The Coffeeshop AU

We're taking a break! & Gifting you with all the Bonus Episodes we've been storing up, for free, so you can entertain your earholes with them while we're gone. Stay hydrated, and see you in the Future :) | Subscribe to Listen to Bonus Episodes | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

English is weird. Culture is weird. Being human is weird. Especially if you are born in one country, and then are moved to a very different one as a kid. Friends Alexei & J, a Romanian-Canadian living in Korea & a South Korean that used to live in London, chat about living as Adult Third Culture Kids, a.k.a. Third Culture Adults, a.k.a. our show's official unofficial second title. Featuring: Toffee Nut Latte from Ediya in a very cute cup (also from Ediya) | ● Audio Note: There's a change in quality toward the end, at 01:31:37. Alexei's recording device stopped recording on their end so the rest of their audio was pulled from the zoom backup recording & matched with J's. If we start sounding a little like actual aliens that's why! ● Dr Ruth Hill Useem's Work Who She Was & What She Did On Her Work (General) Adult TCKs ● Online Resources & Third Culture Spaces for TCKs: Families in Global Transition Interaction International TCK Global (FB group) Third Culture Kids Everywhere (FB group) | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

For an episode that was supposed to be about asexuality, there's so much smut & smut-adjacent discussions here. (Currently) Asexual & Bisexual Sarah and Greysexual & Pansexual J discuss: Is Fisting normal now? What are the best questions to ask when dating as an Ace person? What does sexual attraction feel like to us? Which movies/TV shows have the best representation of asexuality in queer people? (Hint: it's pretty bleak) Plus mentions of 50 Shades of Grey from an Ace perspective & v. useful info on vaginismus & vulvodynia! Featuring: Water & Hypothetical Rose Hip Tea (Nice & Warm) | ● Sarah’s pronouns are she/her. You can listen to Sarah’s first episode HERE. ● The dictionary definition of Bisexual actually is: sexually or romantically attracted to both men and women, or to more than one sex or gender. (Thanks Oxford Languages!) ● An Exhaustive Defense of Fanfiction by Sarah Z ● The meaning of Saudade will available (at some point) on our IG account :) | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

Part 2. Legacy lesbian Sheri & intrepid lesbian Hyeyoung give newbie lesbian Rae some advice. Should you stay in, or out? How can you find your own local community? What is the best mindset for dating? | ● This episode recorded in October 2024. ● Rae lived in Korea before moving back to London before moving back to the Cayman Islands, where she's based now (this is covered in more detail in Season 1's 1st episode, RV). ● Actual tears are included in this episode.  | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

Part 1. Actually, there are three lesbians—and one enby with sapphic potential. Friends Rae, Hyeyoung, J & Sheri discuss: common lesbian tropes from TV & RL, differences between American, Korean & Caymanian lesbians, and the importance of being BOLD as a Femme Lesbian looking to date (because it’s too easy for them to “blend into the herd”!). Also—hipsters and zoomers, please stop stealing from the lesbian uniform. Featuring: Drip Coffee combined with Vanilla Milk, Coffee made with Love & Cherry-Lime-Ade-Pre-Biotic-Drink | ● Content Notice: There are real life sounds from real life pussycats included in this recording. Also, this episode recorded in October 2024. ● ‘Mogi’: the Korean word for a mosquito. ●  J reads from: 15 Lesbian TV & Movie Tropes We’re Completely Tired of Seeing | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

Part 2. Things get a little spicy as nonbinary friends Roya, Alexei & J continue to discuss all things gender expansive—including a hypothetical Freudian interpretation of J's phallic dream. Also: is Frida Kahlo at the center of all existing enby minds? How can we plant seeds of collective liberation for everyone (even the cis folk?) Most importantly, would an OnlyFreud account be a lucrative idea? $$$ Still Featuring: Black Sugar Toffee Nut Latte Bubble Tea (with less ice), Left-over 2L Green Tea, Coooold Barley Tea | ● This episode was recorded in August 2024. ● Books recommended:  Adam and Eve by Liviu Rebreanu  The Feminist Killjoy Handbook | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

