The Sex Addiction Podcast For High-achievers and Entrepreneurs

Even the best communicators will be challenged when recovering from sexual betrayal. Fear, anger, resentment, injustice, a lack of trust… This is not a great container for grounded conversation. But this is reality, and you’re going to need to learn how to navigate it as a couple. Too often, couples recovering from infidelity heal in isolation but fight together. The problem is that healing happens together… not apart. On this episode, I’m joined by Dani Peterson. She works with betrayed partners and couples in recovery. She and I discuss the difficulties that couples face when communicating post-betrayal. For those of you interested in working with Dani, she has offered our listeners a FREE 30 minute consultation. Use the link here to schedule: https://calendly.com/danimpeterson/consultation You can learn more about Dani at her website: https://www.danimpeterson.com/ Have you read my recovery book? If not, I want to give you access to the first chapter for free. Use this link here: https://successfuladdict.com/firstchapter

It’s easy to get stuck in the betrayal healing process. It’s hard, confusing, emotional, and ever-changing. While recovering from sex addiction can have its own challenges, relational recovery can often be much more challenging. Yes, it takes time. But there’s also a lot you can do to screw it up and make it take longer. In this episode, I’m joined by Hope Ray, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. She hosts 3-day couples intensives specializing in working with those healing from sexual betrayal.  Hope and I talk about the struggles that couples encounter in recovery after they make it past the crisis stage. Long-term healing looks different than the first 6-months. You will need to practice a different skill set if you want to restore trust and safety. If you and your wife are interested in working with Hope Ray, you can find her website here:https://www.hoperay.com/ On her website, you can also find her private podcast for betrayed partners. For those of you interested in attending one of my intensives, I still have room for a few more men this summer and in the fall. Visit my website to fill out an application: successfuladdict.com

It’s unfortunate how many guys don’t know what a good sex addiction recovery plan looks like. Their long-term sobriety and the health of their marriage are threatened as a result. In this episode, I review how to build a sex addiction recovery plan and what it needs to look like if you want it to be effective. I also discuss what betrayed partners want to see from you before they can trust you again. Recovery doesn’t have to be hard, but you do need a plan that has been psychologically proven to be effective. From there, you need to inform your recovery group so that they can keep you accountable. Recovering from sex and porn addiction is a long road. You’ll need other men to keep you accountable if you’re going to stay in this long enough to make a full recovery. I have 2 chapters in my book that will help you create a recovery plan. You can find my book here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/006Ka8Tr If you’re a high-achieving guy looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, take a look at my website. You cannot recover without deep connections with men whom you relate to and admire. You’ll find plenty of them in my groups. Visit successfuladdict.com

“Check-Ins” are a common thing after sexual betrayal and infidelity. They are intended to rebuild safety and trust. But they can also result in arguments and disconnection. In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Jill Manning. She and I talk about how check-ins can be helpful and how to prevent them from being unhelpful. Betrayed partners often worry that they are not getting the full truth. After being lied to for so long, their brain has a hard time trusting that they know everything their partner is doing. A great way to soothe some of the anxiety is through performing a daily check-in. However, when done incorrectly, these check-ins can end up in conflict, disagreements, and disconnection. Not a great way to end your day (especially if you have to do it again tomorrow!). In this episode, we help recovering sex addicts perform a productive check-in that results in restoring safety and trust for the betrayed partner. If you want to explore working with Dr. Manning, you can visit her website here: https://drjillmanning.com/ If you are a high-achiever seeking a recovery group full of like-minded men, head over to my website. It can be difficult to find guys to connect with in recovery, even more so if you are in the top 2%. This is unfortunate, as connection is EVERYTHING when it comes to recovery. If you are a business owner, professional, executive, or entrepreneur, I have built recovery groups full of men like you. Fill out an application here: successfuladdict.com

Ever notice how some parts of your sex addiction just stop, and others seem to stay on your mind? Some might be addictive, others might be sexually compulsive. Some of them may just come down to an integrity issue. This matters. Why? Because if you’re trying to avoid relapse, you need to make sure that treatment is actually going to solve the issue. Because sex addiction is a process addiction, you can’t recover unless you know what you’re recovering from. In this episode, I break down the difference between addictive and compulsive sexual behavior. Why sex and porn addiction treatments may not work for some men and what they will need to do instead. I dive much deeper into this concept in my book, “The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction.” For those of you wanting to dive further into the specifics of your own process addiction, visit my website and fill out an application. We can jump on a phone call to discuss how my recovery groups may be what you’re looking for: www.successfuladdict.com

Narcissism is a word you’ll hear quite a bit these days. And, it’s often brought up around men struggling with a sex addiction and chronic cheating. But there’s a difference between narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and narcissistic traits. Betrayed partners are often concerned that their husbands might be narcissists. This episode will clear this up. Dr. Alexandra Repke is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and has her PhD in Counseling Psychology. The treatment of narcissistic personality disorder is a specialty of hers. In this episode, Dr. Repke explains NPD. We also discuss what is required to overcome narcissistic traits. You can reach Dr. Repke here: https://www.repkepsychologicalservices.com/ If you are a professional, executive, or entrepreneur looking for a group of men to recover with, visit my website here: successfuladdict.com

There’s a difference between sobriety and recovery when it comes to sex addiction. A big difference. You’ve probably seen the stats that relapse is common. My belief is that this is because most men are in good sobriety… not recovery. Sobriety is about stopping the behaviors from happening. Recovery is about preventing them from happening in the future. In this episode, I outline the difference between a sobriety plan and a recovery plan. I provide details and examples that will help you create your own recovery plan. Sobriety is important. But, recovery is what you need if your hope is to prevent relapse and further damage to your marriage. High-performing men typically have a very different sex addiction when compared to the general population. For this reason, their recovery plan will also look quite different. If you’re a business professional, executive, owner, investor, or entrepreneur, you may find my book helpful. “The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction” You can find the book here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/4jE4JnX

Tammy Gustafson has a wealth of knowledge when it comes to betrayal trauma and healing marriages after infidelity. She just released her new book, Broken to Brave. You can find it here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/aQqYtaV In this episode, Tammy walks us through the phases of sexual betrayal healing and what is required in each step. Sex and porn addiction impact betrayed partners in a very deep way. Learning to navigate the relational healing process is critical if you’re trying to save the marriage. Healing will require empathy, managing her triggers, and communicating in a way that allows you two to connect in hard times. Tammy and I talk about all of this in the podcast. If you’re a high achiever, executive, or entrepreneur looking for a group of like-minded men to connect with in recovery. Visit my website: successfuladdict.com If you have yet to read my book, you can find it on Amazon, and the audiobook on Audible. “The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction” (audiobook is narrated by me, Roland Cochrun)

It’s unfortunate… But your wife, family, and faith alone are not enough to stop your sex addiction. If they were, you wouldn't be listening to this podcast. The men in my groups who are the fastest to recover have tapped into something more. Something that energizes them and keeps them leaning into recovery. Recovering from sex addiction is not a short road. You need to make sure that your recovery plan can go the distance. It’s easy for men to lean in for the first year. But many guys eventually get burned out. You need to prevent this! Burnout will certainly put you at risk of relapse and will not make your wife feel safe in the relationship. In this episode, I talk about how men have tapped into something that keeps them excited about their recovery. If you have not yet read/listened to my book, I talk about this concept in great detail. You can find my book here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/dzD9LKt The book is titled: “The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction.”

In this episode, Michelle Edsall joins me in a discussion on “good recovery” and how sex addicts can show betrayed partners that they are putting in the work. We talk about common triggers and questions that betrayed partners often ask men in recovery. Learning how to navigate these difficult conversations is critical when it comes to healing your marriage and establishing a sense of safety. For those of you interested in working with Michelle, you can find her here: https://www.counselingcenterwm.org/provider/michelleedsall If you have yet to read my book, you can find it here in print and in Audiobook format: https://a.co/d/ir3JXwt

We all know that connection and peer-support are the most critical elements in recovery from sex addiction. Despite going to meetings, not all men are actually connecting or receiving peer-support. This does NOT mean that you should stop going to meetings. Instead, take charge. In this episode, I discuss how to get the most out of your support groups so that you can achieve long-term sobriety and prevent relapse. If you’re a high achiever, executive, business/sales professional, or entrepreneur looking for like-minded men to recover with, visit my website: www.successfuladdict.com

Sure, you’ve gone through the basics. But it was probably back when your sex or porn addiction was first discovered. The truth is, it's hard to digest and implement everything correctly when you’re first discovered. Life is chaotic, and your marriage is hanging on by a thread. So, now that you’re further down the road of sex addiction recovery, you would likely benefit from revisiting the basics to ensure that you’ve implemented them into your recovery plan. I’m joined in this episode by Jennifer Kuck and Marilyn Witbeck, Certified Sex Addiction Therapists from the Atlanta Relationship Institute. We discuss common pitfalls sex addicts make in their recovery and how to make sure that you have implemented everything you can to repair your marriage. For those interested in working with Jennifer or Marilyn, you can find their website here: https://atlantarelationshipinstitute.com/ For those who are interested in attending my next intensive, visit my website here: Successfuladdict.com

Have you ever heard someone say: “I can’t wait to stop eating healthy.”“I can't wait to stop going to the gym.”"I can't wait to stop brushing my teeth.” No! Because these things are important. So, why do sex addicts wonder when they will stop having to be in recovery? Recovery is different from sobriety. Sobriety is about stopping the unwanted sexual behavior. Recovery is about ensuring you’re a thriving human being. It’s about ensuring you’re getting the most out of life. That you are experiencing fulfillment, developing deeply connected friendships, and leaving a legacy you’re proud of. Why would you want that to end?

You would think that experiencing infidelity would decrease the chance that you would be unfaithful… But this isn’t always the case. In fact, being betrayed can lead to trauma that could then cause you to be the one who betrays. Adam Nisenson (The Betrayal Shrink) is a CSAT who specializes in treating betrayed men who have experienced infidelity. With so much of the focus being on male cheating, it can be easy to overlook female cheating. In this episode, Adam and I talk about how betrayal trauma is different for men and how it can lead to intimacy disorders, addiction, and compulsive behavior in the future. Adam is the author of the book, “A Man's Guide to Partner Betrayal: Overcoming the Pain and Repercussions of a Cheating Partner.” You can find his website here: https://www.betrayalshrink.com/ If you have experienced an emotional affair, physical cheating, or relational deception, listen to this episode. You might be surprised by what you learn about yourself.

If you acted out sexually at your place of work or during business travel, it’s common for betrayed partners to feel unsafe when it comes to your career and travel. Many men recovering from sex addiction are asked by their wives to change jobs or stop traveling for work. This can be a challenging request to navigate. Many of the men in my groups have faced this conversation in early recovery. In this episode, I discuss how to navigate this and what to consider. I also share my personal experience with this after my discovery. If you are a high-achiever, executive, business professional, or entrepreneur looking for like-minded men to connect with in recovery, visit my website: successfuladdict.com

Dr. Trish Leigh uses advanced neuroscience technology to treat men with sex and porn addiction. In this episode, she explains to listeners how it works. Dr. Leigh looks for dysfunctional brain patterns and then prescribes the appropriate treatment strategy. She is the author of the book, “Mind Over Explicit Matter. Quit Porn and Improve Intimacy Through Neuroscience.” She also has an extremely robust YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTrishLeigh You can find her at her website https://drtrishleigh.com/ If you are a high-performer looking for a sex addiction recovery group full of other successful men to connect with in recovery, visit my website: www.successfuladdict.com

What we measure matters. Without measurement and monitoring, how do you know if you’re getting closer to where you want to be? This is absolutely true for sex addiction recovery. Most of the men I talk to are checking boxes but not following a recovery plan. Addicts need to understand what caused them to act out so that they can create a plan to prevent it from happening again. We see a high relapse rate in this field, and I don’t believe it’s because recovery is hard… I believe it's because most men do not have a clear understanding of how and why it happened. Your sex addiction recovery plan should be mapped out and should include milestones that you can monitor as you progress. For married men, your wife should be aware of your plan and how you’re measuring success. This will help her regain trust and safety. If you need help creating your recovery plan, visit my website: successfuladdict.com

In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter explains his integrity model and how it can be used in sex addiction recovery. As many of you know from listening to my podcast, I admire Jake Porter and all he has done for the field of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. His approach has helped so many couples heal their marriages and betrayed partners regain their sense of self. In this episode, Jake and I break “integrity” into its components. Integrity is so much bigger than people realize. It’s more than simply being honest. Integrity requires health in all areas of your life. Jake has a ton of amazing offerings for sex addicts, betrayed partners, and couples healing from betrayal. Check out his website at https://www.daringventures.com/ If you are a high-achiever, executive, professional, or entrepreneur looking for like-minded men to connect with in recovery, check out my website: www.successfuladdict.com

In this brief podcast episode, I talk about what 95% of sex addicts blame for their slips and relapses… and it's a total excuse. It’s not their fault. They don’t mean to make excuses. But, there’s certainly a more productive way to get to the root cause of their acting-out behavior. To be in good recovery, you must know WHY you do the things you do. If you want help discovering the WHY behind your sex or porn addiction, visit my website. My groups are RECOVERY groups… not sobriety groups. Long-term change is what you need, not sobriety. If you’re a high-achiever, executive, sales professional, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group, visit successfuladdict.com

Sex addiction is much bigger than most people realize. While it's often discussed that sex and porn addiction are a result of childhood trauma, emotional regulation, entitlement, etc. There are many more reasons why someone would become sexually compulsive. In this episode, I interview Jeremy Mast, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. He and I discuss how big this problem is and the wide variety of things that men will need to explore if they are going to get into good recovery. If you want to connect with Jeremy and explore working with him or one of his therapists, visit his website: https://www.centerforintegrativechange.com/ If you are looking for a recovery group designed specifically for high-achieving men, visit my website at www.successfuladdict.com