Stop Shrinking, Start Living with Christina Aaliyah

⭐️ FREE Value Gap Workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/vgwWe’re told that success will make us happy, but for many high achievers, it does the opposite. In this video, I uncover the hidden cost of ambition: the burnout, loneliness, and loss of identity that come when your worth is tied to achievement.From perfectionism to imposter syndrome, we’ll explore why “doing more” never feels like enough and how to find peace in a world that rewards constant productivity. If you’ve ever felt exhausted by your own goals, this one’s for you.It’s time to redefine success, not as constant striving, but as finally feeling enough.📖The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem *purchase here → https://amzn.to/499CZEXTimestamps0:00 - Intro3:17 - You are fluent in the language of fear4:53 - Pseudo self-esteem8:36 - Outrunning the shame we have about ourselves11:23 - Fear will always run faster than you16:07 - Unmet needs18:54 - The almost done trap19:54 - Worshipping your fruits 👯 discordjoin here → https://discord.gg/CuZrjBR4Dn⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com*affiliate link, I make a small commission at no extra cost to you :) Thank you for supporting the channel!

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This is a different video for me 👀Today, I sat down with Sophie Ash, an intuitive business coach and founder of Prospology, we unpacked some of Invisible weight so many of us carry: people-pleasing, tying our worth to productivity, ignoring our emotions until burnout hits, and struggling to feel safe choosing our own path.We talk about:• Breaking the cycle of self-sacrifice and overworking• How childhood patterns secretly drive our adult choices• Learning to self-soothe and feel safe instead of chasing external validation• Redefining success so it’s aligned with you, not hustle culture• Building real confidence and self-trust without burning outIf you’ve been stuck in survival mode, doubting your value, or chasing accomplishments that don’t feel fulfilling when you get them — this episode will give you a calmer, kinder way forward.Subscribe if you want more honest conversations about mental health, career pressure, burnout recovery and building a life that actually feels good.Follow Sophie here:Prospology IG: https://www.instagram.com/prospology/Sophie IG: https://www.instagram.com/sophieashofficial/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sophieash/Prospology: https://prospology.com/00:00:00 – Intro00:02:45 – What “grounded” actually means 00:03:55 – Early burnout signs & quick grounding00:06:43 – Is burnout avoidable?00:08:30 – Urgent vs Important: self-awareness first00:11:44 – How to break the self-sabotage cycle00:15:08 – Goals without suffering or pressure00:23:30 – Practical vs emotional healing (band-aid vs root)00:24:02 – Habits & identity: why change feels hard00:27:16 – Know your needs so others can support you00:29:52 – The post-goal “anti-climax” & redefining success00:31:10 – Authenticity & alignment (“What else could it be?”)00:36:14 – Intuition vs self-doubt: telling the difference00:38:20 – If you felt safe: how would you act/feel?00:41:50 – Where self-worth actually comes from00:43:51 – What Sophie’s working on now00:44:06 – Coaching & channels (business vs personal)01:09:26 – Success as alignment with yourself01:10:36 – Practising pride (being proud of yourself)01:16:11 – Closing reflections

AI relationships... Let's talks about it.I know it's easy to see AI relationships as gross and sleazy, but tbh I kinda feel bad.For the people that have to resort them, as a girl who struggled with severe loneliness a few years ago, I can't even imagine what I woul dhave done if I hadn't come out of my shell and learnt to meet new peopleI think there's a lot more going on that just disgusting and fetishy relationships, in this video I wanted to speak on the complexities that go into why people seek out AI relationships and what this means for men, women and the future...0:00 intro2:56 The Cost4:48 Why7:30 AI won’t reject you9:48 My boyfriend is AI12:01 People are still lonely14:44 Taking the pressure off of women18:14 The real problem⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com

Why are more women prioritising careers over motherhood? It's easy to think about - Rising living costs- Unstable jobs- and the pressure of balancing identity with family life have reshaped what success looks like for this generation. In this video, I wanted to talk about the realities women face today, from the lack of support for mothers returning to work to the fear of losing independence, and why, for many, a career feels like the safer, more fulfilling choice.0:00 intro1:18 biological clock2:44 no incentive to start a family5:17 the politicization of motherhood9:07 weaponising singlehood12:27 loss of identity13:59 most children aren't planned15 :29 the myth of an equal household18:25 regretting children19:20 your job won't love you back⭐️ free 'Cringe to Confident' workbook grab yours here https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/ctc📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com

*Timestamps*2:16 -limiting beliefs4:44- Successful people are lonely8:33 -The problem with life goals13:51 -But what do I do?14:42 - Normalising failure16:19 - ghosting your goals 19:04 - raising your self-worth ⭐ FREE Validation Detox Workbookhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/tvd 📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com

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⭐️FREE Quarter Life Clarity WorkbookGrab yours here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/qlc7 Biggest Lies Society Tells WomenYou're not crazy.Society really is selling you two opposite things at one time.Work hard, but also live a soft life.Be feminine, but don't be a pushover.Prioritise yourself, but don't be selfish.Date the right partner, but enjoy your single era.It's exhausting. As you guys know, I'm ion a mission to help make the world a less lonely place, and that's why in this video I'm sharing 7 lies that society has told women from 'you can have it all', to 'you need to have everything figured out by 30'.Share your thoughts in the comments below- What did I miss?- What do yo disagree with/disagree with?I'll see you in the comments section 👋0:00 Lie 11:50 Lie 23:05 Lie 35:55 Lie 410:14 Lie 514:48 Lie 617:10 Lie 7📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com

I'm not gonna lie to you guys, in this era where attention is literally currency, Sabrina Carpenter knows exactly how to spend it.Is it genius? Is it reckless? We’ll get into that. But one thing’s for sure, there’s a method to the madness.This isn’t just drama for drama’s sake. It’s calculated. It’s strategic. It’s the science of staying relevant.Now, I’m not saying I co-sign every move, like using controversial imagery to spark conversation—but you’ve gotta admit: from switching up lyrics city to city, to making bold statements on stage, Sabrina’s brand is built to provoke. And it works.In this video, we’re unpacking:- How controversy drives engagement in today’s media circus- Why “enrage to engage” isn’t just a catchy phrase—it’s a full-blown marketing tactic- The difference between going viral and becoming unforgettableSabrina isn’t just misunderstood, she’s done this on purpose.Whether you’re a fan, a skeptic, or just here for the drama, one thing’s clear: she’s not just in the conversation, she is the conversation.0:00 intro4:23 You are most attractive when you are most extreme10:04 Sabrina15:44 price of success⭐️ FREE DATING DETOX - grab yours here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/tdd📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact:info@christina-aaliyah.com

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⭐️ FREE Quarter Life Clarity Reset - grab yours here → https://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/qlcI’ll be honest… I don’t hate my job.I hate what it’s *costing* me.The early morningsThe late nights.The weekends that slip away before I can even breathe.The lack of time over my scheduleThe version of myself that’s always tired, always “on,” but never really *present*.For a long time, I told myself this was normal.That work is supposed to be hard. That maybe this is as good as it gets.‘The grass isnt greener and all of that’But deep down, I knew something wasn’t right.In this video, I’m opening up about my own story: how I went from quietly resenting my work to actually finding ways to make peace with it. I’m sharing the mindset shifts that helped me “un-hate” my job, without quitting or running away from it entirely (because I don’t always believe that’s the answer).This isn’t a fluffy “follow your dreams” pep talk.It’s a real, honest conversation about burnout, purpose, and figuring out whether you should try to love the job you have… or take the risk to find something new.If you’ve ever scrolled on linkedin job postings planning your escape, told yourself you'll only stay for a few more years, or wondered if you’re wasting your potential - you’re not aloneSometimes the real work isn’t in changing jobs.It’s in changing *you*.0:00 intro 1:27 You Don’t Hate Your Job, You Hate The Sacrifice6:09 Sacrifice Teaches You What You Want9:37 dO WhAt YoU lOvE13:09 Too scared to leave, too unhappy to stay📖 my ebookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/🌱 sign up to my newsletterhttps://christina-aaliyah.myflodesk.com/newsletter💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.comtags /how to un-hate your job, stop hating your job, how to enjoy work again, find purpose in your job, how to deal with burnout, career advice for millennials, career tips gen z, how to survive a job you hate, how to love your job again, work life balance tips, career change advice, how to be happy at work, how to cope with a job you hate, dealing with workplace stress, work motivation tips, gen z career struggles, how to avoid burnout, career mindset shifts, workplace happiness tips, how to enjoy your job more

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0:00 intro0:23 We Are About to lose 50% of entry-level jobs6:10 Jobs AI Can’t Replace15: 39 Greed will be your downfall💌 contact: info@christina-aaliyah.com

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