The Parenting Revival Podcast

The Truth About Why Fathers Don’t Feel Guilt Like Mothers Do Why does mum guilt feel constant and crushing — while dads seem to move through life with far less emotional weight? In this episode, I break down dad guilt vs mum guilt, not from a blaming lens, but from a nervous system, conditioning, and role-expectation perspective. This is not about who cares more. It’s about how men and women are wired, socialised, and stressed differently after becoming parents. In this episode, I cover: • Why mum guilt is constant, intrusive, and emotionally exhausting • Why dads often don’t experience guilt in the same way — and what they experience instead • The difference between anticipatory mental load (common in mothers) and compartmentalised stress (common in fathers) • Why mums feel like they can never fully switch off • Why dads can go out, exercise, socialise, or rest without the same internal conflict • How guilt shows up differently in male nervous systems — often as withdrawal, shutdown, or overworking • Why this difference causes resentment in marriages after children • How misunderstanding this gap slowly breaks emotional connection • What couples need to stop assuming about each other • How understanding dad guilt properly can reduce conflict, resentment, and emotional distance What most couples get wrong Mothers often assume: “If you don’t feel guilt like I do, you don’t care.” Fathers often assume: “If I’m providing and showing up practically, that should be enough.” Both assumptions quietly damage the marriage. This episode explains what’s actually happening underneath, so couples can stop fighting the wrong problem. Who this episode is for • Mothers who feel constantly burdened by guilt and resentment • Fathers who feel misunderstood, criticised, or emotionally shut out • Couples struggling after becoming parents • Anyone who wants to understand the emotional gap that appears after children Key takeaway Guilt is not a measure of love. It is a stress response shaped by biology, conditioning, and responsibility load. When couples understand this, they stop attacking each other — and start working as a team again. If this episode resonates, share it with your partner and listen together. I’m Sharanya V, and I help couples and parents build emotional and mental wellness in the middle of the chaos of life.    

In this episode, I dive into the myth of the “sacrificing mother” and the dangerous belief that exhaustion, overwhelm, and burnout are somehow proof of devotion. I talk about why so many mothers feel guilty for resting, why they push themselves past their limits, and how society quietly conditions women to believe that suffering is part of being a good mum. I break down the truth behind burnout — not as a personal weakness, but as a sign of a broken system. A home with no structure, no shared load, no emotional safety, and no space for a mother to exist as a person will always lead to burnout. This episode is an invitation to stop glorifying sacrifice and start building a life that doesn’t require you to disappear in order to function.     WHAT YOU’LL LEARN Why mothers are conditioned to equate sacrifice with love How burnout develops from emotional, mental, and physical overload The role of sleep deprivation in emotional shutdown The hidden cost of being the “strong mother” who never rests How guilt keeps mothers trapped in cycles of over-functioning Why burnout is a system failure, not a character flaw The foundations of a healthier, more sustainable family system Practical shifts that help you move from survival mode into stability     WHY THIS EPISODE MATTERS Burnout doesn’t just affect mothers — it affects marriages, children, communication, emotional health, and the entire energy of a home. A mother who is drowning cannot regulate a child, connect with a partner, or take care of herself. Understanding burnout on a nervous-system level is the first step toward reclaiming your wellbeing and rebuilding a more balanced life.     WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR Mothers who feel exhausted, resentful, or emotionally flat Anyone carrying the invisible load of parenting and household management Women who have been taught to minimise their needs or “be strong” Couples who want to create a healthier division of emotional and mental labour Parents trying to break out of survival mode and into stability Anyone who feels guilty for wanting rest, support, and space     LISTEN IF YOU’VE EVER THOUGHT: “I feel exhausted but I don’t know how to stop.” “Everyone else seems to cope — why can’t I?” “I feel like I’m doing everything alone.” “I don’t even recognise myself anymore.” “I don’t want to live like this, but I don’t know what to change.” If this episode helped you see your motherhood journey differently, I hope it gives you permission to rebuild your life with support, boundaries, and emotional safety. Thank you for listening to Parenting Revival — new episodes every week, covering marriage, parenting, mental health, emotional resilience, and the systems that help families truly thrive.    

In this episode, I break down one of the most emotionally charged, culturally sensitive issues in a marriage: the role of in-laws and how their presence, expectations, and emotional patterns can influence your relationship — even when they’re nowhere near your home. I explore why parents’ opinions carry so much weight, why couples get stuck between loyalty and partnership, and how our upbringing shapes the way we react, respond, and communicate in our married lives. This episode is about protecting your marriage, creating healthier emotional boundaries, and finding peace without disrespecting the families you come from. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN Why in-laws impact your marriage at a psychological and emotional level The hidden loyalty conflict your partner may be experiencing How cultural conditioning shapes the way we show up in our relationships The difference between support and intrusion Signs that in-law involvement is destabilising your marriage Why your partner may not “see” the issue the same way you do How to build boundaries as a couple How to present a united front without creating unnecessary conflict What a truly healthy, safe in-law dynamic looks like WHY THIS EPISODE MATTERS Most couples don’t fight because of the literal behaviour of their in-laws. They fight because of the meaning, pressure, guilt, cultural expectation, and emotional history attached to them. Understanding this invisible layer can save your marriage from years of resentment and repeated conflict. WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR Individuals feeling torn between their spouse and their parents Couples navigating criticisms, expectations, or interference from in-laws Newlyweds building stronger foundations Parents raising children in a multigenerational or culturally complex family system Anyone craving emotional stability and clarity in their home LISTEN IF YOU’VE EVER THOUGHT: “I don’t want to disrespect their parents, but I’m overwhelmed.” “My partner doesn’t understand why this affects me so much.” “Why does everything get tense when their parents get involved?” “How do I set boundaries without causing a war?” If this episode helped you understand your family dynamics on a deeper level, share it with your partner or someone who needs it today. Thank you for listening to Parenting Revival Podcast— new episodes every week on marriage, parenting, emotional resilience, and the mental wellness we all deserve.      

Why do mothers carry more mental load — even when fathers are “helping”? In this episode, I unpack the neuroscience behind why moms’ brains stay always on, the social conditioning that keeps women in the “household CEO” role, and how fathers can step into shared ownership without shame or confusion. We’ll talk about: 🧠 How motherhood literally rewires the brain for constant vigilance 🫶 Why mental load isn’t about laziness — it’s about wiring and culture 💬 How couples can move from resentment to teamwork 💡 The practical shifts that make family systems finally feel fair 💞 How the Parenting Revival Program helps parents build shared mental maps, clear emotional systems, and real balance If you’ve ever felt like you’re the one holding everything together, this episode will make you feel seen — and remind you that change doesn’t come from blame, it comes from design. 💬 DM “REVIVE” on Instagram to learn how to rebuild your relationship and family systems with me. Follow me on Instagram @sharanyav.revivethrive for more insights on marriage, parenting, and mental wellness.    

In this deeply moving episode, Sharanya V explores the unseen emotional inheritance that shapes the way we parent. She reveals how unresolved childhood wounds resurface during tantrums, bedtime battles, and moments of overwhelm — and how recognizing those “ghosts” allows you to break intergenerational cycles of fear, shame, and silence. 💔 In this episode, you’ll learn: Why your strongest parenting triggers have roots in your own childhood. How your nervous system time-travels to old emotional memories. The link between your amygdala and reactivity under stress. How to turn your triggers into healing opportunities. A grounding mantra to stop emotional spirals mid-moment. 💡 Sharanya’s Takeaway: “Your child isn’t triggering you — your past is. Every time you repair instead of react, you’re healing both of you.” 🧠 Try This Week: When you’re triggered, whisper to yourself: “This feeling is old.” It helps your brain return to the present moment and choose connection over control. 🎧 Listen if: You find yourself overreacting to your child’s behavior. You feel guilty after yelling or snapping. You want to understand how your childhood affects your parenting. 💬 Join the Revival: If you’re ready to stop repeating old emotional scripts and start raising your children with calm, clarity, and connection — this is exactly what we do inside The Parenting Revival Program. DM REVIVE on Instagram @sharanyav.revivethrive to learn more.      

Show Summary: In this honest post-Deepavali reflection, Sharanya V explores what happens after the celebrations end — when the house is quiet but your body is still buzzing. She breaks down the emotional hangover of festival season: the exhaustion, the in-law pressure, the hidden guilt, and the way stress seeps into marriages and parenting. With warmth, humor, and science, she guides you through a simple reset — one that restores calm, connection, and rhythm to your family after the noise fades. 💔 In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you feel moody or disconnected after Deepavali. The science behind the post-festival emotional crash. How to reset your marriage and nervous system after overstimulation. Practical steps to ground yourself and your kids. Why stillness is just as sacred as celebration. 💡 Sharanya’s Takeaway: “You don’t need to detox your body — you need to detox your nervous system. Peace after celebration isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity.” 🧘‍♀️ Try This Week: Have one slow night. No guests. No screens. No agenda. Just sit with your partner, light one leftover diya, and exhale. 🎧 Listen if: You feel drained after Deepavali. You snapped at your partner and don’t know why. You’re craving calm after all the social and family pressure. 💬 Join the Revival: If you’re ready to rebuild calm, clarity, and connection in your home — this is exactly what we do inside The Parenting Revival Program. DM REVIVE on Instagram @sharanyav.revivethrive to learn more.    

In this powerful opening episode of The Parenting Revival Podcast, Sharanya V breaks down one of the most invisible but destructive dynamics in early parenthood — the Silent Scorecard. It’s the mental tally we keep of who’s doing more, caring more, trying more. What starts as quiet resentment turns into emotional distance. Sharanya uncovers the psychology behind this habit, why it’s so common among parents of young children, and how couples can shift from silent competition to genuine teamwork. This isn’t about dividing chores; it’s about rediscovering emotional fairness, appreciation, and connection when the household feels like chaos. 💔 In this episode, you’ll learn: What the “Silent Scorecard” really is — and how it silently poisons marriages after kids. The neuroscience of resentment and why our brains crave fairness. How unspoken expectations turn love into labor. The difference between equality and emotional equity. One powerful 7-day practice to start feeling like a team again. 💡 Sharanya’s Takeaway: “The goal isn’t to do the same things — it’s to feel the same safety. Love isn’t a ledger; it’s a living system that thrives on recognition, repair, and rest.” 🧠 Try This Week: Before bed, say one sentence to your partner that begins with ‘I noticed…’ It’s small, but it rewires your brain from resentment to gratitude. 🎧 Listen if: You feel unseen or underappreciated by your partner. You’re tired of doing it all — or feeling like you are. You want your relationship to feel like a team again. 💬 Join the Revival: If you’re ready to stop keeping score and start rebuilding your marriage from the inside out, this is the work we do inside The Parenting Revival Program — where couples move from survival mode to connection, clarity, and calm. DM REVIVE on Instagram @sharanyav.revivethrive to learn more.      

Episode Summary: Most couples don’t struggle because they don’t love each other — they struggle because they keep missing each other. The truth is, timing is everything in marriage. In this episode, I unpack why women often bring up important conversations when their husbands aren’t mentally ready, and why men often initiate intimacy without realizing their wives aren’t emotionally prepared. Both sides end up feeling frustrated, unseen, and rejected.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The neuroscience of timing: why your partner literally cannot engage when stressed or shut down. How mismatched “arousal states” create conflict in both communication and intimacy. Practical tools to stop “pouncing” and start connecting (pre-framing, micro-moments, invitations vs demands). Why mind-reading is a marriage killer, and how system-building keeps couples aligned. Why Listen: If you’ve ever felt like your spouse doesn’t hear you… or like intimacy feels like another fight waiting to happen… this episode will show you the science and strategies to finally get through to each other.   About Me: I’m Sharanya V, I help exhausted couples with young kids move from daily resentment to deep connection. Follow me on Instagram @sharanyav.revivethrive and DM me the word REVIVE if you’re ready to transform your marriage.

This episode is for you, if your evening routines are CRAZY and everyone is running on fumes. Follow me at sharanyav.revivethrive and check out my website sharanyav.com

Ego is not strength. It’s a cage. In this episode, I unpack why ego — the mask of “I’ve got it all together” — is silently destroying men’s mental health, their marriages, and their fatherhood. We’ve been told that ego makes men strong. But the reality? Ego keeps men silent when they need help. It keeps husbands defensive instead of connected. It keeps fathers controlling instead of present. And all of this comes at a cost — higher rates of depression, broken relationships, and silent suffering. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: What ego really is (and how it’s different from confidence). How ego shows up in everyday marriage fights and fatherhood moments. The real impact on men’s mental health — from isolation to burnout to suicide risk. What true strength looks like — awareness, vulnerability, and connection. Simple shifts men (and the women who love them) can start making today. If you’re a man, this episode is a call to step out of the cage. If you’re a woman, this episode will help you understand the wall of ego you’re up against — and how to create space for something healthier. 👉 Share this with a man you care about. Because sometimes one honest conversation can save a life.

Mums are the queens of “pushing through.” We wake up tired, we keep going, and when the world praises us for being “supermum,” we convince ourselves that exhaustion is just part of the job. But what if that drive isn’t motivation at all… what if it’s denial in disguise? In this episode, I talk about the quiet ways burnout sneaks into motherhood and why so many mums mistake running on empty for being strong. Here’s what we explore together: How mums confuse denial with motivation and why “pushing through” feels easier than slowing down The subtle red flags of burnout that most mums ignore because “there’s no time” Why motherhood culture often glorifies sacrifice and exhaustion, leaving mums stuck in guilt when they try to rest Practical shifts to step out of denial and start mothering from a place of balance, not burnout How choosing rest and honesty with yourself makes you a stronger, calmer, and happier mum This episode is for you if: You find yourself saying “I’ll be fine, I just need to keep going” while secretly running on fumes You feel guilty for even thinking about resting or doing something for yourself You’ve normalised being exhausted but deep down you know it’s not sustainable You want to break the cycle and show your kids what healthy motivation really looks like Motherhood doesn’t have to mean living in denial or numbing yourself with constant productivity. Burnout isn’t proof of love, it’s proof that you’re carrying too much without support. And the good news? You can choose differently.

You Can’t Raise Kids Without Trauma — And That’s Okay 💬 Episode Summary: As parents, we put immense pressure on ourselves to “get it right” and protect our children from every possible hurt. But here’s the truth no one talks about enough: trauma is unavoidable. Not because you’re failing, but because life — and human perception — is unpredictable. In this episode, I unpack: What trauma actually is (and why it’s about perception, not just big events) Why even the most loving homes still have moments that can wound Three big realizations that will change how you think about parenting The power of “rupture and repair” and how to do it in real life Through relatable stories, practical examples, and compassionate truth-telling, you’ll discover why perfection isn’t the goal — presence is. And how your ability to repair can matter more than never making a mistake in the first place. ✨ You’ll learn: The difference between hurt and trauma How your child’s nervous system interprets everyday moments Why miscommunication is inevitable — and not a sign of bad parenting The step-by-step way to repair after a rupture How to release guilt and focus on connection 💡 This episode is for you if: You’ve ever worried about “messing up” your kids You feel guilty after snapping or being distracted You want to raise resilient, emotionally secure children without drowning in self-criticism 🔗 Resources & Links: Follow me on Instagram: @sharanyav.revivethrive for more parenting + mental health support Learn about my coaching programs: sharanyav.com 📢 If you found this episode helpful, share it with another parent who needs to hear that they are not alone.

You love your children. You want to raise them with patience, respect, presence. But sometimes, despite your best intentions — you snap, you shut down, you feel ashamed. And you wonder…   “Why does this feel so hard?” In this episode, I dive deep into a truth so many of us live but never name: 👉🏽 Parenting gets harder when you haven’t healed from the way you were parented. Whether it was emotional neglect, perfectionism, enmeshment, or just feeling unseen as a child — those early imprints don’t disappear when we become parents. They show up in our tone, our triggers, our guilt, and even our silence. You’ll hear: • How your nervous system was wired by your own upbringing • The emotional inheritance we carry — even when we swore we’d do things differently • The difference between conscious parenting and “over-corrective” parenting • What to do when you recognize your parent’s voice coming out of your own mouth • Simple ways to disrupt old patterns and show up with more choice, not just reaction • And a powerful reminder — you are not broken, you are just healing in real time. This episode is honest. It’s soft and confronting at the same time. And it’s for any parent who’s ever felt like, “I’m trying so hard not to pass it on… but I’m scared I already have.”

Saying “no” doesn’t make you selfish — it makes you self-aware. In this episode of The Parenting Revival Podcast, Sharanya explores why setting boundaries is one of the most powerful tools we have for emotional and mental wellness. You’ll learn why saying no feels so hard, how it affects your nervous system, and what actually happens to your health and relationships when you keep overriding your own limits. If you’ve ever felt drained, guilty, or resentful after saying yes to something you didn’t want to do — this episode is your permission slip to protect your peace. 🧠 In this episode, we cover: Why saying no triggers guilt and anxiety — and how to reframe it. The neuroscience behind people-pleasing and emotional overgiving What happens to your body and mind when you constantly override your limits The difference between self-preservation and selfishness Real-life stories and coaching insights around boundaries 5 scripts to help you say no with kindness and confidence How to make peace with disappointing others (without abandoning yourself) 🔥 You’ll walk away with: A deeper understanding of how boundaries regulate your mental health Tools to say no without guilt Emotional clarity on what’s draining your energy The confidence to protect your time, space, and peace — without apology 📌 Links & Mentions: Follow me on Instagram: @sharanyav.revivethrive Visit my website: www.sharanyav.com Interested in working with me? Book a free vibe check call at sharanyav.com 💬 Quote to Remember: “Every time you say no with love, you’re saying yes to your healing.” 🧡 Loved this episode? Subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs the reminder that they’re allowed to protect their peace.

This isn’t just a parenting podcast — it’s a revival. I’m Sharanya V, and I’m here to have the real conversations most people avoid — about parenting, marriage, identity, burnout, and the mental load that no one claps for. With over 15 years of experience across Asia and Australia, I work at the intersection of mindset, identity, and emotional safety — helping individuals, couples, and parents stop performing and start feeling safe in their own lives again. This podcast blends science with soul, stories with strategy, and truth with tenderness. Because mental health isn’t about chasing happiness. It’s about coming home to yourself. This podcast is for you if you’ve ever said: “I have everything I wanted… but I still feel empty.” “I love my kids, but I’ve lost myself.” “I don’t want to just cope anymore. I want to feel alive again.” What you’ll hear: Honest reflections from me and my clients (shared with care) Practical mindset shifts that change everything Episodes on emotional burnout, boundaries, guilt, marriage, sleep, and slowing down Tools to rebuild your inner world — gently, sustainably, and with zero shame Come for the truth. Stay for the healing. And leave feeling more like yourself. Follow now and start your revival — one honest episode at a time.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a small but powerful moment — I found my compact powder, and realised I hadn’t used it in almost a year. That tiny object made me reflect on just how much of myself I’ve put aside since becoming a parent. This episode is a gentle but honest reminder: you’re not just a mum or a dad. You’re a whole person too. And when you start showing up for yourself again, everything else — your parenting, your marriage, your mental health — begins to shift. 🔑 What You’ll Hear The story behind my untouched compact powder 5 reasons why it’s vital to reconnect with the person behind the parent What burnout really is — and why it’s not your fault How dysregulation affects your relationships and your patience Where to begin if you’re ready to feel like you again 🎁 Birthday Month Offer This July, in honour of my birthday, I’m giving $100 off all my full programs — whether you’re struggling with parenting, marriage, sleep, or your own mental health. DM me the word REVIVE on Instagram, and I’ll help you figure out which program fits you best. 💬 Let’s Connect Instagram: @sharanyan.revivethrive Programs & support: www.sharanyav.com

In today’s episode, I’m diving into one of the most powerful but overlooked tools in a relationship: the repair attempt. Based on the work of Dr. John Gottman, this episode is all about why you don’t need to avoid conflict — you just need to learn how to come back to each other after it. I’m sharing real-life stories from my coaching sessions, relatable examples from my own life, and 5 practical ways you and your partner can soften tension and reconnect, even in the heat of the moment. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a fight and wished for a reset button — this is it. 💡 What You’ll Learn: What a repair attempt really is (and why it matters more than being “right”) Why most couples struggle to repair — and how to change that 5 phrases and gestures to de-escalate conflict in real time How to respond when your partner reaches out first A simple weekly challenge to help you reconnect with intention 🔗 Resources & Links: Connect with me on Instagram: @sharanyav.revivethrive Explore my coaching and programs: www.sharanyav.com Listen to more episodes: The Parenting Revival Podcast

“Parenting doesn’t end when they start sleeping through the night — it evolves. It stretches you, reshapes you, and rewires who you are forever.” In this deeply honest and reflective episode, I unpack what no one really says out loud: that children are a forever problem. Not because they’re a burden — but because they are a lifelong responsibility. A soul-deep, heart-expanding, identity-shifting commitment that doesn’t come with an end date. From realizing I’ll need to wake up at 5am again when my child starts school, to noticing how easily we underestimate the emotional, relational, and practical shifts that come with parenting — this episode invites you to pause and reflect on what we’ve really signed up for as parents. Whether you're still deciding whether to have kids, are in the thick of parenting, or wondering why you're feeling so stretched — this conversation is for you. It’s real. It’s grounding. And it's ultimately a reminder: This “problem” we call parenting is also life’s most sacred privilege.

What happens when you intentionally choose a holiday that’s… not fancy, not luxurious, and definitely not what your kids are used to? In this episode, I share our recent family trip to Cameron Highlands — where we traded five-star comfort for something simpler, humbler, and more meaningful. This wasn’t just a trip — it was a conscious parenting decision. We revisited a place from my childhood, braved rainy days without entertainment, and faced our own discomfort — and in doing so, we gifted our children something no resort can offer: a deeper understanding of gratitude, presence, and what it means to truly enjoy life without constant stimulation. In this episode, I talk about: Why we intentionally chose a no-frills hotel How our kids reacted (especially my son!) Why boredom is a secret parenting superpower What it means to model humility instead of just preaching it The 3 powerful takeaways every modern parent should consider before their next holiday This one’s for you if: You want to raise grounded, grateful kids You’re tired of parenting through excess You need a reminder that discomfort creates growth — for both us and our children ✨ Listen in and walk away inspired to parent with more presence, more intention, and more courage to do things differently.

💡 In This Episode Sharanya dives into the raw, messy, and all-too-common reality of early parenthood that no one really talks about — burnout, identity loss, emotional exhaustion, and the invisible load carried mostly in silence. This episode is for every parent who's ever smiled on the outside while quietly unraveling on the inside. You’ll hear: Why early parenthood can feel like both love and grief What burnout actually looks and feels like (it's not just tiredness) The emotional toll of losing your sense of self Why snapping at your partner, crying in secret, and zoning out don’t make you a bad parent — they make you human Real, actionable steps to start feeling more like you again 🔥 Key Takeaways Burnout isn’t weakness — it’s a sign you’ve been carrying too much without being seen Loving your baby and missing your old self can co-exist You don’t need to smile through your suffering to prove you’re doing okay The mental load of parenting is real — and sharing it is essential You deserve support, space, and healing — not just survival ✨ What You’ll Learn How to identify emotional burnout before it becomes a breakdown Why our generation of parents is struggling more than ever 5 simple, powerful things you can do this week to start feeling better How to talk to your partner about what you’re holding The first step to reclaiming your identity after baby 📣 Want to Feel Like You Again? The Parenting Revival Program is designed to support burnt-out, emotionally overwhelmed parents who want to raise secure, happy children without losing themselves or their marriage in the process. ✅ Trauma-informed sleep coaching ✅ Mental & emotional reset for mums and dads ✅ Relationship repair and identity healing ✅ Real-time, real-talk, real solutions 🌱 Book a free vibe check call or learn more at sharanyav.com 💬 Loved This Episode? Share It. If this episode felt like a gut punch and a warm hug, screenshot it, share it on Instagram, and tag @sharanyav. Let’s help more parents feel seen and supported. 🎧 Subscribe, Rate & Review If this podcast is helping you feel less alone — hit follow, leave a review, and share it with your partner or your mama group. Your voice helps this movement grow.