I’ll Explain All This Later Podcast

We've all been there: relationships that crash and burn. But what happens when the dust settles, and it's time to face your part in the wreckage? Big Smash and Ms. Bree are diving deep into the tough topic of accountability. They're sharing personal stories of not owning up to their mistakes in past relationships, the messy conversations that followed, and the aftermath. Is it ever too late to say ""I messed up,"" or can true accountability pave the way for healing—or at least closure?Have you ever apologized for your part in a failed relationship after time has passed? Join the conversation!

Join Big Smash and special guests Tera and Flan from the One Man and One Woman Podcast as they dive into the messy world of co-parenting. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of post-breakup dynamics.Discover practical tips and insightful advice on how to Manage conflict and maintain a peaceful co-parenting environment.Prioritize your child's well-being above personal feelings,Communicate effectively with your ex-partner.Set boundaries and establish healthy routines.Avoid common pitfalls and create a positive co-parenting experience.Tune in to learn how to turn co-parenting chaos into a harmonious partnership.

Ever felt stuck in the friend zone? You're not alone! This episode of I’ll Explain all this later dives deep into that confusing territory. We'll crack the code on:The "Friend Zone": Fact or Fiction? Is it a manipulative tactic or just a natural progression of friendships? The One-Way Ticket In? How do we unintentionally end up in the friend zone? Are there warning signs? Escape Clause or Exit Strategy? Can you transition from friend to romantic partner. The Unspoken Longing: What happens when you develop feelings, but your friend's vibe is unclear?Tap in with Big Smash and The debut of Rose Gold as we get this moving.

Is love strong enough to conquer continents (or at least a few states)? In this episode of I’ll explain all this later , we dive deep into the world of long-distance relationships (LDRs). We'll chat about couples who are navigating the joys and challenges of being together from afar.

We’ll unpack how those first few moments can make a lasting impact, and how to make yours count (without being fake!). First Date Do’s and Don’ts: From conversation starters to body language blunders, we’ll guide you through a smooth and successful first date experience. The Art of the Follow Up: Ghosted or ghosted them? We’ll discuss the etiquette of post-date communication, so you can express interest (or not) with confidence. 07.01.24 a new journey begins

In this episode, Big Smash takes it back to the foundation — family.Using the message behind Soul Food, we break down what really holds a family together when life gets real. Because it’s easy to say “family over everything” when everything is good… but what happens when tension, pride, money, and miscommunication start pulling people apart?

What happens when two individuals are forced to become a unit?In this episode of I’ll Explain All This Later, Big Smash breaks down the powerful theme of “Ride or Die” versus real loyalty, using the cultural backdrop of survival, pressure, and partnership Queen And SlimToo many people say they want a partner for life—but when pressure shows up, so does their true character.

In this powerful transition into Season 4, Episode 9, Big Smash tackles the heavy lifting of evolution in “The Past is The Past.” Taking a page out of the classic Poetic Justice, we’re looking at what happens when the “Old Record” of your life meets the new path you’re trying to pave.We’ve all got a history—a “Rearview Mirror” filled with mistakes, past exes, and a body count that the “Street Committee” loves to judge. But if you’re constantly driving while looking backward, you’re going to wreck the legacy you’re building in the windshield.

In this heavy-hitting episode of S4E8, Big Smash takes us to the gritty streets of Harlem by way of the cinematic classic Paid in Full to break down a poison that is killing more legacies than the game itself: Envy.We’re stripping away the designer labels and the "boss" talk to look at the Rico Syndrome—that moment a brother decides to trade a lifetime of loyalty for a season of stunting. When you start "fronting" to impress a female who is only there for the mirage, you aren't just lying to her; you’re backdooring the very people who built the foundation you’re standing on.

We are peeling back the layers of a specific type of deception: Emotional Fraud. This isn't just about having a "side thing"; it’s about the deliberate act of faking a soul-level connection because you know that honesty would cost you the physical access you’re chasing.In this episode, Big Smash takes an unfiltered look at the high cost of playing with people's hearts. Using the 1996 classic A Thin Line Between Love and Hate, we break down the specific stress that comes when you sell a dream to a stranger while you have a reality of never committing.

Using the strategic backdrop of the film The Great Debaters, Big Smash dives into the “Quiet War” of Black excellence and the discipline of silence. As a father of eight building a legacy in this world he addresses the current political climate and ICE raids through the lens of selective solidarity—explaining why his energy is focused on the home front and the people who have historically stood in the gap for the culture. This episode is a reality check on guarding your pride, representing your heritage, and knowing when a quiet fight is the most lethal move you can make

Too many people are running "drills" and "tests" on partners who are already showing up correctly. This episode is a reality check: Are you following "single-player" rules while you have a blessing sitting right in front of you?BIG SMASH IS HERE TO BRING THE VERDICT OF THE MOVIE TWO CAN PLAY THAT GAME Stop testing what has already been proven. If you keep treating a consistent, hardworking partner like a placeholder, don’t be surprised when they eventually find a new home. You can’t win the game if you’re too busy sabotaging the prize.

While we all know how to survive a blizzard, most of us have no idea how to accept an ending . We call it “chemistry” when it’s actually just “chaos,” and what we call “boring” could actually just be “peace.”In this episode, We’re diving into the "Safe Cage"—that place where we stay in a toxic mess just because the drama feels like home. Using the lens of the classic Diary of a Mad Black Woman, we break down why we sprint toward familiar chaos and flinch at intentional peace.The truth is: you aren't "bored" with the good guy; you’re just finally safe. And for a lot of us, safety feels like an ambush. It’s time to stop waiting for the "other shoe to drop" and start realizing you deserve to walk on solid ground.

This weeks inspiration is the 2020 movie the photograph.In 2026, we are obsessed with the "Perfect Picture." We’ve mastered the art of the filter, the angle, and the "Black Excellence" resume, but we’ve lost the art of being seen. Mae and Michael are the ultimate "on paper" couple—successful, beautiful, and driven—but they are both haunted by a legacy of silence they didn't create but are currently repeating.In this episode, Big Smash breaks down why vulnerability is the ultimate flex and why your "Success Mask" might be the very thing keeping you lonely.

We all know the "Bro Code"—that unwritten rule that says we take our secrets to the grave. But what happens when that code becomes a cage? Harper Stewart walked into a wedding weekend with a book full of secrets (The Vault), proving that sometimes the people closest to us are the ones most afraid to tell us the truth.In this episode, Big Smash breaks down why we choose "loyalty" over "growth" and how the silence of your friends might be the very thing holding you back from being a better man.

Season 4 is here. We’re kicking things off with a classic movie backdrop: Love & Basketball. But we aren’t just swooning over the "Double or Nothing" scene—we’re checking the scoreboard.In this episode, Big Smash breaks down the lopsided politics of sacrifice in Black love. Why is one person always expected to play defense while the other takes all the shots? We’re diving into the "MVP Complex," the "Support System" trap, and why Black women are often told to bench their dreams just to keep the relationship in the game.

THE SEASON FINALE ......You're grinding. You're losing sleep. You're pushing past the pain. But when the exhaustion hits, who's the "why" that makes you keep going?This week, Big Smash is getting real about the engine behind the hustle: The Fuel. Is it the legacy for your kids? The security for your partner? Or is it proving to the younger you that you finally made it?We're discussing the high-stakes pressure to not make mistakes that could cost you everything, and why understanding your core motivation is the ultimate guardrail against self-sabotage. Find out what you're truly working for, and lock in that fire forever. We'll explain all this later.

Big Smash is breaking down the ultimate relationship threat: the "friend" who's secretly plotting to steal your partner.Smash drops a confession, sharing his own history as a calculated "friend with an ulterior motive," detailing the tactics that sometimes paid off and often failed spectacularly.Learn to spot the red flags and figure out if that friendship is genuine or a long game in disguise. If you realize it's a plot, Smash explains the tough, old-school conversation you need to have to protect your relationship and your peace. Stop guessing and start knowing.

This week, Big Smash breaks down the final stage of "Hiring for Love": accepting the offer of a committed, monogamous relationship. We're talking about the truth that often gets missed: you matter too.We dive into what that monogamy contract should include, focusing on the benefits package of peace, security, and mutual respect. Learn how to negotiate your worth without sounding selfish, why accepting the job means dropping the 'back-up plan,' and how to make sure you and your partner are both actively working together to build an empire, not just keeping a business afloat. Don't sign until your terms are met. We'll explain all this later.

Big Smash dives deep into why we sometimes choose to love someone through their flaws, even when we know they're not good for us. He explains how this toxic pattern can destroy your peace, sanity, and fundamental understanding of what love really is. It’s a powerful conversation about the dire consequences of staying with someone you know, deep down, isn't meant for you.Join us as we talk about the difference between loving a person and being intoxicated by the idea of them. It's a wake-up call for anyone who's ever sacrificed their well-being for a destructive relationship.Don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe!