. You try to bring them along. And somewhere in all of that, the decision stops feeling like yours.If this keeps happening to you, it's not a coincidence. And it's not a confidence problem.This episode of Career Espresso is about what to do when the questioning isn't a one-off but a pattern. Not the "just be more assertive" advice you've already heard. The real work of understanding why this keeps happening and what actually shifts the dynamic.What you'll discoverWhy some people's decisions get accepted without question while yours get picked apart and what's really behind that differenceThe subtle things you might be doing that are accidentally inviting the pushback you're trying to stopHow to tell the difference between someone who genuinely needs clarity and someone who's testing you and why your response to each should be completely differentThe conversation most leaders avoid having and why having it sooner changes everythingHow to communicate decisions so they land as decisions, not suggestionsWant more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You fixed the problem nobody else could sort out. You built the process that made everything run smoother. You're the one people come to when things are on fire.And when promotion time comes, someone else gets it. Because their work was "more visible."This episode of Career Espresso is about making invisible work visible. Not the theory of self-promotion. The actual work of translating what you do into language that systems recognise.What you'll discover - Why your work stays invisible (it's structurally designed that way, especially for women who do the glue work)The three types of invisible work and why each one needs translating differentlyHow to move from describing what you did to describing what changed because you did itWhy "I just helped" and other minimising language makes your contributions disappearThe shift from activity to outcome that makes your work tangible without sounding like you're boastingPerfect for anyone whose real contributions happen behind the scenes and don't show up on dashboards or in performance reviews.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Delegation fails when you hand something over with vague expectations, skip the checkpoint until it's too late, then quietly stay late fixing it yourself. The problem isn't that you can't let go. It's that you're missing the setup that makes letting go possible. This episode tackles why women leaders get stuck in the delegate-then-reclaim cycle, and the boring but essential process that stops it happening.What you'll discover• The three things you need in place before you hand work over (most people skip all three, then wonder why they're redoing everything at 10pm)• Why waiting until work is 95% done to check in leaves you with only two options: accept substandard work or fix it yourself• What "good enough" actually looks like when you write it down before delegating and why this one step prevents most rework• The questions to ask yourself before you silently take work back (because sometimes taking it back is the right call, but it should be a decision, not a habit)Perfect for leaders who know they need to stop doing everyone's work but aren't sure how to make delegation stick without things falling apart.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to ask for more at work (and what to do when the script falls apart)You've rehearsed this conversation a hundred times. You know exactly what you're going to say. And then your manager responds with something you didn't expect and suddenly your brain goes blank. The script you'd prepared just evaporates. You find yourself nodding along, saying "I understand" or worse, backing down entirely.This episode of Career Espresso is about how to actually ask for more when the conversation doesn't follow your plan. Not the theory of negotiation. The real work of staying grounded when things go sideways.What you'll discoverWhy most advice focuses entirely on preparation but misses what actually happens in the room when things go off-scriptThe specific ways women are conditioned to backpedal when conversations get uncomfortable (and why recognising this helps)What to say when you get hit with budget constraints, the praise pivot, or "I need to check with HR"Why this is rarely one conversation and how to follow up without feeling like you're being annoyingCommon patterns that keep women stuck: preparation as procrastination, the grateful trap, the "one shot" mentalityPerfect for leaders who've rehearsed these conversations but still find themselves accepting less than they came in asking for.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What to do when your energy doesn't match your ambitionYou know exactly what you want to do. You've got the plan. You might even have the opportunity sitting right in front of you. And yet... you can't seem to make yourself do it. You're not confused about what needs to happen. You've got ambition coming out of your ears. But somewhere between knowing and doing, there's this gap. This heaviness. This "I know, I know, but I just... can't right now."This episode of Career Espresso is about what to do when your drive is intact but your fuel tank is empty. Not motivation tips. Not goal-setting advice. The real work of keeping going when you've got nothing left to give.What you'll discoverThe difference between "I've given up" and "I'm depleted" and why that distinction mattersWhat minimum viable progress looks like when you're running on emptyWhy pushing harder when you're exhausted just digs a deeper holeHow to match your actions to your actual energy instead of the energy you think you should haveThe extra costs women carry that often go unacknowledged and how they drain you fasterListen to this episode if you still care about your goals but haven't got the energy to chase them right now.