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Welcome to Single Not Spiraling with Lauren—the podcast for women who are done waiting, done performing, and done pretending they’re not whole on their own.
This is your space for honest conversations about decentering men, ditching the shame spiral, and building a life that turns you on—with or without a partner.
We’re talking nervous system healing, unlearning the bullshit, dating without self-abandoning, and becoming the partner you’ve always wanted. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about finally accepting exactly who you are. So if you’ve ever felt behind, too much, or not enough—put your headphones in. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be!
This is your space for honest conversations about decentering men, ditching the shame spiral, and building a life that turns you on—with or without a partner.
We’re talking nervous system healing, unlearning the bullshit, dating without self-abandoning, and becoming the partner you’ve always wanted. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about finally accepting exactly who you are. So if you’ve ever felt behind, too much, or not enough—put your headphones in. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be!
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You're out here saying you want a partner who’s emotionally available, who prioritizes your needs, who makes you feel sexy, seen, and safe… but are you doing any of that for yourself? In this episode, Lauren Samantha rips the bow off self-love and gets real about what it actually means to be devoted to you. No bubble baths. No beige journals. Just daily rituals, deep needs, and the bold-ass act of choosing yourself—without apology, without performance, and without waiting for permission. We're talking:What it really looks like to love yourself without needing to earn itHow to stop ghosting your needs and start showing the hell upWhy pleasure isn’t a treat—it’s a damn practiceTurning your daily life into a slow burn kind of romanceThis is Part 2 of the Would You Date You? series—because being single isn’t a bad thing. It’s the most important relationship of your life.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You say you want someone emotionally available… but are you emotionally available to yourself? In this raw and reflective first episode of the Would You Date You? series, Lauren Samantha cracks open what it really means to become the kind of partner you’re out here looking for. No fluff. No Pinterest-perfect self-care tips. Just honest talk about how we ghost our own needs, abandon our boundaries, and call it “doing the work.” You’ll hear stories, questions, and gut-checks to help you get clear on:– Where you’re still outsourcing your worth– What it actually means to hold emotional space for yourself– Why loving yourself isn’t the same as performing “healing” perfectly If you’ve ever spiraled wondering why love hasn’t landed—or secretly questioned whether you’re actually ready for it—this episode is your mirror. 👉 Plus: Lauren shares a free tool, Would You Date You? A Guide to Becoming the Partner You’re Looking For to take this deeper. Grab it HEREStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Ever cried in the Trader Joe’s parking lot because your ex moved on and you’re still wondering if love is even in the cards for you? Same. In this first episode of Single Not Spiraling, Lauren Samantha kicks things off with a brutally honest conversation about what it really means to be single right now—and why this podcast exists in the first place. If you've ever felt like your life is “on hold” because you’re not in a relationship, this one’s for you. We’re talking:The quiet grief of a life that doesn’t look like “the plan”Why being single doesn’t mean you’re brokenWhat self-worth actually looks like when no one’s watchingThe toxic messaging in self-help, spirituality, and dating cultureThe real reason spiraling hits so hard—and how to stopThis isn’t a “love yourself more” pep talk. This is your space to unpack the shame, rage, hope, and longing that come with being a single woman in a world obsessed with coupledom. 💌 Plus, Lauren shares a vulnerable story about craving comfort, navigating pain alone, and why partnership doesn’t get to define your power.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
After 82 episodes, today marks the end of an era—and the beginning of something I didn’t see coming. In this final episode of Pleasure Pathways, I’m looking back at how it all started (yes, mushrooms were involved), what this show cracked open in me, and why I know it’s time to pivot. But don’t panic—this isn’t the end of me in your ears. Something new is coming. Something more aligned with where I am now. I’ll tell you everything. Stick around 'til the end.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comThe Benefits Of Reading Erotic W/ The Spicey Minstrel | EP. 30Intimacy In The Strip Club W/ Cynthia EP. 37Exploring Open Relations with Jeniffer EP. 61How To Schedule Sex Without Killing The Spark EP. 49Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
In this episode, we trace the history of pleasure—from Ancient Greece and goddess worship, to the Puritans, patriarchy, and purity culture. You’ll hear how joy became shame, how desire got pathologized, and how women’s sensuality was stripped down to silence. We talk about how women have fought to stay connected to their bodies, their joy, and their truth. And what it really takes to heal that relationship today. If you’ve ever felt like pleasure had to be earned, hidden, or explained—this conversation is for you.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Ever had someone say something about your body that stuck with you for way too long? Same. This week on Pleasure Pathways, I’m sharing two real moments:→ When my parents made comments about my swimsuit→ And the surprising comments I got from women at girls’ boat day This episode is about how body shame gets passed around—and how to stop carrying it. If you’ve ever been told to shrink, cover up, or felt not enough in your own skin, this one's for you. You’ll get real talk, storytime, and a few ways to start rewriting the story you’ve been told about your body.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Why are so many women screaming through IUD insertions... and being told it’s normal? In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, I’m sharing my own experience navigating the medical system to get an IUD—and asking the bigger question: If this pain is so common, why isn’t anyone doing more about it? We’ll dig into the lack of pain management, the privilege gap in reproductive healthcare, and why men are offered Valium for vasectomies while women are handed ibuprofen and told to “just breathe.” We’ll talk about how systemic misogyny, outdated research standards, and class bias all shape the care we receive—and why advocating for our bodies is often met with silence. This episode is personal, emotional, and absolutely necessary—because too many of us have been taught to be grateful for care that ignores our pain. And we’re not doing that anymore. Whether you love your IUD, hate it, or you’re somewhere in between—this conversation matters.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
In a world that feels like it’s falling apart where every headline is heavy and everyone seems to be struggling it can feel wrong to enjoy anything. In this episode, we unpack the guilt that comes with feeling good during hard times and explore why your pleasure isn’t selfish. We’ll talk about the systems (hi, patriarchy and capitalism) that taught us to equate suffering with worth, why healing isn’t meant to be done in isolation, and how joy can be a radical act of resilience. I’ll also share a few personal stories, some tough truths, and the one question that helped me shift everything. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I allowed to feel good right now?” this one’s for you.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You’ve journaled. You’ve therapied. You’ve healed your inner child and raised your damn vibration. So why does love still feel like it’s MIA? In this episode, I’m burning down the illusion that effort always equals outcome — especially in dating. We’re talking about why the “just do the work” advice can actually make you feel worse, how patriarchal bullshit is still running the dating world, and what it really means to want love in a world that’s burning. Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Fairy smut has us in a chokehold right now, and it’s not just because the sex is good (though it is). It’s because these books are finally giving women the one thing we rarely get in real life: to be fully seen, centered, and chosen—without having to shrink or beg for it. In this episode, I’m unpacking why we’re obsessed, what it says about the state of modern intimacy, and how you can stop settling for crumbs in real life. If you’ve ever read a spicy book and thought, “Damn… why can’t men like this exist?” — this one’s for you. You deserve more. And we’re gonna talk about it.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
I hesitated about making this episode. But I also know it’s important to share. This episode is for the women who know in their bones they don’t want kids and for the women who feel unsure, who feel that tug in their gut that says, “maybe that’s not for me either.” Because it’s all valid. I talk about how I stopped bending myself to fit a script, how I live with the possibility of change, and how all of this is tied to the bigger fight for freedom and bodily autonomy.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Recording this from the river tonight, in the dark, just me and my cats and the water.No big plan, no fancy outline—just slowing the f*ck down and seeing what’s already here.Because the real intimacy isn’t always about other people—it’s about how well you can sit with yourself, and the world around you, without trying to fix or rush it.I’m talking about the art of doing nothing—how that’s where the real magic happens.If you’ve been feeling like you have to do more to be enough, or if you’ve been scared to be alone with yourself, this is your permission slip to stop and actually feel for a minute.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Ever said, “This might be TMI, but…” before sharing something completely normal—like the way your period actually feels, or that you got turned on out of nowhere, or that you cried after self pleasure? In this episode, we’re breaking down what “TMI” really means—and why women have been conditioned to feel gross, dramatic, or inappropriate for simply being human. We talk about how shame gets passed down, how silence lives in the body, and how reclaiming the things we were told to keep quiet about—like blood clots, body hair, pleasure, and grief—is one of the most powerful ways we come home to ourselves.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You were taught to stay quiet. To be the keeper of secrets. To protect the image, the family, the relationship—everyone but yourself. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the kind of silence that doesn’t keep us safe—it keeps us small. We’ll talk about why secrecy is a form of control, how it gets passed down through generations, and why so many women are still carrying shame that doesn’t even belong to them. This isn’t just about telling the truth out loud. It’s about reclaiming your right to be whole. To stop shrinking. To stop holding it in. To finally belong to yourself. If you’ve ever been told to “not tell nobody your business”… this one’s for you.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You’re doing the journaling. Drinking the tea. Buying the serums. Lighting the candles.But if you’re still burnt out, disconnected, or just straight-up over it—this episode is for you. Today we’re talking about how self-care got hijacked by capitalism and turned into yet another performance—and why self-worship is the reclamation you’ve been craving. We’ll dig into the difference between routines and rituals, how to stop performing healing, and what it actually means to treat your body like an altar instead of a project. If you’re ready to stop spending money trying to feel okay and start coming back to you—press play.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You say you’re healing—but are you actually just hiding? In this spicy truth-talk episode of Pleasure Pathways, Lauren unpacks the fine line between doing the work… and using the work as a shield. If you’ve been telling yourself you’re “thriving single,” but deep down still craving connection—you’re not alone. This episode dives into how avoidance can wear the mask of empowerment, when “high standards” are actually fear, and why being cozy alone with your cats and coloring books doesn’t mean you don’t also deserve deep, messy, human love. We’re talking nervous system peace and emotional risk.Self-love and the ache for intimacy.And the uncomfortable truth that healing doesn’t mean hiding from your own life. Let this be your permission to want more—and your reminder that you’re allowed to have itStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
A quick short and sweet to the point episode because your girl is burnt out!Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
In this episode, I’m naming the truth most people avoid: men need marriage more than women do—emotionally, socially, and psychologically. But while men are clinging to a model that was built for their benefit, women are choosing something different: peace, independence, and relationships that don’t require self-abandonment. We’ll unpack the history of marriage as survival, why more women are choosing singlehood and opting out of motherhood, and what happens when women stop centering men and start centering themselves. We’ll also explore emotional labor, the incel backlash, and the global rise of women saying “no more.” This isn’t a man-bashing episode. It’s a wake-up call—and a reclamation.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Feel like everyone else is ahead and you’re just... stuck? You’re not broken—you’re caught in a comparison spiral, and babe, it’s not an accident. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on why social media (and capitalism) want you to feel behind—and how to reclaim your power, your pace, and your pleasure. I’ll walk you through what’s actually happening in your brain, why this spiral hits so hard for women especially, and the real tools I use with clients to get grounded and free. If you’ve been shrinking, performing, or chasing someone else’s version of success, this one’s for you.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
You don’t need to be an artist to be creative. You don’t need a partner to experience deep pleasure. And you definitely don’t need to have it all figured out to start playing again. In this episode, we’re diving into how creativity, pleasure, and play aren’t just cute hobbies—they’re powerful healing tools. Tools that help you reconnect with yourself, your desires, your voice, and your aliveness. I’ll share what I’ve seen as an art therapist, how coloring has become a daily ritual for me, why sex is one of the most creative things we can do, and how adult play isn’t optional—it’s essential. You’ll walk away with:A new understanding of how creativity shows up in your daily lifeTangible ways to bring pleasure-based play into your routinesMindset shifts to help you stop performing and start expressingPermission to be messy, weird, loud, soft, sensual, and realThis isn’t about being good at art.It’s about being good to yourself.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comStay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
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