The Horny Chapel

In deconstruction circles, it can feel like our experiences are so unique, and in many cases they are, but the struggle for identity and agency in our identities is a universal one. Diana's story of immigrating from England to the US as part of a conservative Iranian family mirrors our fundamentalist Christian upbringings in so many ways. Diana tells her story in exquisite detail, highlighting the racial issues many immigrants face as we as the development of a sexual identity and ethic. Check out Diana's OnlyFans page for sexy, adventurous fun and follow her on YouTube channel for the PG versions of the stories. OK, maybe PG-13.The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

We wanted to give our reactions to the passing of the architect of today's conservative tyranny, Dr. James Dobson. We share our experiences, give a nod of support to the survivors of the abusive, self-hateful, queerphobic, misogynistic, and all-around bigoted teachings of this man. It's not so much a celebration as it is a solemn acknowledgement that much of our fight began when Focus On the Family began. Scott also shares some thoughts as a former neighbor of the Dobson family. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

We watched the doc. And goddamn. Christians are not ok. We talk about this particular Christian cult, purity culture, and how we got where we are as a nation.Chapel Probation is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Discord ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠for more conversation with all the podcast communities.Scott's book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Asian-American-Apostate- Losing Religion and Finding Myself at an Evangelical University⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now!Music by Scott Okamoto, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jenyi⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Azeem Khan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shin Kawasaki⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Wingo Shackleford⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapel Probation Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support Scott and for bonus content. Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapel Probation Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ group to continue the conversations.Follow Scott on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Bluesky⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can subscribe to Scott's newsletter and learn more about the book, the blog, and performances at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠rscottokamoto.com⁠

We interviewed Janice Selbie earlier this year, and we signed up to attend the Shameless Sexuality conference that she organizes. And we were pleasantly surprised to get an invite from Janice to speak at the conference, which was held virtually back in May. We brought our humor and insight to the event, shedding light on purity culture through our unique lenses. Hopefully, this conference will continue into the future. There were a lot of great presenters ranging from therapists, writers, and sex workers. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

We're about 25 years late to this and about 7 years past Japanese American Joshua Harris denouncing his shitty book, but here we are. After ⁠Scott's Substack post⁠ about Harris had 4x as many reads as he has subscribers, we figured we should take a look back at why today's Christians are so damaged. A big part of it is purity culture. Scott never read the book, having slammed it shut after the first page, but poor Priska grew up in the height of the purity movement. And she has some feelings and thoughts. CW- We don't pull any punches. This was one of the worst things we've ever read (Scott read it for this episode). The damage it did, the shit writing, and the lack of any cohesive arguments really just made us angry. So buckle up. This one goes to 11.

If you grew up in purity culture, you were taught that things like sex, alcohol, and porn were evil portals to demon possession, and you would become addicted to these kinds of vices. Of course people can become addicted to things, but purity culture lied to us. For most christians, there is no such thing as balanced living with people making choices and decisions about what they want to do or consume. Scott and Priska talk about their own stories and break down some of the falsehoods taught in purity culture that make people afraid to simply live their lives. Even worse, it teaches people to not trust their own instincts and abilities to assess risk. Plus, a clip from Content Warning 2024 about pornography and it's supposed addictive nature, featuring Erica Smith, Tori Williams Douglass, Transvangelica, Wyld Violet, and Cortland Coffey. Plus a primer on clown sex. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Breaking up is hard to do. It's even harder to do in Purity Culture if you've experienced any degree of physical intimacy with your partner. This leads people to remain in unhealthy and even abusive relationships because of deeply programmed guilt and shame. ⁠Esther Cho ⁠aka Mahra, is a singer/songwriter and dear friend of Priska. She was gracious enough to enter the Horny Chapel and talk about a past relationship that lasted longer than it should have because of purity culture. Esther's beautiful songs can be heard throughout the episode and you can l⁠isten to her EP her⁠e. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And join our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Discord Server⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more discussion and fun. ⁠⁠Register for Content Warning here!⁠

This week we are joined by a special guest, our dear friend Keiko Agena. Keiko is best known for her role as Lane Kim on the show Gilmore Girls, but she is also a writer, artist, and beloved member of our AAPI arts and activist community in Los Angeles. With her own real-life evangelical past to draw on, she goes deep in analyzing her Lane Kim role as we talk about the dangers and harms to young women inside of purity culture. Gilmore Girls superfan, Priska, unleashes 16 years of pent up questions, making this conversation must-listen for all Gilmore Girls fans. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠ Send us a message at ⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠ And join our ⁠⁠Discord Server⁠⁠ for more discussion and fun.

Priska and Scott introduce the podcast with a look at christian purity culture and they share their experiences growing up and going through young adulthood. The Horny Chapel is part of the Dauntless Media Collective. Send us a message at hornychapel@gmail.com https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/ And join our Discord Server for more discussion and fun.

This week we talk to therapist, author, and podcaster, Janice Selbie. Scott and Priska saw an ad for the ⁠Shameless Sexuality conference ⁠and knew they had to talk to Janice about her story in which she went from the most conservative fundamentalist world to a sex-positive, religion-free life. The Pentecostal life wasn't restrictive enough for Janice, so she joined a local group of Mennonites where she did her best to fit in but was never fully accepted by the women there. Now, after an eventful deconstruction phase, Janice has created the ⁠Divorcing Religion organization⁠ (with a podcast Scott was a guest on) as well as the aforementioned Shameless Sexuality conference. Janice is also the author of ⁠Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook. ⁠The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In stark contrast to last episode's rundown of Purity Culture's anti-fun, anti-connection, anti-humanity madness, we talk about more recent trends of people trying to remain pure while finding loopholes to avoid sinning. And just like most of christian culture and lifestyle these days, it's fucking confusing.

Priska and Scott get spicy...well, as spicy as possible within the confines of purity culture...as they talk about their sexual awakenings. Even inside purity culture, curiosity and desire got stimulated, giving them a glimpse into sexual possibilities. From pop culture, movies, music, to their friends, sex and sexuality was on their minds, whether they wanted it to be or not. And as embarrassing or cringey as some of the stories are, Priska and Scott have learned to be gentle with their former selves as they navigated their way out. Hell, they're still navigating. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠⁠ Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠⁠ And join our ⁠⁠⁠⁠Discord Server⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more discussion and fun. Register for Content Warning here!

This week, Priska and Scott dive into marriages and intimate relationships, sharing their own experiences and talking about the harms done by purity culture that keep people from experiencing real connection and wholeness. We share some deeply personal stories and details of our own lives while unpacking all the trauma in general. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠ Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠ And join our ⁠⁠⁠Discord Server⁠⁠⁠ for more discussion and fun.

In this second episode, we're still introducing ourselves, and we compare our experiences as Asian Americans from different generations and in different kinds of churches. But there are still incredible similarities between our experiences...bad ones, mostly. Scott's experiences as a Gen X-er in the 80's was less intense than Priska's Millenial experiences in the 90's, but both were rife with guilt, shame, and racism. And sexism, of course. We basically tie it all together in this episode: race, gender, purity, and a struggle to find ourselves inside the christian world. We round up the episode with some observations about some AAPI christian churches, good and bad. This is the article Scott mentions about Korean Churches dealing with domestic violence. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠ Send us a message at ⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠ And join our ⁠Discord Server⁠ for more discussion and fun.