Established Family Podcast

Your marriage pain isn’t random.Every disruption, every cycle, every unanswered prayer — it’s not God ignoring you. It’s God positioning you.But here’s the hard truth most people don’t want to hear:👉 Without purification, there is no restoration.👉 Without holiness, there is no healing.👉 Without consecration, there is no Kingdom positioning.In this episode, we dive deep into:The 5 truths that expose when a marriage is out of position.Why a fractured soul (mind, will, emotions, morals) produces broken marriages.How the enemy exploits chaos to keep your covenant stuck in cycles.Why God uses disruption as love to pull you into consecration.The biblical foundation for why your marriage must be purified before it can be positioned for Kingdom work.This is not just about fixing fights or ending the pain. This is about becoming whole in Christ so your marriage can carry the anointing, calling, and assignment it was designed for.“Come close to God [with a contrite heart] and He will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” — James 4:8

Most people in the church, in counseling, and even in marriage ministries don’t realize the truth: DISC, Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and the Temperaments are not harmless tools—they are rooted in doctrines of demons.In this episode, I expose the origins of these popular personality systems and show you why they are so dangerous for marriages and families. These tests may look like “wisdom,” but their roots come from occult practices, pagan philosophy, and New Age mysticism.What’s at stake?— Your God-given identity.— Your covenant as husband and wife.— The Spirit-led fruit of your marriage.When spouses start identifying more with personality labels than with the image of Christ, they open the door for division, deception, and destruction. But God has called us to something higher: image-bearing, sonship, Spirit-led gifts, and Kingdom assignments.🔎 In this podcast, you’ll learn:The dark origins of DISC, Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and TemperamentsWhy these systems are infiltrating churches and counseling roomsThe biblical warning against doctrines of demons and false wisdomHow Satan steals identity to kill marriagesThe true way God defines His sons and daughtersThis is a counter-cultural teaching, but it’s one every marriage needs.

Marriage is under attack—and most husbands and wives were never taught how to fight for it.In this episode of Prophetic Spouses, Derek exposes the false foundations that have whitewashed marriages and calls spouses back to God’s prophetic design for covenant, order, and restoration.No one prepared you for the real demands of marriage. No one showed you how to engage in spiritual warfare for your family. No one taught you how to integrate your marriage into a community that calls you to God’s vision. But there is hope.👉 In this episode, we’ll cover:Why so many marriages are sick at the heart—and how God restores themWhat Ezekiel says about false peace and flimsy foundations (Ezekiel 13:10–12)How Satan uses marriage as the vehicle to attack your family and future generationsWhy God is restoring the five-fold gifts (apostle, prophet, teacher, evangelist, pastor) to marriagesThe prophetic promises over your marriage, your family, and your futureThis is not the time to be strong in your own power. This is the time to be humble, submitted, and filled with the Spirit of God. The prophetic call is clear:✅ Gospel-infused husbands✅ Gospel-infused wives✅ Gospel-infused marriagesYour marriage carries a prophetic promise—and when husbands and wives walk in unity and gifting, they don’t just change their homes…they shift the church, the region, and even nations.📖 Scriptures referenced:Ezekiel 13:10–12, 1 Timothy 1:18, 2 Corinthians 3:14–18, Ephesians 4:11–12

In this episode of Submission Part 2: Boundaries, Triggers & Traumas, we confront one of the greatest deceptions shaping marriages and families today.Our generation is obsessed with therapy trends, self-protection, and man-made fictions. We’ve traded God’s design for psychological language that soothes the flesh but never heals the spirit.👉 Full disclosure therapy leaves you suspicious instead of healed.👉 Generational “no-contact” preaches estrangement instead of honor.👉 Boundaries have become fortresses of fear instead of standards of righteousness.But here’s the truth:God did not design you with triggers.Boundaries without the Spirit are strongholds.Sons and daughters of God should not be governed by trauma, but moved by the Spirit.We are raising up a culture of believers discipled by psychology instead of transformed by Scripture—and it’s leaving homes out of order, marriages broken, and covenants without peace.In this episode we unpack:✅ Why boundaries are today’s language for strongholds✅ Why unclean spirits and fools are the only ones “triggered” in Scripture✅ How submission is about consecration, not control✅ How to stop studying your spouse’s sin and start walking in God’s peaceThis is a prophetic warning and encouragement: your boundaries are giving power to your spouse’s sin. But the blood of Jesus has the final word.📖 Key Scriptures: 2 Timothy 1:7, James 3:18, Proverbs 3:5–6, Galatians 5:16, Philippians 4:6–9, 2 Corinthians 10:4–5

