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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

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Step into iconic couples therapist Esther Perel and listen as real couples anonymously bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity, to sexlessness, to loss, it's a space for people to be heard and understood. It's also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So.. where should we begin? Season three coming spring 2019.
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Season Three Trailer

Season Three Trailer

2019-03-0802:4022

In the new season of Where Should We Begin?  hear six sets of people at different points in their quest for romantic and familial love, including a young couple whose immigration status has forced them to consider marriage, a step-mother trying to put the pieces back together for four children whose mother died by suicide, a non-binary child desperate to connect with their single mother, a divorced couple whose two-household relationship may prove that marriage doesn't have to end after divorce, and more. Listen and better understand your own relationships through the lives of others and Esther's remarkable insights.
Almost two years ago her husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's Disease. They have three kids, a mortgage to pay, and he has developed some compulsive behaviors he isn't proud of. Esther helps them learn how to turn off the caregiver, and remember they are much more than that to each other.
[Contains mature themes] After a discovery in her doctor's office, a woman realizes her husband has been unfaithful. While betrayed and angry, she still feels a desire to stick it out for the sake of the kids. He, meanwhile, is desperate to find a way back to her. Esther takes them back to their upbringings and the years before the infidelities to find a place of mutual compassion.
[Contains mature themes] They've been together for more than a decade, but this isn't the first time they've separated. Stuck in a cycle of explosive escalations, a husband and wife want to make it work but can't break their habit of going for the emotional jugular. Esther encourages them to start their conversations differently.
[Contains mature themes] What began as an eight-year affair between two women has stretched into a 19-year partnership. But despite their private commitment to one another, they've never quite managed to move beyond the shame of their origin story. Esther takes a novel approach to revealing a long-held secret.
Leaving the Shame Behind

Leaving the Shame Behind

2018-03-3045:3948

A young couple has endured a series of crises early in their marriage, from a benign brain tumor to a serious car crash to the husband's near-fatal heart attack. Following his recovery, he's adapting to new physical limitations, while she says the children bear the brunt of his frustrations. Esther coaches them through an honest conversation on anger, parenthood and the power of apology.
[Contains mature themes] An on-again, off-again couple in their fifties, dating in a post-divorce landscape, are struggling with different world views, priorities and sexual interests. Recognizing that their polarized dynamic takes the fun out of spending time together, Esther guides both towards less rigid perspectives.
I Want to Feel Wanted

I Want to Feel Wanted

2018-03-1646:3395

After ten years, a husband tells his wife he no longer wishes to be married. A month later, stuck in limbo, they come to Esther. She helps them have an honest conversation about their expectations, desires, and the ways in which their role as parents has left little room for intimacy.
You Need Help to Help Her

You Need Help to Help Her

2018-03-0945:1960

[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife are united in their desire to help their daughter, two years after she suffered a breakdown and moved home, shutting herself off from her family and friends. Esther urges them to examine the way pressure and expectations – no matter how well-intentioned – can shape a child's upbringing.
I Can't Give You a Child

I Can't Give You a Child

2017-12-0140:4453

[Contains mature themes] A woman realizes she doesn't want to have children and comes to Esther for help expressing this to her husband, who passionately wishes to be a father. But often the stories people come in with are not the ones they take home.
[Contains mature themes] A newly-married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy, while also giving voice to past trauma.
Sexlessness

Sexlessness

2017-11-1733:5788

[Contains mature themes] A couple are first-generation children of immigrants, raised to believe sex should only take place in a marriage. Now that sex isn't forbidden, it's deeply uninteresting…to one of them.
Tell Me I'm Not Alone

Tell Me I'm Not Alone

2017-11-1039:51164

[Contains mature themes] A young family, a ten-year age difference, and a wife who found independence through an extra-marital relationship. They've decided to forgive and rebuild, but the pain of the betrayal remains.
[Contains mature themes] They have been together for 17 years, best friends and partners who, despite their loving and positive relationship, go months without connecting sexually. 
[Contains Mature themes.] A man has struggled with impotence for over two decades. His wife, in despair over her feelings of hopelessness in the bedroom, seeks relief for her sexual frustration and feelings of resentment. 
The Addict

The Addict

2017-10-2038:5786

[Contains mature themes] They're grandparents, with a 40-year love story and a stable, happy marriage. But one of them had quite a few secrets. Esther gives them some tools to navigate and support each other's experiences.
Speak to Me in French

Speak to Me in French

2017-10-0938:2897

[Contains mature themes] A husband and wife met while deeply committed to the evangelical faith and didn't kiss until their wedding day; for her, that kiss felt like "kissing her brother." Esther gets creative in an effort to help them create a new sexual relationship.
Motherless Women

Motherless Women

2017-10-0935:19102

[Contains mature themes] A couple with two small children are at physical and emotional odds in their relationship. One has given herself over entirely to the children, while the other struggles to find her place within the family dynamic. Esther helps them reframe each of their roles in terms of what they uniquely contribute.
I've Had Better

I've Had Better

2017-10-0946:42199

[Contains mature themes] He reached out because a year after the discovery of his affair, they aren't fighting anymore, but they certainly haven't moved on. Esther guides them towards a more honest conversation, and a revelation about their communication.
Prologue

Prologue

2017-05-1702:1660

Step into iconic relationship therapist Esther Perel's office and listen as 10 anonymous couples in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity to sexlessness to loss, it's a space for people to be heard and understood. It's also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So…where should we begin?
Comments (136)

A Gannon

nope nope nope nope, nope. nope nope nope. the true colors, the deepest look into his psyche, is when he CORRECTS her when she says how long he was cheating on her. that is who he is. he isn't listening, he's waiting for her to stop talking so he can present his case for why he's sorry and how he couldn't help it. someone who cheats that much and for that long and then continues to make it about themself and their ✨journey✨ to ✨recovery✨ has no intention of ever taking responsibility for the damage his actions caused. he came clean and joined a 12 step program, great. he can't even listen to his wife without correcting her or bringing his own feelings into it. he just wants her to get over it so his life can go back to normal. that's who he is.

Dec 10th
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A Gannon

This is absolutely remarkable. I didn't think I would connect to them at all, this sounds like such an insurmountable thing, but my goodness the energy between them is crackling and I really hope they went on to harness that, because it's incredible.

Dec 10th
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Katelyn Ashley

💯 easier when family isn't involved. good job!

Jun 10th
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rrp

ITS NOT FUCKING FUNNY!

Jul 23rd
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Katabatic

💔

Nov 8th
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dp

and a wife who "has no idea" that her husbamd has had about 50 affairs is partly responsible. She was clearly oblivious. not engaged at all with him. ignoring him. neglecting him. how does that translate? if the situation were reversed, all the women would be saying..well..he took her for granted and she did what she needed. The double standard is crazy. Women have no more emotional intelligence or relationship savvy than men do.thats just a handed down falsehood. Used to get benefit of the doubt but now that we have to scrutinize guys so much in the meetoo era, its time to scrutinize womens behaviors too and hold them accountable for their actions or inactions or intentions..as well.

Oct 4th
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stainedcloud

hello, any news of season 3?

Sep 9th
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Melissa

Great Pod!

Sep 5th
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Darren Coyle

when is the new season coming?

Aug 27th
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Bahr

I feel like Esther completely dismissed the woman's sadness and her very valid frustration, and the trauma that comes with it. A complete bias towards the guy and mollycoddling his ego, when he is also responsible and also didn't seek help even though it's affecting his wife. Selfish, she deserves far better. Bullsh**.

Aug 20th
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DeeleyNa

5 months...no word😢

Aug 20th
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Jason Mears

my favorite episode so far. 💙

Aug 14th
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G R L S

Did not expect Esther to sing... and for it to bring me to immediate tears.

Aug 6th
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Ricardo da Cruz de Carvalho

I'm in the Autism Spectrum Level 1 and his description of himself seems to fit in... He may need also other kind of help.

Jul 27th
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JJ Todilinus

it is not in the nature of woman to be caring toward anything that doesn't exhibit neotenous features. women make wonderful mothers, but it's not hard to see that they get rid of their husbands all the time. men are sadly disposable. and get nothing out of marriage anymore. I would sooner commit suicide than have a wench looking after mem

Jul 17th
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Lee H

He has alot to learn but I doubt if he will anytime soon. He needs to be more compassionate and less of a narcissist. It's going to be difficult because he has to change who he is. Good luck to his spouse. It's going to be a difficult road for you sweetie!

Jul 16th
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j

soooooo.....4 months now since the announcement.

Jul 4th
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William McClellan

Wait so is this guy getting cucked or not?

Jun 21st
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oracle orator

thank you for such a great podcast.

Jun 19th
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Umpa Lumpa

if you feel unworthy of love then you try to feel needed...instead of attacking express true feelings, fear of losing him. when you hurt him do you acknowledge that you did or do you defend your actions? excellent episode!!

Jun 15th
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