Claim Ownership
Single (not spiraling)
Single (not spiraling)Subscribed: 9Played: 175
Subscribe
© 2024 Lauren Samantha
Description
Welcome to Single Not Spiraling with Lauren—the podcast for women who are done waiting, done performing, and done pretending they’re not whole on their own.
This is your space for honest conversations about decentering men, ditching the shame spiral, and building a life that turns you on—with or without a partner.
We’re talking nervous system healing, unlearning the bullshit, dating without self-abandoning, and becoming the partner you’ve always wanted. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about finally accepting exactly who you are. So if you’ve ever felt behind, too much, or not enough—put your headphones in. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be!
This is your space for honest conversations about decentering men, ditching the shame spiral, and building a life that turns you on—with or without a partner.
We’re talking nervous system healing, unlearning the bullshit, dating without self-abandoning, and becoming the partner you’ve always wanted. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about finally accepting exactly who you are. So if you’ve ever felt behind, too much, or not enough—put your headphones in. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be!
98 Episodes
Reverse
If you’re a single woman heading into the new year and feeling burned out by goals, pressure, and “fix yourself” energy — this episode is for you. In this episode, I talk about how to want more without turning your life into a constant self-improvement project. We unpack why joyless goals lead to burnout, how to choose direction without pressure, and what it looks like to build a life that actually feels good while you’re living it. I also share the yearly card spread I use to guide my year — a grounding tool I’ve used for years with myself and clients to help make sense of transitions, big decisions, and emotional seasons.✨ Listener BonusI’m offering a limited number of $26 yearly card spreads for podcast listeners. To book:• Leave a review• Take a screenshot (reviews don’t post right away)• DM or email it to me — links are below!Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
If you’re a single woman feeling pressure to have everything figured out at the start of the year, this episode is for you. In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, Lauren de-influences New Year and January pressure, unpacks hustle culture and wellness overload, and explores how single women can slow down, think critically, and lead their lives with intention. This conversation is about decentering urgency, trusting your own timing, and choosing growth without burnout.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
In this episode, we’re getting real about the kind of holiday hurt no one talks about — the moment you’re surrounded by family and still feel invisible. When traditions change without you, everyone else is coupling up or having kids, and you’re left navigating a season that doesn’t feel like yours anymore. And in the middle of all that tenderness, the urge to text your ex creeps in… not because you want him, but because you want to feel seen. We talk about why these emotions hit so hard, how to tell the difference between loneliness and longing, and what it looks like to hold yourself when old wounds resurface. If this holiday season has made you feel left out, behind, or tempted to reach back for the wrong person, this episode will meet you right where you are.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Listen… if you’ve been feeling off this holiday season and can’t really explain why? You’re not alone. This episode is for my single girls navigating weird family dynamics, annoying party invites, pressure to buy gifts no one wants, and the ache that shows up when you’re not anyone’s plus one. We're talking about the bullshit of couple culture, capitalist nonsense, and how to make it through this season without losing your mind (or your money). You’ll get real talk on:– Why holiday traditions can feel like soul-sucking performances– What to do when everyone around you is boo’d up– Tangible rituals and mindset shifts to actually feel good (not just perform okay) This isn’t a “just be grateful” episode. It’s a call to burn the things that drain you and choose what actually feels good. Let’s get into it.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
So apparently, “decentering men” is tired now. A trend. A phase. Except… we’re still watching women shape-shift to be chosen by men who can’t name their emotions or wash their legs. This episode is for the woman who's done orbiting her life around being picked. We’re talking about what decentering men actually means, why it’s not about bitterness, and how this shift might be the exact thing your healing has been missing. If you’re single, spiraling, or somewhere in between—this is your reminder: your life is already happening. Let’s make it yours.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
If you’ve ever wondered, “Did I heal too much? Is that why dating feels so hard now?”—this episode is for you. We’re getting into what it really means to outgrow chaos, stop chasing the high of anxious attachment, and hold out for the kind of love that actually feels safe. It’s not that you’re too much—it’s that you’ve raised your standards and learned how to trust yourself. This episode is your reminder: you didn’t heal too much. You just stopped settling.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
What if the sadness you’re feeling isn’t just about being single... but about grieving the life you thought you’d have by now? In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, we’re talking about disenfranchised grief—the kind that doesn’t get talked about because there’s no funeral, no breakup, no obvious loss. Just you, quietly mourning the version of adulthood you imagined: the partner, the house, the milestones. We unpack the cultural timelines that were never built for single women, the system that still ties a woman’s worth to being “chosen,” and why giving yourself permission to feel it all is the most powerful thing you can do. Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
This one’s personal. It’s a love letter, a pep talk, and a little bit of a call-out. After being single for a long time (hi, 7 years), I’ve learned that confidence doesn’t come from someone choosing you—it comes from building a life that turns you on without waiting for them to show up. In this episode, I’m walking you through 10 things every single woman needs—not to get the guy, but to feel alive, grounded, and fucking proud of the life she’s creating. From vibrators to rituals, girlfriends to guilty pleasures, we’re going there. This isn’t about becoming better. It’s about becoming you. More fully, more unapologetically, more deliciously than ever before. So pour the wine in the real glass. Light the candle. And press play. Because you’re not spiraling—you’re single, and you’re thriving.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Money isn’t just math — it’s emotional, messy, and wrapped in way more shame than most of us want to admit. In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, I’m getting brutally honest about what it means to navigate debt, guilt, and survival-mode spending as a single woman.We’re talking about why being financially “behind” doesn’t make you broken, why the system actually is rigged, and what it looks like to build intimacy with your money instead of ghosting it every time things get tight.If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning financially while trying to keep up appearances — this one’s for you. No budgeting hacks. No bootstraps. Just truth, compassion, and a hell of a lot of unlearning. Because shame can’t survive honesty — and your worth has never been tied to your bank balance.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Still waiting for someone to pick you? This episode is your wake-up call. Lauren Samantha is calling out the toxic dating patterns that keep women performing, shrinking, and settling—just to be liked. In this raw, no-BS episode, we unpack how to stop dating from fear, define your real non-negotiables, and finally build love from power—not panic. You’ll learn:The difference between preferences and true non-negotiablesHow to stop shapeshifting just to be chosenWhat dating from self-worth actually looks like (even if you're scared)How to challenge the relationship timelines you never asked forWhat it means to choose yourself first—without closing yourself off to loveThis is part three of the “Would You Date You?” series—designed to help you stop spiraling and start building the kind of relationship you'd actually want to be in.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You're out here saying you want a partner who’s emotionally available, who prioritizes your needs, who makes you feel sexy, seen, and safe… but are you doing any of that for yourself? In this episode, Lauren Samantha rips the bow off self-love and gets real about what it actually means to be devoted to you. No bubble baths. No beige journals. Just daily rituals, deep needs, and the bold-ass act of choosing yourself—without apology, without performance, and without waiting for permission. We're talking:What it really looks like to love yourself without needing to earn itHow to stop ghosting your needs and start showing the hell upWhy pleasure isn’t a treat—it’s a damn practiceTurning your daily life into a slow burn kind of romanceThis is Part 2 of the Would You Date You? series—because being single isn’t a bad thing. It’s the most important relationship of your life.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You say you want someone emotionally available… but are you emotionally available to yourself? In this raw and reflective first episode of the Would You Date You? series, Lauren Samantha cracks open what it really means to become the kind of partner you’re out here looking for. No fluff. No Pinterest-perfect self-care tips. Just honest talk about how we ghost our own needs, abandon our boundaries, and call it “doing the work.” You’ll hear stories, questions, and gut-checks to help you get clear on:– Where you’re still outsourcing your worth– What it actually means to hold emotional space for yourself– Why loving yourself isn’t the same as performing “healing” perfectly If you’ve ever spiraled wondering why love hasn’t landed—or secretly questioned whether you’re actually ready for it—this episode is your mirror. 👉 Plus: Lauren shares a free tool, Would You Date You? A Guide to Becoming the Partner You’re Looking For to take this deeper. Grab it HEREStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Ever cried in the Trader Joe’s parking lot because your ex moved on and you’re still wondering if love is even in the cards for you? Same. In this first episode of Single Not Spiraling, Lauren Samantha kicks things off with a brutally honest conversation about what it really means to be single right now—and why this podcast exists in the first place. If you've ever felt like your life is “on hold” because you’re not in a relationship, this one’s for you. We’re talking:The quiet grief of a life that doesn’t look like “the plan”Why being single doesn’t mean you’re brokenWhat self-worth actually looks like when no one’s watchingThe toxic messaging in self-help, spirituality, and dating cultureThe real reason spiraling hits so hard—and how to stopThis isn’t a “love yourself more” pep talk. This is your space to unpack the shame, rage, hope, and longing that come with being a single woman in a world obsessed with coupledom. 💌 Plus, Lauren shares a vulnerable story about craving comfort, navigating pain alone, and why partnership doesn’t get to define your power.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
After 82 episodes, today marks the end of an era—and the beginning of something I didn’t see coming. In this final episode of Pleasure Pathways, I’m looking back at how it all started (yes, mushrooms were involved), what this show cracked open in me, and why I know it’s time to pivot. But don’t panic—this isn’t the end of me in your ears. Something new is coming. Something more aligned with where I am now. I’ll tell you everything. Stick around 'til the end.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comThe Benefits Of Reading Erotic W/ The Spicey Minstrel | EP. 30Intimacy In The Strip Club W/ Cynthia EP. 37Exploring Open Relations with Jeniffer EP. 61How To Schedule Sex Without Killing The Spark EP. 49Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
In this episode, we trace the history of pleasure—from Ancient Greece and goddess worship, to the Puritans, patriarchy, and purity culture. You’ll hear how joy became shame, how desire got pathologized, and how women’s sensuality was stripped down to silence. We talk about how women have fought to stay connected to their bodies, their joy, and their truth. And what it really takes to heal that relationship today. If you’ve ever felt like pleasure had to be earned, hidden, or explained—this conversation is for you.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Ever had someone say something about your body that stuck with you for way too long? Same. This week on Pleasure Pathways, I’m sharing two real moments:→ When my parents made comments about my swimsuit→ And the surprising comments I got from women at girls’ boat day This episode is about how body shame gets passed around—and how to stop carrying it. If you’ve ever been told to shrink, cover up, or felt not enough in your own skin, this one's for you. You’ll get real talk, storytime, and a few ways to start rewriting the story you’ve been told about your body.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Why are so many women screaming through IUD insertions... and being told it’s normal? In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, I’m sharing my own experience navigating the medical system to get an IUD—and asking the bigger question: If this pain is so common, why isn’t anyone doing more about it? We’ll dig into the lack of pain management, the privilege gap in reproductive healthcare, and why men are offered Valium for vasectomies while women are handed ibuprofen and told to “just breathe.” We’ll talk about how systemic misogyny, outdated research standards, and class bias all shape the care we receive—and why advocating for our bodies is often met with silence. This episode is personal, emotional, and absolutely necessary—because too many of us have been taught to be grateful for care that ignores our pain. And we’re not doing that anymore. Whether you love your IUD, hate it, or you’re somewhere in between—this conversation matters.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
In a world that feels like it’s falling apart where every headline is heavy and everyone seems to be struggling it can feel wrong to enjoy anything. In this episode, we unpack the guilt that comes with feeling good during hard times and explore why your pleasure isn’t selfish. We’ll talk about the systems (hi, patriarchy and capitalism) that taught us to equate suffering with worth, why healing isn’t meant to be done in isolation, and how joy can be a radical act of resilience. I’ll also share a few personal stories, some tough truths, and the one question that helped me shift everything. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I allowed to feel good right now?” this one’s for you.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You’ve journaled. You’ve therapied. You’ve healed your inner child and raised your damn vibration. So why does love still feel like it’s MIA? In this episode, I’m burning down the illusion that effort always equals outcome — especially in dating. We’re talking about why the “just do the work” advice can actually make you feel worse, how patriarchal bullshit is still running the dating world, and what it really means to want love in a world that’s burning. Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Fairy smut has us in a chokehold right now, and it’s not just because the sex is good (though it is). It’s because these books are finally giving women the one thing we rarely get in real life: to be fully seen, centered, and chosen—without having to shrink or beg for it. In this episode, I’m unpacking why we’re obsessed, what it says about the state of modern intimacy, and how you can stop settling for crumbs in real life. If you’ve ever read a spicy book and thought, “Damn… why can’t men like this exist?” — this one’s for you. You deserve more. And we’re gonna talk about it.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Comments
Download from Google Play
Download from App Store
United States