Most Christian marriages aren’t stuck because of communication issues, intimacy struggles, or personality differences.They’re stuck because of disorder — rebellion against God’s design for marriage, leadership, submission, and covenant.In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable reality:You can’t pray for restoration while resisting the order God established for it.➔ If you’re still clinging to control, you’re fighting God.➔ If you’re manipulating outcomes, you’re delaying healing.➔ If you refuse submission to God’s design, you’re forfeiting the very breakthrough you’re asking for.We walk through how control and manipulation take root in marriages,how submission has been distorted by culture and religion,and why true biblical order is the key to deliverance, restoration, and generational blessing.You’ll learn:Why biblical submission isn’t about domination or silenceHow rebellion subtly hardens your heart (even when you think you’re "protecting" yourself)How disorder in your home invites chaos, strife, and spiritual strongholdsWhat it really means to walk in the power, strength, and covering of God’s orderIf you’re tired of surface-level advice…If you’re desperate to see real change in your marriage…If you’re ready to confront the spiritual roots that are holding you back—This episode is for you.🎙️ Listen now — and let the Holy Spirit open your eyes to the order that unlocks restoration.

Your marriage wasn’t designed to be fruitless, barren, or broken. But if it feels that way, you need to know this—the enemy has been working overtime to keep it that way.Satan blinds, seduces, and strangles marriages—stealing their spiritual sight, twisting their design, and keeping spouses trapped in cycles of strife, lack, and division. But God’s design has never changed.In this episode, we’re exposing the real spiritual war over your marriage and why so many couples stay stuck in deception, false judgment, and unrepentance. We'll uncover:🔥 How Satan steals spiritual sight to keep your marriage fruitless🔥 The danger of delayed repentance and why you can’t afford to wait🔥 How self-righteous judgment keeps you trapped in the old law🔥 The difference between barrenness and pruning—and what God is actually doing in your marriage🔥 Prophetic truth to break the enemy’s hold and restore God’s original designIf you’ve been pleading with God for breakthrough in your marriage but feel stuck, this episode is for you. It’s time to open your spiritual eyes, step into alignment with God’s design, and start bearing the fruit of righteousness.

Are You Labeling Your Spouse… Or Are They Spiritually Captured?We are living in the times that 2 Timothy 4:3-4 warned us about—where people reject sound doctrine in favor of teachings that satisfy their itching ears. And right now, Satan is gaslighting marriages with false labels.Many spouses believe they’re married to a narcissist, a Jezebel, or an Ahab—and while we won’t pretend these things don’t exist, we also won’t ignore the massive plague of deception surrounding these labels.The truth? Most spouses aren’t married to a narcissist. They’re married to a spiritually captured individual—governed by the flesh, deceived by unclean spirits, and lacking the wisdom, knowledge, and understanding of Christ.And if you’ve been exhausted in your stand for marriage restoration, it’s not because you’re standing—it’s because you’re accusing. Demonic work is tiring. Satan is using your therapists, pastors, friends, and biased research to keep you in accusation instead of intercession.In this episode, we expose the spiritual conditions behind destructive behavior in marriageDouble-mindedness – Divided in heart, torn between flesh and spiritHardened hearts – Spiritually blind, calloused, and resistant to truthDull minds – Losing the ability to discern and understandDivided sight – Operating in deception rather than clarityUsing Scripture, spiritual wisdom, and years of marriage coaching, we break down why these conditions are fueling marital destruction—and why the solution isn’t a worldly label, but the power of God to deliver, disciple, and restore.This episode will challenge you. But if you’re ready to stop using Satan’s blueprint and start walking in biblical restoration, healing, and breakthrough, listen now.👉 Need personal guidance? Work with us at EstablishedCoaching.com👉 Join our Marriage Revival Hub for ongoing discipleship at MarriageRevivalHub.com

Is God ignoring your spouse’s sin, or are you still living under the old law? Many believers are unknowingly governed by the law—trained to look for what is wrong, what is missing, and what is not being upheld. This mindset fuels hyper-vigilance, hyper-criticism, and hyper-legalism, leaving many feeling exhausted, anxious, and spiritually stuck.In this episode, we unpack how the law blinds you from what God is resurrecting, how spiritual discernment is necessary to see beyond the surface, and why transformation in marriage requires stepping into the new covenant. Through scripture and practical insight, we challenge the mindset that keeps marriages in bondage and explore how to walk in the Spirit, not the letter of the law.Scriptures referenced: 1 Corinthians 15:56-57, 2 Corinthians 3:14-18, Galatians 2:19, Romans 7:6, Romans 8:14-17, James 3:13-18, and more.For more resources on marriage restoration, visit MarriageRevivalHub.com.

Breaking Stubborn Strongholds in MarriageIn Season 2, Episode 2 of The Established Family Podcast, we tackle the topic of breaking the strongholds that affect every aspect of our lives—from our own minds and marriages to our families and future generations. This episode unpacks how false authority and entrenched spiritual deceptions create these fortresses and why many fail to recognize the need for active participation in dismantling them.Drawing on powerful biblical passages (such as Psalm 18:2, Psalm 27:1, 2 Samuel 22:2-3, and 2 Corinthians 10:4) and the teachings of Jesus in Matthew 12:29, we explore:How to distinguish between the symptoms of sin and the underlying stronghold.Practical steps for walking in truth, repentance, obedience, and spiritual maturity.The importance of aligning with God—the true stronghold—to overcome every obstacle.Whether you’re facing recurring challenges in your marriage or seeking deeper spiritual renewal, this episode offers practical insights and encouragement to break free and experience lasting restoration.

What if your stand for marriage isn’t as Godly as you think?Many spouses believe they’re standing in faith, waiting for God to restore their marriage—praying, repenting, and holding on. But what if faith alone isn’t enough? What if your stand has become an idol? What if your obedience is incomplete?In this episode, we’re breaking down the hidden dangers of standing for your marriage the wrong way. We’ll expose false stands that look spiritual but are actually rooted in disobedience, fear, and self-preservation. We’ll walk through biblical examples of people who thought they were following God but were actually resisting His will—and how to avoid making the same mistakes in your marriage restoration journey.This is the season of faithful standing—the kind that produces real fruit. But that requires more than hope. It requires action. It requires obedience. It requires truth.⚡ If you're serious about standing the right way, join the Marriage Revival Hub now at MarriageRevivalHub.com. Inside, you’ll find masterclasses, teachings, and a community of spouses fighting for marriage restoration the right way—with wisdom, discernment, and strategy.

In this episode, we dive deep into the spiritual and emotional void that many marriages experience when spouses fail to live according to God’s design. We explore how missing moments, unmet expectations, and brokenness create a painful gap—leaving spouses confused, hurt, and struggling to find healing. Through biblical truths, we’ll uncover how this “void” isn’t just about what was done wrong, but about who we were meant to be for one another. We’ll also confront the dangers of willful blindness, hardened hearts, and spiritual laws. Are you unknowingly living from a place of hurt and unforgiveness? Are you missing the moments that matter most in your marriage? Together, we’ll examine how personal responsibility, humility, and submission to God’s simple spiritual laws can lead to true restoration. Can't wait to hear your feedback fam!

Idolizing Your Marriage Leads to Brokenness and Adopting the World's False Labels In this powerful episode of The Established Family Podcast, we confront a dangerous pattern that is tearing marriages apart: ..."idolizing your spouse and adopting the world’s false labels for sin." When we place our spouse or marriage on a pedestal, we set ourselves up for disappointment and brokenness. Worse yet, the world often offers counterfeit solutions, giving sin new names and labels that sound helpful but only keep us stuck. Join me as we explore: Why relying on worldly labels like "spousal neglect" or "narcissism" can be spiritually damaging. The truth behind false idols such as therapists, self-help books, and even church leaders. The spiritual implications of placing anything above God’s design for your marriage. How codependency on your spouse or worldly solutions hinders true healing and growth. Why only God’s promises can free you from the destructive cycles in your marriage. Scriptural References: Acts 28:26-27 – “You will keep on hearing, but will not understand...” Romans 8:6 – “For the mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.” Proverbs 3:5 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” If you're tired of searching for healing in all the wrong places, this episode will help you realign your heart and mind to God's truth and design. Let’s break free from the labels and idols that keep us in bondage and embrace the spiritual clarity needed for restoration.

In this episode, we dive deep into what active restoration and waiting look like in marriage. Just like in health and fitness, where active recovery is essential for progress, the same applies to your relationship. If you're passively waiting for change, you're missing the key to true healing and restoration. We’ll unpack how a lack of urgency is rooted in a lack of peace, and how this leads to anxiety, misfocus, and prayerlessness. Using the powerful formula found in Philippians 4:4-9, we’ll show you how to align your heart with God’s peace and embrace Godly urgency for your marriage. Are you stuck between wanting change but not fully turning your heart to God? If so, this episode will reveal why restoration is delayed and why you’re still battling the same issues. We'll dismantle the false peace the enemy offers and help you rediscover true peace—peace that leads to action, urgency, and real progress in your marriage. We’ll also explore Nehemiah’s story of rebuilding the broken walls and how his God-given burden and urgency offer a blueprint for restoring your marriage. You’re called to restore, but first, you need to stop running from pain and start moving toward true peace and purpose. If you want to break the cycle of destruction in your marriage and walk in Godly urgency, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of the "manufactured marriage"—a relationship built on soothing mechanisms and surface-level appearances rather than God's true design for covenant and purpose. Are you merely creating an illusion of family without building a true foundation? Discover how we often use marriage to soothe our pain, boredom, and addictions, missing the deeper calling God has for us. We'll explore the scriptural truths that reveal how God's purpose for marriage goes beyond self-serving desires and moves us into a life of purpose, leadership, and spiritual growth. Join us as we unpack the difference between a manufactured marriage and a covenant marriage designed by God. Learn how to break the cycle of superficial living and embrace the true fear of the Lord, humility, and anointing that leads to a fulfilling, purpose-driven marriage. Key Scriptures: Joshua 1:13-15 - Finding rest and purpose in God's promises 1 John 2:27 - Being taught by the anointing James 1:14-15 - Understanding the dangers of being taught by our flesh James 3:16 - The consequences of jealousy and selfish ambition Topics Covered: Identifying the signs of a manufactured marriage God's purpose for marriage and why it's not just about us The Fear Triangle: Understanding the role of fear in your marriage How to move from chaos and destruction to God’s design and purpose Don't miss this transformative episode that challenges you to break free from a life of manufactured marriage and step into the true covenant God intended for you and your spouse.

In this episode of The Established Family Show, we dive deep into the heart of what restoration truly means in the context of marriage. For many, the pain and trauma of a broken relationship can feel overwhelming, but God’s plan for your marriage goes beyond the trauma you’ve experienced. Restoration is more than just fixing what's broken—it’s about reclaiming what God originally designed for your marriage. We explore biblical truths that redefine restoration: the call to return, to make new, to rebuild from the ashes. Through personal stories and scripture, we’ll unpack how many of us have settled for managing the symptoms of dysfunction, when God is calling us to something deeper—complete healing and freedom from spiritual strongholds. We’ll discuss: How to recognize when your marriage has become an idol The difference between God’s restoration and our own version of it How trauma can blind us from seeing God’s true plan for healing Why restoration requires action and spiritual movement, not just waiting and praying The steps to reclaim the "land" that is your marriage and move forward in God’s promise If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of dysfunction or simply praying for change, this episode will challenge you to take the next step in reclaiming your marriage and walking in true restoration.

In this first episode of The Established Family Show, we confront a difficult but necessary truth: your marriage isn't too broken for God to restore—it’s captured. Together, we’ll uncover the spiritual strongholds that have led to the destruction and dysfunction in your home. Using biblical principles and Hebrew word pictures, we’ll show how captivity is a spiritual battle that stems from giving access to the enemy. You’ll learn to reframe the brokenness, identify the root cause of your marriage struggles, and recognize the symptoms of a house divided. We dive deep into scriptures like 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 and Luke 11:17 to help you understand that God offers freedom and restoration—but it starts with acknowledging the captivity. In this episode, we’ll explore: How legalism, ultimatums, and demands block restoration. The difference between normal as defined by God’s covenant versus what the enemy wants you to believe. The process of breaking down strongholds and renouncing the lies that have kept you and your spouse trapped. It's time to reclaim your home, walk in God’s design for marriage, and move from brokenness to restoration. Plus, listen to learn how you can receive our free ebook, From Conflict to Connection, by leaving a review!

In this episode, we talk about the rise of false brides in the church, the danger of false stands in marriage, and the spiritual deception that’s entering homes under the disguise of faith. Many believers have received salvation, but they’re building their marriages in their own name instead of God’s.This message will shake every spouse who’s praying for restoration but standing from the wrong posture. It’s a prophetic warning for those who are tolerating compromise, idolatry, and self-righteousness — in the name of “waiting on God.”🔥 Topics Covered:The difference between the Designed Divide and the False DivideHow the Refiner’s Fire exposes what was built on the wrong foundationWhy your heart can make you just as guilty as your spouseHow to discern when your “stand” has turned into idolatryThe Hebrew word pictures behind fire, man, woman, and warWhy the church is being infiltrated by false brides and false doctrines📖 Scriptures:1 Corinthians 3 • Luke 13 • Malachi 3 • Isaiah 46 • Matthew 25

The Church is failing marriages...but marriages are also failing the Church.We’ve watched believers show up for service, serve faithfully, tithe consistently and still live in bondage. Why?Because the modern church looks alive, but carries no authority.And marriages keep feeding that same system with unhealed hearts, unbroken pride, and unrepentant patterns.In this episode, Derek breaks down what Jesus actually came to build.He didn’t say, “I’ll build My synagogue.”He said, “I’ll build My ekklesia.”The ekklesia isn’t a building.It’s a governing body of called-out ones, sons and daughters walking in covenant, carrying authority, and legislating heaven’s rule on earth.We expose why so many churches today are spiritually dead:— They avoid deliverance.— They lack discipleship.— They place people in leadership without accountability.— They hide behind programs and personality tests instead of repentance and transformation.But we also confront how marriages have failed the Church, by bringing unclean, undelivered, divided temples into the house of God and expecting revival to come from a place we refuse to purify.This is a call to return.To understand what it means to be the Bride.Because God isn’t just healing your marriage…He’s healing His ekklesia through your marriage.

If you’ve been praying for restoration, fasting, forgiving, and still feel like nothing is changing, this episode will help you understand why. Many spouses want breakthrough in marriage but have never actually encountered God. Without an encounter, we stay bound to the same cycles—bitterness, offense, pride, self-righteousness, and unbelief.This conversation exposes what really keeps couples from transformation. It’s not always the spouse who walked away, filed for divorce, or stopped communicating. Sometimes the real barrier is unrepentant sin, tolerated compromise, or the refusal to let God confront the parts of us that still produce the fruit of the curse.Scripture shows that when bitterness takes root, it defiles everything it touches (Hebrews 12:14–15). When self-protection replaces surrender, we trade the fear of the Lord for the preservation of self. And when we reject rebuke, we also reject the wisdom that could have saved the marriage.This is not about another strategy or technique for communication—it’s about allowing the Holy Spirit to bring transformation through encounter. Because once you truly meet the living God, you don’t just change your perspective on marriage—you change your nature.If you’ve reached the end of your strength and still desire to see your covenant restored, it may be time to stop asking for relief and start crying out for encounter.

In the final installment of The Jezebel Series, we’re diving deep into the emotional, mental, and spiritual dynamics that destroy marriages and uncovering the biblical blueprint for restoration. This episode is not just about recognizing what’s broken—it’s about contrasting it with God’s perfect design for marriage and family. We’ll press on the uncomfortable truths and challenge the lies that keep you bound: What is unhealed. What is abnormal. What is under the curse. If you’ve been defensive, blame-shifting, or dismissing hard truths in your marriage, it’s time to compare the condition of your soul to what scripture says about God’s design for restoration. Because restoration isn’t about returning to brokenness or cycles of dysfunction—it’s about returning to covenant. With a prayer inspired by Paul’s letter to the Colossians, we’ll guide you through how to realign with God’s will for your life, walk in moral courage and personal integrity, and uproot the lies of the enemy. Let’s take an account of where our hearts and homes stand and declare freedom from the curses of domination, apathy, and narcissism that threaten to steal your legacy. CTA: Ready to break the strongholds of Jezebel and Ahab in your marriage? Download "The Jezebel Effect: Destroying the Strongholds of Domination, Apathy, and Narcissism in Marriage" today. This ebook will equip you with the tools, prayers, and spiritual wisdom to overcome these battles and restore your marriage to God’s original design. https://access.establishedfamily.com/offers/BehggTiZ