Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast

We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series!This is an all-new episode on the letter R — and you’re REALLY going to REVEL in this jam-packed conversation.We’re covering a range of relationship, sex and polyamory/non-monogamy terms grouped into three themes:Relationships & relationship structuresSexual and erotic termsEmotional and psychological termsIt’s a truly robust episode filled with really helpful R words like:Relationship Anarchy (RA)Relationship EscalatorReciprocityRimmingRadical HonestyReassuranceRepairResentmentWe cover over 20 different words — with deeper dives into topics like relationship agreements and relationship reviews using the RAADAR method, rope play (Shibari), and responsive desire.Get ready for a rich, reflective, and maybe even a little risqué ride through the Rs.Many of the words we explore here (and throughout our T&A Alphabet Series) are also part of our upcoming project, The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world: ⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠Show Resources:Rich Relationships: Building Your Million Dollar Network. Book by Selena Soo - Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer

We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast private Facebook community. In this episode, recorded in 2021, we dive into the letter Q — Queer — exploring identity, fluidity, heteronormativity, mononormativity, intersectionality, visibility, mental health, and the intersection of queerness and consensual non-monogamy.We talk about definitions of queer, how marginalization can impact mental health, and common misconceptions about being queer and polyamorous. We also share some statistics—though at the time of recording, specific data on people identifying as “queer” was limited.We share our personal experiences with queerness: what it was like growing up, coming to queer identity later in life, and how our relationship has opened us to limitless sexual and emotional expression. Tara shares her journey coming out to family as queer and dating a woman before embracing polyamory, and André shares his experiences with family and how the reactions varied.We also invite your reflections in the comments:Is queer a term you identify with?What does being queer mean to you?Why is it important to identify as queer?If you identify as queer or another non-heterosexual or non-monogamous identity, are you out and open about it?Note: We did our best with the video and audio quality, but it isn’t perfect. As we felt the content is worth sharing, we're sharing it anyway!Chapters00:00 - Introduction 00:35 - Exploring the Term 'Queer'02:37 - Personal Identities and Experiences with Queerness07:10 - Definitions and Understanding of Queerness10:48 - Navigating Heteronormativity and Mononormativity15:04 - Reflections on Coming Out and Self-Identification19:21 - Redefining Queerness: Beyond Labels26:42 - Intersectionality and Mental Health in the LGBTQ+ Community30:08 - Navigating Polyamory and Queerness31:00 - Coming Out Stories: Personal Experiences and Family DynamicsResources:Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠Book: Bi Notes for a Bisexual Revolution by Shiri Eisner - https://www.amazon.ca/Bi-Bisexual-Revolution-Shiri-Eisner/dp/1580054749Coming out as polyamorous video - our initial talk in preparing for the conversation - How to talk to parents about being polyamorous or in an open relationship - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=OaNmNcBea2bA27sH Let's Talk Polyamory Facebook Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer

We’re back with another playful, passionate, and slightly provocative instalment of our much-loved T&A Alphabet Series!These episodes originally began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly updated and pleasantly packed just for you.In this episode, we dive  playfully into the letter P — and as the title suggests, it’s not just about polyamory. Oh no. It’s a plentiful, punchy, and sometimes polarizing collection of P words that show up in conversations about relationships, sex, and non-monogamy.Here’s a taste of what we cover:PolyamoryPolysaturatedPolygamy & PolyandryPower dynamicsPrimary partnerPansexualParaphiliaAnd if you patiently persevere to the end… the sexiest P words make an appearance too 🔥Think PIV, promiscuity, period sex, and more.Preparing for this episode was pure pleasure given the practically limitless P words we could have covered. Not all of them made it into the podcast — so yes, this episode is “just the tip.” 😏Many of the words we explore here (and throughout our T&A Alphabet Series) are also part of our upcoming project, The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world:https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist📖 Chapters00:00 Introduction to Polyamory and P Words01:30 Understanding Polyamory and Its Types03:18 Exploring Polyfidelity and Polycules06:02 Defining Poly Intimates and Polysaturation08:06 Polyamory Under Duress09:52 Primary Partners and Power Dynamics13:50 Pansexuality and Paraphilia Explained15:54 Passive Aggressive and Direct16:46 Sexual Terms: PIV, PIA, and PIM17:41 Promiscuity: Gender Perspectives and Cultural Views20:14 Play and Period Sex: Breaking Taboos23:36 The P-Spot and Male PleasureShow Resources:Poly Newbies Digital Course – Listener OfferA practical, supportive place for the poly-curious, poly-new, and poly-questioninghttps://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy?Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André:https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultationWant personalized coaching support?Book a complimentary coaching consultation with Tara:https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

Welcome to Season 3! We’re so excited to be back with a brand new season filled with all the conversations you love — and more.This season, we’ll be continuing our T&A Alphabet Series with episodes dropping throughout the year, and we’ll also be welcoming new guests to the podcast. If you’d like to be a guest, or know someone who would be a great fit, we’d love to hear from you.The idea for this episode emerged while we were in Mexico over the holidays, where we found ourselves revisiting a question we return to often: Can someone still be polyamorous — an identity we both hold — even when they’re not actively “practicing” it?In this episode, we explore the evolving nature of polyamory as both an identity and a practice. We reflect on our recent experiences with dating and not dating, what has shifted in our personal and professional lives, and how our priorities continue to change over time.André also shares about a recent connection with someone who does not identify as non-monogamous, including what it was like to navigate that experience (spoiler alert: it's been very positive), how it felt to share it with Tara, and the real-time conversations that followed. Tara reflects on her own experience of learning that André was feeling new relationship energy (NRE), and what that brought up for her.Along the way, we dive into the importance of communication when navigating new connections, explore NRE in long-term relationships, and discuss the values that underpin polyamory / non-monogamy as a relational identity. We also share listener reflections around identity, values, and how these ideas show up in different seasons of life.This conversation emphasizes that identifying as polyamorous can remain true even during phases of less active dating, and invites listeners to reflect on their own relational identities, values, and intentions for the future.Chapters00:00: Welcome to Season Three01:31: Reflections on Identity and Polyamory04:47: Exploring Relational Identity07:24: Navigating New Relationships10:08: The Dynamics of Non-Monogamy12:53: Understanding New Relationship Energy15:32: Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth18:07: Navigating Non-Monogamy: Embracing Other Connections21:38: Defining Polyamory: Identity vs. Practice25:15:The Emotional Landscape of Polyamory28:08: Polyamory as an Evolving Identity31:51: Listener suggested reflectionsShow Resources:Contact Us via the form on our website - https://www.taraandandre.com/#section-udHUURtgCyNight Thoughts - Reflections of a Sex Therapist, by Dr. Avodah Offit - https://www.indigo.ca/en-ca/night-thoughts-reflections-of-a-sex-therapist/9781568214580.html Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠

We’re back with another juicy instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many of these episodes began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly re-recorded, updated, and expanded just for you.In this episode, we dive into the letter O — and yes, we save the biggest O for last 😉O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral, and Other Ohs…We explore a wide range of O topics while providing thoughtful insights into each one, with a strong emphasis on consent, communication, and understanding. Along the way, we share personal experiences and offer practical, real-world advice to help you deepen intimacy, navigate complexity, and enhance pleasure in your relationships in ways that feel aligned and sustainable.This episode covers:Open Relating – what it really means in practiceOrgies – including consent in group settingsOut & Outed – navigating visibility, disclosure, and choiceObligations – exploring both external expectations and self-imposed pressureOral & Outercourse – expanding pleasure beyond penetration and performanceAnd finally, our perfectly timed CLIMAX: ORGASMS ✨We talk about what orgasms actually are, different types of orgasms, what happens in the body when we orgasm, facts and myths, faking it, common challenges, and what you can do to increase pleasure — with or without orgasm as the goal.Equal parts educational, playful, and grounding, this episode supports listeners who are exploring relationship dynamics, strengthening intimacy, or simply wanting better conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection.📖 Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview02:22 Open Relating Definition03:10 Orgies & Consent04:48 Being Out and Outed 09:08 Understanding Obligations in Relationships09:55 Oral Sex 12:37 Outer Course 14:46 Understanding Orgasms & The Types of Orgasms20:56 What Happens to Your Brain & Body During Orgasm24:23 Studies and Facts about Orgasms30:22 Faking It34:00 Techniques for Enhancing Pleasure 37:58 Sensate Focus and Intimacy 39:45 The Importance Self-Exploration & Masterbation42:08 Conclusion and Call to ActionShow Resources:Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4QjdNH6LdaYqOgFaaFMqja?si=FBh6ICbDQB-Fgo9SUd6jhA How We Love:  What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me? https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=2rVxqTliScODBUqIJ4TuMA What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me Free Worksheet - https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=C87tjthIRY2Ro8KANTnE_w A is for Anorgasmia Episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/1oBt1yFEfFsnCUGzTRmF8p?si=Nyjkx7KeRc6YZns0wxdjKQ How to Talk to Family About Being Polyamorous - Tara & Andre preparing for Tara’s coming out to parents - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=VzvgfmS8SSuuufqB 3 Minute Game - https://www.schoolofconsent.org/blog/3-minute-game Sensate Focus Article - https://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work 

We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community. This one is a freshly re-recorded instalment — updated, expanded, and shaped by listener requests. In this episode we are diving into the letter N with The Nine N Words You Need to Know!We explore key “N” words that often come up in non-monogamous relationships. We talk about non-negotiables, the meaning and impact of names and titles, necrophilia, and neediness in relationships—when it can be a call for support and when it might negatively impact the connection. We also cover nesting partners, the importance of the word no and recognizing both verbal and body-language cues, and what it looks like to normalize non-monogamy in everyday life. Plus, we touch on numbers (a.k.a. body count of sexual partners) and nudism, and why these conversations matter.This is a fun, thoughtful, and wide-ranging episode we know you’ll enjoy!Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452. 📖 Episode Chapters:00:00 - Introduction 01:38 - Exploring Non-Negotiables in Relationships03:56-  Names and Titles in Non-Monogamous Relationships05:46 - Understanding Necrophilia 10:30 - Navigating Neediness 12:11 - Nesting & Nesting Partners13:08  - Nipples and Nipple Play15:45 - No when shared verbally or through body language17:53 Normalization of Non-Monogamy21:21 Nudism and Naturism24:25 Discussing Numbers in RelationshipsShow Resources:Join the waitlist and be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out with all the HOT words from A-Z! ⁠⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠Necrophilia image and article - https://www.vice.com/en/article/yvxem5/the-little-death-living-and-loving-as-a-necrophiliac-51Relationship Burnout: How to Make LRE Feel Like NRE Again podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ujeot4xkUKWwZCPClzVDt?si=T0BytQblSUGqLyiqj7494Q Consent is Sexy: Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=cg7CPN_yTXSkmTlsRchq0w Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamLooking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series!These episodes were originally delivered as live trainings on Mondays inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and over the last few months we’ve been uploading them to all major podcast platforms.Today’s episode is all about the letter M — and it’s a good one.We’re diving into: M is for the 5 Ways to Make Sure Your COMMUNICATION Isn’t MISCOMMUNICATION.In this episode, we explore:The core components of successful communication.How to break old or unhelpful communication habits and replace them with patterns that actually work.Why getting “heated” or “upset” is valuable information — uncomfortable, yes, but often pointing us toward something meaningful to unpack after the moment passes.Active listening: how to become better listeners and how to recognize when we aren’t.Communication models we love, including the Interactional Model.Practical, real-life examples of how to become a clearer, more effective communicator.How to approach more challenging conversations and invite true dialogue.The importance of being clear, honest, and direct.What happens when we hold things in instead of expressing them.How trust and rapport are built through communication.How your beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions shape the way you show up in conversation.Progressive Communication: what it is, and how to use it to move conversations forward instead of repeating the same loops.What to do when someone comes into a conversation already feeling defensive.And how to use “breaks” effectively.We also share an analogy that highlights the difference between genuine communication and miscommunication, plus a personal example of a moment between us where emotions were high and things got a little “heated” — and what we learned from it.Want to hear T&A live?Join us on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Learn more about the Mermaid Lounge at mermaidlounge.ca. Grab tickets at thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452Show Resources:Feeld Dating Site - https://feeld.co/ Dr. Amy Corey - Evolution of Human Communication - From Theory to Practice - article - https://www.scribd.com/document/535619793/Communication-By-Dr-Amy-M-CoreyLooking for support working through your communication patterns or other issues?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

Consent isn’t just about saying yes or no, it is much more complex than that. In this episode, Tara and André discuss and explore the nuances of consent in intimate interactions, emphasizing that consent is not a one-time agreement but an active, ongoing conversation that involves both people every step of the way.They unpack what enthusiastic consent really means, how it plays out in different settings like dates, parties, and clubs, and why the idea of “ongoing consent” or “ask once” don’t apply. Instead, consent is a living, dynamic process — one that deepens trust, connection, and genuine desire. And each person plays an active role and responsibility  in ensuring mutual comfort.You’ll also hear about some of the most common frameworks used to understand consent — from FRIES (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific, developed by Planned Parenthood) and CRISP (Considered, Reversible, Informed Specific, Participant) to frameworks used in the kink community such as  SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). As well as the Yes, No, Maybe List. Each of these helps shape awareness, yet none replace real-time communication.Tara and André share examples of what consent can sound like in the moment even in non-sexual environments - for example a recent example where Tara asked someone - Would you be open to me giving you a compliment?”, why asking builds connection rather than killing the mood, and how saying — or hearing — a clear no can be just as sexy as an enthusiastic yes.And finally they talk about consent and law.This conversation reminds us that consent is the heartbeat of healthy intimacy — an evolving, mutual agreement that requires awareness, communication, and care.Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452. 📖 Episode Chapters:3:07 Understanding Consent6:07 Ongoing Consent: Myths & Realities12:21 Consent Frameworks23:14 The Nuances of Consent34:25 Navigating Compliments & Consent40:20 Consent in Different Scenarios55:50 The Legal Landscape of ConsentShow Resources:K is for Kink, Kitchen Table Polyamory, Kissing + Other K Words Episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/7FOrTjvfhxOB2Il9BLoNwc?si=ihdSbNg2RSaxlE24TjOPgA Cup of Team Consent Video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8 Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠Looking for therapy or coaching?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

Ever wondered what it’s really like to go to a sex or lifestyle club for the first time — and what to do to prepare? Or maybe you’ve been before and the experience wasn’t what you hoped?In this special episode Tara is live on location at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto, Ontario, joined by Event Host Amy,!Together, they explore what to expect when visiting a lifestyle space — from atmosphere and etiquette to safety, consent, and connection.You’ll get an insider tour of the newly renovated Mermaid Lounge and adjoining X-Club and hear practical guidance for what to do before, during, and after your visit to spaces like these so the experience feels positive, secure, and aligned with your personal values and boundaries.Included in this discussion is how to plan before the event with a partner — including what scenarios you’re open to exploring and how you’ll check-in throughout the visit and communicate if one of you feels uncomfortable or needs support once you’re there. Even with the best planning, emotions can arise, so having a shared plan for navigating them helps everyone feel safe and connected.Whether you’re curious, nervous, or simply exploring new sides of your sexuality, this episode will help you feel prepared and confident.🎧 Tune in for:A guided tour of the Mermaid LoungeTips for your first (or next) lifestyle club experienceConsent, communication, and aftercare insightsHow to plan ahead, check in, and debrief after attendingDetails on T&A’s live talk on December 10: The 7-Step Securely Non-Monogamous FrameworkShow Resources:Mermaid Lounge hours, facilities, tickets and info available at: https://mermaidlounge.ca/Join us for our LIVE Talk December 10 for Reconnect Wednesday - info & Tickets at: -https://www.thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452 Podcast Episode: H is for Sexual Health & Hair: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7nOEQfbBcH8EXx1XItHdKF?si=wAnUraOnQAKffvD8kkXCKw Podcast Episode: STI Testing and Acceptable Risk - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2qjpsoc3tY2Ea1lE4yaLVE?si=JqmlxdQ4QLW2eZVvSbNRWwAdd clubs you've visited to T&A's Sex Clubs and Destinations Around the World List - https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1t8DzYsOJSQ0g1cboAuBl_ibFYQGwpHoiEO-JdriKUjA/edit?usp=sharing

In Part 2 we continue our deep dive into the complex world of sex, relationships, and the taboos that shape them. We explore what makes certain topics so charged, how our personal experiences influence what we consider “off-limits,” and why breaking taboos can lead to more honest and connected relationships.💬 In this episode:What Are the Biggest Taboos Around Sex & Relationships? We examine the issues people still hesitate to talk about — and how these silences affect connection and trust.Personal Perspectives on Breaking Taboos - we share our own stories on what it means to confront stigma, challenge assumptions, and choose openness over secrecy.Community Reflections - Drawing from listener and community feedback, we discuss the taboos that continue perpetuate — and why some conversations still feel risky to have, even in open-minded circles.Why is Breaking Taboos Important ? Finally we explore why taboos should be broken and whether some taboos might serve a purpose — creating mystery, excitement, or deeper meaning — and how to balance curiosity with respect, consent, and intention.It’s a thoughtful, candid conversation about where our edges come from, how they evolve, and why it’s worth questioning them in pursuit of deeper authenticity and connection.✨ Catch us live!We will be at Booth 322 at the Toronto Taboo Show, October 17–19, 2025. We will be giving seminars Friday at 6:30 PM and Saturday at 8:30 PM on Non-Monogamy Essentials: Making it Secure, Satisfying, and Sexy!📖 Episode Chapters:00:00 — Breaking Taboos in Sex and Relationships05:20 — Exploring Non-Monogamy and Its Misunderstandings10:48 — Personal Experiences with Sexuality and Openness16:37 — Addressing Common Taboos and Myths in Non-Monogamy25:08 — Navigating Relationship Taboos29:14 — The Complexity of Secret Partners31:55 — Reprioritizing Partners in Non-Monogamy36:21 — Challenging Myths About Polyamory38:58 — Sexual Health and Multiple Partners40:40 — Consent and Altered States41:43 — The Pressure of “Best” Sex44:11 — The Importance of Breaking TaboosShow Resources:Taboo Show - https://tabooshow.com/ Me B4 We Intimacy Coaching - https://linktr.ee/meb4wePoly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Tara sits down with Darryl Rosengreen, VP of Marketing and Promotion—and one of the owners—of The Taboo Show, to explore breaking taboos in sex and relationships.Together, they talk about how events like The Taboo Show create safe, inclusive spaces for people to learn, explore, and get curious about sexuality, kink, and relationships. Tara and Darryl share how these environments can inspire conversations you may not have had before—or didn’t know how to start—and help normalize talking about sex, sexuality, and intimacy in fun and educational ways.💬 In this episode:Why breaking taboos helps create healthier, more open relationshipsHow exploring sexuality can spark new conversations and self-discoveryWhat to expect at The Taboo Show (and why it’s a safe, educational, and fun space)The importance of normalizing conversations about sex and relationships✨ Catch us live at Taboo!T&A will be at Booth 322 at the Toronto Taboo Show, October 17–19, 2025. We'll also be speaking on Friday at 6:30 PM and Saturday at 8:30 PM on Non-Monogamy Essentials: Making it Secure, Satisfying, and Sexy!🎟️ We’re also doing a draw for free tickets to the show! Enter at https://events.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2025draw  before October 12 for your chance to win.📖 Episode Chapters:00:00 — Introduction to Taboo Topics in Relationships03:46 — Exploring Taboos in Sex and Relationships07:56 — The Taboo Show Experience13:51 — Breaking Down Taboos Around Sex 16:46 — Advice for First-Time AttendeesShow Resources:Taboo Show - https://tabooshow.com/ Enter to WIN free tickets to the Toronto show -  https://events.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2025draw Me B4 We Intimacy Coaching - https://linktr.ee/meb4wePoly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultationBook a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠

We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series—where we explore the big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex, one letter at a time. These episodes were originally live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group, and over the past year we’ve been releasing them onto podcast platforms.At the very start of Season 1, we shared L is for 5 Steps From Limitations to Liberation. Now, we’re circling back with a brand-new episode—because “L” deserves way more LOVE. In this episode, we dive into a lineup of L’s: Lube, Libido, Latex, Lingerie, Love, Lies, Lust vs. Longing, Layering, Lifestyle, Leather, and Labia.We take a playful and practical approach to breaking these down, sharing our own personal stories and examples from our work. You’ll hear why lube is a game-changer (at any age), what lingerie really means (and if men have it too), and how destructive communication like layering sneaks into relationships.We also dive deeper into libido and desire — what spontaneous vs. responsive desire actually looks like, how libido shifts over time, and what to do when there’s a mismatch in your relationship. Spoiler: it’s not all about “fixing” it — it’s about planning ahead, knowing mismatches are inevitable at some point, and building the communication skills to talk about it openly when it happens.Join us for a mix of humour, honesty, and depth in exploring love, sex, and polyamory!Show Resources:Episode 2: 5 Steps from Limitations to Liberation - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4f4lr2PWdpdVxfZmXGzcT2?si=JOYl2LeTSNmsCIhSIjaoLQ Taboo Show Toronto - Enter our draw to win a free pass - https://events.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2025draw - and find our more about the show at https://tabooshow.com/toronto Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

We’re back with our T&A Alphabet Series! These episodes were originally live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. Over the last few months, we’ve been uploading them onto podcast platforms, but this time we’re bringing you a brand new episode.Today’s episode is all about the letter K! We bring you: K is for Kink, Kitchen Table Polyamory & Kissing + Other K WordsHere’s what we cover in this episode:Kink – what it is, common myths about it, how it differs from a fetish, where BDSM fits in, types of kink, and the importance of communication, consent and safetyKitchen Table Polyamory and why it isn’t the ideal or only way to do polyamoryKissing – including André’s story of being taught to “kiss like you’re eating a peach,” and how some relationships have rules around kissing and how to tell someone if you don’t like how someone kisses.Knights – not the armor-wearing kind, but staying the night or going on a vacation with another partner and how some specify where some people might have rules around where these overnights can happen.Kites & Strings – as a dynamic between two people (which we did a whole podcast on)Kuddling – when why & cuddling matters plus cuddle partiesKidversations – talking to kids about sex, identity, relationships and non-monogamy in a way that’s open but also age-appropriate so that they can be safe and consent.Kama Sutra - the art of living and loving well, and not just a sexual gymnastics manualAnd a few others! We also slide in some other topics like vetos, consent, communication,  poly-saturated, metamours and more!What did we miss? Let us know in the comments!✨ Bonus: We’re also linking our original K is for Kink talk in the show notes, where we go much deeper into all things kink, including how to get started if you’re curious.Want more? Sign up to be the first to know when our Little Book of Poly Love is released—a pocket-sized guide to the words and wisdom that make relationships work. https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠⁠Show Resources:K is for Kink YouTube Talk with Patric - https://www.youtube.com/live/2_v8nPMRa5c?si=AB1633gUoKiWtMW_BDSM Checklist - Do not complete this form! This is an example only - https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfGEjHQBWLCqFQB2oAJZuzkjIlBuXyUX2xf-TVIAWQZOU5juQ/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=103121892334923731334 BDSM Test - https://bdsmtest.org/select-lang Episode 28: Kites and Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4rDUwXR9jkwxUDMDBXusF7?si=xSvL6lh4Qfi4hqgT44o1xgEpisode 33: What to Say? How to Talk to Kids About Non-Monogamy, Sex, Kink and Other Stuff with Ms. Ashley Robertson -  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mNuk3UkfqUJGWV79BnA4S?si=g8oCKb5rS6KdIqzdQXWVJw FetLife Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community - https://fetlife.com/Oasis Aqualounge Sex Club Toronto - https://oasisaqualounge.com/ Taboo: Everything to Do About Sex Show Toronto - https://tabooshow.com/toronto Complete this form to be added to our mailing list - https://www.taraandandre.com/#section-udHUURtgCy Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

Do labels in non-monogamy give you clarity—or do they feel like a box you don’t want to fit into?Labels in non-monogamy—love them or hate them, they’re everywhere. For some people, labels bring clarity and a sense of belonging. For others, they feel restrictive or unnecessary. The truth? Whether labels are important is a personal choice.In this short but powerful episode from our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group archives (saved before Facebook removed all group livestreams), we explore the role of labels in consensual non-monogamy and ask: What’s right for me?We start with the basics:✅ What do labels actually mean, and why do some people use them?✅ Introducing GSERD—Gender, Sexual, Erotic, Relational Diversity—as one way of identifying yourself.✅ A high-level overview of Jessica Fern’s Styles of Non-Monogamy diagram, which maps different relationship styles onto quadrants of high-to-low sexual and emotional exclusivity—and how you can use it to explore what feels right for you. (For a deeper dive into these styles, check out S1, Episode 7: How We Love: What Style of Non-Monogamy is Right for Me? episode.)From there, we talk about:✅ Deciding what labels (if any) align with your values and relationships✅ What you’d like your partners to call you—whether that’s boyfriend, girlfriend, boo, FWB, or something entirely your own✨ If you haven’t already, download our free worksheet—What Style of Consensual Non-Monogamy is Right for Me?—which includes Jessica Fern’s diagram and reflection prompts to help you map out your own place on the spectrum. Get it here: https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyleOther Show Resources:All our 🔥 hot links: https://linktr.ee/Letstalkpolyamory Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and arrange a complimentary therapy consultation at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠Want to have wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for the Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferWant more direct support from T&A, join us in Polyamory Mastery - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Poly Secure by Jessica Fern - https://www.jessicafern.com/books Let’s Talk Polyamory TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@letstalkpolyamory Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/ And in case you don’t know this famous comedian - here’s some info on Groucho Marx - https://www.biography.com/actors/groucho-marx 

We’re continuing our summer 🚗 road trip through the Gaspésie in Quebec and into the Maritime provinces—New Brunswick, Nova Scotia (including Cape Breton), and Prince Edward Island and it's been beyond what we ever imagined!We've discovered parts of 🇨🇦 Canada we hadn’t visited before, and, using the Home Exchange platform has not only saved us money ($0 for accommodations using points earned from others staying in our homes) but has allowed us to stay in some pretty awesome places and meet really great people along the way! Link in the the show resources to find out more and get a bonus 250pts when signing up!As we travel, we’re recording these bite-sized Carversations just for you!In this episode, we dive into a question that comes up often in relationships: Can love be repaired? We explore what conditions need to be present for real repair to happen—like willingness from both partners, acknowledgment of what has happened, and the ability to take responsibility for our part.We talk about how different factors may influence whether repair is possible: loss of trust or an egregious action, attachment styles, misaligned values, or differing visions for the future (such as whether or not to live together). We also dig into why “determination” alone isn’t enough, and how time—or even taking breaks—can sometimes play a role in the repair process (and yes, we have a healthy debate about this!). Along the way, we highlight the importance of reflection, honest communication, and taking concrete action toward change—not just talking about it.We’d love to hear from you, too—have you ever had to repair a relationship? What did you do, did it work (or not), and what advice would you share with others? Share your thoughts in the comments on this episode, answer the poll or join the discussion in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group. We refer to our 36 Questions episode and recommend that you listen to it and download our free resources which both the original 36 questions plus our 36 additional ones. Links below.And if you’re in the middle of trying to repair a relationship and want support, we’ve got you covered:Book a therapy consultation call with André - ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠Book a Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession ⁠Since we were recording on the road, the sound isn’t studio-perfect—there was a bit of background noise and static we did our best to fix—but we hope you’ll still find this Carversation practical and helpful.Show Resources:Home Exchange Platform - use this link to get 250 bonus points when you sign up (that's a 2 night stay in most places - https://www.homeexchange.com/?sponsorkey=taraandandre-cbef0 Let's Talk Polyamory Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpolyThe 36 Questions That May Lead to Love ... and the Other 36 To Stay in Love podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/02k2ogdF9gB98NFmdiAxVt?si=jn8VCJohRs2e2D2_DuUMmwDownload the 36 + 36 Questions Resource - https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/36plus36questionsFind out more about the services we offer + additional supports and resources that are available - https://www.taraandandre.com/

Sometimes the best place for a relationship check-in isn’t over coffee or at the kitchen table—it’s in the car, somewhere between snack stops and scenic views. 🚗✨We’re continuing our summer road trip through the Gaspésie in Quebec and into the Maritimes, and along the way we’re recording these bite-sized Carversations.In this episode, we share two different versions of relationship check-ins you can try, including the RAADAR Method—originally from the Multiamory Podcast but with our own extra “A”. RAADAR stands for Review, Agenda, Affirm & Connect (our add-on), Discussion, Actions, and Reconnect - a practice we teach to our clients and in our Poly Newbies Digital Course - which helps keep these reviews structured, connected, and productive.We also share a few easy starter questions you can use for your next road trip check-in, and we get personal by answering them ourselves:How are you feeling in the relationship right now?Any wins or highlights lately?Anything you’re struggling with or that needs more attention?Anything you’re excited about coming up?🎧 Heads up: This episode was recorded on the road, so you’ll hear a bit of “road trip ambiance” in the background—consider it part of the experience!💬 We’d love to hear your ideas!What questions do you love asking during check-ins?What topics are harder to discuss during check-insHave you tried the RAADAR Method?Got a road trip story that brought you closer to your partner(s)?Join the conversation in the episode comments or in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group.Show Resources:Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Want to connect with others who get it? Join our private Facebook group: 🔗 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpolyamory⁠Curious about Coaching? Sign up for a Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠ Looking for therapy? Book a complimentary therapy consultation with André Turcotte at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ You can also explore other ways to work with us as well as access other great resources at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com⁠Multiamory Podcast - https://www.multiamory.com/podcast

In this episode we’re digging into the archives to bring you a conversation that originally aired live in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. Since Facebook now only stores live videos for 30 days, we’re working behind the scenes to download and share some of those gems here on the podcast.In this episode, we dive into a question we hear all the time: How do I attract (and keep) better poly partners?Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or have been dating for a while, this episode is full of insight, real stories, and practical tools. We talk about: How we might be perceived on dating apps when we list “non-monogamous” in our profileThe (hilarious) story of our first date and what our initial reactions wereWe also share how our Securely Polyamorous Framework—which we teach in our course and coaching program—applies directly to dating and the process of meeting and keeping great partners. We explore things like communication attunement, knowing what you want, setting personal boundaries, creating values-based agreements and nurturing connections that are built to last.And if you’ve ever found yourself attracting people who aren’t a fit (or who vanish after a great first date), we talk about the unconscious ways that might be happening—and what you can do to shift it.🎁 BONUS! This week, we’re sharing our Online Dating Guide which includes:✅ A list of our favourite dating sites for non-monogamous folks✅ Tips for writing a standout profile✅ An online dating checklist✅ Links to related trainings and podcasts👉Download it for free here: ⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/onlinedatingguide⁠💬 Want to connect with others who get it? Join our private Facebook group:🔗 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpolyamory⁠⚡️ Curious about Coaching? Sign up for a Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara at:🔗 ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠ ⚡️Looking for Therapy? Book a complimentary therapy consultation with André Turcotte at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ ✨You can also explore other ways to work with us as well as access other great resources at:🔗 ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com⁠

At the time of recording this episode, it’s the Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy — July 7–13, 2025. This global campaign and week of action, created by Open Love NY, celebrates the many ways people love, connect, and relate outside of monogamy—including polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, swinging, and more.The Week of Visibility exists to:Celebrate diverse relationship structures (because monogamy is actually the minority—both globally and across human history),Challenge stigma and misconceptions (we’re not perverts, immature, or avoidant, thank you very much),Promote inclusion in media, healthcare, education, and law,And Uplift marginalized voices, especially queer, trans, BIPOC, and disabled folks whose experience of non-monogamy is often erased or misunderstood.In this episode, we explore what it means to be visible as people who practice consensual non-monogamy. We reflect on our own experiences around coming out—Tara shares in detail what it was like to come out as non-monogamous to her family, why it mattered, how we prepared, what happened, and how it’s going now. André shares about coming out to his mother—and her  openness to the idea and her love. We also walk through each day’s theme from the Week of Visibility: History & Culture, Identity & Inclusion, Myths & Misconceptions, Public & Private, Law & Advocacy, and Integration & Reflection.For each, we offer personal reflections and suggest actions you can take to explore what visibility looks like for you—whether that means being out and proud, private and processing, or somewhere in between.💜 IMPORTANT NOTE:We’re offering visibility as an invitation, not a prescription.Visibility is powerful—but it’s not always accessible or safe. You are allowed to choose what’s right for you.🔗 Mentioned in the Show:Learn more and participate in the Week of Visibility:⁠https://www.weekofvisibility.com⁠Share your story anonymously (or publicly):⁠https://www.weekofvisibility.com/shareyourstory⁠Episode 7: How We Love: What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me - ⁠https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=TBCGeov_R1qUiuE2cEabsg⁠ (this has a link to download a free worksheet)Episode 40: Debunking Common Myths about Polyamory ⁠https://open.spotify.com/episode/0rst1t9Jv2x6xlgkJE2fYP?si=dOKRcCONQxW_k1E8xTdBCA⁠Learn more about our Poly Newbies Digital Course and get it for the special Week of Visibility price - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠ Map of Non-Monogamy - Franklin Veaux - ⁠https://blog.franklinveaux.com/2017/12/an-update-to-the-map-of-non-monogamy/⁠ 📝 Connect with UsWe’re Tara & André—coaches, educators, and polyamory advocates helping people create secure, satisfying, and sexy non-monogamous relationships.📱 Instagram → ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/⁠ ⚡️ TikTok →⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@letstalkpolyamory⁠ 🌐 Learn more about our programs and services or book a consultation call → ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com⁠

Feeling disconnected or depleted in your long-term relationship while totally lit up by someone new? You're not broken—and neither is your relationship. This is a natural progression of relationships, but it doesn't have to be the death knell!In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast, we explore what happens when burnout shows up in your long-term relationship—often the one where you share a home, kids, responsibilities or calendar—while you’re riding the high of New Relationship Energy (NRE) somewhere else. Inspired by a recent CNN article and relationship expert Esther Perel’s insights, we unpack the real causes of burnout: emotional labor, domestic imbalance, identity loss, over-functioning, and the exhaustion of being the constant container for your partner’s emotions.We also share our own personal stories about what helps us keep our long-term relationship feeling playful, connected, and fresh—even while managing real-life stressors. From RAADAR Relationship Reviews and quality time rituals, to creating intentional transitions around new connections, we’ll walk you through practical ways to rekindle the energy you crave—including simple habits backed by research, like the Gottmans’ 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions that helps relationships stay strong and emotionally resilient.In this episode, we cover:💡 What burnout really looks like in long-term relationships🧯 The top causes of relationship fatigue (hint: it’s not just about desire)💘 Why NRE feels so good—and how to channel that energy intentionally into other relationship🛠️ Tools for making LRE feel exciting again (without pretending it’s brand new)👫 Our own practices for keeping long-term love feeling alive💌 Ready for deeper support? Check out our Poly Newbies Digital Course or join us in the next round of our Polyamory Mastery Program. Links in the show resources below👇Show Resources:CNN Article about Relationship burnout: https://www.cnn.com/2025/05/03/health/relationship-burnout-wellness Want to know more about NRE? Check out the episode, New Relationship Energy: The Awesome & The Awful - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6IbCK3XZ1louXULbFvAwyR?si=pvkCoL8XRJCKBXjhZ-_fqg  How Can I Hit the Reset Button and Free Myself From Resentments (YouTube) - https://youtu.be/au6-N8qZTDU?si=PZknyyGE8r_15ASp Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and arrange a complimentary therapy consultation at andreturcottepsych@gmail.comBook a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠Want to have wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for the Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferWant a deeper dive, customized program with more direct support from T&A, join us in Polyamory Mastery - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery 

Re-released in honour of Toronto Pride!June is 🏳️‍🌈Pride Month in many parts of the world, including here in Toronto, where we've proudly participated in both official and unofficial Pride events over the years—including walking in the parade.One question that often sparks lively debate is: Should relational identities like polyamory be included in Pride?Some argue that Pride is about celebrating sexual and gender identities, and that polyamory and other relational identities don't belong under that umbrella. Others believe that polyamory is a valid identity that deserves visibility—especially when legal recognition, social support, and relationship rights are still lacking.In this episode, we make an intentional effort to explore both sides of this discussion—sharing different perspectives on where polyamory fits within the broader 2SLGBTQIA+ movement. We also touch on the history of how Pride began and the deeper roots of what this celebration represents.We’re revisiting a conversation originally recorded in our private Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group. At the time, we had been running our weekly livestream series Mondays with Tara and André there —something we started during the pandemic as a way to stay connected, offer support, and spark real conversations. You’ll hear us share a little bit about how that came to be at the beginning of the episode.This particular livestream was recorded just before the 2022 Toronto Pride Parade, when we organized a walking float with members of our community. We did it again in 2023, that time in collaboration with Polyamorous Living Toronto!⭐️ The sound and video quality isn’t studio-perfect (neither are we!), but we’ve done our best to clean it up. We hope this episode sparks meaningful dialogue—because that’s what Pride is all about.Let us know in the Comments what you think:Should polyamory be part of Pride celebrations?And share your PRIDE stories and photos in our Let's Talk Polyamory group - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠⁠Show Resources:Toronto Pride - https://www.pridetoronto.com/Fierté Montréal (Montréal Pride) - https://fiertemontreal.com/enLooking for support but want to do it at your own pace? Check out our Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourseBook a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠Email André to arrange a complimentary therapy consultation at: ⁠andreturcottepsych@gmail.com⁠ Join the waitlist and be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out with all the HOT words from A-Z! ⁠⁠⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