Part 1. Introducing: Roya & Alexei, the newest addition to J's nerdy nonbinary friend group. Between the three of them, they speak, like 7 languages (estimated), and they read a lot. And think. And write. But this episode isn't about literature; it's about they/them/theirs' experienceseses in how they've come to realize that they were neither men nor women, across time and space, and living through so many different cultures. F*ck the gender binary; drink more coffee! Featuring: Black Sugar Toffee Nut Latte Bubble Tea (with less ice), Left-over 2L Green Tea & Coooold Barley Tea | ● The audio switches back to its regular quality at 00:26:51. ● This episode was recorded in August 2024. | Find us on IG | @the_coffeeshop_au  Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

Did you know that GAHT, the acronym for Gender Affirming Hormone Therapy is not, in fact, pronounced in the same way as GYAT, which doesn't stand for anything and simply means a 'big butt'? Two of us older millennials didn't ); But never fear! Trans enby queers are here. Friends Embers, Mo & J discuss: going through their second puberty in their 30s & 40s, some side effects and many on-point effects of being on estrogen & testosterone, and dealing with new smells and various mouth feels. | ● Resources for Trans Femme Folx (& those who love them!): Trans Fem Science DIY HRT  Fucking Trans Women | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com   

Part 2! Friends Mo & J continue to discuss their excellent adventures in Top Surgery :D  Featuring: A cross (sort of like the one Jesus carried, with some extra padding for top surgery), a beautiful man with beautiful eyes (who Mo may or may not have proposed to under the influence); post-op recovery process, and tips for scar care! | ● Resource: The Complete Guide to Top Surgery | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

Part 1! J & Mo get top surgery—and live to spill the tea. | Starting with: What is top surgery? What’s involved, exactly? What happened leading up to J’s top surgery? (hint: CHAOS)What if your results aren't perfect? How can medical self-advocacy be community care? & Why is it easier to advocate for other people than for ourselves?
Friends J and Mo discuss—in DETAIL. Join us with your favorite drink, and settle in. This is...quite a ride. Featuring: Dirty Chai Latte & A Day-Old Coffee |
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The Coffeeshop AU is officially open again for Season 2! We are so happy to be back with you all. Catch up with J & guests from Season 1 — how have they been? What's new in Season 2? So many questions; even more soundtracks. (We are trying something new :D) SUBSCRIBE: https://thecoffeeshopau.supercast.com/ | Featuring: Lots of news and some fresh voices! | ● According to a 2024 May article on Newsweek, there are 32 lesbian bars left in America. ● We thought we'd camp up this episode with some bgm, to celebrate! Yay or nay? (We'll always take the campiest way!) | Find us on IG | @the.coffeeshop.au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com 

What? It's the season finale already? Time flies. In this last episode of The Coffeeshop AU's 1st season, host J talks about their own journey as a 3rd-culture, trans, nonbinary pansexual neurodivergent earthling & some of the surprising things that helped them make the decision to start their medical transition process. Also: a fun Q & A session! Also also: Our First Official Listener Mail! :D Featuring: Iced Americano & Season Finale! Content Notes: - There are discussions of death and funerals (00:36:50 - 00:43:00) - There is a brief mention of self-unaliving attempt (01:11:00 - 01:11:12) - Sheri & Hyeyoung's dog children, Summer and Danbi's IG account handle is @summeranddanbi <3 Find us on IG | @ the_coffeeshop_au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com  

How to live a life as an Asexual human with ADHD! Friends Iel (like the gender-neutral French pronoun) & J talk about mental health, cats, and the importance of curiosity in learning. Featuring: Plain Water & Nix the Cat Find us on IG | @ the_coffeeshop_au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com - This episode was recorded in November of 2023. - Cary Elwes' surname is pronounced: el-wez. - Chuseok and Hangeul Day are both national holidays in Korea. - To see the exact quote by C.S. Lewis from the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, check out our IG!

