The Gifts of Trauma

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. This gentle conversation launches a new series exploring death, loss and grief—experiences we all face yet are rarely taught to navigate. Our guests debunk grief 'myths', as it doesn't follow "5 Stages," we can't "pre-grieve" and being told to "be brave" can trap grief in our body for decades.  They also offer practical suggestions for supporting those who are grieving, and explain: - How grief can manifest in physical, emotional and mental issues - Why talking about the deceased is essential for the living - How repressed grief can lead to the development of "subpersonalities" - How our lost grieving rituals actually supported the grieving process Pam shares the sacred experience of sitting with her mother through her final night.  Manisha describes how her sister's death at 13 created a 38-year shutdown—until a Compassionate Inquiry training dyad and breathwork session finally allowed her body to release what it had been holding.  About Pam Sommer, Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner & Facilitator, EFT, RMT A dedicated wellness practitioner, Pam is also an EFT Practitioner, and a Registered Massage Therapist trained as a Death Doula. Pam's journey into wellness began with experiences that sparked a deep commitment to healing and self-discovery. Her approach is rooted in empathy, understanding a genuine desire to support others on their path to well-being, and a passion for helping them live peaceful, fulfilling lives. Together with her clients Pam creates safe, nurturing spaces for healing.  Personally, Pam finds joy in simple things—exploring nature through camping and hiking, staying grounded through yoga and exercise. She lives on an off-grid farm with her partner and children, surrounded by a lively crew of freeloading animals who bring joy (and a bit of chaos) to their lives. Whether she's working with clients or spending time with her family, Pam strives to live authentically and help others do the same. About Manisha Billimoria,  Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner, Biology of Trauma Facilitator A dedicated mental health counsellor Manisha specialises in trauma therapy and functional medicine. Her comprehensive training, which includes art therapy, REBT, EMDR, and SST, provides a supportive foundation for clients addressing diverse mental health concerns.  Committed to helping individuals overcome their challenges, build resilience, and embark on journeys of healing and self-discovery, Manisha's approach to mental health care is marked by her empathy, authenticity, and a genuine commitment to her clients' well-being. She provides a safe, supportive, nurturing environment that invites individuals to explore their emotions, confront their challenges, develop resilience and listen to the wisdom of their bodies.  Born in India, after 30 years in Sri Lanka, Manisha considers it 'home.' The organization she founded and leads, Umbartha, a Marathi word that means 'threshold.' Its mission is to support individuals on their journey towards alignment, authenticity and healing.  Promotional Messages If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry®  approach developed by Doctor Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches, and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, click this link to learn more. Your journey with Compassionate Inquiry® matters. Your work in the world matters. If you have a story to share about bringing Compassionate Inquiry into the world, we'd like to amplify your voice. Spotlight episodes are full length Gifts of Trauma podcast interviews offered exclusively to CI community members. You'll not only share your story with 55,000 healing professionals across all platforms, you'll receive a pre-interview strategy session plus three promotional video clips. We're offering only 10 Spotlight episodes per year and production realities require a financial contribution. Follow the links to access full details and express your interest. Spotlight Episodes   |   Sponsorships     Resources: Websites: Manisha's Professional Website Maisha's Compassionate Inquiry Profile Pam's Professional Website Pam's Compassionate Inquiry Profile Related links: The Varsha Retreat, with Sat Dharam Kaur Compassionate Inquiry® Training Death Doula Training Biology of Trauma Training Articles: Picking Up The Dropped Stitch Trusting in Self, Trusting in Life Books: Pam's Essential Reading Podcast: Pam's First Gifts of Trauma Podcast Interview Quotes: "Wipe those tears away. That's not going to help anybody. They can help the person who's shedding the tears. It's so healing to just allow, otherwise that grief, that sadness gets bottled up inside." – Pam Sommer "When grief is suppressed, it doesn't disappear. It finds another way to speak, often through the body. The question is not how to get over grief, but how to stay present with it without abandoning ourselves" - Manisha Billimoria "There's no right way to grieve. If we can honor grief as a legitimate emotion, as much as sadness and anger and shame, we can turn this experience into growth, expansion and healing as opposed to [something that's] contributing to our pain." - Pam Sommer "Grief never leaves, but neither does love. They walk together now, hand in hand, teaching you how to live with an absence that is always a presence."  - Jamie Anderson "It's all the unexpressed love, the grief that will remain with us until we pass, because we never get enough time with each other." - Andrew Garfield Social Media: Pam's Instagram  Pam's Facebook Manisha's Instagram Manisha's Facebook Manisha's LinkedIn

Hosted by Kevin Young and J'aime Rothbard. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. In the second half of this intimate conversation, the hosts quick-response questions reveal the multifaceted wholeness Rosemary brings to Magnetic Presence Marketing—a radical new marketing approach modeled on Gabor Maté's own magnetism, presence, humility, vulnerability and honesty.  Together, the hosts and guest explore: - Reframing "Unique Selling Point" as "Unique Sovereign Presence" - Why withholding our Unique Sovereign Presence actually does a disservice to others - How integrating our 'Lego' can take us from seeming scattered to 'feeling free' - Why it's far too costly to abandon ourselves in our "pursuit of success"   Rosemary concludes this interview by sharing the vision that inspired her to make Magnetic Presence Marketing into a training program. To address the dilemma of healers whose 'marketing trauma' stops them from promoting their work, so they can't be 'found' by the people they trained to serve. The remedy? A 'clean' marketing approach that creates safety, mirrors healers values and honors autonomy About Rosemary Davies-Janes Trauma Therapist, Podcast Manager/Host, Magnetic Presence Marketing Creator  For nearly 30 years, Rosemary has worked at the intersection of authenticity, psychology, and healing. After two decades in corporate marketing leadership, she founded MIBOSO® to support the holistic integration of mind, body, and soul—through authentic branding, ethical marketing, and natural healing practices. She began podcasting in 2002, producing 150+ episodes with guests including Byron Katie, James Redfield, Gary Zukav, David Whyte, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. Today Rosemary manages and hosts Compassionate Inquiry's The Gifts of Trauma Podcast.  In 2021, The Wisdom of Trauma movie led her to pursue intensive trauma-therapy training in Compassionate Inquiry®, Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy and Internal Family Systems. Rosemary now specializes in complex trauma work with clients globally, particularly those navigating cultural displacement, intergenerational trauma, and early life adaptations. Inspired by Dr Gabor Maté's own unique magnetic presence, Rosemary's blend of marketing expertise and trauma-informed psychology led her to create Magnetic Presence Marketing. This approach, launched in 2025, teaches heart-centered professionals to market their work authentically, without manipulation. Born in Canada and raised across three continents, Rosemary now lives in Costa Rica, where she continues her work supporting people in integrating their internal authenticity with their external expression. Promotional Messages: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the transformative power of Compassionate Inquiry® you are invited to join us for a six hour online experiential introduction to the compassionate inquiry approach and community. Whether you're a healthcare professional, therapist, coach, or simply someone seeking trauma, informed personal healing or professional growth, the CI experience eventually invites you to witness live demonstrations, learn practical techniques, participate in reflective conversations and connect with a supportive community of like minded individuals all in a single immersive day. This event will be recorded and as a participant you'll have lifetime access to the event recording and so much more. To learn more and register, just follow this link.  Your journey with Compassionate Inquiry® matters. Your work in the world matters. If you have a story to share about bringing compassionate inquiry into the world, we'd like to amplify your voice. Spotlight episodes are full length Gifts of Trauma podcast interviews offered exclusively to CI community members. You'll not only share your story with 55,000 healing professionals across all platforms, you'll receive a pre interview strategy session plus three promotional video clips. We're offering only 10 Spotlight episodes per year and production realities require a financial contribution. Follow these links to access full details and express your interest. Spotlight Guest  |  Sponsorship Resources Websites: Professional Website Magnetic Presence Marketing Related Links: The Gifts of Trauma Podcast Compassionate Inquiry® Training Internal Family Systems Training (IFS) Relational Life Therapy Training (RLT) Podcasts: Transforming Survival into Safety & Presence, with Alison Creech Video: Unique Sovereign Presence Mediation Quotes: "...we've got this army of healers forming. What if they can't get past this marketing block and can't be found by the people they're trained to serve? That was when it came to me. We've got to radically shift the way we market." - Rosemary Davies-Janes

Hosted by Kevin Young and J'aime Rothbard. Produced by J'aime Rothbard.  What if your resistance to self-marketing is actually a trauma block? This week, our very own Gifts of Trauma co-host Rosemary Davies-Janes shares her journey from corporate marketing exec to authenticity recovery coach to Magnetic Presence Marketing creator. Hosts Kevin and J'aime dive into how she helps heart-centered professionals heal their 'marketing trauma,' shed their masks and attract ideal, right-fit clients Together they reflect on: - Why marketing blocks are almost always trauma blocks in disguise - How holding 7 different roles can make complete sense when you find your through-line - The role of Compassionate Inquiry® and why we need to do our inner work first - Why Gabor Maté's magnetic presence inspired an entirely new approach to marketing In this intimate conversation, Rosemary also explains why helping people access their authenticity is her driving passion, what it means to be a multipotentialite, why living a mythic life requires courage and grit, and how she learned that a wild spirit and authentic love can go hand in hand. About Rosemary Davies-Janes Trauma Therapist, Podcast Manager/Host, Magnetic Presence Marketing Creator  For nearly 30 years, Rosemary has worked at the intersection of authenticity, psychology, and healing. After two decades in corporate marketing leadership, she founded MIBOSO® to support the holistic integration of mind, body, and soul—through authentic branding, ethical marketing, and natural healing practices. She began podcasting in 2002, producing 150+ episodes with guests including Byron Katie, James Redfield, Gary Zukav, David Whyte, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. Today Rosemary manages and hosts Compassionate Inquiry's The Gifts of Trauma Podcast.  In 2021, The Wisdom of Trauma movie led her to pursue intensive trauma-therapy training in Compassionate Inquiry®, Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy and Internal Family Systems. Rosemary now specializes in complex trauma work with clients globally, particularly those navigating cultural displacement, intergenerational trauma, and early life adaptations. Inspired by Dr Gabor Maté's own unique magnetic presence, Rosemary's blend of marketing expertise and trauma-informed psychology led her to create Magnetic Presence Marketing. This approach, launched in 2025, teaches heart-centered professionals to market their work authentically, without manipulation. Born in Canada and raised across three continents, Rosemary now lives in Costa Rica, where she continues her work supporting people in integrating their internal authenticity with their external expression. Promotional Message: Your journey with Compassionate Inquiry® matters. Your work in the world matters. If you have a story to share about bringing compassionate inquiry into the world, we'd like to amplify your voice. Spotlight episodes are full length Gifts of Trauma podcast interviews offered exclusively to CI community members. You'll not only share your story with 55,000 healing professionals across all platforms, you'll receive a pre interview strategy session plus three promotional video clips. We're offering only 10 Spotlight episodes per year and production realities require a financial contribution. Follow these links  to access full details and express your interest. Spotlight Guest Sponsorship Resources Websites: Professional Website Related Links: Magnetic Presence Marketing The Gifts of Trauma Podcast Compassionate Inquiry® Training Integrative Somatic Therapy Training  Internal Family Systems Training (IFS) Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Psychometric Profiles:  Myers Briggs DISC Strengths Finder Enneagram The Kolbe A Index 360 Degree Assessment Book: The Naughtiest Girl in the School Podcasts: Navigating Adoption's Emotional Turbulence Quotes: "A brand is a living entity—and it is enriched or undermined cumulatively over time, the product of a thousand small gestures." - Michael D. Eisner "A lot of times people tell me they share things they've never shared with another human before, things that might be deeply linked to shame or some early trauma that they haven't yet named. People have mirrored back to me, is, it's because I bring my authenticity." - Rosemary Davies-Janes " …that idea of masking and false safety is not something that comes with being a Multipotentialite and living across all these jobs and following your heart. There's a courage in there as well, I would presume, to living like that." - Kevin Young "There's a practice we go through in Magnetic Presence Marketing. Check with your head brain, your heart brain, your gut brain. Check with your five senses. Check with your intuition, check with your alignment with your spiritual connection, whether that's cosmological or collective or whatever it might be." - Rosemary Davies-Janes "As within, so without, as above, so below."- Hermes Trismegistus "Follow your heart and the universe will conspire to help." - Juliano Innocente Social Media: Facebook  Instagram LinkedIn  

Hosted by J'aime Rothbard, Kevin Young and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. What if the chaos we're witnessing is humanity's collective trauma playing out on a global scale? Sat Dharam Kaur invites us to "mind the gap"—the space between our tumultuous present and unknown future—by mindfully pausing our reactivity and leaning into collective wisdom.  Our guest and hosts reflect on: - How powerful peoples' unhealed childhood wounds have and are impacting entire populations and ecosystems - The potential for men to heal their trauma, with healed 'wise' feminine support - How providing healing support from preconception through early childhood could end 'inherited' trauma - Shifting towards a "culture of care" inspired by communities in nature Sat Dharam concludes by inviting us toL "Step up. Go inside and feel…discern… What's my role, my passion, my destiny? What can I do? How can I be of service? it's [already] in our hearts. Then follow the thread, let it unfold. We're all unfolding together, it's this synergy between us that's creating this profound shift." About Sat Dharam Kaur, ND Compassionate Inquiry® Co-Director, Training Facilitator, Circle Leader, Certified Practitioner A practicing naturopathic doctor (since 1989) with a focus on women's health, cancer and mind-body approaches to healing, since 2012, Sat Dharam has been studying, hosting, working and teaching with Dr. Gabor Maté. She structured his work in a teachable format; the Compassionate Inquiry® Professional Online Training, and since 2019, she has incorporated it into her naturopathic practice.  Sat Dharam holds a BA (Psychology & English Literature) and a BSc (Biology). She completed her postgraduate studies at the Canadian College of Naturopathic Medicine where she also taught stress management and women's health for 10 years.  The author of multiple *books on women's health, Sat Dharam also presents at global events, including Oxford 2025,  Europe's largest trauma, mental health and wellbeing conference. An expert instructor in Kundalini Yoga, which she has practiced and taught for over 45 years, Sat Dharam has developed yoga-based curricula in addiction recovery, trauma, and breast health; specialties in which she offers training to teachers around the world. Sat Dharam and her husband live in an off-grid home on 105 acres of beautiful land where she nurtures fruit trees and a large garden. She enjoys hiking, cycling, and communing with plants. She has three adult children and two grandchildren. Resources: Websites: Professional Site Compassionate Inquiry Profile Courses:  Beyond Addiction Compassionate Inquiry Presentations: Oxford 2025 Books: *The Complete Natural Medicine Guide to Women's Health *A Call to Women: The Healthy Breast Program & Workbook *A Naturopathic Guide to Preventing Breast Cancer *The Complete Natural Medicine Guide to Breast Cancer Home Is Where We Start From: Essays by a Psychoanalyst The Evolved Nest The Upanishads Podcasts: Sat Dharam, Your Addiction Reveals Your Hidden Pain Zach Bush, MD & Eva Dalak, Relating to Our Original Imprint Quotes: "An infant who's held well enough is quite a different thing from one who has not been held well enough…in the early stages of emotional development, before the senses have been organized…very severe anxieties are experienced…The order of infant distress at this stage being of the same order as that which lies behind panic…a defence against the agony that makes people commit suicide rather than remember. You see two infants, one is being held …not just physically held but emotionally.... And there is nothing to prevent the rapid emotional growth according to inborn tendencies. The other has not had the experience of being held well and growth has had to be distorted and delayed, and some degree of primitive agony has to be carried into life and living." - DW Winnicott  "...this idea of allomothering, for the parenting not to be solely by one person, [as] what happens if that one person has a crisis…becomes ill or… is exhausted. And to recognize that in our human history as well as in the history of other species, like elephants and whales and cows, there can be an interdependency of mothering." - Sat Dharam Kaur "...look at the [prevalent] models of the divine masculine. They're the abandoned elephant models. …We're talking about creating a culture of nurturance whether it's through the father's older brothers or uncles that have wisdom, or whether it's through the matriarchal side and the mothers." - Sat Dharam Kaur "You are what your deep driving desire is. As your desire is, so is your will. As is your will, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny. - The Upanishads Social Media: Instagram

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & J'aime Rothbard.  Produced by J'aime Rothbard. How do smart, accomplished people end up in emotionally abusive relationships without realizing it? As both a trauma coach and former victim, Paul illuminates how emotional abuse operates through fear, manipulation, and control—and why it's so difficult to recognize and name. He also touches on common signs; chronic invalidation, gaslighting, control disguised as concern, walking on eggshells, confusion, toxic shame, and how our earliest attachments can create susceptibility.  In this conversation, Paul shares - The seven common signs of emotional abuse, from chronic invalidation to walking on eggshells - Why acknowledging "it was wrong and it wasn't your fault" creates profound healing release - The crucial difference between being victimized and staying in victim mode - How compassion—for ourselves and our wounded inner child—can open a path to freedom. Healing requires both acknowledging our childhood wounds and taking 100% responsibility for our recovery. This conversation offers crucial insights for anyone who is (or has) experienced (or perpetrated) emotional abuse. It invites unaware abusers to recognize these patterns and engage in their own healing. About Paul Noiles,  Trauma, Addiction & Awakening Coach Trained and certified in the 1-year intensive Compassion Inquiry® Course with Gabor Mate, as well as Suicide Prevention, Motivational Intervening and Spiritual Awakening, Paul has practiced daily mediation for 17years. He has worked at 4 world-class treatment centers, served on the board of Possibilities Treatment Center (Saskatoon), held roles in Marketing, Health and Wellness, Fitness and Health Education and Facilitated Family and Aftercare Programs.  As a person of long-term recovery, Paul believes all addictions track back to the pain of a Mistaken Identity. The solution is knowing our innate truth through an awakening of consciousness. His raw, intimate sharing of his experiences, in his book Mistaken Identity: A Sacred Journey from Addiction to Awakening, restores hope for many in the grip of addiction.  Promotional Message If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the transformative power of Compassionate Inquiry®, join us for a 6-hour online experiential introduction to the Compassionate Inquiry approach and community.  This link takes you to a web page where you can get information and, if you choose, register for the CI Experience.  Resources: Websites: Paul's Professional Website:  Related Links: What is Emotional Abuse? National Domestic Abuse Hotline Emotional and Psychological Abuse Statistics Books: Mistaken Identity If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? The Gift of Fear Courses: Compassionate Inquiry Intensive 1-Year Course How and When to Leave a Relationship Videos: 7 Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse 7 Signs You're Emotionally Abusive To Others  Quotes: "Wisdom tells me I am nothing. Love tells me I am everything. And between the two my life flows." - Nisargadatta Maharaj "Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth." Just as a knife does not cut itself, fire does not burn itself, light doesn't illuminate itself. It's always an endless mystery to itself" - Alan Watts ""Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you." - Eckhart Tolle "When I was young and stupid, at age eighty, I was quite capable of being a two year old emotionally depending on what was  triggering me" - Gabor Maté "Only when compassion is present will people allow themselves to see the truth." - A.H. Almaas Social Media FB: IG: TT: YT LI  

Mandy Rodstrom & Debbie Mason on, Creating Spaces for Stuttering to Exist Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. What if traditional fluency-focused approaches designed to "fix" stuttering cause more harm than healing? In this conversation, speech therapists Mandy Rodstrom and Debbie Mason share personal and clinical insights that reveal how trauma, nervous system dysregulation and social stigma profoundly impact those who stammer. They highlight the critical importance of connecting people who stutter with supportive communities where stuttering is welcomed and celebrated as authentic expression.  Debbie and Mandy also reflect on: - The neurological underpinnings of developmental stammering - How an overburdened nervous system is related to functional stammering - How fluency-focused approaches can disconnect people from their authentic selves - how suppressed grief and emotion can manifest as functional stammering This conversation connects stuttering to so much more than verbal expression. It's about feelings, thoughts, environments, community, trauma and the courage to exist authentically in a world that demands fluency.  About Mandy Rodstrom,  Speech-Language Therapist After spending 30+ years hiding her stutter and her Self—Mandy made the life-changing decision to embrace her authentic voice and her community. Many who stutter carry invisible wounds from years of being silenced, interrupted, or misunderstood in ableist systems that prioritize fluency over authenticity. Through compassionate trauma-informed conversation, Mandy provides greater understanding of stuttering as a deeply embodied experience which shapes, and is shaped by, societal narratives and how we relate to ourselves and others.  With 19 years of school-based experience, she specializes in developmental stuttering through a client- and family-centered, neurodiversity- affirming, and trauma-informed lens. In her private practice, Mandy's stuttering-affirming therapeutic approach honors each person's unique journey. A passionate advocate for transforming how speech therapists understand and support people who stutter, Mandy supervises graduate clinicians and shapes the next generation of speech-language therapists through the university stuttering courses she teaches. Mandy is a STARR Commonwealth Certified Trauma and Resilience Specialist / Coach, holds the Spero Ally of Stuttering seal and is a Special Projects Ambassador for Spero Ally of Stuttering, who works to expand access to affirming care and professional development. She's also a freelance audio narrator for The Informed SLP, using her openly stuttering voice to challenge conventional narratives about fluency and representation. Her international presentations—including the International Conference on Stuttering in Rome and the World Congress of Stuttering and Cluttering—advocate for a paradigm shift that celebrates stuttering as part of human diversity rather than something to fix. About Debbie Mason,  CI, IFS and Hypnotherapy Trained Speech & Language Therapist Debbie has worked with children and adults who stammer for 30+ years. In her private practice, she supports them in reaching their potential by connecting to their intuition, values and personal truth. Currently she is interested in functional stammering, which is increasing significantly in the UK.  Debbie also leads a National Health Stammering Service in South West England, delivers trainings and workshops to Speech and Language Therapists, students and people who stammer. She co-hosts a group; "Stammering and Spirituality" for Stamma, the British Stammering Association and is committed to supporting the goals of the Stammering Pride movement which aims to create a society that understands, values and honours the stammering voice.  To support a positive and affirming view of stammering, Debbie has acted as an advisor on several plays featuring characters who stammer. She has also written about the use of NLP with people who stammer and been part of a research project that examined the impact of the Covid-19 pandemic on adults who stammer in the UK. Always interested in the role of the unconscious mind and the mind-body link, Debbie has trained in Compassionate Inquiry, Internal Family Systems, Hypnotherapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Neuro-Linguistic Programming.  She practices meditation and enjoys exploring the links between psychology and spirituality.  When not working with clients, students or movements, Debbie enjoys recharging in nature, and taking long country walks with her partner and friends which may involve a beach, definitely involve a dog, a pub and lots of treats. Promotional Message The Compassionate Inquiry Suicide Attention Training is for therapists, health professionals and others working in therapeutic, healing, educational, medical, or coaching roles. If you're seeking sensitive training to help you recognize and support people in your communities who may be experiencing suicidal distress, tap this link. It will take you to a web page where you can learn more about this training, and decide if it's a good fit for you.  Resources: Websites Mandy's Professional Website Debbie's ASLTIP Profile Related Links: Stuttering Commons Library of Dysfluent Voices The National Association of Young People Who Stutter Arthur M. Blank Center for Stuttering Education and Research British Stammering Association  Action for Stammering Children Podcasts: Stutter Talk Around the Block Video: Open Stutter YouTube Channel Books: Out With It Every Waking Moment the-book;Life on Delay On Stuttering Stammering Pride and Prejudice Stammering Therapy from the Inside Articles: Enacted stigma and felt stigma experienced by adults who stutter Fostering Positive Stuttering Identities Using Stutter-Affirming Therapy  "Hide and survive:" A conceptual model of stuttering concealment Concealing Stuttering at School: "When You Can't Fix It…the Only Alternative Is to Hide It" Quotes: "Trauma is not what happens to you, it's what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you." - Gabor Maté "It takes two to stutter." - Dr. Joshua St. Pierre "...there's no other area of parenting where a child is obviously struggling to master something, where the parents don't offer support in some way. And I'm not sure why we see stammering as different." - Debbie Mason "If we meet someone who stutters, how can we support them? Slow down for more connection, be as present as possible, neutral [in your body language] and non verbal. But also ask, how can I support you?" - Mandy Rodstrom  "...people who tend to have difficulty saying no, who suppress emotion, who are hyper responsible, take on the problems of everyone else and ignore their own needs, are more susceptible to functional stammering."  - Debbie Mason Social Media: Mandy's IG  @arod.581

Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. What happens when we stop performing and start being? Cat guides us through her transformational journey from codependent conditioning to embodied authenticity. With wisdom drawn from 30+ years of yoga practice, plant medicine journeys, and navigating her own healing from Breast Cancer, Cat reveals why the answers we seek aren't outside ourselves, but waiting to be uncovered within. Cat reflects on: - How shedding her protective layers enabled her to access her true strength - Her expanded her capacity to be present, hold space for others and become a conduit for transformation - How humor helps her navigate life's challenges, as everything is funny... eventually - The importance of receiving—from others and ourselves Through humor, vulnerability, and profound insight, Cat shares many life lessons, including how learning to trust her innate healing capacity revealed the ease that comes from truly holding ourselves from the inside. About Cat McCarthy,  Trauma-informed Somatic Coach Cat integrates the practice of Yoga, the empathy skills of Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and trauma-Informed somatic movement therapy. Her approach to the relational container in which others safely explore the heart-mind-body terrain is deeply respectful. She supports Compassionate Inquiry's year-long and Circles programs, and co-leads its NVCI Focus group.   A dedicated yoga practitioner and international teacher/trainer, Cat holds certifications in Anusara Yoga, Kripalu Yoga, NYCNVC Facilitation, Compassionate Inquiry® and is registered with the Yoga Alliance and the American Yoga Council. Her extensive studies span the traditions of Rajanaka Philosophy, Neelakantha meditation, The Breathing Project's Embodied Anatomy, and Polyvagal Theory practices.  As an experiential learner and fellow traveler, Cat holds space as a plant medicine journey integrator at a psychedelic wellness center in NYC.  She also leads Body-Mindfulness (meditation/breathwork/sound work) classes for the global Spinal Cord Injury population via the Back2Life Center at NYC's Mt. Sinai Hospital.   Cat's entertaining teaching style blends her vulnerable humor, dynamic clarity and attuned presence.  When not traversing the globe teaching and training, this Emmy-nominated filmmaker directs/produces non-fiction projects.  Her podcast, The Upside of Over, focuses on integrating NVC into our daily lives.  An avid singer who offers vocal and sound resonance courses for embodied self-expression and collective healing, Cat's aim is to support people in rewriting their self-narratives for evolution and growth. She's also developing  programs for actors using therapeutic approaches to character development. But her biggest offering is sharing lessons learned in her "cancer discovery" and ongoing life journey. Promotional Message If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté's approach to trauma healing. Use this link to find out if this program is for you. Resources: Websites: Cat's Professional Website Cat's NYCNVC Profile Cat's Compassionate Inquiry Profile Related Links: The Upside of Over Podcast Center for Nonviolent Communication Compassionate Inquriy Year-Long Training Books: When the Body Says No  The Body Keeps the Score Waking the Tiger   In a Different Voice   The Myth of Normal In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts Divine Beauty Quotes: "I watched my mother die. Not of cancer, but of a type of resentment and grief about having to live, choosing to live a certain way when there weren't too many options for women." - Cat McCarthy "These beliefs that I held to be true, that I'm not enough…there must be something wrong with me…my opinion doesn't matter…I'm alone in the world… All these interpretations that helped me get very far, are not true. They never were true. But they needed to be true then." - Cat  McCarthy "We all have the healing capacity. We all can tap into the quantum field. We all get these downloads. It's not about doing more. It's actually about letting more and more of these layers, this armor, these protections, all these things that we have created to get through life, letting them go one by one and trusting that there is going to be a strength and a resource inside that might need to be mirrored from outside, but it ultimately is an inside job." - Cat McCarthy "We are not the healers. We are the context in which healing is inspired." - Ron Kurtz  "To be practicing together in communal spaces, building communities, sharing, caring, supporting. I think that's the Viva la revolution. Bring it on." - Kevin Young "I am a work in progress, constantly becoming a more essential version of myself." - Cat McCarthy "For Aquinas, beauty also included the notion of integrity...He understands that each thing is alive and on a journey to become fully itself. Integrity is achieved when there is a complete realization of whatever a thing is supposed to be...Integrity is the adequacy of a thing to itself." - John O'Donohue Social Media  Cat's IG Cat's FB  

Hosted by J'aime Rothbard & Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. What if the path to inner and outer peace—and to the survival of our species—runs through our biology, not just our psychology? In this bonus finale to our Relating Series, Eva and Zach guide us beyond the familiar terrain of human-to-human relating to the new ground of relating to our original imprint. This conversation weaves hard science with systems thinking and spiritual wisdom to show that rather than transcending our humanity, healing our separation wound is about fully embracing our original design as vessels of biodiversity, wisdom and interconnected intelligence. Our guests explain: - The energetic upgrade offered by, 'remembering through water' - How the victim-perpetrator-saviour triad (The Drama Triangle) has served us, and why it's time to transmute it - What constriction and expansion reveal about the human experience - Why the human colon holds more biodiversity than any other species If you've been seeking peace through fixing, escaping, or transcending the darkness, this episode offers a radically different perspective: "What if we came here to experience it all?"  Listen to this mind-expanding discussion to see how shifting from polarization to polarity, and welcoming both compression and expansion, can transform your own life journey. About Eva Dalak Founder, Peace Activation A skilled conflict transformation facilitator and peacebuilding trainer, for 20+ years Eva has worked with international organisations in 22+ conflict zones across Africa, the Middle East and Asia, blending systemic change with personal and collective healing. After 30+ years as a gender and conflict expert, she leads trauma- informed, soul-centered initiatives as a women's empowerment coach.  Growing up as a Palestinian-Muslim in Israel, Eva experienced a fragmented identity within a system designed to 'divide and rule.'. Fluent in five languages, she's trained in international development and law, spiritual psychology, and somatic experiencing.  Currently based in Costa Rica, Eva launched Peace Activation on October 7, 2023 in response to the escalating crisis in Palestine and Israel. A global peace initiative, it's rooted in the belief that sustainable peace begins within. Eva also hosts the Peace is Possible podcast and authors The Other Narrative Substack. About Zach Bush, MD A physician specializing in internal medicine, endocrinology and hospice care, Zach is an internationally recognized educator and thought leader on the microbiome as it relates to health, disease, and food systems.  He founded the Seraphic Group and the non-profit Farmer's Footprint to develop root-cause solutions for human and ecological health.  His passion for education reaches across many disciplines, including topics such as the role of soil and water ecosystems in human genomics, immunity, and gut/brain health.  Zach's education has highlighted the need for a radical departure from chemical farming and pharmacy, and his ongoing efforts are providing a path for consumers, farmers and mega-industries to work together for a healthy future for people and our planet. Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté's approach to trauma healing. Use this link to find out if this program is for you. Resources Websites: Eva Dalak Peace Activation Zach Bush Farmer's Footprint Related links:  The Drama Triangle The Other Narrative – Substack Earth One Transatlantic Crossing Earthrise Collective Pooven Moodley Ubuntu Burning Man Courses: Peace Leader Pathway Journey Collective Immersion Compassionate Inquiry Circles  Books: Dancing In The Dark: How I Found My True Vision For Peace. Human: From Crisis to Our Greatest Opportunity (Available Aug 18) Pleiadan Prophesy 2020: The New Golden Age Podcasts: Peace is Possible Podcast August 2025 Interview with Eva & Zach Quotes: "More so than the victim or the perpetrator, the savior is actually the one going in to poison the system and see who can survive." - Zach Bush, MD "I'm inviting people to come to that field, beyond right doing and wrongdoing. This field where you exist and you have all legitimacy to exist without doing anything." - Eva Dalak "...there is no saving a system that sees itself as its own enemy. And every cancer cell is an inherent part of every human body, and it is your self." - Zach Bush, MD "In Arabic, we say, "Yom asal yom basal." One day it's gonna be honey, and one day it's gonna be onion. When you're in a honey day, you know that tomorrow might be an onion, and it's going to stink." - Eva Dalak "... the loneliest cell in the body is the cancer cell… If you welcome it back into the fold, it will eliminate all of its own cancer properties and will actually call in stem cells to lay down healthy tissue." - Zach Bush, MD "Stop waiting for the king. Be a queen." - Caroline Myss "... abandonment disorder is the fundamental foundation of human behavior. In our improving sciences around addiction, we find addiction is the necessary and absolute reaction to abandonment disorder." - Zach Bush, MD "The way in which we tend to drown in guilt again is addiction. So our choice is either to perpetuate our own victimization through addiction, or hold our ground and switch the direction of guilt to shame as a weapon." - Zach Bush, MD Social Media: Eva's Instagram Zach's Instagram Eva's Facebook Zach's Facebook Eva's LinkedIn Zach's LinkedIn Eva's Youtube Zach's YouTube Zach's X  

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes and J'aime Rothbard.  Produced by J'aime Rothbard. This vulnerable conversation continues exploring relating through the LGBTQ+ lens, as Vimalasara and Jordan share insights rarely disclosed to the heteronormative population. Jordan reflects on the inner work required to create safety for others—unpacking his own trauma so he can hold space for someone else's. Vimalasara addresses the harsh realities of domestic violence in LGBTQ+ communities, highlighting the barriers to seeking help—being subjected to transphobia, homophobia, or violence in shelters intended to provide refuge. They also explore: - Why trans women face the most heinous violence - The erosion of trans rights which give people "permission" to be openly transphobic - Why supporting trans youth requires parents' unconditional love - The trauma of conversion therapy, and the impact of 'unsafe' school policies  Both guests emphasize that change begins within as "humans are capable of transformation," and cultivating self-compassion allows us to see others more clearly. The conversation concludes with Jordan offering his mantra: "Every minute is a choice. I choose to get better by the minute." About: Dr Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John,  M.A (hon.doc)  Hailed by Dr. Ken Hardy as, "One of the premier social, cultural, and psychological healers of our time" Vimalasara is an award-winning author of 11 books including Detox Your Heart, Meditations for Emotional Trauma, and Eight Step Recovery Using The Buddha's Teachings to Overcome Addiction.  They are a co-founder of the secular 8-week course Mindfulness-Based Addiction Recovery (MBAR) and one of the new leading African Descent Voices in the field of Mindfulness Approaches for Addiction. Their latest book, a First Aid Kit for the Mind, Breaking the Cycle of Habitual Behaviours has been  described by Gabor Maté as distilling 'Aeons of Wisdom."  About Jordan Decker Jordan "SameHeart" Decker is a National and International Speaker, Course Creator of the HeartLine Approach to Gender Affirmation, Creator of the Alchemy of Authenticity Coaching, a Polarity Integration Consultant, a Plant Medicine Guide and Accidental Activist for Transyouth Suicide Prevention.  His background in Neuro-linguistic programming, Somatic Experiencing, Compassionate Inquiry® Training with Dr. Gabor Maté, and Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Certificate ground him in educating, consulting and healing trauma through hands-on bodywork.  Tapping into his Indigenous ancestry, he lives to be in alignment with the land, trees, water, air and self. In his spare time he is a cat whisperer and animal lover. Promotional Message: The Compassionate Inquiry® Suicide Attention Training is for therapists, health professionals and others working in therapeutic, healing, educational, medical, or coaching roles. If you're seeking sensitive training to help you recognize and support people in your communities who may be experiencing suicidal distress, tap this link. It will take you to a web page where you can learn more about this training, and decide if it's a good fit for you.  Resources: Websites: Vimalasara's Website Vimalasara's CI Practitioner Profile Jordan's Website Related Links: Vimalasara's Wikipedia Page  Sadhguru's Website Videos: How Not to Die We Are What We Think - TedX Let Go of Stories Courses:  First Aid Kit for the Mind Course Overcoming Addiction Course Inner Engineering Course Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training Books: First Aid Kit for the Mind Detox Your Heart Inner Engineering Quotes: "Humans are capable of change. Humans are capable of transformation and liberation of the mind and we are capable of true compassion." - Dr. Valerie Mason-John "If we look at the emotional component of a heart attack, it's a heartbreak. My heart broke." - Jordan Decker "Healing is not the erasure of pain, but the capacity to hold it with consciousness until it transforms." - Solea Anani "There needs to be more services, and to make it safe for [LGBTQ+] people to go somewhere and say, this is happening in my relationship. I need help."  - Dr. Valerie Mason-John "Every minute is a choice. So, yeah, I choose to get better by the minute." - Jordan Decker Social Media: IG:  @vmasonjohn       @_jdeck__ FB: Vimalasara - Valerie Mason-John       Jordan Decker  

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes and J'aime Rothbard.  Produced by J'aime Rothbard. This thought provoking conversation explores relating through the LGBTQ+ lens, but not only presented to that community. Instead it is a vulnerable and honest sharing in which Vimalarara and Jordan offer insights and perspectives rarely disclosed to the heteronormative population. In this inclusive episode they touch on the: - Use of pronouns can create a sense of safety and inclusion - Perspective of gender as a social construct rather than a personal identity - Historical impact of religious and colonial beliefs on gender and sexuality - Concept of "care" being used to justify harmful practices (residential schools/conversion therapy)  This conversation concludes with reflections on the importance of self-awareness regarding one's own biases, and how understanding personal challenges can help in supporting others. It also pauses the conversation on care, which will be resumed in the second part of this episode. About: Dr Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John,  M.A (hon.doc)  Hailed by Dr. Ken Hardy as, "One of the premier social, cultural, and psychological healers of our time" Vimalasara is an award-winning author of 11 books including Detox Your Heart, Meditations for Emotional Trauma, and Eight Step Recovery Using The Buddha's Teachings to Overcome Addiction.  They are a co-founder of the secular 8-week course Mindfulness-Based Addiction Recovery (MBAR) and one of the new leading African Descent Voices in the field of Mindfulness Approaches for Addiction. Their latest book, a First Aid Kit for the Mind, Breaking the Cycle of Habitual Behaviours has been  described by Gabor Maté as distilling 'Aeons of Wisdom."  About Jordan Decker Jordan "SameHeart" Decker is a National and International Speaker, Course Creator of the HeartLine Approach to Gender Affirmation, Creator of the Alchemy of Authenticity Coaching, a Polarity Integration Consultant, a Plant Medicine Guide and Accidental Activist for Transyouth Suicide Prevention.  His background in Neuro-linguistic programming, Somatic Experiencing, Compassionate Inquiry® Training with Dr. Gabor Maté, and Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Certificate ground him in educating, consulting and healing trauma through hands-on bodywork.  Tapping into his Indigenous ancestry, he lives to be in alignment with the land, trees, water, air and self. In his spare time he is a cat whisperer and animal lover. Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté's approach to trauma healing. Use this link to find out if this program is for you. Resources: Websites: Vimalasara's Website Vimalasara's CI Practitioner Profile Jordan's Website Related Links: Eating Disorder Recovery Programs Vimalasara's Wikipedia Page  Sadhguru's Website Bayo Akomolafe's Website Resmaa Menaken's Website Videos: How Not to Die We Are What We Think - TedX Let Go of Stories Courses:  First Aid Kit for the Mind Course Overcoming Addiction Course Inner Engineering Course Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training Books: First Aid Kit for the Mind Detox Your Heart Inner Engineering Quotes: "... about heart disease… what these cardiologists are saying, it's not coronary disease, it's culinary disease. " - Vimalasara "...we don't think about gender. Because in a way… I really believe that these are social constructs. However, we do live in a world which is gendered, so actually we are treated differently. These constructs …have an impact." - Vimalasara "I am going with the flow. I'm definitely learning how to be in the river and float, not drown." - Jordan Decker "I'm not nonbinary in the sense of a third gender or something in-between. I'm nonbinary in the sense that the binary itself is the problem. … My gender is a disruption, a disidentification, a structural exit, a refusal of the classificatory logic that makes gender a legible commodity in the first place." -  Maxi Glamour Social Media: IG:  @vmasonjohn       @_jdeck__ FB: Vimalasara - Valerie Mason-John       Jordan Decker  

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & Leila Bahri-Lucas. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. This episode reminds us that the unconscious processes that drive humans, our memories and survival instincts, often lead to misunderstandings and reactive behaviors. Consequently, most relationship issues, while they may seem personal, actually stem from our innate drives. Stan outlines that rather than being approached casually, successful relationships require deliberate design, shared purpose, defined roles, and agreed-upon principles.   We also explore: - The PPPRRR Approach: Couples can "Predict, Plan, Prepare, and Revise or Repair" potential issues. - What's required for 'real repair - How life changes, like adding a baby, tend to impact a relationship - Co-regulation vs. Self-regulation - Safety and Security: The bedrock of any successful relationship. Stan also explains the unique communication challenges presented by technology (texting) and driving both of which lack the crucial visual cues co-regulation requires. "Never get into emotional conversations when driving because you will fight. We're legally blind. It can't work. So pull over." About Stan Tatkin  PsyD, MFT, Clinician, Author and Researcher Dr. Tatkin was an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine, is the developer of 'A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy®' (PACT) and with his wife, Dr. Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, co-founded the PACT Institute.  Stan maintains a private practice in Southern California, leads PACT programs in the US and internationally and is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and In Each Other's Care. About Leila Bahri-Lucas  MA, Counselor and Therapeutic Coach  Integrating Relational Life Therapy, Positive Psychology, Compassionate Inquiry and a Master's in Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health from King's College London, Leila's approach is trauma informed, emotionally precise, and grounded in real relational change.  Specializing in infertility, blended families, and the many challenges of family building. Leila supports couples through their most difficult moments. Based in Dubai, Leila works internationally with people who want to understand what drives disconnection and how real connection becomes possible again. Promotional Message: If you're interested in experiencing Gabor Maté's trauma healing approach, consider working with a certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner. Access healing support for mental, emotional and physical symptoms, unresolved trauma, relationship issues,  addictions, and more. Use this link to access our global directory of multilingual certified professionals. In addition to their years of CI training and regular Certification reviews, our Practitioners bring the depth of their own personal lived experiences and skills in additional, complementary therapeutic approaches. Resources Websites: Dr Tatkin's Website Leila's Website   Training: 7 Days to Better Fights The PACT Institute The Developmental Model Relational Life Institute Compassionate Inquiry Leila's CI Circle  (Starts 1/14/26) No matter what we're going through, infertility, relationship strain, blended-family transitions, loss, or simply feeling disconnected, these experiences shape how we relate to ourselves and others. They can create isolation, silence or distance, even in relationships that matter deeply. Leila's upcoming CI Circle on Relating is a supportive space for all who want to explore these relational layers in a supportive community with honesty and care.    Videos: TEDxKC  Relationships Are Hard, But Why? Welcome Home Exercise for Couples The Architecture of Relationships The Neurobiology of Thriving Relationships Why Love isn't Enough Books: Wired for Love  (1st Edition: 2012, 2nd Edition: 2024) In Each Other's Care  (2023) Baby Bomb (2021) What Every Therapist Ought to Know (2021) We Do (2018) Relationship Rx  (2018) Wired for Dating (2016) Your Brain on Love  (2012) Love and War in Intimate Relationships (2010) Scattered Minds (2000) Quotes: "Couples choose each other with an unerring instinct for finding the very person who will exactly match their own level of unconscious anxieties and mirror their own dysfunctions and who will trigger for them all their unresolved emotional pain." - Gabor Maté, Scattered Minds "When we recite our relationship vows, perhaps we should say, I take you as my pain in the rear with all your history and baggage, and I take responsibility for all prior injustices you endured at the hands of those I never knew, because you are now in my care." - Stan Tatkin, Wired for Love "We don't have to remain at the mercy of each other's runaway moods and feelings. Rather, as competent managers of our partners, we can become expert at moving, shifting, motivating, influencing, soothing and inspiring one another." - Stan Tatkin, Wired for Love "They were too familiar to ignore, but too different to tolerate." - Yuval Noah Harari "There's no perfect partner. What makes a partner right for you is a shared willingness to create a secure relationship. If you're both willing to go all in together, you are perfect for each other."  - Stan Tatkin Social Media  IG: @drstantatkin @realwithleila   FB: ​​https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute       https://www.facebook.com/leilanyc YT: @stanleytat LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-tatkin/     https://www.linkedin.com/in/realwithleila/

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. This episode introduces Polyamory, a form of consensual non-monogamy, as a relational style involving multiple loving, consensual, romantic partners simultaneously. It emphasizes trust, open communication (as opposed to secretive 'cheating') and mutual agreement. Jessica and David, themselves polyamory practitioners and co-authors of two books on Polyamory, are joined by JP Bolhuis, a Psychosocial Therapist, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner and Private Mentor who recently entered the world of polyamory. Jesica and David explain: - Polyamory is often adopted as a personal orientation or for philosophical reasons - A key concept in managing multiple relationships is: "Love is infinite, but time isn't." - How the structured approach of restorative justice navigates conflict in intimate relationships - The crucial role Internal Family Systems plays in healing within polyamorous contexts - How Shame Triangles can be transformed into Self-Love Triangles JP vulnerably shares his personal journey into polyamory, including his challenges with anxious and avoidant attachment tendencies,  past shame, and how to approach the topic with his children.   About Jessica Fern  Integrative Therapist, Coach, Author A Certified Clinical Trauma Professional she holds a MA in Conflict Resolution, and draws on 25 years of experience in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic, and spiritual healing modalities. She bridges Internal Family Systems, attachment theory, trauma recovery, and relational psychology to help people cultivate secure, Self-led relationships—with themselves and others.  Jessica is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure (2020), The Polysecure Workbook (2022), Polywise (2023) and Transforming the Shame Triangle (2025).  In her international private practice, she supports individuals and couples in multi-partner relationships who want to break free from reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment, and past trauma—empowering them to embody new possibilities in life and love. About David Cooley Restorative Justice Facilitator, Diversity & Privilege Awareness Trainer, Bilingual Cultural Broker While working as a professional Restorative Circle facilitator and trainer in the field of Restorative Justice, David was impressed by the power of dialogue, within a safe and structured container, to radically transform conflict into a tremendously healing process. So he created the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair.  In his private practice, David specializes in working with non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. With Jessica Fern, he co-authored Polywise (2023) and Transforming the Shame Triangle (2025).  About Jan Peter Bolhuis Psychosocial Therapist, CI Private Mentor & Practitioner Having been trained by Gabor Maté and others, JP is currently completing his development in ACT therapy. He runs a trauma therapy practice, works in homeless care and teaches close combat in his own school. A 55 year old father of three and grandfather of one, JP lives in a peaceful, forested environment and shares his life in a polyamorous relationship.  Relationships are no longer places where he adapts to belong, but invitations to be real. For his first 46 years JP drifted far from himself. Over the past eight years, he learned to hold himself in pain or confusion without disappearing into old patterns of numbing with distraction, sex or drugs. He also shifted from surviving to living with awareness, from strategy to values and from correction to connection.  For JP, healing is no longer a destination but an 'in the moment' choice to 'ride the rollercoaster.' Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté's approach to trauma healing. Use this link to find out if this program is for you Resources: Websites:  Jessica's Website   David's Website JP's Website JP's Healing Grounds Site JP's Compassionate Inquiry Profile Articles: The Universal Human Need to be Seen, Heard and Valued The Karpman Drama Triangle Books: Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work Videos: Gabor Maté on Marriage Podcasts: Quotes: "To be truly seen and heard, to be truly known, is a deep human need." - Charles Eisenstein, Sacred Economics: Money, Gift, and Society in the Age of Transition "Nonmonogamy can be a pressure cooker for growth. It is commonly and playfully known in the nonmonogamous world that you shouldn't enter consensual nonmonogamy unless you are ready to process, communicate, grow and then process, communicate and grow some more." - Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy  "A relationship can be a real ground for mutual growth. So you can enter into a relationship... you're not going to be perfect, carry a certain degree of trauma, a certain degree of dysfunction, etc. But if both people are committed to the truth more than "who's right" and working it out and if the fundamental love is there, then you can grow together." - Gabor Maté Social Media: IG: @jessicafern411 IG: @bolhuisjanpeter  David on LinkedIn JP on LinkedIn  JP on Facebook Jessica on Facebook  

Hosted by J'aime Rothbard and Rosemary Davies-Janes.  Produced by J'aime Rothbard. In this soft and flowing conversation, Silva Neves differentiates the term "sex addiction" from "sexual compulsivity," as addiction is an independent disorder, while compulsion arises from environmental distress. Like food, sex is a primary drive, and has a natural physiological stopping point  not present in other addictions. The analogy of food and diverse cuisines to normalize conversations about sexuality, highlighting that different tastes and preferences in food are accepted, but similar differences in sexuality are often judged. Diana and Silva also highlight: - How religions' prohibition of 'sex for pleasure' causes widespread shame,   which has been identified as a significant driver of sexual compulsivity and distress. - Why medical professionals and therapists feel discomfort discussing sexual issues - How societal judgments about sexual behaviors suppress curiosity and open communication. - Why problematic porn viewing is often a symptom of underlying mental health issues The episode concludes with a message of love, connection, and the idea that sexuality is not the opposite of spirituality, but a part of our common humanity, inviting us to bring softness and curiosity to our inner worlds of pleasure and intimacy. About Silva Neves, Psychosexual, Relationship EMDR & Trauma Psychotherapist  An award-winning, experienced psychosexual and relationship therapist, Silva is a specialist in the treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours and in working with survivors of sexual abuse. He also offers clinical supervision to psychotherapists, psychologists, counselors and other mental health professionals. The author of 4 books: Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, (2021) Sexology, (2023). Erotically Queer, (2023) and Relationally Queer, (2023) Silva also provides clinical training on the topics of sex and relationships, compulsive sexual behaviours, trauma and grief to his international following. An editorial board member of Sexual and Relationship Therapy (an international journal) and a Clinical Associate with Pink Therapy, in 2023, Silva was the recipient of the Sexual Freedom Ally Award for his contribution to the field of sexology. His many accreditations include: AccCOSRT, AccCOSRT(sup), UKCP registered, MNCPS(Acc.), Reg.MBACP, and Accred AGSRDT.  About Diana Safta, Compassionate Inquiry Facilitator and Psychotherapist An active psychologist with a MA in Clinical Psychology, Diana blends Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Schema Therapy, Systemic Therapy and the teachings of countless diverse courses, workshops and retreats on topics ranging from shamanic practices to mindfulness and meditation. Along with her expertise, Diana's clients receive her openness, kindness, and compassion.  After realizing that her art career, while interesting, lacked fundamental meaning, then experiencing a divorce, Diana  began a personal healing journey in which she learned that her childhood traumas were still actively influencing her adult life decisions.  After 8+ years of psychotherapy, Diana discovered Compassionate Inquiry, which enabled her to release her old coping mechanisms and habits, and move to a higher level of consciousness, embodiment, and self-connection. Today, in addition to offering therapy to clients in Romanian and English, both online and in-person (in Bucharest), Diana supports the Compassionate Inquiry Community as a Facilitator, Mentor and Circle Leader. Promotional Message: If you're interested in experiencing Gabor Maté's trauma healing approach, consider working with a certified Compassionate Inquiry (CI) Practitioner. Access healing support for mental, emotional and physical symptoms, unresolved trauma, relationship issues,  addictions, and more. Use this link to access our global directory of multilingual certified professionals. In addition to their years of CI training and regular Certification reviews, like Diana our Practitioners bring the depth of their own personal lived experiences and skills in additional, complementary therapeutic approaches.  Resources Websites: Diana's Professional Profile Silva's Professional Website Silva's Sex Positivity  Website Silva's Counselling Directory Profile Silva's Sexology Institute Profile Courses: Compassionate Inquiry Training Programs Silva's NScience Courses Silva's PesiUK Courses Podcasts: The Meaningful Life (2021) The Smart Connector (2023) Events: ReConnect 2025 - Bucharest Books: Compulsive Sexual Behaviours. A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians Sexology: The Basics Erotically Queer. A Pink Therapy Guide for Practitioners Relationally Queer. A Pink Therapy Guide for Practitioners  Quotes: "There was a time before the modern religions, as we know them today, when there was such a different relationship with sex and sexuality,..modern religions… have lots of prohibitions around sexuality.... there are so many things about sex that people believe to be true [that] are just constructs that have [their] origins in religion." - Silva Neves "It's much easier to speak about pleasure when it's the culinary taste. But a different aspect of pleasure that [we've] been conditioned for hundreds of years not to speak about,. [This] made us exile our connection to sexuality and life force and creativity and the joys of life." - Diana Safta Social Media: IG: Diana, Silva FB: Diana X:   Silva

Hosted by Kevin Young.  Produced by J'aime Rothbard. In this conversation, Kevin introduces us to Dr Paul Gallagher, a lecturer in trauma studies at Cork University who started his formal education at age 40, after a significant "gap" in his life. Born in Belfast in 1972 at the height of "The Troubles," Paul recounts growing up in a war zone, where at 21, his home was invaded and his family held hostage. During this attack, he was shot and paralysed, and while physical and medical care were provided, psychological support was not.  Paul highlights: - The crucial roles of community-led initiatives that provide vital support, education, and a path to hope for survivors. - The inseparable connection between the academic understanding of trauma and practical, compassionate healing approaches such as those offered by the Wave Trauma Center. The conversation concludes with Paul sharing his vision of a trauma-informed society in his deeply traumatized homeland. About Dr. Paul Gallagher  Born in Belfast, Northern Ireland, Paul grew up in an area heavily impacted by the political violence euphemistically known as 'The Troubles.' He was relatively untouched until 1994, when his home was taken over by terrorists who held Paul and his family hostage while they waited for their intended target. When their plan failed to snare that individual, they shot Paul, which left him with life changing injuries After a protracted recovery, Paul reclaimed his life. His engagement with a local NGO, WAVE Trauma Centre sparked a lifelong journey into psychological trauma understanding and healing. Paul graduated from Queen's University in 2016 with a BSc in Psychological Trauma Studies. He achieved his MA in Conflict Transformation and Social Justice in 2017. This was followed up in 2022 when Paul was awarded his Doctorate in Sociology, focusing on the Campaign for Recognition by the WAVE Injured Group, which lobbied successfully for a special pension for those injured during the conflict. A Trauma Education Officer for WAVE Trauma Centre, Paul blends his personal experience of trauma with his knowledge of the traumatology field. He teaches a range of courses, including the BSc at Queen's University and an MA in Trauma Studies at UCC (University College Cork). His main interests are nurturing post-traumatic growth, both in himself and sowing seeds for growth around him. He continues to advocate for those affected by the Troubles and for others around the globe through his work with WAVE Trauma. Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry approach developed by Dr. Gabor Mate and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, look for the link in the show notes. Resources: Websites: Paul's Personal Blog Professional Website  Paul's PhD Thesis  Post Traumatic Growth Module (UCC) Articles: Queen's University, Belfast Belfast Telegraph Video: What Does it Mean to be a Frontline Worker? Book: My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies Social Media: X: @cutdabegs Bluesky: @cutdabegs.bsky.social Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WaveTraumaCentre/

Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. Tony shares his personal journey, from growing up gay in the 60s, to experiencing sexual trauma and seeking healing in his 50s. He views safety, kindness, and gentleness as essential for healing, as they invite us to lower our shields and 'just be.' Having worked in the psychedelic world for 2 decades, Tony stresses that profound psychedelic experiences are only valuable if they lead to a greater sense of ease and conscious awareness with which we can navigate our challenging world. He also recounts: - The development of gentler, more supportive psychedelic assistance approaches - How ketamine can deliver an eternal quality of love, akin to AH Almaas's concept - The pure self-observation available through 5-MeO-DMT - The alignment between Hakomi and Compassionate Inquiry Tony also mentions his photography of Iboga ceremonies in West Africa and an upcoming project with an Ibogaine treatment center. Moving forward, he plans to reduce the intensity of his medicine work, pursue photography projects (including documenting coming-of-age rituals), and train psychedelic therapists in integrating Hakomi principles. About Tony Hoare A founding Compassionate Inquiry® Facilitator, Practitioner and Relational Somatic Therapist, Tony has worked with individuals in the context of psychedelic-assisted therapy in Ayahuasca ceremonies since 2005. He also held supportive roles in 15 of Gabor Maté's 9-day plant medicine retreats, from 2009 to 2017, helping participants prepare for and integrate their experiences.  Having observed Gabor Maté practicing Compassionate Inquiry for hundreds of hours, Tony also works with people seeking one-on-one emotional processing and healing. He uses Compassionate Inquiry® to help his clients understand and process their emotions, discover the origins of their pain, develop forgiveness and self-acceptance. Tony describes himself as: "In love with wild places - thrives on new experiences - forever curious about people and what makes them tick - never happier than on an adventure with a camera - connects just as easily with the janitor or the ceo - lives simply - delivers the goods." Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry® approach developed by Doctor Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches, and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, tap this link to access more information.. Resources: Websites: Tony's Photography Website  Tony's Compassionate Inquiry Profile Related Links: Georgia Marvin What is Iboga? What is 5-MeO-DMT? What is Bufo? What is a Plant Dieta? Books: Love Unveiled: Discovering the Essence of the Awakened Heart The Hakomi Way Video: What is Ibogaine? Quotes:  "The greatest thing that I can do for you is work on me. And the greatest thing that you can do for me is work on you." - Ram Dass  "Be kind to yourself. You don't have to work at this. There's nothing to do. Be gentle." - Tony Hoare "You would be wise in your own life to recognize the times that needed to be clothed in ritual." -  John O'Donoghue "Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else. The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You are not going in the right direction unless there is something pricking you in the side, telling you, "Look here! This way!" That part of you loves you so much that it doesn't want you to lose the chance. It will go to extreme measures to wake you up, it will make you suffer greatly if you don't listen. What else can it do? That is its purpose." - AH Almaas Social Media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/tony.hoare.750 IG: https://www.instagram.com/tonyhoare7707/

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes.  Produced by J'aime Rothbard. In this gentle, heart-felt conversation, Leila guides us through the emotional landscape of infertility debunking common myths and misconceptions. She also shares her personal story, from 11 rounds of IVF to complete emotional collapse, which led her to agency, freedom, a new beginning and a baby.   Leila also addresses: - How Infertility, as a trauma in its own right can unearth feelings of shame and worthlessness - Why trauma-informed support can ease the emotional toll of infertility medical interventions cannot. - The roles that self-compassion, truth and compassion play in our healing process - Why acknowledging difficult truths and fostering self-compassion are vital for emotional well-being Leila emphasizes that while the infertility journey is one of profound uncertainty and unraveling, if we surrender to the collapse, rather than allowing ourselves to be hijacked by the struggle, we can access freedom, agency and discover new paths forward. She shares how by learning to sit with our painful personal truths, cultivating self-compassion and community support, we can transform our experiences.  About Leila Bahri-Lucas  Counselor and Therapeutic Coach  Integrating Relational Life Therapy, Positive Psychology, Compassionate Inquiry and a Master's in Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health from King's College London, Leila's approach is trauma informed, emotionally precise, and grounded in real relational change, the kind that shows up in the way we live, love, argue, repair, and try again. While infertility remains central to her work, her focus has grown into the wider landscape of family building and relational transitions. She supports individuals, couples, and groups navigating infertility or its aftermath, blended families, relationship breakdowns, identity shifts, grief, and the emotional patterns that shape connection. Leila believes we each hold a reproductive story, whether or not we become parents. Her passion is helping people stay connected to themselves and each other during life chapters that often create silence, shame, or distance. Her own path included 11 IVF cycles, conceiving her daughter through egg donation, and becoming a mother nine months after her father died. That personal history continues to shape how she understands lineage, rupture, protection, and the courage it takes to relate with honesty. Based in Dubai, Leila works internationally with people who want to understand what drives disconnection and how real connection becomes possible again. Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté's approach to trauma healing. Use this link to find out if this program is for you. Resources Websites: Leila's Website   Leila's CI Circle  (Starts 1/14/26) No matter what we're going through, infertility, relationship strain, blended-family transitions, loss, or simply feeling disconnected, these experiences shape how we relate to ourselves and others. They can create isolation, silence or distance, even in relationships that matter deeply. Leila's upcoming CI Circle on Relating is a supportive space for all who want to explore these relational layers in a supportive community with honesty and care.  Studies: Fewer than half of IVF cycles are successful. These scientists are trying to change that IVF research: What are the latest advances, and what obstacles stand in the way? Articles: What your doctor isn't telling you about IVF — but should Common Infertility Myths & Misperceptions.  Navigating the Emotional Landscape of Infertility What surrender really means in spirituality and how it can bring peace in modern life  Books: Conceivability When the Body Says No Intimate Conversations with the Divine  When Things Fall Apart  The Untethered Soul The Surrender Experiment Embracing Uncertainty  The Upside of Uncertainty  Podcasts: 15 Best Fertility Podcasts (2025) Quotes: "Infertility is uncertainty on a repeat. Infertility is uncertainty and so is life actually. It's the illusion of control that we have to let go of." - Leila Bahri-Lucas "The path is uncharted. It comes into existence moment by moment and at the same time drops away behind us. It's like riding on a train sitting backwards. We can't see where we're headed, only where we've been." - Pema Chödrön. (When Things Fall Apart) "Truth without compassion isn't healing and compassion without truth isn't enough. So work on that self compassion muscle in whichever way you can." - Leila Bahri-Lucas "Infertility is trauma in its own right, but it also unearths deeper wounds from early life. It leaves no stone unturned. For one in four to six couples, the inability to conceive cracks open layers of shame, isolation, rejection (for not being chosen) and grief that track back to childhood. Infertility has a particular set of stressors. It's a raw and complex journey for oneself and relationally." - Leila Bahri-Lucas   Social Media  @realwithleila  

Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. In this conversation, our guests forge a link between childhood trauma and the severity of menopausal symptoms. Aisling, a GP who is herself experiencing perimenopause, notes that the menopausal women who consult her often carry immense stress from being "sandwiched" between their peak career responsibilities and caring for children, grandchildren and aging parents.  Together Aisling and Rati contrast: - "Estrogen Washing" a term Aisling coined to suggest that HRT often serves as a "wash" which may offer temporary relief but is covering deeper societal issues like capitalist demands, patriarchy, and the emotional burdens placed on women. - Societal Silence: Despite a full 25% of the UK population being perimenopausal or menopausal, there's a significant lack of open discussion on this topic amongst women, and little to no discussion about it between menopausal women and the men in their lives. - Negative Cultural Views of Menopause; In the west it's often seen as an end of productivity and fertility. It's associated with shame and unattractiveness. In Native American traditions, where older women are revered as "elders" and "wisdom keepers," menopause symptoms are often less severe. The conversation concludes with supportive future visions for women in menopause. Rati suggests women need space, quiet, rest, and reduced workloads, along with curious, loving, and respectful listening from others.  Aisling envisions women's menopausal struggles as harbingers of greater cultural challenges to come. She suggests men will take on more emotional load, and society will come to value aging women as wise, empathetic leaders.  Rati Roberta Riccardi, Somatic Therapist After a 12-year career as a professional freelance translator in Italy, Rati started exploring. For the last two decades, she has been supporting people in expanding their consciousness and empowering them to find their inner healer/teacher through a variety of modalities. A Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner, Facilitator and Mentor, and a psychedelic assisted therapy preparation and integration practitioner, Rati has explored different healing traditions, including various shamanic approaches. She is trained in Mediterranean massage, Reconnective Healing and The Reconnection, Hatha Yoga, Nada Yoga, Meditation, Breathing Techniques and Intuitive Energy Work. She has studied the consciousness expanding and healing properties of sound extensively with Alexandre Tannous and facilitates group and one-on-one sound meditations.  Rati has travelled extensively, learning, studying, and guiding groups with prolonged stays in Brazil, Peru and Mexico to explore indigenous culture and traditions. About Dr Aisling Quiery Aisling is a Family Doctor (GP), a Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner and a Health/Life Coach who combines her medical knowledge, her Compassionate Inquiry® training and Coaching to help people to heal through connection to their authentic selves, to the present moment, and to each other. With her support, her patients move beyond symptom management, to healing. After training as a doctor in Scotland she worked as a GP in an economically deprived area of North Edinburgh where she also ran a community Hepatitis C clinic, a service for people who inject drugs and worked in a primary care service for people experiencing homelessness. It was through her addictions work that she first discovered the work of Gabor Maté. Aisling attended a plant medicine retreat with Gabor and the Shipibo healers in Peru in 2019 and went on to train in Compassionate Inquiry®, a modality that changed how she sees herself, her patients and the medical model. She lives on an organic farm in County Down in the North of Ireland and works at GP practices in her local area as well as working privately with individuals and groups using Compassionate Inquiry®. Promotional Message: Did you know that Compassionate Inquiry® offers a free public blog library with over a thousand short posts written by our practitioners and facilitators?  Each is only a 5 or 6 minute read, and topics range from connecting with authenticity to overcoming food addictions to understanding epigenetics, rethinking drug use, CI & Psychedelics, and much, much more. You can also read excerpts from podcast guests' interviews. Tap this link to access our helpful, enlightening and inspiring blog library.  Resources: Websites: Rati's Professional Website  Rati's Compassionate Inquiry Profile Aisling's Professional Website Aisling's Compassionate Inquiry Profile Compassionate Inquiry® Related Links ACEs Study Take the ACEs Quiz Margaret Mead Books: The Myth of Normal The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity Quotes: "Mary Jane Minkin,  a researcher at Yale University, found that societies where elders and wise women are revered and celebrated show far less severe menopause symptoms than societies where they are not". - Dr Aisling Queiry "13 million women in the UK are perimenopausal/ menopausal, that's 25% of the population…" - Dr Aisling Queiry "I've just read that the Arabic word for menopause translates as, 'age of despair.'" - Dr Aisling Quiery "...elephants, whales and human beings are the only three mammals that have a menopausal period for the female of that species. The only reason … is that childbirth is both dangerous, makes a female vulnerable and takes up a lot of her time. So when the reproduction is taken away from a female at a certain age, it frees her up to be a wisdom keeper and a knowledge passer." - Kevin Young "There is no greater power in the world than the zest of a postmenopausal woman." - Margaret Mead "...we're pushing ourselves so hard and not valuing the aging process and not valuing the wisdom that comes with being an elder, all of that. So let's be curious about that." - Dr Aisling Quiery Social Media FB: Rati: ​​https://www.facebook.com/rriccardi        Aisling: https://www.facebook.com/DrAislingQuiery IG: Aisling: https://www.instagram.com/draislingquiery/

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes.  Produced by J'aime Rothbard Join us for this wide ranging conversation between a Menopausal Naturopathic doctor and a Therapist who lives with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome while mothering a neurodivergent family and experiencing Menopause. Together, Rosie and Priya address the many physiological, emotional and practical implications of Menopause "tipping points" for women's health. They highlight that: -  Living an inauthentic life (always "doing" for others) can create physical symptoms, likewise addiction patterns may emerge or intensify if unmet needs are not addressed through self-care - While working, parenting, caring for aging parents, etc., can make women resist slowing down and prioritizing self-care, this resistance can also come from their "multitasking queen" identities - The decline in estrogen's cardiovascular protection increases women's risk of heart issues - In traditional Chinese medicine, Hot Flashes are both "rising yang fire," (the body's wisdom for detoxing through sweat) and represent untapped potential. So balancing yin is key. Priya concluded by stressing that the human mind, body, and thoughts are interconnected (like musicians in an orchestra). Each woman's menopause journey is unique, so compassionate, individualized care is essential, as is exercise, good nutrition and sleep, sun exposure, and fresh air. "Menopause is a second girlhood—a time to rediscover your own authentic self. So be kind to yourself, don't compare yourself to others, and listen to your body rather than resisting change." About Rosio Fuentes, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner & Excited Curiosity Coach I'm Rosie. Curiosity moves me. It always has. I am both sentimental and direct, soft and clear. I care deeply, and that's where everything begins for me.  I'm a Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner, Private Mentor, and Excited Curiosity Coach. I'm also first generation, the daughter of migrant parents, and that shaped the way I see everything!  Two worlds, two languages, two ways of belonging. When I sit with clients, I'm not there to fix them. I'm there to normalize the things we're often told to hide like addictions, suicidal thoughts, sex, shame, guilt, grief, all of it. I'm there to make what's real safe for them to name and to reflect back the essence of self, that part of them that is untouched and whole. I live in a neurodivergent household with my husband and our three girls, whom we are guardians for. Life here is hard, extremely hard and lively, honest, constant healing, wonder, and continuous awe. I also live with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and constant physical pain, along with thyroid and gastric issues, allergies, sensitivities, and autoimmune patterns that sometimes show up as Lyme or lupus. The pain is never not with me, yet gratitude, awe, and love are always there too. I love mother earth, the universe and all living beings. Knowing we are connected keeps me whole and allows me to be with what's present in myself and others. About Priya Duggal, ND Priya is both a firm believer in Mind-Body Medicine and a registered Naturopathic Doctor. She focuses on women's health, breast cancer, autoimmune conditions, addictions, and mental health. She is also a Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner, Facilitator, Educator, Mentor and Circle Leader. In her work with clients, in addition to incorporating the Compassionate Inquiry (CI) approach, she draws on the teachings of Stephen Porges, Gordon Neufeld, and Bessel van Der Kolk. Priya is passionate about helping others live authentic lives as she continues pursuing her own connection with her true self.  Born and raised in India, Priya first trained as a medical doctor, but her search for deeper answers led her to naturopathic medicine, mind-body medicine and CI. After earning her ND, she took the Healthy Breast Program with Sat Dharam Kaur, ND, and continued her quest for personal and professional growth by training in Kundalini Yoga, Beyond Addiction and CI. Priya is the Vice President of MammAlive foundation, a non-profit organization run by volunteers who are passionate about women's health and breast health education. She spends her time between both Canada and India, and enjoys travelling the world, exploring different cultures, painting, nature walks, spending quality time with her husband, two adult children and adorable pet-Kaju. True healing is in you, as Hippocartes said -" Natural forces from within us are the true healers of disease". What we feel and what we believe has a profound effect on our health.  Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the transformative power of Compassionate Inquiry®, join us for a 6-hour online experiential introduction to the Compassionate Inquiry approach and community. This link takes you to a web page where you can get information and, if you choose, register for the next CI Experience event coming up on November 8. Resources: Websites: Roisio Fuentes Dr Priya Duggal Priya's Compassionate Inquiry Profile Related Links: Ehlers Danlos Syndrome & Menopause hEDS Symptoms and Menopause   Articles: ADHD and Sex Hormones in Females: A Systematic Review  EMAS Position Statement: Thyroid Disease and Menopause   Books: Hormone Repair Manual, Lara Briden The Complete Natural Medicine Guide to Women's Health, Sat Dharam Kaur, ND MenuPause, Dr Anna Cabeca Keto Green 16, Dr Anna Cabeca The Hormone Fix, Dr Anna Cabeca When the Body Says No The Myth of Normal The Body Keeps the Score Research & Studies: Menopause is associated with postprandial metabolism, metabolic health and lifestyle: The ZOE Predict study (Abstract) Perimenopause as a neurological transition state. Sex hormones, aging and cardiometabolic syndrome.  Silymarin is an ally against insulin resistance: A review.  Effect of magnesium supplementation on insulin resistance in humans: A systematic review.  Social Media:  Rosie: FB: https://www.facebook.com/ExcitedCuriosity/           IG: https://www.instagram.com/excited.curiosity/ Priya: FB: https://www.facebook.com/priya.duggal.355           IG: mammaliveindia

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard This conversation moves from the medicalization of menopause to reclaiming it as a natural process; an important, transformative life stage marked by growth, development, and renewal, not an illness or pathology. Kate and Inés advocate for shifting from symptom management to trusting the body's innate capacity and involving the entire community in understanding this transition. Inés and Kate highlight:: - Brain Pruning which "chops away" old ways of thinking and being, making way for authenticity, new identity, and a renegotiation of roles - How psychedelic therapies can support post-pruning regeneration by fostering neuroplasticity - The invitation to "redo" by challenging universal beliefs, interrupting obsolete patterns, releasing societal expectations, and embracing one's authentic, "limited," and "inconvenient" self. - The natural grief associated with the loss of the predictable menstrual cycle - How hormonal shifts influence mood and energy, which often require rest and repair. Kate and Inés both emphasize the importance of women educating themselves about their bodies' cycles, informing their communities, and approaching menopause with wisdom, self-attunement, honesty, kindness, and patience.  About Dr. Kate Hazlitt, ND   A naturopathic doctor, speaker, and Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner specializing in women's health and midlife transitions, Kate helps women move through burnout, hormonal shifts, and stress with clarity, compassion, and nervous system awareness—guiding them back to safety in their bodies and authenticity in their lives. Her clinical practice integrates Eastern and Western philosophies of the nature and cause of disease and focuses on the interweavings of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. Kate's primary therapeutic tools are Asian medicine and acupuncture, clinical nutrition with diet and supplementation, botanical, homeopathic and auricular medicine, counseling, detoxification and drainage. About Inés Zabalaga, MEd, MA in Systemic Therapy, Clinical Psychologist, Psychedelic Assisted Therapies Facilitator. With over 25 years of clinical experience in family, individual, couples and group therapy, Inés is a Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner, a Family Constellations Facilitator, Director of Spontaneous Theatre, Bach and Uruguayan Flowers Practitioner, trained in psychodrama. She also leads Horse-Assisted Constellation workshops to create collective fields of human and equine energies that support her clients' wholeness.  After completing a psychedelic integration training with Iceers, Inés is training in the 3-year Grof Legacy Program for therapists oriented towards psychedelic work. Along with her partner, Inés co-leads psychedelic assisted sessions and co-facilitates retreats.  Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the transformative power of Compassionate Inquiry®, join us for a 6-hour online experiential introduction to the Compassionate Inquiry approach and community. This link takes you to a web page where you can get information and, if you choose, register for the next CI Experience event coming up on on November 8. Resources: Websites: Kate's Professional Website  Inés' Compassionate inquiry Profile Related Links Claiming Your Power in Perimenopause Podcast Pruning, Myelination, and the Remodeling Adolescent Brain - Dr Dan Siegal Dr. Lisa Mosconi Family Constellations Good Guilt Dying To Live Workshop on Friday 31st October 2025  Books: Menopocalypse  Roar Like a Woman – Emma Thompson Wise Power:  Discover the Liberating Power of Menopause to Awaken Authority, Purpose and Belonging  The Relaxed Woman  Rest is Sacred  Quotes: "I went through my own process, I'm in my mid-40s, so I can often literally feel my brain pruning, as it's chopping away old, like, long outdated ways of thinking and being in my life." - Kate Hazlitt, ND "...can we just be this very limited, very ordinary, delicious creature that has stopped trying to be more than enough?" - Inés Zabalaga "...there is this cultural obsession with the evidence based menopause, and we're leaving out lived experience of women who are elders who have wisdom to share with us. If we leave them out of the conversation, we're missing a real opportunity of learning and growth and self understanding." - Kate Hazlitt, ND "We lose so much time because of the archetype of that ideal lady that is non existent. We are not ideal mothers. We are not ideal partners. We might even be...not so convenient. The archetypal information is playing a big role in preventing us from connecting with love in life."  - Inés Zabalaga   Social Media: IG:  @drkatehazlittnd. (IG)  IG: CasaMagica Ineszabalaga FB: CasaMagica Ineszabalaga

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. This conversation exposes the impact of cultural trauma on Indian mental and emotional well-being and  the conflicts these cultural pressures can cause. After outlining how therapeutic approaches can ease the pain, transform lives and begin to shift cultural norms, expectations and beliefs, Mansi asserts that having dreams, desires, and boundaries is an expression of one's wholeness, not a betrayal of others. Cultural dynamics explored include: - The expectation that women will sacrifice their personal happiness for family honor - Belief systems that defy logic and reason - Abusive parents, difficult in-laws, avoidant husbands and broken familial promises - The opposition of successful, educated professional vs. traditional wife and mother roles - Normalizing physical abuse, financial abuse, and marital rape Constantly overriding authenticity to pursue attachment gives rise to appeasement patterns, fawning responses and false beliefs such as, "sacrifice is love." These behaviours are linked to autoimmune diseases, as is detailed in Gabor Maté's book, When the Body Says No. Mansi supports his thesis with a poignant story of a friend battling terminal cancer, who sadly learned this lesson too late. About Mansi Poddar, Psychotherapist A trauma-trained psychotherapist and clinical supervisor, Mansi developed the SANI Model of Therapy—a trauma-informed, integrative framework which weaves together 4 key strands of therapeutic wisdom—Somatic Psychology, Affective and Attachment Psychology, Narrative Therapy, and Deep Inquiry. Having supported individuals through trauma, life transitions, and emotional healing for 14 years, Mansi's approach is designed to provide deep healing, emotional resilience, and personal transformation. She specializes in Compassionate Inquiry (developed by Dr. Gabor Maté), somatic therapy, narrative therapy, and inner child healing, integrative approaches that support deep transformation of both body and mind. With a MA in Counseling for Mental Health and Wellness from New York University, Mansi is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and a Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner trained in suicide prevention. Manis is currently pursuing advanced training in Trauma Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST), Somatic Experiencing and Somatic Psychotherapy. Promotional Message If you're interested in experiencing Gabor Maté's trauma healing approach, consider working with a certified Compassionate Inquiry (CI) Practitioner. Access healing support for mental, emotional and physical symptoms, unresolved trauma, relationship issues,  addictions, and more. Use this link to access our global directory of multilingual certified professionals. In addition to their years of CI training and regular Certification reviews, our Practitioners bring the depth of their own personal lived experiences and skills in additional, complementary therapeutic approaches.  Resources: Websites: Professional Website Related Links: Parental Abuse in Indian Culture Surviving to Thriving Adverse Childhood Experiences International Questionnaire (ACE-IQ) Books: When the Body Says No Podcasts: Women Making Impact - India We See Your Pain Quotes: "For decades, Indian culture has practised an authoritarian style of parenting where parents believe in having complete autonomy over their child's life, in most cases, even during the teenage and adult years. 'Tough love' is a favorite among Indian parents. 'Traditional Indian parenting' or 'conservative mom and dad' are terms loosely thrown around in India to uphold and normalise acts of suppression and child abuse, carried out for decades in familial structures." - The Naked Truth "When you question something, you are told, this is our culture, this is our tradition, and when this is done, it means that logic has ended and belief has come in." -  Kamla Bhasin. "We are being educated. We are being told you should get a career, you should get a profession, you should be financially independent. But nobody is teaching men and their families to…create a culture that sustains this for women. So there is a conflict…A lot of women get diagnosed as borderline or bipolar because… they're filled with rage, and after talking, get people to mediate or communicate their needs. Nobody is hearing them. So they get these diagnoses. And a large part of my work is helping them peel off the labels and look at what's beneath it." - Mansi Poddar "Beliefs that hold women back: 1. Sacrifice is love. 2. Family honor is more important than personal happiness. 3. Good women don't say no." - Mansi Poddar "Shame is a very strong thing in this culture. Constant comparisons, body shaming, humiliation. I meet adults who are 60 years old who are still being humiliated by their parents." - Mansi Poddar Social Media:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/mansitherapy?igsh=MWxvdTRmanprenlk&utm_source=qr FB: https://www.facebook.com/psychologistmansi