Sex With Emily

After years of thinking love wasn't in the cards, Golden Globe, Emmy and Academy Award winning actor Halle Berry stopped chasing and that's exactly when everything changed. In this live conversation from Eudemonia, Halle and I get into what it really takes to have a loving connection and  incredible sex in your 50s, why she thought her partner gave her herpes (spoiler: it was perimenopause), and how becoming whole on her own finally attracted the relationship she'd always wanted. From faking multiple orgasms in her 20s to now having no problem telling her partner exactly what she needs, Halle shares why the "zero fucks to give" era might just be the sexiest time of a woman's life. She also opens up about misdiagnosis, advocating for women's health in Washington, and why she's throwing herself a "siesta" party when she officially hits menopause in March. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why chasing a relationship kept Halle attracting the wrong partners—and what shifted when she finally prioritized herself  • How vaginal dryness got misdiagnosed as herpes and Sjögren's disease, and what that taught her about the gaps in women's healthcare  • The permission slip every woman needs to stop performing in bed and start asking for what actually feels good More Halle Berry: • Instagram  • Respin by Halle Berry  Eudēmonia Summit: •  Website  More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 00:00 - Chapter Title 00:09 - Halle Berry Admits She Used to Fake Orgasms 02:12 - Love, Divorce, and Lessons After Three Marriages 04:26 - Why She Slept With Men on the First Night 07:03 - The Health Scare That Changed Her Intimacy 07:46 - Being Misdiagnosed With Herpes 09:11 - Realizing She Was in Perimenopause 10:36 - How Sex Changed in Her 50s 13:03 - Why So Many Women Fake It 14:08 - The Unrealistic Sex Standards from Porn 17:08 - Learning You Can Say No to Sex 26:32 - The Truth About Multiple Orgasms 29:31 - Why She Launched Respin 30:50 - The Menopause Healthcare Gap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Blood flow might not sound sexy, but it’s the fuel behind satisfying sex. In this live episode from the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas, I sit down with certified nurse practitioner and ⁠Medical Director at GAINSWave, Chrislyn Chaloupka, to discuss how GAINSWave’s non-invasive regenerative therapy is reshaping sexual wellness by addressing root causes rather than simply masking symptoms. We dive into why your body might not be responding the way it used to, from erections that fade under pressure to that frustrating gap between wanting sex and your body just not cooperating. Chrislyn breaks down how this painless 15-minute treatment works (that I even tried myself), and we get real about everything from porn-induced desensitization to why erectile challenges can actually be your heart trying to tell you something important. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  What you'll learn:  • Why "just relax and use more lube" isn't solving your arousal problems—and what actually will  • How shockwave therapy can help with everything from weak orgasms to stress urinary incontinence (yes, the sneeze-and-pee situation)  • The psychological factors that can make even the best physical treatments fail until you address the deeper story This Episode is sponsored by Gainswave. Go to gainswave.com and find a provider near you to regain your freedom and pleasure in the bedroom.This episode was recorded live at the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas 2025.  Want to try the Magic Wand Waterproof? Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:07 - What Is A4M & Why Emily Was There 3:16 - Meet Guest Chrysen Chalupka: Nurse Practitioner & Regenerative Medicine Expert 12:17 - Regenerative Medicine Explained: Treating Root Causes, Not Symptoms 13:34 - What Is Shockwave Therapy & How Does It Actually Work 15:28 - The GainsWave Treatment: What It Feels Like (Emily's Experience) 17:03 - Who Benefits Most: Women, Pain, Dryness & Orgasm Issues 23:28 - Shockwave for Men: Erections, Blood Flow & Hidden Heart Health Warnings 27:09 - The Psychology of Sexual Dysfunction: When It's Not Just Physical 28:52 - Porn, Masturbation & Desensitization: The Conversation Nobody's Having 32:57 - Beyond Sexual Health: Treating Joints, Injuries & Chronic Pain with Shockwave 35:30 - How to Find a GainsWave Provider Near You Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard. I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow). In this episode, you'll learn:  • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective  • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm)  • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:06 - The "past and future" rule for writing sexts 4:43 - How to use the three dots to build tension 5:34 - Nude photo tips: angles, lighting & confidence 7:35 - Protecting your nudes on Apple & Google 8:41 - The hottest sexts you've sent (community submissions) 10:18 - How to find your dirty talk voice 12:48 - Flirting with a coworker over Zoom & Slack 15:04 - Keeping sexts private when kids use your devices 16:08 - When your partner's masturbation habits change 19:16 - Mismatched sexting energy in long distance 22:35 - Rebuilding trust after infidelity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're questioning who you're attracted to or wondering why someone incredible on paper leaves you feeling nothing below the waist, you're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the messy, confusing space between wanting someone and wanting to build a life with them—and why those two things don't always line up. From a woman who's always identified as straight but can't stop fantasizing about women, to a listener who's been getting nothing but one-arm hugs after six dates, I get into the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud. I also share what the science actually says about attraction—including why your post-gym crush might not be as real as it feels, and what your birth control could be doing to your "type." In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why putting a label on your sexuality might be the last thing you need to do right now—and what to try instead  • The conversation that can save you months (or years) of wondering where you stand with someone who won't make a move  • What to do when you and your partner are both waiting for the other person to take control in bed More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Head to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply today! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction  1:56 - The science of sexual attraction  5:01 - You can want someone without wanting to date them  6:12 - Surprising facts about who you're attracted to (and why)  9:19 - "Am I bisexual or do I just think women are hot?"  10:50 - The one-arm hug situation  15:25 - When your partner's meds killed your sex life  20:40 - 19 years married and ready to give up  25:31 - How to rekindle the spark after years together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Pressure-Free Reframe on Desire, Connection, and Sex This isn't your typical Valentine's Day episode. I'm skipping the performance pressure and Pinterest-perfect expectations to focus on what actually matters: real connection. Drawing from thousands of your survey responses—and two decades of hearing the same struggles around desire mismatch, stress, and intimacy—I built this Valentine's guide around your actual pain points, not trending hashtags. From why sensory play beats a five-star reservation to how sleep might be the sexiest gift you can give yourself, I break down the science and stories behind lasting desire. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why prioritizing rest is actually foreplay—and how just one extra hour of sleep can increase desire by 14%  • How to use your senses (not grand gestures) to create genuine intimacy and take the guesswork out of date night  • The difference between romance as performance and connection your body actually feels—and why that distinction changes everything The 2026 Sex With Emily Valentine’s Gift Guide: https://sexwithemily.com/the-2026-sex-with-emily-valentines-gift-guide/  2026 Sex With Emily Valentine’s Gift Guide Products Mentioned (find the full Guide above):  • CERE Enchantment Gel⁠- Go to ⁠getcere.com • Promescent Delay Spray- ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/sweggpromescent⁠⁠  • LELO TIANI 3 - ⁠www.lelo.com/tiani-3⁠  (Use code “SWE20”  for 20% off!) • Visit ⁠Vyleesi.com⁠ for full prescribing information or consult a healthcare provider about Vyleesi.  • Magic Wand Waterproof HV-360 - ⁠https://bit.ly/sweggmagicwandwaterproof⁠  • Airbnb - https://bit.ly/sweairbnb  • Canyon Ranch - https://bit.ly/swecanyonranch  • SmartSX- https://bit.ly/sweggsmartsxfreemonth  • Womaness Coco Bliss- https://bit.ly/sweggwomanesscocobliss  • Je Joue Naughty Gift Set- https://bit.ly/sweggnaughtygiftset  • 1:1 Coaching With Emily- Complete this form: https://bit.ly/sweggprivatecoaching or Email enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information!  • Sex With Emily Yes!No!Maybe? List- Head to sexwithemily.com/guides • Ohmibod Foxy Panty Vibe- https://bit.ly/sweggfoxy  • Shop Sex With Emily Gift Card - https://bit.ly/sweggshopgiftcard  • Crave Pleasure Jewelry -  https://bit.ly/sweggcrave  • Pleasure Planner - sexwithemily.com/guides  • Wisp - https://hellowisp.com/products/omg-cream   • Common Confidential Massage Butter - commonconfidential.com (use the code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off)  • Essentia Mattresses - myessentia.com/ More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:03 - Why Connection Beats Romance Every Time 3:28 - Experience Gifts That Actually Build Intimacy 5:17 - Dating Advice: Be the Person You Want to Find 7:28 - Desire Doesn't Magically Appear—It's Created 9:35 - Foreplay Starts Way Before Touch 12:11 - Your Nervous System Is Your Sex Organ 16:41 - Self-Pleasure Is a Relational Skill 20:50 - When Your Libidos Don't Match 26:11 - Building Your Ideal Date Night Using Your Senses 29:52 - Why Sleep Is the Sexiest Gift You Can Give Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you've been with your partner for ten months or ten years, knowing what you actually want in bed is harder than it sounds—especially if you never got the chance to explore. In this episode, Dr. Emily takes listener calls about the real challenges that keep couples stuck: shame around masturbation, mismatched experience levels, and the fear that fading passion means something's broken. From a wife who's never had a partner ask what she wants to a husband hiding his solo sessions in the basement, Emily breaks down why sexual self-discovery isn't selfish—it's essential. She also tackles what to do when your partner wants to swing but you're not sure, and why taking penetration off the table might be the fastest way to bring the heat back. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why being a skilled lover has nothing to do with how many people you've slept with—and everything to do with curiosity and communication • How to take the lead in bed without becoming a completely different person (even if you've always been submissive) • The "hell yes or hell no" rule for navigating swinging, threesomes, and any sexual experience that makes you feel vulnerable More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:33 - McKenzie: Husband complains about sex life to others 4:36 - Why partner count doesn't determine sexual skill 6:14 - How to discover what you actually want in bed 9:37 - Experience is not a numbers game 10:43 - Dan: Feeling guilty about masturbating while married 13:06 - Why masturbation shame hurts relationships 15:41 - Sarah: Giving her husband a prostate orgasm for his 50th 19:04 - Switching from submissive to dominant in bed 23:02 - Alex: Girlfriend wants to try soft swapping 25:17 - Hannah: Taking sex off the table to reconnect 30:03 - Building intimacy without rushing to penetration Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo sex is one of the most powerful tools you have for better partnered sex — and most people are barely scratching the surface. In this throwback episode, Dr. Emily makes the case for why your relationship with yourself might be the most important sexual relationship you'll ever have. From finding out what actually turns you on to using masturbation as a way to manage stress and boost confidence, Emily covers everything you need to know about flying solo — including how to bring toys into the mix without awkwardness. She also takes listener calls about navigating different libidos in relationships, dealing with performance anxiety, and figuring out how to ask for what you want in bed. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why masturbation is essential for sexual self-awareness — not just a fallback when you're single  • How to explore fantasies and toys on your own so you can communicate better with partners  • The connection between solo pleasure, stress relief, and overall sexual confidence More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:30 - Why Masturbation Matters (Even If You Have a Partner) 3:05 - The G-Spot Myth: Why It's Really a "G-Area" 4:50 - First-Time Masturbation Guide for Women 8:17 - Choosing Your First Vibrator: What to Know 10:54 - Can You "Retrain" Your Body to Orgasm Without a Vibrator? 14:00 - Edging Explained: How to Intensify Your Orgasms 17:38 - Overcoming Shame and Religious Guilt Around Self-Pleasure 24:01 - The We-Vibe Melt: Why It's a Game-Changer 30:40 - Rapid Fire: Mismatched Libidos, BDSM, and Confidence Tips Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When the wedding’s over and real life kicks in, it’s so common for sex to shift — sometimes fast. In this throwback live show, Dr. Emily tackles the myth that marriage equals the end of your sex life, and breaks down how to bring back that “honeymoon energy” without forcing it or turning intimacy into another chore. Emily shares a simple framework for staying connected long-term (including her idea of “sex vows”), then takes calls from listeners navigating a sudden post-marriage libido drop and the emotional whiplash of being single while everyone around you is getting engaged. In this episode, you’ll learn:  • Why desire often drops after commitment — and how to address it before resentment builds  • Practical ways to revive novelty and reconnect (including “sex vows” you can actually use)  • How to handle the pressure and loneliness when it feels like everyone else is getting married More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Qualia:  Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY.  Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:26 - Current Trends in Sex and Relationships 5:25 - Essential Conversations Before Marriage 7:40 - Writing Your Sex Vows 9:49 - Planning Your Pleasure: Yes/No/Maybe List 12:39 - Recreating Honeymoon Sex Energy 16:00 - Q&A: When His Sex Drive Plummets After Marriage 22:30 - Q&A: Exploring Bisexuality in a Committed Relationship 25:24 - Q&A: Building a Sex Life You've Never Had 30:56 - Q&A: When Your Partner Doesn't Want Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You want to talk to your partner about sex. You really do. But every time you try, your throat closes, your chest tightens, and suddenly it feels easier to just… not. You're not bad at communication — your brain is literally wired to treat these conversations like threats. In this live show, I break down exactly why sex talks trigger fight-or-flight, how shame keeps us mute in the bedroom, and what to do when you've been together for years and never actually talked about what you want. This episode was recorded LIVE across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being LIVE together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good, without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why your brain treats sex conversations like danger (and how to override it) • How to find your sexual voice and stop cringing when you try to speak up • A husband's honest question about rekindling intimacy after kids You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube! More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Timeline Don’t let another year go by feeling less than your best. Grab 30% off your first month of Mitopure Gummies at Timeline.com/emily30 Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 06:45 - The Clitoris Has 12,000 Nerve Endings (Full Anatomy Explained) 13:20 - How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Cringey 18:15 - Mutual Masturbation: Why It's a Top Sex Tip 22:40 - Squirting: The Truth vs The Pressure 28:10 - Breaking Down Shame & Performance Anxiety 35:50 - Sex After Kids: Rekindling Intimacy (Live Caller Question) 38:25 - Medications Killing Your Libido (What to Do About It) 40:15 - Finding the Right Sex Therapist (Somatic vs Talk Therapy) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're in love. You're committed. So why does sex feel like it dropped off the priority list somewhere between laundry and meal prep? You're not broken — you're just busy, stressed, and maybe a little stuck in your head. In this live show, Dr. Emily answers your unfiltered questions about what happens when desire fades, how to talk to a partner who clams up about what they want, and why the "how often should we be having sex?" question is missing the point entirely. This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube! In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why "how often should we have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead  • The three pleasure thieves silently wrecking your libido  • How to help a shy partner open up about their desires (without making it awkward) More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bathmate:  Try the Bathmate Hydro Pump Today at bathmatedirect.com! Use code “SWE10” for a discount at checkout! Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:04 - How often should couples have sex? 5:57 - Getting your partner to communicate about sex 8:39 - Do most couples talk about sex? 10:57 - Why your sex life shouldn't stay the same for decades 15:34 - Navigating intimacy with chronic illness 18:44 - Myth: Good sex should be spontaneous 21:06 - Myth: Orgasms are the ultimate goal 23:16 - Sex during pregnancy when your partner pulls back 26:57 - Dealing with early ejaculation 30:28 - Helping a stressed partner get in the mood 33:56 - Top sex toy recommendations 34:28 - Myth: Lube is only for older women Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's be honest — for all the progress we've made, most of us still don't know how to talk about sex. We can talk about work, money, kids, literally everything else. But ask your partner what actually turns them on? Cue panic. In this live show, Dr. Emily opens up the gates for your questions and wow, you did not hold back. She tackles why sex stops feeling fun and starts feeling like a chore, what's really going on when desire disappears, and how to flip the script from obligation back to connection. This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I’ve learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You’ll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Don't forget to tune in on most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, Tiktok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.  In this episode, you'll learn: • Why sex becomes "just another item on the to-do list" and what that really means  • The difference between duty and desire — and why confusing them breeds resentment  • How to rebrand sex as connection instead of obligation More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:36 - "Pick Up Laundry, Do Dishes, Have Sex... Check" 6:07 - When You're Not in the Mood to Give 12:25 - How to Ask Someone Out (Live Caller) 14:26 - Can You Make Her Squirt? Techniques That Actually Work 22:22 - How to Get Your Partner to Want Intimacy Again 30:53 - Finding a Third: Dos and Don'ts for Couples 36:08 - The Power of Edging 40:38 - "Desire Needs Space, Not Stress" 47:29 - How to Make Sex Feel Like Connection Again Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Dolly Josette is a somatic sexologist and intimacy coach known as "The Pleasure Muse" who helps people reconnect with their bodies to unlock