Relationship Revolutions Podcast

Join the Control to Connection Community https://www.skool.com/relationship-revolutions-5514/aboutContact InfoAlan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.Website https://theloveengineer.rocks/Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/Guest Larissa Astara GrayLarissa Astara Gray is on a heartfelt mission to transform the way we talk about sex, connection and belonging. With her lived experience of trauma, recovery and reclamation, she brings authenticity, sensitivity and real-world wisdom to conversations that are often shrouded in shame or silence.Drawing from years as a speaker, facilitator and educator, Larissa unpacks complex topics—from pornography’s hidden impact and consent dynamics, to how our early stories shape intimacy and how sexual self-worth ties into connected relationships.Website https://larissaastaragray.co.uk/Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/larissa-astara-gray-a98374202/SummaryIn this episode of Relationship Revolutions, host Alan Watts speaks with sex educator Larissa Astara Gray about the importance of boundaries, consent, and the impact of toxic relationships on personal development. Larissa shares her painful journey to becoming a sex educator, emphasising the need for open discussions about sexuality and the dangers of pornography. They explore the issues of sextortion, revenge porn, and the influence of social media on sexual behaviour. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding trauma responses and the role of healthy relationships in healing. Ultimately, Larissa advocates for honest communication as a fundamental aspect of building meaningful connections.TakeawaysLarissa's journey to becoming a sex educator was painful and difficult.The impact of toxic relationships can lead to long-term trauma.Consent is a crucial topic that needs more open discussion.Understanding trauma responses is essential for healthy relationships.Pornography has a significant impact on modern sexual culture.Sextortion is a growing issue that affects many young people.Revenge porn can have devastating effects on individuals.Social media plays a major role in shaping sexual behaviour.Seeking external solutions often leads to deeper internal issues.Healthy sexual experiences can aid in healing past traumas.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Boundaries and Sexuality01:49 Larissa's Journey to Becoming a Sex Educator07:39 The Impact of Toxic Relationships and Trauma09:02 The Importance of Consent in Sexual Education16:37 Understanding Trauma Responses and Consent20:42 The Role of Pornography in Modern Sexuality26:13 Sextortion and Its Consequences30:07 The Dangers of Revenge Porn and Online Exploitation34:51 The Influence of Social Media on Sexual Behavior43:52 Seeking External Solutions to Internal Problems52:03 Healing Through Healthy Sexual Experiences59:27 The Importance of Intuition in Relationships01:08:16 Breaking Down Walls to Love01:08:35 Final Thoughts on Communication in Relationships

Join the Control to Connection Community https://www.skool.com/relationship-revolutions-5514/aboutContact InfoAlan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.Website https://theloveengineer.rocks/Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/Guest info Licensed Mental Health Counselor • Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist • Author • Founder, Advocate2CreateDr. T brings over a decade of clinical and educational leadership to her work with individuals, couples and families navigating communication breakdowns, trauma, grief and anxiety. Through her practice Advocate2Create she developed the IAP Model, Intention → Action → Perception, what she calls the “Google Translate of communication,” equipping people to turn well-intentioned acts into understood and effective connection.She’s the author of Why Are We Fighting? Actionable Strategies for Effective CommunicationWebsite https://www.advocate2create.com/Book https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DH8NF2VG  Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-patricia-timerman-barbosa-da-silva-302084156/SummaryIn this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts engages with Dr. Patricia Timmerman, exploring her journey from aspiring medical doctor to mental health expert. They delve into the complexities of suicide, trauma, and the intertwined nature of psychology and physiology. The conversation emphasises the importance of effective communication, vulnerability, and understanding in relationships, while also addressing cultural differences and the significance of emotional intelligence. Dr. Timmerman shares actionable strategies for conflict resolution and the necessity of listening to one another to foster deeper connections.TakeawaysDr. Timmerman's journey reflects the importance of following one's passion.Suicide prevention requires understanding the complexities of mental health.Trauma can significantly impact future relationships if not processed.Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts in relationships.Vulnerability is a strength that fosters deeper connections.Cultural differences can influence perceptions of time and trust in relationships.Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in navigating relationships.Listening actively can transform conversations and relationships.Trust is built through understanding and transparency.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Dr. Patricia Timmerman03:47 The Journey to Becoming a Doctor06:34 Understanding Suicide and Mental Health12:26 The Impact of Past Relationships on Present Dynamics15:21 Communication and Misinterpretation in Relationships18:13 The Role of Awareness in Relationships20:40 Coping Mechanisms and Emotional Management23:49 The Importance of Intentions in Communication32:30 Perception and Communication in Relationships35:00 Understanding Fight Languages38:34 Effective Communication Strategies42:18 The Importance of Venting vs. Solutions45:50 Navigating Emotional Responses48:46 Vulnerability as Strength01:01:34 Actionable Strategies for Effective Communication01:02:41 The Power of Listening in Relationships

Join the Control to Connection Community https://www.skool.com/relationship-revolutions-5514/aboutContact InfoAlan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.Website https://theloveengineer.rocks/Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/Manny Wolfe Manny's book shows how he was able to turn his life around, from rock bottom to working with people all over the world who want to transform lives through public speaking, communication mastery, mindset mastery and internal transformation.His story is nothing less than a testament to what we can achieve when we never give up belief in ourselves and our ability to create our reality.https://amzn.eu/d/j2uBpgpFacebook https://www.facebook.com/therealmannywolfeSummaryIn this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts and Manny Wolfe delve into the complexities of relationships, dating, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, the impact of past experiences on current relationships, and the skills necessary for healthy connections. Manny shares his journey back into the dating world after a long-term relationship, emphasising the need for understanding and compassion in navigating modern dating dynamics. The conversation highlights the significance of recognising one's own issues and the importance of developing relationship skills to foster deeper connections.TakeawaysSelf-awareness is crucial in relationships.Everyone has their own struggles and insecurities.Relationships are about learning and growing together.Past experiences shape our current relationship dynamics.It's important to recognise red flags early on.Online dating can be challenging but offers opportunities for growth.Communication and emotional intelligence are key in relationships.Developing relationship skills is more important than fixing oneself.Understanding your partner's perspective fosters connection.The journey of dating is about exploration and self-discovery.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Context01:40 Manny's Journey and Current Work04:27 The Challenges of Public Speaking05:19 Navigating Relationships After Divorce08:11 The Nature of Promises and Relationships10:04 The Logic Behind Arranged Marriages12:54 Fairy Tales and the Concept of Happily Ever After14:32 Adventure vs. Certainty in Relationships16:25 Understanding Our Shared Brokenness20:59 The Importance of Self-Reflection25:49 Dating in the Modern World30:00 Healing vs. Relationship Skills31:52 Evolving Perspectives on Healing and Relationships34:45 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships36:53 The Importance of Actions Over Words40:16 Relationships as a Learning Container41:59 What Successful Men Seek in Partners47:52 Self-Awareness and Emotional Independence52:44 The Journey of Self-Discovery54:17 Innovative Approaches to Personal Growth

Join the Control to Connection Community https://www.skool.com/relationship-revolutions-5514/aboutSummaryIn this conversation, Alan Watts and Jackie Handy explore the importance of connection in both personal and professional relationships. They discuss how emotional intelligence, effective communication, and resilience play crucial roles in navigating conflicts and fostering a sense of belonging. The impact of digital devices on relationships is also examined, highlighting the need for healthy boundaries. The discussion emphasises the significance of teaching connection skills and resilience in schools to prepare future generations for meaningful relationships.TakeawaysConnection is about understanding different experiences and values.Emotional intelligence is crucial for navigating conflicts.Digital devices can enhance or hinder our connections.Communication is key in both personal and professional relationships.Resilience helps us adapt to life's challenges.Finding joy in small moments can strengthen relationships.Social conditioning influences our perceptions of relationships.We need to teach resilience and connection skills in schools.The workplace should foster a sense of belonging.Open communication can prevent misunderstandings.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Connection and Career Paths03:41 Understanding Connection in the Workplace06:09 Navigating Differences and Conflict Resolution09:06 The Role of Emotional Intelligence11:57 The Impact of Digital Devices on Relationships14:31 The Importance of Communication in Relationships17:20 Creating Healthy Boundaries with Technology20:10 The Need for Resilience and Self-Awareness23:06 The Intersection of Purpose and Belonging26:22 The Role of Connection in Personal Relationships29:05 The Importance of Connection in the Workplace31:47 The Future of Work and Connection34:45 The Need for Open Communication37:26 Finding Joy in Difficult Situations40:07 The Power of Choice in Relationships45:29 The Importance of Connection in LifeContact InfoAlan WattsAlan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.Website https://theloveengineer.rocks/Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/Jackie HandyJackie Handy is a transformation catalyst who helps people reclaim their capacity for connection and belonging in a world that over-indexes on performance and disconnection. Through her coaching, workshops, and retreats, Jackie guides individuals and couples to heal relational wounds, deepen presence, and cultivate intentionally loving bonds.With a blend of somatic awareness, relational neuroscience, and soulful inquiry, Jackie speaks from lived experience and rich professional insight. In our conversation on Relationship Revolutions, we dive into:Why belonging is more powerful than agreementHow relational safety unlocks authentic expressionPractical practices to shift from “together yet lonely” into truly seen and felt unionI’m thrilled to introduce Jackie and explore what it really means to feel at home, starting with ourselves.Website - www.jackiehandy.comLinked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackiehandy/

Join the Control to Connection CommunityFor women tired of leading in love, explore, share, and discover what safe, conscious connection really feels like. Strong in life, exhausted in love.https://www.skool.com/relationship-revolutions-5514/aboutSummaryIn this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts explores the paradox of why calmness in relationships can feel unsettling while chaos feels familiar. He delves into the wiring of our nervous systems, explaining how past experiences shape our perceptions of safety and connection Alan offers practical strategies for rewiring our responses to create healthier relationship dynamics, emphasising the importance of awareness and gradual exposure to new patterns.TakeawaysCalm feels wrong because it was once unknown.Your nervous system is wired for survival, affecting love.Chaos can feel like home due to past experiences.Awareness is the first step to changing automatic behaviours.Micro exposure helps in adjusting to new relationship dynamics.Regulating responses in the moment is crucial for safety.Calmness can deepen attraction when familiar.Self-protection is different from self-sabotage.Creating new evidence of safety is essential for growth.Box breathing can help manage anxiety in relationships.Chapters00:00 Understanding the Chaos in Relationships02:01 The Wiring of Our Nervous System04:05 Rewiring for Safety and Connection

Join the Control to Connection Community For women tired of leading in love, explore, share, and discover what safe, conscious connection really feels like. Strong in life, exhausted in love. Control to ConnectionSummaryIn this conversation, Alan Watts explores the intricate dynamics of relationships, self-creation, and personal growth. He emphasises the importance of vulnerability, energy, and self-reflection in fostering meaningful connections.Through his journey, he shares insights on overcoming fear, the role of coaching, and the necessity of aligning one's inner self to create the love one desires. The discussion culminates in the idea that love is not merely found but engineered with intention and effort.TakeawaysThe journey of self-creation is ongoing and essential.Understanding relationships requires recognizing their dynamics.Vulnerability is a crucial element in love and connection.Personal growth can be significantly enhanced through coaching.Energy plays a vital role in relationships and personal interactions.Overcoming fear is necessary to embrace change and growth.Self-reflection helps in understanding past relationships and patterns.Creating a positive circuit in life is essential for happiness.Learning from past relationships can guide future choices.Engineering love requires intention and effort. Chapters00:00 The Journey Begins: A Personal Story08:10 Reflections on Relationships and Self-Discovery14:38 The Power of Vulnerability and Personal Growth20:29 Engineering Love: A New Perspective23:55 Final Reflections and Call to Action24:46 The Essence of Authenticity in Relationships25:32 Self-Discovery as a Foundation for Connection25:51 Modeling Success: The Art of Personal Development28:39 Crafting Authentic Relationships: Lessons from Others29:56 Embracing All Parts of Yourself: The Journey to Self-Acceptance30:50 Who Are You? The Quest for Self-Identity31:24 Navigating Relationships with Narcissists33:21 Personal Growth and Its Impact on Children33:40 Embracing Authenticity in Relationships35:41 The Importance of Feeling Seen and Safe35:49 Understanding Love and Relationships35:58 The Five Stages of Man's Journey38:12 Navigating Relationships and Personal Growth39:58 Bridging Mindsets in Relationships

SummaryIn this conversation, Alan Watts and Meg discuss the importance of authenticity in business branding and communication, drawing parallels between marketing and personal relationships. They explore how emotional safety, effective communication, and self-awareness play crucial roles in both dating and business. Meg emphasises the need for individuals to express their true selves and create meaningful connections, while also addressing the challenges posed by modern communication methods and societal expectations.TakeawaysPeople are looking for experiences, not just products.Authenticity is crucial in both marketing and relationships.The way we present ourselves affects how others perceive us.Understanding manipulation and setting boundaries is essential.Colors and branding can significantly impact trust and connection.Spirituality can provide grounding and purpose in life.Modern communication has evolved, creating new challenges.Emotional safety is vital for healthy relationships.Effective communication requires understanding and empathy.Self-awareness is key to navigating personal and professional relationships.Chapters00:00 The Essence of Communication in Business03:34 The Intersection of Branding and Relationships06:31 The Role of Authenticity in Personal and Professional Spaces09:22 Understanding Colors and Their Impact on Perception12:10 The Importance of Spirituality in Human Connection14:26 Navigating Modern Communication Challenges17:12 The Balance Between Individuality and Connection20:02 The Influence of Technology on Relationships22:54 Finding Peace in a Hyper-Connected World36:29 The Evolution of Communication38:52 Navigating Online Dating Dynamics42:06 The Importance of Authenticity in Profiles44:24 Understanding Emotional Communication50:57 Creating Safe Spaces in Relationships56:22 The Intersection of Business and Personal Relationships01:00:13 Effective Marketing Through Authentic Connection01:06:36 Revolutionising Relationships Through CommunicationAbout the Host :-Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan works with singles who are frustrated with swiping left for a muppet, swiping right for a moron or swiping up for a narc, whatever the options are on their preferred platform.You can find Alan at www.theloveengineer.rocks, & links to socials from there.Guest Info:-Meg RoujeBrand & Colour Specialist | Authenticity AdvocateMeg Rouje helps entrepreneurs and creatives build magnetic brands rooted in self-awareness, emotional safety, and authentic expression.In this episode, she joins Alan Watts to explore the deep parallels between branding and relationships, how the way we present ourselves shapes trust, connection, and impact in both business and love.From colour psychology to communication breakdowns, Meg shares why clarity, empathy, and energetic alignment are the new foundations of effective marketing, and meaningful connection.https://www.linkedin.com/in/meg-rouje-brandandcolors/megrouje.com

SummaryIn this engaging conversation, Alan Watts and Beatrix Fekete explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the importance of emotional safety, self-reflection, and the impact of mental health on personal connections. They discuss the need for vulnerability, the balance of masculine and feminine energies, and the influence of upbringing on relationship dynamics. The dialogue emphasises the significance of personal responsibility and the lessons learned from past relationships, ultimately advocating for a deeper understanding of oneself and one's partner to foster healthier connections.TakeawaysBeatrix works with career-driven men to improve their relationships.Men's mental health significantly impacts their relationships and families.Personal experiences shape our understanding of relationships.Self-reflection is crucial for breaking unhealthy patterns.Emotional safety is essential for intimacy in relationships.Understanding communication styles can enhance relationship dynamics.Balancing masculine and feminine energies is vital for attraction.Upbringing influences our relationship expectations and behaviours.Emotional awareness is key to navigating relationships effectively.Vulnerability is a strength that fosters deeper connections.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Relationship Coaching02:41 Beatrix's Journey and Insights04:26 The Impact of Men's Health on Relationships06:10 The Importance of Self-Reflection07:59 Understanding Emotional Dynamics in Relationships10:15 The Role of Emotional Safety12:17 Masculine and Feminine Energies14:16 The Importance of Communication15:56 Provision Beyond Finances17:22 Emotional Awareness and Intelligence19:11 Balancing Energies for Healthy Relationships24:00 Navigating Emotional Connections in Relationships26:00 Responsibility and Emotional Well-being27:36 Healing and Personal Responsibility28:27 Building Together: The Role of Men and Women31:49 Misleading Beliefs in Modern Relationships33:35 The Importance of Appreciation and Communication35:50 The Importance of Vulnerability37:18 Masculinity and Role Models39:00 The Evolving Definition of Manhood40:56 Navigating Modern Relationships43:41 Rebuilding Confidence and Purpose45:26 Revolutionising RelationshipsAbout the Host :- Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan works with singles who are frustrated with swiping left for a muppet, swiping right for a moron or swiping up for a narc, whatever the options are on their preferred platform.You can find Alan at www.theloveengineer.rocks, & links to socials from there. Guest Info:- Beatrix helps ambitious men integrate success, family life, and wellbeing, without sacrificing income or spending years in therapy.Her approach is grounded in two truths:Emotional health is human, not gendered, and men deserve practical, effective tools.And no man should be stuck in therapy for years.Using root cause methods, she helps men upgrade their identity, build emotional resilience, and create lasting change with clear, actionable strategies.Beatrix believes that a man’s legacy begins with strong relationships, a grounded identity, and emotional strength.Every man deserves the tools to embody that, and the respect that follows.Find Beatrix on ⁠Linked in⁠

SummaryIn this engaging conversation, Alan Watts and Jay Niblett explore the intricacies of relationships, marriage, and spirituality. Jay shares his unique journey to becoming a rector, emphasising the importance of community and connection. They discuss the dynamics of marriage, the significance of preparation, and the distinction between religion and spirituality. The conversation highlights the need for interdependence in relationships and offers insights into how to navigate challenges and foster lasting connections.TakeawaysJay Niblett's journey to becoming a rector was unexpected and filled with twists.Marriage is about two people finding each other and committing to a unique partnership.The ideal marriage involves mutual support and growth, not just individualism.Spirituality acknowledges something bigger than ourselves, while religion involves rituals.Preparation for marriage is crucial to understanding and respecting differences.Relationships thrive when both partners focus on each other's needs.The Gottman Institute emphasises the importance of conflict resolution in relationships.Many couples enter marriage with the hope of lasting love, not divorce.Interdependence is key to successful relationships in today's individualistic society.Communication and understanding are vital for navigating relationship challenges.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Jay Niblett02:19 Jay's Journey to Becoming a Rector09:12 The Conversation with His Wife11:16 Understanding Marriage16:41 The Importance of Interdependence in Relationships21:09 Religion vs. Spirituality: Understanding the Distinction24:48 Marriage: Preparation and Expectations29:49 Conflict Resolution in Relationships37:18 The Revolution of Relationships: A New PerspectiveGuest detailsRevd JayRectorRivervale Churches(United Benefice of Quinton, Welford, Weston, Marston Sicca & Meon Vale)Email:   jay@rivervalechurches.co.ukX:          twitter.com/gamingcurateFB:  https://www.facebook.com/rivervalechurches/Insta:     instagram.com/rivervalechurchesRest Day: TuesdayRelationship Revolutions is presented & hosted by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Award winning Dating & relationship coach.

SummaryIn this insightful conversation, Ra, a therapist and coach, shares his journey from being a teacher to a therapist, focusing on men's mental health and the importance of vulnerability in relationships. He discusses the challenges men face in expressing their emotions and the societal pressures that often lead to feelings of shame and inadequacy. Ra emphasises the significance of authenticity, boundaries, and conscious commitment in relationships, encouraging listeners to explore their own attachment styles and redefine their relationship norms. The conversation highlights the transformative power of therapy and the importance of seeking help when feeling lost or stuck.TakeawaysRa transitioned from teaching to therapy after a personal breakdown.Men often struggle with vulnerability due to societal expectations.Authenticity is key to happiness and fulfilling relationships.Therapy provides a neutral space for self-exploration.Success in relationships is not defined by longevity.Understanding attachment styles can improve relationships.Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships.Conscious commitment involves knowing what you truly want.Rethinking relationship norms can lead to healthier connections.Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.Guest info:- Ra (Florian Mörbitz) Relationship Confidence Coach 💪🏻 helps men to confidently create authentic, fun & drama-free relationships without losing themselves | Signature Offer: LOVE BEYOND LABELS | Licensed Psycho- & Hypno-Therapist (DAHP) 🎓Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/men-therapy/Ra's free E-Book can be found on Linked in alsoChapters00:00 Introduction to Relationship Coaching03:34 Ra's Journey to Therapy and Coaching06:16 The Role of Therapy vs. Friends08:45 Demystifying Therapy and Vulnerability11:31 Understanding Vulnerability and Authenticity13:58 The Connection Between Purpose and Relationships16:27 Finding Clarity in Identity and Direction19:13 The Impact of Education on Self-Discovery21:46 Creativity vs. Productivity in Personal Growth26:51 The Paradigm Shift in Healing27:52 Navigating Relationships and Freedom31:14 Understanding Boundaries and Responsibilities32:16 The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships37:20 Identifying Patterns in Relationships44:19 Leading with Vulnerability for Revolution

SummaryIn this episode, Alan Watts shares five relationship hacks inspired by his upbringing on a farm. He discusses the importance of knowing what you want in a relationship, the concept of delayed gratification, the necessity of establishing boundaries, using life's challenges as growth opportunities, and the significance of selecting a partner who understands your lifestyle. Each hack is illustrated with farming metaphors, emphasising the parallels between farming and nurturing relationships.TakeawaysKnow what you want to harvest in a relationship.Delayed gratification is key in nurturing relationships.Establish boundaries to protect your relationship.Use life's challenges as fertilizer for growth.Select a partner who understands your lifestyle.Invest time and effort into your relationships.Keep an eye on the weeds that may grow in relationships.Growth is essential for both individuals and relationships.Respect your partner's boundaries as well as your own.Life's challenges can help you become a better version of yourself.Contact InfoRelationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan is a relationship & dating coach based in the middle of England, check out www.theloveengineer.rocks for more.

Summary In this enlightening conversation, Christy Holt shares her journey from being a piano teacher and fitness coach to becoming a relationship coach known as the 'Happiness Hussy.' She emphasises the importance of self-discovery, vulnerability, and authenticity in relationships. Christy discusses the significance of creating a loving relationship with oneself as the foundation for healthy connections with others. The conversation also touches on the challenges of navigating unhealthy relationships, the power of language, and the necessity of self-compassion. Ultimately, Christy encourages listeners to embrace their wholeness and to approach relationships with a mindset of giving and authenticity. Takeaways The most important relationship is with yourself. Self-discovery is crucial for personal growth. Vulnerability in conversations can lead to deeper connections. Authenticity is key to finding your true self. Choosing yourself is essential for happiness. Pain and challenges can be transformed into growth. Language shapes our experiences and perceptions. Self-compassion is the foundation of self-love. Modelling healthy relationships is vital for children. You are already whole; you don't need fixing. Contact Info:- Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Christy Holt, AKA The Happiness Hussy, is an adventure guide (mentor), podcast host (Create Your Happy) and international best-selling author on a mission to spread happiness around the planet.  Christy is a mentor for whole-ass humans — using her signature CREATE method, she adventures along side of her heart led clients to support and love them as they discover and unlearn. Christy’s mentorship helps her clients to create a life they love, full of loving and healthy relationships that make them truly f*cking happy! Book: www.loveunstuck.com Podcast: http://www.createyourhappy.ca Free Sweary AF meditation series: https://bit.ly/swearyzen Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 06:10 The Journey to Becoming a Happiness Hussy 11:54 The Importance of Knowing What You Want 17:37 Authenticity and the Impact of Societal Expectations 23:27 The Illusion of Happiness and Internal Change 29:23 The Journey of Self-Acceptance and Growth 39:58 The Power of Choice and Self-Worth 45:42 Overcoming Personal Challenges and Growth 52:57 Transforming Pain into Growth 59:27 Revolutionising Relationships through Giving

Summary In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts and Gail Page explore the intricate dynamics of leadership, personal development, and the importance of communication in relationships. They discuss the necessity of self-reflection, the role of assertiveness in difficult conversations, and the impact of childhood conditioning on adult behaviour. The conversation emphasises the need for compassionate communication and the ripple effect it can have on personal and professional relationships. They also touch on the significance of self-validation and the balance between emotional expression and resilience. Takeaways Engagement from leaders is crucial for effective coaching. Self-reflection is key to personal growth and responsibility. Communication is essential in all relationships. Assertiveness can reduce the need for difficult conversations. Compassionate communication creates a ripple effect in relationships. Childhood conditioning impacts adult behaviour and relationships. Tools for emotional management can help in personal development. Perspective shifts can lead to significant changes in behaviour. Self-validation is necessary for emotional well-being. Feedback is essential for growth and improvement. Contact Info:- Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Coaches Senior Leaders to Build High-Performance Teams, Strengthen Workplace Culture and Master Open Communication. Gail is an Executive Coach, Facilitator & Trainer. www.theheartofhighperformance.com

Summary In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts and Andrew Pain discuss the critical need for positive male role models in today's society. They explore the challenges faced by men, including disaffection and societal expectations, and the importance of reinventing masculinity. The conversation delves into the impact of environment on personal growth, the necessity of community support for men's mental health, and the significance of critical thinking in navigating gender inequalities. They also address the role of testosterone in men's health and the essential nature of boundaries in relationships. Takeaways Positive male role models are crucial for young men. Masculinity should be viewed as a positive force. Reinventing oneself requires a supportive environment. Men's mental health is often overlooked in discussions. Gender inequalities should be addressed simultaneously for both men and women. Community support is vital for men's wellbeing. Critical thinking is essential to combat tribalism. Testosterone plays a significant role in men's health. Teaching boundaries is necessary for healthy relationships. Respecting personal boundaries is key to maintaining self-worth. Contact Info:- Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Guest info:- Andrew Pain is a Motivational, Mental Health Speaker, Podcaster & CPD accredited. Talking about men's mental health, testosterone, masculinity, burnout, resilience, psychological safety, fatherhood, imposter syndrome, work/life balance. Lined in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain/ Website - www.andrewpain.co.uk Chapters 00:00 The Importance of Positive Male Role Models 06:38 Reinventing Masculinity and Personal Growth 13:02 The Impact of Environment on Reinvention 16:55 Navigating Gender Dynamics and Societal Expectations 23:01 The Need for Safe Spaces for Men 29:10 Critical Thinking and Community Connection 32:37 Understanding Testosterone and Its Effects 39:48 The Future of Relationships and Boundaries

Summary In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, host Alan Watts speaks with dating coach Marnie about the importance of date nights in maintaining healthy relationships. Marnie shares her journey into dating coaching, emphasising the need for couples to intentionally spend time together to strengthen their bond. They discuss creative date night ideas, the challenges couples face in long-term relationships, and the role of communication in fostering connection. Marnie also highlights the impact of technology on relationships and the importance of personal growth. The conversation concludes with Marnie's personal dating story and her thoughts on the evolution of dating in modern times. Takeaways Date nights are essential for maintaining a healthy relationship. Couples should prioritise spending quality time together. Creative date ideas can reignite the spark in a relationship. Communication is key to understanding each other's needs. Using technology can enhance relationship planning. Regular date nights can reduce the likelihood of divorce. Finding time for each other is crucial in busy lives. Personal growth contributes to relationship satisfaction. Navigating modern dating requires awareness of challenges. It's important to reconnect with the feelings from the start of a relationship. Contact Info:-Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Guest info:- Marnie, The Date Night Designer, is on a mission to reconnect couples with the magic of their love story. Tackling the struggle to find quality time, her signature Date Night Design Session is a 1:1 to reignite connection with ideas beyond the mundane. With a career spanning business support, performance, theatre and event management, she uniquely blends creativity and problem-solving. Her Gold Membership offers community, expert guidance, and curated date ideas. For extraordinary experiences, her Platinum Membership includes exclusive quarterly date nights and flagship Diamond Whirlwind Mystery Day is a surprise-filled adventure. Marnie's absolute joy is helping couples rediscover and celebrate their love. Book a 1:1 Date Night Design Session –Exclusive Offer for Love Engineer audience:FIRST 3 who DM Marnie on LinkedIn or Insta quoting “Love Engineer” £20 off - £77 instead of £97 Website - https://thedatenightdesigner.com/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61565592442563 Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/marnienash/ Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Coaching 03:32 Marnie's Journey to Dating Coaching 06:27 The Importance of Date Nights 09:22 Creative Date Night Ideas 12:17 Challenges in Maintaining Date Nights 14:45 Communication in Relationships 17:50 Using Technology for Date Planning 20:38 The Role of Gender in Date Planning 23:34 The Impact of Date Nights on Relationships 29:27 Navigating Relationship Changes 33:14 The 80-20 Rule in Relationships 37:04 The Modern Dating Landscape 40:35 Meeting Partners: The Old vs. New Ways 47:40 Reconnecting with Your Partner 51:43 Exploring New Activities Together

Summary In this conversation, Alan Watts and Michelle Mills-Porter explore the intricacies of personality profiling, the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, and the importance of understanding values and communication in fostering healthy connections. They discuss the significance of humour and compromise in relationships, the effects of trauma and PTSD, and the role of love languages in understanding partners. The conversation emphasises the need for self-awareness and empathy in navigating relationships and highlights the importance of finding common ground to ensure lasting connections. Takeaways Understanding personality profiling can enhance relationships. Childhood experiences significantly shape adult behaviour and values. Humour can be a powerful tool in resolving conflicts. Compromise is essential for successful relationships. Values are often reflections of upbringing and experiences. Memory and perception can differ greatly between individuals. Changing behavior requires consistent effort over time. Early childhood experiences have lasting impacts on personality. Communication is key to understanding differences in relationships. Generational trauma can influence current behaviours and relationships. Contact Info:- Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them.Alan's socials and website can be found on ⁠www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer⁠ Guest Info Michelle Mills-Porter "The People Reader" Websites - thepeoplereader.com/ (Company) mmp.uk.com/ (Personal) Lined in - linkedin.com/in/michellemillsporter Michelle's passion for unleashing human magnificence stems from my personal journey of surviving the biggest natural disaster in our living history, the 2004 Boxing Day tsunami, where she discovered what is at the heart of humanity and what truly motivates us. From years of using analysis tools, Michelle felt there was something missing, and so she created a set of illuminating analysis tools that are consistently celebrated as the best that my clients have ever seen. These include ESSENCE, CLARITY, RAPID RAPPORT, NAVIGATOR and ILLUMINATOR which reveal our true motivations, our specific behaviour profile, how to build rapport, how to navigate our relationships (for young adults and children.) and identifying neurodivergence in the workplace. I work with people passionate organisations that are going through change, disruption, or growth, and empower them to achieve sky-high performance, increase engagement, retention and effective collaboration. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Location 03:39 The Boxing Day Tsunami and Changing Perspectives 04:28 Profiling and Navigating Relationships 06:45 The Lack of Relationship Education in Schools 08:54 Love and Compatibility 12:17 Changing Behaviour and the Role of Emotions 14:10 The Importance of Conscious and Subconscious Memory 16:48 Changing Behavior and the 10,000 Hour Rule 20:15 The Lack of Guidance in Raising Children 22:49 The Power of Collective Action 24:36 The Anxiety of Not Knowing 26:34 The Power of Humour in Relationships 29:39 Exploring Love Languages and Their Impact on Relationships 32:35 Addressing Trauma Triggers in Relationships 42:49 The Importance of Compromise in Building Strong Partnerships

Summary In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts speaks with Peter Roper, the family business man, about the intricacies of blending family and business. They discuss the unique challenges faced by family businesses, the importance of values in relationships, and the necessity of effective communication. Peter shares insights from his own experiences, emphasising the need for tolerance, understanding, and the ability to listen in both personal and professional relationships. The conversation highlights the significance of being true to oneself and the impact of values on family dynamics and business success. Takeaways Family businesses often start with the goal of putting food on the table. The dynamics of family businesses can be both rewarding and challenging. Listening is a crucial skill that many people overlook. Values play a significant role in shaping relationships and business practices. It's important to recognise and respect differing values within a family. Successful relationships are built on friendship and tolerance. The corporate world often misunderstands the nature of family businesses. Money can provide options, but it doesn't guarantee happiness. Being true to oneself is essential for personal and professional success. Communication is key to resolving conflicts and misunderstandings. Contact Info:- Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on ⁠www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer⁠ Guest Info Peter Roper "The Family Business Man" Having a Family Business is wonderful, but you must work in a different way to achieve the results you are searching for. Peter was in your shoes, frustrated with social media and endless poor networking events with no results… and even gave up at one point. But when he finally cracked the challenge, he obtained the Family Business he always wanted enabling him to fill the fridge , sleep at night and work with those clients he Knew, Liked and Trusted.And now, he mainly works with family businesses showing them the secrets he uncovered so that his system can start working for them too……and He’d love to help you crack the challenge for you and your family.Having worked with businesses around the globe 🌍 Peter realised there are 3 main challenges you and others have when generating leads for a Family Business:❌ Working with clients that have a poor attitude and are terrible to create a relationship with❌ Providing a service to people who don’t value you or your contribution❌ Constantly haggling over the price and paymentTo solve these challenges, Peter teaches a simple 5 step system that helps you:✔️ Understand the type of Ideal Client you really want✔️ Create and maintain a Reputation that attracts Ideal Clients✔️ Put the right strategy in place to get your ideal clients wanting to talk with youIt's called the 💪🏼 Family Business Practice Diagnostic 💪🏼 and it shows you how to create and maintain a successful Family Business. Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/peteraroper/ Websites - peterroper.com  familybusinesspractice.com  Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 04:38 The Journey of Starting a Family Business 07:45 Blending Family and Business: Challenges and Dynamics 11:19 The Unique Culture of Family Businesses 16:18 The Secrets to a Long-Lasting, Fulfilling Relationship 21:16 The Challenges and Rewards of Running a Family Business 24:04 The Importance of Values in Family Businesses 28:54 Recognizing and Respecting Different Value Sets 31:22 The Power of Listening in Relationships 46:55 Finding Clarity and Fulfillment through Values

Summary In this conversation, Dr. Eran Magen and Alan Watts explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on parenting, divorce, and the emotional challenges faced by fathers. They discuss the lack of relationship education, the importance of communication, and the impact of divorce on children. The conversation emphasises the need for support systems, the role of counseling, coaching, and the significance of maintaining connections during difficult times. Dr. Magen shares insights on navigating the family court system and the importance of mediation, while also highlighting the journey of healing and personal growth following a divorce. Takeaways Relationships are not taught in schools, which is a significant issue. The biggest determinant of health and happiness is the quality of relationships. Dads often face high rates of suicide, highlighting the need for support. Parenting should focus on reducing stress and increasing enjoyment. Men often struggle to express their emotions, leading to isolation. Communication is key in co-parenting and maintaining relationships. Counseling should be seen as a proactive measure, not just a last resort. Divorce can lead to significant emotional challenges for both parents and children. It's crucial to maintain connections and seek support during tough times. Healing and personal growth are possible after divorce, often leading to better outcomes. Contact Info:- Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer"Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them.Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Guest Info Eran Magen Ph.D. is a Population Health Psychologist, Founder and CEO of Early Alert (EarlyAlert.me) and Parenting For Humans (ParentingForHumans.com) www.earlyalert.me www.parentingforhumans.com Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/eranmagen/ Early Alert helps universities and K-12 schools prevent student suicide, by checking in with every student every week using confidential text messaging, offering instant referrals to students who need them, and providing a real-time wellness dashboard to support continuous improvement. Parenting For Humans is a relationship-first, judgment-free approach to parenting that emphasizes collaboration and joy in parenting. For recorded workshops and to sign up for classes, visit http://ParentingForHumans.com Chapters 00:00 Introduction and the Lack of Relationship Education 03:21 Prevention in Relationships: Open Communication and Check-Ins 06:28 Supporting Divorced Dads and Maintaining Connection with Children 16:18 Understanding the Emotional Experiences of Men and Women in Divorce 28:07 Spreading the Message: Things Get Better After Divorce 30:22 Becoming the Father Your Kids Need: Finding Motivation and Support 36:51 Navigating the Family Court System: Fair Custody Arrangements 38:53 Effective Communication and Mediation: Resolving Conflicts 49:20 Avoiding Court Battles: Non-Adversarial Approaches 53:18 Reaching Out for Support: Friends, Family, and Professionals 55:57 Enjoying Life During and After Divorce: Finding Happiness

Summary In this conversation, wedding planner Katy shares her journey into the wedding planning industry, discussing the various roles and responsibilities of a wedding planner compared to a wedding coordinator. She highlights the importance of budgeting, the cultural differences in weddings, and the keys to a successful wedding day. Katy also delves into the distinction between marriage and wedding, emphasising the significance of communication and pre-marital counseling in maintaining a healthy relationship. The discussion touches on modern wedding practices, traditions, and lessons learned from past experiences. Contact info Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Guest info Katy Osborne Katy takes the stress away from wedding planning. Website - http://www.kovasupport.com Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-osborne/ Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:10 The Role of a Wedding Planner 05:02 The Average Cost of a Wedding 09:22 The Unique Traditions of Indian Weddings 15:12 Keys to a Successful Marriage 20:46 Balancing Work and Family Life 24:45 The Importance of Open Communication 28:17 Advice for Couples on Their Wedding Day 31:12 Dealing with Unexpected Challenges Takeaways Katy fell into wedding planning after university. A wedding planner provides peace of mind for couples. Budgeting is crucial for a successful wedding. Cultural differences significantly impact wedding planning. Communication is essential in both weddings and marriages. Pre-marital counseling can prevent future issues. Traditions in weddings vary widely across cultures. Enjoying the wedding day is more important than perfection. Every wedding has its unique challenges and surprises. Marriage requires ongoing effort and communication.

Summary Mark Deeks, a musician and speaker, shares his journey from being a musician to using music as a tool for mental health and wellbeing. He discusses the challenges of making a living from music and the misconceptions around it. Mark also opens up about the loss of his child and the emotional and mental health journey that followed. He highlights the importance of finding positivity and healing through music and shares how he incorporated his daughter's existence into his music. In this conversation, Alan and Mark discuss their personal experiences with music and how it has impacted their lives. They share stories about their favourite bands and albums, as well as the role music played during challenging times. They also touch on the evolution of relationships and the challenges of dating. Mark emphasises the importance of establishing boundaries and context in relationships, while Alan reflects on the difficulties of dating after a divorce. Contact info Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan is a relationship coach who uses a unique blend of NLP, coaching and Kinesiology to help & guide his clients to find, build & keep the relationship that is right for them. Alan's socials and website can be found on www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Guest info Mark Deeks is a speaker on music & mental health. Keynotes & workshops to improve the wellbeing of you & your people with piano, group singing & heavy metal. Often at the same time 🎹🤘🏻 And yes, his PhD is in heavy metal. Honest. Website - www.markdeeksmusic.com Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-deeks/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/MarkDeeksMusicNewcastle Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:21 The Challenges of Making a Living as a Musician 09:22 Using Music as Therapy for Grief and Loss 22:18 The Need for Support and Understanding for Individuals Who Have Experienced Child Loss 27:53 The Healing Power of Music 31:55 The Influence of Music on Relationships 37:15 The Evolution of Music and Changing Sound of Bands 41:09 The Love for Classic Metal and Rock 43:47 The Stress of Dating and Establishing Boundaries Takeaways Music is a powerful tool for mental health and wellbeing, and it can be used as a form of therapy and healing. Making a living from music is challenging, and there are misconceptions about the financial aspects of being a musician. The loss of a child is a traumatic experience, and it can be difficult to find the right support and language to talk about it. Finding positivity and creating something meaningful can help in the healing process after a loss. Music can have a profound impact on our lives, providing comfort and inspiration during challenging times. The evolution of relationships and the challenges of dating can be stressful and require the establishment of boundaries and context. It's important not to judge a book by its cover or make assumptions about someone based on their appearance. The early albums of bands often hold a special place in the hearts of fans, but it's important to appreciate the growth and evolution of artists over time. Establishing a deep connection and understanding with a partner can make the dating process less daunting and more fulfilling.