Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Friendships in motherhood can feel complicated, especially when old wounds and insecurities get stirred up in new seasons. In this episode, Karen and Emily talk honestly about why friendships can feel hard for moms and how to move forward with grace, healthy expectations, and a “generous explanation” for the people around us.Episode Recap:Friendship is difficult as a mom (2:23)We all have past hurts that impact how we receive or offer friendship today (4:30)How do we prevent self-sabotaging friendships? (6:17)Communicate clearly when you have moved into a new season of life (8:06)Choose a generous explanation whenever possible (10:02)How do I handle someone who is not a good fit wanting to be friends?! (13:54)How do I maintain friendships in a very full season? (16:45)Continue this conversation on WT+ at the link below (20:16)Scripture: Ephesians 4:2 (NLT) “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.”Discussion Questions: Have you had a friendship since becoming a mom that didn’t turn out the way you expected. What made it hard?When friendships feel disappointing or painful, what past experiences or insecurities tend to get stirred up for you?Where do you think your expectations in friendships might need to shift to match the reality of your current season?What would it look like for you to give a “generous explanation” instead of assuming the worst in a friendship right now?What is one practical way you can pursue friendship with more grace this month without overextending yourself?Resources:Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insiderJoin our BOAW Moms Facebook groupCheck out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the BibleWant More of This Conversation?Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen and Emily share how their past relationships have affected the kind of friend they are today. To become a Wire Talk+ Insider, head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

Parenting doesn’t end when your kids turn 18. In many ways, it gets more complicated! Today Karen and Erin are joined by longtime parenting expert Jim Burns for a wise and honest conversation about parenting adult children. They talk about releasing control, shifting your role, navigating boundaries, resisting unsolicited advice, and discerning the difference between helping and enabling. Whether your kids are still at home, newly launched, or already raising families of their own, this episode will help you parent with clarity, peace, and long-term perspective.Episode Recap:Jim is the founder of Homeward Ministries (3:06)When our children become adults, we have to give up control (4:43)What does it look like to embrace a new “job description” as moms? (7:00)How can we offer wisdom to our adult children or do we just bite our tongues? (11:37)Resist the urge to become a “one topic” parent (13:15)What’s the difference between helping your kids and enabling them? (15:45)How do we place good boundaries when adult kids move back in? (19:10)What does it mean to, “wear beige and keep your mouth shut?” (24:00)Can you cast vision for the grandparent years? (28:00)Continue this conversation on WT+ at the link below (32:00)Scripture: Ecclesiastes 3:1 (ESV) –  “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.”Discussion Questions: What part of parenting adult children feels most difficult for you right now? If you don’t have adult children yet, what fears or worries do you have about that season of life?How can you shift from giving advice to asking permission before speaking?Is there an area where helping may have crossed into enabling dependency?What expectations need to be clearly communicated in your family right now?How can you focus on relationship building rather than behavior correcting?Resources:Listen to the rest of our conversation with Jim over on WT+: boaw.mom/insiderGrab a copy of Jim’s new book, Doing Life With Your Adult ChildrenConnect with HomeWord Ministries onlineCheck out Jim’s podcast and his recent episode on Long Distance GrandparentingCheck out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the BibleWant More of This Conversation?Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today we go deeper into parenting wayward adult children, setting boundaries, and navigating complicated family dynamics.To become a Wire Talk+ Insider, head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

Discipline is hard, especially when the results feel slow or invisible. In this final episode of our Parenting Principles from Proverbs series, Karen and Emily shift the focus to the long-term fruit of faithful discipline and the peace it brings to both children and parents.Drawing from Proverbs and Hebrews, Karen reminds moms that discipline is discipleship. It is not about control or behavior management in the moment, but about shaping hearts, building security, and leaving a generational blessing.  Don’t miss the end of today’s episode, when Emily announces our big winners from last week’s giveaway!! Episode Recap:What does the fruit of discipline look like? (2:30)Discipline now will bring peace later (7:10)How do I teach my son to obey without all the drama? (11:30)How do I stay calm while disciplining my bonus child? (14:12)My kids argue and whine about everything. I’m exhausted! (17:30)Discipline takes time and repetition (21:17)Discipline leaves a generational blessing (22:54)Our big giveaway winners announced! (24:42) Scripture: Hebrews 12:11 (ESV) – “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”Discussion Questions: Why do you think discipline feels especially hard when results are not immediate?How does seeing discipline as discipleship change your perspective?Which scripture from this episode encouraged you the most and why?Where might God be asking you to stay consistent, even when you feel tired?What kind of long-term fruit do you hope to see in your children ten years from now?Resources:Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the BibleListen to episode 347 with David Thomas, Raising Emotionally Strong BoysGrab Thomas’ book: Raising Emotionally Strong Boys