deeper pleasure. In this episode, Dolly returns to the show to explore why so many of us feel disconnected from our own sensations, where trauma actually lives in the body, and how a few minutes of daily practice can transform your relationship with pleasure. She and Dr. Emily get into embodiment work, why your genitals might be holding onto more than you realize, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself for others. In this episode, you'll learn: • What somatic sexology actually is and how it differs from talk therapy • Why your body stores emotions and trauma in your fascia and genitals • The simple exercise that can help you release blocks you didn't know you had • Why you can't figure out what you want sexually until your body feels safe • How to do a "vulva hug" and why your genitals might be craving your attention • The real reason pleasure fades after the honeymoon phase • Why embodiment isn't another thing on your to-do list — it's how you live • How long it actually takes to build an embodiment practice that sticks • The one song a day practice that can pull you back into your body • What your body is trying to tell you when you feel frozen or shut down • How to access your partner's prostate for maximum pleasure More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:12 - What is Somatic Sexology and Body Work? 5:02 - Why You Can't Feel Pleasure Until Your Body Feels Safe 9:03 - How Trauma Gets Stored in Your Genitals 14:54 - The Power of Slowing Down During Intimate Touch 20:51 - Hungry Hungry Vagina: HRT and Hormonal Changes 27:02 - Finding Your Pleasure Spot at the Vaginal Entrance 29:36 - How to Stimulate the Prostate for Maximum Pleasure 36:40 - Why You Need More Non-Sexual Touch in Your Life 41:03 - Your Body is Craving Your Attention Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Groves is a human connection specialist who transformed his own painful relationship patterns into wisdom he now shares with millions. In this episode, Mark opens up about the Thanksgiving dinner betrayal that shut him down at 19, the years he spent as an emotionally unavailable guy, and the breakthrough that finally let him receive love. In this episode we dig into codependency, why chemistry fades, and what it actually takes to build a relationship where you can be fully yourself. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why a failed one-night stand taught Mark more about himself than years of relationships • The real definition of codependency and why it's not just about addiction • How to identify your "Thanksgiving dinner moment" that shaped how you love • Why the space between partners disappears and chemistry dies in long-term relationships • The question that reveals if you're being codependent in the bedroom • What "liberated love" looks like and why truth-telling is the foundation • How Mark and his wife broke up, had a closing ceremony, and came back stronger • Why your capacity to love equals your capacity to lose • The three things you can do now to get on the path toward the love you want • How parenthood changes intimacy and why the six-week clearance is misleading • What to do when you can't stop fantasizing about past flings while in a relationship More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:13 - How Mark Started Sharing Vulnerable Relationship Advice  8:31 - The Thanksgiving Dinner That Changed Everything  16:00 - Finding Your "Moment" That Shapes How You Love  20:13 - What Is Codependency Really?  30:04 - Signs You're in a Codependent Pattern  33:51 - Why Couples Stop Having Sex (It's Not What You Think)  39:17 - How Parenthood Changes Your Sex Life  51:01 - Use Your Relationship to Become Everything  54:53 - Listener Question: Can't Stop Thinking About Past Flings  1:02:55 - Quickie Q&A Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily visits the office of urogynecologist Dr. Patricia Wallace to explore the hidden world of pelvic health—and why it matters so much for sexual pleasure. From the muscles that control your orgasms to the hormones that fuel desire, Dr. Wallace breaks down what's actually happening in your body and what you can do about it at every age. In this episode, you'll learn: • What your pelvic floor actually is and why 80% of women can't properly contract it • The connection between pelvic floor strength and orgasm intensity • How to do a kegel correctly using yogic breathing techniques • Why recurrent UTIs happen and the supplement hack that prevents them • The truth about hormone therapy and why that 20-year-old study shouldn't scare you • What "optimal" hormone levels mean versus just "normal" lab ranges • How testosterone affects women's sex drive—and when supplementation helps • The real timeline for postpartum sexual recovery (hint: it's not 6 weeks) • Why the Emsella chair delivers 12,000 pelvic floor contractions in one session • How core strength affects everything from incontinence to back pain to sexual confidence More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Je Joue ⁠https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST⁠ Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:53 - What Is Your Pelvic Floor & Why Should You Care 4:41 - The UTI Hack Most Women Don't Know About 6:52 - First Steps When You Suspect Perimenopause 9:01 - The 80% Orgasm Problem (And How to Fix It) 10:20 - How to Do a Kegel Correctly (Live Tutorial) 14:04 - What the Emsella Chair Actually Does to Your Body 17:06 - How Hormone Replacement Changes Sexual Function 20:05 - Pregnant Sex & Postpartum Recovery Truth 24:00 - Protecting Your Pelvic Floor Before Problems Start 29:01 - Why Core Strength Makes You Sexy From the Inside Out Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily sits down with relationship expert Matthew Hussey to decode modern dating, from confusing chemistry with compatibility to knowing when someone's actually emotionally available. Matthew breaks down why we keep choosing the wrong people, how to set boundaries without sabotaging connection, and the texting behaviors that reveal true interest levels. In this episode, you'll learn: • The difference between chemistry and compatibility—and why excitement often masks anxiety • How to identify emotional availability in the first few dates • Why having standards matters more than having a "type" • The art of expressing needs without coming across as needy • Red flags in texting culture and what silence really means • How to break patterns of settling and choose better partners • Why vulnerability creates attraction (and how to practice it) • When to walk away from situationships that aren't serving you • How self-worth directly impacts who you attract and keep • Strategies for building sexual tension while deepening emotional intimacy More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Qualia:  Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY.  Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro: The Dolphin Metaphor - Understanding Our Conditioning 1:36 - Meet Matthew Hussey: Dating Expert & Confidence Coach 6:48 - Matthew's Journey with Chronic Pain & The Concept of "Happy Enough" 13:18 - Matthew's Evolution & The Pain of Helping Others 18:26 - Lighting the Fuse: Detonating Your Own Life Before It Implodes 25:17 - Anxiety in Relationships & The Wall We Keep Crashing Into 32:45 - The Dolphin Tank: How Our Past Shapes Our Reality 37:41 - Core Confidence: You Don't Need to Be Special to Love Yourself 42:15 - Giving Yourself Closure & Modeling Healthy Standards 48:26 - Five Quickie Questions & Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily shares three listener success stories that prove honest communication transforms sex lives. Graham's pegging journey opened up conversations he and his wife never had before. Calvin and his wife of 20+ years had their first spontaneous threesome after a night of dancing. And Jasmine finally experienced her first penetrative orgasm after years of frustration—by standing up for her needs and incorporating breathing techniques. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why scheduling difficult sexual conversations (outside the bedroom) leads to breakthrough moments • How embodiment during sex—staying present with both sensations AND emotions—deepens connection • The grinding technique that helps many vulva owners orgasm during penetration • Why breathing and edging practices intensify orgasms • How to guide your mind back when it wanders during sex If you have a sexy story to share, send it to feedback@sexwithemily.com with "sexy story" in the subject line. More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:36 - Graham's Pegging Success: How Communication Transformed Their Marriage 4:18 - Why Pegging Is Vulnerable for Men & Breaking Masculine Taboos 7:38 - Calvin's First Threesome: From Dance Floor to Bedroom 11:48 - The Importance of Being Embodied During Sex 13:44 - Jasmine's Journey: Overcoming Abuse to Achieve Her First Penetrative Orgasm 17:04 - Standing Up for Your Sexual Needs in Relationships 20:00 - The Grinding Technique & Clitoral Stimulation During Penetration 21:44 - Using Breath & Fantasy to Stay Present During Sex 23:37 - Wrap-Up & How to Share Your Story Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with volleyball legend Gabby Reece—professional athlete, podcast host of The Gabby Reece Show, entrepreneur—to talk about the unsexy truths that actually keep long-term relationships alive. Gabby pulls no punches as she reveals her controversial "48-hour sex rule," and how treating sex like going to the gym (just get your shoes on and show up) has sustained their passion for decades. This conversation dismantles the romanticized version of marriage and replaces it with raw honesty about vulnerability, stoicism almost ending her relationship, and why "misogynists are bitches" but real masculinity is powerful, protective, and tender. Gabby shares her four rules for keeping an alpha male happy (hint: food and sex made the list), the farmer versus flower dynamic that prevents resentment, and why her self-care hierarchy puts herself first, her relationship second, and her kids third—unapologetically. In this episode, you'll learn: • The 48-hour sex rule works—scheduling sex isn't sexy, but it's sexier than one partner begging and the other constantly rejecting; Gabby and Laird have sex every other day, and she admits she strategically loads her calendar the day after because she "doesn't have to answer to anyone" • Clear the decks daily to avoid divorce—Laird confronts everything immediately (every look, tone, word) so resentments never build; Gabby credits this practice with saving their marriage after years of her being too stoic nearly ended it • Understanding the farmer vs. flower dynamic—sometimes one partner is in the spotlight (the flower) while the other supports (the farmer), and the roles switch; when one person is always the farmer, resentment builds and relationships suffer • Real masculinity isn't misogyny—true masculine strength includes compassion, protection, and tenderness; we've trained men to feel bad about their masculinity, and bringing kindness (not anger) while setting boundaries helps everyone thrive • You have the goods—ask for what you want—Gabby's advice to young women about sex is radical: stop performing, start demanding your pleasure, and remember that good sex is about mutual understanding, not just one person's orgasm More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Common Confidential  Use code SEXWITHEMILY! https://commonconfidential.com/s/sexwithemily Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:21 - The Challenge of Bringing More Play Into Life 7:06 - 28 Years Together: Gabby's 3 Keys to a Strong Marriage 9:03 - Clear the Decks: Daily Communication That Saves Relationships 14:19 - Farmer vs Flower: Understanding Relationship Roles 22:48 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish (Especially for Moms) 28:34 - Lifting Weights: The Real Anti-Aging Secret for Women 29:04 - The 4 Rules for Keeping Your Partner Happy 39:18 - The 48-Hour Rule 42:26 - When You're Doing It for Them (And Why That's OK) 50:01 - Biggest Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice for Young Women Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with Todd Baratz—sex therapist and author of How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind—to challenge everything you think you know about relationships. Todd dismantles the fairy tale myth of "the one" and reveals why our obsession with diagnosing every difficult person as a narcissist is keeping us stuck. From exploring how oral sex can make or break your relationship to understanding why some people view emotional depth as "too much," this conversation reframes love as messy, complicated, and beautifully imperfect. T In this episode, you'll learn: • Your relationship "shoulds" are sabotaging you—every rule you've internalized about what partners should text, do, or provide creates unnecessary conflict and anxiety; letting go of these expectations (especially "the one" who fulfills all your needs) is the first step to realistic, sustainable love • Not everyone is a narcissist—our tendency to diagnose and label ourselves and others amplifies anxiety rather than solving problems; sometimes people are just incompatible, not disordered, and that's okay • You're not "too much," you just need the right match—if someone views your emotional depth and authenticity as intensity, it's because they lack the capacity to handle genuine connection; finding someone who can meet you where you need to be met is about compatibility, not fixing yourself • Sex is really about connection—when you're craving sex, you're often actually craving intimacy, vulnerability, touch, and being truly seen; understanding this deeper need helps address desire discrepancies and creates more fulfilling sexual experiences • Dating people who can't connect emotionally—approach them with compassion and curiosity, try to create space for vulnerability, but if they can't or won't open up, accept that they might not be your person and walk away without trying to force everyone to do the work you're doing More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:03 - Letting Go of "The One" & Outdated Relationship Rules 5:22 - How We "Should" All Over Our Relationships 7:26 - Understanding Your Intergenerational Trauma Story 10:23 - Growth Happens in Relationships, Not Just Self-Love 13:12 - Why We Keep Dating the Same Type of Person 17:16 - How to Connect With Men Who Struggle to Connect 22:38 - Listener Questions: Situationships & Communication 5:01 - Oral Sex Should Be Reciprocated (Period) 29:04 - The Truth About Mismatched Desire in Long-Term Relationships 32:46 - Five Quickie Questions with Todd Barrets 34:04 - Turnons: Emily & Erica Discuss Childhood Patterns 47:02 - The Connection Between Mental Health and Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with Amy Chan—founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart—to explore why we keep choosing the wrong partners and how to break the cycle. Amy shares her revolutionary 12-person dating experiment that forces clients to date outside their type, revealing how our "type" isn't about physical traits but the emotional patterns we unconsciously repeat. From spotting unavailable partners to understanding the difference between passionate love and companionate love, this conversation reframes dating as a discovery process rather than a high-stakes audition. Amy breaks down why great daters often struggle in relationships, how to recognize your recurring emotional patterns, and why your best friend you want to make out with might be the person you've been overlooking all along. In this episode, you'll learn: • Your "type" is an emotional pattern, not a physical one—by identifying the five main emotions from your last three relationships, you can spot the cycle you keep repeating (like anxiety from chasing unavailable partners) and consciously choose different experiences • The dating experiment that rewires your brain—dating 12 people outside your type without getting into a relationship removes the pressure of finding "the one" and trains you to be present, recognize how you actually feel with someone, and notice who genuinely treats you well • Why passionate love fades and what replaces it—the neurochemical high of early romance naturally transitions to companionate love, and understanding this shift helps you stop mistaking familiarity for incompatibility and start building the deeper intimacy that sustains long-term relationships • The dating funnel approach—treating early dates like lead generation (just asking "Am I having fun? Do I want to see them again?") instead of evaluating someone as your future life partner eliminates job-interview energy and lets authentic connection emerge naturally • Stop performing, start choosing—moving from "waiting to be chosen" to actively selecting partners based on how they make you feel (not just how they look on paper) puts you in control of your romantic life and attracts people who appreciate your authentic self More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Bathmate- https://bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily/v4/podcast Timestamps: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emily breaks down her 2025 Holiday Gift Guide through the lens of the five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration. She explores how shifting from performance to presence can transform your relationship with pleasure, offering curated tools and practices that help you slow down, feel your body, and understand yourself as a sexual being. This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond quick fixes and embrace a more holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into something that nourishes your whole system. In this episode, you’ll learn: • The five pillars of Sex IQ create a holistic framework for understanding your sexuality and taking responsibility for your pleasure—moving you from performance to presence • Embodiment practices like breathwork and sonic wave toys help you overcome the mind-body disconnect during sex by bringing you back to physical sensations instead of staying in your head worrying about how you look or what you need to do • Self-acceptance isn't about waiting for your body to change—it's about recognizing and reframing the pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) that tell you you're unworthy, and actively replacing negative thought patterns with affirmations that honor your body right now More Dr. Emily:  • The 2025 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide • Apply for Emily's 1:1 Coaching Opportunity HERE or reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Shop the Holiday Gift Guide now! (See the full Gift Guide HERE)  Embodiment: • LELO SONA 3- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com • Common Confidential Massage Butter- Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at Commonconfidential.com. • Cornbread Hemp - Use code SWE for a discount at cornbreadhemp.com/swe  Health: • Bathmate Hydro Pump-  Use SWE10 for 10% off your order at bathmatedirect.com • HigherDOSE Infrared Sauna Blanket- Head to higherdose.com • V-Health Vaginal Rejuvenation Gel- Use code EMILY10 for 10% off at getvhealth.com  • Kroma Wellness Beauty Matcha Latte - Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at kromawellness.com  Collaboration:  • Promescent Delay Spray- Head to promescent.com  • LELO F2S- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com  • Crave Leather Handcuffs- Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/crave  Self- Knowledge: • Magic Wand Mini - Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand  • Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator - Go to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code EMILY20 for 20% off  • SmartSX- Head to sexwithemily.com/smartsx  Self- Acceptance:  • The Class - Head to theclass.com  • Droplette- Head to droplette.io This episode is sponsored by…  Biolouve- Get 15% off with code EMILYPOWERMOVE @ https://biolouve.com/  Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 1:25 - The 5 Pillars of Sex IQ Framework 2:36 - Pillar 1: Embodiment 10:23 - Pillar 2: Health 17:52 - Pillar 3: Collaboration 24:44 - Pillar 4: Self-Knowledge 29:39 - Pillar 5: Self-Acceptance 34:21 - Wrap-Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices