Sex With Emily

Whether you're trying to work up the nerve to ask out your office crush, figuring out what you actually want in bed, or navigating a decades-long relationship that's hit a sexual wall — the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: you have to be willing to go there. Say the thing. Ask the question. Have the conversation you've been putting off. In this episode, I'm taking listener calls on everything from the first nervous steps back into dating to the hard conversations that long-term couples are too scared to start. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why dating is a muscle — and what to actually do when you've been out of the game so long that even asking someone out feels impossible • What really happens to a vulva when a woman is fully aroused, why morning sex resentment is almost never just about morning sex, and what to do when your sexual awakening happens 20 years into a committed relationship • How to talk to your kids about sex early and often in a way that builds confidence instead of shame — starting with something as simple as using the right words for their body parts More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:07 - How to Ask Out an Office Crush Without Overthinking It  6:06 - Breaking Out of the Friend Zone on a First Date  9:43 - She Engorged During Orgasm — What Just Happened?  15:21 - Embracing What Sex Actually Looks and Feels Like  16:07 - Boyfriend Wants Her to Sleep with Someone Else — Does She Have To? 18:42 - Resentful About 5:30 a.m. Sex & Never Having Orgasms  22:23 - Sexual Awakening, Open Relationship Fallout & Staying or Going 26:35 - How to Raise a Sex-Positive Son Without Shame  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health. In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age • The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about • Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:51 - Caller #1 (Jamie, 44): Partner Chatting with Sex Workers Online — Is It Cheating? 9:46 - Dr. Emily's Takeaway: Masturbation in Relationships & Staying Curious 10:30 - Caller #2 (Damian, 28): His Wife Is Grossed Out by Touching Herself 16:09 - Caller #3 (Lacy, 25): Love Bombed on a First Date, Then Blocked 23:55 - Caller #4 (Rachel, 25): Getting Back Into Sex After a Long Break 32:23 - Caller #5 (Karina): Dating After Trauma & Learning to Say No 41:00 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: Your No Can Be a Not Yet Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health. In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age • The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about • Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to This episode is sponsored by... Get the LELO SURFER 2 at lelo.com/surfer-2 and use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:26 - Meet Dr. Sherry Ross: OBGYN & Author of the Shiology Book Series 4:35 - Treat Your Vagina Like the Skin on Your Face 6:32 - The Visual Vaginal Library & Why Porn Is Distorting Body Image 8:08 - Can Every Woman Squirt? Dr. Sherry Weighs In 10:09 - Listener Q&A: Perimenopause Symptoms, Hormones & What to Ask Your Doctor 13:36 - Wearable Dilators: What They Are & Who Actually Needs Them 15:27 - The Real Causes of Painful Sex (Beyond Just Dryness) 18:00 - Recurring UTIs & Yeast Infections: Why They Keep Happening 19:05 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Sherry Ross Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever avoided anal because it hurt, felt intimidating, or just had too many unanswered questions — you haven't had the right conversation yet. Whether you're completely new to backdoor play or you've been doing it for years without the proper foundation, most people are skipping the steps that actually make it feel good. And that's not a problem. That's an education problem. In this episode, I sit down with nationally renowned anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein — founder of Bespoke Surgical and Future Method — for the most honest, shame-free breakdown of anal health and pleasure you're going to find anywhere. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why anal sex should never be painful, what's actually causing the pain, and the exact 4-6 week protocol that prepares your body the right way • The truth about douching, wet wipes, and why most people are unknowingly damaging their anal microbiome before sex even starts • How to navigate anal with hemorrhoids, skin tags, or past injuries — and what your options actually are when something goes wrong This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:51 - Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein: Anal Surgeon & Founder of Bespoke Surgical 3:46 - Where Does the Taboo Around Anal Come From? 6:54 - The Three Pillars: How to Prepare, Play & Recover 8:07 - The 4 to 6 Week Dilating Protocol Every Beginner Needs 14:08 - Lube 101: Silicone vs. Water-Based & When to Use Each 15:55 - The Lube Shooter, Empowering the Bottom & Why You Can't Assume Your Partner Knows 16:57 - Douching: Why Water and Store-Bought Enemas Can Do More Harm Than Good 20:33 - Less Is More: Gut Health, Fiber & How to Douche the Right Way 23:27 - Aftercare: What to Do If You Tear or Have Pain 24:19 - Beginner Tips: Positions, Partner Communication & Choosing the Right Size 32:38 - Listener Q&A: Hemorrhoids, Skin Tags & Can You Still Have Anal Sex? 36:43 - Listener Q&A: Colon Surgery, Couples Starting Out & Sex Positions by State 42:14 - Why Wet Wipes Are Wrecking Your Microbiome (Anal and Vaginal) 44:45 - Five Quicky Questions with Dr. Goldstein Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever felt like everyone else is having the sex life you're supposed to have — and you're just white-knuckling your way through it, faking it, or coming up empty — you're not broken. You're just not talking about it yet. Whether it's a desire you've been too scared to voice, a fantasy you've kept to yourself for years, or a body that's never quite gotten there with a partner, the shift almost always starts the same way: someone finally said the thing out loud. In this episode, three real listeners share the moments that changed everything for them — and none of it looks the way you'd expect. In this episode, you'll learn: • What finally happened when one husband spent months asking his wife for something she wasn't sure about — and why one unexpected text message changed their relationship and sex life forever • How a 20-year marriage, a night out dancing, and a chance encounter with a stranger led to a first threesome that was hotter, messier, and more human than any fantasy • Why so many vulva owners can't orgasm during penetration — and the exact combination of communication, touch, and mindset that finally got one woman there after years of trying This episode is sponsored by... Get the LELO SURFER 2 at lelo.com/surfer-2 and use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:02 - Story #1 : A Husband's Pegging Journey After 12 Years Together 4:40 - Dr. Emily on Why Pegging Is More Common Than You Think 6:00 - The Psychology of Receiving & Breaking Sexual Shame 8:05 - Story #2: 20 Years Married & Their First Threesome 13:52 - Dr. Emily's Takeaways on Fantasies, Communication & Embodiment 14:09 - Story #3: Five Years of Not Orgasming With a Partner 17:00 - Dr. Emily on Sexual Trauma, Repetition & Being Heard 19:26 - How Jasmine Finally Got There (Breathing, Grinding & Letting Go) 21:48 - Dr. Emily on the Clitoral Network, Foreplay & Wandering Minds 23:24 - Closing: Share Your Sexy Story with Dr. Emily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've built a life that looks great from the outside but still feels like something's missing on the inside, the problem might not be your relationship — it might be how much of yourself you're actually bringing to it. Whether it's a body image spiral that shuts you down in the bedroom, a long-term dynamic that's gone quietly cold, or a fear of vulnerability that's been running the show since day one, the shift almost always starts with one honest conversation. In this episode, volleyball legend, entrepreneur, and mother of three Gabby Reece gets real about what it actually takes to keep desire, respect, and intimacy alive after decades together — and why most of us are working harder than we need to. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why the masculine and feminine dynamic has been completely misunderstood — and how redefining it can transform your relationship and your sex life • What Gabby and Laird's 48-hour rule actually looks like in practice, and whether a structure like that could work for you • How to stop torturing yourself in the bedroom and finally get out of your head long enough to actually feel something • The real reason long-term relationships lose their spark — and the daily habits that keep attraction from quietly dying • How to talk to your kids about sex, body image, and peer pressure in a way that actually lands • Why vulnerability isn't a personality trait you either have or don't — it's a skill, and it's one you can learn This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Introduction 1:12 - Meet Gabby Reese: Athlete, Entrepreneur & Podcast Host 1:25 - Running a Business With Your Partner (Without Losing Your Mind) 6:30 - Defining Masculine & Feminine Energy in Relationships 11:03 - Vulnerability, Fear & What It Really Takes to Love Someone 13:34 - How Being an Athlete Impacts Your Sex Life & Libido 17:04 - Gut Health & Its Connection to Sexual & Mental Wellness 18:36 - Raising Daughters: Sex, Body Image & Social Media 26:27 - Rapid Fire Q&A: Exercise, Confidence & Sex Toys 31:36 - Least Favorite Thing About Sex & Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever felt completely lost when it comes to dating, desire, or keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship, you're not doing it wrong — you're just missing the conversation. Whether it's an office crush you can't read, a sexual awakening at 48 that's putting your 20-year relationship in crisis, or a partner whose needs feel totally out of sync with yours, the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: talking about it. In this episode, I'm taking live calls and listener questions on some of the messiest, most real situations in sex and relationships — and giving you the clarity to actually move forward. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to stop overthinking and finally make a move — whether it's an office crush, a first date, or reconnecting with someone from your past • What to do when your long-term partner's needs and yours no longer match up, including mismatched sex drives, resentment around morning sex, and the conversation most couples are too scared to have • How to talk to your kids about sex and bodies starting at age four — without shame, without awkwardness, and in a way that actually sticks More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Introduction 0:55 - How to Tell If Someone's Into You 6:01 - Avoiding the Friend Zone on a First Date 9:38 - When You're Surprised by Your Partner's Body During Sex 16:20 - Should You Act on Your Partner's Fantasy? 18:55 - Resentment Around Morning Sex & Low Libido 22:35 - Sexually Frustrated in a Long-Term Relationship 26:47 - How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If the idea of FaceTime sex makes you want to immediately close your laptop and never speak of it again, I get it — but hear me out. Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, traveling, or just looking to try something new with a partner you see every day, virtual sex is one of the most underrated tools for keeping intimacy alive. And when you do it right, it's genuinely hot. In this episode, I'm walking you through everything you need to know — from the practical setup to what to actually say — so it stops feeling awkward and starts feeling like real sex. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to actually set up, prepare, and get in the mood before the call — including the one thing you can do beforehand that builds confidence and arousal at the same time • What to say during FaceTime sex, even if dirty talk doesn't come naturally to you — plus how to use past memories, future fantasies, and simple direction to keep things moving • How to handle it when your partner's virtual kinks don't match yours, when sexting with someone outside your relationship starts bleeding into your real one, and how to know when a sexting session is actually over This episode is sponsored by... LELO SONA 3 – https://lelo.to/HX2gO (Use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off!) More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:48 - Who Benefits from Virtual Sex (Long-Distance, Couples & Singles) 3:34 - Sending Nudes: Risks, Consent & Generational Differences 6:51 - Safety First: Platforms, Boundaries & Mutual Consent 8:01 - The Power of Foreplay Before You Go Live 10:58 - How to Pull Off FaceTime Sex: Prep, Setup & Device Tips 16:16 - Dirty Talk & What to Actually Say in the Moment 20:06 - Q&A: How to Spice Up Virtual Sex 22:07 - Q&A: Navigating Kinks You're Not Into 26:44 - Q&A: How Does a Sexting Session Actually End? 28:28 - Q&A: Is Sexting Outside My Marriage Cheating? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Casual sex gets a bad reputation — but most of that reputation comes from doing it wrong. When it's rushed, unspoken, or emotionally misaligned, it can leave you feeling used, confused, or chasing someone who was never on the same page. But when you approach it with self-awareness and a willingness to actually say what you want, it can be exactly what you need. In this episode, I'm breaking down what conscious casual sex actually looks like — the different forms it can take, how to know if it's right for you right now, and the two things that separate a genuinely satisfying hookup from one that sends you into a shame spiral. In this episode, you'll learn: • The real difference between casual sex and hookup culture — and why "casual" doesn't have to mean disposable, careless, or emotionally disconnected • How to know if casual sex is actually a good fit for you right now, including the one attachment pattern that almost always makes it backfire • What to say before, during, and after a casual encounter to make sure your needs actually get met — and how to navigate hooking up within a friend group without blowing everything up More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - What Makes Casual Sex Satisfying? 1:43 - Defining Casual Sex (It's Not Just Hookup Culture) 3:59 - Surprising Research: Casual Sex Trends by Generation 5:44 - The Benefits of Casual Sex 8:23 - The Downsides & Risks to Know 10:37 - How to Know If Casual Sex Is Right for You 12:20 - How to Find & Communicate With Casual Partners 17:51 - Best Casual Sex Advice From Dr. Emily's Audience 20:12 - Listener Q&A: Orgasming Through Oral Sex 23:46 - Listener Q&A: Casual Sex After a Long-Term Relationship 27:06 - Listener Q&A: Shame & Regret After a Hookup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever felt ashamed of a sexual fantasy, I want you to know that having one isn't a sign that something is wrong with you — it's actually a sign of a healthy sex life. Fantasies can reveal what you truly crave, deepen your connection with a partner, and completely transform your relationship with your own desire. But most of us were never taught how to think about them, let alone talk about them out loud. In this episode, I'm breaking down what your fantasies actually mean, why you don't need to act on all of them, and exactly how to bring one up with a partner without it feeling terrifying. In this episode, you'll learn: • What the most common fantasies reveal about your psychological needs — and why the ones that embarrass you the most are usually the most telling • My step-by-step framework for communicating a fantasy to a partner (even if you've never done it before and have no idea where to start) • What to do if you can't seem to fantasize at all — including why a history of trauma or a conservative upbringing can shut down your erotic imagination, and how to gently rebuild it More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:47 - The Most Common Fantasies (Group Sex, BDSM, Voyeurism & More) 3:50 - Listener Fantasy List: What YOU Shared on Instagram 6:12 - How to Bring Up a Fantasy to Your Partner (The Who, What, Where, When, Why Method) 8:24 - Fantasy vs. Fetish: What's the Difference? 9:09 - Caller Update: Tracy's Throuple Story 15:44 - "Is It Wrong to Fantasize About Someone Else While in a Relationship?" 17:33 - How to Find a Couple for a Threesome 20:32 - Latex Fetish & Pegging: How to Get Your Partner on Board 24:12 - How to Make the First Move Without Falling into the Friend Zone 28:26 - Foot Fetishes 101: How to Blow His Mind 31:03 - When Trauma Blocks Your Fantasy Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're on antidepressants and your sex drive has completely disappeared, I want you to know that you're not broken, and you don't have to choose between feeling mentally well and having a fulfilling sex life. SSRIs like Lexapro, Zoloft, and Prozac are genuinely life-changing for so many people, but nobody warns you that they can tank your desire, make orgasms nearly impossible, and quietly wreck your relationship in the process. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why this happens, and more importantly, what you can actually do about it. From simple timing hacks to alternative treatments that are showing real promise. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why SSRIs suppress desire and arousal on a hormonal level — and the one hack that can reduce side effects as soon as tonight • How to rebuild your sex drive when both you and your partner are medicated (yes, this is more common than you think) • The alternative treatments — TMS therapy, ketamine, and psilocybin — that are helping people get off antidepressants entirely More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 0:31 - Sarah's Story: The SSRI Sex Drive Dilemma 3:50 - Why SSRIs Kill Your Libido (The Science) 6:50 - How Common Is This? Depression & Sex Stats 14:00 - Side Effects Breakdown: Vulva vs. Penis Owners 15:50 - Practical Hacks: Timing, Alcohol & Cannabis 20:53 - Alternative Treatments: TMS, Ketamine & Psychedelics 25:31 - Both Partners on SSRIs? How to Rebuild Intimacy 31:58 - The 36 Questions Study That Reignites Closeness 33:37 - Perimenopause, Hormones & Anti-Depressants at 48 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo anal play might be the most misunderstood sex act out there, and I’m done letting shame, myths, and bad porn narratives keep you from one of the most pleasurable things you can do for yourself. Whether you're completely new to anal or just looking for a place to finally start, this episode is your no-judgment, fully practical guide to exploring on your own terms. From the anatomy behind why it actually feels so good (yes, for all genitals) to the exact tools, lube, and prep you need to get started safely, I break it all down with zero shame and a lot of science. Plus, I answer real listener questions about positioning, bringing it up with a partner, and the mess concerns that are quietly keeping most people from ever trying. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why anal stimulation can unlock full-body orgasms for every anatomy — and the nerve science that explains it • The three biggest anal myths (and why they're completely wrong) • Exactly how to prep, what to buy, and how to start — so your first experience is actually pleasurable This Episode is sponsored by LELO SWITCH – https://lelo.to/aGecd (Use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off!) More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Why Try Solo Anal Play? Benefits for All Bodies 2:20 - Prostate Pleasure 101 (Penis Owners) 3:16 - Anal Orgasms & Nerve Endings (Vulva Owners) 5:48 - Body Acceptance & Releasing Shame Around Anal 6:52 - Busting Myth #1: Does Anal Affect Your Sexuality? 8:21 - Busting Myth #2: Anal Requires Preparation, Not Spontaneity 10:41 - How to Start: Anal Training & Finger Exploration 11:51 - Toy Recommendations by Anatomy 16:06 - Lube Guide: Silicone vs. Water-Based 18:05 - Q&A: Your Anal Questions Answered Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After years of thinking love wasn't in the cards, Golden Globe, Emmy and Academy Award winning actor Halle Berry stopped chasing and that's exactly when everything changed. In this live conversation from Eudemonia, Halle and I get into what it really takes to have a loving connection and  incredible sex in your 50s, why she thought her partner gave her herpes (spoiler: it was perimenopause), and how becoming whole on her own finally attracted the relationship she'd always wanted. From faking multiple orgasms in her 20s to now having no problem telling her partner exactly what she needs, Halle shares why the "zero fucks to give" era might just be the sexiest time of a woman's life. She also opens up about misdiagnosis, advocating for women's health in Washington, and why she's throwing herself a "siesta" party when she officially hits menopause in March. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why chasing a relationship kept Halle attracting the wrong partners—and what shifted when she finally prioritized herself  • How vaginal dryness got misdiagnosed as herpes and Sjögren's disease, and what that taught her about the gaps in women's healthcare  • The permission slip every woman needs to stop performing in bed and start asking for what actually feels good More Halle Berry: • Instagram  • Respin by Halle Berry  Eudēmonia Summit: •  Website  More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by: Support your cells and how you age with Mitopure® Gummies from Timeline. Visit timeline.com/EMILY to up to 39% off your Mitopure® Gummies. That’s timeline.com/EMILY Chapters: 00:00 - Chapter Title 00:09 - Halle Berry Admits She Used to Fake Orgasms 02:12 - Love, Divorce, and Lessons After Three Marriages 04:26 - Why She Slept With Men on the First Night 07:03 - The Health Scare That Changed Her Intimacy 07:46 - Being Misdiagnosed With Herpes 09:11 - Realizing She Was in Perimenopause 10:36 - How Sex Changed in Her 50s 13:03 - Why So Many Women Fake It 14:08 - The Unrealistic Sex Standards from Porn 17:08 - Learning You Can Say No to Sex 26:32 - The Truth About Multiple Orgasms 29:31 - Why She Launched Respin 30:50 - The Menopause Healthcare Gap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Blood flow might not sound sexy, but it’s the fuel behind satisfying sex. In this live episode from the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas, I sit down with certified nurse practitioner and ⁠Medical Director at GAINSWave, Chrislyn Chaloupka, to discuss how GAINSWave’s non-invasive regenerative therapy is reshaping sexual wellness by addressing root causes rather than simply masking symptoms. We dive into why your body might not be responding the way it used to, from erections that fade under pressure to that frustrating gap between wanting sex and your body just not cooperating. Chrislyn breaks down how this painless 15-minute treatment works (that I even tried myself), and we get real about everything from porn-induced desensitization to why erectile challenges can actually be your heart trying to tell you something important. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  What you'll learn:  • Why "just relax and use more lube" isn't solving your arousal problems—and what actually will  • How shockwave therapy can help with everything from weak orgasms to stress urinary incontinence (yes, the sneeze-and-pee situation)  • The psychological factors that can make even the best physical treatments fail until you address the deeper story This Episode is sponsored by Gainswave. Go to gainswave.com and find a provider near you to regain your freedom and pleasure in the bedroom.This episode was recorded live at the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas 2025.  Want to try the Magic Wand Waterproof? Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:07 - What Is A4M & Why Emily Was There 3:16 - Meet Guest Chrysen Chalupka: Nurse Practitioner & Regenerative Medicine Expert 12:17 - Regenerative Medicine Explained: Treating Root Causes, Not Symptoms 13:34 - What Is Shockwave Therapy & How Does It Actually Work 15:28 - The GainsWave Treatment: What It Feels Like (Emily's Experience) 17:03 - Who Benefits Most: Women, Pain, Dryness & Orgasm Issues 23:28 - Shockwave for Men: Erections, Blood Flow & Hidden Heart Health Warnings 27:09 - The Psychology of Sexual Dysfunction: When It's Not Just Physical 28:52 - Porn, Masturbation & Desensitization: The Conversation Nobody's Having 32:57 - Beyond Sexual Health: Treating Joints, Injuries & Chronic Pain with Shockwave 35:30 - How to Find a GainsWave Provider Near You Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard. I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow). In this episode, you'll learn:  • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective  • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm)  • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:06 - The "past and future" rule for writing sexts 4:43 - How to use the three dots to build tension 5:34 - Nude photo tips: angles, lighting & confidence 7:35 - Protecting your nudes on Apple & Google 8:41 - The hottest sexts you've sent (community submissions) 10:18 - How to find your dirty talk voice 12:48 - Flirting with a coworker over Zoom & Slack 15:04 - Keeping sexts private when kids use your devices 16:08 - When your partner's masturbation habits change 19:16 - Mismatched sexting energy in long distance 22:35 - Rebuilding trust after infidelity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're questioning who you're attracted to or wondering why someone incredible on paper leaves you feeling nothing below the waist, you're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the messy, confusing space between wanting someone and wanting to build a life with them—and why those two things don't always line up. From a woman who's always identified as straight but can't stop fantasizing about women, to a listener who's been getting nothing but one-arm hugs after six dates, I get into the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud. I also share what the science actually says about attraction—including why your post-gym crush might not be as real as it feels, and what your birth control could be doing to your "type." In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why putting a label on your sexuality might be the last thing you need to do right now—and what to try instead  • The conversation that can save you months (or years) of wondering where you stand with someone who won't make a move  • What to do when you and your partner are both waiting for the other person to take control in bed More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Head to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply today! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction  1:56 - The science of sexual attraction  5:01 - You can want someone without wanting to date them  6:12 - Surprising facts about who you're attracted to (and why)  9:19 - "Am I bisexual or do I just think women are hot?"  10:50 - The one-arm hug situation  15:25 - When your partner's meds killed your sex life  20:40 - 19 years married and ready to give up  25:31 - How to rekindle the spark after years together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Pressure-Free Reframe on Desire, Connection, and Sex This isn't your typical Valentine's Day episode. I'm skipping the performance pressure and Pinterest-perfect expectations to focus on what actually matters: real connection. Drawing from thousands of your survey responses—and two decades of hearing the same struggles around desire mismatch, stress, and intimacy—I built this Valentine's guide around your actual pain points, not trending hashtags. From why sensory play beats a five-star reservation to how sleep might be the sexiest gift you can give yourself, I break down the science and stories behind lasting desire. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why prioritizing rest is actually foreplay—and how just one extra hour of sleep can increase desire by 14%  • How to use your senses (not grand gestures) to create genuine intimacy and take the guesswork out of date night  • The difference between romance as performance and connection your body actually feels—and why that distinction changes everything The 2026 Sex With Emily Valentine’s Gift Guide: https://sexwithemily.com/the-2026-sex-with-emily-valentines-gift-guide/  2026 Sex With Emily Valentine’s Gift Guide Products Mentioned (find the full Guide above):  • CERE Enchantment Gel⁠- Go to ⁠getcere.com • Promescent Delay Spray- ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/sweggpromescent⁠⁠  • LELO TIANI 3 - ⁠www.lelo.com/tiani-3⁠  (Use code “SWE20”  for 20% off!) • Visit ⁠Vyleesi.com⁠ for full prescribing information or consult a healthcare provider about Vyleesi.  • Magic Wand Waterproof HV-360 - ⁠https://bit.ly/sweggmagicwandwaterproof⁠  • Airbnb - https://bit.ly/sweairbnb  • Canyon Ranch - https://bit.ly/swecanyonranch  • SmartSX- https://bit.ly/sweggsmartsxfreemonth  • Womaness Coco Bliss- https://bit.ly/sweggwomanesscocobliss  • Je Joue Naughty Gift Set- https://bit.ly/sweggnaughtygiftset  • 1:1 Coaching With Emily- Complete this form: https://bit.ly/sweggprivatecoaching or Email enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information!  • Sex With Emily Yes!No!Maybe? List- Head to sexwithemily.com/guides • Ohmibod Foxy Panty Vibe- https://bit.ly/sweggfoxy  • Shop Sex With Emily Gift Card - https://bit.ly/sweggshopgiftcard  • Crave Pleasure Jewelry -  https://bit.ly/sweggcrave  • Pleasure Planner - sexwithemily.com/guides  • Wisp - https://hellowisp.com/products/omg-cream   • Common Confidential Massage Butter - commonconfidential.com (use the code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off)  • Essentia Mattresses - myessentia.com/ More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:03 - Why Connection Beats Romance Every Time 3:28 - Experience Gifts That Actually Build Intimacy 5:17 - Dating Advice: Be the Person You Want to Find 7:28 - Desire Doesn't Magically Appear—It's Created 9:35 - Foreplay Starts Way Before Touch 12:11 - Your Nervous System Is Your Sex Organ 16:41 - Self-Pleasure Is a Relational Skill 20:50 - When Your Libidos Don't Match 26:11 - Building Your Ideal Date Night Using Your Senses 29:52 - Why Sleep Is the Sexiest Gift You Can Give Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you've been with your partner for ten months or ten years, knowing what you actually want in bed is harder than it sounds—especially if you never got the chance to explore. In this episode, Dr. Emily takes listener calls about the real challenges that keep couples stuck: shame around masturbation, mismatched experience levels, and the fear that fading passion means something's broken. From a wife who's never had a partner ask what she wants to a husband hiding his solo sessions in the basement, Emily breaks down why sexual self-discovery isn't selfish—it's essential. She also tackles what to do when your partner wants to swing but you're not sure, and why taking penetration off the table might be the fastest way to bring the heat back. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why being a skilled lover has nothing to do with how many people you've slept with—and everything to do with curiosity and communication • How to take the lead in bed without becoming a completely different person (even if you've always been submissive) • The "hell yes or hell no" rule for navigating swinging, threesomes, and any sexual experience that makes you feel vulnerable More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:33 - McKenzie: Husband complains about sex life to others 4:36 - Why partner count doesn't determine sexual skill 6:14 - How to discover what you actually want in bed 9:37 - Experience is not a numbers game 10:43 - Dan: Feeling guilty about masturbating while married 13:06 - Why masturbation shame hurts relationships 15:41 - Sarah: Giving her husband a prostate orgasm for his 50th 19:04 - Switching from submissive to dominant in bed 23:02 - Alex: Girlfriend wants to try soft swapping 25:17 - Hannah: Taking sex off the table to reconnect 30:03 - Building intimacy without rushing to penetration Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo sex is one of the most powerful tools you have for better partnered sex — and most people are barely scratching the surface. In this throwback episode, Dr. Emily makes the case for why your relationship with yourself might be the most important sexual relationship you'll ever have. From finding out what actually turns you on to using masturbation as a way to manage stress and boost confidence, Emily covers everything you need to know about flying solo — including how to bring toys into the mix without awkwardness. She also takes listener calls about navigating different libidos in relationships, dealing with performance anxiety, and figuring out how to ask for what you want in bed. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why masturbation is essential for sexual self-awareness — not just a fallback when you're single  • How to explore fantasies and toys on your own so you can communicate better with partners  • The connection between solo pleasure, stress relief, and overall sexual confidence More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:30 - Why Masturbation Matters (Even If You Have a Partner) 3:05 - The G-Spot Myth: Why It's Really a "G-Area" 4:50 - First-Time Masturbation Guide for Women 8:17 - Choosing Your First Vibrator: What to Know 10:54 - Can You "Retrain" Your Body to Orgasm Without a Vibrator? 14:00 - Edging Explained: How to Intensify Your Orgasms 17:38 - Overcoming Shame and Religious Guilt Around Self-Pleasure 24:01 - The We-Vibe Melt: Why It's a Game-Changer 30:40 - Rapid Fire: Mismatched Libidos, BDSM, and Confidence Tips Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When the wedding’s over and real life kicks in, it’s so common for sex to shift — sometimes fast. In this throwback live show, Dr. Emily tackles the myth that marriage equals the end of your sex life, and breaks down how to bring back that “honeymoon energy” without forcing it or turning intimacy into another chore. Emily shares a simple framework for staying connected long-term (including her idea of “sex vows”), then takes calls from listeners navigating a sudden post-marriage libido drop and the emotional whiplash of being single while everyone around you is getting engaged. In this episode, you’ll learn:  • Why desire often drops after commitment — and how to address it before resentment builds  • Practical ways to revive novelty and reconnect (including “sex vows” you can actually use)  • How to handle the pressure and loneliness when it feels like everyone else is getting married More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Qualia:  Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY.  Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:26 - Current Trends in Sex and Relationships 5:25 - Essential Conversations Before Marriage 7:40 - Writing Your Sex Vows 9:49 - Planning Your Pleasure: Yes/No/Maybe List 12:39 - Recreating Honeymoon Sex Energy 16:00 - Q&A: When His Sex Drive Plummets After Marriage 22:30 - Q&A: Exploring Bisexuality in a Committed Relationship 25:24 - Q&A: Building a Sex Life You've Never Had 30:56 - Q&A: When Your Partner Doesn't Want Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices