Claim OwnershipThe Sex Addiction Podcast For High-achievers and Entrepreneurs
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Sex addiction recovery is different for high-achievers and entrepreneurs. Their brains are hard-wired for success and a constant desire for more. It is this hard-wiring that makes them so successful. However, it can also get them into trouble. Their need for attention, validation, novelty, and excitement places them at high risk for sex and porn addiction.
Sex addiction presents differently in high-achievers. Therefore, their road to recovery will also need to be unique. This podcast is designed to help high-achieving men overcome their sex and porn addiction so that they can achieve recovery… not just sobriety.
As difficult as sex addiction and betrayal trauma are to overcome, there are a ton of highly effective strategies now available to achieve long-term sobriety and save your marriage. On this podcast, I will bring in industry experts to apply sex addiction recovery principles specifically to the mindset of the high-achiever.
If you are a high-achiever or entrepreneur looking for a sex addiction recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website at successfuladdict.com
Sex addiction presents differently in high-achievers. Therefore, their road to recovery will also need to be unique. This podcast is designed to help high-achieving men overcome their sex and porn addiction so that they can achieve recovery… not just sobriety.
As difficult as sex addiction and betrayal trauma are to overcome, there are a ton of highly effective strategies now available to achieve long-term sobriety and save your marriage. On this podcast, I will bring in industry experts to apply sex addiction recovery principles specifically to the mindset of the high-achiever.
If you are a high-achiever or entrepreneur looking for a sex addiction recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website at successfuladdict.com
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Even the best communicators will be challenged when recovering from sexual betrayal.
Fear, anger, resentment, injustice, a lack of trust… This is not a great container for grounded conversation. But this is reality, and you’re going to need to learn how to navigate it as a couple.
Too often, couples recovering from infidelity heal in isolation but fight together. The problem is that healing happens together… not apart.
On this episode, I’m joined by Dani Peterson. She works with betrayed partners and couples in recovery. She and I discuss the difficulties that couples face when communicating post-betrayal.
For those of you interested in working with Dani, she has offered our listeners a FREE 30 minute consultation. Use the link here to schedule: https://calendly.com/danimpeterson/consultation
You can learn more about Dani at her website: https://www.danimpeterson.com/
Have you read my recovery book? If not, I want to give you access to the first chapter for free. Use this link here: https://successfuladdict.com/firstchapter
Sure, you’ve gone through the basics. But it was probably back when your sex or porn addiction was first discovered.
The truth is, it's hard to digest and implement everything correctly when you’re first discovered. Life is chaotic, and your marriage is hanging on by a thread.
So, now that you’re further down the road of sex addiction recovery, you would likely benefit from revisiting the basics to ensure that you’ve implemented them into your recovery plan.
I’m joined in this episode by Jennifer Kuck and Marilyn Witbeck, Certified Sex Addiction Therapists from the Atlanta Relationship Institute.
We discuss common pitfalls sex addicts make in their recovery and how to make sure that you have implemented everything you can to repair your marriage.
For those interested in working with Jennifer or Marilyn, you can find their website here: https://atlantarelationshipinstitute.com/
For those who are interested in attending my next intensive, visit my website here: Successfuladdict.com
Have you ever heard someone say:
“I can’t wait to stop eating healthy.”“I can't wait to stop going to the gym.”"I can't wait to stop brushing my teeth.”
No! Because these things are important.
So, why do sex addicts wonder when they will stop having to be in recovery?
Recovery is different from sobriety.
Sobriety is about stopping the unwanted sexual behavior.
Recovery is about ensuring you’re a thriving human being.
It’s about ensuring you’re getting the most out of life. That you are experiencing fulfillment, developing deeply connected friendships, and leaving a legacy you’re proud of.
Why would you want that to end?
You would think that experiencing infidelity would decrease the chance that you would be unfaithful…
But this isn’t always the case.
In fact, being betrayed can lead to trauma that could then cause you to be the one who betrays.
Adam Nisenson (The Betrayal Shrink) is a CSAT who specializes in treating betrayed men who have experienced infidelity.
With so much of the focus being on male cheating, it can be easy to overlook female cheating.
In this episode, Adam and I talk about how betrayal trauma is different for men and how it can lead to intimacy disorders, addiction, and compulsive behavior in the future.
Adam is the author of the book, “A Man's Guide to Partner Betrayal: Overcoming the Pain and Repercussions of a Cheating Partner.”
You can find his website here: https://www.betrayalshrink.com/
If you have experienced an emotional affair, physical cheating, or relational deception, listen to this episode. You might be surprised by what you learn about yourself.
If you acted out sexually at your place of work or during business travel, it’s common for betrayed partners to feel unsafe when it comes to your career and travel.
Many men recovering from sex addiction are asked by their wives to change jobs or stop traveling for work.
This can be a challenging request to navigate.
Many of the men in my groups have faced this conversation in early recovery.
In this episode, I discuss how to navigate this and what to consider. I also share my personal experience with this after my discovery.
If you are a high-achiever, executive, business professional, or entrepreneur looking for like-minded men to connect with in recovery, visit my website: successfuladdict.com
Dr. Trish Leigh uses advanced neuroscience technology to treat men with sex and porn addiction. In this episode, she explains to listeners how it works.
Dr. Leigh looks for dysfunctional brain patterns and then prescribes the appropriate treatment strategy.
She is the author of the book, “Mind Over Explicit Matter. Quit Porn and Improve Intimacy Through Neuroscience.” She also has an extremely robust YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTrishLeigh
You can find her at her website https://drtrishleigh.com/
If you are a high-performer looking for a sex addiction recovery group full of other successful men to connect with in recovery, visit my website: www.successfuladdict.com
What we measure matters. Without measurement and monitoring, how do you know if you’re getting closer to where you want to be?
This is absolutely true for sex addiction recovery. Most of the men I talk to are checking boxes but not following a recovery plan.
Addicts need to understand what caused them to act out so that they can create a plan to prevent it from happening again.
We see a high relapse rate in this field, and I don’t believe it’s because recovery is hard… I believe it's because most men do not have a clear understanding of how and why it happened.
Your sex addiction recovery plan should be mapped out and should include milestones that you can monitor as you progress.
For married men, your wife should be aware of your plan and how you’re measuring success. This will help her regain trust and safety.
If you need help creating your recovery plan, visit my website: successfuladdict.com
In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter explains his integrity model and how it can be used in sex addiction recovery.
As many of you know from listening to my podcast, I admire Jake Porter and all he has done for the field of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. His approach has helped so many couples heal their marriages and betrayed partners regain their sense of self.
In this episode, Jake and I break “integrity” into its components. Integrity is so much bigger than people realize. It’s more than simply being honest. Integrity requires health in all areas of your life.
Jake has a ton of amazing offerings for sex addicts, betrayed partners, and couples healing from betrayal. Check out his website at https://www.daringventures.com/
If you are a high-achiever, executive, professional, or entrepreneur looking for like-minded men to connect with in recovery, check out my website: www.successfuladdict.com
In this brief podcast episode, I talk about what 95% of sex addicts blame for their slips and relapses… and it's a total excuse.
It’s not their fault. They don’t mean to make excuses. But, there’s certainly a more productive way to get to the root cause of their acting-out behavior.
To be in good recovery, you must know WHY you do the things you do.
If you want help discovering the WHY behind your sex or porn addiction, visit my website. My groups are RECOVERY groups… not sobriety groups.
Long-term change is what you need, not sobriety.
If you’re a high-achiever, executive, sales professional, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group, visit successfuladdict.com
Sex addiction is much bigger than most people realize. While it's often discussed that sex and porn addiction are a result of childhood trauma, emotional regulation, entitlement, etc. There are many more reasons why someone would become sexually compulsive.
In this episode, I interview Jeremy Mast, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. He and I discuss how big this problem is and the wide variety of things that men will need to explore if they are going to get into good recovery.
If you want to connect with Jeremy and explore working with him or one of his therapists, visit his website: https://www.centerforintegrativechange.com/
If you are looking for a recovery group designed specifically for high-achieving men, visit my website at www.successfuladdict.com
Sex addiction sucks because it's the one you’re not allowed to have. You can struggle with most every other problem… but not this problem.
Compassion will be hard to come by given the trauma you will cause your wife and family.
Society has its view of what a “sex addict” is. A pervert, a freak, a weirdo, someone who is unsafe to have around kids, etc.
And, there certainly can be career consequences. I personally have experienced a loss of professional opportunities due to publicly announcing what my wife and I were dealing with.
It sucks to have a problem that people will not let you have.
And, because compassion and understanding will be in rare supply, you need to find a peer-support group that you can lean on through this. Otherwise, relapse is a realistic possibility.
If you’re a successful guy looking for a group of other high-achieving men to recover with, head to my website: successfuladdict.com
Sarah Morales is the founder of Deconstructing Gaslighting. In this episode, we define gaslighting. What it is, what it isn’t, and what to do about it.
Sex addicts often gaslight their partners before, during, and after discovery. Recovering from this form of deception can be very challenging for betrayed partners, especially in the midst of betrayal trauma.
In this episode, Sarah and I deconstruct gaslighting in a way that both sex addicts and betrayed partners can understand. We also provide couples with some clarity on how to move forward.
If you want to discover more about Sarah's work, visit her website heret: https://www.sarahmoralescoaching.com/
If you’re a high-achiever, executive, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men. Visit my website at successfuladdict.com
It's a common assumption… “Roland, don't you think that these men need to hang out with men who are NOT like them? Don’t you think this adds to their ego and narcissistic traits?”
