The Phil Bohol Show

This episode is for anyone who keeps themselves busy but avoids the one thing that actually needs to be faced. If you’re building a business, chasing growth, and still finding yourself numbing out, self-sabotaging, or feeling blocked, this entrepreneur-focused conversation goes straight to the root.Phil breaks down avoidance in simple, uncomfortable terms. Avoidance is not laziness. It’s the habit of looking away from thoughts, emotions, or experiences that feel threatening. Instead of facing them, many men distract themselves through alcohol, substances, overwork, or constant noise. The problem isn’t the distraction itself. It’s what the distraction is protecting you from seeing.Drawing from his own experience, Phil explains how unresolved childhood trauma quietly shaped his behaviors for years. He shares how emotional pain from early family events became a subconscious lens that influenced his decisions, habits, and self-destructive patterns long into adulthood. That pain didn’t disappear. It just hid behind busyness.A core idea in the episode is this. Avoidance clouds judgment. When personal pain is left unexamined, it leaks into business as hesitation, inconsistency, fear of growth, and self-sabotage. That’s why many people think they have money problems or business problems when the real issue is internal.Phil introduces a practical way to confront avoidance. Stillness. Silence. Writing without filtering. He explains why sitting alone with your thoughts feels unbearable for many people and how that discomfort is a signal, not a flaw. The moment you stop trying to curate your thoughts and instead write exactly what comes up, patterns begin to surface.This is not therapy talk or motivation. It’s a discipline. Facing what you’ve been avoiding creates clarity. Clarity creates better decisions. Better decisions create momentum in business and life.Key TakeawaysWhat avoidance actually looks like in high-performing menWhy numbing behaviors lead to self-sabotageHow unresolved trauma blocks business growthA simple writing exercise to uncover what you’re avoidingWhy sitting in silence reveals more than constant actionThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, self-mastery, and leadership. It’s part of an ongoing message about fixing the internal bottlenecks that no strategy can override.Listen with the intention to slow down, turn inward, and face the thing you’ve been avoiding. That work is uncomfortable, but it’s also the doorway to real progress.  📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for anyone trying to build something bigger than themselves while navigating pressure, responsibility, and self-doubt. If you’re an entrepreneur who keeps waiting for clarity before taking action, this business podcast conversation challenges that approach and offers a more sustainable way forward.Phil reflects on recent life updates and conversations with people who wanted to launch businesses, grow momentum, or break through plateaus but froze instead. He explains how the desire for perfect clarity often becomes the reason progress stops. In business, waiting to feel confident before acting usually leads to inaction. Real confidence is built after action, not before it.Using a simple but powerful analogy from everyday life, Phil breaks down how overwhelm works. When there’s too much to do, people shut down. The solution isn’t doing everything at once. It’s choosing a starting point and moving one step at a time. Action creates a new vantage point, and that vantage point creates clarity.A recurring theme in the episode is focus. Phil explains why trying to clean everything off your plate at once leads to burnout and why slow, intentional movement produces better long-term results. Drawing on lessons from the Marine Corps, he reinforces the principle that slow is smooth, and smooth is fast. Consistency beats intensity when the goal is durability.Phil also shares parts of his own journey, including business setbacks, leadership mistakes, family pressure, and seasons of doubt. He explains how personal development, mindset shifts, and changing his definition of success allowed him to keep moving forward even when things felt heavy. Growth didn’t remove challenges. It increased responsibility.The episode emphasizes the long game. Business success comes with cycles of momentum and collapse. The difference between people who win and people who quit is not talent. It’s the ability to keep moving, learning the lesson, and adapting when things get hard.Key TakeawaysWhy waiting for clarity often keeps entrepreneurs stuckHow action creates confidence, not the other way aroundA practical way to reduce overwhelm and regain focusWhy slow, intentional progress beats rushed intensityHow mindset and personal development support long-term growthThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, discipline, and execution. It’s part of an ongoing documentation of what it really takes to build a business, raise a family, and keep going through uncertainty.Listen with the intention to reflect, simplify your next move, and take one step forward. Momentum is built by movement, not perfection.  📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for business owners, fathers, and mothers who believe they are providing for their children, but quietly worry they are not truly present. If you are chasing success while feeling the weight of time slipping by, this entrepreneur-focused conversation reframes what love, leadership, and responsibility actually look like at home.Phil records this episode on his daughter’s fifth birthday, which sets the tone immediately. He explains that loving your kids is not just about sacrifice, money, or long hours at work. Love is built through presence, attention, and shared moments. No level of business success can replace the absence of connection.Drawing from his own childhood, Phil reflects on how little he truly knew about his parents beyond surface details. He challenges listeners to ask a hard question. Is providing financially enough if your children don’t know who you are, what you care about, or how to connect with you emotionally?Throughout the episode, Phil emphasizes the importance of slowing down. He explains why inviting your kids into everyday tasks, even when it takes longer, creates core memories that shape how they view love, safety, and leadership. Being present is not about grand gestures. It is about choosing involvement over efficiency.Phil also addresses boundaries. Building a business requires discipline, but family time must be protected. When work bleeds into every evening and weekend, children learn that they come second. Phil shares why intentional cutoff times and fully present family windows are essential for both success and peace.At its core, this episode is about perspective. Childhood is short. The years move fast. Phil reminds listeners that one day, the opportunity to create memories will be gone, regardless of how much money was made.Key TakeawaysWhy presence matters more than provision for childrenHow absence shapes a child’s view of love and leadershipWhy involving kids in everyday moments builds stronger bondsHow to set boundaries between business and family timeThe long-term cost of prioritizing work over connectionThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, leadership, and intentional living. It is not about guilt or perfection. It is about awareness, discipline, and choosing what truly matters while you still can.Listen with the intention to slow down, reassess your priorities, and show up fully for the people who will remember how you made them feel long after the business goals are met. 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for men who feel driven but internally unsettled. If you’re an entrepreneur, husband, or father carrying unresolved anger, pressure, or self-doubt that you can’t fully explain, this business and entrepreneur podcast episode explores where that weight often comes from and how to break the cycle.Phil shares his personal experience growing up without consistent emotional guidance from his father. He reflects on the early years of feeling loved and safe, followed by confusion, resentment, and emotional shutdown after his family fractured. That absence, combined with silence around emotions, shaped how he navigated anger, addiction, relationships, and self-worth for years.A core theme of the episode is the generational impact of emotionally unavailable fathers. Phil explains how men who never heard “I’m proud of you” often grow into adults who never feel enough. That missing voice becomes an internal gap that drives overwork, restlessness, and chronic dissatisfaction, even when success is achieved.Phil contrasts this with how he approaches fatherhood today. Instead of raising his children in his image, he focuses on knowing who they are, being present, and offering emotional safety. Presence is not about activities or achievements. It’s about attunement, attention, and consistency.The episode also connects fatherlessness to leadership and business. Many men bring unresolved childhood pain into entrepreneurship, where it shows up as control issues, burnout, and constant pressure to prove worth. Phil explains that healing isn’t about blaming parents. It’s about extracting lessons, choosing responsibility, and deciding to become the man your children will never have to recover from.Throughout the conversation, Phil reinforces his broader mission. Hurt men who heal have a responsibility to help other men do the same. Growth is not about perfection. It’s about awareness, ownership, and choosing to lead differently.Key TakeawaysHow fatherlessness shapes identity, self-worth, and ambitionWhy many high-performing men never feel “enough”The difference between being present and being involved as a fatherHow unresolved childhood pain affects business and leadershipWhy breaking generational patterns starts with personal responsibilityThis episode is part of Phil Bohol’s ongoing work around mindset, leadership, and becoming the man your family needs. It’s not a rant and not a theory. It’s lived experience, reflection, and a call to do better.Listen with the intention to reflect honestly, identify what you’re carrying, and decide what ends with you.  📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for entrepreneurs who feel stuck despite long hours and constant effort. If your business isn’t growing, your stress is high, and you keep telling yourself it’s just “part of the process,” this business and entrepreneur podcast episode confronts the real issue head-on.Phil breaks down a core reality. Most people aren’t failing because of mindset alone. They’re failing because what they’re doing is not enough, and more importantly, not the right work. He explains how many business owners hide behind activity, busy work, and false productivity while avoiding the actions that actually move the needle.Using simple analogies, Phil shows how hesitation, fear, and self-doubt keep entrepreneurs from pulling the right levers in their business. Instead of making decisions, they stall. Instead of fixing root problems, they manage symptoms. They show up every day, tell themselves they’re working, then go home with nothing changed.A major theme of the episode is identity. Phil explains how bringing personal emotions into business decisions creates chaos, while wearing the wrong “hat” at the wrong time damages both business and relationships. Business requires clarity, objectivity, and execution. When ego and feelings take over, progress stops.Phil also addresses why motivation is overrated. Feeling good does not build a business. Brutal honesty does. Growth requires looking in the mirror, identifying avoidance, and committing to boring, repetitive work long before results appear. Most people won’t do that, which is why most businesses fail.Throughout the episode, Phil reinforces a consistent principle from his broader work. Success comes from fixing the root, not performing for appearances. When you change how you operate, how you decide, and how you execute, results follow.Key TakeawaysWhy staying busy is not the same as building a businessHow fear and hesitation stop entrepreneurs from pulling key leversThe difference between productive work and avoidanceWhy ego and feelings sabotage business decisionsHow fixing root problems creates real momentumThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader philosophy around discipline, execution, and personal responsibility. It is not a motivational speech. It is a direct challenge to stop pretending, stop hiding behind effort, and start doing the work that actually matters.Listen with the intention to reflect honestly, identify what you’re avoiding, and decide whether you’re willing to change how you operate if you truly want different results. 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for anyone trying to build a business or a family of their own while still carrying the weight of a broken past. If you feel torn between loyalty to where you came from and the life you’re trying to create, this entrepreneur-focused conversation addresses the problem directly.Phil shares deeply personal experiences from his childhood, including family betrayal, addiction, and repeated brushes with self-destruction. He explains how those early wounds shaped his identity, relationships, and ability to move forward in life. Rather than suppressing that pain, Phil breaks down why acknowledging it is the first step toward real change.A central theme of the episode is identity. Many people unknowingly continue living as the broken version of themselves created by early trauma. That identity shows up in business through distraction, self-sabotage, and lack of focus. It shows up in relationships through toxic patterns and misplaced loyalty. Phil explains why growth often requires letting go of people you love, not out of hate, but out of responsibility.Phil introduces the idea of loving from a distance. You don’t have to stop caring about family or friends, but you do have to protect the life you’re building. Boundaries are not punishment. They are leadership. For Phil, becoming a husband and father forced him to ask a hard question. Who do I need to unbecome, and who do I need to become, to protect my wife, my children, and the future I’m creating?The episode also connects personal healing directly to business performance. Phil explains that unresolved personal chaos drains mental bandwidth, focus, and execution. When you create space in your personal life, clarity and momentum follow in business.This is not about blame or resentment. It is about ownership. The moment you stop expecting others to heal you or understand your vision, you regain control of your life.Key TakeawaysHow family trauma silently limits focus and executionWhy loyalty to the past can sabotage your futureWhat it really means to love people from a distanceHow personal boundaries strengthen leadership and clarityWhy healing personal wounds unlocks business growthThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, leadership, and self-mastery. It is part of an ongoing conversation about becoming the man required to build a healthy family, a strong business, and a life you’re proud of.Listen with the intention to reflect honestly, create space where it’s needed, and take responsibility for the future you’re building.  📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for anyone trying to change their life through business and realizing that hard work is unavoidable. If you are building a company, carrying responsibility for others, or pushing toward a bigger future while fighting self-doubt, this business and entrepreneur podcast episode offers a grounded reality check.Phil starts with a simple truth. Hard work sucks. Anyone pretending otherwise is lying. Whether the work is physical or mental, it demands energy, focus, and sacrifice. Building a business is not easier just because it happens indoors or on a screen. It requires mental endurance, emotional control, and the ability to keep showing up when motivation is gone.Throughout the episode, Phil breaks down how fear, exhaustion, and internal resistance are part of the process. The difference between people who succeed and those who don’t is not talent or background. It is the willingness to keep taking steps forward when the payoff is still invisible. Left foot, right foot, repeat.Phil shares personal stories from growing up in the Philippines, experiencing family instability, addiction, and repeated failure. Instead of using those experiences as excuses, he explains how he reframed them into part of his identity and strength. The story you tell yourself about your past determines whether it becomes an anchor or fuel.A major theme of the episode is language. The words you use internally shape your behavior, your confidence, and your standards. Many people unconsciously repeat stories that keep them small, unsupported, or stuck. Phil challenges listeners to question those narratives and decide who they are willing to become instead.He also addresses the reality of isolation and resistance. Growth often requires distance from people who project fear, limitation, or comfort. Skill-building, discipline, and resilience stack slowly over time, often while life continues to throw unexpected challenges in the way.This episode is not about hype or motivation. It is about accepting that hard work is the cost of becoming your potential and choosing to pay it anyway.Key TakeawaysWhy hard work is unavoidable in business and lifeHow internal stories shape discipline and executionThe role of belief and identity in long-term successWhy background and circumstance do not determine outcomesHow perseverance separates successful entrepreneurs from the restThis conversation reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, leadership, and execution. It is part of an ongoing message about taking ownership, standing on your word, and building something meaningful despite resistance.Listen with the intention to reflect on the stories you tell yourself, the standards you live by, and whether you are truly willing to do the work required to become who you say you want to be.  📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for anyone building a business while carrying guilt about time, focus, and priorities. If you’re an entrepreneur who feels pulled between ambition and family responsibility, this business podcast conversation offers a grounded, realistic perspective.Phil breaks down a truth most people avoid. Prioritizing your business is not something to feel guilty about, but only if it’s done with structure, intention, and boundaries. The real problem is not working hard. The problem is being unfocused, distracted, and unproductive during the hours meant for growth, then carrying that stress into family time.Throughout the episode, Phil explains how guilt often comes from a lack of clarity and execution. When business work bleeds into family time, it usually points to wasted effort earlier in the day. Scrolling, comfort-seeking, busy work, and avoiding difficult tasks all create mental clutter that never fully shuts off. That’s where resentment and guilt start to build.Phil introduces a disciplined approach to time and focus, including clear work hours, defined cutoff points, and fully present family time. He shares personal examples from early fatherhood, explaining how short-term sacrifice and delayed gratification can create long-term stability when done intentionally. There is no perfect daily balance. There is only honest evaluation, consistency, and follow-through.The episode also challenges entrepreneurs to take full ownership of their results. Instead of blaming leads, markets, or the economy, Phil encourages listeners to look inward. Confidence grows through execution, learning, and failure. Avoiding growth tasks while staying busy creates stagnation, not safety.At its core, this conversation is about leadership. Leadership in business requires focus, discipline, and courage. Leadership at home requires presence, integrity, and honoring your word. One cannot exist without the other for long.Key TakeawaysWhy guilt often comes from distraction, not ambitionHow to set clear work boundaries without sacrificing growthThe difference between productive focus and busy workWhy execution builds confidence and frees up family timeHow disciplined structure supports long-term business successThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, leadership, and execution. It is part of an ongoing conversation about building a business that supports your life, not competes with it.Listen with the intention to reflect on how you’re using your time, where you’re avoiding responsibility, and how you can lead better both at work and at home. 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for anyone building a business or life while questioning what is actually possible for them. If you’ve ever felt stuck in survival mode, unsure whether your background, finances, or environment are holding you back, this business and entrepreneur podcast episode challenges that assumption at its core.Phil walks through the idea that reality is shaped by belief long before results show up. He shares personal stories from growing up with instability, starting businesses at a young age, and navigating life without formal education or financial safety nets. Rather than positioning himself as an exception, Phil explains how conditioning, self-programming, and follow-through shaped every outcome in his life.The episode explores how belief influences energy, decision-making, consistency, and execution. Phil breaks down why most people stay stuck not because of lack of opportunity, but because they never fully commit to who they say they want to become. When belief is weak, fear dominates. When belief is solid, action follows, even when the timeline is unclear.Phil also addresses the tension between faith, free will, and responsibility. He explains why purpose alone is not enough and why action, discipline, and self-trust are required to bring any calling to life. This is not about ignoring fear or pretending challenges do not exist. It is about choosing conviction over paralysis and commitment over comfort.Throughout the episode, Phil emphasizes a recurring theme in his work. You cannot control time, but you can control how you show up daily. Results are earned by aligning behavior with belief consistently, even when evidence has not arrived yet.Key TakeawaysHow belief shapes behavior, consistency, and long-term outcomesWhy most people stay stuck in survival mode despite opportunityThe role of discipline and conditioning in business successHow to operate before results show up without losing momentumWhy execution matters more than circumstances or backgroundThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work on mindset, leadership, and execution. It is part of an ongoing conversation about building a life and business intentionally, rather than reacting to fear, history, or external conditions.Listen with the intention to reflect, challenge your assumptions, and apply what resonates. Real change begins with what you choose to believe and how you act on it daily.  📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for anyone building a business, a career, or a life that feels misaligned because external judgment keeps dictating their decisions. If you feel pulled between who you are and who you think you’re supposed to be, this business and entrepreneur podcast episode will hit close to home.Phil breaks down a hard truth most people avoid. Worrying about what others think is one of the fastest ways to stall growth. The need for approval creates hesitation, watered-down ambition, and quiet resentment. According to Phil, people will judge you no matter what you do. Success does not silence critics. It often creates more of them.Throughout the episode, Phil explains how fear of judgment is usually rooted in self-worth. When you value other people’s opinions more than your own, their words carry weight. When you know who you are and why you’re building, those same opinions lose their power. This shift is not about ego. It is about internal alignment.Phil also addresses how past experiences like bullying, rejection, or trying to fit in can shape adult decision-making. Many entrepreneurs try to build something meaningful while still operating from old mental patterns. That internal conflict shows up as self-doubt, comparison, and constantly second-guessing progress.This conversation is not about chasing status, money, or material success to prove something to others. Phil shares why he stepped away from trying to replicate what everyone else was doing and focused instead on clarity, purpose, and becoming comfortable being different. For him, real fulfillment came from understanding who he is, not who the world expected him to be.The episode closes with an invitation to look inward. Growth starts when you stop outsourcing belief and start developing trust in yourself. That work changes how you lead, how you build, and how you show up in every area of life.Key TakeawaysWhy caring too much about opinions quietly limits growthHow self-worth shapes confidence, execution, and leadershipThe difference between external validation and internal alignmentWhy being different is required to build something meaningfulHow entrepreneurs sabotage themselves through comparisonThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, leadership, and identity. It is part of an ongoing conversation about building a life and business from the inside out, not from social pressure or approval.Listen closely, reflect honestly, and consider where you are still letting other people write your story. 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for anyone wrestling with a big decision in business or life and quietly hoping for more clarity before moving forward. If you run a business, lead a family, or carry responsibility for other people, this conversation will challenge how you think about fear, timing, and confidence.At the core of this business and entrepreneur podcast episode is a hard truth. Not making a decision is still a decision. Freezing, waiting, or overthinking is often driven by fear, not logic. Phil breaks down why analysis paralysis keeps people stuck and why the breakthrough rarely comes from more thinking. It comes from committing and stepping forward.Phil explains how many business decisions feel hard not because of the business itself, but because of the personal consequences attached to them. Family, finances, identity, and responsibility all collide at once. He walks through how unclear goals and vague timelines create fear, while clarity around purpose and urgency builds confidence.The episode also dives into leadership at home. Phil shares how a lack of conviction in your own decisions can spill into relationships, especially with a spouse. When a leader speaks without confidence, others feel it immediately. Responsibility gets deflected. Momentum dies. What looks like external resistance often starts internally.Throughout the episode, Phil reinforces a core leadership principle. The moment you decide to move forward from a place of power instead of fear, things begin to shift. Energy changes. Execution improves. Confidence returns. The breakthrough often happens at the decision itself, not at the destination. Key TakeawaysWhy indecision is still a decision, and how it quietly leads to failureHow unclear goals and long timelines create fear and hesitationThe difference between logical overthinking and heart-led convictionWhy leadership requires confidence before external support shows upHow urgency and purpose unlock execution in business and life This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around discipline, leadership, and execution under pressure. It is not a motivational rant. It is a grounded breakdown of how real decisions get made when the stakes are high and excuses stop working.If you are feeling stuck, uncertain, or hesitant to move forward, this conversation will help you reframe what is actually holding you back. Listen closely, reflect honestly, and most importantly, make a decision and execute. 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for anyone who has escaped survival mode but still plays small out of fear. If you’ve built stability, achieved more than anyone around you, and yet still hesitate to fully step into who you know you are, this entrepreneur-focused conversation addresses the real reason why.Phil challenges the idea that fear is about failure. According to him, fear is often about success. Being seen. Being judged. Being rejected. He explains that many people are not afraid to lose, they are afraid of the responsibility and isolation that comes with becoming great. Playing small feels safer because it protects you from criticism and rejection, even though it costs you fulfillment.Throughout the episode, Phil speaks directly to the internal battle between freedom and approval. He questions why so many people care more about how others might respond than how they will feel at the end of their life knowing they never went all in. He emphasizes that life is not guaranteed and that waiting to feel ready is another form of avoidance.A central theme of the episode is identity. Phil explains that many men live their entire lives in survival mode. When they finally have the opportunity to build something meaningful, they sabotage themselves because they don’t know who they are without struggle. Freedom feels unfamiliar, and unfamiliar feels dangerous.Phil also ties self-belief to purpose. He speaks openly about faith, calling, and the responsibility that comes with having a gift. According to Phil, the world will never see your potential if you refuse to acknowledge it yourself. Self-belief is not arrogance. It is ownership.The episode reinforces that rejection is inevitable. People will judge, misunderstand, and project their own limitations. The question is whether you are more afraid of that discomfort or of reaching the end of your life knowing you wasted your opportunity.This is not a motivational rant. It is a confrontation with the last thing most people are avoiding: fully committing to themselves.Key TakeawaysWhy fear of success keeps people playing smallHow approval-seeking limits freedom and fulfillmentThe difference between survival mode and self-actualizationWhy rejection is part of becoming who you’re meant to beHow self-belief is tied directly to leadership and executionThis episode is part of Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, discipline, and stepping into responsibility. It reflects his consistent message that growth requires courage, honesty, and daily intention.Listen with the intention to reflect deeply, question what you’re still avoiding, and decide whether you’re willing to stop wasting the life you’ve worked so hard to build. 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

This episode is for driven men who are growing businesses while struggling to stay present at home. If you’re an entrepreneur who tells yourself “it’s all for my family,” yet feels distant, stressed, or guilty around your spouse and kids, this business-focused conversation challenges that belief head-on.Phil walks through five brutal truths about how entrepreneurs unintentionally sabotage their families. He starts with misplaced priorities, explaining how constant business emergencies pull attention away from family moments. Being physically present but mentally on Slack, email, or client fires teaches children that work always comes first.He then tackles the “provider” identity. Phil explains why providing financially is not the same as being a good parent. Money, lifestyle, and material comfort do not replace emotional presence. Many men unknowingly project their own childhood scarcity onto their families, using money to heal wounds that presence is meant to address.Drawing from his own experience, Phil shares how early business success made him reactive, stressed, and emotionally unavailable during his first daughter’s early years. Without systems, boundaries, or mentors who understood family dynamics, he defaulted to overwork and numbing behaviors instead of confronting the real issues.The episode also covers bringing business stress home. Phil explains why projecting work pressure onto your spouse and kids creates emotional distance, resentment, and breakdowns in intimacy. Children and partners should never have to guess which version of you they’re getting.Finally, Phil addresses guilt-driven parenting and broken promises. Overcompensating with gifts, leniency, or empty “next time” commitments erodes trust and builds entitlement. A man’s word matters most at home, and inconsistency creates long-term emotional damage.Throughout the episode, Phil reinforces a central truth. How you operate in business is how you operate in life. Without boundaries, discipline, and systems, you become a slave to both work and guilt.Key TakeawaysWhy business emergencies steal presence from family lifeHow “providing” becomes an excuse for emotional absenceThe danger of bringing stress and volatility homeHow guilt leads to inconsistent parenting and entitlementWhy a man’s word is the foundation of trust at homeHow systems and boundaries protect both business and familyThis episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, leadership, and intentional living. It’s not an attack on ambition. It’s a call to lead better, with structure, clarity, and responsibility.Listen with the intention to reflect honestly on how you’re showing up, what you’re teaching your kids, and whether the legacy you’re building matches the life you actually want them to remember. 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

Key Takeaways:[00:19] The emotional withdrawal signs your kids are showing RIGHT NOW (and why you’re missing them)[04:50]How your inner resistance to success is actually self-sabotage (and the brutal reason why)[08:40] The #1 mistake dads make that destroys their connection with their children—without even realizing it FREE 30-Day Blueprint to Grow Your Business by Working Less! I've helped hundreds of men reclaim their time, their family, and their purpose—without sacrificing their business. Get access to my FREE 30-day series that will teach you exactly how to win at business AND fatherhood. Click the link below & start TODAY. https://philbohol.com/subscribe Follow Phil Bohol’s Socials:Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | LinkedInWant more? Join my email list:https://philbohol.com/subscribe 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The true meaning of suffering and how to transform it into growthWhy identity shifts are more powerful than action-based goalsThe power of "I AM" statements in reshaping your realityHow to sacrifice comfort to unlock your full potentialWhy your subconscious mind tries to hold you back—and how to overcome itThe deep connection between faith, surrender, and successThe reason challenges arise when you're on the right path—and how to keep moving forwardIf you're ready to push past your limits, step out of fear, and fully embrace your calling, this episode is for you. This is more than motivation—it’s a blueprint for mastering your mind, body, and spirit.Key Takeaways:[01:23]  The importance of self-mastery in overcoming hardship[02:55]  Faith, surrender, and why you don’t need to “know” the path[04:25 ] How to recognize and defeat subconscious resistance[06:35]  Why suffering leads to breakthroughs (if you embrace it) Follow Phil Bohol’s Socials:Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | LinkedInWant more? Join my email list: https://philbohol.com/subscribe 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

Key Moments:[00:20] Why emotional gaps form between dads and their children[00:45] The difference between achievement and attachment to your business[05:22] A simple 2-step framework to emotionally reset before spending time with your kids[07:15] How to redefine success metrics to include family life[09:00] A powerful, life-changing exercise to reconnect with your kids today.  Phil breaks down the success paradox — how the pursuit of wealth, growth, and achievement can turn into an unhealthy attachment, leaving little emotional bandwidth for your kids. Discover the warning signs, understand why your children may feel like they're competing with your business, and learn the proven strategies to fix it before it’s too late. Phil shares actionable steps to redefine your success metrics, prioritize meaningful family connections, and build a legacy your kids will genuinely be proud of. Learn the importance of presence, mindful parenting, and balancing business ambition with emotional availability. This isn’t just about being successful—it’s about being the dad your kids deserve while achieving your dreams. Follow Phil Bohol’s Socials:Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | LinkedInWant more? Join my email list: https://philbohol.com/subscribe  📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

Key Moments:[05:30] Understanding the Success Trap - How achievement addiction creates a dangerous cycle[12:45] Breaking Generational Patterns - Why your father's absence affects your parenting[18:20] The Morning Lesson - A powerful story about teaching discipline to a 4-year-old[25:15] Practical Solutions - How to break the cycle and create healthy success patternsPhil shares vulnerable insights about his own journey and provides actionable strategies for entrepreneur dads to maintain their ambition while staying emotionally present for their families. Learn how to fall in love with the process instead of chasing external validation, and discover why being "successful" might be the very thing keeping you from true fulfillment.Perfect for ambitious fathers, business owners, and leaders who want to build a legacy without sacrificing their family relationships. This episode provides the wake-up call and practical blueprint needed to break free from the success trap and create meaningful connections with your children. Follow Phil Bohol’s Socials:Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | LinkedInWant more? Join my email list: https://philbohol.com/subscribe 📌 Like, Share & Subscribe for more battle-tested business scaling, personal development, and mindset training Get my 30-Part Series (free) to scale your business in the next 30 days.:https://philbohol.com/subscribe Want to learn how we’re helping Military Veteran Entrepreneurs scale?https://philbohol.com/get-access Connect with me personally:• Podcast | https://www.philbohol.com/podcast • Instagram |   https://www.instagram.com/philbohol• Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/phil.bohol• Twitter X |   https://x.com/philbohol_

In this episode, discover the ONE thing that successful dads protect at all costs—and it’s not money or business growth. Phil dives deep into the silent killers of fatherhood and success, like decision fatigue, emotional detachment, and energy depletion, and explains why energy management is more critical than time management. Learn how to stop giving your family the "leftover" version of yourself, become a high-performance dad, and create a legacy of love and connection.Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly. (00:00) The Cost of Chasing Success(01:06) The Importance of Presence(05:02) Energy Management Over Time Management(08:29) The Silent Killer: Emotional Detachment(15:37) Morning Routines for Optimal Energy(17:27) Protecting Your Family and Yourself(21:03) Conclusion and Call to Action Follow Phil Bohol’s Socials:LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter  | TikTokWant more? Join my email list: https://philbohol.com/subscribe[00:00:00]I lost my daughter's entire first year chasing money, trying to build business. But what I actually sacrifice is worth 100x more, infinitely more. And after coaching men from all over the world, all over the country, different business owners, from different industries, different sized families, I discovered something…That you'll never be able to get back no matter how much [00:00:30]money you make a lot of men chase money business growth. But at the end of that if you lose it if you lose the real things that are important in this life.No amount of that money that you made the success that you got will ever be able to help you buy that back.So in this video, I'm going to show you what successful dads do and what they protect at all costs.Because I want you to always remember at the end of the day, it doesn't matter how much money you make, it [00:01:00]doesn't matter how big of a business you build, if you lose what's really important in this life.So let's start off with, um, presence, being truly present here in the moment, and presents, gifts, that you give to your family, gifts that you give to your kids. Now, the biggest thing is, you know, men like to think that, if I give you this one piece of attention, I had a long work day. I've been hustling my ass off.I've been building this [00:01:30]business, getting that money, whatever the case might be for the family. If I give you an ounce of patience, that's a present. That's a gift to you from me. You're lucky that I'm giving you a gift. That's how most men think. What you have to learn how to do is learn how to manage emotions from a level where what happens in your day to day work environment, you don't bring that to the household.You don't bring that to the home. By doing [00:02:00]that, you can separate business and your personal life, which is what's important. You have to know when to leave shit at the door. When you do that, and you're able to do that, you're able to be present. So when I talk about presence, being here in the moment, being present for your family, that's what I mean.It's not a gift, it's a state of being. When you have presence for your family, when you have presence with your children and your marriage, you have a more meaningful life. [00:02:30]And that's what makes all the hustle and all the grind worth it. So stop looking at the time, the patience, the attention you give right there in that one moment that you have as a gift, as a present to the people that you love most.Because what it's gonna do, it's gonna create some sort of like resentment, right? Some type of negative animosity feeling. Because you think your time is so valuable and that [00:03:00]you have to give like this short version of yourself, the business owner, CEO, entrepreneurial version of yourself to your kids when they're just asking you to play.They're just asking you to eat with them, sit at the table with them. Your wife's just asking for some time, not talking about business, not talking about nothing related to that, but to be with her husband. Stop looking at that little amount of time, that one minute, two minute, five minutes. Cause you might think it's a lot of time, but it's just moments.Stop looking at that. Like you're giving them a [00:03:30]present or a gift just because for that moment you were truly there. So how do we do this though? How do we ensure that you can live a life of presence being a state of being? Um, a lot of people think that they, they don't have enough time, right? We all have the same 24 hours in day.Um, What you do. In those times in that 24 hours is what means the most, right? So [00:04:00]yeah, you can have time management. Abso-fucking-lutely everybody needs to learn how to manage their time so they can maximize on 24 hours because just cause you think you're hustling for 10, 14 hours in your business doesn't mean it's productive time.That doesn't mean they're, they're income producing activities. A lot of the time that's you doing me like miniature tasks that aren't going to create more money for the business, or you're distracting yourself with all of this busy work and you're not actually driving the business forward. And so you got to ask yourself, “Well, if that's [00:04:30]happening, if I am not being able to be focused for that 10 14 hours I say I'm hustling, what's causing me to do that?What most men don't realize is they have an energy problem. They try to stretch themselves thin because the world says, well if you work 10 14 hours then you can wear this badge of honor that you're a hustler. But people that do big business and make a lot of money, it's not about the amount of hours that you [00:05:00]work, it's about what's put into those hours.But. In order to manage what's put into those hours, what you need instead of time management is called energy management. Think about it like this, if you had 60 minutes, and you were depleted, you had nothing left in the tank, you're eating like shit, you're not working out, you don't feel connected to your family, everything is basically falling apart.How lethal do you think you're going to be in that hour, that 60 minutes? [00:05:30]Probably not that lethal. Now, when you think about super energized, you feel the love from your children. You feel the love from your spouse, your wife. You feel connected to God. You meditate. You spend time with self. You're fully, fully energized.What do you think you can do in that 60 minutes? That same hour that may be the version of you that's got nothing left in the tank. What do you think the performance difference is going to be? Very different. You're going to, [00:06:00]you're probably going to break records in that one hour high energy versus doing nothing meaningful in that one hour, no energy.So now you think about one, two, three, four, five hours of work in that same space, you're going to get a lot of stuff done once you do four, five hours with nothing in the tank, you're not really getting anything done, but it's going to feel like you're putting a lot of time towards the business. And energetically, what that's going to do is it's going to drain you because now you feel drained in your business, and when you [00:06:30]try to go home, you've got nothing to really give to the kids or to your wife, because you're energetically completely drained, and because you're energetically completely drained, emotionally, you've got nothing to give anybody.And your wife and your kids, they're going to want from you. They're going to want emotions from you. They're going to want connection. But if you have no energy to emotionally connect because you don't have the bandwidth, what happens? Well, your daughter, your son asks if you can play. [00:07:00]And you get short with them, you get pissed off, you get angry, you snap at them.Because you have no energy to emotionally respond properly to them. You see what I'm saying? When your wife, uh, tells you to take out the trash to do the dishes, you pop off on her? Why? Because, energetically, you got nothing left. Energetically, it's going to feel like somebody's trying to take something more from you that you already don't have.And so emotionally, you're going to put a guard up and now again, you're going to project that onto your wife. And that's [00:07:30]what caused risks in people's marriage. And what happens is for a lot of business owners, you don't see that as a lot of entrepreneurs, you don't see that you're doing that, but that's what's happening.So being able to not just manage time, which again is very important. You have to be productive with your time. Absolutely. But in order to be productive with your time, you have to learn how to manage your energy. Cause if I got an hour and you got an hour, I guarantee you I'm not performing somebody in that hour because I keep my state good.I keep my energy good. [00:08:00]And when you guys do that, what it allows you to do again, it allows you to, in business, know how many hours are the most optimal hours you should be hustling, because I can guarantee you in 10 or 14 hours, unless you're doing a push, you're not really being that productive in 10 or 14 hours of hustle.A couple hours, three to five hours of hyper productivity will probably move the needle more than a whole week of 10 or 14 hour days basically going nowhere. Over time, what does this do? If you go the [00:08:30]wrong path, which is where a lot of men go, it becomes a silent killer in your life. What do I mean by that?Well, it's this thing where men start to detach emo

In this episode of The Phil Bohol Show, Phil breaks down the myth of work-life balance and reveals how chasing this elusive "balance" could be destroying your family's future. Using his own journey of building multiple seven-figure businesses while becoming a father during a global shutdown, Phil uncovers the mental shifts and actionable strategies that allowed him to create generational wealth, strengthen his family bonds, and live with purpose.Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly. (00:00) Introduction(00:34) The Myth of Work-Life Balance(01:33) Personal Journey and Choices(02:22) The Struggle with Balance(05:00) Realizations and Shifts(07:57) Integrating Family and Work(10:34) Teaching Through Example(13:48) Application and Morning Rituals(16:42) Final Thoughts and Call to Action Follow Phil Bohol’s Socials:LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter  | TikTokWant more? Join my email list: https://philbohol.com/subscribe[00:00:00]What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. And more importantly, how I personally got through them. Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you.I'm here to give you the truth.[00:00:30]Work life balance is a lie that's destroying your family's future. Since the global shutdown a couple of years ago, I've built multiple seven figure businesses while becoming a father twice over. And today I'm going to show you why balance itself is the wrong goal and what to do and what to focus on instead.So in this video, you're going to learn [00:01:00]a couple of things. First thing is why work life balance is actually hurting your family. Then I'm going to talk to you about some of the shifts; three shifts I had to make to strengthen the bond and the relationship with my daughters. How you can continue to build generational wealth, especially if you come from a third world country like me, while being more present and the exact framework I use making [00:01:30]multimillion dollar decisions without sacrificing family time.I just got done playing in the snow with the girls. When my first daughter Ariella was born, it was the start of the global shutdown and I had a choice to make. Am I going to live a life of mediocrity and give that to them? Or am I going to find a way to live a life that most people can only dream of, of excellence, [00:02:00]something to be proud of. This is what I've built.Coming from a third world country, coming from poverty, I was able to build something like this. Most people told me that being a new dad is going to be very stressful and you got to take the safe route. I chose not to take the safe route and we're all better off for it. But you have to understand that when I tried to go against what was calling to me, that's [00:02:30]where I really started to lose myself.I was so focused on, well, how do I be present with my wife? She's got the baby in the tummy, baby's on the way. How do I balance that with work? And what happened was because I kept listening to the noise of the world, I kept listening to people that were unsuccessful. In, in, in terms of how I viewed them, I was listening to them and they were pulling me to this, this mediocre state [00:03:00]that I needed this balance.And every time I tried to seek balance, it felt like I went off balance because as business pulled me one direction, I kept going against that, trying to achieve balance. And because of that, then I would give to my family, but then I'd be so distracted because I wanted a balance. Thanks.Working, hustling, building the thing that was going to secure safety and security, especially in a world of chaos, literally world of chaos.[00:03:30]And that's the guilt that we can feel as fathers, as entrepreneurs, as business owners, that we're trying our best for our family, but we also have to be present for the family because it kind of doesn't make any sense to say that we're doing all of these things, we're building business, we're making money, we're making changes.For the family it doesn't really make sense to say that and then on the other side of it not see them to neglect them.And so you got to understand that you're killing yourself trying to [00:04:00]balance this thing when it's not balance that you need. It's not balance that's gonna get you to break through. It's not balance that's gonna give you the ability to grow business. While being present, the more you battle this, the more it's going to hurt.And the more you do this, the more you're going to be distracted. You're going to be a state of limbo. And eventually as your kids grow older, [00:04:30]they're still going to feel like they didn't get enough of you. They didn't get the best of you because while you were in. When you felt so guilty because you weren't with family that you didn't do the work, you didn't push yourself to achieve greatness.And when you're with your family, because you weren't pushing yourself to achieve greatness in your business, You're always distracted with them, and that's not a way to live. And that's what happens when people try to balance things, work life balance. [00:05:00]And the more that I did that, what happened was, I kept having this emotional turmoil, as we led closer and closer to my daughter being born.And when she was born, man, like…It felt like I was so behind on building a safety net, a security that the first year I wasn't as present as I am today.Because now we have another daughter, Alessia, and she just turned one. And this time around it's very different because of the lessons that I've learned.So I really want you to pay attention [00:05:30]because we never get that time back. And you gotta start asking yourself, don't you get tired of the guilt trip your wife doesn't give you? Your kids don't give it to you, but you give you. You got to shift the mentality because that first year of birth for my first born, and there's a lot of times that I missed because I was so caught up in emotional distress.I was so caught up in my head that [00:06:00]as much as I thought I was present, I wasn't. And that's why I want you to understand that as you kind of move forward away from the world of work life balance, the more that you kind of think about, well, if I'm going to give time to my family, if I'm gonna give time to my kids, quality.Which one do I have to choose? [00:06:30]Which one do I have to give? Do I give them quality time, less time, but it's quality time? Or do I give them quantity time, but less quality because I'm distracted? See, this is the thing that people think they have to choose from. Just like work life balance. Do I have to choose work?Do I have to choose life?Do I choose quality?Do I choose quantity?It doesn't have to be that way.There's no choice that has to be made in those spaces, but you have to allow yourself to think differently.And this is when I started to realize that [00:07:00] I was actually holding myself back because I was building my first business and it required me to be on camera, it required me to be on zoom calls.They required me to be on phone calls, and I used to feel like I was doing something wrong or I was being unprofessional.If I had my, my daughter with me or if I had my wife in the background or family was happening behind the scenes.Then one day I realized why, why am I so worried and concerned about how this looks?[00:07:30] My family needs me right now, and if they're walking around behind me, what's so unprofessional about that?We're in the middle of a global shutdown.Everybody's remote.This doesn't make any sense.Why am I doing this to myself?Then I started to realize that I was overcomplicating the whole thing.I was trying to make a choice when no choice had to be made, and that's when I started changing everything.I started to actually involve [00:08:00] my family in during my times of work, but I had to look at things different.I obviously had to still perform.I had to put food on the table.Absolutely.But what I did was when I made that realization, I stopped trying to balance work and life.And instead, I started to integrate my family into my purpose.The thing that, that was calling to me.I wanted to build a better life for them.So I involved them more.I wanted to show them what's [00:08:30] possible.What, what their dad, what their husband was willing to do for them.So I involved them more.Everything that I did had to do with my family.Now I started to understand how to be a family man.And mind you, I didn't really have that great of an example of what it means for a father to involve his kids like that.Story for another time, but that's when everything changed.When you keep choosing and you keep trying to choose.You're gonna let somebody down.Think about like this [00:09:00] last time you had an email, a slack message, a text message from work and your kids wanted to play.Were you checking your phone?Were you thinking about checking your phone?Were you thinking about work that was potentially gonna hit your phone?So you had to have it around, you have to just slide it into your pocket while you played and while you were present.You [00:09:30] have to learn a different way.You gotta learn how to compartmentalize everything.Because if you learn to compartmentalize, then you can have it all.Because you're willing to be it all, but you have to stretch yourself more.Right?You have to stretch yo