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why your career doesn't need a January resetIt's January and somewhere between the break ending and the first full week back, the pressure kicked in. New year, new you. Time to have a plan. Time to finally figure out what you're doing. And if you haven't got all that sorted yet, there's this creeping feeling that you're already behind. That everyone else has it together and you're still just working it out. This episode of Career Espresso is about why you don't need to start over, and why continuing is actually a much stronger position to be in.What you'll discover-Why the January reset pressure hits women differently and lands on top of everything else you're already carrying-The difference between genuine motivation and pressure-driven anxiety, and how to recognise which one is in the driving seat-Why treating yourself like something that needs demolishing and rebuilding every January keeps you in a permanent state of starting over-What actually counts as progress, including all the quiet stuff you've been dismissing-How recalibration beats reset when you're feeling the pressure to change everything-Perfect for women who feel behind in January but don't actually need to throw everything out and start again.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You're a better leader than you think you are.At the end of every day, you notice what went wrong. The conversation that didn't land. The decision you're still second-guessing. The person on your team you're not sure how to reach. What you don't notice is everything that's working. The fact that your team is functioning. That work is getting done. That you're the one making that happen.This episode of Career Espresso is about seeing something you might be missing. How much you've already grown, and how much better you're doing than you think.What you'll discover-Why women leaders underestimate themselves constantly and why it's structural, not a confidence flaw you need to fix-The signs you're doing better than you think, even when no one's telling you-What good leadership actually looks like versus the polished ideal in your head-How to recognise your own growth when you're too close to see it clearlyPerfect for women leaders who care about getting it right but struggle to see how far they've come.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I can't stop doing everything myselfYou're reviewing something your team has done and it's good. But you find yourself tweaking it anyway. Adjusting the wording, reorganising a section, adding something they didn't think of. Or someone asks you a question and instead of pointing them toward figuring it out, you just answer it. Because it's quicker. Because it's easier than watching them work through it.This episode of Career Espresso is about how to actually let go when letting go feels uncomfortable. Not the theory of delegation. The real work of stepping back when every instinct tells you to stay involved.What you'll discover-What genuinely changes when you get this right (not just time back, but the mental load that's exhausting you)-Why letting go is so hard for women leaders specifically and why it's not just that you haven't found the right system yet-How to hand things over properly so they actually stay handed over instead of boomeranging back to you-What "good enough" actually means when you're used to controlling the output-Why waiting until delegation feels comfortable means you'll be waiting foreverPerfect for leaders who know they need to stop doing everything but aren't sure how to actually let go without things falling apart.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to find your people as a leaderYou're in a leadership role and something's shifted. The people you used to talk things through with? That's complicated now. Your team can't be your sounding board because you're their boss. Your own boss has their own agenda. And the networking advice you see everywhere feels exhausting when what you actually need is someone you can be real with.This episode of Career Espresso is about finding people who actually get what you're dealing with. Not networking contacts or professional visibility. Actual people who understand leadership from the inside.What you'll discover* Why isolation isn't just uncomfortable - it makes you make worse decisions and lose perspective on how you're doing* The three criteria that define your actual people (not just professional contacts)* Where to look for peer relationships that work, including the people you're probably overlooking* How to start these connections without it feeling awkward* What keeps leadership relationships alive when you're overwhelmedPerfect for women leaders who need people they can be honest with, not just a professional network.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why doesn't good enough feel good enough?You're exhausted. You're managing a thousand things at once. At the end of every day, you look back at everything that went wrong, everything you didn't get to, everything that's still not quite right. What you're not noticing? Your team is functioning. Work is getting done. Things are moving forward. You're the one making that happen but it doesn't feel like enough. This episode of Career Espresso is about recognising what's actually working, even when it doesn't feel like anything is.What you'll discoverWhy your attention naturally goes to problems and how that creates a skewed picture of realityThe research on why women attribute success to luck but blame themselves entirely for failureThe exhausting pattern of constantly preparing for the next crisis instead of noticing what's going wellHow to see the full picture instead of just the problem-shaped bitsPerfect for women leaders who are doing better than they think but can't quite believe it.