What Lies Buried: Uncovering Abuse with Karly Latham

Join host Karly Latham in another gripping episode of What Lies Buried, where we dive deep into the shadows of trauma. This week, an anonymous guest returns to explore the emotional rollercoaster of shadow work, uncovering core beliefs tied to childhood abandonment. As the conversation unfolds, listeners are invited to reflect on their own trauma responses, learning how to self-soothe and advocate for their needs. Through candid discussions and tarot-guided insights, this episode highlights the journey from feeling trapped by past wounds to embracing self-care and validation. Discover the power of giving voice to inner emotions and harness the strength to move forward with clarity and confidence. Tune in to witness the transformative process of healing and growth as we learn to speak our truth and feel our feelings. Highlights of the Episode: Understanding Abandonment: Discover how childhood emotional neglect can shape core beliefs and manifest in adult struggles, from decision-making to fear of disappointing others. Healing Through Shadow Work: Learn how shadow work can help survivors reclaim their voices, challenge limiting beliefs, and embrace their inner authority. Practical Tools for Growth: Explore actionable steps like meditation, automatic writing, and cord-cutting rituals to foster self-connection and empowerment. Celebrating Progress: Uncover how recognizing and celebrating small wins can help rewrite narratives of worthiness and self-care. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of resilience, self-discovery, and the journey to healing. Whether you're navigating your own shadow work or looking for inspiration, this conversation is sure to resonate. ✨ Resources Mentioned: Book a Shadow Work Session: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch Follow Karly on Instagram: @karly.latham Follow What Lies Buried Podcast on Instagram @what_lies_buried_podcast 🎙 About the Podcast: What Lies Buried is a safe space for abuse survivors to share their stories and find paths toward healing. Each week, Karly hosts raw and honest conversations that inspire connection and recovery. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review! Sharing your feedback helps this podcast reach others who may need it. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham 

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham converses with an anonymous guest recounting their experience growing up in a multigenerational home with severe emotional abuse from their mother. The guest reveals how they first perceived their family's toxic dynamics as normal, only realizing the dysfunction upon exposure to others' family environments. The conversation delves into the mother's extreme behaviors, including manipulative tactics, physical abuse threats, and the significant impact on the guest's self-worth and decision-making abilities. The episode explores themes of learned behavior, generational trauma, and the healing journey through therapy and establishing personal boundaries. Ultimately, the guest shares their gradual empowerment and reclamation of autonomy, highlighting the importance of self-discovery and breaking free from toxic familial patterns.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/    Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.    If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10    For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham    To book a tarot session with me: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch       00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:05 Meet the Guest: A Multi-Generational Trauma Survivor 02:34 Realizing the Abnormal: High School Revelations 04:56 College and the Awakening of Self 05:47 The Toxic Family Bubble 07:53 The Weight of Unspoken Abuse 09:41 The Struggle for Independence 11:34 The Mask of Normalcy 14:26 Breaking the Cycle: Therapy and Self-Discovery 17:20 The Burden of Family Secrets 19:21 The Path to Autonomy 23:34 The Push for Freedom 53:06 Escaping a Volatile Environment 53:50 Generational Trauma and Family Dynamics 55:56 Inheritance and Family Conflict 58:55 Standing Up for Myself 01:01:58 Breaking Free from Abuse 01:15:12 The Healing Journey 01:18:14 Therapy and Self-Discovery 01:21:32 Rebuilding Relationships and Self-Worth 01:29:28 Navigating Triggers and Emotional Growth 01:35:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, Karly, the Village Tarot Witch, shares her deeply personal journey of identity and change. Karly reflects on her experiences with hypnotherapy at HMI College, seeking to pivot her career and rediscover her true self amidst battling PTSD and a range of changes in her life. She elaborates on six major areas of change—career, finances, loss of a loved one, relationship shifts, physical body changes, and environmental changes—revealing her struggles and fears associated with these transformations. Karly discusses her plan to separate her advocacy work from her personal branding and reclaims her identity as the Village Tarot Witch. She emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and understanding, using tarot to navigate her fears and insecurities. Tune in to follow Karly's raw, heartfelt journey of self-discovery and healing.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/    Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.    If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10    For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham    To book a tarot session with me: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch     00:00 Introduction and Personal Changes 01:42 Understanding the Fear of Change 03:18 The Six Big Change Categories 06:17 Identity and Rejection Wounds 09:36 Struggles with Acceptance and Identity 15:04 Facing the Fear of Change 19:49 Unveiling the Fear of Change 21:10 Embracing Professionalism and Authenticity 23:46 Struggles with Religious Trauma 26:05 Navigating Personal and Professional Identity 27:10 Hypnotherapy and Self-Discovery 32:51 Tarot Insights and Personal Growth 41:02 Healing is a Bitch: New Beginnings

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham sits down again with Lucas, a returning guest, to discuss his personal journey through emotional abuse and healing. Lucas shares updates on his life since his last appearance, revealing impactful changes in his relationships and career. Karly guides Lucas through a shadow work session using tarot and oracle cards to explore themes of growth, self-discovery, and breaking free from past cycles. This episode serves as a reflective and insightful conversation on healing from trauma and embracing new beginnings.   Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.    If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  To book a session with me: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10    For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham        00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 Welcoming Lucas Back 02:17 Lucas's Personal Journey 04:52 Shadow Work Session Begins 06:43 Tarot Card Insights 19:09 Reflections and Realizations 23:58 Exploring New Beginnings 24:18 Embracing New Passions 24:25 Facing the Unknown 25:59 Exploring Creative Outlets 27:48 Overcoming Self-Doubt 29:22 Self-Care and Generosity 31:54 Healing Past Wounds 40:56 Art as Self-Expression 48:24 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In this gripping episode of "What Lies Buried," host Karly Latham welcomes guest Lucas to share a harrowing account of surviving emotional and physical abuse within his family. Lucas opens up about the chilling experiences of being the scapegoat in a household marred by narcissism, alcoholism, and neglect. From a haunting childhood of isolation to discovering hidden family secrets, Lucas recounts his journey of breaking free from the toxic family dynamic. Join Karly and Lucas as they delve into the complexities of growing up in an environment of gaslighting and manipulation, where even basic affection was denied. Lucas reveals how he overcame the curse of his family's legacy, found strength in therapy, and ultimately chose to sever ties to prioritize his own well-being. This episode offers a raw and honest exploration of healing, resilience, and the power of self-discovery. For those who have faced similar battles, Lucas provides insight into navigating estrangement and emphasizes the importance of trusting oneself and seeking support. Tune in for a powerful conversation that sheds light on the unseen struggles of many and offers hope for breaking the cycle of abuse.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/    Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.    If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10    For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham      00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:00 Meet Today's Guest: Lucas 02:08 Lucas' Childhood Memories 03:14 Struggles with ADHD and Family Dynamics 05:56 Parental Neglect and Abuse 31:10 Isolation and Bullying 41:43 Struggles with Hearing Loss 43:19 Neglect and Emotional Abuse 44:37 Challenges in Education 45:58 Pursuing Art and Facing Doubts 54:05 Financial Manipulation and Control 58:33 Breaking Free and Seeking Validation 01:05:03 Family Dynamics and Realizations 01:07:51 Confronting Parental Abuse 01:18:13 The Hidden Nature of Abuse 01:18:24 Impact of a Father's Words 01:18:56 Family Tragedy and Unresolved Grief 01:20:49 The Weight of Unspoken Trauma 01:23:15 A Mother's Struggle and Its Effects 01:30:43 Breaking the Family Curse 01:34:06 The Journey of Estrangement 01:38:39 Therapy and Self-Realization 01:55:42 Advice for Those in Similar Situations 01:57:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of "What Lies Buried," host Karly Latham invites listeners to explore the depths of emotional trauma through a personal shadow work session. Karly shares her own journey of healing, offering insights into the subconscious patterns that keep us stuck and the importance of self-love and self-discovery. As Karly delves into her tarot card readings, she uncovers past wounds, the impact of manipulation, and the longing for validation. Through candid reflections, Karly reveals her struggles and triumphs, highlighting the power of acknowledging pain and celebrating personal growth. Listeners are encouraged to join Karly in this transformative practice, using prompts and introspective thinking to uncover their own truths. This episode is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and a reminder that healing is a journey we don't have to take alone. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/    Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch Book a shadow work session with me! If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10    For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 00:59 New Format Announcement 02:22 Understanding Shadow Work 05:43 Shadow Work Spread: Uncovering Past Wounds 09:48 Manipulation and Self-Worth 12:48 Seeking Validation and Approval 17:16 Healing Beliefs and Reclaiming Truth 23:55 Creating Healthy Boundaries 26:35 Strengths to Rebuild with Confidence 29:53 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham introduces a special Halloween-themed story from the anthology 'Six Troubles, Seven Sins,' read by Daryl. Though fictional, it is deeply based on Karly's personal experiences with emotional abuse. The narrative delves into the twisted mind of Jeremy, a man who becomes increasingly obsessed and violent towards his partner after she leaves him due to his continuous lies and emotional manipulation. As the story unfolds, Jeremy's desperation and the sinister 'thing' inside him reveal the disturbing extent of his abusive behavior. The episode concludes with a reminder for survivors to reach out and share their stories safely.   To support indie authors like me and read more horror stories, please buy a copy of Six Troubles, Seven Sins. Available on Amazon: https://a.co/d/9QjmdHt    Special thank you to Darrell for narrating. If you would like to contact Darrell for voice services, you can find him at: https://www.instagram.com/mr_wayne_the_knight78?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.    If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:10 Karly's Halloween Special 02:14 A Terrifying Tale Begins 06:14 Descent into Obsession 11:15 Desperation and Manipulation 14:52 The Agony of Rejection 22:07 A Plea for Redemption 25:10 Confrontation and Accusations 25:56 Desperation and Denial 27:48 Attempts at Reconciliation 29:40 Breaking Point 31:42 Descent into Madness 33:49 Stalking and Confrontation 43:02 Violence and Arrest 48:34 Aftermath and Reflection 49:44 Podcast Outro and Support

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham steps away from typical storylines to explore shadow work amidst her challenging divorce. Karly explains shadow work, a process that helps emotional abuse survivors integrate repressed emotions and beliefs and demonstrates this with a tarot card reading. By pulling cards like the Ten of Pentacles, Eight of Cups, and Nine of Swords, she identifies her support systems, hidden aspects due to past trauma, and anxieties that hinder her potential. Through personal stories of overcoming emotional abuse and striving for self-sufficiency, Karly guides listeners to process their hidden emotions and traumas, inviting them to reflect on their own journeys.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham      00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 A Personal Update from Karly 02:04 Exploring Shadow Work 05:52 The Survivor Card 07:22 The Fear Card 10:12 The Support System Card 10:22 Acknowledging My Support System 11:16 The Mask: Hidden Aspects of Myself 13:45 Facing My Fears: The Confrontation 15:27 Transforming Weaknesses into Strengths 19:20 The Final Girl: My Ultimate Goal 20:08 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

In this chilling episode of What Lies Buried, Karly Latham hosts her friend Joy, shedding light on her traumatic childhood marked by emotional and physical abuse from her father. The episode details Joy's survival in an unpredictable and abusive household, her family's perilous attempts to escape, and the courage it took to intervene and save her mother during a violent incident. The narrative explores the impact of domestic violence, the systemic issues in addressing such cases, and Joy's eventual journey to the UK where she began healing through therapy. The story is a testament to resilience, the importance of support systems, and the empowerment found in strategic planning and self-defense. Listeners are provided with practical advice for escaping dangerous situations and finding strength in vulnerability.     If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham      00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:21 Highlighting Different Types of Abuse 02:06 Introducing Joy: A Story of Parental Abuse 02:49 Joy's Early Childhood: A Mix of Love and Fear 04:10 The Dual Nature of Joy's Father 05:46 The Turning Point: Recognizing the Red Flags 07:09 The Impact of Control and Fear 09:49 Dark Humor as a Coping Mechanism 10:07 Joy's School Years: The Beginning of Realization 37:12 The Hidden Horrors: Joy's Secret Diaries 46:35 The Reality of Escaping Abuse 47:08 Financial and Religious Constraints 47:38 The Role of Women in Conservative Christianity 50:39 The Illusion of Choice in Abusive Relationships 52:44 The Danger of Leaving an Abuser 54:45 The Escalation of Abuse 58:17 The Breaking Point 01:08:29 A Mother's Enabling and a Daughter's Desperation 01:10:30 The Final Confrontation 01:26:18 The Urgency to Escape 01:27:16 Seeking Help from Neighbors 01:29:17 A Heroic Teacher's Aid 01:31:07 Legal and Emotional Battles 01:34:30 Family Dynamics and Gaslighting 01:39:55 Health Crisis and Continued Threats 01:56:16 The Importance of Therapy and Healing 02:02:20 Final Reflections and Advice

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham speaks with an anonymous guest who bravely shares her story of emotional abuse perpetrated by her partner, who struggled with addiction. The guest describes how her relationship, which began during a vulnerable period in her life, transitioned from charming to controlling and abusive. Key elements of the narrative include the partner's manipulative and deceitful tactics, such as love bombing, gaslighting, and isolating her from friends and family, alongside his use of ketamine and alcohol. The guest highlights the complex dynamics of abuse, including the psychological manipulation and the difficult realization that she was being targeted. The episode underscores the importance of trusting one's instincts, seeking professional guidance, and recognizing the red flags of abuse and addiction. It offers valuable insights into the cycle of abuse, the impact on mental health, and how survivors can begin to heal and reclaim their autonomy after leaving an abusive relationship.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham          00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 First Guest from Across the Pond 01:50 The Beginning of the Relationship 04:41 Red Flags and Addictions 10:28 Escalation and Realization 16:02 The Cycle of Abuse 30:37 The Child's Perspective 35:48 The Struggle to Leave 36:49 Valentine's Day Roller Disco 37:52 A Public Confrontation 39:54 The Breaking Point 43:52 Seeking Help and Taking Action 47:52 Reflection and Recovery 51:50 Learning to Trust Again 01:00:36 Final Thoughts and Advice 01:09:31 Conclusion and Support

Join host Karly Latham in this compelling episode of "What Lies Buried," where we delve into the real and raw stories of emotional abuse survivors. This week, Karly welcomes Melissa Doogie Spires, a former Seventh-day Adventist, who shares her journey of leaving the church and dealing with the long-lasting effects of religious control. Melissa recounts her experiences growing up in a high-demand religion, the church's imposed behavioral controls, and her challenges in breaking free. Together, Karly and Melissa explore the striking similarities between Seventh-day Adventists and Mormons, highlighting the mind control and social pressures that shape their followers' lives. As they discuss the parallels between religious indoctrination and emotional abuse, listeners will gain insights into the struggles of deconstructing one's faith and rebuilding a life of personal empowerment. This episode sheds light on the hidden truths of religious control and offers a safe space for survivors to share their stories. Don't miss this eye-opening conversation, which will uncover the truth buried beneath the lies and inspire a path toward healing and self-discovery. Stay involved with Melissa's advocacy efforts: https://www.instagram.com/the.glory.whole/ If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:21 Exploring Religious Abuse 01:42 Guest Introduction: Melissa Doogie Spires 02:02 Leaving the Church: Personal Experiences 02:40 Behavioral Controls in Religious Upbringings 04:25 Comparing Mormonism and Seventh-day Adventism 04:46 The Origins and History of Seventh-day Adventism 09:09 The Impact of Dietary Rules and Lifestyle Controls 11:53 Navigating Life Outside the Church 23:43 The Role of Women in High-Demand Religions 39:22 Navigating Family Discomfort with PTSD 40:38 Exploring Financial Abuse and Cognitive Dissonance 42:08 Impact of Religious Upbringing on Emotional Expression 43:14 Struggles with Eating Disorders and Seeking Help 44:28 Normalizing Toxic Relationships 46:48 The Pressure to Maintain a Perfect Appearance 50:59 Exhaustion as a Control Tactic in Religion and Relationships 53:10 Escaping and Deconstructing Abusive Relationships 01:07:24 Writing and Sharing Stories of Religious Trauma 01:15:08 Conclusion and Call to Action    

In this intense episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham examines the harrowing story of an anonymous guest's experience with emotional abuse. The narrative begins with an unstable relationship with Dylan before delving deeper into a complex and deceitful relationship with Nathan. The guest describes highs of affection and love, sharply contrasted by Nathan's deceit, infidelity, and financial manipulation, culminating in revelations of his multiple affairs. The story concludes with the guest's courageous decision to start afresh, leaning on her support system and forming bonds with other victims. Karly provides a vital platform for sharing these isolating experiences, drawing attention to common patterns of emotional abuse and emphasizing the importance of self-belief and emotional support in recovery.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest please schedule with this link: https://calendly.com/thevillagetarotwitch/what-lies-buried-podcast-interview?preview_source=et_card&month=2024-10  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham      00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:22 Patterns in Emotionally Abusive Relationships 01:56 Guest's Story: The Relationship with Dylan 04:32 The Breakup and Aftermath 06:09 Meeting Nathan: A New Beginning 13:11 The Honeymoon Phase with Nathan 18:49 Red Flags and Relationship Dynamics 31:43 Living Together and Financial Struggles 38:32 Nathan's New Friend Sarah 42:56 Questioning the Relationship 44:19 The European Vacation 46:30 The Breakup Bombshell 52:36 Pandemic Separation 55:58 Birthday Revelations 01:10:04 False Promises and Moving On 01:27:21 New Beginnings and Reflections 01:27:53 Meeting Jeremy and Making It Official 01:28:21 Nathan's Unexpected Reaction 01:30:14 Navigating a New Relationship 01:31:42 Nathan's Art Show and New Connections 01:33:54 Concert Encounter with Colleen 01:36:40 Discovering Nathan's Deception 01:49:08 Confronting the Truth 02:03:44 Reflecting on the Experience 02:05:47 Final Thoughts and Advice

In this gripping episode of What Lies Buried, host Karly Latham welcomes Allison Baxley, a talented writer from Medium, to share her harrowing experience with emotional and sexual abuse within a 22-year marriage. Allison bravely recounts the escalating abuse, the financial control, and the horrifying moments that led her to realize she was a victim of marital rape. Through Allison's story, listeners will gain insight into the complexities of abuse, the courage it takes to leave, and the importance of recognizing and addressing emotional and psychological manipulation. This episode is a powerful reminder that support and justice are crucial for survivors. Trigger Warning: This episode discusses themes of abuse, including sexual coercion and domestic violence, which may be triggering for some listeners. Please proceed with caution. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com  https://medium.com/@baxleyallisonw Allison Baxley on Medium  https://medium.com/@karly-latham/sexual-coercion-e643a72b197f Sexual Coercion article  00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 Meet Allison Baxley: A Story of Escalating Abuse 03:33 Financial Control and Emotional Manipulation 07:51 Realization and Recognition of Domestic Violence 12:38 Sexual Coercion and Marital Rape 19:44 The Struggle for Autonomy and Peace 37:27 The Decision to Seek Justice 47:36 Discovering the Deleted Email 50:09 Family Vacation Nightmare 52:18 Revealing the Abuse to Friends and Family 54:21 Deciding to Leave 01:09:18 The Healing Journey Begins 01:11:11 Therapeutic Techniques and Hypnosis 01:26:16 Final Words and Advice          

Welcome to What Lies Buried, where host Karly Latham delves into the raw and real stories of emotional abuse survivors. This week's episode is a compelling follow-up with Tonya, who shares the early stages of her relationship, the impact of a hyper-religious environment, and the unraveling of her marriage. From meeting at a conservative Catholic university to navigating a marriage filled with concealed secrets and financial betrayals, Tonya reveals the emotional and psychological turmoil she endured. A survivor who recounts her experiences of betrayal, financial ruin, and eventual healing after a tumultuous marriage at an ultra-conservative Catholic university. Additionally, two mothers share their poignant stories of co-parenting post-divorce, navigating emotional challenges, and fostering resilience in their children. The discussions underscore the importance of self-discovery, therapy, and supportive relationships in overcoming trauma and rebuilding a nurturing environment for personal and familial growth. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham        00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:20 Tonya's Early Relationship and College Life 08:23 Marriage and Early Challenges 09:27 Struggles with Family Planning and Health 12:42 The Beginning of the End 15:39 Vacation Tensions and Medication Issues 44:42 Discovering Financial Betrayal 45:43 Unraveling the Debt 46:43 Facing Foreclosure and Repossession 48:44 The Aftermath of Separation 51:11 Struggles of Co-Parenting 58:19 New Beginnings with Josh 01:03:23 The Pain of Abandonment 01:09:11 Moving Forward and Healing 01:23:47 Final Thoughts and Advice

In this powerful episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham and guests Kurstin and Tonya bravely share their personal stories of emotional and financial abuse within their former high-demand religious communities. As ex-Mormons and a former devout Catholic, they reveal the systemic pressures that facilitated mistreatment and perpetuated cycles of guilt and shame. The episode discusses their journeys of leaving their faiths, the complexities of managing household finances, and the trauma of financial mismanagement discovered post-separation. Challenges such as single parenting and finding self-worth are explored alongside the importance of building a supportive network. Trigger warnings for themes of emotional and religious abuse are provided.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:17 Special Episode: Ex-Mormon Round Table 02:43 Personal Stories of Emotional Abuse 05:10 The Pressure to Conform in Religious Communities 08:08 Sexual Expectations and Marital Struggles 10:36 The Burden of Religious Guilt 13:54 Breaking Free and Finding Support 17:27 Reflecting on Past Relationships 48:17 Cognitive Dissonance in High-Demand Religions 48:44 Recognizing Emotional Abuse 49:56 Gendered Expectations and Patriarchy 51:35 The Burden of Household Responsibilities 59:41 Struggles of Leaving a Toxic Marriage 01:12:46 Financial Abuse and Control 01:33:46 The Fear of Being Alone 01:35:28 Final Thoughts and Advice

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham has a candid conversation with her friend Kurstin, who reveals her deeply personal experiences of emotional abuse within a toxic marriage. Their discussion highlights the influence of their Mormon upbringing on their relationships and Kurstin's struggle with manipulation and isolation. They explore the taboo of divorce in their faith, the psychological impact of staying in an unhealthy relationship, and the eventual empowerment Kurstin found in reclaiming her life. Her story offers profound insights and encouragement for those facing similar challenges, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and the strength required to pursue happiness and freedom.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health, https://medium.com/@karly-latham      00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 Upcoming Episodes and Guest Introduction 01:52 Kurstin's Story: Religious Upbringing and Marriage 03:09 Struggles and Realizations in Marriage 06:09 Emotional Abuse and Breaking Points 13:45 The Decision to Divorce 42:43 The Stigma of Divorce in the Mormon Church 44:19 Struggles and Personal Losses 45:41 Separation and the Fight for Independence 46:11 Rediscovering Self-Worth Through Modeling 47:06 Confronting the Emotional Manipulation 49:42 The Legal Battle and Emotional Turmoil 51:02 Family Dynamics and Support Systems 54:58 Breaking Free from an Abusive Relationship 01:10:19 Post-Divorce Healing and Self-Discovery 01:17:28 Final Thoughts and Advice

In this revealing episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham converses with an anonymous guest about their painful experience in a manipulative and emotionally abusive 'situationship.' The discussion touches on themes such as breadcrumbing, love bombing, sexual coercion, and stalking, illustrating the complex dynamics and red flags prevalent in abusive relationships. The episode highlights how the guest was initially groomed and betrayed by a manipulative individual, their connection with other victims, and their journey toward healing. Emphasizing the importance of therapy, self-worth, and support systems, the conversation gives listeners insights on recognizing abuse, listening to intuition, and making safety plans. The episode concludes with encouraging advice on self-love, healing, and rediscovering joy and trust after trauma while also cautioning listeners on the triggering themes discussed.   Sexual Coercion article: https://medium.com/@karly-latham/sexual-coercion-e643a72b197f    If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes, please write to karlyr.latham@gmail.com  For in-depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham        00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:16 Guest Introduction and Initial Story 02:55 The Situationship Unfolds 05:22 Red Flags and Realizations 09:09 The Betrayal Revealed 11:28 Emotional Turmoil and Manipulation 13:42 Confrontation and Confusion 26:32 Understanding Sexual Coercion 45:17 Healing and Moving Forward 52:31 Reflecting on a Toxic Relationship 53:53 Uncovering the Truth 57:18 The Power of Silence 01:00:10 The Impact of Betrayal 01:01:33 The Cycle of Abuse 01:07:50 Digital Stalking and Its Effects 01:13:45 Finding Support and Healing 01:26:54 Moving Forward and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham interviews Juan Ferrer, who bravely shares his experience of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship. This discussion emphasizes the often overlooked experiences of men in abusive situations, detailing manipulative behaviors, trauma bonding, and societal expectations. Juan reflects on his struggles with low self-esteem, the control exerted by his partner, and his transformative journey to self-discovery and healing. The episode underscores the importance of storytelling in reversing power dynamics and highlights the path to regaining self-worth and embracing vulnerability as pivotal in overcoming abuse.   Please support Juan's spiritual journey at https://www.instagram.com/scorpse_revival/ and his woodworking business at https://www.instagram.com/spoon.and.board/   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes please write in to karlyr.latham@gmail.com  For in depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 01:18 Highlighting Male Voices in Abuse 02:10 Juan Ferrer's Story Begins 06:30 Early Signs of Abuse 13:35 The Cycle of Emotional Abuse 41:05 Finding Solace in Woodworking 49:24 Escalation of Drama and Self-Defense 51:00 Physical Abuse and Emotional Scarring 54:17 Societal Dynamics and Personal Struggles 58:12 The Breaking Point and Blackmail 01:06:59 The Final Arguments and Breakup 01:14:14 Post-Breakup Challenges and Self-Discovery 01:18:58 The Return and Final Confrontation 01:28:12 Healing and Moving Forward 01:37:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'What Lies Buried,' host Karly Latham talks with an anonymous guest who shares a powerful story of overcoming emotional and physical trauma. The guest reveals the challenges of enduring emotional abuse in a domestic partnership, dealing with chronic health issues, and coping with the loss of a parent to cancer. The narrative addresses the subtle dangers of emotional manipulation, the toll on mental and physical health, and the arduous path to recovery through creative outlets, spirituality, and online community support. The episode also explores the influence of tarot readings, the journey of recognizing abuse, and the importance of self-care and finding a support system. Ultimately, it provides encouragement for listeners to trust their instincts and seek help if they face similar struggles.   If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes please write in to karlyr.latham@gmail.com  For in depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham    00:00 Introduction to What Lies Buried 00:55 Meet the Guest 01:56 Early Relationship Dynamics 03:20 Signs of Manipulation 04:19 Isolation and Control 06:00 Gaslighting and Emotional Abuse 08:17 Intimidation and Health Issues 10:51 Financial Dependence and Health Crisis 54:17 Realization of a Stroke and Seizure 54:55 Partner's Dismissive Reaction 55:58 Struggles with Medical Appointments 57:12 Doubts and Self-Reflection 59:00 Impact of Emotional Abuse 01:09:51 Caregiving and Personal Health Challenges 01:14:29 Finding Support and Coping Mechanisms 01:26:46 Reflections and Advice for Others 01:47:16 Conclusion and Outro

Welcome to What Lies Buried, a podcast dedicated to shedding light on the often overlooked and misunderstood topic of emotional abuse. Through intimate and heartfelt interviews, we provide a platform for survivors to share their personal stories, offering insight into their pain, strength, and healing.  This week, I am joined by Shannon from The Tarot Diagnosis, a Johns Hopkins-trained psychotherapist, to discuss the ins and outs of emotional abuse, coercive control, and healing advice.  https://www.instagram.com/thetarotdiagnosis/ https://www.thetarotdiagnosis.com/symposium-sign-up If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help:  https://www.thehotline.org/  Please subscribe to get a new episode every Thursday and uncover the stories that need to be told.  If you would like to be involved with the show as a guest, or just want to submit your story for future listener minisodes please write in to karlyr.latham@gmail.com  For in depth articles on emotional abuse and mental health: https://medium.com/@karly-latham        Episode transcript: Hi. Hello. Welcome to What Lies Buried, where we dive into the real and raw stories of those who have experienced emotional abuse. I'm your host, Karly Latham. Each week, we'll hear stories of real abuse told by real survivors. This show is a safe space for abuse survivors to share their stories. My guests will always be able to choose to remain anonymous. There will be no names or locations, but a chance to have your voice heard because buried beneath all the lies is the truth waiting to be uncovered. Please note before beginning that I am not a professional. I do not have a fancy degree to back me up, just a series of unfortunate experiences. [00:01:00] This podcast is intended for mature audiences only. We will be discussing themes of abuse, which may be triggering for some listeners. Please proceed with caution. karly-latham: Hi. Hello Karly here. This is my first official episode of what lies buried and in my introduction I have promised that I would be interviewing guests and nominees anonymously to be able to share their stories and experiences with abuse. But this is an important distinction for me to make each and every time I am not a mental health professional. I'm just interested. So before I bring on any guests to interview, I wanted to bring on a professional. And the first guest that I've chosen is a friend of mine. We've known each other for a pretty long time now. And she is one of the people [00:02:00] that I turned to when I realized I needed professional help. Welcome Shannon from the Tarot Diagnosis. shannon--she-her-: Thank you. I, you know, and I can't believe it's been so long that we've Now. And yeah, I, I just, again, like, I I'm glad that you felt safe enough to reach out to me and talk to me and I feel honored to be on, know, this podcast or your karly-latham: Yes. shannon--she-her-: hang out and lend any sort of expertise or insight that I can provide on, on this karly-latham: Thank you so much for being here. I messaged you, I knew that both as my friend and as a professional, I knew that you could give me knowledge that I needed to point me in the right direction. I think I messaged you like from my bathtub in Florida, and I was like, I'm pretty sure. I don't remember what I said, but I can remember feeling So split and recognizing that [00:03:00] my trauma had become severe enough that it was verging on the line of PTSD. And I asked for resources which is kind of what I'm hoping that this space can be is just a spot for people to say, I am unwell. shannon--she-her-: it's so, it's much needed. I think this topic in particular, you know, emotional abuse is something that, a lot of folks are afraid to talk about and there's so much unknown about it too that it's like, is that really what's happening? So having a platform like Your offering, folks, I think is going to be able to shed some light on aspects of this experience and make people feel less alone. karly-latham: Yeah. shannon--she-her-: I karly-latham: It is a very isolating journey, both in being emotionally abused and also the discovery process that comes with it, because I was diagnosed with PTSD and we're talking,, Several [00:04:00] months, possibly years later at this point before I stopped and was like, holy shit, that was, that was abuse. That wasn't just like a series of bad events. But for me looking online, what I experienced didn't match up with the typical information that I was reading about online and if people were Between that and the typical media portrayal which is like for me if I think of emotional abuse It's usually like a drunk man and a wife beater like tossing his beers against the wall with like a cowering wife and a moo moo You know, it's like a very specific set of circumstances and I just feel like There needs to be a space for more people to see what abuse is so I was wondering if you could give us a brief explanation on what emotional abuse is. shannon--she-her-: Yeah, so I mean, it's such a [00:05:00] complex, layered Complicated experience, but in short, emotional abuse is essentially a pattern of behavior meant to control someone else. And this pattern of behavior can run the gamut from, you know, veiled insults to gaslighting, shaming. Anything, and things that are not even overtly said or experienced, but maybe things that happen over time that make you believe something about yourself that maybe is not accurate or true. It could be completely non verbal. Maybe you're getting the silent treatment for hours or days. And eventually it starts to grate on your overall well being to the point where you could develop PTSD like you've experienced. It really takes a toll on your self worth the way you view yourself. Of course, anxiety and [00:06:00] depression are inevitable. There are even studies now that show chronic illnesses, like especially pain related chronic illnesses like fibromyalgia IBS. You know, even autoimmune stuff, and I'm not a medical doctor, so I can't speak too much of that. I'm just going off of the research that I know as a clinician are all, or can be attributed, not that they're, that's where they all come from, but can be attributed to emotional abuse. So really it's about anything that happens in a relationship, you know, a pattern, ongoing behavior. that eventually makes you feel like a shell of who you are. You lose your identity, you lose your sense of self, you're afraid to respond, you feel like you're walking on eggshells a lot of the time. Yeah, you just have like an overall sense of, you know, maybe I'm not that great of a person. This better. karly-latham: Shell, being the shell of your former self. And previously I've described myself before I found Tarot as being like a living zombie. Like I didn't have a personality. I didn't [00:07:00] have, I, I existed. To be a wife and mother and that was it there wasn't anything left of me shannon--she-her-: Yeah. karly-latham: I credit tarot for saving Saving my life sounds dramatic but like I needed that swift kick up the ass that the cards delivered to be like You need to figure out who you are as a person and it was only then that I started to look around and be like, huh? Yeah shannon--she-her-: Well, it's so fascinating that you even said that about Tarot, because we know that the cards are essentially a mirror, and when you're in an emotionally abusive relationship, especially when on the outside, It looks, you know, perfect or it looks normal or, you know, you're not a lot of times. So the beginning of my career, the foundation of my career, I was built on working with folks who were in experienced intimate partner violence. So before I even went to undergrad, I even went to grad school as a certified domestic violence counselor. [00:08:00] that was like the foundation of, of where my career was built on. And a lot of times, like people would say, Oh, I didn't realize that it was abuse because I wasn't being harmed or I wasn't being screamed at. You know, so it's important to even be able to realize, okay, it's all, it's way more than just what we, like you said earlier, what we see in the media. And it's often the things that, you know, we don't attribute to the media. You know, intimate partner violence that really make us unable to connect authentically with ourselves because that's what really kind of has the intense psychological effect that karly-latham: yeah, the, the way that abuse is usually depicted is very, it's not, it's not black and white, but you really have to dig deep before you're able to get to the information that shows what real people's experiences with abuse is, like, [00:09:00] I knew the term gaslighting, and I knew the term manipulating, but I didn't understand how it all fit together until I was like well deep into the, you know, and I would even, I would explain what was happening in my life and say, you know, This is what is being told to me. This is what is actually happening. I knew the term gaslighting and I still didn't understand that what I was experiencing was gaslighting. I feel, and especially in terms of emotional abuse. The amount of damage that things like that can do while the victims or the survivors are Unaware because we're not taught to look for it and the sad and troubling thing is that A lot of this abuse will come from nice guys, these people who, like, they have a [00:10:00] great public opinion, people can't imagine that they could be so hurtful behind closed doors. You expect, abusive words to still come with harsh language and name calling and things like that. But the fact of the matter is, abuse is so multilayered. It's not just like screaming in your face, punching walls, you know? That, that happens and that's horrible that that happens, but there's also more to that. You can not be screamed at and still be abused. shannon--she-her-: I'm so glad you're talking about. this particular aspect of emotional