Do you ever feel like you’re wearing “false armor,” pretending to be strong while quietly battling internal struggles? In this transformative episode, Phil Bohol unpacks the truth about vulnerability and its role in true strength. Using personal stories and raw honesty, he explores the dangers of denying unhappiness, bottling up emotions, and clinging to survival-mode habits that no longer serve us. Phil shares actionable steps for reflecting on the past year, releasing old baggage, and stepping into the courage required to lead your family, business, and life with authenticity.Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly. (00:00) Introduction and Purpose of the Show(00:59) The Importance of Reflection(01:36) The Burden of Pretending(02:19) The Power of Vulnerability(04:07) Facing Internal Struggles(06:05) The Courage to Change(07:59) Letting Go of the Past(09:46) The Path to Self-Discovery(16:25) Breaking Free from the Matrix(20:36) Reflecting on the Year(23:11) Final Thoughts and ChallengesFollow Phil Bohol’s Socials:LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter  | TikTok Want more? Join my email list: https://philbohol.com/subscribe[00:00:00]You know, I got a wife, I got kids, I got people looking up to me. I'm the provider, I create security, so how does somebody like me Stop pretending.What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you [00:00:30]back from leveling up in every area of your life. And more importantly, how I personally got through them. Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you.I'm here to give you the truth.What's going on you guys. It has been a minute since we've done a little bit of a podcast episode. So we're just going to catch up on some things, especially as we wrap up this year. I really want you to [00:01:00] spend some time reflecting. I don't think a lot of people reflect enough. You get so caught up in your day to day, you get so caught up in the busyness of life.If you don't reflect, you don't actually learn, you don't extract the teachings or the wisdoms that you need. So that way you can elevate in every area of life. The whole mentality of go, go, go only serves you to a certain extent. And if you don't take time to reflect, then you're not going to know where the gaps are in your operating system, in your [00:01:30]mentality, in your spirituality, in your emotional control and emotional mastery.And so when we think about why a lot of people operate in this life wearing what I call false armor, they pretend to be a very specific way. Let's say that you have a family that you lead. It's very easy to get caught in this mentality of, well, I have to look strong. You know, I got a wife, I got kids, I got people looking up to me.[00:02:00]Um, the provider, I create security. So how does somebody like me stop pretending? I have to be strong for the family. I have to be this. I have to be that,All you have to do is really be yourself. That's the good, the bad, the ugly. And men, if you're married, the best thing that you can do for your marriage, the best thing that you can do for your family is to stop trying to pretend to be Superman.See, because when you [00:02:30]pretend to be Superman, that everything is good. Whether business is actually doing good, but you're not good, or you're pretending you're happy right now, but you're not actually happy, whatever it is for you, you're hurting the people that could potentially step up to help you carry some of that weight.So I was talking to somebody and they weren't telling their wife all of the hardship they're experiencing. And this happened for like two years [00:03:00]straight. And the guy just felt like he was crumbling and crumbling and crumbling like everything was just going to shit. I said,” have you told your wife any of this?”He said, “no, you know, she's busy with the kids. She's trying to do her thing at work. And it's just it's not the right time to do it.” I said, “man, it's been two years though. You've been struggling with this internal battle by yourself for two years and you haven't even told your partner, your spouse, the person you're going [00:03:30] to do life with.”How does that make any sense? And he says, well, I'm trying to protect her. I said, how is it protecting her though? Because for you to carry this false armor, this burden, you don't think that energetically, your family doesn't feel that every day. They don't see the look in your eyes when you're lost in your own thoughts, in your mind, even though you're supposed to be at the dinner table, or you're supposed to be hanging out with the kids, or you're supposed to be on a date [00:04:00]night with your wife.You don't think that they, they don't feel any of that. And they probably didn't. They probably do. I said, “look, man, the hardest thing that you can ever do is to be completely open, honest, and transparent with your wife about how crappy you actually feel.” And I invite you to do that. And he's like, “Oh man, I'm just, I'm breaking down.”I'm crying. He's like crying. And, um, he's like, “I don't know. I [00:04:30]don't know what's going to happen. I don't, I don't want her to feel like I couldn't do it.That I, that I, that I'm breaking down right now.” I said, “just see what happens, man.”And so he goes and he has this conversation with his wife and he hits me back, you know, a couple of days later and he says, “bro, I don't know why it took so long for me to finally talk about what was going on with me.But my wife said she's got my back. She's going to support me no matter what and that I got [00:05:00]this and the whole purpose of me telling you this story is to help you understand that a lot of the time.Especially when you're the provider of a household when you lead a household or you know, you're the person that people go to. It's sometimes difficult to feel like you can take off the armor for a little bit and be human. That's the most powerful thing, the most courageous thing anybody can do. So it takes a lot of courage to be weak.[00:05:30]The only time it's actually a weakness is when you start to judge yourself or become afraid of people's judgment of you. But I want you to really ask yourself, is that the quality of life that you want to create and establish for yourself? And is that the example you want to set for your kids that when you got all this shit going on internally, that bottling it up is the solution?The powering through it, even though it feels like a void. That's the solution. Is that what you want to show your kids? Cause whether you say it or not, they're going to follow in [00:06:00]the actions.  They're going to follow in how you carry yourself throughout life. And so what I invite you to do is ask yourself where this past year, have you been pretending?Where have you been pretending to be good? When have you been pretending to be happy when you're not? When have you been pretending that there's nothing going on? See, I was really struggling with this for, for a large portion of my life. You know, after my parents got [00:06:30]divorced at an early age, I was like, in denial for a majority of my life, all the way up until adulthood.Literally until I met my wife.And I kept lying to myself that this is what life is supposed to be like. You go through hardship in your life and you just power through. And you just do your best, but what you think is your best when you're at your weakest is not even close to your best. And for a long time in my life, I held myself back from self actualization, from healing, from really being [00:07:00]able to absorb life for what it's supposed to be.It wasn't until I was brutally honest with myself that number one, I was actually extremely unhappy, which is probably why at 16 years old, I was miserable and that I was actually making this void much bigger and bigger and bigger. I was unhappy with myself. I didn't love myself. I didn't even know that was a thing.And I made decisions that would make me more miserable [00:07:30]because I thought those temporary things, you know, getting drunk, getting high, doing the things, those little glimpses of happiness was happiness. That's not the case. And so the reason why I'm bringing this up is so that you become aware.That a lot of the times when we start going to these things, these vices in our lives, it's because we think that that's temporary happiness that replaces true happiness.True happiness comes from having the courage to say, I'm not good. [00:08:00]So wherever it is in your life, in your business, in your marriage, in your family, with yourself, take some time to reflect. Ask yourself what parts of you that don't serve you anymore, what parts do you want to leave in this year? Not bring it into the new one.If you do this and you practice this. What you're giving yourself the opportunity to do each and every year is to create. More space for the new self to emerge, for the new self to be built.  [00:08:30]A lot of people like to bring old baggage into each new year. And then they wonder why each year they can't take the quantum leap.Well, you can't quantum leap if you're holding on to baggage. You can't quantum leap if you're holding on to the old self, because you have no space for the new self. And I want you to really start asking yourself, you know, is this the quality of life you want to settle for? Because that's what it is, you're settling.And how m