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In this raw and powerful episode, we continue our conversation with Sarah—a fierce BPD warrior who describes emotional hijacking and high-functioning invisibility to the frustration of being mislabeled and misunderstood, this conversation is as honest as it is empowering. Our guest shares personal experiences with misdiagnosis, medication struggles, and the double-edged sword of caring deeply while being denied care in return.We unpack the power of language, the exhaustion of daily emotional regulation, and why DBT has been a game changer. Whether you're living with BPD or loving someone who is, this episode offers insight, validation, and hope—with just enough humor to keep it real.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Guest: Sarah - BPD WarriorMajor Topic Timeline (Approximate)00:00:00 – 00:01:30 Intro & Acknowledgment of Struggles with BPD 00:01:30 – 00:03:00 Impact of Language and Tone in Support 00:03:00 – 00:06:00 Understanding Emotional Hijacking & Dysregulation 00:06:00 – 00:08:30 Invisible Struggles and Stigma of 'High Functioning' 00:08:30 – 00:10:00 Sisyphus Analogy & Burnout in BPD 00:10:00 – 00:12:00 BPD Warriors Supporting Others But Left Unsupported 00:12:00 – 00:14:30 Misunderstood Emotions and Society's Panic Response 00:14:30 – 00:17:00 BPD vs Narcissism & Mislabeling 00:17:00 – 00:20:00 Frustration with Casual Labeling and Stigma 00:20:00 – 00:22:00 Labels vs. Symptoms: Helpful or Harmful? 00:22:00 – 00:24:00 Medication Misunderstandings in BPD Treatment 00:24:00 – 00:27:00 Self-Compassion & Looking Ahead to the Future Self 00:27:00 – 00:30:00 Final Reflections and Importance of DBT & Self-Help 00:30:00 – 00:32:00 Closing Remarks, Affirmations, and Crisis Resources Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Episode SixteenToday's episode features Sarah - BPD Coach & Warrior.In this raw and powerful episode, we meet Sarah—a fierce BPD warrior whose childhood in a quiet Canadian ghost town was anything but calm. From getting kicked out of first grade for saving ladybugs to building a career surrounded by nature and frogs (yes, real ones), Sarah walks us through what it’s like to grow up misunderstood, mislabeled, and still rise with purpose.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Guest: Sarah - BPD WarriorMajor Topic Timeline (Approximate)0:00:00 – 0:01:30: Introduction to BPD Experience 0:01:30 – 0:02:30: Guest Introduction – Meet Sarah 0:02:30 – 0:07:00: Sarah’s Childhood & Early Sensitivities 0:07:00 – 0:09:40: Nature as a Soothing Mechanism 0:09:40 – 0:11:10: Academic Journey and Finding Purpose 0:11:10 – 0:13:00: Early Feelings of Being Different 0:13:00 – 0:15:30: Advocacy, Anger, and Injustice 0:15:30 – 0:22:30: Building and Redefining Support Systems 0:22:30 – 0:25:30: What We'd Tell Our Younger Selves 0:25:30 – 0:29:00: Importance of Skills like STOP & Self-Compassion 0:29:00 – 0:34:15: Family Dynamics, Triggers & Radical Acceptance 0:34:15 – 0:36:45: The Migs Mello Project & Teaching Kids About BPD 0:36:45 – 0:38:13: Final Thoughts on Crisis Planning & Language 0:38:13 – 0:39:49: Closing Messages & Resources Connect with the Host:Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.com Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby

In this episode, we sit down with a bold, brave voice in the BPD community who also goes by the name King Skies. His story is one of pain, poetry, and perseverance. From childhood group homes to emotional misdiagnoses, he takes us on a journey through the chaos and confusion of life with Borderline Personality Disorder — and how the moment one therapist’s encouragement changed everything and music quite literally saved his life.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:King SkyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kingskiesmusic/00:00 – 00:57 | Welcome + Mission of the Show00:58 – 02:29 | Checking In: How Are You, Really?02:30 – 04:55 | Rollercoasters & Peace Protectors04:56 – 06:39 | Early Signs & Life in Group Homes06:40 – 08:45 | Diagnoses Journey: From DID to BPD08:46 – 10:39 | Isolation, Memes, and Finding Community10:40 – 12:23 | If I Could Talk to My 8-Year-Old Self…12:24 – 14:41 | VENOMOUS: The Music, the Message, the AI14:42 – 17:10 | Music as Lifeline & TherapyCredits:Host, Producer & Research: Nicole Darbypresspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

In today’s episode, I sit down with Gabby — a 35-year-old mother of four, who has walked through trauma most people can’t even imagine. From losing her husband in a shocking arrest, to battling substance use, to navigating the emotional wreckage of CPS and custody loss — Gabby’s story is not just about survival, it’s about showing up raw and real even when the world refuses to see your humanity.This episode is not easy. But it’s necessary.If you’ve ever felt like you’re too broken to be loved, too exhausted to keep fighting, or too complicated to explain — Gabby’s story is here to remind you: you’re not alone, and your story isn't over.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. #BPDWarrior,#MentalHealthMatters,#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder,#HealingOutLoud#TraumaSurvivor,#YouAreNotAlone,#UnmaskingBPD,#RawAndReal,#PodcastForHealing#BreakTheStigma,#MentalHealthPodcast,#RecoveryIsPossible,#MotherhoodAndMentalHealth#CPTSDRecovery,#SelfCompassionJourney,#IStillStand,#ShowMeGrace Episode Summary: Total Runtime: ~43 min0:00–1:30 – Opening & Trigger Warning1:31–3:00 – Meet Gabby3:01–6:00 – Trauma Origins6:01–10:00 – The Day Everything Collapsed10:01–14:00 – Seeking Help, Being Punished14:01–17:30 – Messages to Her Younger Self17:31–21:00 – Parenting & Grandparents21:01–24:30 – BPD Mythbusting24:31–28:30 – Love, Triggers & Relationships28:31–32:30 – Therapy & Memory Loss32:31–35:30 – Future Self Letter35:31–38:30 – Society’s Stigma vs. Personal Truth38:31–41:12 – Closing Thoughts & Contact41:13–43:24 – Outro & Crisis ResourcesEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Connect with the Host: Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.comCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

“I’m Not a Monster – I’m a Human with BPD”What if the thing you’ve been taught to hide could become your source of healing?In this raw and unfiltered episode, we sit down with a BPD warrior, Alice Hyoung, who gets real about the shame, chaos, and stigma that come with living with borderline personality disorder—and how she's reclaiming her life one radical act of self-ownership at a time. From surviving emotional extremes to discovering Internal Family Systems therapy, she shares how she went from daily despair to powerful, purpose-filled healing.If you’ve ever felt broken, misunderstood, or exhausted from trying to explain yourself to the world… this one is for you.1. Intro + BPD Stigma & Shame 🕒 00:00:00 – 00:01:25 2. Guest’s Story: Discipline vs. Mental Health Struggles 🕒 00:01:25 – 00:04:44 3. Radical Acceptance, Accountability, & Anger Ownership 🕒 00:04:44 – 00:06:02 4. Do the One Thing: Small Steps Toward Healing 🕒 00:06:02 – 00:06:44 5. Cultural Stigma, Language, & Media Representation 🕒 00:06:44 – 00:11:41 6. IFS (Internal Family Systems) Therapy Explained 🕒 00:11:41 – 00:20:45 7. Therapist Fit, Accessibility & Coaching Models 🕒 00:20:45 – 00:26:12 8. Family, Partners & Top 3 Wishes for Better Support 🕒 00:26:12 – 00:32:32 9. Boundaries, Peace Protectors & Relationship Dynamics 🕒 00:32:32 – 00:38:12 10. Surrender, Compassionate Detachment & Alan Watts 🕒 00:38:12 – 00:41:14 11. Future-Self Reflection: Creating from Pain 🕒 00:41:14 – 00:45:10 12. Final Thoughts: Ownership, Shame, & Permission to Create 🕒 00:45:10 – 00:50:57 13. Guest Contact Info + Community Resources 🕒 00:50:57 – 00:54:30 14. Outro + BPD Mantra 🕒 00:54:30 – 00:57:47 Episode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole presspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiSupport The Show:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1w8Al9kFeNskbt8COjJifi?si=b83e472252bd4175Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/aidOtuflGJbAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c5a7d061-0a9a-42d8-a264-f28364ebc40d/i-can't-even-kill-myself-rightiHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-i-cant-even-kill-myself-ri-174364401

