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When going through a custody battle, a "silver bullet" is when someone makes false allegations of domestic violence against their spouse to immediately remove them from the home and to start alienating the children against them.
I went through this ordeal in 2022 and now have 50% custody of my children and, more importantly, an extremely strong bond with them. This podcast contains stories of resilience and shared wisdom learned through my journey as a father in navigating an abusive marriage, false allegations of domestic violence, parental alienation, and post-separation abuse.
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In this episode, I describe the psychology of Flying Monkeys (people who enable your ex) and the strategy for how to deal with them. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about finding humor in life as a way to heal. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about why I prefer having 50/50 with a high-conflict coparenting as opposed to having full custody or primary custody. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I discuss the concept of "supply" and outline why gray rocking (or being emotionally inert) is the way to go when dealing with our co-parents. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In the episode, I discuss the unsavory aspects of healing. I also read and respond to a listener's letter about going through a similar situation. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I outline the documentation strategy that helped me get custody of my kids. In summary: Take lots of pictures. Get a voice recorder and record visitations.Get a dash cam and record exchanges.After visitations, send yourself an email with a summary of the visit. Hire professionals to monitor you and write a report. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about the mindset of overcoming obstacles vs removing obstacles. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about how people may weaponize therapy against you. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about my Christmas holiday and the coparenting issues that arose. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about the concepts behind Gentle Parenting. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about the things I'm thankful for. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I discuss how I overcame the stigma of false allegations. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about the importance of self-care through your emotional recovery. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about the process of overcoming trauma from your ex and your kids. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I discuss all the ways I was able to counter my ex's attempts at counter-parenting. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about how to navigate co-parenting conflict and avoiding traps. In summary: 1. Avoid verbal communications. 2. Stick to written communications like emails. There are co-parenting apps like TalkingParents and OurFamilyWizard that works great for this. 3. Respond with a canned response. 4. Disengage. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about ways of getting over your ex. 1. Take off the rose-colored glasses. 2. Respect and love yourself. 3. Realize your ex is not who you think they are. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I discuss ways to think about and talk to your kids when they are angry. The coach I reference in this episode is Dr. Amy J.L. Baker. Her website is https://www.amyjlbaker.com. The book I reference in this episode is called "The Whole-Brain Child", by authors Daniel J. Siegel M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about how to talk to your kids regarding the divorce and the situation in a way that makes sense to them and to establish yourself as the strong and stable parent. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
In this episode, I talk about CPS investigations and how to prepare for one. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.
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