Love Each Other Better

In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I'm kicking off a new series on the communication patterns that keep couples stuck — and how to get unstuck. We're starting with one of the most common: when one partner talks more and more to feel heard, while the other gets overwhelmed and pulls away to find relief. It's a loop that leaves both people feeling disconnected, even though both are trying. I'll introduce a powerful concept from Nonviolent Communication: interrupting for the sake of connection. It's a way to pause, reflect, and stay present without shutting each other down. We'll also talk about reflective listening, and how it can radically shift the energy of a conversation in an instant. If you've ever felt like you're talking past each other instead of with each other, this one's for you.  Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com

In this special episode of Love Each Other Better, I sat down with Brian G. Murphy — author of Love Beyond Monogamy, certified relationship coach, and co-founder of the Queer Theology podcast. In this illuminating interview, Brian shares insights on navigating non-monogamy and open relationships, including: How to navigate differing desires between partners and approach the conversation about opening a relationship Handling jealousy and fostering intentional, authentic communication Why even couples who choose to stay monogamous can benefit from exploring these questions consciously Aligning relationships with personal values while considering the impact on your partner Whether you're exploring the possibility of an open relationship, looking for support in your already-established open relationship, or simply looking to build more authenticity and intentionality into your monogamous partnership, don't miss this opportunity to get high-integrity guidance and insights from Brian G. Murphy. About Ali's Guest Brian G. Murphy is an author and certified relationship coach helping people build thriving relationships on their own terms without shame or "shoulds" through his coaching practice Relationshift. He's also the co-founder of QueerTheology.com, a resource hub, online community, and the longest-running queer spirituality podcast which helps LGBTQ+ and polyamorous people heal from religious harm and live into their values. He is the author of Love Beyond Monogamy and co-author of Reading The Bible Through Queer Eyes, which will be published by HarperOne in fall 2026. Connect with Brian G. Murphy Social Media: @thisisbgm on all the places, but especially Instagram, Threads, and YouTube Website: https://www.thisisbgm.com Free Commitment Clarity Checklist - http://thisisbgm.com/commitment   Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com

What if generosity isn't something we have to teach or force — but something we're born with? In this special episode honoring the birthday of Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I share a personal story about my 5-year-old daughter — and how her spontaneous, joyful act of giving reminded me of one of Marshall's most powerful teachings: "What I want in my life is compassion — a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart." We'll explore: Why generous giving flows naturally when we feel connected and free How this principle applies not just to parenting, but to romantic relationships What gets in the way of that generosity in couples — and how NVC can help restore it A simple question to reflect on in your own relationship today Plus, I'll share how you and your partner can go deeper with NVC through my 9-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples: Stop Fighting (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) If you're longing for more joy and spontaneous generosity in your relationship — this one's for you. Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com Important note: The tools I share in this episode and all of the episodes on this podcast are suited for people who are in a safe relationship. If you do not feel safe in your relationship, please prioritize your safety. For support with priortizing your safety, in the U.S. you can chat with someone live at The National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org, or call them at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788. 

Ever feel like you're "in trouble" with your partner—even though you're a grown adult? That tight feeling in your chest, the urge to defend yourself, shut down, or appease… it's more common than you think. And it's not your fault. In this episode, we explore how growing up in a punitive culture wires us to associate conflict with danger—and how that fear shows up in our adult relationships. Using the lenses of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Terry Real's Adaptive Child vs. Wise Adult, and self-compassion, we look at how to shift from self-protection to connection, even when emotions run high. You'll learn: Why the "I'm in trouble" feeling gets triggered in conflict How to recognize when your Adaptive Child is in the driver's seat Ways to offer yourself empathy so you can show up in your relationship from your Wise Adult self Practical NVC tools to respond with connection instead of self-protection Whether you're in a partnership or want to prepare for one, this episode is an invitation to soften, slow down, and connect—with yourself and your loved ones. Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com Important note: The tools I share in this episode and all of the episodes on this podcast are suited for people who are in a safe relationship. If you do not feel safe in your relationship, please prioritize your safety. For support with priortizing your safety, in the U.S. you can chat with someone live at The National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org, or call them at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788. 

Ever find yourself wondering, "Do I even matter to him/her/them?" despite all you do? That painful question points to a fundamental human need: to contribute, to be seen, and to know that your presence truly makes a difference. When this need goes unmet, relationships can grow distant and disheartening. In this episode, we explore why appreciation isn't just a nice gesture — it's essential emotional medicine that helps relationships heal and thrive. But more than that, it's a practice you can build — a new habit of truly noticing, acknowledging, and expressing gratitude in ways that land deeply with your partner. You'll learn: How contribution is the key to a fulfilling life — and why we need feedback in order to get that need fully met Why expressing appreciation often feels vulnerable — and how to lean into that vulnerability for the sake of authentic connection Practical tips for cultivating a daily appreciation practice that strengthens your bond How Nonviolent Communication (NVC) guides us to give heartfelt, specific feedback that actually sticks.  Whether you feel unseen or want to show your partner they matter, this episode offers tools and insights to help you build appreciation into your relationship as a powerful healing habit. Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com

What happens when a seasoned debater embraces the compassionate lens of Nonviolent Communication (NVC)? In this episode, I'm joined by writer and commentator Margot Magowan, who has debated on Fox News, CNN, MSNBC, and Good Morning America—and now finds herself navigating the delicate intersection between advocacy and empathy. Margot shares her evolving journey from using sharp logic to influence others (including her daughter) to practicing deep empathic listening—and how that shift has transformed her family life. We explore what it's been like for her to integrate NVC into parenting, marriage, and public discourse. This conversation doesn't offer easy answers—and that's what makes it so rich. Margot is actively grappling with big questions: — Can NVC truly coexist with the drive to change minds—or change the world? — How do we speak with passion while still seeing the humanity in those we disagree with? — When is it time to listen, and when is it time to speak up? If you've ever wondered how to blend NVC with social change work—how to hold compassion for all people while staying rooted in your values—this episode is for you. About Margot Magowan: Margot is a writer and commentator whose work has appeared on Fox News, CNN, MSNBC, Good Morning America, and other major media platforms. Her fiction is featured in the HarperCollins anthology Sugar In My Bowl. Today, she's passionate about Nonviolent Communication and supports other parents through NVC-based support groups and coaching. To learn more, you can reach her at margotmagowan@gmail.com   Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com

Do you feel unheard in your relationship—or like every conversation turns into an argument? In this episode, we'll unpack what's really going on when you and your partner get stuck in blame, defensiveness, or silence. You'll learn how to truly listen (and get listened to) using the powerful tools of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). We cover: What's really underneath most conflict Why empathy changes everything How to stop defending and start connecting Simple questions that shift the dynamic fast If you're longing to feel more understood, emotionally safe, and connected in your relationship, this episode will offer both insight and practical tools. Want to go deeper? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com

In this episode, I'm unpacking one of the most common — and most disconnecting — phrases I hear in relationships: "You made me feel…" It sounds honest. It feels true. But in reality, it often leads to defensiveness, arguments, and emotional distance. Drawing from the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I'll walk you through why this phrase contains a subtle form of blame — even if you don't mean it that way — and how shifting the way you express your feelings can lead to more understanding, more connection, and more of your needs being met. You'll learn: Why saying "You made me feel…" can derail communication The key difference between stimulating feelings vs. causing them A more effective and connected way to talk about your emotions How to take self-responsibility without self-blame — and why it matters If you've ever felt like you're trying to be honest, but it only seems to start a fight, this episode will give you a new way forward. 🎧 Want more tools like this? Come join my free private Facebook group: NVC for Couples: Transform Your Relationship One Conversation at a Time It's a space to connect with me, ask your questions, and get support from others who are practicing these tools in real life.   Free Resources Feelings and Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In: www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse   Connect with your host! IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private + Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

Teri and David have been married for nearly 41 years, and like many couples, they often found themselves caught in repetitive arguments—both about new challenges and unresolved old issues. In this uplifting episode, they share how Ali's NVC-based Small Group Coaching Program for Couples gave them practical tools to openly discuss and finally resolve both fresh conflicts and long-standing tensions without pulling away from each other. By putting Nonviolent Communication into practice, they broke the cycle of sweeping problems under the rug and discovered renewed hope, empathy, and a stronger connection. Their inspiring journey shows it's never too late to transform how you communicate and relate. Connect with Ali: Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Book a call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Email Ali: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com      

We tell kids to "use your words" — but the truth is, most adults still don't know how. We hide our feelings, fear sounding "needy," and hope our partners will just know what we need — then feel hurt or resentful when they don't. In this episode, I unpack why adult communication breaks down so often, how unmet needs and unspoken feelings quietly sabotage our relationships, and why using your words — with clarity, vulnerability, and skill — can be the most powerful thing you do to get closer, feel seen, and have your needs met. You'll learn how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) helps you speak honestly without starting a fight, and how this one shift — using your words intentionally — can change everything in your relationship, from tension, frustration, and resentment to clarity, closeness, and care. 🎧 Whether you're feeling misunderstood, walking on eggshells, or just tired of the same old arguments — this one's for you.   Get your free lists of feelings and needs here: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Connect with Ali: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

I'm having a party and you're invited! I sat down with Jen Brummer of Grok the World to demystify what a Grok Party actually is — and why it might be exactly what you didn't know you needed. Jen will be facilitating the Grok Party that I'm hosting this Friday, June 13 at 11am EDT. In this episode, we talk about what you'll experience during this low-pressure, fun, and highly interactive group experience based on Nonviolent Communication (NVC), how Jen creates a safe, welcoming space (even for shy folks), and what you'll walk away with: practical tools to improve your communication, deepen your relationships, and better understand your own emotional world. Stay tuned til the end where we even demo one of the games you'll get to try if you join us this Friday, June 13 — so you can get a feel for how it works and why it's so powerful. Come for the curiosity. Stay for the playful-yet-deep human connection. And leave with practical tools and a refreshing way of seeing yourself and others. Register for free here: https://groktheworld.com/pages/grok-party-ali-miller   Connect with Ali: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com   Connect with Jen and Grok the World: IG: https://www.instagram.com/grok.the.world Website: https://www.groktheworld.com  

We all experience moments of hurt, frustration, or disappointment in relationship—but how do we address them without making things worse?  How can you talk about the things that bother you in a way that doesn't escalate the conflict or further damage the connection? In this episode, we'll explore the critical difference between intent and impact and why both matter. Most of the time, your partner is probably not trying to hurt you—they're trying to meet a need. But when the impact of their actions does hurt, that still really matters.  When you can talk about both the intent behind their actions AND the impact it had on you, you open up the possibility of not only deepening your understanding and strengthening your bond, but also finding solutions to the challenges in your relationship that genuinely work for both of you.  Tune in to episode 28 for actionable advice that will help you approach those painful moments with clarity, curiosity, and the tools you need to build a stronger + realer relationship, together. Your love story isn't broken—it's just waiting for a deeper, more compassionate conversation.   Resources mentioned in the show Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/freeminicourse Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: Group Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupprogram Apply for Stop Fighting! Private Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 ~ Connect with me on social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com  

In this episode I'm so honored to be joined by Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas to explore the impact of patriarchy, sexism, and misogyny in heterosexual relationships and how to break free from this toxic conditioning that contributes to so much pain for so many people. Vivek shares his own personal journey of recognizing and unlearning his own sexist conditioning and how this profoundly improved his own marriage. He also offers practical tips for how others can do this, too.  Vivek emphasizes the importance of redefining masculinity, dismantling hierarchical mindsets, and the power of self-compassion to support honest conversations between men and women about the impacts of sexism on their relationships.  Tune in for a raw, real, and inspiring conversation about deprogramming patriarchy, embracing vulnerability, and breaking free from toxic masculinity.   CONNECT WITH VIVEK PATEL Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas has been sharing Conscious Parenting concepts for over 15 years. The ideas he shares have been used by thousands of families to create more harmony and connection in their homes. He has written more than 500 parenting articles and created over 300 videos. There is also a book in the works. Vivek cares deeply about empowering parents to develop more harmonious relationships with their kids using a powerful approach called "Non-Coercive, Collaborative Parenting", based on Communication, Connection, and Collaboration. He is also best friends with his 27 yr old. Check out Vivek's social media @meaningfulideas http://www.facebook.com/meaningfulideas http://www.instagram.com/meaningfulideas https://www.youtube.com/meaningfulideas https://www.twitter.com/meaningfulideas https://www.tiktok.com/@meaningfulideas http://www.meaningfulideas.com If you'd like to receive more personalised and intimate parenting support from Vivek, please consider joining his parenting support group: https://www.meaningfulideas.com/courses/meaningful-ideas-membership Sign up for Vivek's FREE COURSE "Guiding Without Controlling". Registration Link https://meaningfulideas.com/fp/guiding-without-controlling-free-course   CONNECT WITH ALI MILLER Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: 6-Month Group Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupprogram Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Connect with me on social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

In this insightful episode of the Love Each Other Better Podcast, I'm honored to have a very special guest, relationship expert Maya Diamond. Maya guides us in a deep-dive into the fascinating world of attachment theory. She unravels the complexities of the four primary attachment styles—secure, avoidant, anxious, and fearful avoidant—and explores how our childhood experiences shape the way we connect in adult relationships. Maya shares practical, actionable advice for healing insecure attachment styles, offering listeners valuable tools to foster more secure and fulfilling connections.  Whether you're seeking to understand your own attachment style or improve your relationships, this episode is packed with insights and strategies to build deeper, more meaningful connections. Tune in to learn how to heal childhood wounds, cultivate secure attachments, and communicate effectively for a stronger, healthier partnership! ABOUT MY GUEST Maya Diamond is an expert Dating and Relationship Coach who is known for helping people finally find their beloved after years of trying, so that they can have happy, satisfying, and fulfilling relationships. She specializes in helping people heal their insecure attachment and find healthy secure love. Maya is a trained psychotherapist and holds a Master's Degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. In 2018, Maya was named one of the best life coaches in San Francisco by Expertise.com. In 2014, she was named one of the Best Relationship Experts in California by DatingAdvice.com. Maya's dating advice has been featured on mindbodygreen.com and elephant journal.com. She shared her message on the TedX stage, with her talk, "The Surprising Key to Building a Healthy Relationship that Lasts." CONNECT WITH MAYA DIAMOND Go to empowerlove.us/apply to book your free love breakthrough call with Maya Website: empowerlove.us Instagram: mayadiamond.empowerlove Fbook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/maptolastinglove/?ref=share&mibextid=wwXIfr Podcast: Rewire Your Attachment Style https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rewire-your-attachment-style-with-maya-diamond/id1499735786 ~ CONNECT WITH ALI MILLER Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: 6-Month Group Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupprogram Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Connect with me on social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

In this episode we dive into how to communicate assertively without crossing into aggression. I share powerful insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and offer practical tools to help you ask for what you want in a way that empowers you AND strengthens your connection with others. Whether you're navigating conflict with your partner, or just want to communicate more effectively, I've got heart-centered tips to help you create happier, more satisfying relationships. If you've ever wondered how to speak up for yourself without being confrontational, this episode is for you!   Resources Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Connect with me on social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I'm thrilled to welcome Roxy Manning, PhD, a psychologist, Nonviolent Communication trainer, and the author of How to Have Anti-Racist Conversations. Together, we explore the concept of the Beloved Community, inspired by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and how it ties into Roxy's work and activism. We dive into topics like having authentic and courageous conversations, addressing systems of oppression within families, and navigating how to handle harm in relationships. We also discuss the difference between positive and negative peace, and why being fierce—engaging in "necessary trouble"—is essential for real change. In a special segment, we role-play how to open up a meaningful conversation about patriarchy and sexism within a heterosexual relationship, offering practical tools and approaches for navigating these sensitive yet critical discussions. You won't want to miss Roxy's inspiring vision for a more just and equitable future, along with actionable ways to connect with her transformative work. This is a conversation full of wisdom, heart, and hope!   Connect with my guest, Roxy Mannning, PhD Clinical psychologist, certified trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication, and co-host of the podcast Fierce Compassion. As a Black Caribbean immigrant to the US, Roxy Manning brings a unique, intersectional lens to her organizational work, focusing on transforming communication to foster justice and equity. Author of How to Have Antiracist Conversations and coauthor of The Antiracist Heart, her writing provides practical tools for antiracist dialogue and building compassionate communities. Dr. Manning lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, inspiring change internationally through her teachings and writings. Find her books, writing, and podcast at https://www. roxannemanning.com.   Connect with your host, Ali Miller https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com Stop Fighting Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/StopFighting https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com

Welcome to a special New Year's episode! As we say goodbye to 2024 and look ahead to 2025, I'm diving into the idea of Relationship Resolutions. Whether it's your partner, kids, friends, coworkers, or even yourself, the relationships in our lives shape so much of our joy and fulfillment. In this episode, I share simple, practical ideas for strengthening those connections in meaningful ways. Using insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I'll guide you through reflection and goal-setting so you can show up with more intention, communicate more clearly, and build relationships that truly enrich your life. Let's reflect on the past year, dream big for the next one, and take small, actionable steps toward making 2025 your best year yet. Resources List of Universal Human Needs/Values: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Small Group Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupcoachingprogram Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com Email: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alimillercoaching

In this thought-provoking episode of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I sit down with Jen Lumanlan, host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast and author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the World. Join us for an introduction to how white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism shape family dynamics and influence parenting approaches, and how to shift out of traditional power dynamics to make family life easier and more connecting. Jen shares powerful insights and practical tools to help parents navigate conflicts and create family environments where everyone's needs—parents' and children's alike—are honored. From addressing the micro moments where resistance in children shows up to exploring deep concepts like white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism and how they intersect in our families, this episode offers a roadmap for transforming family relationships and beyond. Whether you're a parent seeking to navigate the pressures of modern life or someone looking to create a more just and collaborative family dynamic, this episode is packed with inspiration and actionable strategies. Tune in and start building a family culture rooted in equality, trust, and compassion today.   About Jen Lumanlan JEN LUMANLAN, MS, MEd, (she/her) hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which was named Best Research-Based Parenting Podcast by Lifehacker and has been downloaded almost 4 million times. After attending Berkeley and Yale and following a traditional career path in sustainability consulting, Jen found that parenting was her toughest challenge yet. She went back to school for a master's degree in psychology focused on child development and another in education, and trained as a Co-Active coach to share what she learned with other parents. Her work has been featured in outlets such as Psychology Today, Romper, and NPR. Jen is the author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family - and the World. Jen's Resources Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YourParentingMojo Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourparentingmojo/ Website: https://www.yourparentingmojo.com Take Jen's quiz: Tell Me What My Child Needs! https://www.yourparentingmojo.com/quiz When you understand your child's most important need and meet that more often, they'll stop resisting you as much. Read Jen's book: Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the World: https://yourparentingmojo.com/book/ Listen to Jen's podcast: Your Parenting Mojo: https://yourparentingmojo.com/episodes/ Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop (open anytime; just $7 with coupon code ALIMILLER) - shows you how to set limits effectively, and also set far fewer of them than you ever thought possible, without being a permissive parent! Taming Your Triggers workshop (opens every ~Oct and Feb) - helps parents understand the real causes of their triggered feelings, begin to heal those hurts so they feel triggered less often, and repair more effectively on the fewer occasions when it does still happen. Parenting Membership (opens every May) - provides ongoing support for parenting challenges - from tantrums/meltdowns, screen time, and raising healthy eaters to getting on the same page with your parenting partner.   Connect with Ali Miller Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) 8-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Website: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching NVC for Couples Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples/ Email: Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com    

In Episode 21 of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I'm joined by clinical psychologist,  neuropsychologist, and certified parenting coach, Dr. Gila, to explore self-regulation strategies and their transformative impact on intimate relationships. Dr. Gila is a master at simplifying complex concepts in interpersonal neurobiology while providing practical, actionable tools for managing emotional stress so we can thrive in our relationships.  In this illuminating episode that is infused with compassion, Dr. Gila discusses the importance of self-awareness, daily self-care practices, and how to effectively navigate moments of emotional overwhelm. You'll gain insights into the fight-flight-freeze response, what happens when we "flip our lids," practical ways to pause and reconnect, and how to strengthen emotional resilience within relationships. Tune in for science-based strategies, compassionate expert advice, and empowering tools to love each other better—even in the toughest moments.   ~ Dr. Gila (she/her) is a Jai-certified parent coach and certified Clini-Coach®, in addition to being a clinical psychologist and neuropsychologist. Most importantly, she's a single mom. Dr. Gila specializes in single parenting with connection, not perfection. She is passionate about helping single parents build healthy relationships with their kids AND themselves, through workshops, individual coaching, and her group program, The SingleParentology™ Lab. Her motto is: Even if you're on your own, you don't have to do it alone! Connect with Dr. Gila! COACHING: Dr. Gila Parenting Website: www.drgilaparenting.com   Email: info@drgilaparenting.com IG: www.instagram.com/drgila_parenting FB: www.facebook.com/drgilaparenting/   Free resources:  PDF GUIDE: Tantrums, & Meltdowns, & Rages...Oh My! The single parent's guide to understanding challenging behaviors (https://www.drgilaparenting.com/SP_tantrum_signup) AUDIO: Guided Meditation for Single Parents (https://www.drgilaparenting.com/SP_meditation) VIDEO: What Every Parent Needs to Know When the S**T Hits the Fan. (https://www.drgilaparenting.com/3truths)   THERAPY: GZR Psychology Services, PLLC * Website: www.gzrpsychology.com * Email: info@gzrpsychology.com * Phone: 914-292-3978 * Location: Fully virtual. NYS residents only. * Insurance: Private pay. Superbills offered where appropriate.   Connect with Ali Miller Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Ali@AliMillerCoaching.com  

In this enlightening episode I'm joined by Sarah Peyton, a renowned neuroscience educator, author, and certified Nonviolent Communication trainer. We delve into the fascinating intersection of neuroscience and Nonviolent Communication, unpacking how our understanding of trauma, nervous system states, and attachment styles can profoundly influence our relationships. Key Topics Include: The neuroscience of attachment styles and their impact on relationships How trauma affects emotional regulation and relational dynamics The role of Nonviolent Communication in fostering secure attachments Insights into different attachment styles and their significance The healing potential of emotional accompaniment in relationships Practical resources for those struggling with relationship challenges Whether you're seeking to deepen your connections or navigate relationship hurdles, this episode highlights the transformative power of both understanding the neuroscience of relationships and practicing Nonviolent Communication to enhance relational dynamics and emotional well-being. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that equips you with the tools we all need to love each other better! RESOURCES Sarah Peyton's resources Website: https://www.sarahpeyton.com Go to https://www.sarahpeyton.com and press the Start Healing Now button to receive the free guided meditations Sarah mentioned in this episode Facebook https://www.facebook.com/empathybrain/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPJ_wotaL-ZoZefuLdgEGkQ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahpeytonauthor/ Linked In https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-peyton-5979903   Ali Miller's resources **Small Group Coaching Program for Couples** https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupcoachingprogram Website: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com    FREE Mini-Course for Couples: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alimillercoaching 💞 Join my Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples: Transform Your Relationship One Conversation at a Time https://www.facebook.com/groups/NVCforCouples