The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet

Have you ever wondered what it takes to break free from the grip of sex addiction or love addiction? Can true healing come from facing your deepest vulnerabilities? In this powerful episode of The Conversation, host Amanda de Cadenet sits down with Elizabeth Gilbert, author of All the Way to the River, to explore her raw and inspiring journey through recovery. From confronting the chaos of addiction to embracing self-love and surrendering to a higher power, Gilbert shares how she found freedom through a 12-step program and transformed her life by prioritizing her own well-being. Gilbert’s story offers hope and practical insights for anyone seeking to break free from destructive patterns and cultivate self-love.IN THIS EPISODE:(02:00) Elizabeth identifies sex and love addiction with lifelong relational issues(04:37) Surrendering to a 12-step program, a higher power, treating love addiction like substance abuse (10:33) Defining top-line behaviors and bottom-line behaviors in recovery(12:46) Elizabeth discusses the destruction of lives around her(19:00) Self-love over outsourcing validation and reframing intense attraction as a warning (25:01) Role-playing with your teenage self(30:59) Gaining support in a 12-step program for true surrender(32:56) Discussion of a practice called Two-Way Prayer(35:42) Elizabeth admits why she has gone public with her addiction(37:04) Discussion of Raya, Elizabeth's best friend(43:52) Navigating rage-filled grief and spiritual bankruptcy after loss(47:10) Switching from rage to self-accountability(51:42) Elizabeth made decisions on not hurting people in the telling of her book, while recovering in public(56:24) What is the definition of sobrietyKEY TAKEAWAYS:Surrendering to a higher power through a 12-step program is crucial for overcoming sex addiction and love addiction, fostering lasting recovery.Cultivating self-love and self-accountability by adopting top-line behaviors helps break destructive cycles and achieve emotional sobriety.Facing grief and withdrawal from love addiction requires honest introspection to heal and build trust in oneself.RESOURCES:The New Yorker Re: All the Way to the River- LinkedInElizabeth Gilbert - WebsiteALL THE WAY TO THE RIVER - Instagram  BOOKS REFERENCED: All the Way to the River: Love, Loss, and Liberation: Gilbert, Elizabeth: 9780593540985: Amazon.com: BooksABOUT THIS PODCAST:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet.ABOUT ELIZABETH:Elizabeth Gilbert is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of the novels City of...

In this thought-provoking episode of The Conversation, host Amanda de Cadenet sits down with Heidi Smith, author of The Uncommon Book of Prayer, for an inspiring and introspective discussion on the transformative power of prayer. Together, they explore how prayer can be a profoundly personal and evolving practice, serving as a sacred connection between oneself and the divine. Heidi redefines traditional notions of prayer, incorporating elements of mindfulness, meditation, affirmation, and grounding presence to foster healing and self-reflection. They delve into the benefits of prayer for nervous system regulation, emotional well-being, and trauma recovery while also addressing how prayer can support faith, co-regulation, and connection. Whether you're seeking guidance on how to begin praying or looking to deepen your spiritual practice, this episode offers insights into the profound role prayer can play in personal growth and healing.  IN THIS EPISODE: (1:09) Heidi shares why she wrote The Uncommon Book of Prayer(3:59) Discussion on defining prayer, focusing (a psychosomatic integration tool), mindfulness, meditation affirmation and power(10:04) Discussion of benefits of prayer, healing, self-reflection, validation, co-regulation, grounding presence, and the nervous system (16:29) Discussion of trauma survivors, dissociation, faith and how to pray(22:55) The reaction of men to the book and Heidi describes her work and just being(32:49) How to begin to prayKEY TAKEAWAYS:Prayer is redefined as a profoundly personal, sacred agreement between oneself and the divine. It emphasizes that it doesn’t have to follow a specific structure or tradition. It can evolve, adapting to one's changing beliefs and circumstances.Prayer and mindfulness practices can support nervous system regulation, fostering emotional self-soothing and reducing reliance on external coping mechanisms like substances or validation. They also promote improved mood, energy levels, and even healthy aging.Developing presence is fundamental in healing and spiritual growth. Whether through prayer, grounding practices, or co-regulation with people, animals, or nature, cultivating a sense of safety and connection is key to emotional and physical well-being.RESOURCES:The Uncommon Book of Prayer - BookHeidi Smith - InstagramHeidi Smith WebsiteBIOGRAPHY: I'm a psychosomatic therapist, herbalist, and flower essence practitioner in the New York City area.In 2007, I began to question the beliefs I held around myself, healing, and reality. Seeking answers beyond the mainstream I found my spiritual teacher and mentor, Jane Bell. Through our work studying Focusing and Egyptian Mysticism, my commitment to healing and transformation bloomed, leading me to leave my previous career and New York City, retreating into three years of academic and personal study. After completing my master's in mental health counseling I returned to the city, began an apprenticeship with Claudia Keel, an herbalist, nutritionist, and flower essence practitioner, and enrolled in the three-year clinical herbal medicine program at...

In this thought-provoking episode of The Conversation, host Amanda de Cadenet sits down with Jillian Turecki, author of It Begins With You, to explore the transformative journey of self-love, building self-esteem, and creating healthy relationships. Jillian shares personal stories, including her divorce and the pivotal role the message of Tony Robbins played in her healing, as well as insights into dating dynamics, mentorship, and the lessons she hopes readers take from her book. This candid discussion looks into embracing imperfection, fostering meaningful connections, and facing life’s challenges with resilience and purpose. Welcome to the Conversation.IN THIS EPISODE: (0:00) Introduction(2:52) How did Jillian begin to experience self-love(7:33) Raising your self-esteem(12:01] Jillian describes a healthy relationship and talks about her dating(22:36) Are you dating a nice guy or a doormat? What about gender roles(30:20) Jillian’s divorce and the self-help she received from Tony Robbins(32:30) The importance of mentorship. Why are people drawn to Jullian(36:22) What Jillian hopes people learn from her book, It Begins With YouKEY TAKEAWAYS:Self-love is genuine self-acceptance—embracing your imperfections and holding yourself in high regard despite your flaws. With age and wisdom, it becomes clearer that doubting your worth is a waste of time.Building self-esteem requires doing hard things that challenge and empower you, giving back and fostering community. Achievements and meaningful connections strengthen yourself and create a deeper purpose and fulfillment.A healthy relationship is built on trust, respect, and emotional safety, forming a foundation for teamwork and collaboration. When challenges arise, healthy couples face them together, prioritizing open communication and problem-solving rather than withdrawing or blaming each other.RESOURCES:Jullian Turecki - LinkedInIt Begins With You - BookAbout This Podcast:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet.BIOGRAPHY: Jillian Turecki is a relationship coach, teacher, podcaster, writer, and speaker who has devoted her life to helping people revolutionize their relationships with themselves. For over 20 years, Jillian has maintained a deep commitment to authenticity, compassion, and inner transformation as she follows her insatiable curiosity about what makes relationships thrive.Keywords: Amanda de Cadenet, The Conversation podcast, Celebrity interviews, Women's empowerment, Feminism, Interviews with inspiring women, Mental health discussions, Self-growth podcast, Authentic conversations, Empowered women conversations

In this episode, Amanda introduces Donna Lancaster, author of ‘The Bridge, a 9-step Crossing into Authentic and Wholehearted Living’ and Wise Words for Women: Words to Soothe, Comfort, Challenge, and Inspire  . She's a healing, transformative, insightful, self-proclaimed writer, group facilitator, and intuitive coach. Donna shares her insights as she answers some rapid-fire questions about life, how she sees herself, success, and what defines her. IN THIS EPISODE: (1:00) Donna discusses the growth she would like to see in her personal life and the ways she has changed for the better (4:07) Donna speaks about what gives her hope and sees herself as a truthteller, and she defines her success(6:24) Donna defines success, shares her upbringing and how she let that define her in the past and discusses loss in life (9:00) Donna discusses creativity, taking a nap and her favorite cake KEY TAKEAWAYS:Sometimes, telling the truth can hurt someone, and we often tone down the truth to spare another person's feelings.Success can be defined as freedom, living a life that is unshackled and safe.Donna believes that you show love through grief.RESOURCES:Book: The Bridge by Donna LancasterBook: Wise Words for Women by Donna Lancaster Donna Lancaster - LinkedInDonna Lancaster - InstagramABOUT THIS PODCAST:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at

Amanda is honored to sit down with Brittany Snow and Jaspre Guest, the incredible co-authors behind September Letters: Finding Strength and Connection in Sharing Our Stories.This inspiring project brings together heartfelt letters, notes, and conversations from friends, experts, and the September Letters community, all with a shared mission: to create a space where vulnerability leads to understanding, connection, and healing. Through this robust exchange of stories, we’re reminded that none of us are truly alone in our struggles. In this conversation, Brittany, Jaspre, and Amanda explore a range of topics—from therapy to metaphysics—and even tease about exciting new projects. It’s a meaningful discussion that will leave you feeling inspired, uplifted, and more connected to the people around you. Tune in and discover the transformative power of sharing our stories.IN THIS EPISODE: [1:43] Brit talks about how the book September Letters: Finding Strength and Connection in Sharing Our Stories has been received, and Jaspre discusses the origins of the book[4:51] Brit discusses when she first became aware of her mental health issues as a teenager[8:26] How Jaspre and Brit connected through acts of service, how helping others and sharing a personal mental health journey can be self-serving and talking about the solution more than the problem[19:24] Discussion of the lack of adequate help and the cost of therapy[21:07] Jaspre reflects on her childhood and discussion on metaphysics[30:10] Is the feeling intuition, or is it fear, and what about the guest’s charts[38:04 Jaspre and Brittany are making a documentary from The September Letters and Brit shares information about the film she has written and is directingKEY TAKEAWAYS:Being able to recognize that you have a mental disorder is the first step. The second step is to talk to someone, whether a friend, family member or therapist.Some individuals exploit their mental health struggles on social media, portraying them in a manner that undermines the authenticity of the issue they claim to address, ultimately doing a disservice to those genuinely affected by mental health challenges.Being part of a community where others share your struggles can be therapeutic. When you serve others, you can set aside your own worries and uplift your fellow human beings.RESOURCES:The September Letters: Finding Strength and Connection in Sharing Our Stories Jaspre Guest - InstagramBrittany Snow - InstagramBrittany Snow and Jaspre GuestAbout September LettersCo-founded by Brittany Snow and Jaspre Guest, September Letters launched in September 2020. Creating an online platform that not only raises...

Amanda is honored to host Martha Beck, PhD, a Harvard-trained sociologist, world-renowned coach, and New York Times bestselling author. In this episode, they delve into Martha's latest book, "The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self," which has guided many on their journey to self-awareness. Tune in as they discuss integrity, spirituality, and overcoming fear. Martha shares her incredible journey of self-discovery and her sacrifices to attain true freedom. They also explore how to live in harmony with your integrity and intuition. Martha gives the listener powerful advice: "Wherever you are, whatever you're thinking, the exact opposite of your worst fear right now is your next step toward freedom. It’s your best next step." Welcome to The Conversation! Enjoy!IN THIS EPISODE:[3:05] Martha begins by sharing a snippet from a poem by Stanley Kunitz and discusses her life change at age 29 and compares change to the metamorphosis of a caterpillar [7:49] Discussion between the differences in metamorphosis for a woman's life between Western and Eastern cultures[9:58] Martha explains the life experience that prompted her to leave the Mormon church, write her latest book and chase the beautiful light[17:30] Martha shares her son has Down Syndrome, and he experiences the beautiful light Martha saw and why our culture doesn’t connect to it [25:29] Living in integrity when those around you do not and how it has affected Martha’s career and she defines the word integrity[38:34] Amanda and Martha discuss ways they have connected with nature, and Martha defines how she refined listening to her intuition[47:10] How do people make the change to listening to their intuition, but financially they can’t make the jump[53:19] Martha talks about having prophetic dreams and encourages listeners to release their fears about finances[57:35] Martha discusses the book she is writing and talks about choosing curiosity and connection and how to differentiate between fear and intuition and integrity[1:09:52] Martha shares the outcome of living with integrityKEY TAKEAWAYS:The opposite of anxiety is calm and creativity. We were not born to hate, exploit and kill each other. We were not born to fear. We need to live in love with each other.We each experience periods of metamorphosis in our lives, and the goal is to learn from each phase and emerge stronger on the other side.RESOURCES:Amanda de Cadenet - WebsiteAmanda de Cadenet - InstagramMartha Beck - InstagramAbout This Podcast:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet.BIOGRAPHY: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is...

In this enlightening episode of The Conversation, host Amanda de Cadenet is joined by Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer, authors of the groundbreaking book Wise Power: Discover the Liberating Power of Menopause to Awaken Authority, Purpose, and Belonging. Together, they explore the profound beneficial impact of the menstrual cycle on women's psychological, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Alexandra and Sjanie share their insights into the five phases of menopause, revealing how this transformative journey can be a powerful source of personal growth and empowerment. For those seeking further guidance, Red School offers online classes designed to deepen your understanding and support through this pivotal life stage. Welcome to the Conversation.IN THIS EPISODE: [00:43] Sjanie explains her history with Alexandra, the work they have done and the background of The Red School and the access women have to their studies online[4:16] Alexandra discusses the pain she had with her cycle and how that led her to recognize the benefits of menstruation[13:50] Alexandra and Sjanie discuss the first phase of menopause, which they call Betrayal and the mental breakdown that ensues[19:02] Alexandra discusses having support during menopause and being self-awareness, and she shares phase two, which is called Repair[22:18] Phase three is called Revelation[22:20] Phase four is Visioning[28:56] Phase five is Emergence, and they discuss the guidelines and tools that are shared in the book Wise Power[35:30] Discussion about HRT KEY TAKEAWAYS:The Red School offers online studies that last six or 12 weeks, including self-study programs. Menstrual cycle awareness is when you stop, listen and respond to your body. Understanding what is happening during menopause unleashes a power of liberation.RESOURCES:Red School - WebsiteRed School - PodcastMenopause: The Great Awakener Wise Power RetreatAbout This Podcast:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com.BIOGRAPHY: Alexandra & Sjanie are the co-founders of Red School, and co-authors of  the iconic and hugely celebrated book from Hay House, Wild Power: discover the magic of the menstrual cycle and awaken the feminine path to power and their latest book Wise Power: Discover the liberating power of menopause to awaken authority, purpose and belonging (Hay House, Sept 2022).They are pioneering the new emerging field of menstruality, creating a new lexicon and approach to women’s health and wellbeing; creativity and leadership; and spiritual life based on the...

Welcome to The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet. Today, we're honored to have Marisa Lee, the insightful author of Grief is Love, joining us. As a Black woman and author who has personally navigated the complexities of loss, Marisa brings a unique and powerful perspective to the grieving process. In this episode, she'll share four essential strategies to support those who are grieving and offer three actionable tips for friends looking to help someone through the pain of losing a loved one. Whether you're currently experiencing loss or supporting someone who is, share this episode, which is packed with invaluable insights. IN THIS EPISODE: [8:01] Discussion of the loss of Amanda’s father, the book Grief is Love, written by Marissa, and how she classifies herself as a writer[15:32] Marisa discusses how people don’t deal with death realistically but choose to give it a moment and discussion regarding identifying with an object that makes you feel the presence of your loved one [26:20] Marisa shares four key things people need to know about grief and her compassion for those who financially don’t have the time to grieve [34:12] Marisa gives death statistics in the black community [43:36] Marisa shares three ways to show up for someone who is grieving[47:07] How do you deal with people who don’t show up for you when they are needed, Marisa shares her next book projectKEY TAKEAWAYS:You must permit yourself time and space to grieve when you lose a loved one.The stages of grief developed by Elizabeth Kubler Ross were designed for the person who is terminally ill, not their loved ones. The death of a loved one is a tremendous loss. The loss of friends who don’t show up for you during that time compounds the loss in a way you don’t forget.RESOURCES:Grief Is Love Order on AmazonMarisa Lee - InstagramMarisa Renee Lee WebsiteAbout This Podcast:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.comBIOGRAPHY:  Marisa Renee Lee is a called-upon advocate, writer, and speaker on coping with grief. In 2008, she lost her mother to breast cancer, in 2019 Marisa and her husband lost a much-wanted pregnancy, and most recently, she lost a young cousin to the COVID-19 pandemic. These losses transformed her life and led her to question what grief really is and what healing truly requires.As a leading grief advocate, Marisa offers incisive and compassionate advice on managing life after loss with unique insights for women and African American communities. She recently partnered with Ritual's...

In this episode of The Conversation, Amanda sits down with comedian Alyssa Limperis to delve into the complex emotions surrounding loss and grief. Both Amanda and Alyssa share the common experience of losing their fathers to cancer, and they explore how they have coped with this unimaginable loss and the impact it had on their lives. Alyssa discusses her comedy show, “No Bad Days” where she bravely incorporates humor into her reflections on losing her father. They explore the role of comedy in processing grief and the balance between laughter and sorrow. Amanda shares insights into her upcoming project centered around death and dying, exploring different perspectives and approaches to navigating these complex topics. Their candid reflections and shared experiences offer hope and understanding to those grappling with loss.IN THIS EPISODE: [1:00] Amanda and Alyssa discuss their shared grief of losing their dads[2:30] Alyssa shares how her special, “No Bad Days,” was conceived and how she navigated her father’s death and illness[7:35] Alyssa’s show was born from watching her dad die with strength and a discussion on how the subject of death is taboo[8:05] Hospice was there for both Amanda and Alyssa, and discussion of a death doula[16:34] Alyssa admitted she couldn’t stop herself from talking about her dad and how she brought the conversation into her comedy shows[23:22] Amanda discusses a project she is working on about death and dying, and Alyssa talks about the stories she is compelled to tell[25:20] “No Bad Days” is streaming on Peacock KEY TAKEAWAYS:There aren’t words to describe what it is like when you lose your father in death. It doesn’t matter if it’s unexpected or an illness. You can’t put your emotions into words.Humans do a disservice to themselves and their families when they don’t talk about death and take the steps to prepare for death. Everyone will die; we need to talk about it.Hospice is a wonderful organization that can help you navigate the death of a family member.RESOURCES:Alyssa Limperis - WebsiteAlyssa Limperis - Instagram“No Bad Days” - Streaming on PeacockBIOGRAPHY: Alyssa is an actress and comedian based in LA. Limperis starred as Sydney in the Showtime hit show FLATBUSH MISDEMEANORS. Her one-hour comedy special about losing her dad, No Bad Days, can be found on Peacock. She starred in the independent horror/comedy feature film TOO LATE opposite Fred Armisen. Her other recent credits include the short film THE LAUNCH by KK Apple, which just played at SIFF and Palm Springs Short Film Fest. The short she produced and starred in called OUTSIDE was featured on Short of The Week. She has also starred in CLOSING TIME by Russell Goldman, BRANDI FINDS GOD by Gonzalo Cordova, HOW TO AVOID A SAPPY GOODBYE by Doug Rogers, and she is in the feature film THE LIST, co-starring Halston Sage.Additionally, she stars as ‘Mary Peck’ in the scripted podcast Edith that, was nominated for best fiction podcast by iHeartRadio, 'Denise' on HBO MAX's THE HAMLET FACTORY and voices multiple characters on both the Spotify podcast THE LAST DEGREE OF KEVIN BACON and Cartoon Network's WE BABY BEARS. She has also been featured on CONAN, LAST...

Welcome to The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet. Today, Amanda is joined by Soraya Chemaly, the insightful author of Rage Becomes Her. They delve into the disparity between men and women when expressing rage and anger. Soraya explains how women are often labeled as hostile when they show anger, a stereotype she addresses in her book to help girls and women understand the cultural roots of this phenomenon. The discussion also covers the Me Too movement, highlighting the disappointment in men who knew better but didn't speak up and the controversy over some women using the movement for personal gain. This fast-moving conversation touches on many other pressing issues today, offering valuable insights into gender dynamics and social justice. Don’t miss Soraya’s latest book, The Resilience Myth, out now.IN THIS EPISODE:  [1:04] Discussion of what changes for women in the last five years[4:59] Soraya points out that some white women protected men during the ME TOO movement, and men should not have been silent[13:19] Men need to be involved in the changes because they hold the power and discussion of Gen X men[19:16] Who are the role models for young men[24:28] Fighting for women’s freedom of expression[31:48] How can a woman express her rage and the difference between how men can express their rage[38:03] Discussion of a global Gallup study showing ten years where women’s anger escalated[43:54] Soraya has a new book, The Resilience Myth, about resilience and how we need to accept helpKEY TAKEAWAYS:Women are the most marginalized during epidemics because they don’t have access to resources like health care and other necessities.Men should have spoken up for women during the ME TOO movement. They knew the problem but hid in the boardroom and were silent.If a girl is assertive, she risks being regarded as rude. If you are socialized to understand that you will be punished for expressing your thoughts, then you soften the blow by signaling femininity.RESOURCES:Book: The Resilience Myth Book: Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's AngerSoraya Chemaly - InstagramAbout This Podcast:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com.BIOGRAPHY:  Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author, journalist, and...

In this podcast episode, Maggie discusses her personal journey and insights with Amanda. They converse about the challenges and growth she has experienced, particularly focusing on self-trust, emotional growth, and overcoming her divorce. Maggie shares her thoughts on being less judgmental, finding joy in everyday moments, and the importance of self-compassion. They also touch on the significance of treating others kindly and the impact of her work on readers. The conversation concludes with mutual appreciation and creative inspiration, highlighting Maggie's book, "You Could Make This Place Beautiful."Timestamps: [03:25] Maggie discusses how she has learned to trust herself more over the years.[05:12] Maggie about wanting to be less judgmental and embrace the ambiguity of life.[06:58] Maggie discusses how she dealt with the emotional pain of her divorce.[12:37] Discussion of how past fears don't define present bravery, despite being labeled as a scaredy cat.[27:39] Exploring the idea that creating something from a place of pain can be beneficial and supportive for others, giving purpose to the pain.Key TakeawaysTrust oneself and listen to your inner voice.Grow emotionally and strive to be less judgmentalEmbrace uncertainty about the next story to tell.Practice self-compassion and be kinder to yourself.Find joy in everyday moments.Reflect on what you would tell your eight-year-old self.Create something meaningful from painful experiences and share it with others.Resources: Maggie Smith - WebsiteMaggie Smith FacebookMaggie Smith XMaggie Smith InstagramAbout this podcast:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host, Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.comBiography:Born in Columbus, Ohio, in 1977, Maggie Smith is the New York Times bestselling author of You Could Make This Place Beautiful; the national bestsellers Goldenrod and Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change; as well as Good Bones, named one of the Best Five Poetry Books of 2017 by the Washington Post and winner of the 2018 Independent Publisher Book Awards Gold Medal in Poetry; The Well Speaks of Its Own Poison, winner of the 2012 Dorset Prize and the 2016 Independent Publisher Book Awards Gold Medal in Poetry; and Lamp of the Body, winner of the 2003 Benjamin Saltman Award. Maggie Smith's latest book, My Thoughts Have Wings, a picture book illustrated by SCBWI Portfolio grand prize winner Leanne Hatch, is now available from Balzer + Bray/HarperCollins.  Smith holds a BA from Ohio Wesleyan University and an MFA from The Ohio State University. She has taught creative writing at Gettysburg College, Ohio Wesleyan University, in the MFA and undergraduate programs at Ohio State University, and for the Antioch...

In this podcast episode, Amanda de Cadenet and Dr. Nicole LePera, the Holistic Psychologist, discuss Dr. LePera's new book "How to Be the Love You Seek." They explore themes of personal growth, relationships, and therapy. Dr. LePera shares her journey of questioning traditional therapy methods and embracing holistic approaches, including somatic tools and nervous system regulation. The conversation highlights the importance of authenticity in therapy, the impact of childhood experiences on self-worth, and the challenges of maintaining personal growth. They also discuss the role of technology in wellness and the backlash Dr. LePera faced for her unconventional views. Timestamps:  [03:53] Dr. LePera and Amanda discuss the impact of childhood experiences on compromising in relationships and the development of conditioned selves. [12:38] Dr. LePera shares her personal journey, including her emotional breakdown and spiritual awakening, and the evolution of her therapeutic approach. [18:04] Amanda shares her experience with therapists and the importance of therapists sharing their own lived experiences for building trust and relatability. [20:41] Dr. LePera's decision to go public about her personal life and the importance of being authentic. [34:09] The importance of making mental health resources accessible, including low-cost and time-efficient practices. [43:54] Dr. LePera addresses the feedback she received, particularly from women of color, and the challenges of understanding differing perceptions. [47:09] The timing of Dr. LePera's growth during the COVID lockdown and BLM movement, leading to personal transformation and confidence. [56:52] The impact of personal healing on future generations through epigenetics, challenging old beliefs about genetic determinism. Key Takeaways  Personal growth is ongoing and often needs therapy. Dr. LePera stresses therapy's role in healing past traumas, advocating for personalized approaches. Childhood experiences significantly shape self-worth. Dr. LePera explains how early events and relationships impact adult behaviors and self-perception. The wellness industry is criticized for its inaccessibility and privilege. Dr. LePera calls for more inclusive mental health resources and highlights technology's role in bridging gaps, providing support to those excluded from traditional wellness practices. Resources:  Instagram - @the.holistic.psychologist LinkedIn - Dr. Nicole LePera   Book - How To Be The Love You Seek About this podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host, Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com Biography: Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and The New School for Social Research and also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to

In today’s episode I speak with pioneering neuroscientist Dr. Lisa Mosconi. We discuss Dr. Mosconi's groundbreaking new research that sheds light on the intricate relationship between estrogen and the brain. Her work highlights the impact of estrogen on cognitive function and neurological health and opens new avenues for understanding how hormonal changes affect our minds as we age. Don’t miss Dr. Mosconi’s expertise on perimenopause, menopause, Alzheimer's, dementia, and the research and clinical trials she supervises. Join us as we explore her new study and discuss its implications for brain health, particularly for women. Dr Lisa Mosconi is Associate Professor of Neuroscience in Neurology and Radiology and the director of the Alzheimer’s Prevention Program at Weill Cornell Medicine (WCM)/NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital.  Visit seed.com/amandac to apply the code 25AMANDAC for 25% off Seed’s VS-01™ and/or DS-01®.  In This Episode: [0:34] Dr. Lisa Mosconi announces a new study that, for the first time, we can measure estrogen activity in the brain [3:28] Discussion of why perimenopause and menopause are not topics of conversation   [7:18] The upside of menopause and the definition that makes women feel they need to be fixed, the physiological reasons for menopause, and how the brain works [14:50] Discussion of Alzheimer’s disease and the Alzheimer’s prevention program at Weill Cornell Medicine, New York/Presbyterian and taking the integrated medicine approach [15:56] Discussion of why women seek Dr. Lisa’s advice to understand the chemical changes they are experiencing and the relief they find after FDA testing [27:22] The misinformation around HRT and the various definitions of estrogen and who should and should not have hormone therapy [42:07] Discussion of the next generation of hormones, women who choose not to do hormone therapy, hot flashes and ADHD [45:01] Starting the ritual of the menopause party and the importance of having a brain baseline and how to contact Dr. Lisa if you are interested in a clinical trial Resources: Dr. Lisa Mosconi - Book Website www.lisamosconi.com Dr. Lisa Mosconi’s Instagram Dr. Lisa Mosconi’s Twitter/X The Menopause Brain: New Science Empowers Women to Navigate the Pivotal Transition with Knowledge and Confidence Wise Power: Discover the Liberating Power of Menopause to Awaken Authority, Purpose and Belonging Discount on your Seed purchase: Click this link seed.com/amandac to apply the code 25AMANDAC for 25% off Seed’s VS-01™ and/or DS-01®. About This Podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram a...

Join host Amanda de Cadenet on The Conversation where she interviews her friend, the talented Australian actress Phoebe Tonkin. Amanda brings her signature charm to a short-form questionnaire, posing fun and thought-provoking questions about Phoebe’s life, career, and personal preferences. From insights into her acting journey to the delightful revelation of her favorite cake, this episode is filled with candid moments and intriguing tidbits.    In This Episode: [0:09] Phoebe explains a couple of ways she has changed for the better over the past ten years [2:16] Phoebe reveals how she views her idea of freedom [3:02] Phoebe discusses what gives her hope [3:47] Feeling content is how Phoebe defines success, what people ask her when they discover she is an actress and what tells her most about a person [5:53] Phoebe reveals what part of her emotional well-being would she like to grow in [7:39] Phoebe shares her dream of the next “story” she wants to tell. She tells about her directing a short film in 2019 [10:41] Phoebe talks about her favorite dessert  Key Takeaways: Self-care is essential to being your best self. A good example is putting your oxygen mask on first when on an airplane and then helping others. You can help others because you’ve first taken care of yourself.  Self-deprecating doesn’t show humility as much as it does a lack of confidence, which doesn’t necessarily make you proud. A simple thank you works perfectly in many situations. Being the director or producer of a film gives you more agency over the project than an actor, allowing greater creativity. Resources: Phoebe Tonkin's Instagram Phoebe Tonkin’s Website    About This Podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com. Biography: Phoebe Jane Elizabeth Tonkin was born on July 12, 1989 in Sydney, Australia to Nicholas and Jane Tonkin. She has one younger sister named Abby. Phoebe began performing at the age of four, beginning with dancing courses in classical ballet, hip hop, contemporary dance, and tap. As a child, Phoebe attended Loreto Kirribilli, a Catholic school for girls, and later graduated from Queenswood School for Girls. Despite her love of dance, by the age of ten, she knew exactly what she wanted to be - an actress. Two years later Phoebe began courses at the Australian Theatre for Young People at the Wharf Theatre. Her credits include the role of Helena in Shakespeare's A Midsummer Night's Dream and Don Pedro in Much Ado About Nothing, also by Shakespeare. Phoebe's big break in Australia came from her co-leading role as Cleo Sertori in the television series H2O: Just Add Water which follows the lives of three teenage girls who magically turn into mermaids when water touches their skin. Tonkin and her fellow cast members improved their swimming abilities during pre-production of the series. The show aired for

Trigger Warning for our listeners - Please be advised that this episode talks about suicide. Amanda welcomes New York Times bestselling author Sloane Crosley to The Conversation Podcast for a personal and thoughtful chat about loss and grief. Sloane’s latest book, Grief is For People, shares her journey through loss after a personal robbery and a close friend’s suicide. Amanda and Sloane explore the impact and complexities of suicide and mourning. Through her unique storytelling, Sloane paints a vivid picture of the journey through grief, offering comfort, thought-provoking insights and even humor. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking solace, understanding, or guidance on navigating loss. Be advised the conversation addresses death by suicide.   IN THIS EPISODE:  [8:53] Sloane shares one way she has changed for the better as a writer [10:33] Sloane admits she would like to become more patient  [12:33] Sloane shares one of her most emotionally painful experiences and how that translated into her book [19:35] How do you make peace with someone taking their life [29:43] Sloane talks about her reaction to the suicide and why the book resonates with people [34:49] Sloane discusses her book Cult Classic [41:00] Sloane says that having to be “the girl writing funny essays”  is no longer serving her, and she answers a personal question about death [51:13] Sloane tells about the best cake she ever ate and what her  80-year-old self would say to her today   KEY TAKEAWAYS: Everyone has a relationship with grief and loss, and everyone deals with and experiences them differently.  The impact of suicide and loss is full of questions with no answers.  The process of grief and loss is never easy.    RESOURCES: Grief is For PeopleSloane Crosley's WebsiteSloane Crosley's BooksSloane Crosley on TwitterSloane Crosley on Facebook   About This Podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com.   BIOGRAPHY:  SLOANE CROSLEY is the author of The New York Times bestselling books Grief Is for People, How Did You Get This Number, and I Was Told There’d Be Cake (a 2009 finalist for The Thurber Prize for American Humor). She is also the author of Look Alive Out There (a 2019 finalist for The Thurber Prize for American Humor) and the novels, Cult...

In this episode of The Conversation, best-selling author Anne Lamott talks about her newest book, Somehow: Thoughts on Love, her relationship with her son and grandson, and connects with Amanda on her earlier work, Bird by Bird, which greatly impacted Amanda’s sobriety journey. Anne addresses moments from her past when she unintentionally hurt others and offers insights into navigating tough moments. Additionally, Anne shares the impact and influence of her spiritual beliefs and the significance of self-love throughout the healing process.  In This Episode:   [2:38] Anne talks about the gift of sobriety [11:15] Amanda talks about the hope the book Bird by Bird gave her [17:56] Anne discusses the context of her new book, Somehow: Thoughts on Love, released on April 9th, 2024 [30:13] Anne describes her methods of connecting to her higher power and helpful sayings that relate to her sobriety mindset  [34:44] Stories and personal life examples from Anne’s new book  [44.24] Lessons Anne has learned from life’s mistakes [47:09] Thoughts on recovery and how the earth is forgiveness school Key Takeaways: Anne Lamott’s journey includes making mistakes, writing, recovery, and self-love.  We have the opportunity to determine our own paths, lean into forgiveness, and move forward.  Biography: Anne Lamott is the author of twenty books, including the New York Times bestsellers Help, Thanks, Wow, Dusk, Night, Dawn, Traveling Mercies, and Bird by Bird, as well as seven novels. A recipient of a Guggenheim Fellowship and an inductee into the California Hall of Fame, she lives in Northern California with her family.  Resources:Amazon - Purchase the Book - Somehow: Thoughts on LoveThoughts on Love Book and Tour  Book Reporter - Website Anne Lamott on InstagramAnne Lamott on Facebook Anne Lamott on X About This Podcast:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com. Please don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for more episodes, and if you feel inspired by our discussion, please share it with someone who might need to hear it too. 

Trigger Warning for our listeners - please be advised, this episode talks about suicide and eating disorders. Amanda welcomes comedian, writer, producer, and host Nikki Glaser this week on The Conversation. Nikki shares her experiences in Hollywood, trauma, relationships, and insight on her new HBO special, Nikki Glaser: Someday You’ll Die.  Amanda and Nikki speak with humor, compassion, and brutal honesty. Nikki opens up about her struggles with eating disorders, addiction, and the road to recovery.   Nikki Glaser is a stand-up comedian, producer, actress, and television host. Just a week before releasing her HBO special, she received a standing ovation for her roast of Tom Brady on Netflix’s The Greatest of All Time: Tom Brady. She is known for her slice of life perspective on intimate topics, balancing humor with themes including sex, trauma, dating, and mental health.   IN THIS EPISODE:  [1:57] Amanda and Nikki catch up on Nikki’s schedule and how she was one of the comedians on Netflix’s The Greatest of All Time: Tom Brady. [2:09] The story behind naming her special and composing the theme music.  [4:50] Amanda talks about the series on death she’s working on, and Nikki discusses her thoughts on life after death and self-esteem. [10:03] Shame, anorexia, substance abuse, and the pursuit of healing.  [13:40] Nikki shares her aspirations for a healthier lifestyle, IFS and EMDR. [15:30] Feelings around the challenges of fame. [17:24] Nikki talks about being a late bloomer, sex, and her boyfriend. [19:14] Experiences with intimacy and vulnerability.  [29:33] Decisions regarding motherhood and the evolving dynamics of friendships. [33:11] Nikki and Amanda share how they grew up in a home with an alcoholic parent and talk about being uncomfortable with attention   KEY TAKEAWAYS: Nikki has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for 10 years and is open about her late-bloomer experiences with sex. Amanda and Nikki talk about honest communication in sex and relationships helping individuals navigate their own experiences. The decision to have children is a personal one, and it's okay to not want  to become a parent.   RESOURCES: Nikki Glaser: "Someday You’ll Die" HBO TrailerNikki Glaser - InstagramNikki Glaser - FacebookNikki Glaser - WebsiteThe Nikki Glaser Podcast on YouTube    About This Podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet.  Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com   BIOGRAPHY:   For nearly two decades at clubs across the country, and as the host of three hit...

Amanda reunites with her friend, actress, writer, producer, and singer Billie Piper. They reminisce about their shared experiences and beginnings in the UK - where they both started their professional careers as teenagers. Their conversation includes Billie’s latest project, the Netflix movie Scoop, inspired by the infamous interview of Prince Andrew. Amanda and Billie discuss the complicated journey of parenthood, sharing insights on the challenges of raising children in today's world. From contrasting parenting styles to the delicate balance of co-parenting , Amanda and Billie reflect on the universal struggle to not "screw up" their kids.    IN THIS EPISODE:  [1:57] Amanda and Billie catch up after 20 years. They reflect on their public-facing careers and how life has changed for them.   [13:09] Discussion of Billie’s accomplishments and discussion of I Hate Suzie [18:24] Discussion of Billie’s new move, Scoop [24:00] Billie discusses her family, and Amanda and Billie discuss the various ways of parenting [31:46] Co-parenting and not having your same values and gauging what is age-appropriate for your child [39:31] Raising boys versus girls [45:41] Billie talks about her future    KEY TAKEAWAYS: Career paths, autonomy, and personal narratives Making creative choices and being guided by your own interests Parenting and life reflections  Telling your own stories    RESOURCES: Billie Piper - Instagram Billie Piper - Website Official Teaser - SCOOP - Netflix   BIOGRAPHY:  Billie Piper is an Olivier Award-winning actress, singer, writer, and producer. She is known globally for her work on Doctor Who, Secret Diary of a Call Girl, I Hate Suzie, and countless other projects.  Scoop: Inspired by real events, Scoop is the inside account of the tenacious journalists that landed an earth-shattering interview - Prince Andrew's infamous BBC Newsnight appearance. From the tension of producer Sam McAlister’s (played by Billie Piper) high-stakes negotiations with Buckingham Palace all the way to Emily Maitlis’ (played by Gillian Anderson) jaw-dropping, forensic showdown with the Prince, Scoop takes us inside the story, with the women who would stop at nothing to get it. Scoop is now available on Netflix.    About this podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host, Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet, and on Substack at substack.com/@amandadecadenet Get full access to The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet at

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles, is renowned for her expertise in narcissism and its effects on relationships. Amanda and Dr. Durvasula discuss the complexities of narcissism, shedding light on its defining characteristics and the impact it has on individuals and their relationships. She explains that narcissism is more than just self-centeredness; it's a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a lack of empathy, and a constant need for admiration. For those entangled in relationships with narcissists, Dr. Durvasula emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist. She emphasizes that it's crucial to prioritize one's well-being and to recognize when a relationship becomes toxic or abusive. Through her insights and guidance, Dr. Durvasula empowers individuals to identify narcissistic behaviors and take steps toward healing and reclaiming their lives. Don’t miss her book, It's Not You - Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People.   IN THIS EPISODE:  [00:38] Discussion about the overuse of the word narcissism by untrained observers, how the narcissist snares people, and how Dr. Durvasula began working with narcissistic people [04:48] Dr. Durvasula explains what narcissism is and what it isn’t [13:17] Can a narcissist be healed through therapy, and why does that person use recovery as a weapon [21:32] The term parental alienation and how a narcissist manipulates their children. [23:04] How do children cope when being raised by a narcissist, and what to do you do if you are in a narcissistic relationship [48:00] What creates adult narcissism? Temperament and resilience   KEY TAKEAWAYS: A narcissistic individual may initially seem appealing as a partner. However, their true nature emerges once you're in a relationship. You'll constantly feel inadequate and blamed for everything. The narcissist will never take responsibility or offer apologies. The children of a narcissist are children of child abuse—the result of the abuse lasts for years into their adulthood. Unfortunately, mental abuse is never thought of as bad as other forms of abuse. There is help for the victims of a narcissistic abuser. Recognize your situation, accept it and then get healing through therapy. It’s not your fault.   RESOURCES: It's Not You - Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People - Book Dr. Ramani Durvasula - Instagram Dr. Durvasula - Website   BIOGRAPHY: Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is the author of several books, including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations. Her work has been featured at SXSW, TEDx, Red Table Talk, the Today Show, and Investigation Discovery.   About this podcast: The...

For the first time we are making the Conversation original TV series interviews available on the pod. This is part of a miniseries featuring the first guests to appear on the show. In this mini episode we feature Alicia Keys. We begin our conversation discussing how women perceive their body size and age. Alicia has a beautiful outlook on how a woman’s body perception can change with insight and a historical view. We also discussed the birth of her son, Egypt, and Alicia explains everything she learned about breastfeeding.  IN THIS EPISODE: [00:32] Alicia and Amanda talk about how women perceive their body size and age[02:52] Alica discusses her body changing after she had her son[03:22] Alica’s response to breastfeeding and what she wasn’t told[05:52] How Alica came to choose her child's name[07:26] Alica reflects on her trip to Egypt[07:52] Alicia answers Amanda's rapid-fire questions KEY TAKEAWAYS:Vacationing alone can be liberating because you aren’t worried about another person’s happiness.Women are hard on themselves when it comes to body size and aging. Women need to give themselves a break and look on the inside.Before you melt down, getaway. You may not be able to travel to Egypt, but you can do a B&B in the next town.RESOURCES:Amanda de Cadenet - WebsiteAmanda de Cadenet - InstagramAlicia Keys - FacebookAlicia Keys - InstagramABOUT THIS PODCAST:The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Get full access to The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet at amandadecadenet.substack.com/subscribe