Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success

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Picture this: You're 51 years old, and instead of slowing down, you become a professional jazz artist, embracing the imperfections that once held you back. Or you left a career in academia, became a chaplain, then an emotional intelligence coach and energy healer. Those are the stories of Elvira V. Hopper and Jami Carlacio, respectively. In this episode, Elvira shares how she transformed her life by letting go of perfectionism. Leaving behind two successful but unfulfilling careers, she embraced her inner jazz artist to become a beacon of authenticity and inspiration. Together, Elvira and I uncover how trauma and our pursuit of perfection can stifle our potential, and how releasing these pressures can lead us to our true purpose.Elvira and I delve into the power of vulnerability and authenticity, sharing candid personal stories that illuminate the path from perceived inadequacies to genuine connection and growth. We recount transformative experiences, including a life-altering retreat in Tuscany that taught Elvira the value of being open and real and learning to embrace a major mistake and see its value, which reverberated beyond the Italian countryside. Through our conversation, we illustrate how adversity can be a powerful catalyst for personal development, allowing us to better support and uplift those around us.As we wrap up, we celebrate the joy and wisdom that come from embracing our flaws. Our conversation radiates with positivity and emotional intelligence. We encourage you to silence negative self-talk and embrace your journey with love and gratitude. This heartfelt episode is a reminder to live authentically and joyfully. Be sure to check the show notes for our contact information and stay connected as we continue to be inspired on this beautiful journey.Show NotesElvira V. Hopperwww.elvirahopper.com/linktreeJami CarlacioHttps://jamicarlacio.comhttps://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ/https://www.youtube.com/@jamicarlacio1https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/https://eqmaven.substack.com/https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffeePodcast Cover:Paige Bradley, Expansion Rising.https://paigebradley.com/sculpture/metamorphosis/expansion-rising-maq/expansion-rising-maq/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!Transform your outlook on life by tuning in to my enlightening conversation with Nikki Gangemi, an international board-certified master in neuro-linguistic programming and hypnotherapy. Nikki and Jami share profound insights on the power of gratitude and its intrinsic link to emotional intelligence. Drawing from the wisdom of experts like Daniel Goleman and Shirzad Shamim, we explore how self-awareness, self-regulation, and intrinsic motivation can enhance your relationships and overall well-being, especially during challenging times such as the pandemic.Discover how gratitude and positive thinking can be a catalyst for personal growth and daily interactions. Jami guides us through the practice of gratitude meditation, revealing how focusing on what we appreciate about our loved ones can amplify feelings of appreciation and love. We also delve into the concept of reframing negative emotions as "another 'effing' growth opportunity" or "AFGO," and in Positive Intelligence parlance, how leveraging the wisdom of our future selves can help us navigate present challenges more effectively, fostering a mindset that attracts positive experiences and relationships.Finally, Nikki introduces the transformative CALM Method, a powerful tool designed to transition from mental chaos to clarity and action. Learn how to become conscious of your emotions, evaluate your thoughts, explore alternative possibilities, and make new decisions with actionable insights. We also share simple yet impactful practices like sending handwritten letters and thank-you cards to those whom we admire and who have had a positive impact on us, emphasizing the importance of everyday gratitude and grounding techniques. Join us for a heartwarming episode packed with practical advice to cultivate a more compassionate and grateful mindset in your daily life.Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!From Inner Critic to Inner Ally: Enhancing Emotional Intelligence  How do the words we use shape our emotions, beliefs, and behaviors? Join Ruth Lamberti , founding coach of Adult Prep, and me as we discuss the transformative power of language on our emotional and positive intelligence. We dive into the concept of the inner critic or "Judge," explaining how this negative voice can distort our self-perceptions and affect our everyday interactions. To develop our emotional intelligence, we cultivate the key skills of self-awareness and kindness, and we learn to maintain a positive internal dialogue to enhance emotional well-being and foster healthier relationships. And when it comes to our saboteurs, we are encouraged to acknowledge them--they're here and aren't going away anytime soon--but we can befriend them, thank them for the information they provide for us, and ignore the negative messages that can derail our serenity and take us down the rabbit hole of self-loathing and despair. In short, we provide practical strategies for managing our inner critic and cultivating empathy and compassion toward ourselves.Some other key takeaways from this episode include practicing respect for others and keeping kindness in the forefront of our minds. For example, Jami recounts how she was going to be late to a dance lesson and by making a simple phone call, her stress level diminished and her dance instructor appreciated the heads-up, all of which emphasizes the importance of clear communication and courtesy. Instead of allowing her "stickler" perfectionist take over, she accepted responsibility for being late and practiced a little self-forgiveness. After all, we are perfectly imperfectly humans! Speaking of dance, we explore the joy of dance as a powerful form of self-care!  This episode is packed with actionable advice for anyone looking to improve their emotional intelligence and live a more intentional, value-based life. And it starts with the words we use—the way we talk to ourselves and the way we speak to others. Language matters.Show notes: Ruth LambertyFounding Coach, Adult Prep: adultprep.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adultprepFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdultPrep/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adultprep/ X:  https://x.com/realadultprepSupport the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!Imagine a world where we all use our emotional, positive, and spiritual intelligences to create the life we would all like to live. In this episode of Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success,  I explore how understanding and integrating these three types of intelligence can help you become a happier person, a more effective leader, and a person who has so much good to contribute to the world. If you've been paying any attention to the trends in "intelligence" lately, you'll know that smarts and college degrees and such just aren't "all that" anymore. People who possess the big three, as I call them--EQ, PQ, and SQ--have demonstrated that they are better leaders, more resilient, and frankly, the kind of people that others want to be around. And guess what? We can *learn* these skills just as we would any other kind of intelligence. Sure, there is aptitude, but the truth of the matter is that if we want to become better people, we need to be self-aware, intuitive, and guided by the Source within us that is love, goodness, and compassion. Most, if not all people say that they want their lives to *mean* something. We seek connection, meaning, truth. Spiritual Intelligence gives us that.I also discuss the ten saboteurs that might be silently undermining your potential, from the harsh inner judge to the relentless people pleaser. Learn practical strategies to counter these negative forces by shifting to your brain's sage mode, where empathy, curiosity, and positive action reside, along with that still small voice that guides you to a path of wholeness, love, and self-compassion. As we examine the growing trend of people identifying as spiritual but not religious, you'll see how spiritual intelligence can guide you toward a more authentic life. Don't miss this opportunity to gain insights into developing these vital intelligences—emotional, positive, and spiritual—to enhance your everyday interactions and overall fulfillment. Engage with our community by sharing your thoughts, and join me at the PQ Gym for ongoing support and enriching insights.Show Notes:Spiritual Intelligence: The Ultimate Intelligence, by Danah Zohar and Ian Marshall, Bloomsbury Paperbacks, 2001Pew Research Report on Spirituality Among Americanshttps://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2023/12/07/spirituality-among-americans/Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!Ever wondered how your good intentions might unintentionally cause harm, especially in diverse and inclusive environments? Join us as we unpack this crucial topic with  Dr. Margaret Barrow, a seasoned professor, author, and small business owner. Through her enlightening insights, we explore the delicate balance between intent and impact in communication and why it’s essential to be mindful of how our words and actions are received, irrespective of our good intentions. We also navigate the complexities of workplace relationships and miscommunications. By diving into a real-life example of a contentious nine-month relationship with a colleague, we reveal how differing backgrounds and personalities can shape professional interactions. This discussion also touches on societal hierarchies and personal sensitivities, highlighting the importance of understanding these factors to improve workplace dynamics and foster better relationships.Lastly, we delve into the art of handling difficult conversations with empathy and emotional intelligence. Learn why "calling in" rather than "calling out" can lead to more constructive dialogues and how maintaining integrity during conflicts can transform your communication approach. Dr. Barrow shares valuable strategies for emotional growth, emphasizing the role of empathy, compassion, and feedback in nurturing our interactions. Whether you're aiming to enhance your workplace communication or personal relationships, this episode offers rich insights and practical advice to elevate your emotional intelligence.Show Notes:Dr. Margaret Barrow,Founder and CEO of It's NolaIG, LI, and FB: @itsnolasnacks www.itsnola.comWant to know more about implicit bias? Choose from among several tests developed at Harvard University to uncover biases you may not even think you have. https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.htmlDrop a comment when you get your results and let us know what surprised you.Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!How does our society’s definition of happiness fall short of what truly fulfills us? Join me for a thought-provoking conversation with Julie Cowles, a former therapist who has transitioned into a spiritual life coach. Inspired by Stephanie Harrison's "The New Happy," we dissect how cultural conditioning and individualism contribute to our feelings of dissatisfaction and emphasize the essential role of building relationships and tapping into inner wisdom to find genuine happiness.Is happiness something you have to chase, or might it already be within you?  We explore the idea that happiness resides in the present moment. Julie and I break down the foundations of true happiness—self-love, self-acceptance, and self-compassion. Through mindfulness, you can capture the small moments of joy in everyday life. We also touch on recognizing your personal values, setting boundaries, and overcoming the inner critic. This episode underscores the power of community, generosity, and forgiveness as essential components of personal happiness. We shed light on the societal reluctance to ask for help and reframe it as an enriching opportunity for all involved. We also touch on the importance of grounding yourself in nature to achieve a state of calm. We wrap up with a powerful message of love and gratitude, encouraging you to connect with your inherent love to experience the joy of life. Join us for an enriching episode that promises to change the way you think about happiness.Notes:Julie CowlesTikTok: @juliesunriseInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/juliesunrise/Substack: https://substack.com/@juliesunrise“Self love is all you need to be happy. Imagine how amazing your life would be if you created an internal world in which you were always good enough, always wanted, always welcome, no matter what others are doing or saying on the outside. A world in which you allowed yourself to make mistakes without shaming you. A world in which you weren’t responsible for everybody else’s wants and needs and feelings. . . . A world in which you were always allowed to love and forgive yourself and offer yourself compassion no matter how badly you messed up. A world in which you saw every difficulty as a learning experience. A world in which it was okay for you to say no, to set boundaries, to have your own preferences, your own values, your own priorities. . . . A world in which you took time and space for yourself to dream, to connect with others with similar interests and values. . . . A world in Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!Do you ever feel like an impostor among your colleagues and peers? Do you wonder whether your degree, qualifications, and experience are just “not enough” to achieve the success you want? In Episode 17,  host Jami Carlacio and guest Siobhán (“Shivaun”) Murphy discuss the concept of imposter syndrome, that nagging feeling of being a fraud despite your accomplishments. We explore how this phenomenon disproportionately affects high-achieving women, leading to self-doubt, anxiety, and a reluctance to take on new challenges.Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals believe they are overhyped and their success is due to luck or external factors, not their own competence. This can manifest in various ways, from downplaying achievements to attributing positive feedback to mere politeness.Emotional intelligence (EQ) is a powerful weapon against imposter syndrome.  Drawing on the power of your Inner Sage, you can challenge negative self-talk, build confidence in your abilities, and conquer this pesky problem. The long and short of it is, YOU BELONG! You come to embrace and believe in the value you bring to your peers, colleagues, and everyone else where you feel the need to perform at your best. EQ empowers you to silence the imposter voice within and embrace your rightful place as the awesome, amazing, talented, and accomplished person you are. Believe it.The New Happy by Stephanie Harrison: https://thenewhappy.comGuest: Siobhán (“Shivaun”) Murphyhttps://thequestconnection.comSupport the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!Grief carries the weight of a thousand unspoken emotions. Loss can shatter our world, leaving us feeling lost and alone. But within us all lies the voice of our Inner Sage, whispering divine wisdom to guide us through the storm. In Episode 16 of Positive Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, my guest Jenn Berger and I talk about navigating the intricate journey of grief. We explore a spectrum of emotions, including the raw pain, the overwhelming confusion, and even the unexpected waves of joy that may surprise us. We delve into the complexities of grief, acknowledging that there's no one-size-fits-all path. Each grief story is unique, just as we are. Leveraging the power of Positive Intelligence and reaching into the deep well of compassion, we'll have a conversation that honors vulnerability and courage. Tapping into the powers of our Inner Sage such as empathy, explore, navigate, and activate helps us navigate the challenges, celebrate the victories, and ultimately, find ways to rebuild our life with grace and resilience. While we may start out just surviving grief, we can learn how to thrive again as we walk the sometimes crooked path of healing because even in the darkest moments, there's at least a pinprick of light that promises solace. Remember, friends, you are not alone.Jenn's Berger's details:silverwheelcoaching.comSilverwheelcoaching@gmail.