We are celebrating 500 episodes of Wire Talk and using this milestone to talk about something every mom wants: wisdom that actually works in real life. Today Karen breaks down what it means to be a wise mom, not a perfect one, and offers a simple grid for everyday moments by asking, “Will my response build my house or tear it down?” From discipline to independence, this conversation focuses on proactive parenting that shapes our kids over time.Episode Recap:Wire Talk is celebrating 500 episodes - don’t miss our BIG GIVEAWAY (2:34)A wise mom builds her house up in all she does (7:10)Children are born with a sin nature (11:00)Being intentional is hard work (14:31)What is the difference between teaching, training, and discipline? (15:50)Consistency builds trust (20:30)Discipline sets your child up for success long term (23:40)Listener question - how do I discipline my biter? (26:44)Listener question - is it too late for me to disciple my child in faith? (29:39)How do I discipline tantrums in public? (31:52)I don’t know how to help my daughters solve sibling conflict… (33:30)Scripture: Proverbs 14:1 (NIV) – “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”Discussion Questions: Karen’s guiding question is, “Will my response build my house or tear it down?” Where do you most need that filter right now? (Discipline, mornings, homework, sibling conflict, or marriage?)Where do you tend to parent reactively, and what would it look like to be proactive instead?How does remembering your child’s sin nature change both your expectations and your compassion?Karen talks about how tearing down can show up in our words with kids or a spouse. Where do you need to shift from criticism to building up?Which do you lean toward most: teaching, training, or disciplining, and which one do you tend to avoid? Why?Where do you need to ask God for help right now, one specific area where you are asking Him to meet you with encouragement?Resources:Join our giveaway by commenting on this episode over on YouTube! Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the BibleListen to Wire Talk Episode 1! Start a new habit this year with Karen’s devotional: Moments with God for Moms

Karen and Emily are kicking off the year with a three-part series about parenting principles we can learn from the book of Proverbs. Today, Karen addresses the confusion many moms today feel around discipline, authority, and the pressure to “get it right.” Drawing from Solomon’s teaching, she reminds us that children need leadership, clear boundaries, and parents who are willing to direct them with confidence rather than fear. We hope this conversation encourages you to trust God for wisdom no matter what you are facing this week!Episode Recap:Wire Talk is celebrating 500 episodes next weekSubscribe to our YT podcast so you don’t miss the giveawayGentle parenting does not workStop Googling and start getting into the Word of GodWe are bombarding ourselves with information overloadMoms are afraid of messing up and uncertain of what to doWhat are the 3 stages of discipline? How do I discipline without introducing shame? Children are so resilient, we do not give them enough creditTrust that God will give us wisdom exactly when we need itScripture: Proverbs 1:1-5 (ESV) – “The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: for gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight; for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what is right and just and fair; for giving prudence to those who are simple, knowledge and discretion to the young—let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance…”Discussion Questions: What messages about parenting have influenced you the most in recent years—culture, social media, your upbringing, or Scripture?“More information is not always good information.” Where have you felt overwhelmed or anxious because of too much advice?Why do you think the word authority has become uncomfortable in parenting conversations?How does Proverbs reframe discipline as protection and love rather than punishment?What is one area of parenting where you need to ask God for wisdom instead of trying to figure it out on your own?Resources:Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the BibleListen to our series on the 3 stages of discipline: 154, 155, 156Grab Karen’s devotional book: Moments with God for Moms 

As Christmas approaches, we are turning our focus to love this final week of Advent. In this episode, Karen and Emily unpack what it looks like to love like Jesus in everyday moments: choosing presence, serving quietly, pausing before reacting, and remembering that we love others because Christ first loved us. If the holidays have stretched your patience thin, we hope this conversation will help you refocus your heart on what truly matters! Episode Recap:We’re talking about love this week (6:05)How do we respond to God’s love practically? (7:55)Loving others looks like not being selfish (8:44)Take an interest in others this Christmas (12:34)Choose presence over perfection (15:54)Speak life with your words (16:31)Pause before you react (18:42)Enjoy simple moments (20:20)Serve quietly (21:15)Focus on gratitude (22:42)Scripture: Philippians 2:1-5 (NIV)“Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.”Discussion Questions: Why do you think loving others feels harder during the holidays?In what ways do you catch yourself trying to impress others rather than love them?Which part of Philippians 2:1–5 challenges you the most right now?What does “choosing presence over perfection” look like in your home?What is one thing you can do this week to respond with love instead of frustration?Resources:Please give today to help us reach more moms with Wire Talk in 2026!

Joy doesn’t just happen, our hearts have to be tuned to it. In this third week of Advent, Karen and Emily talk honestly about how hard it can be to find joy in the middle of exhaustion, family stress, and the very real unmet expectations of the season. Using the picture of tuning an instrument, they unpack how joy comes when we continually refocus our hearts on Jesus, not on our circumstances. If you’re longing for a steadier joy this Christmas season, this conversation is for you! Episode Recap:Intro (00:00)Today we’re talking about joy (2:10)We have to tune our hearts to joy (4:12)Jesus often becomes a secondary thought in this season (5:55)Remind yourself on a daily basis that this life is not about you, it’s about Christ (7:50)Find ways to re-center yourself on Christ this Christmas (10:30)Decide to have NO expectations each day, live with an open hand (11:35)Focusing on God makes the trivial things of this world fade away (16:01)Scripture: Luke 2:10-11 (ESV)“And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.”Discussion Questions: When you hear the idea of “tuning your heart to joy,” what stands out to you personally?What tends to pull your focus away from Jesus most during the Christmas season?Can you identify a recent moment where unmet expectations robbed you of joy?What practical practices help you re-center on Christ?How does Mary’s response to God’s plan challenge the way you respond to interruptions or disappointments?What would it look like to hold your plans and expectations with open hands this season?Resources:Please give today to help us reach more moms with Wire Talk in 2026! boaw.mom/give

It’s easy to find ourselves in the middle of December with a packed calendar and an unprepared spirit, carrying bitterness, comparison, or disappointment into every day. Drawing from Matthew 3:3, Karen talks about what it means to “prepare the way for the Lord” so we don’t miss Jesus in the middle of our own expectations. You’ll come away with simple, practical ways to prepare your heart for Christmas, no matter what your circumstances are like.Episode Recap:Today we’re talking about preparation (2:15)We must prepare our hearts so we don’t miss Christ (3:54)We prepare through self-reflection, repentance, readiness (5:06)It’s hard to see the condition of your own heart, so pray about it (6:12)This world is full of trouble, but Christ has overcome the world (13:09)We have to take our thoughts captive over and over and over again (14:45)Practically, how do we prepare our hearts? (17:13)Scripture: Matthew 3:3 (NIV) – ‘Prepare the way for the Lord, make straight paths for him.’Discussion Questions: When you look at this Christmas season, where do you see that your heart might be “unprepared”? (Bitterness, comparison, resentment, fear, exhaustion, etc.)What “self-talk” tends to get loud for you during the holidays (i.e.: life isn’t fair, I never have enough, no one appreciates me)? Which scriptures could help you renew your mind with truth instead?Karen shared practical ideas for preparing your heart: starting the day with Jesus, lighting a candle, sitting in silence, simplifying your schedule, serving someone in need. Which one could you realistically try this week?Is there one thing you could say no to this December to create more space for peace, presence, and noticing Jesus? What would it look like to trust God with that decision?Resources:Give today to help us reach more moms with Wire Talk in 2026! boaw.mom/givePick up a copy of Karen’s Self Talk curriculum today: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/products/six-truths-study-guide?pr_prod_strat=e5_desc&pr_rec_id=ac36e3440&pr_rec_pid=1414191513677&pr_ref_pid=4773089017933&pr_seq=uniformListen to Noel by Tommee Profitt: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qDyA9W9CaeQ

Today we’re kicking off our Advent series with a focus on hope. December fills up fast with activities, expectations, and pressure for a picture-perfect holiday, making it easy to place our hope in circumstances, schedules, and our spouses. But what do we do when Christmas doesn’t go as planned?In this episode, Karen invites us to ask a powerful question: Where am I placing my hope this Christmas? If you’re craving a calmer, more Christ-centered Christmas, this conversation will help you anchor your hope in Him alone.(Psst! If you’re listening with littles, you may want to skip to 3:30, we talk about Santa early on.)Episode Recap:Karen and Emily talk Santa and gift purchasing (1:45)What is one thing about Christmas you love & one thing you could do without? (4:15)Karen went on an advent deep dive this year (7:59)Everyone can use more hope (12:27)There’s a lot of grief and sadness at the holidays (14:50)Emmanuel means ‘God with Us’ (16:52)Our hope cannot be in our circumstances (18:02)Where are you placing your hope right now? (19:07)Scripture: Micah 7:7 (NIV) “But as for me, I watch in hope for the Lord, I wait for God my Savior; my God will hear me.”Discussion Questions: Where are you most tempted to place your hope: your spouse, finances, health, kids’ behavior, or a “perfect” holiday?Have you ever walked through a Christmas marked by grief, disappointment, or loneliness? How did God meet you there (or how are you asking Him to now)?What would it look like, practically, to shift your hope from circumstances to Christ this month?How can you help your kids see Christmas as a season of hope in Jesus, not just presents and activities?Resources:Give today to help us reach more moms with Wire Talk in 2026! boaw.mom/giveReach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Today Karen is tackling your questions about navigating the teenage years, from motivating strong-willed teens to handling independence, changing relationships, and the ever-present “that’s not fair!” Karen shares what worked in her home, including how to stay connected to strong-willed teens, helping boys who are pulling away, and parenting through the ever-changing norms of phones, jobs, and freedom.Episode Recap:You can be strict in the teen years and have great relationships with adult kids (4:00)Give them a “no, because…” during the teen years (5:54)How do I motivate my 15 year old to help out around home? (7:25)Help! My 13 yr old thinks he knows everything! (11:37)My teenage son is pulling away, I feel sad and rejected (15:35)How do you handle keeping things “fair” during the teenage years? (18:40)We have to remember our teens are growing up and that’s messy (22:01)Scripture: James 1:5 (NIV) “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”Discussion Questions: Where do you struggle most in balancing independence and safety with your teen?Are you naturally stronger in boundaries or connection? What needs strengthening?How does remembering your teen is still maturing affect your responses to them?Who supports you during the teen years, and how can you invite more support?Resources:Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

If you’re staring down the potty training season with dread, this one’s for you! Karen and Emily are joined by Christine Clark—a mom, preschool teacher, and pro who’s successfully potty trained 17 children. From handling accidents with grace to dealing with fear, regression, or defiance, this episode is packed with wisdom and encouragement for moms in the potty-training trenches. Episode Recap:Christine runs an in-home daycare and LOVES toddlers (2:33)Personality definitely feeds into potty training (5:58)Is there a difference in training girls vs boys? (7:25)Give us a step-by-step for those who are new to this (8:55)What are the biggest mistakes parents make? (12:00)How to support your child’s training at daycare (14:16)What about kids who have “accidents” out of defiance? (16:35)What if a child is afraid to go #2? (22:21)Scripture: Galatians 6:9 (NIV) “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”Discussion Questions: What’s been your biggest potty training challenge so far, and what mindset shift could help you handle it with more patience?How can you bring fun and encouragement into the process instead of frustration?What does “everything can be cleaned” look like for you in this season of motherhood?What other “hard things” have you done recently that remind you you’re capable of more than you think?Resources:Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

This week, Karen tackles listener questions on navigating everything from over-involved mother-in-laws to family disagreements and unmet expectations. Karen shares wisdom from her 39 years of marriage about when to speak up, when to set boundaries, and how to keep your marriage strong even when extended family drama threatens your peace! Episode Recap:How do we make our relationships with our MILs stronger and better? (2:53)As a MIL, how can I best help my DIL when Baby #3 arrives? (4:25)My MIL doesn’t get along well in family situations, should I intervene? (8:35)Boundaries are for you, not the other person (10:17)My SIL never prioritizes our family, should I talk to her? (12:25)My MIL is upset over our parenting choices, (15:18)My husband and I are at odds over how best to honor his family (18:20)Scripture: Matthew 11:28 (NIV) “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”Discussion Questions: When have you found it hardest to set boundaries with family? What helped you hold firm?How can you and your spouse stay unified when you see a family situation differently?What practical ways can you show love to your in-laws while still protecting your family’s peace?When conflict rises, what would it look like for you to “take it to the Lord” instead of trying to fix it yourself?Resources:Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

When it comes to raising independent kids, doing less can actually mean loving more. Karen and Emily welcome back mom of eight, Elizabeth Pehrson, whose last Wire Talk clip went viral with over 7.6 million views! In this powerful conversation, Elizabeth unpacks the long-term value of letting kids struggle, take responsibility, and learn from consequences. From packing lunches to doing laundry, she shares age-appropriate ways to teach kids ownership and why moms need to resist the urge to over-function.Episode Recap:Elizabeth’s last conversation on Wire Talk struck a nerve with viewers (3:31)Her children are reaping the rewards of parents who did less, not more (8:16)Age-appropriate chores for all ages (9:28)How does not helping set our kids up for success in the long run? (14:30)We set ourselves up for failure when we put too much of ourselves into our kids (19:20)Overfunctioning means doing things for your child that they can do for themselves (17:23)How can we start small this week? (23:00)It’s not what matters today, it’s what matters when they’re 30 (29:11)Just because you can do, provide, or give…doesn’t mean you should (29:43)Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”Discussion Questions: What’s one area where you tend to step in for your kids instead of letting them handle it?How does doing less for your children actually prepare them for adulthood?Elizabeth said, “Just because you can do, provide, or give, doesn’t mean you should.” What does that look like in your home?What are some areas you need to teach your children to do for themselves this week? What might God be teaching you about releasing control as your children grow?Resources:Follow Elizabeth online: www.instagram.com/octomama or www.instagram.com/theexchangeus Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

The moms we’re hearing from today are facing questions that feel big; from whether to move our families, to when to say yes at church, to how we pray, parent, and pass down faith to our children. Karen is tackling listener questions that cover everything from culture and church life, to leading your child to Christ. We hope you’ll come away from listening encouraged that God’s wisdom is available to you in every decision, big or small.Episode Recap:Emily’s family does Halloween right! (3:37)Should we move our family away from family for a better overall culture? (6:06)How do you know what to say yes to at church? There’s always a need. (8:32)How can I make time to pray for everything I should be praying about? (11:10)What are your favorite parenting resources (14:33)How do I tell if my child truly understands salvation? (17:23)Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NASB)  “Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”Discussion Questions: Karen shared that she prays throughout her day, even mid-conversation, asking God for guidance. What would “praying without ceasing” look like in your own daily routines?Have you ever faced a big family decision—like moving or changing schools—and had to rely on prayer for clarity? What helped you discern God’s will?How can you model an authentic prayer life for your kids so they grow up seeing prayer as part of everyday life, not just something done before meals or bedtime?For moms whose children are beginning to ask questions about salvation, what practical steps can you take to guide them with confidence and faith rather than fear?Resources:Grab a copy of Karen’s book, Survival Guide to MotherhoodFind all Karen’s FREE curricula in the BOAW Moms app: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/free-curriculumReach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Between ages 6 and 10, kids are learning big lessons about honesty, responsibility, and gratitude…and those moments don’t always feel peaceful. Today Karen and Emily are talking  about shaping character during these years. From handling bad attitudes and entitlement to teaching kids about truthfulness and contentment, they share practical ways to mold your child’s heart without losing your cool.Episode Recap:My 10 yr old pitches a fit when he has to do something he’s not prepared for (5:50)Life doesn’t always go the way we want it to go, that’s what builds character (10:50)My 6 yr old struggles with gratitude and contentment (11:30)My kiddo is a whiny complainer! Help (17:50)My niece recently stole a ring from my home and lied about it, my sister won’t address it!  (20:40)|Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV) Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.Discussion Questions: Why is it important to address small character issues early, instead of assuming kids will “grow out of them”?Do your kids struggle with gratitude and contentment? What did you think of Karen’s approach to dealing with that heart issue? What’s one area of character (honesty, gratitude, perseverance, responsibility) that you want to intentionally strengthen in your child this month?Resources:Use coupon code HBDK for 30% off a cozy Peace sweatshirt Raising Emotionally Strong Boys with David Thomas: https://amzn.to/4hkvDk9A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/3J8ZTlq

