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Is it possible to hold onto friendship after one of you has kids and the other doesn't? Ophira Eisenberg, host of the podcasts Parenting is a Joke and Ask Me Another, shares her thoughts.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For some of us, our greatest life partner isn’t a spouse, it’s a friend. How can we make the most of these kinds of partnerships? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Rhaina Cohen, author of The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For some people, chatbots have become a source of comfort in the fight against loneliness. What do they have to offer? And do they really help, or make things worse? Jolenta and Kristen get tips for Lindsay Goldwert, journalist and chatbot friend.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the shocking side effects of marathon running. Plus, they offer up advice on how to explain the value of money to a young child, and how to make a relationship work without shared interests.   Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta   Sources: https://www.history.com/news/why-is-a-marathon-26-2-miles https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marathon https://marathonhandbook.com/how-many-people-have-run-a-marathon/ https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/pictures/celebs-who-run-marathons-w446410/ https://www.distractify.com/p/why-does-running-a-marathon-make-you-poop https://www.iflscience.com/marathon-runners-poop-themselves-an-extraordinary-amount-this-is-why-66799 https://www.businessinsider.com/olympics-runner-yohann-diniz-poop-problems-why-marathons-are-bad-2016-8 https://www.insider.com/woman-stopped-9-porta-potties-during-marathon-got-personal-record-2021-11 https://www.insider.com/marathoner-pooped-pants-mile-7-down-legs-photo-fast-pace-2021-12 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6139872/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3119133/ https://www.bswhealth.com/blog/much-running-bad-heart https://ec.europa.eu/research-and-innovation/en/horizon-magazine/marathon-runners-produce-proteins-linked-heart-attacks https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/31/well/move/does-marathon-running-increase-the-risk-of-cardiac-arrest.html https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4792989/#!po=76.6667 https://waseda.elsevierpure.com/en/publications/marathon-running-alters-the-dna-base-excision-repair-in-human-ske https://marathonhandbook.com/is-running-a-marathon-bad-for-you/ https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/38/4/498 https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/health/injury/a30056593/common-injury-marathon-runners/ https://prophysiotherapy.co.uk/blog/common-marathon-injuries/ https://www.memorialhermann.org/services/specialties/rockets-sports-medicine-institute/sports-science-tips/tips-for-runners/marathon-injuries#:~:text=Hip%20pain%20and%20pain%20along,require%20time%20off%20from%20running.  https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-022-13844-4 https://marathonhandbook.com/8-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-run-marathon/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on the Soft Life and Hilaria Baldwin. Plus, listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who’s thinking of moving to another country, and another who’s dealing with face picking.   Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kristen & Jolenta respond to listener questions about Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, by James Clear.Join the By The Book Patreon Community! For $5 per month, you receive a new book summary, including all the rules we live by, each week. For $10 per month, you receive that PLUS a weekly affirmation podcast hosted by Jolenta and Kristen! Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/listentobythebookKristen and Jolenta's new book How to be Fine is available now [amazon.com].You can subscribe to Jolenta and Kristen's show, We Love You (And So Can You) on Stitcher, Apple Podcasts [podcasts.apple.com], or wherever you listen to podcasts.We love hearing from you! CALL us at 302-49B-OOKS. Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod.And if you haven't already, please join our By The Book Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/116407428966900/?source_id=475465442806687To get By the Book merch, head over to PodSwag.com: https://www.podswag.com/collections/by-the-bookCheck out Kristen's other podcasts! The Pursuit of Happier on Knowable https://knowable.fyi/courses/happiness [knowable.fyi]Innovation Uncovered https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innovation-uncovered/id1516667844Movie Therapy with Rafer & Kristenhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/movie-therapy-with-rafer-kristen/id1508455193 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kristen and Jolenta talk to writer Gretchen Rubin about the best advice she’s received from celebrities.Join the By The Book Patreon Community! For $5 per month, you receive a new book summary, including all the rules we live by, each week. For $10 per month, you receive that PLUS a weekly affirmation podcast hosted by Jolenta and Kristen! Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/listentobythebookKristen and Jolenta's new book How to be Fine is available now [amazon.com].You can subscribe to Jolenta and Kristen's show, We Love You (And So Can You) on Stitcher, Apple Podcasts [podcasts.apple.com], or wherever you listen to podcasts.We love hearing from you! CALL us at 302-49B-OOKS. Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod.And if you haven't already, please join our By The Book Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/116407428966900/?source_id=475465442806687To get By the Book merch, head over to PodSwag.com: https://www.podswag.com/collections/by-the-bookCheck out Kristen's other podcasts! The Pursuit of Happier on Knowable https://knowable.fyi/courses/happiness [knowable.fyi]Innovation Uncovered https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innovation-uncovered/id1516667844Movie Therapy with Rafer & Kristenhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/movie-therapy-with-rafer-kristen/id1508455193 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The ladies read listener comments and questions about living by Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear. Plus, they share how members of the By the Book Facebook community have been expressing their creativity! We love hearing from you! Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod. And if you haven't already, please join our By The Book Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/116407428966900/?source_id=475465442806687 Kristen's book, So You Want to Start a Podcast, is currently available for preorder on her site and at Amazon: https://www.kristenmeinzer.com/author/ https://www.amazon.com/You-Want-Start-Podcast-Community/dp/0062936670/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1549485550&sr=1-1 And a big thanks to this week's sponsors: Quip, the electric toothbrush that makes brushing your teeth simple and affordable. Go to getquip.com/bythebook to get your first refill pack for free with a Quip electric toothbrush. Quay, quality fashion sunglasses at an affordable price point. To enjoy 20% off your order go to quayaustraliacom and enter promo code BTB. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kristen and Jolenta try päntsdrunk - the Finnish term for drinking at home, alone, in your underwear! Join the ladies as they live by Miska Rantanen's Päntsdrunk: Kalsarikänni: The Finnish Path to Relaxation. Will päntsdrunk help them find inner peace and happiness? We love hearing from you! Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod. And if you haven't already, please join our By The Book Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/116407428966900/?source_id=475465442806687 And a big thanks to this week's sponsor: Phlur, the world-class perfume that is non-toxic and gender-free. Go to PHLUR.com and use promo code BOOK to get 20% off your first three Phlur fragrance samples. Listen to the new Stitcher podcast Josie and Jonny Are Having a Baby With You. The show follows Josie and Jonny through their not-totally-planned pregnancy as they try to prepare for the birth of their first child. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta and Kristen read listener comments about their experience living by Pick Three and announce next week's book! We love hearing from you! Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @bythebookpod. And if you haven't already, please join our By The Book Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/116407428966900/?source_id=475465442806687 In order to support our show, we need the help of some great advertisers. And, in order to find great advertisers, we need to learn a little bit more about you. So please, go to podsurvey.com/btb and take a quick, anonymous survey that will help us get to know you a little better. And a big thanks to this week's sponsor: Wander Beauty, a new line of easy-to-use, multitasking beauty products. Go to wanderbeauty.com/bythebook to get 20% off your purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Claire Donald and Tess Bellomo (Right Answers Mostly) join the show to do a deep dive on the explosive Amsterdam Dinner from The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. They cover it all: the growing tension between Rinna and Kim, Kyle running away with her cape fluttering in wind, Eileen being underappreciated, and much more. Also, you won’t believe how many oft-quoted lines come from this scene, you beast! Right Answers Mostly Insta Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES: The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Peacock The Traitors, Peacock Ted Danson Clarifies Recent Comments on His Lengthy Rift with Kelsey Grammer Following the Cheers Finale, People Magazine  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why do we love Lisa Rinna so much? Why is she so good at selling clothes on QVC and betraying fellow Housewives on The Traitors? Jolenta thinks it’s because she’s a perfect example of The Businessman archetype and his evil alter-ego, The Traitor. Put your cloaks on bitches, we’re going into the turret to talk all about Rinna. Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES  Greek Mythology, Robert Garland Classical Mythology A-Z, Annette Giesecke The Greek Myths, Robert Graves Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills - Peacock The Traitors - Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta is joined by Real Housewives of New Jersey connoisseur, JoAnn Crohn (No Guilt Mom) to discuss the infamous season one table flip scene. The two enjoy reminiscing about the early years of RHONJ and discuss why such an outrageous moment is so real and relatable. Joann’s Insta Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES: Former ‘RHONJ’ producer Carlos King: Danielle Staub made show a hit, Page Six The Real Housewives of New Jersey, Peacock For Ultrareality, ‘Housewives’ Turns to Jersey Girls, The New York Times Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Jolenta does a deep dive on The Fool archetype and his evil alter-ego, The Derelict. Fools show up a lot in reality TV, from Lisa Barlow to Craig Conover. And of course she’s gonna profile the crown-prince of foolishness: Summer House’s Kyle Cooke. Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES Greek Mythology, Robert Garland The Greek Myths, Robert Graves Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bravo Shows - Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta is joined by writer/actor Mara Wilson, who shares her insights on America’s Sweethearts: Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders and the season two contract negotiations. You don’t want to miss her hot takes on having your image monetized and chronic people pleasing. Mara’s Instagram Hot Mess-terpiece Instagram SOURCES : America’s Sweethearts: Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders, Netflix Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders: Making the Team, Paramount+ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s time to talk about two archetypes that can’t keep it in their pants and tend to use women - The Ladies Man and his evil alter-ego, The Seducer. Jolenta investigates how these messy f-boys show up in reality TV, paying special attention to Shep Rose from Southern Charm. Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES  Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bravo Shows - Peacock 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - HBO Max Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta is joined by Jenny Donheiser (How Were U Brainwashed?) to explore the origin story of the “press conference luncheon” - a somewhat common Real Housewives occourence. They delve into the anals of history and discuss the significance of Karen Huger holding a press conference in a steak house private room back in season three of The Real Housewives of Potomac. Jenny's Insta Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES The Real Housewives, Peacock.com ‘Real Housewives of Potomac’ star Karen Huger’s husband and his company owe millions in back taxes, Washington Post Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta goes to town on The King archetype and his evil alter ego, The Dictator. Guess who she thinks fits the profile? One mister Kody Brown, from Sister Wives. If you want to overanalyze Kody’s character and investigate his dictator ways, this is the episode for you.  Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bravo Shows - Peacock Sister Wives - Hulu & HBO Max Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jolenta is joined by Mary Houlihan (The Mary Houlihan Show) to discuss a subject near and dear to Mary’s heart, The Jersey Shore. From the cast’s early feral days to their adult journeys through sobriety and marriage, Mary helps us understand the characters in this great American drama. And the two do a deep dive on Mike ‘The Situation’ Sorrentino’s redemption arc, aka his release from prison. Mary's Insta Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES The Jersey Shore and Jersey Shore: Family Vacation - Paramount+ Michael ‘The Situation’ Sorrentino, Marc Sorrentino Sentenced to Federal Prison on Tax Charges, US Department of Justice Archives ‘Jersey Shore’ premiered 10 years ago on MTV. Here’s why the global phenomenon could go on forever, nj.com Jersey Shore: An Oral History, Vulture Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Jolenta takes a look at the character of Craig Conover from Southern Charm and how he fits into the Artist Archetype. And you know she gets into that evil alter ego and how the archetype shows up in mythology and a bunch of other reality shows. Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bravo Shows and After Shows - Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices