Own Your Pleasure

In this episode Whitni discusses the complexities of libido differences in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding intimacy, communication, and connection. She outlines her remaining key things not to do when navigating these differences as well as their counterparts. She also shares how she can help. Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode Whitni discusses the complexities of libido differences in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding intimacy, communication, and connection. She outlines the first few of her key things not to do when navigating these differences. Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode Whitni continues her conversation with Erin Brown. They continue to explore various themes surrounding kink, pleasure, and sexual identity, particularly within the lesbian community. They discuss the misconceptions of 'lesbian bed death,” the importance of emotional intimacy, and the creative ways in which queer relationships navigate sexual satisfaction. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of energetic connections and vulnerability in intimate relationships, while also challenging societal norms around sex and attraction. Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast: https://thelesbianpeepshow.com Follow Erin Brown: ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

This month Whitni talks with Erin Brown, a public sociologist and host of the Lesbian Peep Show podcast. They explore the complexities of lesbian identity, the stigma surrounding lesbian sex, and the cultural narratives that shape perceptions of pleasure. They discuss the importance of representation in media, the role of kink and consent in sexual exploration, and the empowerment that comes from self-discovery. The dialogue emphasizes the need for authentic representation of queer experiences and the liberation that comes from embracing one's desires. Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast:https://thelesbianpeepshow.com  Follow Erin Brown:ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this month’s second episode, the conversation continues between Whitni Miller and Aleece Fosnight as they delve into the complexities of libido, hormones, and sexual health, emphasizing the importance of understanding the biopsychosocial model. They discuss the role of mental health in sexual desire, the impact of medical trauma on patient care, and the necessity for inclusive and trauma-informed healthcare environments. The conversation also highlights the need for comprehensive sex education and the challenges faced by queer individuals in accessing appropriate care. Finally, they explore future innovations in hormonal treatments and the importance of patient advocacy in navigating healthcare systems. Aleece Fosnight obtained a Master of Science in PA Studies from the University of Kentucky in 2011 and went on to receive her postgraduate certificate in sexuality counseling and education at the University of Michigan in 2014.  She opened her own private practice, the Fosnight Center for Sexual Health, in Asheville, NC in June 2020.  Her expertise includes urology, gynecology, pelvic health, gender affirming care, sexual medicine, hormones, and sexuality counseling.  She is an AASECT certified sexuality counselor and educator, nationally certified menopause practitioner, Health At Every Size medical provider, trauma-informed and kink-aware. Ms. Fosnight is on multiple local, state, and national boards, a national speaker for several CME organizations, guest lecturer for several PA and medical school programs, and medical advisor for Aeroflow Urology and Uberlube. Learn More about The Fosnight Center:https://fosnightcenter.com/  Follow Aleece Fosnight:ALL Platforms - @sexmedPA or @fosnightcenter Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this month’s first episode, Whitni Miller, founder of BDE Moves, sits down with the founder of The Fosnight Center, Aleece Fosnight. They explore the multifaceted aspects of health, particularly focusing on sexual health, perimenopause, and the biopsychosocial model of care. They discuss the importance of recognizing women's worth beyond reproductive capabilities, the complexities of hormonal changes during perimenopause, and the need for inclusivity in healthcare for non-binary and trans individuals. They emphasize the significance of listening to patients and the necessity for more research in these areas.  Aleece Fosnight obtained a Master of Science in PA Studies from the University of Kentucky in 2011 and went on to receive her postgraduate certificate in sexuality counseling and education at the University of Michigan in 2014.  She opened her own private practice, the Fosnight Center for Sexual Health, in Asheville, NC in June 2020.  Her expertise includes urology, gynecology, pelvic health, gender affirming care, sexual medicine, hormones, and sexuality counseling.  She is an AASECT certified sexuality counselor and educator, nationally certified menopause practitioner, Health At Every Size medical provider, trauma-informed and kink-aware. Ms. Fosnight is on multiple local, state, and national boards, a national speaker for several CME organizations, guest lecturer for several PA and medical school programs, and medical advisor for Aeroflow Urology and Uberlube. Learn More about The Fosnight Center:https://fosnightcenter.com/  Follow Aleece Fosnight:ALL Platforms - @sexmedPA or @fosnightcenter Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this month’s second episode, the conversation continues between licensed sex therapist Claire Perelman and Whitni Miller. They explore the themes of pleasure, self-acceptance, and the importance of aftercare in sexual relationships. The speakers discuss how embracing pleasure can serve as a form of resistance against societal norms, the significance of aftercare in ensuring emotional safety, and the role of self-acceptance in enhancing sexual enjoyment. They emphasize the need for open communication and negotiation in intimate relationships, the power of playfulness in rekindling desire, and the importance of building a shared language around sexual preferences. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to own their desires and engage in practices that foster deeper intimacy and connection. Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish, Certified Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. She is passionate about creating accessible sex education and normalizing play, pleasure, and sexuality through her work with clients, workshops, and across social media. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in relationships, sex, and intimacy for couples, individuals, and polycules. Learn More From Claire Perelman:https://www.sexclarified.com  Follow Claire Perelman:ALL Platforms - @sexclarifiedSubstack -https://sexclarified.substack.com/ Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this month’s first episode, licensed sex therapist Claire Perelman and Whitni Miller discuss the principles of kink and how they can enhance any sexual relationship. The discussion covers the importance of negotiation, checking in during intimacy, and the playful aspects of sex. They emphasize that kink is not just about BDSM but can be a tool for self-acceptance and deeper connection in all types of relationships. They also highlight the need for intentionality in creating a sexual context that fosters desire and pleasure. Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish, Certified Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. She is passionate about creating accessible sex education and normalizing play, pleasure, and sexuality through her work with clients, workshops, and across social media. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in relationships, sex, and intimacy for couples, individuals, and polycules. Learn More From Claire Perelman:https://www.sexclarified.com  Follow Claire Perelman:ALL Platforms - @sexclarifiedSubstack - https://sexclarified.substack.com/  Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this continuation of the enlightening conversation Dr. Kelly Casperson and host Whitni Miller are having, the discussion addresses the significant impact of hormones on women's health, particularly during menopause. They emphasize the importance of understanding and utilizing hormones like DHEA and estrogen for maintaining sexual health and overall well-being. The discussion also continues to address more common misconceptions about hormone replacement therapy and the societal stigma surrounding it, advocating for a more informed and empowered approach to women's health. Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon,CEO and founder of The Casperson Clinic, a modern practice dedicated to hormones and sex medicine, renowned public speaker, sex educator, and host of the top-ranking podcast You Are Not Broken. Dedicated to empowering women, Dr. Kelly blends humor, candor, and science to demystify sexual health, intimacy, and midlife wellness. Through her podcast and online courses, she tackles myths about desire and normalizes conversations around healthy, fulfilling sex. Her work also provides essential education on hormones and midlife health. Learn More From Dr. Kelly:https://kellycaspersonmd.com  Follow Dr. Kelly:IG - @kellycaspersonmdFB - @youarentbrokenYouTube - @kellycaspersonmd Substack - @kellycaspersonmd  Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Kelly Casperson and host Whitni Miller delve into the often misunderstood topics of perimenopause and menopause. They explore the definitions, symptoms, and societal stigmas surrounding these life stages, emphasizing the importance of hormone health and the potential benefits of hormone replacement therapy. The discussion highlights the need for better education and awareness regarding women's health, intimacy, and the impact of aging on overall well-being. Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon,CEO and founder of The Casperson Clinic, a modern practice dedicated to hormones and sex medicine, renowned public speaker, sex educator, and host of the top-ranking podcast You Are Not Broken. Dedicated to empowering women, Dr. Kelly blends humor, candor, and science to demystify sexual health, intimacy, and midlife wellness. Through her podcast and online courses, she tackles myths about desire and normalizes conversations around healthy, fulfilling sex. Her work also provides essential education on hormones and midlife health. Learn More From Dr. Kelly:https://kellycaspersonmd.com  Follow Dr. Kelly:IG - @kellycaspersonmdFB - @youarentbrokenYouTube - @kellycaspersonmd Substack - @kellycaspersonmd  Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, Dr. Emily Jamea and Whitni explore the complexities of sexual relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, vulnerability, and playfulness. They discuss how to navigate awkwardness in conversations about sex, the significance of transition rituals, and the difference between attunement and enmeshment. The discussion also touches on the paradox of control and surrender, the role of mirror neurons in connection, and the need for courage in overcoming self-consciousness. Ultimately, they highlight that sex can be a nourishing part of life at any stage and encourage listeners to embrace their desires and trust themselves. Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and the USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences including educators, health and mental health professionals, executive and corporate groups, and the general public. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. She offers online workshops as part of her mission to make her knowledge accessible to everyone. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today.  In her free time, Emily enjoys spending time with her husband and children, traveling as much as possible, and salsa dancing and painting when she gets the chance. Follow Dr. Jamea:All the social media channels @dremilyjamea. Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, your host Whitni Miller and this month’s esteemed guest, Dr. Emily Jamea discuss the concept of flow state sex, exploring how individuals can enhance their sexual experiences by fostering mindfulness, presence, and connection with their partners. The discussion delves into the differences between 'good enough' sex and flow state sex, emphasizing the importance of trust, security, and communication in relationships. Dr. Jamea shares insights on how to cultivate a fulfilling sexual experience by balancing challenge and skill, setting goals, and reconnecting with one's sensuality and curiosity. Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and the USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences including educators, health and mental health professionals, executive and corporate groups, and the general public. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. She offers online workshops as part of her mission to make her knowledge accessible to everyone. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today.  In her free time, Emily enjoys spending time with her husband and children, traveling as much as possible, and salsa dancing and painting when she gets the chance. Follow Dr. Jamea:All the social media channels @dremilyjamea. Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this continued conversation, Whitni, Ash, and Dawn explore the intricate dynamics of pleasure, intimacy, and emotional safety within queer relationships. They delve into the concept of flow state, emphasizing its importance in enhancing connection and intimacy. The discussion highlights the significance of understanding desire, whether responsive or spontaneous, and the necessity of communication and consent in fostering a satisfying sexual experience. The conversation culminates in the idea that pleasure is not only a personal journey but also a form of liberation, encouraging couples to embrace their desires and build secure, fulfilling relationships. Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they’re building as a couple. With that shared vision, they founded Queer Couples Coaching, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin. How to work with Ash & Dawn: https://linktr.ee/Queercouplescoaching Follow Ash & Dawn at: TikTok - @queercouplescoaching IG - @queercouplescoaching Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni engages with queer couples experts Ash and Dawn Noble to explore the intricate relationship between emotional safety and sexual intimacy in queer relationships. They discuss the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and communication in fostering deeper connections, as well as the challenges posed by societal norms and assumptions. The conversation highlights the significance of daily rituals, aftercare, and the messiness of relationships, ultimately emphasizing that security in a relationship can lead to greater exploration and fulfillment in the bedroom. Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they’re building as a couple. With that shared vision, they founded Queer Couples Coaching, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin. How to work with Ash & Dawn:https://linktr.ee/Queercouplescoaching Follow Ash & Dawn at: TikTok - @queercouplescoaching IG - @queercouplescoaching Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this engaging conversation, Whitni Miller and her guest Enita explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy in healthcare. They discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in the context of sexual satisfaction as one ages. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of self-worth and the journey of discovering pleasure throughout life, highlighting that intimacy and eroticism can evolve and deepen over time. The speakers encourage listeners to embrace their desires and advocate for their pleasure, regardless of age or past experiences. Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo. Learn More From Enita:http://epiphenita.com IG - @enitatorres Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita discuss the complexities of pleasure and intimacy as one ages. They explore the physical and psychological changes that come with aging, including menopause, body image issues, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships, setting boundaries, and finding creative solutions to enhance sexual enjoyment. They also touch on the significance of using lubrication, sex toys, and embracing vulnerability to maintain a fulfilling sex life. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to break societal taboos surrounding aging and sexuality, promoting a positive and open dialogue about pleasure at any age.   Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo. Learn More From Enita: http://epiphenita.com IG - @enitatorres Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita Torres explore the multifaceted aspects of menopause, sexual wellness, and the importance of body positivity. They discuss the societal norms surrounding aging and sexuality, the connection between overall health and sexual pleasure, and the journey of self-discovery that comes with embracing one's desires. The dialogue emphasizes the need for open conversations about sex, the impact of performance pressure, and the liberation found in choosing pleasure as a path to selflessness. Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo. Learn More From Enita:http://epiphenita.com IG - @enitatorres Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves (if it returns)

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages in a heartfelt conversation with Enita Torres, a 66-year-old queer woman who shares her journey of self-discovery, love, and the challenges of navigating her queer identity in a challenging environment. The discussion covers Enita's experiences with custody battles, societal norms surrounding queerness, the importance of intimacy and trust in relationships, and the impact of menopause on sexuality. The episode emphasizes the significance of owning one's pleasure and celebrating personal transitions. Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo. Learn More From Enita:http://epiphenita.com IG - @enitatorres Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves (if it returns)

00:00 Introduction to Owning Your Pleasure 01:59 Navigating Kinks and Open-Mindedness in Relationships 04:28 Understanding Anxiety and Performance in Sexual Dynamics 12:07 Exploring Submission and Dominance in Kink 15:38 Desiring More Intensity in BDSM Relationships 22:30 Normalizing Sexual Thoughts and Desires 25:04 Overcoming Orgasm Challenges in Partnered Sex 30:44 Navigating Intimacy and Communication in Relationships In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller addresses various questions related to sexual pleasure, kinks, and intimacy. The conversation covers topics such as the importance of open communication in relationships, navigating anxiety and performance issues in sexual dynamics, exploring submission and dominance in kink, and overcoming challenges related to orgasm during partnered sex. Whitni emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, education, and support in owning one's pleasure and fostering healthy sexual relationships. Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves (if it sticks around)

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitney Miller addresses various questions related to intimacy, sexual desires, and relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality time in relationships, navigating differences in libido, and the significance of open communication about sexual needs. Additionally, the discussion explores the introduction of kink and BDSM dynamics, as well as strategies for initiating intimacy in a way that respects both partners' comfort levels. Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksIG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemoves TikTok - @bdemoves (if it returns)