From setting boundaries to tackling tough topics, today’s episode is all about navigating the hard parts of parenting with truth and grace. In this conversation, Karen shares practical wisdom for protecting your home, teaching empathy, and leaning on the Holy Spirit to do what only He can do, change hearts. Whether you’re navigating big emotions, sensitive subjects, or family boundaries, this conversation will help you parent with confidence and compassion.Episode Recap:My daughter’s friend is coming to live with us; what rules do we need to establish? (3:55)My daughter struggles with a judgmental heart, how can we help her? (5:15)My 8 year old son is asking questions about sex, help! (8:02)My SIL’s family has very different values from ours which makes visits stressful (11:45)Scripture: James 1:5 (NASB) “But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”Discussion Questions: Do you have “house rules”? If so, what principles guided those rules? How do you balance firm boundaries with a spirit of grace?How can we help our kids live out their convictions without becoming judgmental toward others who make different choices?Does the sex conversation feel intimidating to you? Is it time for a conversation in your home? If so, how can you approach it with honesty and calm?Karen mentioned the Holy Spirit’s role in transforming hearts; how can you rely on His guidance more in your day to day parenting?Is there a “hard talk” or situation in your home right now that you can approach differently after hearing this episode?Resources:Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Follow @birds_bees for tips about talking to your kids about sexGrab the God’s Design for Sex series on Amazon! https://amzn.to/43jefX5Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

How do you discipline your kids without damaging your relationship? Today Karen and Emily are talking about what it looks like to set boundaries, correct behavior, and still be your child’s safe place. From toddler tantrums to teenage independence, they share wisdom that will help you the next time you’re doling out discipline. Episode Recap:We’re afraid to discipline because we worry it will damage our relationship (4:52)My daughter confessed something small to me after YEARS (5:26)My child is hypersensitive to discipline from dad, what can I do? (7:39)My husband is too harsh with our teenage son (12:51)Our son doesn’t respect me the way he respects his dad (16:28)God commands us to discipline our children (21:17)Scripture: Proverbs 3:12 (NIV) “Because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”Discussion Questions: What helps you stay calm when you need to discipline your child?Do you and your spouse have the same discipline style? Do your children respond differently to discipline from different parents? Emily talked about the notes Greg left her, which helped build up a base of connection. What’s one way you can affirm and encourage your child this week?What’s one tweak you need to make in your home this week to better balance discipline and relationship? Resources:Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Grab Karen’s lunch box notes to encourage your child: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notesJoin our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Between toddler tantrums, potty training battles, and endless power struggles, the preschool years can feel like the wild west of parenting. Today Karen is answering your preschool questions with her trademark practical tips, reminding us that structure, consistency, and patience go a long way. Above all, your daily walk with the Lord is what will sustain you during these exhausting and beautiful years!Episode Recap:My husband and I are at our wit’s end with our strong-willed 4 year old’s tantrums (6:11)Take a deep dive into the temperaments to learn how to discipline your child (7:00)My husband’s job keeps him away from home often, how can I help my young children cope? (10:30)Help! Potty training is driving me nuts! (14:54)How do I help my 3 year old regulate his emotions? (17:40)Giving in to a tantrum makes it worse 100% of the time (19:00)Everything is an argument with my four year old, any advice? (23:22) Your walk with the Lord truly does make a difference (27:49)Scripture: Galatians 5:22–23“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”Discussion Questions:How do you usually respond when your preschooler throws a tantrum? Is it working? Is there a new strategy you could try this week?Karen shared the importance of structure. What does a typical day look like in your home, and how could a little more routine help your preschooler?When your spouse travels or works long hours (or if you are co-parenting and splitting time between parents), how can you help your kids feel connected to their parent who is away?Potty training can be one of the most frustrating seasons. What’s worked (or not worked) in your family, and how do you keep patience in the process?Karen reminded us that we need to lean on the Holy Spirit’s fruit to parent well. Which “fruit” do you most need to pray for in this season? Let’s pray for one another this week!Resources:We are booking for 2026! Reach out to bring Karen’s wisdom to the moms in your community: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speakLearn more about temperaments in our most recent episode with Kathleen Edelman: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/470-why-your-child-s-wiring-mattersSend us your question! Use the Ask Karen function in the BOAW Moms app: App Store: https://apps.apple.com/md/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927 Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.subsplashconsulting.s_JVZ5JB&hl=en_US

What if a better marriage starts not with more work, but with changing the way you think? This week we’re sitting down with author and speaker Ted Lowe to talk about his book Us in Mind and the simple things that separate happy couples from struggling ones. From celebrating small wins to practicing empathy and taking thoughts captive, Ted unpacks practical ways to renew your mind and see your spouse differently. Whether your marriage feels stuck or just needs a little spark, we hope this conversation leaves you encouraged and equipped to do the next right thing.Episode Recap:How are great marriages different from struggling marriages? (6:42)Happy couples think in a way that unhappy couples don’t (8:42)“Madly in love” couples focus on what they do love about their spouse, not what they don’t (12:00)What you think about yourself affects how you interact with your spouse (17:08)Why do celebrations make such a big difference in our marriages? (25:12)Empathy is huge for happy marriages (30:01)Two words that changed Ted’s marriage (33:53) For Christians, our marriages are not just about us (38:44)Scripture: Romans 12:2 “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”Philippians 4:8 – “Whatever is true, whatever is noble… think about such things.”Discussion Questions:How does the way you think about your spouse shape the way you act toward them?Ted talked about “seeing the best” in your spouse. What does that look like in your marriage right now?Why is empathy so powerful in marriage? How could you practice “stepping into the puddle” with your spouse this week?How do you typically respond to your spouse’s successes or joys? What’s one way you can celebrate with them more intentionally?Which of Ted’s practical shifts (empathy, celebration, reframing thoughts, writing notes, pausing in conflict) feels most helpful for your current season of marriage?Marriage is meant to reflect the love of Christ. How does remembering this bigger purpose change the way you approach your relationship?Resources:Pick up a copy of Ted’s book today: https://amzn.to/4nKdkqDConnect with Ted: https://forusmarriage.com/Check out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether 

When one mom asks a hard marriage question, we know hundreds more are wondering the same thing. Today, Karen and Emily tackle your vulnerable questions about jealousy, mismatched sex drives, and resentment at home. Karen reminds us that fighting for our marriages is worth it, even when it means doing the hard work like going to counseling, seeing a doctor, or having the tough conversation. We hope this episode will encourage you to keep investing in your marriage no matter the season you are in! Episode Recap:I struggle with jealousy when my husband is around other women, is that normal? (5:11)My husband doesn’t initiate sex, what should I do? (8:20)As a SAHM, I’m super frustrated with the home workload (10:34)Communicate when things are calm, not just in the heat of the moment (17:03)My husband and I disagree about SO MUCH - how do we compromise? (18:16)My spouse will NOT apologize. What are my options? (23:39)How do you stay connected when you’re outnumbered by kids & have busy schedules? (24:18) Scripture: Colossians 3:13–14 “Bear with each other and forgive one another… And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”Discussion Questions:What expectations do you carry into your marriage that you haven’t clearly communicated to your spouse?How do you and your husband currently handle disagreements? What could you do to practice more “active listening” with one another?When it comes to intimacy, how comfortable are you being honest about your needs? What might help you take a step toward open communication?What are some small, practical ways you and your spouse can prioritize your marriage this week?What regular rhythms/routines could you establish to make sure you prioritize your marriage even when life feels overwhelming?Resources:Check out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether