Enneagram and Marriage

In today's episode, we challenge the common assumption that men always want more sex than women in marriage. Join us as we speak with J. Parker, author of "The Higher-Desire Wife," about the estimated 25% of marriages where wives have a higher sex drive at various seasons of marriage. We explore multiple causes of mismatched desire beyond stereotypes, from hormonal factors to relational dynamics, and discuss practical strategies for navigating these differences with compassion. This episode brings validation and hope to women and men who have felt isolated, bewildered, or ashamed of their sexual desires or lack thereof while offering insights for all couples experiencing desire discrepancies in their marriages. Watch on YouTube Get J's book, The Higher Desire Wife" here: https://a.co/d/boAliTx Visit J's website: https://hotholyhumorous.com/https://hotholyhumorous.com/https://www.hotholyhumorous.com Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ , here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for an inspiring conversation with filmmakers Nathan (Type 4) and D'Lytha (Type 5) Myers as they share their unique journey of marriage, parenting, and creating meaningful entertainment together. Nathan, known for his work on The Chosen and now running Grafted Studios, brings passionate creativity, while D'Lytha offers thoughtful wisdom. Together, they've created the award-winning film "Aria Appleton Shines," which tackles technology's impact on children and parental authority through the spunky and realistically spirited Gen Z/Alpha Gen Aria Appleton and her friends. Discover not only tech tips and more about the new movie, but also about how this couple's different Enneagram types create beautiful synergy in their marriage and creative partnership, how they navigate homeschooling decisions and running a production company together, and their approach to protecting children from unhealthy technology while embracing creative media. Whether you're interested in Enneagram dynamics in marriage, navigating technology with kids, or supporting faith-based entertainment, this conversation offers practical wisdom from a couple living out their values creatively and intentionally! Watch on YouTube! Watch the BRAND NEW award-winning film 'Aria Appleton Shines' and discover how this powerful story is helping families navigate technology with wisdom and intention. Film Website: https://www.ariaappleton.com/  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ariaappletonfilm/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariaappleton/?hl=en Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When emotions run high in relationships, knowing how to self-soothe can make the difference between connection and disconnection. In this practical mini-episode, we explore a few way each instinctual variant, Self-Preservation, Social, and Sexual/One-to-One, approaches calming when feelings are intense. We also break down a bit further to designate heart types of each instinctual variant needing emotional safety, head types seeking mental clarity, and body types requiring physical grounding. In this mini-show, let Christa guide you to just a few ways you'll discover specific techniques that strengthen rather than strain your relationship so you can truly come back as healthily differentiated partners, rather than staying in the wounding together. For more relationship help or to sign up with an E + M Coach or affiliate, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the key to a stronger marriage isn't avoiding conflict, but learning to dig in and work through difficult moments? In this practical episode, marriage therapist and relational life therapist Zach Brittle, 8 brings over a decade of professional wisdom combined with personal insights from his Type 8-Type 2 marriage. Host of the popular Marriage Therapy Radio Podcast, Zach shares his gifted perspective on the stories that often lie beneath our relationship struggles and offers Terry Real's RLT (Relational Life Therapy) tips and a powerful 4-part formula you can use for getting unstuck again and again whenever conflict hits. As a Type 8 married to a Type 2, he opens up about how even two passionate types can learn to navigate tension in healthy ways, emphasizing that conflict isn't something to fear but a pathway to deeper connection. Whether you're afraid of rocking the boat or tend to dive headfirst into disagreements, Zach's blend of therapeutic expertise and real-life vulnerability offers hope and practical strategies for working through the messy, beautiful work of marriage. Follow Zach here on his website: https://zachbrittle.com/ Follow Zach at Marriage Therapy Radio here: https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ Find Zach on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/?hl=en Miss the Subtypes EnneaSummit? Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here! https://www.tylerzach.com/subtypes/enneasummit-aap?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148111986%2FLS2nNmzL⁠⁠ Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we step into a summer of refinement here at Enneagram and Marriage, what better time to focus on creating homes that truly work for our families? In this insightful episode, interior design and home organization expert and author Whitney English, Type 4 (4-9 pairing), shares her room-by-room approach to creating spaces that are both beautiful and functional. Whitney believes that anyone can live a beautiful life, that "if you're real you can't be ugly," and that everyone is creative—some of us have just forgotten. As a successful entrepreneur who's been featured in O Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, and on the Today Show, Whitney brings both design expertise and real-life family wisdom to the conversation. Discover how to assess each room in your home for what it truly needs—from the practical (garbage cans and scissors in the right places) to the aesthetic touches that make you want to spend time there. Whitney also opens up about her curiosity around her Enneagram perspective and how understanding her personality has helped her create organized systems without becoming harsh or demanding with her family, especially as she considers that family of origin overlays many of us bring. Learn why the aesthetic of your home matters more than you think, how to balance beauty with functionality on any budget, and practical strategies for couples to create spaces that support both their relationship and family life. Whether you're naturally organized or struggle with clutter, Whitney's gentle wisdom will help you see your home as a place of intentional living rather than perfectionist pressure. Watch on YouTube! Get Whitney's book with SO much more practical info, "Organize First: From Clutter to Creativity," here: https://a.co/d/hPQ8MZU Visit Whitney at her beautiful website: https://whitneyenglish.com/ The Enneasummit is this week. To sign up for the EnneaSummit on Subtypes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up here!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit ⁠⁠⁠⁠here! More about Whitney: Whitney English believes that anyone can live a beautiful life. She believes that gratitude is the birthplace of joy, that people matter, that love is the answer, that everyone is creative and some of us have just forgotten, and that it’s worth trying to be a better version of yourself today than you were yesterday. She has boot-strapped two businesses to seven figures, has a degree in interior design, studied management at Parsons in New York City, and has had her work featured in O magazine, The Wall Street Journal, and on the Today Show (twice). She was featured as one of Country Living magazine’s Women Entrepreneurs, and one of her favorite dreams-come-true is her husband, David, and their three children. Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ , here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is artificial intelligence becoming the third party in your marriage? In this timely episode, we explore the growing trend of couples turning to AI for relationship advice, planning, and emotional processing. Based on survey data from real couples, Christa unpacks three major benefits AI brings to marriage—from vacation planning to communication tools—and three significant concerns about emotional bypassing, digital intimacy, and false authority. Drawing from relationship research and real-world examples, including insights from Simon Sinek about the importance of authentic conflict, this episode offers practical guidelines for using AI to enhance rather than replace genuine marital connection. Whether you're AI-curious or concerned about technology's impact on relationships, this is a MUST-LISTEN as you gain clarity and conviction on how to navigate artificial intelligence's role in your most important human connections!! To sign up for the E + M Collective membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠⁠⁠visit here!⁠⁠⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠⁠⁠sign up here!⁠⁠⁠ Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit where Christa is speaking ⁠⁠⁠here! Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this illuminating mini-episode for anyone who finds themselves in a reactive Enneagram Eight space, Christa unveils tools for finding and accessing the hidden vulnerability healthily beneath the Eight armor. Whether you're an Eight, have an Eight wing or arrow connection, or love someone with Eight energy, this episode offers crucial insights into navigating those critical moments when an Eight hits their wall. Learn why fight-or-flight responses are so instinctive for Eights and discover the powerful "3-3-3 Method" for processing emotions without feeling exposed. This episode goes beyond basic type descriptions to explore how Eights can access their strength through acknowledging vulnerability, and how loved ones can create safe containers that honor the Eight's need for both power and authentic connection. A must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the complex interplay of protection and vulnerability in the protective Eight's journey. Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's all been done. I can't start until it's perfect. What if the critics come? In this episode, Christa talks with Mary Marantz, Enneagram 4, about her journey from growing up in a trailer in rural West Virginia to becoming a Yale Law graduate, successful entrepreneur, and author, only to learn she was still underestimating herself. This empowering conversation explores how to overcome self-doubt, silence your inner critic, and stop playing small. Mary's powerful message will help you move from stuck to start, providing both inspiration and practical steps to push past fear and excuses. Join us for this transformative discussion with the host of the iTunes Top 200 podcast "The Mary Marantz Show" about embracing your worth and creating the impact only you can make, just as Mary shares insights from her perspective as an Enneagram 4 and discusses her brand new book "Underestimated" releasing tomorrow! Watch on YouTube Follow Mary here: https://marymarantz.com/ Get Mary's brand new book, Underestimated, here! https://youtu.be/bwETc01Hdtw https://www.instagram.com/marymarantz https://www.facebook.com/groups/marymarantzshow Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wonder why personal growth seems to follow predictable patterns of progress and plateau? In this illuminating episode, we dive into one of the Enneagram's most fascinating but rarely discussed aspects: moving around the whole Enneagram system. Learn how this powerful concept applies to everything from skill-building to relationship development, and why certain growth points require conscious attention to move forward. Whether you're an Enneagram enthusiast wanting deeper understanding beyond type descriptions or someone curious about the hidden rhythms of personal transformation, this episode offers practical insights for recognizing where you are in various growth cycles and how to navigate the journey more consciously, both individually and in partnerships. Join us as we decode relationships and explore how we can continue to find personal growth, relationship challenges, and spiritual development. Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode, discover the transformative power of "holding vigil" for your spouse through prayer and presence in a way that costs, but also really gives, both to you and your spouse. Learn both general tips and how each Enneagram type uniquely supports their partner during difficult times, and what challenges they face in staying present. Drawing from literary examples like Frodo and Sam, Atticus Finch, and personal experiences, Christa explores how true empathy creates sacred space in marriage and your faith journey, reflecting on Matthew 11:28. Perfect for couples seeking deeper connection through life's challenges. Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here! Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it’s true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you. With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged by others or themselves for the state of their home. Find Dana's book here: https://a.co/d/auuIYEI Find Dana on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aslobcomesclean Find Dana's website here: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/ Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this compelling conversation, bestselling author Ian Cron discusses his new book "The Fix," revealing how addiction in its many forms affects us all. Ian moves beyond stereotypical views of addiction to show how everyone struggles with attachments that promise fulfillment but ultimately leave us empty. With wisdom and compassion, he explains how isolation fuels our addictive cycles, while genuine community creates the environment for healing. Ian shares practical wisdom about how the steps of recovery offer a universal path toward grace and growth, regardless of what form our struggles take. This conversation offers hope for anyone feeling stuck in patterns they can't seem to break, illuminating how vulnerability and connection provide the foundation for lasting transformation. Watch the full interview on YouTube Resources mentioned in this episode: Ian's website: www.IanMorganCron.com Typology podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/typology/id1254061093 Typology Enneagram assessment: https://typologyinstitute.com/assessment "The Fix" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/e2nWVsv Visit Ian and Typology on Instagram Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this captivating episode, we're joined by Jim Zartman (Type 8) and Joel Hubbard (Type 7), creators of the groundbreaking Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers framework and book. This innovative lens reveals our survival instincts as well as helps us adapt in them, speaking of how our core drives shape everything from our leadership styles to our marriages. Discover whether you're primarily a Hunter (similar to Sexual/SX instinct, focused on intensity and risk-taking), a Farmer (aligned with Self-Preservation/SP, oriented toward resources and sustainability), or a Teamer (comparable to Social/SO, driven by connection and collaboration), and how to work with your strengths and blindspots, whatever the stackingg order of your instincts. Through illuminating stories and practical insights, Jim and Joel explain how recognizing these patterns can transform relationships, reduce burnout, and resolve persistent conflicts. Learn how instinct-diverse partnerships can leverage complementary strengths while navigating inherent tensions. Whether you're struggling with communication breakdowns or seeking to understand your own reaction patterns, this revolutionary framework we share on today's episode offers a compassionate path toward greater self-awareness and connection. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I1vvmZVVRMQ Get the book Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers here: https://a.co/d/5tZcJDA Find their website here: https://www.theartofgrowth.org/ Find their Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/artofgrowth/?hl=en Find the Art of Growth podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-growth/id1404087288 Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many couples avoid "relationship check-ins" because they feel awkward or turn into criticism sessions. This episode offers a completely different approach - a structured 30-minute blueprint that creates safety, deepens understanding, and builds practical solutions together that Christa shares both here and in this mini-episode. You'll learn: The reminder that research backs how healthy addressing and communication dramatically improve relationship satisfaction A simple 3-part framework for your monthly meeting (Connection, Exploration, Solutions) How to adapt the process for different Enneagram types Practical tips to ensure the experience feels positive and productive Whether you've been together for decades or just starting out, this monthly blueprint provides a sustainable way to stay connected amidst busy lives. Download the accompanying PDF guide from Christa's website to make implementation easy. Listen now! Give just 30 minutes a month to intentional connection, and watch your relationship transform! Get the 30-minute monthly Relationship Blueprint meeting here! >> https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-monthly-blueprint-meeting. << Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when we make our partners the center of our emotional universe? In this insightful episode with Christa walking us through the concept of decentralization, we explore the delicate art of "decentralizing" your partner—a powerful practice that counterintuitively strengthens intimate connections. Through the lens of marriage theory, including but not limited to the Enneagram, we discover how constant emotional monitoring can suffocate even the most loving relationships. Learn to recognize signs you've over-centralized your partner, understand how your Enneagram type influences this tendency, and best of all, walk through a practical anxiety exercise with Christa to help you create healthy space while maintaining deep connection. Whether you're feeling anxious about your partner's every mood shift or struggling with boundary issues, this episode offers compassionate guidance for finding that sweet spot where both individuals can thrive within the relationship. Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when we open our hearts and homes to others? Craig and Laura Cooper join us to share their extraordinary journey of faith and generosity that inspired MercyMe's song and Walker Hayes' music video "Craig." The Coopers discuss how their Type 3w4 and Type 9 Enneagram dynamics shape their approach to hospitality, and how a simple act of giving a minivan to a family in need sparked a profound spiritual transformation. Learn how small acts of generosity can create ripple effects of change, and discover practical ways to cultivate a spirit of giving in your own relationships and community right here! Watch on YouTube Find the song with Walker Hayes/MercyMe written about Craig and Laura on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pLNTewIfrg and Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/1S9Yxo8bniCYywEMCposAl Find Craig's book here with Mercy Me/Walker Hayes: https://www.amazon.com/Glad-Youre-Here-Unlikely-Breaking/dp/0802424716 Find Craig's Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/craigallencooper/?hl=en Join the special free women's event beginning today at the Wholehearted Abundance Summit where Christa will be speaking this week here More: Craig Allen Cooper is a USA Today bestselling author and keynote speaker. He co-wrote the book "Glad You're Here" with Grammy-nominated country singer and songwriter, Walker Hayes. "Glad You're Here" instantly became a Publisher's Weekly, ECPA, and USA Today national bestseller and has been featured on The Today Show, People Magazine, The 700 Club, Jesus Calling, and Family Life Radio, as well as various other news sources, radio and television programs and podcasts, including That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs and Dream Big with Bob Goff.  Craig served as one of the founding pastors of Redeeming Grace Church in Franklin, Tennessee and is the founder of Glad You’re Here Ministries. He is the subject of the song "Craig" by Walker Hayes, and he resides in the greater Nashville area with his lovely wife, Laura, and their four kids. You can follow Craig on Instagram @craigallencooper and for more information or for speaking inquiries, please visit www.craigallencooper.com/speaking. Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for a powerful conversation with Justin and Trisha Davis about breaking the cycles that hurt our relationships. From navigating infidelity to rebuilding trust, they share how understanding their Enneagram dynamic as an 8w7 and 3w2 couple has transformed their marriage and ministry. Discover practical wisdom for breaking free from shame, resentment, and fear while creating new patterns of connection. Whether you're facing betrayal or seeking to prevent it, this episode offers hope for lasting change, one choice at a time. 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/HuWf6-oE3h0 Get their brand new book, One Choice Away from Change: Break the Cycles That Hurt Your Relationships and Hold You Back, here! https://a.co/d/8ybdlXf Find Trisha and Justin at Refine Us Ministry: https://www.instagram.com/refineus/ Visit them at www.justinandtrisha.com or www.refineus.com (download the first two chapters, free!) Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa and award-winning writer and professor Kimberly Phinney for a tender yet powerful conversation about navigating suffering in marriage. Through her own journey with critical illness and her work as a poet and literature scholar, Kimberly shares how pain can become a doorway to deeper connection. Discover how writing becomes medicine, how presence matters more than perfection, and how to find unexpected gifts in life's darkest seasons as spouses by one another's sides through sickness and in health. Whether you're in the midst of suffering or supporting a partner through pain, this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a gentle reminder that beauty can grow in broken places. 🌱💫 Listen on YouTube: https://youtu.be/r8M0OKRAWDg Kimberly is a professional helper and artist completing her doctorate in community care and counseling. She is a professor, writer, editor, and counselor. During her critical illness in 2021-2022, she began dreaming about The Way Back to Ourselves and founded it in August of 2022. She is an award-winning and Pushcart Prize-nominated poet, and her writing has been published in Christianity Today, Ekstasis, Fathom, Truly Co, Radix, Calla Press, Humana Obscura, The Dewdrop, and many others. Her debut poetry collection, Of Wings & Dirt, which is inspired by her health journey, infertility, and miraculous motherhood, was published in April 2024 with Wipf & Stock and was a #1 New Release and Best Seller on Amazon. She is also at work on her next poetry collection and a nonfiction book on suffering and healing. She has been featured on Good Morning America and ABC News. Visit Kimberly's website here: https://www.thewayback2ourselves.com/about Visit Kimberly on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/thewayback2ourselves/ Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for this powerful conversation with Julie Menanno, LMFT (@TheSecureRelationship), whose work has helped millions transform their attachment patterns. From her national bestseller, Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime, to her viral Instagram insights, Julie brings practical wisdom about creating lasting security in relationships via the attachment lens and her emotionally focused therapy couples work. Whether you're navigating anxious or avoidant patterns, or seeking to build deeper trust, this episode offers hope and concrete steps toward secure, lasting connection. Get ready to transform how you love right here! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/XAn7LnsM0oQ In this powerful episode, discover: Why certain patterns keep showing up in relationships How to move from anxious or avoidant to secure What security actually looks like in daily moments Practical steps for building lasting trust Find her website and podcast here: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ Read Dr. Julie Mennano's best-selling book here! https://www.amazon.com/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime/dp/1668012863 Looking for coaching help? Don't forget to sign up for the Enneagram Intensive for a deeper dive with Christa here! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices