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In today’s episode, I’m talking about how talking kindly to your body can benefit your life. About halfway through this last year, I came across Heal Your Body by Louise Hay. It led me to her book You Can Heal Your Life, and while some of it may sound a little “woo,” something about it landed!Now, I’m not saying affirmations *magically* fix everything. However, I’ve noticed a difference in MY everyday life since I’ve been using them!'Of course, nothing is perfect. I still get sick, and I still have hard days. But I’m no longer comfortably numb. Acknowledging anger, sadness, and fear has changed the environment inside my body. It has created space for me to THRIVE, and I’m truly grateful for that!If you’ve been feeling called to go deeper into your own inner work and healing, I’d love to support you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call for 1:1 Good Movement Guidance - make sure to mention “cast pod” so you’ll receive 10% off when you commit to 6 months!In this episode, I cover:Reflecting on the 1-year anniversary of my bilateral breast amputation + the emotional growth that has unfolded alongside physical healingMy discovery of Louise Hay’s work + the connection between emotions, self-talk & physical healthHow speaking kindly to my body shifted my experience with cold sores & sicknessThe daily affirmation I’ve been using for my bodyReal-life examples of my affirmations in actionHow moving from criticism & numbing to curiosity & compassion has allowed me to thriveMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/talking-kindly-to-your-bodyConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay (affiliate link)a...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about what happens when we choose to step closer instead of pulling away. My curiosity recently led me to consume I Take My Coffee Black by Tyler Merritt.One of his quotes totally stopped me in my tracks when I heard it: “Distance breeds suspicion, and proximity breeds empathy” (he credits Brian Lawrence). That one sentence captures SO much of what fuels misunderstanding (and what heals it).It’s a whole lot harder to stay angry, judgmental, or hateful toward someone when you actually get close to them. When we get curious and learn someone’s story, compassion naturally follows.Proximity doesn’t mean agreement - it means empathy, grace, and humanity!In this episode, I cover:How the book I Take My Coffee Black inspired a deeper reflection for meThe powerful idea that “distance breeds suspicion, and proximity breeds empathy”How learning someone’s story makes it harder to judge or stay stuck in angerA personal example of how getting curious & stepping closer changed things for the betterWhy proximity doesn’t require agreement, but creates space for empathy & grace Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-happens-when-we-step-closer Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com Resources & Links:I Take My Coffee Black by Tyler Merritt (affiliate link)Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting...

In today's episode, I’m talking with licensed mental health therapist Victoria Mexcur about a new way to grit through. Trauma is often treated as a singular, heavy label, but it’s much more nuanced. It’s an experience that impacts the nervous system, creates mental loops, and can disconnect the mind and body in very individual ways.We dive into breaking stigma, repair, and why mental health is just as foundational as the land and animals we care so deeply for. This conversation is grounding, honest, and incredibly needed; I know it will meet you right where you are!In this episode, we cover:Victoria’s path into therapy + why she chose trauma workWhat trauma actually is + why it looks different for everyoneA reframe of “gritting through” that works WITH the body (instead of overriding it)How somatic experiencing & EMDR support nervous system regulationKey lessons from animals + Peter Levine’s workWhy traditional talk therapy isn’t always the right fit for rural & ag folksHow flexible, accessible therapy better supports rural life during busy seasonsUsing grit + a “get-er-done” mindset to reach out for support instead of going it aloneSimple starting tools for nervous system regulationWhy mental health is foundational to sustaining families, operations & long-term well-being Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/new-way-to-grit-through Connect with Victoria:Follow on Instagram @tread_deepcounselingCheck out her websiteSend her an email at treaddeepcounseling@gmail.comReach out to her at (402) 403-9561 Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com Resources & Links:li...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about why it’s so hard to admit mistakes. I truly believe our willingness (or inability) to admit mistakes has a lot to do with our nervous systems and how they were shaped early on.If you grew up in a home where mistakes were met with grace, understanding, and direction, chances are it feels safer for you to own them now. But if mistakes were met with anger, shame, or punishment, your nervous system learned that it wasn’t safe to admit wrongdoing.This shows up everywhere these days - especially online. Mistakes are rarely met with curiosity or compassion anymore, but with harsh judgment and public shaming.If we genuinely want people to take responsibility (as well as ourselves), we HAVE to create safer spaces to be able to do so!In this episode, I cover:How our upbringing & early nervous system wiring shape our ability to admit mistakesThe role of modeling and imitation when we witness others deflect blame or avoid accountabilityWhy today’s online culture makes admitting mistakes feel increasingly unsafeHow to get curious when admitting a mistake feels HARDWays to engage with someone who struggles to admit mistakesHow Tom & I are modeling accountability + repair to help our kids w/admitting mistakes Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/hard-to-admit-mistakes Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com Resources & Links:Join The DrawSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced

In today's episode, I’m talking to Amber Trejo, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in complex trauma and attachment, about what might be under the perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing. Amber explains how complex trauma often forms when there was never a true baseline of safety growing up, how, while it can be painful to realize we might hurt our kids, the repair matters FAR more than perfection, and so much more.Healing from complex trauma and things like perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing doesn’t start with “being better,” it starts with awareness, curiosity, and support. Whether that’s therapy, learning, or simply beginning to ask yourself gentler questions, please know you are not broken, and you are NOT alone!In this episode, we cover:Amber’s journey into understanding & working with complex traumaWhat complex trauma (C-PTSD) is + how growing up without a baseline of safety impacts the nervous systemThe key difference between PTSD and complex traumaHow emotional neglect often goes unrecognized, even in childhoods that felt “good”Why shame is central to complex trauma + how it often shows upHow complex trauma affects relationships, conflict & nervous system capacityWhy repair matters more than perfection in parentingHow to support yourself + loved ones when navigating complex trauma Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/under-the-perfectionism Connect with Amber:Follow on Instagram @integrativetraumatherapistConnect on FacebookFollow on TikTokCheck out her websiteSend her an email at ambie0406@gmail.com Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at a...

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happens when the thing isn’t the thing. In rural and ag spaces, especially, we’re really good at shoving feelings down and pushing through. What’s underneath that “thing” is usually a whole pile of unacknowledged stuff (stress, exhaustion, grief, burnout, and more).Recognizing this gives us so much freedom. It helps us stop shaming ourselves for our reactions, stop personalizing other people’s emotions, and create space to get curious about what’s really going on.In this episode, I cover:How the “thing” that triggers us is often just the surface-level momentA real-life ranch example of displaced frustration between Tom and meWhat’s usually underneath the “thing”How recognizing when the thing isn’t the thing helps us and othersWhy this awareness creates space for curiosity, boundaries & more grounded communicationHow remembering that the thing isn’t the thing allows us to extend grace & compassion Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/when-the-thing-isnt-the-thing Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Join The DrawSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

I'm excited to welcome Lydia Van Aken to the podcast today!In today's episode, we're talking about getting out of your head and into the run. Lydia shares how our emotions, beliefs, and nervous system state directly affect our horses (whether we’re aware of it or not). Building a strong connection requires self-awareness, intentionality, and learning how to regulate yourself FIRST. We also talk honestly about the cultural messages many of us grew up with in ag and rural communities, how suppressing emotions actually impacts our bodies, overthinking, and more. If you’re stuck in fear, frustration, or setback, stop focusing only on what’s wrong. Look for the opportunity, because ultimately, whatever you focus on will grow!In this episode, we cover:Lydia’s rodeo journey + how this led her into performance coaching & working with the mental side of athleticsHow the human athlete’s mindset directly impacts the equine athleteWhy self-awareness is key to building trust and connection with a horseHow suppressing emotions often leads to overwhelm and breakdown laterWhy getting into the run requires stepping out of overthinking & trusting muscle memoryWhy too much information can pull athletes out of their bodies and into their headsThe power in finding opportunity & growth within your challenges Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/getting-out-of-your-head Connect with Lydia:Follow on Instagram @breakinggroundcoachingConnect on FacebookCheck out her websiteSend her an email at breakinggroundllc@outlook.com Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com Resources & Links:span...

In today's episode, I'm talking about the beliefs that keep us from asking for help. Asking for and receiving help is something I’ve been working on in my own life for quite some time now. It’s something that many of us struggle with (especially in agriculture).The truth, though? Not asking for help keeps us isolated, and honestly, that’s not benefiting anyone. As I continue working on this in my own life, I’ve realized that asking for and receiving help doesn’t mean I’m weak or “less than.” I’m letting connection happen, and that’s a beautiful thing!I want to encourage you to think about YOUR beliefs that may be keeping you from asking for help. You might be surprised at how good it feels when someone helps you (and how much they love it, too)!In this episode, I cover:Why asking for & receiving help has been such a challenge for me + many others in rural spacesA recent example from my own life of almost turning down help + what it revealedResults from my recent Instagram poll about how likely we are to ask for help5 core beliefs that hold many of us back from asking for helpHow generational conditioning & learned survival patterns shape the ways we avoid or decline helpThe difference between healthy independence & isolating ourselvesA powerful reframe I’m now leaning into when asking for help3 reflection prompts for you to explore Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/asking-for-help Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you Join the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveCheck out my merch shopGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, we're talking about the growing pains of boundaries, help, and working together. While we complement each other in day-to-day work (and our relationship overall), we definitely still butt heads. We've had arguments that feel funny now (like a certain Jack Russell terrier that almost ruined our relationship)! Working cattle has taught us about reading energy, adjusting expectations, and giving each other space when necessary.Maybe you have some growing pains with boundaries, asking for help, or something else in your life. Either way, you're so not alone, and we hope this lighthearted Q&A helps you feel a little more seen!In this episode, we cover:How Tom and I complement each other in day-to-day ranch work + spots where we still butt headsThe growing pains of boundaries in marriageOur argument from years ago that now feels funnyThe cattle-working lesson that shows up in our marriageWhy both asking for help AND receiving help still feels challengingA meaningful moment of finally accepting help that made a big differenceMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/growing-pains-of-boundariesConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you Join the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveCheck out my merch shopGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm calling out the quiet crisis in rural mental health. So many of us in agriculture have had to numb ourselves just to get through the day. But that numbness didn't come out of nowhere. It came from surviving, and it's NOT sustainable. We can't pretend it isn't costing us something!If you're listening today and you're carrying something heavy, please know that you don't have to wait until it breaks you. Reach out and let someone share the load with you, because you're NOT meant to do this alone!In this episode, I cover:The alarming & heartbreaking suicide statistics impacting rural AmericaWhy “toughness” and numbness aren’t working + what rural communities need MORE ofHow to start honest conversations that go deeper than surface-level check-insWhat we CAN do to support rural mental health + create real, safe spaces for ourselves & othersMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/rural-mental-healthConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you Join the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveCheck out my merch shopGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, Danielle Kruse and I are talking about life after loss in rural America.Danielle and her husband had built a life in northwest Iowa, raising babies and crops and building a farm alongside his parents. Like so many rural families, there was pride, responsibility, and pressure. What Danielle didn't know was that her husband was quietly battling a drinking addiction he kept hidden from nearly everyone, and he eventually took his own life.Life after loss changes everything, but Danielle is proof that it doesn't have to erase your future. You can keep going while still grieving, and you can choose honesty over silence. You can ask for help, even when it feels foreign. And you CAN build something solid and steady for the future.In this episode, we cover:Danielle’s path from healthcare to farm wife & now running the farm with her in-lawsHer husband’s hidden drinking addiction, shame & circumstances surrounding his deathWhy asking for help feels impossible when you’re numbing or afraid of being a burdenDanielle’s experience with grief and anger, and the reality that closure is often a mythHow she and her in-laws strengthened their relationship while keeping the farm goingThe support system that helped her navigate life after lossHer kids’ resilience and the role therapy played for all of themThe financial + operational learning curve she faced stepping into farm responsibilitiesDanielle’s commitment to honesty, hard conversations & letting go of others’ opinionsThe stability & support she finds in her part-time ultrasound career Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/life-after-loss Connect with Danielle:Follow on Instagram @dlkruseConnect on FacebookFollow on TikTok @danielleleekruse Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and ChangeJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveCheck out my merch shopGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm talking about what to do if you can't tell what your body is saying. If you've spent years in survival mode (especially in agriculture), disconnecting from your body isn't a failure; it's a skill you learned to get through hard seasons. Pushing through, overriding needs, and ignoring cues, that's how many of us survived. Of course, it feels confusing to suddenly be asked to "listen to your body" when you have NO idea how to do that!If you're wondering how to reconnect with what your body is saying, start with awareness. I promise, it's never too late to relearn what your body is trying to tell you! In this episode, I cover:Why so many of us genuinely have NO idea what our bodies are trying to tell usHow we learn to override body cues in survival modeWhy we put logic on a pedestal, but ignore sensations & emotionsWhat happens when we ignore body signals for too longMy personal story of what chronic override in the body can look likeWhy feeling requires SAFETY firstHow to start tuning in through non-judgmental awareness & curiosityHow to read your body like you read cattleWhy awareness is the first step that creates the next right action Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-your-body-is-saying Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Listen to my private podcast, The DrawJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveCheck out my merch shopGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm diving into the question: "What if anger isn't bad, it's just misunderstood?" Believe me, I used to be that person who felt guilty the instant anger showed up. Anger doesn't disappear just because we pretend it's not there. It builds, simmers, and eventually leaks out in ways we don't plan for. Anger is just information about how our bodies are feeling off, unsafe, or out of alignment (kind of like how our cattle show us when the pressure isn't right).Ultimately, anger isn't "bad" or the enemy - it's a compass pointing us toward truth, alignment, and authenticity. When we listen to it, we gain clarity, stronger boundaries, deeper relationships, and a whole lot more connection!In this episode, I cover:What anger actually is + why it’s valuable informationHow guilt and shame differ + why shame often shows up with angerWhat suppressed anger turns intoHow anger was modeled for us growing up + that shaped our avoidance of itWhy healthy anger supports boundaries, clarity & authenticitySimple tools to help you work with angerMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-if-anger-isnt-bad Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Join the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

There's been such a powerful ripple effect from episode 105, Comfortably Numb: When Calm Becomes Disconnection. After sharing more about it on social media, so many of you reached out with your own experiences of looking "fine" on the outside but feeling anything but that on the inside. In today's episode, I'm talking about being "comfortably numb" and what healing feels like on the other side. Healing doesn't make life easy, but it makes us capable. If you're longing to move from numb to calm and learn what healing feels like on the other side, I would be honored to walk with you inside 1:1 Good Movement Guidance! You never have to do this work alone, friend.In this episode, I cover:The difference between appearing “calm” and actually being disconnected or numbHow I used busyness, people-pleasing, and toxic positivity to avoid discomfortMy physical symptoms that showed up from long-term internal tensionWhat has majorly improved for me since I’ve focused on healingHow feeling anger, setting boundaries, and expressing honesty now feel good & groundingPractices & key mindset shifts that have helped me reconnect with myselfReflection questions to check in with yourself Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-healing-feels-like Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Connect with JadaJoin 1:1 Good Movement GuidanceJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm talking about the hidden wounds behind the Four Horsemen of Communication. I really want to peel back the layers further and look at the wounds beneath the behaviors. Stonewalling (my personal default + the one for many of you as well) is often the body's cry for safety. Our nervous system is overwhelmed and shutting down because we just can't take any more.These patterns once helped you survive, but they don't have to run the show anymore. When you're ready to explore what healing looks like in your life, I'd love to walk with you through it!In this episode, I cover:Why the four horsemen often stem from deeper emotional woundsHow criticism seeks safety through control or perfection when love once felt performance-basedHow contempt masks deep hurt or shameWhy defensiveness is a fear response rooted in not feeling safe to be wrong or misunderstoodWhy stonewalling is the body’s “shutdown” mode when emotions or conflict feel unsafeRealizing that these patterns once protected you, but won’t allow you to truly healMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/hidden-woundsConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Schedule a free 30-minute consult callJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm talking about boundaries that grow capacity. Many of us grew up believing we were responsible for everyone else's emotions. We learned to stay quiet, stay polite, and keep everyone happy. Unfortunately, those patterns often show up later as burnout, resentment, or the quiet ache of always being available for everyone but ourselves.Boundaries don't have to mean permanence or walls that never come down; they're more like fences with gates. Boundaries that grow capacity can be uncomfortable at first, but over time, that discomfort turns into peace and regrowth.In this episode, I cover:How to recognize when your body is signaling the need for a boundaryWhy so many of us were conditioned to feel responsible for other people’s emotionsHow guilt, burnout & resentment often show up when boundaries are missingThe difference between compassion and carrying someone else’s emotional loadWhy boundaries are more like fences with gates than walls or distanceHow boundaries help grow your capacity + protect your energyThe connection between boundaries & healing (for you and your loved ones) Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/boundaries-that-grow-capacityConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Episode 36: Boundaries Are KindEpisode 93: Family Dynamics and Emotional Healing with Paige DulaneyEpisode 102: Stop Carrying Everyone Else’s Healing: Do the Work for You FirstJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

I'm honored to welcome my friend, Will Hudson, to the podcast today!Will's story starts like many others in ranch country: long hours, responsibility at a young age, and a deep desire to prove himself. But somewhere along the way, approval from others became his fuel, and drinking became the way to feel "good enough." In today's episode, we're diving into what being seen and staying sober has really entailed for Will. What started as a party habit in high school and college grew into something that quietly followed him home, into marriage and fatherhood. His story is one of redemption, humility, and hope. He is proof that healing doesn't make us weak; it makes us whole!In this episode, we cover:Will’s journey from ranch manager to rediscovering his faith, purpose & sobrietyHow drinking became tied to seeking approval and self-worthThe moment Will’s wife’s ultimatum changed everything + what life looks like on the other side of addictionThe role of Wild Courage + the power of being witnessed without judgment or fixingHow faith, community & emotional honesty reshaped Will’s marriage and relationshipsThe unexpected ways inner healing has improved Will’s connection with horses & work on the ranchWhy true strength means showing up, being seen, and doing the hard inner workMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/staying-soberConnect with Will:Follow on Instagram @wlazyhSend him an email at hudsonw1987@gmail.com Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor MateSeth Dahl and the Emotionally Whole FamilyListen to The Wild Courage PodcastEpisode: Will Hudson, from a Branding trap to BrotherhoodLearn about Wild Courage Fire NightsJoin 1:1 Good Movement GuidanceJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

Relationships are built in the day-to-day: the small exchanges, the tone of our words, and the way we handle conflict when things start to go sideways. In today's episode, I'm diving into the Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse (and what to do instead). Sounds a bit dramatic (I know), but what's even more fascinating is that every single one of these horsemen has an antidote!If you find yourself on the receiving end of these patterns, remember: you still have power. Stay curious about what might be happening underneath the reaction, because every relationship will face conflict. What matters most is how we HANDLE it.After all, good movement in relationships looks like choosing presence over reaction, connection over protection, and grace over blame!In this episode, I cover:The Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse + what they reveal about communicationHow criticism starts from a valid need but turns into a personal attackWhy contempt is the biggest predictor of divorceHow defensiveness fuels conflict instead of protecting youWhat stonewalling looks like + why it often signals overwhelmThe antidotes for each horseman + how to use them in real timeWhat to do when you’re on the receiving endWhy awareness is the first step toward creating better connections & repairing Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/four-horsemen-relationship-apocalypse Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and StonewallingJoin the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm talking about what happens when calm becomes disconnection. What we often call calm isn't really calm at all. On the outside, it looks steady and strong, but inside? It can feel tight, numb, or completely disconnected - it's what I like to call "comfortably numb."This is what so many of us in agriculture are taught - be tough, hold it together, and keep going (no matter what). But when calm becomes disconnection, we lose touch with ourselves AND the people around us.True calm comes from a regulated nervous system. It's the kind of peace that allows you to think, feel, connect, and actually be present.In this episode, I cover:What true calm really means + how it differs from disconnectionWhy we often mistake being calm for being disconnectedHow to recognize the physical & emotional signs of true calm vs. shutdownPractical ways to come back from a freeze or shutdown + reconnect with yourself and others Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/when-calm-becomes-disconnection Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Join the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, I'm sharing why it doesn't have to be major to matter. Sometimes we downplay our pain because it doesn't look like a single, defining moment. We compare our experiences to others, dismissing our own hurts as "not that bad." But trauma isn't measured by the size of the event - it's about what happens INSIDE of us. Pain doesn't have to be major to matter - choosing to name it isn't wall wing, but will allow you to find true HEALING!In this episode, I cover:Why pain doesn’t have to come from a major traumatic event to matterHow the little hurts & unmet needs can build up over time + affect us laterWhat shapes our individual capacity to handle painWhat happens when we keep dismissing the small stuff Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/major-to-matter Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Join the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting