Single (not spiraling)

Celibacy might be the most useful thing you can try if you’re working on decentering men. In this episode, I’m talking about why I recommend celibacy to every client, what actually changes when you take sex off the table for a while, and how to tell whether you’re choosing it for yourself or using it to hide. I also get into the practical side, like whether you can still date, what to do if you slip, and how to know when you’re ready to have sex again.If you’ve been curious about celibacy but aren’t sure it’s for you, start here. Want help with this one on one? My Unspiral 3 Pack is open.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram  Please email me here: [email protected] for coaching HERE

Blocking him might be the most loving thing you can do for yourself, so why do so many of us wait so long to hit the button? In this episode of Single Not Spiraling, I’m talking about the block button, why it feels so loaded, and what keeps us holding onto men who’ve already shown us they’re not going to show up. We get into the guilt, the “what if he apologizes” thinking, and how much of your time and energy goes to someone who hasn’t earned it. I also talk about why choosing your own peace over a man’s access to you is a real act of self-love, and how it ties into undoing a lot of what the patriarchy taught us about being patient and available. If there’s a guy in your phone right now who you know needs to go, listen to this one first.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram  Please email me here: [email protected] for coaching HERE

Black and white thinking about men can feel like the safest way to protect yourself, especially when the news has you furious and every headline makes it feel like you can't trust anyone. Your rage is valid, and I feel it too. Men need to be held accountable for the harm they cause, full stop. But if we actually want things to change and want to tear down patriarchy, I think we need a bigger conversation than sorting men into good guys and monsters. In this episode, I'm talking about how that split lets so much everyday harm slide, and what accountability could look like if we went after the roots, from what boys are taught growing up to whether men who have already caused harm can change.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram  Please email me here: [email protected] for coaching HERE

You meet someone, it's going well, and somehow two weeks in you're checking your phone every ten minutes, replaying the last text, and low-key already spiraling and Obessesing. If that's you right now — this one's for you. in this episode we're talking about why early dating attachment hits so hard, how to tell the difference between real excitement and full-on obsessing, and what actually helps when you're mid-spiral over someone you barely know yet.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram  Please email me here: [email protected] for coaching HERE

There's a new dating trend everywhere right now, and on the surface it sounds like solid advice: date the guy who's less conventionally hot, because he'll treat you better. Lauren stumbled on it mid-scroll while hunting for this week's topic, and had a lot of thoughts. This episode breaks down where the trend actually falls apart, what you should be watching for instead in the first few dates, and how to tell the difference between attraction that's genuinely building and you just talking yourself into someone. Plus: how to figure out your actual non-negotiables, versus the preferences you've been treating like deal-breakers.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram  Please email me here: [email protected] for coaching HERE