In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Aaron Thompson (aka Small Hands) to unpack how an awkward, short kid with a conservative upbringing became one of the most desired men in adult entertainment, and why confidence has far more to do with self-awareness, humility, and emotional intelligence than looks, height, or stats on a dating app.They go deep on real intimacy versus performative sex, porn myths versus real-life pleasure, and how men can become better lovers by listening, learning, and caring more about their partner’s experience than their own ego.Topics covered include:The “Short King” mindset and why height doesn’t matterMasculinity, confidence, and owning what you can’t changePenis size myths and sexual insecurityWhy personality beats looks in real attractionDating apps, stats culture, and first impressionsPorn vs real sex (and why porn is not sex education)Communication, consent, and “checking in” during sexReading body language, sounds, and partner feedbackHelping partners orgasm without killing the vibeUsing vibrators, magic wands, and toys with confidenceSexual worship, power dynamics, and mutual pleasureLearning from women and having real female friendshipsDating as a porn star and navigating fans vs real intimacyPerformative sex vs lazy, intimate, off-camera connectionOnlyFans, AI digital duplicates, and fantasy fulfillmentErectile health, Viagra and injectable performance drugsAaron’s natural erection health routineThank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈ Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beducate.me/pd2602-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, performer, director, and sex worker Lucy Hart for an honest conversation about reinvention, desire, identity, and learning how to start over without losing yourself. Lucy shares what it has been like to transition later in life, rebuild after financial loss, find community through kink and creativity, and forgive herself through every stage of change.In this episode, they discuss:Reinventing yourself multiple times throughout lifeTransitioning later in life and trusting your timingBuilding chosen family and supportive communityTalking about sex before getting into bedEnding sex based on satisfaction, not performanceCommunication, oral sex, toys, kink, and curiositySexual responsibility, testing, PrEP, and harm reductionThe importance of kissing and chemistryExploring kink slowly and without pressurePower dynamics and shifting rolesLosing financial stability and rebuilding from scratchDivorce, grief, and letting go of relationships that no longer fitForgiveness as a daily practiceLetting go of resentment and self-blameRedefining success and happinessMaking peace with impermanenceTrusting yourself to rebuild again if neededThank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈ 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified holistic sex educator and Beyond the Beez founder Elizabeth Ashford for a deeply practical, funny, and no-BS conversation about talking during sex—and why silence, shame, and faking orgasms are some of the biggest barriers to good sex. From dirty talk and giving direction to toys, lube, boundaries, aftercare, and post-sex debriefs, this episode is a masterclass in how communication transforms intimacy, pleasure, and connection.In this episode, Alexa and Elizabeth discuss:Why silence during sex creates insecurity and confusionDirty talk vs simply communicating during sexUsing your voice for pleasure, direction, and curiosityWhy most people struggle to talk during sexCultural shame, lack of sex education, and sexual confidenceFinding your sexual voice and understanding your desiresWhy dirty talk looks different for everyoneTrauma, shame, BDSM experience, and comfort levels with dirty talkBlending dirty talk with practical directionGiving feedback without killing the moodStarting with positive reinforcement before giving directionHow safety makes sexual communication easierHow faking orgasms reinforces bad sex habitsWhy honesty leads to better long-term sexThe orgasm gap and why penetration alone isn’t enoughWhy partners need to genuinely care about your pleasureOral sex as a baseline expectation, not a bonus“Non-eaters” as a dealbreakerCuriosity as the foundation of good sexSex worth having vs sex worth avoidingStarter phrases for people new to dirty talkKeeping dirty talk simple and naturalCompliments during sex and feeling desiredPost-sex communication and debriefingAftercare beyond cuddlingTalking about what worked and what didn’tPorn, audio erotica, and learning language for desireErotic menus and yes/maybe/no frameworksBorrowing phrases instead of reinventing dirty talkThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beducate.me/pd2602-alexaThank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈ 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and professional Dom Sir Marvelous for a conversation about real dominance, fake Doms, pleasure-centered sex, and why communication and patience are the foundation of good BDSM—and good sex in general. This episode breaks down what dominance actually looks like beyond performance, how to spot manipulative dynamics early, and why prioritizing pleasure leads to deeper trust, safety, and better sex.In this episode, Alexa and Sir Marvelous discuss:What actually makes someone a real Dom vs a fake DomWhy “pleasure Dom” is often misunderstood and misusedHow fake Doms weaponize submissive language on dating appsManipulation, rushing dynamics, and early red flagsPatience as the most attractive and essential Dom skillWhy dominance is about giving and not controllingWhy dominance doesn’t have to include pain, whips, or chainsEating pussy before, during, and after penetrationAnxiety, erections, and why losing one isn’t a failureStrap-ons, toys, and removing ego from penetrationAsking better questions about pleasure and satisfactionThe brain as the biggest sex organPost-sex debriefing: what worked, what didn’t, what to do more ofAdvocating for pleasure in Dom/sub dynamicsBeginner Dom mistakes to avoidWhy Doms should experience submission or bottomingPerformative dominance vs authentic presenceThank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈ 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with musician and content creator Emi Larraud for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about vulnerability, masculinity, oversharing on the internet, and why emotional availability makes men more desirable and better lovers. From shitting yourself on the subway to tips on how to be more vulnerable, this episode explores how being human, communicative, and emotionally present leads to better sex, safer intimacy, and more meaningful connections.In this episode, Alexa and Emi discuss:Masculinity, patriarchy, and how it harms menWhy toughness, aggression, and emotional suppression are not attractiveHealthy masculinity and being raised with emotional permissionMen crying, expressing emotions, and being fully humanHow emotional openness improves dating and sexWhy men shouldn’t center other men’s approvalSeeking male validation vs caring what women actually wantListening to women instead of guessing what they wantBeing bisexual and how that shaped Emi’s perspective on intimacyThe hot take: men who refuse to eat pussy are kinda gayWhy vulnerability filters out the wrong peopleGetting approached more after being emotionally openEmotional growth through therapyHolding male friends accountable for harmful jokesSex, intimacy, and performance anxietyFeeling pressure to perform sexuallyLiking women vs just wanting to fuck themThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey. https://beducate.me/pd2602-alexaThank you Splash Blanket for keeping my guests cozy and mess-free <3 🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with hypnotherapist and intimacy coach Kate Shelor for an in-depth conversation about erotic hypnosis, the subconscious mind, and how our thoughts, beliefs, and emotional conditioning shape pleasure, desire, and orgasm. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode breaks down what hypnosis really is, how it differs from pop-culture myths, and how erotic hypnosis can help people get out of their heads, release sexual shame, and reconnect with their bodies.In this episode, Alexa and Kate discuss:The role of the subconscious mind in sex, pleasure, and behaviorWhy so many people struggle to stay present during sexAnxiety, body image, and self-conscious thoughts in the bedroomHow hypnosis helps people get out of their heads and into sensationWhy all hypnosis is ultimately self-hypnosisConsent, collaboration, and personal agency in hypnosisCommon myths about hypnosis from movies and pop cultureWhether some people are “more hypnotizable” than othersSexual blocks related to orgasms, erections, and arousalKate’s personal journey using hypnotherapy to overcome orgasm strugglesHow language and self-talk program sexual responsesThe power of repetition in shaping subconscious beliefsBlindfolds, sensory deprivation, and imagination in erotic playPractical self-hypnosis and mindset exercises for homeAuditing negative self-talk and replacing it intentionallyRewriting old conditioning with new emotional experiencesWhy the subconscious mind overrides logic every timeSurrounding yourself with sex-positive language and mediaThe best time of day for self-hypnosisHow long hypnosis takes to create change🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with tantric practitioner, pleasure educator, and soon-to-be author Davia Frost for a deep conversation about decentering penetration and expanding what sex can be. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode explores how slowing down, breathing, presence, and creativity can lead to more satisfying, intimate, and embodied pleasure without sex needing to revolve around penetration.We discuss:What it means to decenter penetration and why penetration is overemphasized in mainstream cultureHow expanding your definition of sex increases pleasure, intimacy, and satisfactionWhy heterosexual couples tend to rush to intercourse and how this limits pleasureUsing the full body as an instrument of pleasure rather than focusing only on genitalsSlowing down, softening the body, and learning how to receive pleasureMyths around sex, obligation, and the idea that penetration is requiredMaking penetration optional without sex feeling “incomplete”Erogenous zones beyond genitals (neck, ears, inner thighs, behind the knees, clavicle, elbows, nipples)Nipple play and nipple orgasmsDifferent types of orgasms and expanding orgasmic capacityBreathwork, sound, humming, and tantra as tools for pleasureWhy holding your breath can limit orgasmic potentialPresence vs performance in sexOral sex as intimacy, honoring, and shared pleasure rather than a choreEye gazing, kissing, dirty talk, and touch as deeply intimate actsEgo, vulnerability, and why sex often ends when penetration endsEnding sex based on satisfaction, not orgasms or penetrationCommunication strategies for talking about pleasure without hurting egosSexual menus, check-ins, and having conversations outside the bedroomScheduling intimacy, playfulness, and creative erotic invitationsWhat straight couples can learn from queer sex cultureThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2548-alexa🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex & relationship coach Catherine Drysdale for the most honest, nuanced conversation about voluntary celibacy you’ve ever heard. Together they break down how intentionally stepping away from partnered sex can reset your dating patterns, raise your standards, calm your nervous system, help you stop centering dating/sex, reconnect you to your body, and ultimately make your sex life better.In this episode, Catherine opens up about: What voluntary celibacy actually meansWhy she’s chosen celibacy multiple timesLibido dips during high-stress seasons– Prioritizing outercourse for better sexCelibacy as a tool for breaking validation cyclesHow to stop centering dating, sex and external validationDating while celibate & setting clear boundariesHow long a celibacy period should lastHow to decide when to re-enter sex or dating into your lifeWhat she learned about sexual compatibilityThe “reset effect” on desire and self-esteemHow celibacy helped her see red flags soonerWhy a sex break often leads to better sexHow to be more intentional once you start having sex againThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2548-alexa🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator, pleasure expert, and the Handjob Queen herself, Ashley Manta (@cannasexual), for the most comprehensive handjob episode ever recorded, all from the middle of the Ionian Sea aboard a Desire Cruise.Together, they dive into Ashley’s entire sexual evolution, her journey into sex education, her non-monogamous love story, and her insanely detailed handjob techniques that go way beyond the basics. This episode is part sex education masterclass, part storytelling, part technique demonstration and entirely iconic.We cover:How Ashley de-centered penetration in her relationships and learned to prioritize warm-up, touch, and manual stimulationWhy she prefers clitoral stimulation with fingers over any vibrator / oralSquirting vs orgasm: why they’re different experiences and how Ashley experiences bothHandjobs in cars, the “blowjobs for rides” era, and giving a handjob in a DHL truckWorking at a sex shop and learning techniques from experts like Reid Mihalko, Ducky Doolittle, Tristan Taormino, and moreHer decade of learning technique through sex parties, workshops, and hands-on practiceThe “toxic tantra boyfriend” who was incredible at sex but emotionally manipulativeHow handjobs became Ashley’s specialty and why she teaches them professionallyUsing partners as “live demos” during workshopsHer handjob philosophy: connection, breathwork, presence, pressure, rhythm, and affirmationHow to handle soft cocks, why softness is normal, and how to help someone relax into arousalWhy lube is non-negotiable, why Ashley prefers silicone lube, and her love for the baby bottle warmer hackCircumcised vs uncircumcised penis techniques and what adjustments matterFull techniques breakdownWhy Ashley doesn’t enjoy giving blowjobs (TMJ + dislike of cum), and how she clearly makes up for itOutsourcing BJ duties during group play thanks to her and Nick’s non-monogamous dynamicAnal play safety and boundaries: how Nick discovered he loves anal, how they explored it safely, and hygiene must-knowsThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA69 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 65% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2544-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of the groundbreaking bestseller She Comes First, He Comes Next, and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. They talk about why his 2004 classic is still changing bedrooms two decades later, how the clitoris remains misunderstood, and what makes sex truly great.We discuss:- Why She Comes First is still a global bestseller 21 years later- ⁠The science of the clitoris and its internal structures- Why all orgasms are clitoral — and what “outercourse” really means- Why penetration-only sex leads to bad sex and performance anxiety- The most common sexual problems heterosexual couples face today- How to shift from intercourse-focused sex to pleasure-focused sex- Why rhythm and persistence are essential for clitoral stimulation- Why novelty helps early on but routine deepens connection- How rushing and orgasm-chasing have ruined slow sex- The differences between male and female arousal cycles- ⁠The three assurances every giver should offer during oral sex- Why enthusiasm is the sexiest thing a partner can show- How women’s insecurities (“I’m taking too long,” “Do I smell?”) block pleasure- Why giving oral sex might be the key to your erection problemsAn unfiltered, intimate conversation about why She Comes First is still essential reading and how better sex starts with slowing down, getting curious, and caring more.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA69 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 65% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2544-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amanda Dames, the kink consultant and sex & relationship coach, for a deep dive into the world of kink — from power dynamics and negotiation to choking, bondage, chastity, and aftercare. Amanda, a former dominatrix and current coach for couples and individuals, breaks down how to safely explore desire, communicate boundaries, and find confidence in both dominance and submission.We discuss:What a kink consultant actually does and how Amanda works with couples and individualsHow to talk about kink and start negotiating scenes with a partnerThe concept of core desires: what drives your kinks on a deeper levelPower exchange and why it’s one of the most common and misunderstood kinksHow to safely practice choking and the difference between sides and trachea pressureHow to create and close a scene, use safe words, and practice aftercareThe difference between a kink and a fetish (and why fantasizing isn’t cheating)What to do when one partner is kinky and the other isn’tThe importance of curiosity, consent, and mutual care in exploring desiresWhy choking porn shouldn’t be banned, it should be taught safelyHow to avoid nerve damage in bondage and the importance of safety scissorsHow to transition between dominance and submission when you’re a switchWhy chastity for men is on the rise and what makes it excitingThe realities of power play, punishment, and controlWhat good aftercare looks like: from cuddling to next-day check-insWhy communication before, during, and after sex prevents harm and deepens connectionThe role of negotiation, consent, and enthusiasm in every sceneWhy more women should take control in bed and why more men should learn to be submissiveHow lingerie, pegging, and roleplay are more common (and fun) than people thinkAmanda’s fetish for being punished and how fantasy enhances orgasm

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@⁠sexwithalexa⁠)⁠ sits on the couch with Robyn Silber⁠ — a former Google software engineer who slept with 70 men in 10 months and then realized she’s asexual. Robyn opens up about her “slut era,” sexual health, discovering demisexuality, navigating autism and dating, and why she’s now working to help lonely men build real connection.We talk about:Dating younger men and having 70 sexual partners in her first 10 months in NYCSexual health: chlamydia, BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and learning to advocate for herselfWhy only ~5 of 70 partners made her orgasm and how she wasn’t asking for pleasureThe difference between physical attraction and real sexual desireHow asexuality doesn’t mean low libido or lack of masturbationHer current relationship: emotional connection, sensuality, and slow intimacyWhy everyone should have a “slut era” and what to keep in mindHer idea to launch an online support group for men who aren’t getting laidThe male loneliness crisis and how empathy can rebuild connectionWhy men should focus on friendship, hobbies, and social skills before dating

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Haley Jakobson, author of Old Enough, bisexual Dream Girl, and OCD Princess, to talk about friendship, therapy, OCD, and sex. Haley opens up about how her OCD has shaped her relationships, sexuality, creative life and how vulnerability and repair have transformed her friendships and intimacy.We discuss:The importance of friendship and why it can be even more transformative than romantic loveLearning to fight and repair conflict with friends instead of avoiding itFriendship breakups, grief, and when to let go vs. when to repairHow attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant) affect friendships and conflictThe parallels between romantic and platonic relationship skillsNavigating OCD, intrusive thoughts, and relationship anxietySexual shame, low libido, and reconnecting with desire during recoveryThe impact of COVID on libido, self-pleasure, and intimacyHow OCD and anxiety affect sexual intimacy and self-imageLearning to find satisfaction without pressure to perform sexuallyHaley’s upcoming novel Cave Girl and the story behind its titleThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/pd2540-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Nina Divina, Mama Muse and founder of Haus of Muse, for a powerful and playful conversation about confidence, burlesque, sensuality, and how to be the main character in your sex life.We talk about:What “cunt is an energy” really means and how to embody itOvercoming body image struggles and learning to love your reflectionHow to be the main character in your sex life and in everyday lifeThe power of adopting a persona to boost confidenceWhy teasing is the most underrated form of foreplayTeasing vs. flirting — and how anticipation makes everything hotterBuilding sexual confidence through self-love and self-touchReconnecting with your sensuality after losing itThe importance of breathing, eye contact, and connection before sexHow “fake it till you make it” and “delulu is the solulu” actually workStretching, sensual movement, and small daily rituals to feel sexy againWhy confidence, play, and teasing make sex better for everyone🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2540-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy. We discuss:Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactionsSnapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets Bold ways of flirting IRLFire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guySex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for womenGay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage”Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problemBi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman”Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay barsEating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressuresOpen relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed”Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFansWhat makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sexGrindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquetteThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2536-alexa 🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram! www.patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Ali Weiss, New York native, host of Tales of Taboo and unapologetic oversharer, for a raw conversation about rejection, vulnerability, and why we’re all obsessed with the forbidden.A funny, honest, and deeply relatable episode on being human, craving connection, and owning your messy truth, why rejection stings less when you know yourself, and how vulnerability can be both a calling and a curse. Ali opens up about running her anonymous confessions podcast, burnout, parasocial relationships, and why taboos like sex work and drug dealing deserve compassion instead of judgment.Other topics we cover:The complicated relationship with oversharing and boundariesWhy rejection isn’t the end of the world, and how to approach people IRLThe obsession with being a “clean girl” vs embracing messinessWhy taboo fascinates us and how it secretly connects us allFriendships that go deeper than relationshipsLearning to accept yourself so you can handle rejection and find real connection👉 Support the podcast and get bonus content on Patreon: patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed with Vee, co-host of Girls Gone Deep and almost-certified somatic sex and relationship coach, for a juicy conversation all about sexual fantasies.We cover:Why fantasies are so important for a fulfilling sex lifeThe difference between fantasies you should keep in your head vs. the ones you might want to bring to lifeVee’s wildest fulfilled fantasies (from MFM threesomes to DVPs and even public play at Broadway)What it’s really like to plan a gangbang (and why you might not want to force it)How shame around our bodies, vulvas, and desires can hold us back — and how to push through itFantasies that should stay fantasies (monster-fucking, Khaleesi worship scenes, etc.)The role of community and how to find people who will help make your fantasies a realityFantasies that grow out of childhood wounds, trauma, or praise/degradation kinksHow to actually ask for what you want and deal with rejectionTools for couples and individuals to explore fantasies safely (even if they never leave your imagination)It’s raw, personal, and full of both funny and vulnerable stories — from getting DVPed on a cruise to being worshipped by multiple partners at once. If you’ve ever wondered where fantasies come from, how to share them without shame, or how to make them happen in real life, this is your guide.💋 Support the show on Patreon for bonus content, behind-the-scenes, and more at patreon.com/sexwithalexaThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2536-alexa 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire.We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducing the mental load, this episode is a roadmap for couples who feel like they’re not having enough sex — or not the kind of sex they really want.We talk about:Why desire always shifts after the honeymoon phaseThe role of new relationship energy and why it fadesHow mismatched desire shows up in nearly every coupleWhy foreplay is more than just sex — it’s in the daily detailsThe importance of “I statements” vs. blaming your partnerHow mental load kills desire, especially for womenThe power of non-sexual touch and small moments of intimacyWhy women get bored faster in monogamy — and what to do about itHow to bring up bad or boring sex without crushing your partner’s egoThe role of masturbation in keeping connection aliveIntroducing novelty, fantasy and kink safely with your partnerTools like intimacy card decks to make sexual communication easierWhen to see a professional and how one session can change everything👉 If you loved this episode and want to support the show, join my Patreon for bonus content, behind-the-scenes chats, and extra Q&As: patreon.com/sexwithalexa.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Elle Chase (@theellechase), certified life coach, sexologist, sexuality educator, author, and one of the most respected voices in the body acceptance and body neutrality movement. Together, they unpack how body image affects intimacy, relationships, and the ability to feel sexy in your own skin.In this episode, we dive into:The difference between body love and body neutralityBaby steps to start feeling sexy when you don’t love your bodyHow body image influences desire and long-term passionBuilding connection through touch, intimacy, and skin hungerWhy self-compassion and communication matter more than confidenceHow to reframe sex as connection, not performanceFor unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes on my own dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram, join my Patreon: patreon.com/sexwithalexaThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2532-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Laura Desirée — absolute stranger, intimacy coordinator and pleasure educator — for an unforgettable conversation about how sex, grief, and shame shape our identities.In this episode, we dive into:What intimacy coordinators actually do on film sets and why they make sex scenes better, not worseWhy Hollywood has failed at portraying female pleasure and how it should look insteadThe messy overlap of grief and sex and how pleasure can become healingThe role of kink in teaching care, communication, and boundariesLaura’s experience as an identical twin and how sex became her path to self-discoveryOwning shame, embracing vulnerability, and why our “messiest” moments can make us closer to othersA hilariously human story of intimacy, trust, and… running out of toilet paperLaura’s raw honesty and fearless approach to sex and pleasure will make you rethink how you see intimacy, on screen and in your own life.✨ For more uncensored conversations, bonus clips, and behind-the-scenes stories, join me on Patreon.