If you’ve ever felt trapped by the invisible expectation to “save everyone” — even when you’re falling apart inside — this episode was made for you.Today, we welcome the amazing Coach Cassie C. James Weathersby, founder of Black Women Do Heal, for a soul-stirring, truth-telling conversation about the real cost of living like a superhero. Together, we dive deep into why exhaustion is not a badge of honor, why setting Peace Protectors (aka boundaries) is critical, and why resting is a human right, not a weakness. Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Guest: Cassandra C. James-Weathersby Website: BlackWomenDoHeal.org0:00–1:25 | Welcome + Trigger Warning1:25–2:39 | Meet Our Superhero: Coach Cassie C. James Weathersby2:39–8:50 | The Superhero Complex Explained8:50–13:08 | The Cost of Wearing the Cape13:08–16:45 | Why The Superhero Model Fails16:45–23:07 | First Steps: Removing the Cape23:07–28:07 | You Are Human, Not Superhuman28:07–36:09 | Boundaries Reframed: “Peace Protectors”36:09–43:38 | Permission to Rest43:38–49:57 | Lessons from Hospice Care: Prioritize Living Fully49:57–54:25 | Healing Events & Black Women Do Heal Initiatives54:25–1:03:02 | Real Talk: Entrepreneurship, Social Media, and Letting Go1:03:02–1:07:10 | Closing + Final Mic Drop Moments

Alice Hyoung, who shares her deeply personal journey through trauma, loneliness, medication, and identity healing. From childhood dissociation to sacred rage, Alice unpacks what it means to live with borderline personality disorder and still find joy, purpose, and peace. This episode dives into spiritual shifts, medication without shame, the power of safe spaces, and the radical truth that you are not your diagnosis. If you’ve ever felt unseen, unhealed, or misunderstood—this episode will remind you that your story isn’t over.#BPDWarrior #MentalHealthMatters #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #SacredAnger #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealthPodcast #ShowMeGraceDisclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• AliceMain Topics & Time Stamps🔹 00:00:00–00:01:30 | Opening & Trigger Warning🔹 00:01:35–00:04:10 | Meet Alice Yang🔹 00:04:10–00:06:30 | Mental Health Check-In & Daily Intentions🔹 00:06:30–00:10:00 | Childhood Experiences & Internalized Shame🔹 00:10:00–00:13:00 | Unexpressed Anger & Internalization🔹 00:13:00–00:15:00 | Rage Rooms & Releasing Anger Safely🔹 00:15:00–00:17:50 | Therapy Barriers for People with BPD🔹 00:17:50–00:20:05 | The Power of Compassionate Presence🔹 00:20:05–00:24:50 | Letter to 8-Year-Old Self & Religious Trauma🔹 00:24:50–00:30:00 | Medication, Shame & Breakthroughs🔹 00:30:00–00:32:47 | Workbook & Anger as Sacred🔹 00:32:47–00:41:00 | Healing Is Wholeness, Not a Destination🔹 00:41:00–00:45:00 | Remission vs. Recovery + Final Thoughts🔹 00:45:00–00:48:36 | Closing Messages & ResourcesWebsites:showmegrace.orgBPD resources and crisis supportcareercafe.info/migsmelloGet your copy of Migs Mello book - the Emotional Learning Friend every kid and grown up kid should have!careercafe.info/soulletterSign up for weekly letters that lift your soul

Episode Twenty-Two:In today’s episode, we’re joined by Lauren Rosier, a passionate advocate and writer who opens up about her journey living with borderline personality disorder — from early signs in childhood to the life-saving role of DBT, music, and meaningful friendships.This conversation is raw, validating, and filled with the kind of insights you don’t hear enough about. So whether you're in the middle of your own storm or standing beside someone who is, you’ll find connection and hope right here.Let’s dive in. Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: LaurenInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenxlee1Email: lerosier@gmail.com Podcast Episode Outline:00:00:44 – Podcast introduction: 'I Can’t Even Kill Myself Right' 00:01:30 – Guest intro: Lauren shares her background and diagnosis 00:02:30 – Lauren discusses current projects (memoir and BPD resource book) 00:03:38 – Lauren's motivation for sharing her story – friendship with Tony 00:05:11 – First signs of being ‘different’ in childhood – obsessive crush 00:08:03 – Reflections on adolescence – introversion, lack of diagnosis 00:09:59 – Deeper discussion on introversion – innate or protective 00:12:15 – Advice Lauren would give to her 8-year-old self 00:13:23 – Using music and playlists for emotional regulation 00:16:30 – The role of sports and teamwork in recovery 00:19:27 – Importance of outlets for managing BPD symptoms 00:22:10 – What Lauren wishes loved ones understood about BPD 00:25:59 – Advice to 88-year-old self: radical acceptance and growth 00:32:14 – Final message: DBT is key, medication alone isn’t enough 00:33:14 – How to contact Lauren 00:34:10 – Closing mantra + mental health reminder 00:35:03 – Encouragement to stay connected and submit stories Episode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org Credits:Host, Producer & Research: Nicole Darbypresspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Tune in to part 3 of a most riveting and raw interview with a woman of color and BPD Warrior. From crisis action plans to disability battles, and the quiet heroism of choosing to stay alive one day at a time—this episode goes beyond surface-level mental health talk. You’ll hear about the healing power of deep house music, the bittersweet joy of love with BPD, and the fire it takes to fight for your life while the world tells you you're “too much” and the healthcare system says you’re “not enough” to be disabled?Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Podcast Episode Breakdown: "I Can’t Even Kill Myself Right"00:00–01:07 Intro01:07–01:30 Trigger Warning & Resources:01:30–03:02 Art as a Lifeline:03:02–04:23 Loss of Creative Outlets:04:23–05:54 Support System & Love:05:54–07:03 Misplaced Blame & Accountability:07:03–08:27 In-the-Moment Struggles:08:27–09:57 Hopelessness & Survival Fears:09:57–11:53 Reframing Self-Worth:11:53–12:35 Summary of Key Lessons:12:35–14:18 Shame & Blame:14:18–16:47 Disability as a Lens:16:47–18:16 Applying for Disability:18:16–20:01 Systemic Challenges:20:01–22:02 Being "Too Much":22:02–23:31 Trauma Roots of BPD23:31–25:31 Survival & Resilience: .25:31–26:54 Vision Boards & Healing Rituals:26:54–28:45 The Power of Choice:28:45–30:40 Misguided Crisis Responses:30:40–32:21 Judgment vs. Compassion:32:21–34:54 Staying Anonymous & Promoting BPD Melanin:34:54–35:59 Wrap-Up & Affirmations:35:59–36:43 OutroCredits:Press Pause, Inc. website: www.showmegrace.orgHost and Podcast Producer: Nicole presspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

What does it really feel like to live with Borderline Personality Disorder—especially as a Black woman in a world that doesn’t always see you, hear you, or believe you?In this second part of this raw and unfiltered episode, we go deep into the inner world of a BPD warrior. From hyper-intuition and emotional whiplash in relationships, to the aching loneliness of being unseen in mental health spaces, this conversation is brutally honest, unexpectedly funny, and deeply human.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• A BPD Warrior - A Woman of Color In this episode, you will hear:• 00:00:00 – 00:01:20 Opening Message & Trigger Warning(Beginning of Interview)•00:01:30 – 00:04:00 Hyper-intuition and Emotional Triggers00:04:00 – 00:06:10 Validation of Intuition00:06:20 – 00:09:20 BPD and the Intersectionality of Race00:09:20 – 00:11:00 Relationship Challenges & Internal Conflict00:11:00 – 00:13:00 Lighter Moment – Pet Cameo00:13:00 – 00:14:30 Viola Davis Quote & 8-Year-Old Self00:14:30 – 00:19:30 Creative Outlets as Healing Tools00:19:30 – 00:21:19 Closing Encouragement & ResourcesEpisode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole presspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Episode SevenIn this deeply honest and unexpectedly hilarious episode, a courageous (and anonymous) Black woman shares her lived experience with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). From feeling “too much” as a teen to navigating abandonment in therapy, she holds nothing back—and proves that being emotionally intense doesn’t make you broken, it makes you powerful.We explore early signs, misdiagnoses, codependency, attachment, impulsive coping, and the deep empathy that often gets overlooked in people with BPD. Oh—and we laugh a LOT along the way.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest:Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bpdmelanin/Episode Topic Timeline (Approximate)00:00 – 01:00 — Opening statement about the fear and stigma of BPD; introduction and trigger warning01:00 – 03:00 — What it’s like to feel “different” from a young age04:00 – 06:30 — Emotional intensity and being told "you're too sensitive"06:45 – 08:30 — Diagnosis story: Being diagnosed at 22 and the rarity of early recognition08:30 – 10:30 — Misdiagnoses, PTSD, and feeling like “too much” for therapists10:30 – 12:30 — Abandonment by a therapist and the emotional fallout12:30 – 15:00 — Discussion on broken mental health systems and trying to trust again15:00 – 18:30 — Coping mechanisms: impulsivity, codependency, fear of rejection18:30 – 21:30 — Romantic attachment patterns, rage episodes, and self-awareness21:30 – 24:00 — Hypersexuality, emotional regulation, and what's misunderstood in BPD24:00 – 27:00 — Reclaiming BPD as a superpower: deep empathy, intuition, and resilience27:00 – 29:00 — Affirmation mantra + invitation to visit showmegrace.org for supportEpisode Resources:Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect with the Host:Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.com Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby

Today's episode features Jade Stanton - BPD Coach & Warrior. In this uplifting and educational episode, BPD Coach Jade Stanton joins the conversation to share her powerful story of early diagnosis, navigating recovery, and turning her pain into purpose. Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at just 16, Jade opens up about the emotional intensity of adolescence, the science behind the BPD brain, and why remission—not perfection—is the goal.Listeners will learn why DBT is powerful but not the only path, how access to the right support can be life-changing, and why BPD recovery must be person-centered. Jade’s insights are honest, encouraging, and deeply validating for anyone navigating life with BPD—or supporting someone who is.Major Topic Timeline (Approximate)00:00 – 01:15 — Welcome message and trigger warning01:30 – 03:00 — Meet Jade Stanton: BPD coach, warrior, and advocate04:00 – 06:30 — Diagnosed at 16: What led to an early BPD diagnosis06:30 – 08:00 — Importance of a comprehensive psychiatric evaluation08:00 – 11:00 — What’s happening in the BPD brain during an episode (in layman’s terms)11:00 – 13:00 — The power of being understood by an expert (Okeechobee, FL shoutout!)14:00 – 16:00 — Is DBT the only effective treatment for BPD? Debunking the myth16:00 – 19:00 — Individualized care + Recovery as a lifelong journey19:00 – 22:00 — Jade’s path to coaching: Filling the resource gap with compassion22:00 – 24:30 — The global reach of her BPD community and online support25:00 – 26:30 — Jade’s letter to her 8-year-old self: “Your brain will lie to you.”27:00 – 29:00 — Jade's message to her 88-year-old self: “I hope you're having fun.”31:00 – 33:00 — Final reflections: Recovery is about your life, not just a diagnosis33:00 – 35:00 — How to connect with Jade & join her thriving online community35:00 – End — Podcast mantra, closing thoughts, and support resourcesConnect with the Host:Nicole DarbyEmail: presspause4grace@gmail.com Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby

In a compelling episode of Nicole's podcast, licensed clinical social worker Sarah Abbott opens up about her unique perspective as both a mental health professional and someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Their conversation reveals valuable insights about therapy approaches, finding proper support, and redefining identity beyond diagnosis.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• Sara Abbott, MSW, LCSW, LICSW https://www.thewellnesswayllc.com/home• Sarah hosts the "Bold Beautiful Borderlands" podcast and can be found on Instagram at @borderlinefromhell, with her podcast at @boldbeautifulborderlineIn this episode, you will hear:• 0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)• 1:28 Sara’s Introduction• 4:09 11 Years of Pre-Suicide and Post-Suicide Behavior?• 11:21 How Trauma Informs Her Perspective?• 12:08 Not Being in Therapy as a Therapist• 13:26 What in the World is Holistic Bio Psychosocial Approach to Therapy?• 16:56 Why Aren’t All Medical and Mental Health Providers Using Cross Systems Planning?• 23:39 Why It’s Okay Sometimes for Both the Therapist and the Client to Say the Wrong Thing?• 27:57 Why Borderlines Need to Bring the “Fun” Back?• 34:56 Be Clear About Your Deal Breakers and Must Haves Before Finding a Therapist• 41:01 Permission to Not See Yourself Through the Lense of Having Borderline• 43:37 Closing(End of Interview)• 43:57 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra• 44:15 OutroEpisode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole presspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Today’s episode brings us the final part of what has been a most exciting and informative interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. She shares a Call to Action, determined that change will come with more involvement in conferences and BPD presentations. And we definitely need to promote BPD research..Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• Valerie Porr• Website: https://www.tara4bpd.org//• Episode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole presspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiSupport The Show:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1w8Al9kFeNskbt8COjJifi?si=b83e472252bd4175Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/aidOtuflGJbAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c5a7d061-0a9a-42d8-a264-f28364ebc40d/i-can't-even-kill-myself-rightiHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-i-cant-even-kill-myself-ri-174364401

Today’s episode brings us the second part of an exciting interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. She highlights the need to increase funding and resources for personality disorder research and treatment. She also suggests implementing research domain criteria instead of DSM for better diagnosis and treatment.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:Guest:• Valerie Porr• Website: https://www.tara4bpd.org//• LINK FOR VALERIE'S AWARD-WINNING BOOK: "Overcoming Borderline Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and ChangeIn this episode, you will hear:• 0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)• 1:30 Funding Disparities in Mental Health Treatment• 3:54 Diagnostic Challenges and Comorbidity• 7:52 Limitations of DSM and New Research Approaches• 11:59 Statistics and Treatment Implications• 15:23 Advocacy and Professional Stigma• 21:45 Conclusion and Call to Action• 27:20 Closing(End of Interview)• 28:40 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra• 29:40 OutroEpisode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole presspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiSupport The Show:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1w8Al9kFeNskbt8COjJifi?si=b83e472252bd4175Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/aidOtuflGJbAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c5a7d061-0a9a-42d8-a264-f28364ebc40d/i-can't-even-kill-myself-rightiHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-i-cant-even-kill-myself-ri-174364401

Today’s episode brings us the first of three parts of an exciting interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. We unpack why BPD, after 30+ years of research, is still so stigmatized by psychiatrists, clinicians, and mental health providers. You don’t want to miss her breakdown of how BPD differences are not recognized as advantages in today’s world.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: • Valerie Porr• Website: https://www.tara4bpd.org//• LINK FOR VALERIE'S AWARD-WINNING BOOK: "Overcoming Borderline Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and ChangeIn this episode, you will hear:• 0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)• 3:45 How She Unpacked Patterns in How PwBPD Respond to Their Loved Ones?• 7:35 Is it BPD Manipulation or Survival? • 11:21 Why Everyone Should Take A Closer Look at BPD Hypervigilance?• 15:30 Why BPD Differences Are Not Recognized as Advantages in Today's World?• 19:29 Are You Having A BPD Reaction or A Human Reaction?• 23:39 How to Connect with Valerie• 27:20 Closing(End of Interview)• 28:40 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra• 29:40 OutroEpisode Resources:• Press Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/o Free & low-cost BPD resources and support, including career coaching• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org ❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole presspause4grace@gmail.comMusic Producer: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi Support The Show:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1w8Al9kFeNskbt8COjJifi?si=b83e472252bd4175Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/aidOtuflGJbAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c5a7d061-0a9a-42d8-a264-f28364ebc40d/i-can't-even-kill-myself-rightiHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-i-cant-even-kill-myself-ri-174364401

Today’s episode brings us an exciting interview with Dr. Courtney Tracy (known as 'the truth doctor'), a licensed clinical social worker and doctor of clinical psychology with over 2 million followers worldwide. Dr. Tracy shares her personal journey with substance abuse and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD),Dr. Tracy emphasizes the importance of psychoeducation and understanding the brain's functioning in BPD treatment. She also mentions her upcoming book 'Your Unconscious is Showing,' which adapts the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous into 12 Steps of Consciousness for mental health struggles. Tune in for wisdom, healing strategies, and an empowering approach to overcoming emotional challenges.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: Guest: Dr. Courtney Tracy, Website: https://www.thetruthdoctor.com/In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)3:36 What Led You to This Type of Work?7:25 How Do You Define Recovery?7:12 Is BPD Recovery Possible? 10:56 The Blurred Lines Between Being Borderline and Being Human17:51 The Importance of Psychoeducation About The Body & The Brain21:14 Messages to Dr. Tracy’s Younger and Older Selves27:16 How to Connect with Dr. Tracy30:22 Closing(End of Interview)30:51 Closing Statement & BPD Daily Mantra31:28 OutroEpisode Resources:Dr. Courtney Tracy: https://www.thetruthdoctor.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the.truth.doctor Link to her book: Dr. Courtney's BookPress Pause, Inc.’s Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.orgConnect with the Host: Nicole: presspause4grace@gmail.comCredits: Music Producer: DJtheIII, Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

In this special episode, we’re celebrating the season by bringing you a seamless playlist featuring all the incredible songs from past episodes of Press Pause! Whether relaxing at home, taking a winter stroll, or just needing a moment to unwind, this music compilation is designed to provide comfort, inspiration, and joy.Sit back, press play, and let the melodies take you on a reflective journey through Season 1. It’s the perfect way to revisit the musical highlights from the show and create meaningful moments during the holiday season.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. (Beginning of Playlist)• 1:07 Intro to The Holiday Playlist• 1:50 “Free Mind” – Tems: • 3:02 “Healing” by Computer Data: • 4:23 “Ion Like That” by Jane Handcock: • 5:46 “Wasn’t Looking” by Eliza: • 7:07 “[Who?] Keeps Changing Your Mind (Daniel Bowie and Roy Rox Mix)” by South Street Player: • 8:30 ‘What You Afraid Of (DJ Spen & Thommy Davis Disco Phobia Mix)” - Ziggy Funk feat. Taliwa: • 9:56 “Who Am I” by Boddhi Satva Feat. Athenai & C.Robert Walker: • 11:23 “Free” by Stephanie Mills: • 12:45 “Lonely Days” by CocoSA: • 14:05 “Little Things” (Remix) by Jorja Smith ft MayDay: • 15:29 “Gold” by Austin Millz: • 16:51 “Every Word” – Temika Moore: • 18:14 “I Might Do Something Wrong” (Osunlade Lonely Mix) by Tortured Soul: • 19:36 “Acceptance” by Synkro: • 21:00 “When I’m In Your Arms” by Cleo Sol: • 22:22 “Keep Going” (Chosen) by Sevena - • 23:42 “Breathe” by Timi: • 25:08 “Northface” by Sinazza x Kagan: • 26:28 “Stressed’ - Doechii: • 27:50 “Self Love” - Ari Lennox Bas & Baby Rose: • 29:11 Closer by Goapele: • 30:35 “Surely Slowly” by Jill Scott: • 31:57 “FREQUENCY” by Stella: • 33:19 “Thinking Less” by Sinead Harnett Music: • 34:40 “Xorberax”- I Know: • 36:02 “Get Dressed” by NXTLVL4L: • 37:25 “I Am” by Beautiful Chorus featuring India.Arie: • 38:47 “Find Me Here” by Sherwin Gardner: • 40:11 “Forgive Them” by Jane Handcock, Harry Simmons: • 41:33 “Deep End” by Fousheé: • “Say Something (A Great Big World)” - Jacob Banks: (End of Playlist)44:18 Nicole’s Closing Statement 44:42 BPD Daily Mantra44:58 OutroConnect with the Host: Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.comFree BPD Support Resources : https://www.showmegrace.org Credits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby sheds light on co-morbidities and their impact on mental health. She explains the significance of the term and explores how understanding co-morbidities can lead to better self-awareness and informed care decisions. Next she discusses using audio and video journaling to help regulate emotions.Following Tool Time, relax with a Mindful Moment featuring a guided meditation on manifesting your future self. This reflective practice encourages clarity, intention, and personal growth, helping you envision the life you aspire to create.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Here is the episode breakdown:In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)1:07 Intro to Tool Time1:45 Term of The Day: Co-Morbidities(Beginning of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)3:00 Intro to Tool Time - Audio and Video Journaling(Beginning of Mindful Moment)5:16 Intro to a Mindful Moment5:32 Beginning of Meditation on Manifesting Your Future Self(End of Mindful Moment)19:33 Nicole’s Closing Statement19:55 BPD Daily Mantra20:11 Outro21:31 “Say Something (A Great Big World)” - Jacob Banks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MqbqY_YiyysEpisode Resources:Grow With Guri’s 15-Minute Manifestation Meditation: Manifest Your Future Self”: https://youtu.be/H3TqC60UGoU?si=JF4IJuchQmh-rFiHWebsite: https://www.showmegrace.org/Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.“I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFTConnect with the Host:Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.comCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole DarbyMusic Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby introduces Tool Time, focusing on radical acceptance and its role in understanding self-perception. She provides actionable advice for finding the right therapist and shares a helpful checklist of 10 essential questions to guide your search for the best therapeutic fit.Following Tool Time, unwind with a Mindful Moment featuring a guided meditation on accepting uncomfortable feelings, fostering self-awareness, and emotional growth.Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Here is the episode breakdown: In this episode, you will hear:0:00 Intro(Beginning of Interview)1:07 Intro to Tool Time1:45 Term of The Day: Radical Acceptance4:27 Find the Right Therapist5:45 Checklist: 10 Questions to Use (End of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)(Beginning of Mindful Moment)8:00 Intro to a Mindful Moment8:16 Beginning of Meditation on Accepting Uncomfortable Feelings(End of Mindful Moment)19:10 Nicole’s Closing Statement19:31 BPD Daily Mantra19:48 Outro21:06 “Lonely Days” by CocoSA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DNPLKvVXVqUEpisode Resources:Soothing Pod’s Mindfulness Meditation on Accepting Uncomfortable Feelings: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_k2y6EQoBkWebsite: https://www.showmegrace.org/Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brainCareer Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast. “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT Connect with the Host: Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.comCredits:Host and Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIIISound Engineer: Stefan MitroiResearch Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle: