PF Unfiltered

Churches used to talk about lust all the time. Now they don't — and PF has a theory about why. In this episode, PF, Esther, and Tunde tackle the conversation most pastors and podcasters won't touch: sexual desire, attraction, what both men and women are responsible for, and why being honest about biology doesn't make you a bad person.PF gets into why he'd rather preach about redemption than catalogue sins, what happens when desire becomes "inordinate," and the uncomfortable reality that human biology hasn't caught up with modern expectations. This one will make you think — and probably make you uncomfortable. That's the point.In this episode:- Why churches stopped talking about lust (and what replaced it)- PF's definition: "Lust is desire that has become inappropriate"- The honest conversation about attraction most men are afraid to have- What you lead with is what you attract — and that applies to everyone- Practical advice for managing desire without pretending it doesn't exist- Why God doesn't remove sexual desire — and what He does insteadTIMESTAMPS00:00 - Cold Open: "Christ Is Doing a LOT of Work"00:28 - Introduction: Esther, Tunde & PF01:44 - Why Don't Churches Talk About Lust Anymore?04:25 - PF: Why I'd Rather Preach Redemption Than Catalogue Sin06:01 - "Lust Is Desire That Has Become Inappropriate"07:00 - Appropriate Desire vs. Inordinate Desire12:47 - Does Physical Attraction Have to Come First?15:00 - The Difficulty of Managing Desire in Relationships16:55 - "If You Lead With Your Body, You Attract Men Interested in Your Body"20:07 - "Don't Put Meat on the Table and Beat the Dog for Salivating"21:56 - "Society Has Evolved. Humanity Has Not."23:05 - What 99.9% of Men See (And Won't Admit)25:20 - Why Men Won't Be Honest About This29:30 - Sports, Music & Media: The Constant Trigger34:00 - Practical Advice: How to Actually Manage Desire39:30 - Why God Didn't Design You to Marry at 3540:35 - "God Doesn't Remove Desire. He Gives You Strength."42:30 - Both Sides Must Own Their PartThis one's going to spark debate. Where do you land — is this a men's problem, a women's problem, or a everyone problem? Comment below.CONNECT:Instagram: @pfunfiltered | @femi.omotayoChurch: newcovenanthouse.orgPF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about lust, sexual desire, purity, dating, modesty, attraction, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.#Lust #ChristianPodcast #PFUnfiltered #SexualPurity #ChristianDating #FaithAndCulture #Modesty #ChristianLiving #Attraction #ChristianRelationships #PurityCulture #RealTalk #HonestyInChurch #SinAndRedemption

This conversation gets heated in the best way. The crew unpacks what it actually means to be the church not a building, not a concert, not a social club but the body of Christ. PF argues that rejecting the church wholesale while claiming to follow Christ is a contradiction, and draws a sharp line between acceptance and tolerance that will challenge both sides of the debate.The episode digs into why church culture has become more about comfort than confrontation with truth, and why that shift is actually hurting people instead of helping them. PF compares the church to a hospital full of sick patients, if someone vomits on you, you don't leave the hospital. You're a patient too.Whether you've been hurt by the church, you're questioning whether you even need to attend, or you're someone in the pews wondering how to correct with grace this episode doesn't let anyone off the hook.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Cold Open: "Being a Christian Doesn't Mean You're Full of Christ"00:42 – Introductions & the Viral Video That Started It All02:04 – "God's Chosen Ones Don't Go to Church" Breaking Down the Claim03:30 – What Is the Church? The Body of Christ Explained06:00 – "I Accept You, But I Won't Tolerate Your BS"10:00 – Church Hurt: When Correction Feels Like Judgment14:30 – Boundaries, Cow Skin at Customs & Why Every Community Has Rules18:00 – Social Media Christians & Putting Your Convictions on Others22:00 – The Woman Caught in Adultery: How Jesus Handled Both Sides30:00 – PF's Story: Humiliated at His First Church & Why he Stayed35:00 – The Church Is a Hospital Full of Sick People40:00 – "Your Weed Guy Doesn't Judge you that's the Point"45:00 – What Would You Say to Someone Who Left the Church?50:00 – Wrap Up: "Read Your Bible"Real talk — have you ever left a church because of how people treated you? What brought you back (or didn't)? Drop it in the comments.📱 CONNECT WITH US:• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• Pastor PF's Instagram: @femi.omotayo• New Covenant House Dallas: newcovenanthouse.orgPF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about church life, spiritual growth, and living authentically. New episodes drop weekly.#ChristianPodcast #ChurchHurt #PFUnfiltered #FaithAndCulture #ChristianLiving #AfricanChristian #ChurchIsNotABuilding #BibleStudy #Deconstruction #FaithConversations

Growing up in an African household often comes with strict, unwritten rules—don’t question authority, don’t challenge your parents, and always respect your elders. But what happens when you’re an adult living in a different culture and those expectations remain the same?In this episode, PF reflects on his upbringing with a strict Yoruba mother and a more liberal father, and how those experiences shaped the way he now raises his own children. The conversation explores the important difference between honor and obedience, emphasizing that honoring parents means showing respect and care, but it doesn’t always mean obeying every instruction.The crew also dives into the realities of navigating cultural expectations, generational love languages, family guilt, and the challenges of parenting differently from how you were raised. It’s a candid, thoughtful discussion about faith, culture, and breaking unhealthy patterns while still honoring where you come from.TIMESTAMPS- 00:00 — Cold Open: Esther vs. PF's Last Name Drama- 01:30 — Esther's Story: "I Matched My Dad's Energy"- 03:30 — What Were Your Parents Like Growing Up?- 05:30 — PF's Upbringing: Strict Mom, Liberal Dad- 08:00 — Discipline in the Nigerian Home: No Escape from Justice- 09:30 — When Parents Transition from Authority to Counselor- 11:00 — Yoruba Culture: Never Challenge Authority- 13:00 — PF's Wife AK vs. His Mother — The Baby Bath Standoff- 17:00 — Moving Away: When Distance Changes Everything- 19:00 — The Party Incident: When Everyone Applied Wisdom- 21:00 — HONOR vs. OBEDIENCE: The Biblical Distinction- 23:00 — Practical Example: Absent Father Gives College Advice- 25:30 — Emotional Blackmail: "I Won't Come to the Wedding"- 28:00 — First Paycheck Culture: Biblical or Just Tradition?- 30:00 — When You Can't Afford to Help Your Parents- 33:00 — "What's Frivolous to You Is Existential to Them"- 35:00 — Honoring a Parent Who Abandoned You- 37:00 — Tunde's Struggle: Love Languages with In-Laws- 42:00 — What PF Did Differently Raising His Kids- 45:00 — Curiosity vs. Obedience: Don't Kill the Child's Brain- 48:00 — Should Christian Parents Spank Their Kids?- 50:00 — The Rod Is Authority, Not Just a Stick- 52:00 — PF's Daughter Was Hitting Kids — The Wake-Up Call- 54:00 — Closing: What PF Is Grateful For + Next Episode Teaser Community CTA💬 Real talk: Did your parents blur the line between honor and obedience? What's the hardest conversation you've ever had with them about boundaries? Drop it in the comments — we read every single one.📱 CONNECT WITH US:- Instagram: @pfunfiltered- PF's Instagram: @femi.omotayoPF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about parenting, money, church life, spiritual growth, and living authentically across cultures. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life. Tags#ChristianPodcast #HonorYourParents #NigerianParenting #AfricanDiaspora #FaithAndCulture #PFUnfiltered #ChristianParenting #BiblicalWisdom #YorubaCulture #BoundariesWithParents #ChristianLiving #ParentChildRelationship #DiasporaFaith #ChurchCulture #RealTalk #UnfilteredFaith #NewCovenant #SpiritualGrowth #GenerationalTrauma #BreakingCycles

If you had a billion dollars, what would you do? PF's answer might surprise you — and then he flips the question entirely. In this episode, PF, Esther, Kenneth, and Tunde tackle one of the most uncomfortable questions in Christian culture: how much money is actually enough? PF breaks down exactly what $1 million can cover (house, car, food, kids' tuition) and then asks why none of us would actually be satisfied with that.The conversation goes deeper than budgets. This is about contentment, greed, the pressure to keep up, and why the church needs to be the voice that says "you don't need that" when nobody else will.**In this episode:**- PF's billion-dollar plan (and why he wouldn't cover the church's bills)- The math on what you actually need vs. what you think you need- Why a producer went from happy in a small house to stressed in a mansion- The biblical case for contentment — and what "God supplies your needs" really means- Diaspora pressure: when your family thinks America means you're rich- PF confronts his own greed on camera**TIMESTAMPS**`00:00 - Cold Open: "Ask Me If I Used Church Money..."00:27 - Introduction: Esther, Kenneth, PF & Tunde01:48 - "If You Had a Billion Dollars, What Would You Do?"03:16 - Why PF Wouldn't Pay Off the Church's Bills (And Why That's Wise)05:00 - PF's Billion-Dollar Plan: Pay Off Everyone's Debt05:29 - The Bentley Continental GT Dream (Again)06:10 - "How Much Money Is Enough Money?"07:42 - The $1 Million Breakdown: What You Actually Need09:03 - "A Lot of What We Want Is Not What We Need"09:30 - Lifestyle Creep: 4-Bedroom House, 2 Empty Rooms12:02 - "One Million Can Sort You Out for Life"13:10 - "Our Comfort Is Not Determined By Our Need"16:10 - The Producer Who Went From Happy to Stressed17:34 - "Pride and Lust — Period."18:18 - Would You Judge a Homeless Person Who's Content?20:03 - PF Admits His Rolex Isn't a Need21:14 - Philippians 4:19: God Supplies Needs, Not Wants23:57 - Career Ambition or Covetousness? How to Tell the Difference25:52 - "If the Church Won't Say It, Who Will?"30:40 - Diaspora Pressure: When Family Thinks You're Rich40:04 - What PF Learned From His Wife About Not Caring42:09 - Closing: "When the Fruit Is Turning Your Belly, You've Over-Enjoyed"`💬 Be honest: What's your "enough" number? And would you actually stop there? Drop it in the comments.**CONNECT:**Instagram: @pfunfiltered | @femi.omotayoChurch: newcovenanthouse.orgPF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about money, contentment, materialism, stewardship, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.#HowMuchIsEnough #ChristianPodcast #PFUnfiltered #MoneyAndFaith #Contentment #ChristianFinance #Stewardship #Materialism #KeepingUpWithTheJoneses #FaithAndMoney #BiblicalFinance #ChristianLiving #RealTalk

One word said casually, said a thousand times nearly broke a 10-year marriage. It wasn't cheating. It wasn't money. It was something most people say every day without thinking twice. In this episode, PF, Tunde, and Esther get into the small habits that quietly destroy marriages and the ones that quietly save them.PF breaks down what the Bible actually teaches about submission in marriage (it's not what most people think), why dismissing your spouse's concerns even the "small" ones sets a dangerous precedent, and the everyday habits that separate couples who thrive from those who just survive.Timestamps:00:00:00 — Introduction and Hosts00:02:35 — The Importance of Mutual Respect00:07:08 — Submission and Esteeming Each Other00:19:00 — Addressing Sexual Needs in Marriage00:24:00 — Seeking External Advice00:29:00 — Social Media's Impact on Marriage00:36:00 — Habits that Strengthen MarriageKey Takeaways: Prioritizing each other's happiness is crucial in marriage. Mutual respect and understanding can prevent many marital issues. Seeking wise counsel can provide valuable insights and solutions.**CONNECT:**Instagram: @pfunfiltered | @femi.omotayoChurch: newcovenanthouse.orgPF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about marriage, dating, submission, communication, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.#ChristianMarriage #MarriageAdvice #PFUnfiltered #ChristianPodcast #MarriageGoals #HealthyMarriage #Submission #Ephesians5 #MarriageHabits #ChristianCouples #FaithAndMarriage #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesGoals #MarriageTips #RealTalk

Should Christians still tithe? And why do people lose their minds when a pastor wears a nice watch?In this episode, PF, Kenneth, and Esther tackle one of the most divisive topics in church culture — money, tithing, and what pastors actually deserve to earn.PF gets vulnerable about his own lifestyle, reveals he works 80 hours a week on 5 hours of sleep, and explains why he'll never apologize for owning a Rolex. The conversation digs into the theology behind tithing — Old Covenant law versus New Covenant freewill giving — and why so many Christians are confused about what the Bible actually teaches on the subject.PF breaks down why tithing was originally about food (not money), why Malachi 3:10 is the most misquoted verse in church, and what giving should actually look like for believers today.But this isn't just theology. The crew gets real about church operations — from a $50,000 emergency HVAC replacement to why pastors are among the most underpaid professionals in America. PF shares why pastoral suicide rates are alarming, and makes the case that the laborer is worthy of his wages.In this episode:• Why tithing as we know it isn't actually a New Testament command• PF's honest take on pastor compensation and lifestyle scrutiny• The $50K HVAC story: what it really costs to run a church• "Serving God is not a sentence of poverty" — why PF won't apologize• Old Covenant vs. New Covenant: what the Bible actually says about giving• Why pastors are underpaid, underloved, and burning outTIMESTAMPS00:00 - Cold Open: The Pastor's Tattoo Controversy02:00 - Introduction: Kenneth, Esther & PF04:00 - Should Christians Judge Their Pastors?07:00 - "Teachers Will Be Judged More Strictly" — James 3:110:00 - The Tithing Question: Old Covenant vs. New Covenant14:00 - Malachi 3:10: The Most Misquoted Verse in Church?18:00 - Tithing Was About Food, Not Money22:00 - New Testament Giving: Freewill, Not Mandatory26:00 - Why Do People Get Mad at What Pastors Own?30:00 - PF's Rolex: "I Work 80 Hours a Week on 5 Hours of Sleep"34:00 - "Serving God Is Not a Sentence of Poverty"37:00 - The $50,000 HVAC Story: What Running a Church Actually Costs40:00 - Why Pastors Commit Suicide: Underpaid and Underloved44:00 - The Laborer Is Worthy of His Wages47:00 - Prosperity Gospel vs. Honest Compensation50:00 - How Should Christians Give Today?53:00 - Closing Thoughts: Give Cheerfully, Not Under Compulsion💬 Real talk: Do you think pastors should be wealthy? Or is there a line? Drop your take below — keep it respectful.CONNECT:Instagram: @pfunfiltered | @femi.omotayoChurch: https://newcovenanthouse.orgPF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about tithing, church finances, pastoral compensation, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture.Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.#Tithing #ChristianPodcast #PFUnfiltered #ChurchMoney #PastorLife #ShouldChristiansTithe #ChristianFinance #NewCovenant #FaithAndMoney #ChurchLeadership #ProsperityGospel #RealTalk

In this unfiltered conversation, the crew tackles the gender roles debate head-on: Why are men emotionally unavailable? Why do women want men to cry... but also find it "cringy"? And why are we surprised by the exact people WE raised?Pastor Femi makes a bold argument: Stop blaming individuals. Blame the assembly line. The men you're frustrated with? Your mothers raised them. The women with "chips on their shoulders"? Your mothers raised them too.**In this episode:**- Why "strong man" culture produces emotionally absent husbands- The contradiction of wanting a provider and a present partner- What actually makes a leader (hint: not his height or bank account)- Why submission is scary — and what the Bible actually says- How to raise children who won't repeat the cycleTIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Cold Open: "Are You Mad? She's a Human Being"01:00 - Introduction & Content Warning02:00 - The Instagram Reel That Started It: Marriage Adds 7 Hours of Work?05:00 - "Why Do Women Always Want to Be the Victim?"08:00 - Society Raised Men to Provide, Women to Care10:00 - Biology Hasn't Changed: Women Still Carry Babies13:00 - PF's Frustration: Why Make It Seem Intentionally Diabolical?16:00 - Women Go to Therapy. Men Won't Even See a Doctor.17:00 - "When a Man Cries..." — Esther Calls It Cringy21:00 - We Taught Boys That Crying Is Weakness24:00 - "Where's Daddy?" — He Was at Work26:00 - The Problem: Adversarial vs. Collaborative27:00 - Submission: "Your Faith Is in God, Not Your Husband"28:00 - What Makes a Real Leader: Vision, Empathy, Character31:00 - We Raise Ruthless Men Then Wonder Why They're Ruthless at Home33:00 - "Train a Child in the Way He Should Go"36:00 - How PF Raised His Daughters: Good People First39:00 - Choosing Partners: Ambition vs. Compassion42:00 - "When the Bills Aren't Paid, You're Not Thinking 'He's Handsome'"44:00 - The Complexity: Stop the "Men Are / Women Are" Talk45:00 - Closing & Call to Continue the ConversationWho's right? Drop your take in the comments — but keep it respectful.**CONNECT:**Instagram: @pfunfiltered | @femi.omotayo#GenderRoles #ChristianPodcast #PFUnfiltered #Marriage #Relationships #MenVsWomen #RealTalk #ChristianMarriage #RaisingChildren #Leadership

This Valentine’s week, skip the couple goals content. Here’s a real marriage.He had a full-blown affair in year 2 of their marriage. She flew to Oklahoma, drove him to the other woman’s house, and asked one question:“Is there something you want to tell me?”They just celebrated 20 years of marriage.In this raw and unfiltered episode, Tosin and Sanmi Laja-Akintayo (“The LAs”) share the real story of their marriage including the infidelity that nearly ended it, the five-year journey to rebuild trust, and why they believe there’s “no finished product on the marriage market.”This episode is not about excusing betrayal. It’s about what real repentance, accountability, and rebuilding actually looks like.In this episode:• How they met at a picnic in 2003• Getting married at 23 while still in college• The affair that almost ended their marriage• Why she chose to walk away and what made her reconsider• The work he had to do to rebuild trust• Why “red flags” didn’t exist the way they do today• Why marriage is two people on the assembly line togetherTIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction03:00 – How They Met (The Picnic Story)06:00 – “I Don’t Shake Girls”09:30 – Getting Married at 2312:00 – The Affair19:00 – Flying to Oklahoma22:00 – Confrontation at the Door27:00 – From Betrayal to Rebuilding31:00 – His Journey to Christ42:00 – “No Finished Product”50:00 – Marriage, Money & Differences56:00 – The Offender Can’t Make Demands💬 Would you have stayed? Why or why not? Drop your thoughts in the comments.CONNECT:Instagram: @pfunfilteredChurch: https://www.newcovenanthouse.org#PF Unfiltered, #Christian marriage, #marriage podcast, #infidelity recovery, #forgiveness in marriage, #real marriage, #Christian relationships, #Valentine’s Day podcast, #relationship advice, #Black marriage, #African marriage, #marriage testimony, #faith and relationships

Should you quit your job and chase your passion? Not so fast. Pastor Femi unpacks why passion and purpose aren't the same thing—and why confusing them could have you chasing the wrong thing your whole life.PF shares the 5 clues to finding your actual purpose, gets real about what to do when your passion doesn't pay the bills, and reveals the pivotal moment God asked him: "Who sets your salary me or them?"Plus: A gratitude challenge that will transform your faith by the end of 2026.In this episode:- Why being good at something doesn't make it your purpose- The 5 clues to discovering your God-given calling- How to handle bills while pursuing purpose- PF's raw story about pay, comparison, and trusting God- The practice that's given PF more peace than everChapters00:00 Introduction to Passion and Purpose02:37 Defining Passion vs. Purpose05:22 The Role of Passion in Discovering Purpose08:33 Navigating Career Choices and Financial Stability11:14 The Importance of Skills vs. Passion14:01 Understanding Destiny Helpers16:50 Finding Your Purpose Amidst Job Loss19:38 Practical Steps to Discover Purpose22:14 The Role of Gratitude in Finding Purpose25:06 Overcoming Fear and Anxiety in Career Transitions28:03 Celebrating God's Provision and Guidance30:49 Conclusion and Call to Action"Purpose does not always equal money, but bills always demand money. Sometimes you need something to pay bills while you pursue purpose."What's something you're passionate about that you've realized ISN'T your purpose? Drop it below!CONNECT:Instagram: @pfunfiltered | @femi.omotayoSCRIPTURES: Proverbs 22:29 | Deuteronomy 8:18 | Isaiah 26:3 | Psalm 37:25#ChristianPodcast #FindingYourPurpose #PassionVsPurpose #FaithAndWork #PFUnfiltered #ChristianLiving #TrustingGod #Gratitude

Welcome to Season 4 of PF Unfiltered! We're kicking off the year with a conversation about the elephant in the room: why your New Year resolutions are probably already collecting dust. This isn't just another motivational podcast telling you to "work harder" or "manifest your dreams." This is an honest, biblically grounded conversation about the real reason most people don't achieve their goals and it's not what you think.Pastor Femi breaks down the hard truth: if you're not finding a way to get what you want, you have to question how much you really want it. The hosts explore the difference between saying you desire something versus actually pursuing it with discipline and sacrifice. From weight loss struggles to financial goals, from career aspirations to relationship standards, this episode tackles why we often choose comfort over the things we claim matter most.The conversation gets real about:Chapters00:00 Welcome Back and New Year Reflections04:57 Desire vs. Discipline: The New Year Dilemma09:41 Setting Goals: Societal Expectations vs. Personal Aspirations14:56 The Complexity of Weight Loss and Discipline19:40 The Cost of Achieving Goals: Sacrifices and Tenacity24:17 Financial Responsibility and Control29:28 Discipline in Spending and Lifestyle Choices38:48 Desire vs. Discipline: Finding Solutions43:51 Marriage Goals and Realistic ExpectationsThis episode is brought to you by Barrow Avenue Bakery - the cleanest bread in Dallas with only 6 ingredients (your grocery store loaf has 25!). When the Bible says "man shall not live by bread alone"... it clearly hadn't tried Barrow Avenue. Visit them for fresh artisan bread, cookies, and baked goods that make you question if bread is actually just a building block of heaven.#PFUnfiltered #ChristianPodcast #NewYearGoals #Discipline #ChristianLiving #FaithAndCulture #NigerianChristian #DiasporaFaith #Resolutions #SelfDiscipline #ChristianMotivation #PastorFemi #NewCovenantHouse #Season4Premiere

In this conversation, the PF and team reflect on their experiences in 2025, discussing personal growth, challenges faced, and the importance of community and faith. They emphasize the need for intentionality in setting goals for 2026 and the significance of seeking God personally rather than relying solely on external guidance. The discussion also highlights the challenges of modern community dynamics, particularly in the context of social media, and the necessity of building genuine relationships. As they prepare for the upcoming year, they stress the importance of resilience and faith in navigating future challenges.Chapters00:00 Reflections on 2025: A Year of Growth09:43 Navigating Challenges: Faith and Community19:29 The Importance of Intentionality in 202629:03 Building Real Community: Beyond Social Media39:04 Preparing for 2026: Faith, Goals, and Resilience

Pastor Femi, Esther, and Kenneth tackle the most debated question in church culture with biblical truth and unfiltered honesty. The answer might surprise you.In this episode, PF breaks down 1 Corinthians 8 "idols are nothing" and explains why Christmas shouldn't be the scapegoat for pseudo-spirituality. The crew explores Christian freedom, why believers judge each other over holidays, and how we major in the minors while missing what actually matters.From debating turkey wings as Christmas food to discussing "Dirty December" culture in Nigeria, this conversation mixes theology, humor, and cultural commentary. PF even shares his complex relationship with Christmas after losing his mother on December 25th yet still advocates for celebration without guilt.The bottom line: Celebrate or don't celebrate but stop using holidays as spiritual one-upmanship.💬 Where do you land on Christmas? Do you celebrate, skip it, or somewhere in between? Let us know in the comments 👇🏾Chapters00:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:01:05 Should Christians Celebrate Christmas?00:02:40 Personal Experiences and Traditions00:06:35 Religious Significance and Observance00:19:25 Commercialization and Societal Pressures00:33:26 Conclusion and Final Thoughts📱 CONNECT WITH US:• Instagram: @pfunfiltered• Pastor PF's Instagram: @femi.omotayo• Listen on Spotify: [link]• Listen on Apple Podcasts: [link]🎙️ ABOUT PF UNFILTERED:PF Unfiltered is a Christian podcast exploring faith, relationships, and culture through honest, unfiltered conversations. Led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas, each episode tackles the questions African Christians and believers worldwide are actually asking about dating, money, church life, spiritual growth, and living authentically in modern culture. Real Talk. Real Faith. Real Life.#ChristianPodcast #Christmas #ChristianFreedom #BiblicalTeaching #ChristianLiving #PFUnfiltered #FaithAndCulture #ChurchCulture #ChristianHolidays #Theology #ModernChristianity #AfricanChristian #BibleStudy #ChristianLife #HolidayDebate

"If you leave church because you are hurt, you never understood what church was about." - Pastor FemiControversial? Absolutely. But before you comment, hear the full conversation.Young people are leaving church in record numbers—especially African immigrants and diaspora Christians who grew up in the faith. Pastor Femi, Kenneth, and Esther tackle why this is happening and whether walking away is actually the answer.**The Real Problem:** The church's message isn't relevant anymore. Prosperity gospel, performative religion, and outdated approaches don't address real-world struggles. Young people can get what church promises—success, happiness, community—without the restrictions.**The Internet Christianity Trap:** The pandemic normalized watching church online. But PF warns: isolated faith can't survive spiritual warfare. "You watch service for one hour, shut the screen—there's no interaction with anything spiritual. The devil whispers something, and there's no one there to challenge it."**Church Hurt—The Hard Truth:** PF's take: "Church is a hospital. We're all patients." Everyone is imperfect. You've hurt people. People will hurt you. The question isn't whether to leave when hurt happens—it's understanding that church is where broken people heal together.But here's the key distinction: Leave a toxic congregation if you must. Don't abandon the body of Christ. Find a church that fits—different worship styles, different emphases, but stay connected to community.**What We Cover:**• Why young African Christians are leaving church• The danger of YouTube theology and self-proclaimed teachers• Spectator church vs. real community• Accountability vs. forgiveness in church leadership• How to find the right church without church shopping• The woman caught in adultery: loving people into repentance**Key Quotes:**"Church is a hospital. We're all patients." - PF"How can you say you love God but despise his body?" - PF"YouTube made deconstruction fashionable." - PF"We don't abandon relationships; we try to make relationships better." - PFIf you've been hurt by church or you're questioning whether to stay, this conversation is for you.**Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about faith, culture, and real Christian living.**---### Timestamps / Chapters0:00 - Intro: New Covenant House Goes Viral2:45 - Why Young People Are Leaving Church5:05 - The Problem with the Prosperity Gospel Message9:19 - Church Hurt: Why People Are Walking Away13:24 - Internet Christianity & The Pandemic Effect16:20 - The Dangers of YouTube Theology18:43 - Self-Proclaimed Teachers & Bible Studies Gone Wrong23:35 - The Spectator Church Problem25:27 - Church Hurt: Should You Leave or Stay?28:31 - Church as a Hospital for Imperfect People32:05 - When Worship Style Becomes a Dealbreaker36:55 - Finding the Right Church Community38:55 - Accountability vs. Forgiveness in Church Leadership41:24 - Loving People Into Repentance (The Woman Caught in Adultery)45:03 - Final Encouragement: Don't Turn Your Back on the Body of Christ#ChurchHurt #ChristianPodcast #PFUnfiltered #LeavingChurch #ChristianCommunity #FaithJourney #ChurchLeadership #BlackChurch #AfricanDiaspora #OnlineChurch #InternetChristianity #Deconstruction #ChristianYouTube #BibleTeaching #PastorFemi #NewCovenantHouse #FaithAndCulture #ChurchAccountability #ForgivenessInChurch #ChristianConversations

We’re opening up the floor! Drop your raw, honest, unfiltered questions about faith, relationships, real-life struggles, and everything in between. No topic is off-limits. Send your questions to askpf@pfunfiltered.com or DM us on IG  @PFUnfiltered  . PF is looking forward to your questions!

In this heartfelt Thanksgiving episode of PF Unfiltered, the crew tackles the hardest kind of gratitude - being thankful when life isn't going according to plan. Discover how our hosts navigate family traditions, personal growth, and the transformative power of community. Whether you're a fan of turkey or prefer jollof rice, this conversation will inspire you to find your own reasons to be thankful. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that celebrates the essence of Thanksgiving.00:01:06 Intro00:02:29 Thanksgiving Traditions and Challenges00:03:40 Reflecting on Gratitude00:06:10 The Role of Faith and Community00:09:10 Personal Stories and Insights00:14:21 Conclusion and Thanksgiving Wishes### What You'll Learn- How to find silver linings when life feels like a dark cloud- Why being grateful doesn't mean pretending everything is fine- Biblical principles for trusting God's timing when plans fall apart- The difference between letting God lead vs. trying to control outcomes- How to recognize that your "mess" might be carrying a message- Why community is essential during seasons of transformation- Practical ways to cultivate gratitude even in disappointment### Connect With Us🎙️ **Subscribe** to PF Unfiltered for weekly unfiltered conversations about faith, culture, and real life.💬 **Join the Conversation**Tell us in the comments: What are you grateful for this Thanksgiving, even if life feels messy right now?🔔 **Turn on notifications** so you never miss an episode!### Related Episodes You'll Love- "Red Flags Christians Ignore in Dating & Friendships"- "Should Pastors Be Paid? - Money, Ministry & What the Bible Says"- "Finding God in the Waiting Season"### Relevant Hashtags#PFUnfiltered #Thanksgiving #ChristianPodcast #Gratitude #FaithAndCulture #TrustGodsTiming #FindingPurpose #ChristianCommunity #NewCovenantHouse #AfricanChristian #FaithJourney #BeThankful #MessToMessage #TransformingGrace

In this episode of PF Unfiltered, PF sits down with Dami and Lolade Akibola, an incredible couple to discuss one of the most challenging aspects of marriage: MONEY!!. If you've ever wondered how to handle finances as a married couple, especially when cultural expectations clash with modern realities, this conversation is essential.Dami and Lolade share their journey from college students with completely different money mindsets to building a strong financial partnership. Lolade grew up hyper-aware of money after losing her father at age 11, determined never to be broke. Dami, on the other hand, came from a family where he saw how money was spent but never how it was earned—leading to regular overdrafts and zero savings in college. Their story proves that where you start financially doesn't determine where you finish.00:00 Introduction and Opening Remarks00:30 Meet the Special Guests02:40 Personal Backgrounds and Money Stories05:17 Defining Moments and Financial Attitudes10:05 Marriage Dynamics and Financial Management16:23 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles29:27 The Financial Realities of Marriage29:52 The Importance of Compatibility in Marriage31:41 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles32:43 Balancing Dreams and Practicality34:25 Managing Finances as a Team40:39 Dealing with Debt Together50:07 The Role of Support and Vision in Marriage53:38 Practical Financial Management Tips56:22 Final Thoughts and ReflectionsAbout PF Unfiltered:PF Unfiltered is a conversational podcast led by Pastor Femi Omotayo of New Covenant House Dallas. We blend honest, humorous, and thought-provoking dialogue exploring faith, culture, relationships, and personal growth through the lens of modern African Christians living in the diaspora.Follow PF Unfiltered:Instagram: @pfunfilteredYouTube: PF UnfilteredWebsite: [pfunfiltered.com]Guest Bio:Dami Akibola: Associate Pastor at New Covenant House, married to Lolade for 17+ years, father of two, and proud believer that partnership beats patriarchyLolade Akibola: CFO/Head of Finance Ministry at New Covenant House, finance professional with 20+ years experience, debt-free advocate, and the family's financial architect

In this episode of PF Unfiltered, the hosts delve into the complexities of emotions, mental health, and seasonal depression. They discuss personal experiences with depression, the impact of faith and community, and practical ways to manage mental health during difficult times. The conversation also highlights the difference between happiness and joy, the importance of purpose, and practical activities that can provide mental rest. This episode aims to offer viewers insights and tools to address their mental well-being while fostering a deeper understanding of faith's role in navigating life's challenges.00:00 Introduction and First Impressions00:24 Meet the Hosts02:19 Discussing Feelings03:24 Emotions and Rationality05:32 Seasonal Depression and Faith13:43 Understanding Joy and Happiness16:10 Personal Experiences with Depression19:33 Seasonal Depression and Coping Strategies24:55 Recognizing Overwhelm and Depression25:24 The Nigerian Approach to Mental Health25:46 Balancing Faith and Mental Health27:06 Community Support and Depression29:38 The Pursuit of Happiness vs. Contentment43:37 Finding Rest and Hobbies for Mental Health46:35 Practical Advice for Managing Depression47:23 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of PF Unfiltered, hosts Esther and Tunde engage in a candid discussion about the differences in Christian faith practices between Nigeria and the United States. They explore the perceptions each country's Christian community has of the other, the cultural and societal influences on faith, and the varying emphases on religious activities. The conversation touches on the challenges of maintaining genuine faith amidst differing societal demands, materialism, and the transactional nature of religious fervor. The episode concludes with a reflection on the essence of faith in Christ, regardless of geographic location.00:00 Introduction and Initial Discussion00:39 Welcoming the Audience02:42 Faith in a Foreign Land04:14 Cultural Differences in Faith05:33 Impact of Environment on Faith09:30 Materialism and Faith13:43 Prayer and Genuine Faith25:19 The Essence of Prayer27:03 Cultural Differences in Religious Practices27:41 Faith and Spiritual Disciplines28:19 Personal Experiences and Lessons in Faith29:27 The State of the Church in Nigeria and America31:21 The True Foundation of Faith32:37 Challenges and Misconceptions in Faith36:45 The Way Forward: Christ-Centered Faith43:33 Final Thoughts and Reflections51:36 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

In this episode PF gets candid about almost breaking under the weight of perfection, how performing perfection nearly cost him his peace and how honesty, grace, and purpose pulled him back, first-born vs last-born pressure, and why the Holy Spirit not the timeline should set your pace.

What does it mean to have boundaries as a Christian? In this episode, PF Unfiltered explores how fear, insecurity, and people-pleasing often keep us from saying no. The crew tackles boundaries in relationships, money, church life, and work with biblical wisdom and real-life stories. Learn why confidence in God (not just self-help tips) is the foundation for healthy limits.