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenn-berger-55307313b/Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!Forgiving  someone, even ourselves, for a wrong or perceived injustice  is one of the hardest things to do. The popular cliche "to forgive  is to forget"  is wrong! Forgiveness  is about freedom--from resentment, anger, blame, judgment, and even shame  and guilt. In  Positive Intelligence  terms, forgiveness is possible when we use our Sage  powers of Empathy, Explore, Navigate, Innovate, and Activate. In  episode 15, my guest Alicia R. McLain and I discuss the meaning of forgiveness, what events, people, and things have happened to us that may prompt us to need or want to forgive in the first place, and what transformation  occurs in ourselves when we make that life-changing decision to move on with our lives. Tune in for insights on the power  that forgiveness brings.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit.-- Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee-- Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com-- Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com-- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/-- FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/HealingArtsLLC-- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/-- YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1-- I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/newGuest: Alicia McLain, Business, Executive & Leadership Coachhttps://www.everythingdisc.com/Alicia-R-McLainhttps://operational-innovations.com/professional-coaching/Book Time With Me! https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14073400Twitter:  @TheLDRSHIPCOACHSkype: Alicia.McLain3| LinkedIN |Books by Pema Chödron: https://www.shambhala.com/pema-chodron/ "Forgiveness" (Poem) by George Roemisch  Forgiveness is the wind-blown bud whichblooms in placid beauty at Verdun.  Forgiveness is the tiny slate-gray sparrowwhich has built its nest of twigs andstring among the shards of glass upon thewall of shame.  Forgiveness is the child who laughs in merryecstasy beneath the toothed fencethat closes in Da Nang.  Forgiveness is the fragrance of theviolet which still clings fast to theheel that crushed it.  Forgiveness is the broken dream whichhides itself within the corner of themind oft called forgetfulness so that itwill not bring pain to the dreamer.  Forgiveness is the reed which stands upstraight and green when nature's mightyrampage halts, full spent.  Forgiveness is a God who will not leaveSupport the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!Fear is a totally normal emotion! We all feel it sometimes, whether it's when we are heading into "unknown territory" or facing a difficult situation and we aren't sure how it's going to turn out. Many of us experience fear when faced with the prospect of looking for a new job or leaving an old one, entering into or leaving a relationship, or even just getting in the car and trying to stay alert to potential dangers on the highway. BUT: When it comes to making decisions or even just starting the day, fear can cripple us. It can prevent us from taking action, prevent us from speaking our truth, prevent us from trying something new that may turn out to be the best thing we ever did. Our Inner Sage, that Divine Self that loves us unconditionally, will help us, if we draw on it. Using the Sage powers of Positive Intelligence, we can tap into our Sage through mindful breathing, using our senses to stay in the present moment, and even praying, asking for help. Trust your Sage. Know that when you are fully present, you are neither in the past nor in the future. You are right here, right now. Look at your feet. Where are they? Tune in to Episode 13 of Emotional Intelligence:: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success when interview Lauri Stern and we talk about why mindfulness and being centered in our body is the best way to live in faith and combat fear.Show Notes:Lauri Stern:email either Lauri@customdesignedwellness.com AND Lstheflash@gmail.com FB:  Lauri Stern Yoga https://www.facebook.com/LauriSternYoga/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557984732036Insta: @sternlauri  https://www.instagram.com/sternlauri/linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauri-fleischmann-stern-28417a58/Activism in the Name of God: Religion and Black Feminist Public Intellectuals from the Nineteenth Century to the Present. Available on the University Press of Mississippi website https://www.upress.state.ms.us/Books/A/Activism-in-the-Name-of-God and on Amazon.com: https://amzn.to/49SGFYsSupport the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!With special guest Dr. Doreen Downing, Jami Carlacio discusses the value of connecting with our essence, our True inner guru and inner sage. When we connect with our Essence, we come from a place of #love and #authenticity. When we don't or can't do this, #communication breaks down. We are relational people, after all. So, it's crucial that we speak our truth to whomever we meet and are in relationship with. Another way to say this, and this is Dr. Doreen's speciality, is to find your voice so you can change your life. We need to let of of the ego that is the false self. In PQ or Positive Intelligence terms, we need to recognize and silence the demons and saboteurs that cause us to engage in negative self-talk. By drawing on the divine self that is in all of us, we can live and behave the way we were created to be: loving human beings. The best way to get in touch with ourselves is through the body, specifically the breath, and to pay attention to what's going on inside us. The next time you're feeling alone, feeling stuck, and maybe even imprisoned by the external voices that get us down, remember who you are: a beloved child of Creation!Visit Doreen's website: DoreenDowning.comFind her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drdoreenh/Her podcast, "Find Your Voice, Change Your Life": https://open.spotify.com/show/4eyVPLIymgvonLiEoM3ZjR?si=315f23d52a3047edSupport the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!Neurodivergence is a word we hear everywhere and has gained popularity among those who identify as such. Whether it's ADHD, autism, dyslexia, or some other form of difference from what is called "neurotypical," many might wonder whether the stigma attached to neurological differences has really disappeared.  In episode 12 of the podcast Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, Jami Carlacio interviews two guests--LaMyra McGee, a licensed school psychologist, and Bob Palacios, a software engineer, on their experience as persons identifying as neurodivergent. Jami herself also identifies as neurodivergent, and as this episode demonstrates, there is more to people than their neurological differences. Are any of us really all that different? Do we need a label to describe how we process information and relate to the world? How might Positive Intelligence help us navigate a complex world where difference is more often seen as "othering" than something to be embraced?  Show Notes:  LaMyra McGee IG & TikTok - @asktheschoolpsych LinkedIn - http://linkedin.com/in/lamyramcgee  Bob Palacios Website: https://bobsyour.coach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobpalacios/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/bobs.your.coachCelebrate neurodiversity: https://www.neurodiversityweek.com/ https://happymind.co/inclusion-calendar/neurodiversity-celebration-week/ https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/what-is-neurodiversity-202111232645Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!In episode 11 of Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, I discuss what diversity is and why we should embrace and value it--in ourselves and in others. Focusing on how we perceive and interact with the world, I encourage listeners and viewers to practice self- and other-acceptance, claim your authenticity and vulnerability, and be the love for others that you want for yourself. I offer examples of how drawing on the positive intelligence Sage muscle allows us to do just that.Mental Health resources:SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administrationhttps://www.youtube.com/@SAMHSAhttps:..www.samhsa.govSupport the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!In the tenth episode of Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, Jami interviews PQ Coach Amanda Deitsch. Amanda shares how she works with clients by helping them achieve clarity and self-awareness and above all, remaining curious about life. Opportunities to grow and learn, create and sustain positive personal and professional relationships, and simply enjoy their life.Visit Amanda's website at https://www.safri.us Amanda's LinkedIn page: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-deitsch/Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!In episode 9 on the "C" series of Compassionate Curiosity, I explain how to bring your Sage into group meetings. Imagine there are nine of you in a meeting and need to make an important decision and all of you brought your Judge and chief saboteur. What a disaster! Now, reimagine the scenario in which you all arrive in Sage gear. Members each get a say, and by playing the Sage game of "Yes, And" and employing the 90/10 principle, each person gets to express an idea, going around the room. Sage #1 offers an idea, 90% of which may be bad! But Sage #2 finds 10% of it to like and expresses that AND offers up idea #2. And on it goes until there are nine sage ideas to work with. Groups of humans are interlocking ecosystems, and when the system is healthy all thrive, but if even one part isn't, the system doesn't work. It's like that with trees, whose roots "talk" to each other and work together for the good of all the trees in the group. I quote the German forester Peter Wohlleben, author of The Hidden Life of Trees, who explains that trees are sentient and behave in humanistic ways with parent trees taking care of their saplings and each other.  And I tie this to the ancient Chinese text Tao te Ching, where Verse 39 expresses the value of oneness. Peter Wohlleben, The Hidden Life of Trees, Greystone Books, 2016.https://www.peterwohllebenbooks.com/Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!In this episode of Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, I define compassionate curiosity and explain how this is the Sage path--the one of self-love, the Divine inner Self that loves us no matter what. I talk about how we often screw up and listen to the Judge's negative chatter that leads to us beating ourselves up. I then explain that doing PQ reps to stop the Judge in its tracks and choosing the Sage path is ultimately what serves us and others. We may have acted in ways we regret, but we are perfectly imperfect human beings. We can imagine ourselves as a young, innocent child and as we show compassion and empathy toward them, we can learn to deliver that same compassion and empathy to our current selves as well as to others. Further, we can don the hat of a curious anthropologist who is observing--without judgement--behaviors and attitudes to see what might be going on underneath the surface: a trigger? Bad mood? Hangry? By choosing the Sage path we weaken the Judge's path and truly become free. Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!In the 7th episode of Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, guest Denise Hanks discusses with host Jami Carlacio what being brave and making bold choices mean to her and how this manifests in her coaching. During the interview, Carlacio and Hanks discussed the value of moving out of our comfort zone to embrace change, as that is the only way we can grow. Acknowledging that there will always be some fear of change, these two PQ coaches agree that the best way to overcome fear is to walk through it. We need only take one step at a time and savor the journey. It's like a scavenger hunt for life: a lot of the joy is discovering the treasure along the way. Contact information for Denise Hanks:https://denisehanks.dreambuildercoach.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/denise-hanks-21883312/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs2m95kpjVV0UOmm6w4Vjgg/featuredhttps://www.facebook.com/denisehanksdreambuildercoach/Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!In Episode 6 (Living in the Liminal Space: Befriending Fear at the Crossroads) of Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, I discuss transitions, which begin with the end, take us to the middle or liminal space, and end with a new beginning. Changes usually bring fear, and I encourage you to make friends with and accept fear as a part of the human experience. I share how our Judge and saboteurs want to hijack us and keep us in the space we're in while the Inner Sage helps us to navigate the way forward. I offer suggestions for doing some PQ reps at the PQ gym to activate the Sage path. Ultimately, ask yourself what makes you happy, and ask, "what would Love do?"Show Notes:Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes, DeCapo Lifelong Books, 2004.ISBN: 073820904XSynopsis: Transitions takes readers step-by-step through the three perilous stages of any transition, explaining how each stage can be understood and embraced. The book offers an elegant, simple, yet profoundly insightful roadmap to navigate change and move into a hopeful future: Endings. Every transition begins with one. Too often we misunderstand them, confuse them with finality -- that's it, all over, finished Yet the way we think about endings is key to how we can begin anew.The Neutral Zone. The second hurdle: a seemingly unproductive time-out when we feel disconnected from people and things in the past, and emotionally unconnected to the present. Actually, the neutral zone is a time of reorientation. How can we make the most of it?The New Beginning. We come to beginnings only at the end, when we launch new activities. To make a successful new beginning requires more than simply persevering. It requires an understanding of the external signs and inner signals that point the way to the future.Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe

I'd love to hear from you!In the fifth episode of Emotional Intelligence: Your Greatest Asset and Key to Success, I discuss the topics of bravery and boldness, both of which require courage and vulnerability. I explain how many, if not all of us, experience fear and that blocks us from making choices that would improve our wellbeing.  There comes a time--or times--in our life when we need or want to ask ourselves: What’s happening in my life?  Am I happy, satisfied, or numb?  Am I tired, bored? Or am I content and finding joy in what I do and who I am? Taking stock of our lives can feel like a big risk; it is, in fact, because we don't necessarily want to "look under the hood" or open the closet door lest the skeletons come tumbling out. We may not like the answers to the questions we ask. We may regret things done and not done. But if growth and serenity and joy are to take place, we need to be bold, we need to be brave: In a word, we need to be courageous. And being courageous is being vulnerable. And we access that by calling on our Inner Sage and turning the volume down on the Judge and its accomplice saboteurs. Support the Show.Want to learn how to build your ©PQ? Let's meet to see if working together is good fit. --> Calendar: https://calendly.com/jami-carlacio/virtual-coffee --> Email: jami@jamicarlacio.com--> Find out more about my coaching services: https://jamicarlacio.com--> LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jami-carlacio/--> FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamicarlacioPQ --> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamicarlacio1/--> YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/jamicarlacio1--> I'd appreciate your support the show by buying me a cup of coffee: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2167520/supporters/new This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eqmaven.substack.com/subscribe