No… I strongly disagree.
In fact, the fastest way for them to get over their superiority complex, grandiosity, and narcissistic traits is to be around men who are struggling in the same way.
Yes, these traits are largely responsible for their sex addiction. Therefore, they need to be a HUGE focus in their recovery.
This episode discusses why it’s essential to prioritize addressing these unwanted traits at the top of your recovery list.
If you are a high-achiever looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit our website to apply: www.successfuladdict.com
This episode is much different than anything I’ve done. It’s a personal story of the pain that sex addiction can bring to a family.
Kendra agreed to share her story with my audience. As you will clearly hear in her voice, sharing this was not easy for her. Sex addiction and betrayal trauma are more than just mental health diagnoses… these are people's lives that are being affected.
Kendra shared her story here to help those who have been and are currently being affected by sex addiction and the pain that follows discovery. Her hope was that this episode might help families out there who are feeling similar pain.
You’re not alone. And, there’s a way forward.
I honor Kendra for sharing this deeply personal story with us. And, I ask that when you listen to this episode, you hold it in an honorable and respectful place.
If your family has been personally affected by sex addiction or compulsive sexual behavior, Kendra is a therapist and may be able to help you. Send me an email if you’d like to be connected to her.
Successful men with a sex addiction often get criticized for their entitlement, grandiosity, or their superiority complex.
But, where do these traits come from?
I’ll be the first to admit that my sex addiction stems from these traits. But, I wasn’t always that way.
How did this happen to me?
I have my theory. And, I present it in this podcast.
I would love to hear your perception of WHY men are becoming entitled and develop the desire to be superior.
Head to my website to send me a message via the contact form: successfuladdict.com
If you want to dive deeper into this topic of entitlement, superiority, and attention seeking, read my book. You can find it here on Amazon or Audible for the audiobook: https://a.co/d/dEkZbHC
In this episode, we introduce a unique approach to sex addiction treatment. Laura Childers uses neuromodulation to help sex addicts and betrayed partners get unstuck.
Laura and I talk about how this treatment works, why it works, and who would benefit.
On this podcast, Laura talks about what she sees in the brains of addicts, betrayed partners, and high-achieving men.
You can find more information about Laura's work and her intensives at https://houstonneurosolutions.com/
If you are a high-achiever looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website: https://successfuladdict.com
Recovery is different for high-achieving men. Their addiction presents differently, and their recovery will need to cater to these unique thought processes. Visit my website for more information.
When it comes to sex addiction… your “why” matters. It exposes the perceived value of the behavior that you’re chasing.
In my opinion, you cannot be in good recovery until you understand what it is that you need to recover from.
While this is called “sex addiction” and “porn addiction,”… it’s rarely about sex or porn.
So, what is it about? Listen to this episode to find out what your brain wants.
Because sex addiction is so different from person to person, it helps to find a group of men who have a similar addiction to yours that you can recover with.
If you are a high achiever, executive, or entrepreneur and you are looking for a group of like-minded men to recover with, visit my website at www.successfuladdict.com
Sobriety and recovery are two different things. Sobriety is needed before you can truly recover. But can sobriety alone take you the distance?
Marnie Ferree is the founder of Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, Tennessee. She speaks to long-term recovery, both from personal and professional experience working with sex and porn addicts.
In this episode, she and I discuss the ins and outs of long-term sex addiction recovery. This journey rarely comes without some bumps along the way. But how you navigate these bumps will determine if you relapse or stay on the road to sexual integrity.
To learn more about Marnie and her story, visit https://bethesdaworkshops.org/about-us/our-team/marnie/marnies-story/.
If you’re looking for a recovery group that can assist in helping you maintain and achieve long-term sex addiction recovery, visit my website here: successfuladdict.com
12-step meetings are designed to go through the 12 steps. They are not designed for connection. And, they are not therapy.
Sex addiction is incredibly different from guy to guy. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. If 12-step meetings are not resonating with you, you need to find something that does.
Many high-achieving men struggle with 12-step groups. They find them inefficient, lacking structure, and difficult to find connection.
There are many reasons why, and I discuss them in this podcast episode.
If you are a high-achiever, executive, business professional, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website: successfuladdict.com
Yes, there’s the sex addiction, the compulsive sexual behavior, and… there’s the lying.
Deceptive sexuality needs to be addressed in addition to your sex/porn addiction.
Cheryl Camarillo and I attended training together at The Institute of Sexual Health for Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Treatment for infidelity and compulsive sexual behavior disorders.
Both of us work with high-achieving men and have noticed interesting nuances in their acting-out behavior. We talk about these nuances and how your recovery will need to be customized to deal with them.
If you are interested in working with Cheryl, you can find her here: https://cherylcamarillo.com/
If you have not yet read my book, you can find it here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/gYeiXKv
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