Better Than Perfect | A Relationship Podcast

We break down a calm, effective discipline model: love first, consequences always. The goal isn’t a perfectly on-time kid—it’s a healthy inner voice: “I’m loved, I own my mistakes, and I accept consequences.” We cover punishment vs discipline, unified-front parenting, step-parent realities, and how the way you parent becomes the way your child parents themselves.What you’ll learn• Punishment vs discipline: shame out, responsibility in• How to deliver consequences without anger or yelling• Why your marriage comes first if you want kids to thrive• Boundaries vs enabling (and when to let natural consequences hit)• Scripts to separate behaviour from identity: “You’re loved; you still owe the cost.”• Self-parenting: turning this model inward so you stop punishing yourselfChapters00:00 Cold open: “I’m loved, and I still pay consequences”01:12 Why the marriage comes first06:45 Punishment vs discipline (core differences)12:58 Designing consequences kids respect19:40 United front: no divide-and-conquer25:03 Boundaries vs enabling31:27 Step-parenting realities (and loyalty binds)37:55 Self-parenting: stop the inner punishment loop44:22 Simple scripts for hard moments50:18 Takeaways and weekly challengeTry this week• Replace one punishment with a calm, stated consequence and a reaffirmation: “You’re loved. You still owe the cost.”• Write your one-line family standard for discipline and post it where everyone can see it.Resources• Show notes and newsletter: betterthanpod.com• Questions or stories: betterthanperfectpodcast at gmail dot comHashtags#BetterThanPerfect #Parenting #DisciplineNotPunishment #Boundaries #RespectfulParenting #CalmParenting #FamilyLeadership #StepParenting

A blunt, practical conversation on the highest-leverage relationship habit for 2026: always respond in love. We challenge the belief that others can “hurt” us, break down the difference between pain and self-created suffering, and show how respectful communication, firm boundaries, and non-reaction can transform your marriage or dating life.What you’ll learn• The no-yelling, no-name-calling, no-sarcasm standard and why it matters• Pain vs suffering: why words trigger us and how to stop looping• How to set boundaries without becoming bitter or vindictive• When walking away is the most loving choice• Leadership, respect, and polarity without control games• A step-by-step path from reactivity to calm strengthChapters00:00 Cold open: “No one can hurt you?”01:12 Intro to Better Than Perfect03:05 The standard: respond in love, every time08:44 Pain vs suffering; triggers and ego defense14:20 Respectful communication rules that actually work20:03 Boundaries, consequences, and walking away in love27:18 Leadership vs control; polarity without yelling33:50 Practical drills to build the habit39:42 Final takeaways and weekly challengeTry this this week• Replace one reactive comeback with a loving pause and a clear boundary.• Catch one trigger and label it: pain or self-made suffering.Resources• Newsletter and show notes: betterthanpod.com• Questions or stories: betterthanperfectpodcast at gmail dot comIf this helped, tap Like, hit Subscribe, and share with a friend who needs calmer conversations.Hashtags#BetterThanPerfect #Relationships #Communication #Boundaries #MarriageAdvice #EmotionalMastery #SelfControl #LoveInAction

Are age-gap relationships romantic or reckless? We break down when a gap enhances intimacy—and when it kills compatibility. Expect straight talk on maturity, leadership, agency, and why “taking advantage” vs “adult choice” gets misused.What you’ll learn• The real difference between casual fun and marriage-minded age gaps• Why compatibility can drop past ~15 years—and how age scales with age• Status, attraction, and honesty: admitting the motives on both sides• Agency vs exploitation: clear thinking without the victim mindset• The practical sweet spot: why ~5–10 (up to 15) years often works best• Leadership, respect, and relational polarity without control or coercion• How women can prioritise maturity over age—and men can earn true respectChapters00:00 Cold open: fun vs commitment01:07 Intro: why age gaps trigger people03:02 The DiCaprio debate and status signalling07:10 When a gap gets “icky” vs simply impractical12:25 Agency vs “taking advantage”16:30 The honest motives men and women won’t admit21:05 What’s actually optimal: ~5–10 (up to 15) years27:40 Leadership, respect, and real compatibility33:55 Women’s lens: maturity over age39:20 Pools and probabilities (who should date whom, when)46:10 Guidance vs moulding; avoiding control52:30 Takeaways and next stepsKey takeaways• Big gaps can work, but compatibility and life stage matter more than hype.• Agency is real; so are asymmetric incentives—be honest about both.• If you want marriage, optimise for character, maturity, and shared trajectory.Question of the weekWhat do you think is the healthiest age gap for a long-term relationship—and why?Subscribe for weekly episodes: two imperfect people, one better-than-perfect relationship.Email: betterthanperfectpodcast@gmail.comAll episodes: BetterThanPerfectPod.com#relationships #datingadvice #agegap #masculinity #femininity #marriage #selfimprovement #redpill #polarity #compatibility #podcast

In this episode, we cover how to deal with rejection.