Teen Wolf, Korean Jesus, James Baldwin, and Fate. We dare you to find another show that mentions all of the above within the same eipisode. We DARE YOU! Featuring: Mocha & Gentle Breeze Capsule Coffee Find us on IG | @ the_coffeeshop_au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com - This episode was recorded in December of 2023. - J has no reaction to Sarah mentioning Avatar: The Last Airbender because this conversation took place before Danee explained to J what it is.

Friends Sarah & J discuss growing up as queer TCK (third-culture kids) in religious households. Plus: why we don't need to have a response for EVERYTHING, and the importance of LISTENING. Featuring: Mocha & Gentle Breeze Capsule Coffee Are YOU a queer person who grew up in a religious community? Do you identify as a TCK? Are you...both?!?!?! Share your stories with us down below! Both written and recorded messages are welcome <3 DM us on IG | @ the_coffeeshop_au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com

Coming out as trans in your 40s! Being a parent to a(n actual human) child! GAHT and crying! Friends Embers and J talk all about transitioning later in life, and the (non-bilblical?) meaning of Love. Featuring: Two Black Coffees & Tigey the Cat  Are you queer/trans/nonbinary/parent? Have you transitioned later in life? Share your story with us below! (Recorded & written messages welcome :)) Find us on IG | @ the_coffeeshop_au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com - This episode was recorded in December of 2023. - The ‘The mutual friend in our trans community’ is Mo. It’s Mo. Mo is awesome.

How to follow your dreams in a world that sees you differently! Friends Nine and J discuss Nine’s life of growing up Korean in an American world, and the choices she’s made to follow her passion in acting. Served, of course, with a side of QueEr RecKoNing, as per usual.  Featuring: Black Tea & Bullet Coffee (made with ghee!) Do you have stories to share about growing up queer & 3rd culture? Share them with us! Written & recorded messages welcome :) Find us on IG | @ the_coffeeshop_au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com - This episode was recorded in December of 2023 (hence the slight different in J’s voice!) - The Korean podcast Hyeyoung has appeared on is called Behonsé! Come visit out IG — the show’s on our following list! - There were kids playing outside of J’s window as they were recording this episode! If you hear tiny children screaming in the background, that’s what that is.

What's it like to be a Korean Lesbian? Friends Hyeyoung & J discuss Hyeyoung's life as a queer woman growing up in Korea, K-pop (including BTS), & how she met the love of her life, Sheri <3 Featuring: Camomile & Lemongrass Tea - Jungkook is the youngest member of BTS. - Akdong Musician's current official group name is AKMU. - The TV show Hyeyoung mentions is I Live Alone (나혼자산다), which Léa mentioned in her episode! - Sheri was doing housework in the background throughout the episode. You may hear a little bit of background noise!

What happens when 2 pansexuals who are ALSO neurodivergent have a stream-of-consciousness conversation? We find out in this episode, where Danee & J discuss Danee's former life as a Victims Advocate, then a case worker at an out-patient rehab... Also, there's a LONG segment where all of the conversation is about AVATAR the Last Airbender :) (Spoiler Alert: the creators aren't Asian!) Featuring: Very Blue Lemonade - The account of the guy giving out flowers to strangers on IG is @roshaun_diah 🪻 - The account of the girl giving out half hearts to strangers on IG is @kendraaahhhr 🫶🏽 Find us on IG | @ the_coffeeshop_au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com

Where are all our pansexual baddies at? :) Friends Danee & J discuss being pansexual, and Danee's experiences of living as a Black expat woman in Korea.  Featuring: Very Blue Lemonade - Ian is fully okay with his name being mentioned on this show :D Are you pansexual? Have you ever lived away from home? Are you 3rd culture, or sometimes feel out of place in the world you live in? Write to us, and share your story! Find us on IG | @ the_coffeeshop_au Email us | hi@thecoffeeshopau.com