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts. Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox. Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to have career conversations that helpYou schedule a career conversation and both of you immediately feel that slight dread. You ask where they see themselves in five years. They give a polished answer that means nothing. You both tick the box and move on. Nothing actually changes. This episode of Career Espresso is about having career conversations that actually help people—not as a performance review exercise or a tick-box requirement, but as a genuine conversation about what's possible and what you can do to support them.What you'll discoverWhy career conversations feel awkward or surface-level for most leaders What people actually need from these conversations (it's not "where do you see yourself in five years?") How to ask questions that open up real conversation instead of extracting rehearsed answers What to do when someone doesn't know what they want How to support growth without making promises you can't keep Perfect for women leaders who want these conversations to feel useful instead of awkward.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if I make the wrong decision?You need to make a decision but you're not sure what the right answer is. Every option has it's downsides and every choice feels like it could go wrong. The longer you sit with it, the heavier it gets because you're responsible for other people now. This episode of Career Espresso is about making decisions when you can't be certain, trusting your judgment when the information is incomplete, and what to do when things don't work out.What you'll discoverWhy decision making feels completely different when you're responsible for othersThe legitimacy doubts women leaders face that make second-guessing worseHow to know when you've got enough information to make the callHow to explain your reasoning without apologising for the decisionWhat to do when the decision doesn't work out the way you expectedPerfect for women leaders who care about getting decisions right but find themselves stuck in the "I need more information" loop.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to support your team without doing their workSomeone brings you a problem and you jump straight in with the answer. You think you're helping but you're actually building a team that can't function without you. This episode of Career Espresso is about supporting people without rescuing them, asking questions instead of solving everything, and recognising when stepping in is the right call versus when it just feels faster.What you'll discoverWhy jumping in to fix things doesn't help anyone long-termThe impossible balance women leaders face (not supportive enough vs too involved)Specific questions to ask instead of providing instant solutionsHow to spot when you're rescuing rather than supportingWhat to do when someone says "I don't know" without taking overWhen stepping in actually is the right movePerfect for women leaders who want to build capable teams without working late to do everyone else's thinking.Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Now I’m their boss and it’s awkwardYou got promoted and now you manage the people you used to work alongside. It feels odd for you and for them. This episode of Career Espresso is about naming the shift early, resetting how you work together, and staying human while you do it. We'll also talk about the quiet “who does she think she is” undercurrent women can face and how to hold your ground.What you’ll discoverwhy this discomfort is normal when a peer becomes the managerwhat to say in your first 1:1 so no one is guessinghow to step back from group chats and after-work venting without making a scenehow to respond if a colleague goes around you to another managera simple coffee-shop check-in that helps clear the air fastPerfect for women leaders now managing former peers who want steady, practical language they can use this week. Want more support with real-world leadership challenges? Head to How to Build a Leader on Substack for in-depth guides and scripts.Never miss an episode. Sign up for the weekly Espresso Brief email and get each episode with quick takeaways in your inbox.Get the full episode transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You've given feedback. They nodded. They said they understood. Nothing changed.Sound familiar? This episode tackles one of the hardest parts of managing - giving feedback that actually works. You host Amanda breaks down why most feedback fails and what to do instead.What you'll discoverWhy "be more proactive" means nothing and what to say insteadThe hidden challenge women face when giving feedback (we're either "too nice" or "too direct")Exactly how to be specific without being harshThe one question that ensures people actually understand what you needThe reality check: Research shows 57% of employees prefer corrective feedback over praise. They want to improve. But when you tell someone to "communicate better" without explaining what that means, they're left guessing. And guessing rarely leads to change.Perfect for women leaders tired of the feedback loop that goes nowhere.Want more support with your leadership challenges? Check out our How to Build a Leader substack for in-depth guidance on getting onto and staying on the leadership ladder.Never miss an episode. Sign up for weekly Espresso Brief emails and get each episode plus practical takeaways delivered straight to your inbox.Get the full transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My team doesn't respect me. How women leaders can earn authority at workYour team talks over you. Questions your decisions. Goes around you to escalate issues. You're wondering if you're imagining it.You're not.In this episode, your host Amanda tackles one of the hardest challenges in leadership: when your team doesn't respect you. And if you're a woman leader or new manager, the problem runs deeper than most advice admits.What you'll learnResearch shows women leaders face competence doubts at higher rates than men, your team is more likely to question whether you should be leading at all. We break down why this happens, what makes it worse, and what actually works. You'll get specific language for addressing disrespect in the moment, how to set clear expectations that stick, and why performing authority backfires completely.Practical strategies for building respectHow to address disrespect the first time it happens (not the fifth)Three non-negotiables every new leader needs to establishThe difference between boundary testing and actual underminingWhy being liked and being respected aren't the same thingStop waiting for your team to make this easy. Respect comes from consistent behaviour over time, and this episode shows you exactly how to start.Perfect for new managers, women in leadership, and anyone navigating team dynamics that feel off.Want more support with your leadership challenges? Check out our How to Build a Leader substack for in-depth guidance on getting onto and staying on the leadership ladder.Never miss an episode. Sign up for weekly Espresso Brief emails and get each episode plus practical takeaways delivered straight to your inbox.Get the full transcript Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you putting your career dreams on hold until the "perfect moment" arrives? In this eye-opening episode of Career Espresso, host Amanda tackles the common belief that keeps talented professionals, especially women, stuck in their careers – the myth of perfect timing.Backed by fascinating research from the Harvard Business Review, this episode reveals why waiting for the perfect moment might be the very thing holding you back. Through compelling statistics and real-world examples, you'll discover how professionals who take action despite imperfect circumstances are 3.4 times more likely to achieve their career goals.What you'll learn -Why feeling only 60-70% ready is actually the sweet spot for career movesHow successful career transitions often happen through small, strategic stepsFour common timing myths that keep talented professionals stuckPractical strategies to make progress despite imperfect circumstancesA powerful reframing technique to turn "waiting for perfect timing" into "creating strategic timing"Featured in this episode is an inspiring story of a marketing director and mother of two who transformed her career by stopping waiting and taking action. Her journey from perpetual postponement to landing her dream role in tech while achieving better work-life balance demonstrates what's possible when you move beyond the perfect timing myth.Don't miss the weekly "Coffee Shot Challenge" that will help you take immediate action on your career goals.Don't forget to take a look at this week's podsheet to support your learning and exploration of the key themes and topicsGet a full transcript of the episode hereLove the episode? Help other women discover these career-changing insights by subscribing and leaving a review wherever you listen to your podcasts.Got questions or want to share your career transformation story? Reach out to amanda@wearereadytorise.com - we'd love to hear from you! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you letting "career shoulds" dictate your professional journey? In this eye-opening episode of Career Espresso, Amanda challenges the invisible rules that may be preventing you from making bold career moves, especially if you're a woman in leadership.Drawing on compelling research, including a 2023 Harvard Business Review study, Amanda reveals why 67% of professionals make career decisions based on external expectations rather than personal values. Through real-world examples and expert analysis, she breaks down how these hidden pressures particularly impact women in leadership positions.What You'll Learn -The three primary sources of career "shoulds" that influence your decision-makingA powerful case study of "Sarah," who broke free from traditional career paths and increased her income by 40%The innovative REAL framework for evaluating career decisions on your own termsFive common career "shoulds" that specifically impact women leadersPractical strategies for auditing and challenging career expectationsLearn Amanda's exclusive REAL framework for navigating complex career decisions -💡Recognition: Identifying external expectations💡 Examination: Understanding the validity of career "rules"💡 Alignment: Evaluating personal values💡Liberation: Creating space for authentic choicesWhether you're considering a bold career move or simply feeling the weight of professional expectations, this episode provides actionable insights and frameworks to help you make decisions that align with your true career aspirations.Don't miss the weekly coffee shot challenge that will help you immediately apply these insights to your own career journey. Tune in to discover how questioning career "shoulds" might lead to your next breakthrough moment.Don't forget to take a look at this week's podsheet to support your learning and exploration of the key themes and topicsGet a full transcript of the episode hereLove the episode? Help other women discover these career-changing insights by subscribing and leaving a review wherever you listen to your podcasts.Got questions or want to share your career transformation story? Reach out to amanda@wearereadytorise.com - we'd love to hear from you! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.