In this episode, we tackle the new dating terms for 2025 and the trending ones going into 2026.

This is the definitive episode on male authority in a relationship. We break down logically why it is important and makes sense from a non-religious, completely logical standpoint.Every man should watch this episode to understand how to explain masculine authority and how to act as a true masculine leader.

Are men being “ruined by women”…or by men selling victimhood? In this episode we unpack how red-pill rage-bait hijacks your attention, feeds the male-loneliness loop, and what to do instead: build character, set standards, and lead with strength (not contempt).What you’ll learn• Why the “red-pill cult” works (algorithms, outrage, identity)• Guidance vs. rigid rules—how dogma breeds hypocrisy• Character > looks: discipline, sovereignty, self-respect• How stats get abused (divorce, dating) and what winners actually do• Redemption with consequences: evaluate people case-by-case• Servant leadership that makes relationships safer and stronger• The RPP (Relationship Protection Program): boundaries that prevent messes• A real relationship lab: fixing “anticipatory defensiveness” with vulnerabilityChapters (tap to jump)00:00 Cold open: hypocrisy & double standards02:10 Why we’re calling it a cult (and how the algorithm traps you)07:45 The original idea vs. what it became12:30 Guidance, not dogma—standards without dehumanising anyone18:05 Character beats aesthetics (discipline, sovereignty, service)24:00 The stats trap: cherry-picking risk vs. building skill31:40 Redemption, consequences, and discernment38:15 Servant leadership vs. domination44:10 RPP: no opposite-sex “besties,” no solo hangouts, no secret venting49:30 Relationship lab: repairing anticipatory defensiveness56:50 QOTD + wrapThe Playbook (quick hits)• For Men: Unfollow rage-bait, lift daily, build something that compounds, write your standards, enforce calmly, be willing to walk.• For Women: Reward steady leadership; boundaries without contempt.• For Couples: Adopt the RPP, run a weekly sync (wins, worries, one upgrade), use the repair script: “When X happened, the story I told myself was ___. The impact was ___. What was true for you?”Quoteables• “Men aren’t alone because of women; they’re alone because men sell them victimhood.”• “Guidance builds wisdom; rules breed hypocrisy.”• “Attention is your most stolen asset—take it back.”Question of the WeekWhy aren’t men doing what it takes to be men anymore? What’s the real blocker you’re seeing—and how do we fix it? Drop your take in the comments.👩‍❤️‍👨 Subscribe for weekly episodes: two imperfect people, one better-than-perfect relationship.📝 Send a confession or dilemma: betterthanperfectpodcast@gmail.com🌐 Episodes, show notes, and updates: BetterThanPerfectPod.com#relationships #datingadvice #masculinity #femininity #selfimprovement #redpill #marriage #boundaries #personaldevelopment #podcast

In this episode, we break down the situation with Akash Singh's wife.

Two imperfect people tackle a brutal Reddit letter: “My boyfriend admits he’ll never love me as much as his childhood best friend.” We break down friend-zone vs slept-zone, orbiters, and why clear standards beat “looking insecure.”What you’ll learn• The friend-zone asymmetry: women park guys; men keep women they’ve already slept with• Why “I loved her more” is a deal-breaker, not a dialogue starter• No-ex/no-bestie boundaries and the RPP: Relationship Protection Program• How orbiters erode attraction and loyalty• Exact scripts to set standards without dramaChapters00:00 Intro01:10 Friend-zone vs slept-zone: risks for each side04:05 Reddit case: “He’ll never love me as much as her”09:00 Why that confession kills trust12:20 Standards vs “you’re controlling”16:30 The RPP: no exes, no opposite-sex besties, no solo hangouts21:10 Orbiters and false loyalty to “childhood friends”26:00 Scripts and boundaries that actually work31:30 Key takeawaysSend your questionEmail: BetterThanPerfectPod@gmail.comSite: BetterThanPerfectPod.comSupport the showIf this helped, tap Like, comment your takeaway, and share with a friend who needs stronger boundaries.

Two imperfect people, one spicy topic. We revisit erotica culture, BookTok “spice,” and why the fantasy of extreme dominance can quietly rewire desire, derail intimacy, and normalize what shouldn’t be normal. We also read a listener email from a husband navigating his wife’s romance-novel habit and share concrete steps for couples who want passion without porn—or “book porn.”What you’ll learn• How “spice” conditions arousal (just like porn) and what that does to real intimacy• The healthy female desire for strength and leadership vs degradation and harm• Why men and women experience dominance differently—and how to keep it healthy• Resetting your libido: a simple desensitization plan that actually works• Boundaries and scripts to talk about this without blowing up your relationship• How to replace fantasy with presence and real connectionChapters00:00 Intro: the root desire and “strong dominant man”02:05 Why we’re revisiting smut novels now06:10 When fantasy crosses into harmful conditioning10:45 “Female porn”? How books get normalized vs porn shamed15:20 The dominance line: strength without degradation20:05 Listener email: when the books replace the bedroom27:30 Scripts and boundaries that work (for both partners)33:15 How to resensitize your desire and reconnect39:00 What to do if your partner won’t stop43:10 Takeaways for couplesResources mentioned (no links)• The Queen’s Code (Alison Armstrong)• The Empowered Wife / The Surrendered Wife (Laura Doyle)• Video commentary on the “female gooner” trendSend your questionEmail: BetterThanPerfectPod@gmail.comSite: BetterThanPerfectPod.comSupport the showIf this helped, tap Like, drop your takeaway in the comments, and share with a friend who’s “just reading for the plot.”

We answer Maria’s big question: Should you delay dating to work on yourself, or date to grow? We break down timing for men vs women, how to avoid “healing as avoidance,” what real standards look like, and how to prepare yourself so the right person actually shows up.What you’ll learnThe difference between healing and hidingWhy timing looks different for men and women—and what to do about itStandards vs expectations (and the one standard that stops toxic loops)How to spot avoidance disguised as self-workThe “bus stop” model: making timing meet preparationWhy most growth happens in relationship—and how not to sabotage itChapters00:00 Cold open: “Am I too picky—or just not settling?”01:03 Welcome back + life updates (UPW, Vegas, Ren Fair)03:18 Maria’s email: timing, self-work, and not settling06:20 Jumping into relationships vs waiting—what actually works10:05 Men’s path: build capability, leadership, stability14:10 Women’s path: discernment, standards, environment17:32 Healing vs avoidance: the tell-tale signs21:05 Standards that prevent toxicity (and how to enforce them)26:00 “Don’t date someone you won’t marry”—with nuance29:40 Growing together: why most growth is messy (and worth it)33:45 The “bus stop” analogy: creating your own timing37:10 Action steps + books that help (Queen’s Code, etc.)40:05 Q&A wrap + how to send your questionsSend your questionEmail: BetterThanPerfectPodcast@gmail.comSite: BetterThanPerfectPod.comSupport the showLike, comment your takeaway, and share this with someone who’s “waiting for the right time.”

A hundred down… and here’s the other fifty. 🎉This is Part 2 of our 100th-episode celebration: a rapid-fire recap of Episodes 51–100. We revisit the biggest lessons (and a few hot takes): standards vs. expectations, how long to stay unhappy, defensiveness, chivalry, “what do you bring to the table?”, community, conflict, brutal truths for young and older women, modern-traditional roles, AI + dating, the “financial abuse” debate, winning your wife back, and the #1 relationship killer (resentment).What you’ll learn• How men can raise standards (not expectations) and stop tolerating disrespect• A sane way to assess “I’m unhappy”—without pulling the parachute• Why defensiveness torpedoes intimacy (and how to drop it)• Chivalry, compliments, and the right kind of masculine leadership• Why tolerance breeds resentment—and how to use conflict to bond• The real talk for young women (leverage youth wisely) and older single women (lead with warmth, not baggage)• How community accelerates growth—and when misalignment means boundaries• Why red-pill hate harms boys and men—and what servant leadership looks like instead• AI, smut, and social media: guarding desire in a digital world• Practical steps to “win your wife back” (nothing manipulative—just standards)Chapters (drop these in and tweak times after upload)00:00 Cold open: Men, red pill, and leading with love02:10 What we’re doing: Episodes 51–100 recap04:05 E51 Standards vs. expectations (and why men set the bar too low)07:35 E52 How long to be unhappy—and what “no parachute” actually means11:05 E53 Our most important lessons (defensiveness, vulnerability, timing)14:00 E54–55 Gold diggers, flirting with confidence (not “nice guy” energy)18:10 E56–60 Chivalry, “women don’t care about men’s feelings?”, breakups, and “I need space”24:00 E61–64 Is love enough? Why conflict beats tolerance every time28:50 E65–66 Brutal truths for young vs. older single women33:40 E67–68 Modern-traditional roles & can the right relationship heal you?38:10 E69 Hard advice for men in their 20s (build, don’t date)41:15 E70–72 She’s DMing your husband?! + The Way of the Superior Man + The Queen’s Code46:00 E73–74 Red-pill crisis & the power of forgiveness (how we used it)51:00 E75–77 “Men are dumb, women are crazy,” health, loyalty under stress55:30 E78–80 Fighting styles, toxic ties, and “high standards vs. mediocre men”59:30 E81–83 AI & dating, “women out of control?”, and marriage myths that hurt men1:04:30 E84–86 Compliments men never hear, why waiting can help, and simps/pay-pigs1:09:20 E87–90 Myths debunked, how to win your wife back, status crazy1:14:10 E91–96 Wired to cheat/status, the “financial abuse” dust-up, destroying your sex life1:19:20 E97–100 Therapy-speak fatigue, investment > sex, and Ep. 100 recap wrap-up1:23:10 What changed for us: dropping defensiveness & cleaner conflictBooks & resources we mention• The Way of the Superior Man — David Deida• The Queen’s Code — Alison Armstrong• The Surrendered Wife — Laura DoyleJoin the conversationWhich episode from 51–100 changed your mind the most—and why? Drop a comment (be kind, be specific).About the showBetter Than Perfect is two imperfect people helping each other grow into one better-than-perfect relationship. New episodes every week.Support the pod• Like & subscribe (it really helps)• Share this with a couple that needs practical guardrails• Listen/watch all episodes at betterthanperfectpod.com#BetterThanPerfectPodcast #Episode101 #relationships #marriage #boundaries #polarity #datingadvice #marriageadvice #conflictresolution #traditionalrelationship #AIandDating

A hundred episodes. One imperfect couple. A ton of growth.In our 100th episode, we celebrate by recapping the first 50 episodes of Better Than Perfect — what still holds up, what we’ve refined, and the lessons that changed our relationship. We kick off with a spicy debate on bars and clubs, respect vs control, and then speed-run through episodes 1 to 50: marriage, boundaries, conflict, polarity, resentment, smut vs porn, “girls night out,” and more.Chapters00:00 Welcome to our 100th episode01:05 Bars, clubs, respect, and the “if I wouldn’t want you to, I won’t either” rule08:12 Ep 1 Is marriage still worth it10:58 Ep 2 The 5 rules that changed our relationship location sharing no exes no friends of the opposite sex no girls guys night out phone and email transparency15:45 Ep 3 Why 50 50 doesn’t work for intimacy and polarity18:20 Ep 4 How to keep the honeymoon phase by clearing resentment21:02 Ep 5 He cheated the hard lessons and full ownership24:40 Ep 6 Fighting fair conflict that bonds instead of breaks27:10 Ep 7 Why women date “ugly” men confidence vs looks29:50 Ep 8 Why traditional beats transactional32:15 Ep 9 First date tips playful flirty purposeful34:05 Ep 10 How a man leads servant leadership not barking orders37:20 Ep 11 No girls night out or guys night out and why it is about respect41:05 Ep 12 Why jerks and losers sometimes win and what actually attracts women44:10 Ep 13 Men’s biggest struggles today pride purpose and adversity47:40 Ep 14 When you mess up pausing an episode to repair in real time49:35 Ep 15 Two become one team vs two roommates52:00 Ep 16 Happy wife over happy mom cutting the cord kindly54:20 Ep 17 Can one person be enough forever and the reassurance dance56:30 Ep 18 Sex intimacy and frequency without scorekeeping58:35 Ep 19 Travel stress test before commitment01:00:55 Ep 20 Social media iPhones and modern temptation01:03:40 Ep 21 Kids change everything do not use them to fix problems01:06:15 Ep 22 How to romance a woman yes it starts long before the bedroom01:08:30 Ep 23 Should a woman propose we say no and why01:10:10 Ep 24 How women can be romantic feminine seduction done right01:12:30 Ep 25 Who settles more and why it looks different for men and women01:15:25 Ep 26 Should you take someone back rare exceptions and clear standards01:18:40 Ep 27 Men do not want boss babes they want kind feminine partners01:21:05 Ep 28 Passport bros why running away dodges the real work01:24:00 Ep 30 I love you but I don’t like you dismantling contempt01:26:20 Ep 31 The Surrendered Wife key takeaways01:28:50 Ep 32 If she isn’t a little scared you could cheat do you have any juice01:31:15 Ep 33 The biggest problem making men weak loss of pride and purpose01:34:00 Ep 35 Why men and women hate each other and how to stop01:36:45 Ep 36 Confident dominance vs controlling behavior01:39:30 Ep 37 Why women initiate most divorces and what men can do01:42:20 Ep 38 Why buy the cow if you give the milk away investment matters01:44:50 Ep 39 What men get from marriage beyond romance01:47:20 Ep 40 Delicate and strong vulnerability makes you invulnerable01:49:30 Ep 41 Are the five love languages enough and what’s missing01:51:40 Ep 42 Our big fight and how we repaired01:54:10 Ep 43 Her role as support rocket fuel and why it matters01:56:40 Ep 44 Are men dangerous understanding fear and safety01:59:20 Ep 45 Polarity flips when she is masculine and he is feminine can it change02:01:40 Ep 46 Self-sabotage spotting insecurity before it sinks you02:03:55 Ep 47 Do traditional roles limit your life or create freedom02:06:30 Ep 48 Should we open our relationship we say no and why02:09:00 Ep 49 Is reading smut the same as porn and what it does to desire02:11:40 Ep 50 How women try to control men and how to let go02:14:20 Wrap next week we cover episodes 51 to 100

Dating works better when it’s playful, curious, and pressure-free. We break down why leading with “I’m looking for marriage” screams desperation, how to keep things fun without being a player, and the masculine/feminine dance (men = guardians of commitment, women = guardians of sex). Plus: practical scripts, what “leadership” actually looks like on dates, and when to talk commitment.Chapters • 00:00 Cold open: “Treat dating like it’s fun.” • 00:40 Intro + the mindset shift (labels kill chemistry) • 03:15 Why “dating for marriage” backfires (neediness vs. selection) • 07:20 The dance: guardians of sex & commitment explained • 11:45 Nice-guy trap vs. jerk trap (and the real third path) • 16:30 Women’s lens: validation, vetting, and slow mystery • 22:10 Leadership & assertiveness vs tactics (how men actually improve) • 27:35 Scripts: flirt without pressure; set clean boundaries • 33:10 When to bring up commitment (timing & phrasing) • 38:25 Red flags: manipulation, love-bombing, performative “boundaries” • 43:10 Weekly challenge + recapRelevant links • Show site & all episodes: https://betterthanperfectpod.com • Gottman Institute (communication & dating research): https://www.gottman.com • Mark Manson’s Models (authentic attraction for men): https://markmanson.net/models • Esther Perel (desire & modern relationships): https://www.estherperel.comQuick takeaways • Don’t announce outcomes; create chemistry first. • Men: lead with playful flirt + clear plans, not neediness. • Women: keep it fun, vet slowly, don’t chase validation. • Talk commitment after mutual momentum, not as an opener.

Therapy terms were meant to heal—so why are they tearing us apart? Today we dig into therapy speak fatigue: how labels like “gaslighting,” “narcissist,” and even “boundaries” get weaponized, why validation isn’t agreement, and how to communicate without hiding behind buzzwords. We share concrete phrasing to replace labels with specifics so you can actually fix problems (and reconnect).Chapters • 00:00 Cold open: “Therapy speak is creating a divide” • 00:40 Intro + what we mean by “therapy speak” • 03:10 Weaponizing labels (gaslighting, narcissist, “holding space”) • 07:25 When big words dilute real abuse and real harm • 11:40 Validation vs. agreement (and why constant validation backfires) • 15:30 Boundaries vs. pathologizing: the clean way to set a boundary • 20:05 Scripts: describe behaviors without buzzwords • 25:10 Kids/Gen Z, schools, and the “diagnosis as identity” trap • 29:45 “Therapist as judge” + why outsourced accountability fails • 34:20 Coaching lens: responsibility you control vs. world you don’t • 38:15 If your partner weaponizes therapy speak—what to do next • 43:10 Weekly challenge + recapRelevant links & resources • Show site & all episodes: https://betterthanperfectpod.com • Gottman Institute (communication & conflict research): https://www.gottman.com • “Attached” (attachment styles): Amir Levine & Rachel HellerSend us your story or question: betterthanperfectpodcast@gmail.comFollow on socials: @betterthanperfectpodcastTakeaways • Use specifics over labels: “When you did X, I experienced Y. Here’s what I need next.” • Boundaries you control: “If name-calling starts, I’ll pause this convo and reschedule.” • Validation ≠ agreement. You can honor feelings without surrendering facts.

Most men say “don’t be insecure”—and accidentally make it worse. In this episode we show exactly what to say and do when your partner spirals, why silent treatment is emotional manipulation, and how to stop the avoidant ↔ anxious ping-pong. We role-play a real scenario (the “gym girls” fear), break down a viral Reddit post where a partner went 7 days with no contact, and give practical reassurance scripts that calm anxiety without coddling.Chapters • 00:00 Cold open: “Don’t be so insecure” (why that backfires) • 01:20 Setup + listener Reddit post summary • 04:05 7 days of silence: space vs. manipulation • 08:40 Why “You’re hot, stop worrying” doesn’t reassure her • 12:15 Role-play: the gym girls insecurity (listen → reflect → reassure) • 18:10 When she’s anxious and he’s avoidant: breaking the loop • 22:45 “Thermostat vs. Regulator”: who feels closeness, who fixes it • 27:30 Mixed signals aren’t mixed—they’re messages • 31:05 Boundaries: what to do if he won’t engage • 36:20 Men’s playbook: reassurance scripts that actually work • 41:00 Women’s playbook: ask for help without “frog-farming” • 46:15 Quick recap + weekly challengesRelevant links & resources • “Attached” (Amir Levine & Rachel Heller) — on anxious/avoidant patterns • The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling (Gottman Institute): https://www.gottman.com • Say hi / send your story: betterthanperfectpodcast@gmail.com • IG/TikTok: @betterthanperfectpodcastIf this helped, drop a comment with the most useful line you plan to use this week. 💬

Is “taking care of her” just a 1950s rerun—or the modern blueprint for trust and polarity? We unpack the blowback from a viral clip about men running household finances, clarify shielding vs. controlling, and show how real servant leadership lifts stress off her plate without putting her in the dark. For women, we cover how to stop emasculating potential (aka frog-farming), set standards without mothering, and hand responsibility back in ways that grow his competence and confidence. For men, you’ll get a Plan-As-a-Man financial continuity checklist (life insurance, trust/will, “open this if I die” doc), plus scripts to lead decisively without becoming a tyrant. We also break down the difference between equal power and identical roles, why 50/50 often kills spark, and a real conflict story that shows why you must speak up early—kindly, but clearly.Timestamps (approx.)0:00 Cold open: “Don’t crush his potential”2:20 Why the internet freaked out about the finance clip5:40 Leadership vs. control (and what “shielding” actually means)9:15 When she manages everything: the hidden hypocrisy12:00 Standards, vetting, and not dating “potential”15:30 Single vs. married playbooks: raising the bar or recalibrating roles18:20 Plan-As-a-Man: life insurance, trust/will, one-page continuity22:30 Polarity > identical roles (why 50/50 feels like roommates)26:10 Women: stop frog-farming; praise & pass-back without mothering29:30 Men: servant leadership habits + speak-up protocol33:10 Our late-night repair: say it sooner, keep it kinder36:30 Takeaways + weekly actions

Two times a week and still unhappy? We unpack a Reddit case where a husband pushes porn “training,” demands replies while she’s with their kid, and even threatens to find someone else. We explain why that nukes trust and desire—and what actually builds a great sex life: enthusiasm, not obligation. You’ll learn how porn scripts sabotage connection, how to get her out of “mom mode,” why taking stress off her plate matters, and how to express desire for her (not just sex). We offer clean, practical scripts, a simple foreplay framework, and a quick detox plan if porn is dulling your attraction. Plus: intensity vs. frequency, why threats are relationship napalm, and how to turn “meh” encounters into memorable experiences—for both of you.⸻Timestamps (approx.)0:00 Cold open: Men’s “3 vs 6” pleasure idea2:10 The Reddit scenario & the giant red flags6:00 Why porn-based demands destroy desire9:40 Enthusiasm is greater than obligation (what men actually want)12:30 Getting her out of mom mode (stress & setup)15:10 Desire for her vs. “I need sex”18:00 Texting that seduces (not spams)21:00 Intensity beats frequency (experience over quota)24:30 If porn is the driver: detox & re-sensitize27:00 The “threat to cheat” = trust killer30:00 Practical scripts + weekly intimacy ritual34:00 When to seek help / when to walk away36:30 Wrap & takeaways

You’re not actually fighting about the toilet seat. You’re fighting about what it means—feeling unseen, unsafe, or unloved. In this episode we argue the #1 relationship killer is resentment, not a lack of communication per se. We cover how resentment builds like plaque, why “surface” complaints are really unmet emotional needs, how to bring things up without triggering a defensive spiral, and the crucial difference between grace and rug-sweeping. We also unpack the weird moment when a partner finally changes—and the other partner suddenly feels more resentment (and what to do about it). Finish with scripts, boundaries, and a weekly ritual to keep the rug flat.⸻Timestamps (approx.)0:00 Cold open: “If you were madly in love, the toilet seat wouldn’t set you off.”2:10 Why we think resentment (not “communication”) kills relationships5:05 The plaque/tartar analogy: small issues → hardened resentment8:00 Surface vs. source: decoding what the “little thing” actually means11:20 How to bring it up: facts → feelings → needs (without accusation)14:45 “Vulnerability makes you invulnerable” (and why it’s scary)18:00 When your partner reacts badly: compassion + boundary script21:40 The “death-penalty” metaphor: why people hide or get defensive24:10 Grace vs. rug-sweeping—one heals, one stores ammo27:30 When improvement triggers anger: processing delayed hurt31:20 Forgiveness ≠ keeping score: what “let go” really means34:00 Weekly maintenance ritual to prevent buildup37:00 Quick self-check: am I hurting my own feelings right now?40:00 Wrap + homework

Get Truth or Drink here: https://bit.ly/3HOnFlSWe played Truth or Drink—but swapped booze for a Wheel of Hot Sauce. Four card tiers (Happy Hour → On the Rocks → Last Call → Extra Dirty). Stakes: Crystal → Carolina Reaper → Scorpion → “Stupidamente Piccante.” Questions escalated fast: ambulance stories, cheating ethics, threesome reveals, nipple descriptions, and whether you should ever not tell the truth.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00 – Cold open: “Dimes or dinner plates?!” + why we used hot sauce instead of alcohol1:45 – Sponsor clip backstory, forgetting the game, Target run, and setup rules4:30 – How the Wheel works (milk = mercy, Reaper = pain) + card levels explained6:20 – Happy Hour: words we hate; weirdest money John ever made (spicy affiliate)10:10 – On the Rocks: “If we suddenly had a 5-year-old, how would we parent?”12:40 – Dominant vs submissive? Nicole calls out John’s driving “leadership”15:05 – “If I died today, my biggest regret would be…” (surprisingly tender)17:20 – Last Call: ambulance IG story, brunch chaos, and why they don’t drink now20:30 – Grooming confessions; advice to younger self about sex (timing truths)23:00 – Perfect foreplay? Nicole taps out—first serious Reaper spin 🌶️25:10 – Cheating: must you tell? John’s hard-won stance from past mistakes27:10 – Kinkiest request declined; desert-island “how long till we hook up?”29:40 – “Last object inside…” (nope) → more hot sauce suffering32:00 – Injuries during sex; why most porn is unrealistic (the squirting myth)34:15 – “Stop only if you’re caught?” John spins the Wheel…again36:00 – Meanest thing seen in the relationship; shallow swipe-left honesty38:10 – Name-drop test; “Are you a good kisser?”; filming yourselves—hard pass40:00 – Threesome? Answered. Quick-start guide to getting Nicole off? She spins 🌶️43:10 – Inadvertent nudity; best compliment on performance (speechless is a review)45:00 – Wrap & lessons: play the game…maybe skip the Reaper shots👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site – https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram – https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, and personal growth—where every topic splits the vote.