PF Unfiltered

This Valentine’s week, skip the couple goals content. Here’s a real marriage.He had a full-blown affair in year 2 of their marriage. She flew to Oklahoma, drove him to the other woman’s house, and asked one question:“Is there something you want to tell me?”They just celebrated 20 years of marriage.In this raw and unfiltered episode, Tosin and Sanmi Laja-Akintayo (“The LAs”) share the real story of their marriage including the infidelity that nearly ended it, the five-year journey to rebuild trust, and why they believe there’s “no finished product on the marriage market.”This episode is not about excusing betrayal. It’s about what real repentance, accountability, and rebuilding actually looks like.In this episode:• How they met at a picnic in 2003• Getting married at 23 while still in college• The affair that almost ended their marriage• Why she chose to walk away and what made her reconsider• The work he had to do to rebuild trust• Why “red flags” didn’t exist the way they do today• Why marriage is two people on the assembly line togetherTIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction03:00 – How They Met (The Picnic Story)06:00 – “I Don’t Shake Girls”09:30 – Getting Married at 2312:00 – The Affair19:00 – Flying to Oklahoma22:00 – Confrontation at the Door27:00 – From Betrayal to Rebuilding31:00 – His Journey to Christ42:00 – “No Finished Product”50:00 – Marriage, Money & Differences56:00 – The Offender Can’t Make Demands💬 Would you have stayed? Why or why not? Drop your thoughts in the comments.CONNECT:Instagram: @pfunfilteredChurch: https://www.newcovenanthouse.org#PF Unfiltered, #Christian marriage, #marriage podcast, #infidelity recovery, #forgiveness in marriage, #real marriage, #Christian relationships, #Valentine’s Day podcast, #relationship advice, #Black marriage, #African marriage, #marriage testimony, #faith and relationships

Should you quit your job and chase your passion? Not so fast. Pastor Femi unpacks why passion and purpose aren't the same thing—and why confusing them could have you chasing the wrong thing your whole life.PF shares the 5 clues to finding your actual purpose, gets real about what to do when your passion doesn't pay the bills, and reveals the pivotal moment God asked him: "Who sets your salary me or them?"Plus: A gratitude challenge that will transform your faith by the end of 2026.In this episode:- Why being good at something doesn't make it your purpose- The 5 clues to discovering your God-given calling- How to handle bills while pursuing purpose- PF's raw story about pay, comparison, and trusting God- The practice that's given PF more peace than everChapters00:00 Introduction to Passion and Purpose02:37 Defining Passion vs. Purpose05:22 The Role of Passion in Discovering Purpose08:33 Navigating Career Choices and Financial Stability11:14 The Importance of Skills vs. Passion14:01 Understanding Destiny Helpers16:50 Finding Your Purpose Amidst Job Loss19:38 Practical Steps to Discover Purpose22:14 The Role of Gratitude in Finding Purpose25:06 Overcoming Fear and Anxiety in Career Transitions28:03 Celebrating God's Provision and Guidance30:49 Conclusion and Call to Action"Purpose does not always equal money, but bills always demand money. Sometimes you need something to pay bills while you pursue purpose."What's something you're passionate about that you've realized ISN'T your purpose? Drop it below!CONNECT:Instagram: @pfunfiltered | @femi.omotayoSCRIPTURES: Proverbs 22:29 | Deuteronomy 8:18 | Isaiah 26:3 | Psalm 37:25#ChristianPodcast #FindingYourPurpose #PassionVsPurpose #FaithAndWork #PFUnfiltered #ChristianLiving #TrustingGod #Gratitude

Welcome to Season 4 of PF Unfiltered! We're kicking off the year with a conversation about the elephant in the room: why your New Year resolutions are probably already collecting dust. This isn't just another motivational podcast telling you to "work harder" or "manifest your dreams." This is an honest, biblically grounded conversation about the real reason most people don't achieve their goals and it's not what you think.Pastor Femi breaks down the hard truth: if you're not finding a way to get what you want, you have to question how much you really want it. The hosts explore the difference between saying you desire something versus actually pursuing it with discipline and sacrifice. From weight loss struggles to financial goals, from career aspirations to relationship standards, this episode tackles why we often choose comfort over the things we claim matter most.The conversation gets real about:Chapters00:00 Welcome Back and New Year Reflections04:57 Desire vs. Discipline: The New Year Dilemma09:41 Setting Goals: Societal Expectations vs. Personal Aspirations14:56 The Complexity of Weight Loss and Discipline19:40 The Cost of Achieving Goals: Sacrifices and Tenacity24:17 Financial Responsibility and Control29:28 Discipline in Spending and Lifestyle Choices38:48 Desire vs. Discipline: Finding Solutions43:51 Marriage Goals and Realistic ExpectationsThis episode is brought to you by Barrow Avenue Bakery - the cleanest bread in Dallas with only 6 ingredients (your grocery store loaf has 25!). When the Bible says "man shall not live by bread alone"... it clearly hadn't tried Barrow Avenue. Visit them for fresh artisan bread, cookies, and baked goods that make you question if bread is actually just a building block of heaven.#PFUnfiltered #ChristianPodcast #NewYearGoals #Discipline #ChristianLiving #FaithAndCulture #NigerianChristian #DiasporaFaith #Resolutions #SelfDiscipline #ChristianMotivation #PastorFemi #NewCovenantHouse #Season4Premiere

In this conversation, the PF and team reflect on their experiences in 2025, discussing personal growth, challenges faced, and the importance of community and faith. They emphasize the need for intentionality in setting goals for 2026 and the significance of seeking God personally rather than relying solely on external guidance. The discussion also highlights the challenges of modern community dynamics, particularly in the context of social media, and the necessity of building genuine relationships. As they prepare for the upcoming year, they stress the importance of resilience and faith in navigating future challenges.Chapters00:00 Reflections on 2025: A Year of Growth09:43 Navigating Challenges: Faith and Community19:29 The Importance of Intentionality in 202629:03 Building Real Community: Beyond Social Media39:04 Preparing for 2026: Faith, Goals, and Resilience

Pastor Femi, Esther, and Kenneth tackle the most debated question in church culture with biblical truth and unfiltered honesty. The answer might surprise you.In this episode, PF breaks down 1 Corinthians 8 "idols are nothing" and explains why Christmas shouldn't be the scapegoat for pseudo-spirituality. The crew explores Christian freedom, why believers judge each other over holidays, and how we major in the minors while missing what actually matters.From debating turkey wings as Christmas food to discussing "Dirty December" culture in Nigeria, this conversation mixes theology, humor, and cultural commentary. PF even shares his complex relationship with Christmas after losing his mother on December 25th yet still advocates for celebration without guilt.The bottom line: Celebrate or don't celebrate but stop using holidays as spiritual one-upmanship.💬 Where do you land on Christmas? Do you celebrate, skip it, or somewhere in between? Let us know in the comments 👇🏾Chapters00:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:01:05 Should Christians Celebrate Christmas?00:02:40 Personal Experiences and Traditions00:06:35 Religious Significance and Observance00:19:25 Commercialization and Societal Pressures00:33:26 Conclusion and Final Thoughts📱 CONNECT WITH US:• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• Pastor PF's Instagram: @femi.omotayo• Listen on Spotify: [link]• Listen on Apple Podcasts: [link]🎙️ ABOUT PF UNFILTERED:PF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about dating, money, church life, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.#ChristianPodcast #Christmas #ChristianFreedom #BiblicalTeaching #ChristianLiving #PFUnfiltered #FaithAndCulture #ChurchCulture #ChristianHolidays #Theology #ModernChristianity #AfricanChristian #BibleStudy #ChristianLife #HolidayDebate

"If you leave church because you are hurt, you never understood what church was about." - Pastor FemiControversial? Absolutely. But before you comment, hear the full conversation.Young people are leaving church in record numbers—especially African immigrants and diaspora Christians who grew up in the faith. Pastor Femi, Kenneth, and Esther tackle why this is happening and whether walking away is actually the answer.**The Real Problem:** The church's message isn't relevant anymore. Prosperity gospel, performative religion, and outdated approaches don't address real-world struggles. Young people can get what church promises—success, happiness, community—without the restrictions.**The Internet Christianity Trap:** The pandemic normalized watching church online. But PF warns: isolated faith can't survive spiritual warfare. "You watch service for one hour, shut the screen—there's no interaction with anything spiritual. The devil whispers something, and there's no one there to challenge it."**Church Hurt—The Hard Truth:** PF's take: "Church is a hospital. We're all patients." Everyone is imperfect. You've hurt people. People will hurt you. The question isn't whether to leave when hurt happens—it's understanding that church is where broken people heal together.But here's the key distinction: Leave a toxic congregation if you must. Don't abandon the body of Christ. Find a church that fits—different worship styles, different emphases, but stay connected to community.**What We Cover:**• Why young African Christians are leaving church• The danger of YouTube theology and self-proclaimed teachers• Spectator church vs. real community• Accountability vs. forgiveness in church leadership• How to find the right church without church shopping• The woman caught in adultery: loving people into repentance**Key Quotes:**"Church is a hospital. We're all patients." - PF"How can you say you love God but despise his body?" - PF"YouTube made deconstruction fashionable." - PF"We don't abandon relationships; we try to make relationships better." - PFIf you've been hurt by church or you're questioning whether to stay, this conversation is for you.**Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about faith, culture, and real Christian living.**---### Timestamps / Chapters0:00 - Intro: New Covenant House Goes Viral2:45 - Why Young People Are Leaving Church5:05 - The Problem with the Prosperity Gospel Message9:19 - Church Hurt: Why People Are Walking Away13:24 - Internet Christianity & The Pandemic Effect16:20 - The Dangers of YouTube Theology18:43 - Self-Proclaimed Teachers & Bible Studies Gone Wrong23:35 - The Spectator Church Problem25:27 - Church Hurt: Should You Leave or Stay?28:31 - Church as a Hospital for Imperfect People32:05 - When Worship Style Becomes a Dealbreaker36:55 - Finding the Right Church Community38:55 - Accountability vs. Forgiveness in Church Leadership41:24 - Loving People Into Repentance (The Woman Caught in Adultery)45:03 - Final Encouragement: Don't Turn Your Back on the Body of Christ#ChurchHurt #ChristianPodcast #PFUnfiltered #LeavingChurch #ChristianCommunity #FaithJourney #ChurchLeadership #BlackChurch #AfricanDiaspora #OnlineChurch #InternetChristianity #Deconstruction #ChristianYouTube #BibleTeaching #PastorFemi #NewCovenantHouse #FaithAndCulture #ChurchAccountability #ForgivenessInChurch #ChristianConversations

We’re opening up the floor! Drop your raw, honest, unfiltered questions about faith, relationships, real-life struggles, and everything in between. No topic is off-limits. Send your questions to askpf@pfunfiltered.com or DM us on IG  @PFUnfiltered  . PF is looking forward to your questions!

In this heartfelt Thanksgiving episode of PF Unfiltered, the crew tackles the hardest kind of gratitude - being thankful when life isn't going according to plan. Discover how our hosts navigate family traditions, personal growth, and the transformative power of community. Whether you're a fan of turkey or prefer jollof rice, this conversation will inspire you to find your own reasons to be thankful. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that celebrates the essence of Thanksgiving.00:01:06 Intro00:02:29 Thanksgiving Traditions and Challenges00:03:40 Reflecting on Gratitude00:06:10 The Role of Faith and Community00:09:10 Personal Stories and Insights00:14:21 Conclusion and Thanksgiving Wishes### What You'll Learn- How to find silver linings when life feels like a dark cloud- Why being grateful doesn't mean pretending everything is fine- Biblical principles for trusting God's timing when plans fall apart- The difference between letting God lead vs. trying to control outcomes- How to recognize that your "mess" might be carrying a message- Why community is essential during seasons of transformation- Practical ways to cultivate gratitude even in disappointment### Connect With Us🎙️ **Subscribe** to PF Unfiltered for weekly unfiltered conversations about faith, culture, and real life.💬 **Join the Conversation**Tell us in the comments: What are you grateful for this Thanksgiving, even if life feels messy right now?🔔 **Turn on notifications** so you never miss an episode!### Related Episodes You'll Love- "Red Flags Christians Ignore in Dating & Friendships"- "Should Pastors Be Paid? - Money, Ministry & What the Bible Says"- "Finding God in the Waiting Season"### Relevant Hashtags#PFUnfiltered #Thanksgiving #ChristianPodcast #Gratitude #FaithAndCulture #TrustGodsTiming #FindingPurpose #ChristianCommunity #NewCovenantHouse #AfricanChristian #FaithJourney #BeThankful #MessToMessage #TransformingGrace

In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF sits down with Dami and Lolade Akibola, an incredible couple to discuss one of the most challenging aspects of marriage: MONEY!!. If you've ever wondered how to handle finances as a married couple, especially when cultural expectations clash with modern realities, this conversation is essential.Dami and Lolade share their journey from college students with completely different money mindsets to building a strong financial partnership. Lolade grew up hyper-aware of money after losing her father at age 11, determined never to be broke. Dami, on the other hand, came from a family where he saw how money was spent but never how it was earned—leading to regular overdrafts and zero savings in college. Their story proves that where you start financially doesn't determine where you finish.00:00 Introduction and Opening Remarks00:30 Meet the Special Guests02:40 Personal Backgrounds and Money Stories05:17 Defining Moments and Financial Attitudes10:05 Marriage Dynamics and Financial Management16:23 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles29:27 The Financial Realities of Marriage29:52 The Importance of Compatibility in Marriage31:41 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles32:43 Balancing Dreams and Practicality34:25 Managing Finances as a Team40:39 Dealing with Debt Together50:07 The Role of Support and Vision in Marriage53:38 Practical Financial Management Tips56:22 Final Thoughts and ReflectionsAbout PF Unfiltered:PF Unfiltered is a conversational podcast led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas. We blend honest, humorous, and thought-provoking dialogue exploring faith, culture, relationships, and personal growth through the lens of modern African Christians living in the diaspora.Follow PF Unfiltered:Instagram: @pfunfilteredYouTube: PF UnfilteredWebsite: [pfunfiltered.com]Guest Bio:Dami Akibola: Associate Pastor at New Covenant House, married to Lolade for 17+ years, father of two, and proud believer that partnership beats patriarchyLolade Akibola: CFO/Head of Finance Ministry at New Covenant House, finance professional with 20+ years experience, debt-free advocate, and the family's financial architect

In this episode of PF Unfiltered, the hosts delve into the complexities of emotions, mental health, and seasonal depression. They discuss personal experiences with depression, the impact of faith and community, and practical ways to manage mental health during difficult times. The conversation also highlights the difference between happiness and joy, the importance of purpose, and practical activities that can provide mental rest. This episode aims to offer viewers insights and tools to address their mental well-being while fostering a deeper understanding of faith's role in navigating life's challenges.00:00 Introduction and First Impressions00:24 Meet the Hosts02:19 Discussing Feelings03:24 Emotions and Rationality05:32 Seasonal Depression and Faith13:43 Understanding Joy and Happiness16:10 Personal Experiences with Depression19:33 Seasonal Depression and Coping Strategies24:55 Recognizing Overwhelm and Depression25:24 The Nigerian Approach to Mental Health25:46 Balancing Faith and Mental Health27:06 Community Support and Depression29:38 The Pursuit of Happiness vs. Contentment43:37 Finding Rest and Hobbies for Mental Health46:35 Practical Advice for Managing Depression47:23 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of PF Unfiltered, hosts Esther and Tunde engage in a candid discussion about the differences in Christian faith practices between Nigeria and the United States. They explore the perceptions each country's Christian community has of the other, the cultural and societal influences on faith, and the varying emphases on religious activities. The conversation touches on the challenges of maintaining genuine faith amidst differing societal demands, materialism, and the transactional nature of religious fervor. The episode concludes with a reflection on the essence of faith in Christ, regardless of geographic location.00:00 Introduction and Initial Discussion00:39 Welcoming the Audience02:42 Faith in a Foreign Land04:14 Cultural Differences in Faith05:33 Impact of Environment on Faith09:30 Materialism and Faith13:43 Prayer and Genuine Faith25:19 The Essence of Prayer27:03 Cultural Differences in Religious Practices27:41 Faith and Spiritual Disciplines28:19 Personal Experiences and Lessons in Faith29:27 The State of the Church in Nigeria and America31:21 The True Foundation of Faith32:37 Challenges and Misconceptions in Faith36:45 The Way Forward: Christ-Centered Faith43:33 Final Thoughts and Reflections51:36 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

In this episode PF gets candid about almost breaking under the weight of perfection, how performing perfection nearly cost him his peace and how honesty, grace, and purpose pulled him back, first-born vs last-born pressure, and why the Holy Spirit not the timeline should set your pace.

What does it mean to have boundaries as a Christian? In this episode, PF Unfiltered explores how fear, insecurity, and people-pleasing often keep us from saying no. The crew tackles boundaries in relationships, money, church life, and work with biblical wisdom and real-life stories. Learn why confidence in God (not just self-help tips) is the foundation for healthy limits.

In this unfiltered conversation, Pastor Femi, Esther, and Tunde flip the script on red flags — and dive deep into what green flags really look like in relationships, friendships, and faith.From emotional availability to patience, honesty, and kindness, the crew breaks down how to spot healthy traits without confusing them for performance or perfection. 🟩They get real about modern dating terms, spiritual maturity, and even debate hot topics like:What does it mean to be “emotionally available”?Is financial status really a green flag?Can you be honest and still unkind?How do you discern good character without judging by appearances or money?As always, PF brings humor, scripture, and truth — with plenty of laughs (and side-eye moments) along the way.📖 “Some virtues are not inherently virtuous — honesty without love is just cruelty.”🎧 Watch till the end for practical checklists, lighthearted debates, and the hilarious “rapid-fire green flag test.”👇🏾 Join the conversation:What’s your biggest green flag in a person — and what’s a dealbreaker you’ve learned to spot early?

Ever felt stuck between who you’ve been and who you’re called to become? In this episode, Pastor Wale Adenuga shares why he stepped down after 8 years of pastoring, the lessons behind his most famous song, and why contentment not performance is the heart of faith. Expect laughter, raw honesty, and hard truths about church culture, leadership, and transition.

From wig lace and too much makeup to love bombing and selfish friendships, the PF Unfiltered crew dives into the petty and the serious signs you shouldn’t ignore. Expect laughs, cultural banter, and biblical wisdom on spotting red flags in dating, friendships, and beyond.

How do we disagree without blowing up the relationship? In this lively PF Unfiltered episode, PF, Esther, and T dig into real-life conflict: tone vs. words, listening to understand (not to clap back), “agree to disagree,” switching churches over style, being friends with exes, and the spicy liquor-store question for Christians. Also: the eternal debate… pineapple on pizza 🍍🍕.

Season 3 of PF Unfiltered kicks off with a big question: Should pastors, worship leaders, and church creatives be paid—or is ministry meant to be free? Pastor Femi and the crew dive into the unfiltered truth about church money, pastoral pay, musicians charging fees, and even the controversy over private jets. We unpack Bible verses like “don’t muzzle the ox,” talk church finances and stewardship, and share real stories from ministry life. Plus: life updates, why PF says wisdom comes with age, and a sneak peek of what’s ahead this season. Honest, funny, and faith-filled—this is church talk without the filter.🎉 Sponsored by Mama Mary’s All-Purpose Seasoning – bold Nigerian-inspired flavor, available on Amazon.

What would PF do if God gave him just one week? Hear his honest, heartfelt answer—alongside hilarious banter, some sandwich betrayal, and lessons on staying connected to the Body of Christ.🎉 This episode is sponsored by Mama Mary’s All-Purpose Seasoning!Nigerian-inspired, bold flavor for soups, stews, rice, meats & more.🌿 Original & Low Sodium (No MSG) options available.🛒 Order on Amazon + get 10% off with code PFSUMMER10📍 Visit mamamarysllc.com for recipes & wholesale info📲 Follow @mamamarysllc on IG, TikTok, & Facebook.🍞 This episode is also brought to you by Barrow Avenue Bakery!Craving soft Nigerian bread, pastries, or fresh meat pies?Barrow Avenue serves West African comfort—one bite at a time.📦 Nationwide shipping available🛒 Order now: BarrowAvenue.com📲 Follow @barrowavenuebakery on IG for the latest drops.

They barely knew each other. “The Lord said...” turned into “We’re pregnant” on day one. In this hilarious yet sobering episode, the crew and Guest, Pastor AK dive into the chaos that unfolds when couples skip friendship, rush into marriage, and let pressure or prophecy drive their decisions.Real talk. Real laughs. Always unfiltered.This Episode is Sponsored by Mama Mary’s All-Purpose Seasoning! 🎉Mama Mary’s is the Nigerian spice blend that makes every meal easier, tastier, and more affordable. Packed with essentials like onion, garlic, curry, thyme, cayenne, and more, it’s your go-to for soups, stews, rice, meat, fish, veggies—anything!Available in original and low sodium/no MSG options.Order now on Amazon or Amazon Prime and use code PFSUMMER10 for 10% off!Check out mamamarysllc.com for easy recipes and wholesale info.Follow @mamamarysllc on IG, Facebook, and TikTok for more