Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

Today I’m talking about a topic people whisper about or judge from the outside. Cuckolding. And no, it’s not what you’ve been told. In this episode, I break down what cuckolding actually is, how it differs from hotwife and stag vixen dynamics, and why the women drawn to it are not insecure or desperate. I explain the psychology behind it, the role of power and consent, and why this dynamic only works inside emotionally healthy relationships. This is a conversation about sexual autonomy, confidence, and telling the truth about desire.In This Episode: 00:00 Why this topic makes people uncomfortable 00:40 What cuckolding actually means 01:25 Cuckolding vs hotwife and stag vixen 02:10 The stereotype versus the research 03:05 The traits women in this dynamic share 04:05 Sexual autonomy and power 05:00 The question we should be askingWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack:

You think you know how to please a woman. Most men miss the basics.I sit down with Certified Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner & Somatic Intimacy Guide and & Virgin Island TV Expert Andre Lazarus to talk about what men misunderstand about sex, connection, and their own bodies. We cover emotional vulnerability, masculine and feminine energy, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and why performance pressure kills pleasure. Andre shares what actually helps men reconnect with sensation, desire, and confidence in bed. This conversation goes deeper than technique. It starts with presence.In this episode: 00:00 Why most men miss the basics of intimacy01:10 Welcome to Taboo To Truth02:05 Introducing Andre Lazarus03:40 From U.S. Marine to intimacy work05:15 The biggest misconception men have about intimacy07:40 Why vulnerability feels dangerous for men10:10 Midlife dating and emotionally unavailable men12:45 Masculinity, culture, and emotional shutdown15:20 The little boy behind the tough exterior17:40 Masculine and feminine energy in relationships20:30 Who seeks this work and why22:45 What surrogate partner therapy really involves25:10 Attachment, endings, and rejection27:30 Sexual challenges men bring into sessions29:40 Practical tools to reconnect with the body31:45 Rapid fire questions and closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastConnect with Andre Lazarus:Linktree: https://linktr.ee/comingcloserwithandreInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandreAndre Lazarus is a somatic intimacy guide and trusted voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. A former U.S. Marine, he brings a grounded perspective to vulnerability and desire. He is known for his work as a professional surrogate partner on the UK series Virgin Island, where he helped participants navigate intimacy with safety...

🩸Head to ProDx and use CODE: TABOO12 for 12% off! https://prodxhealth.com/products/full-10-home-collection-kit?variant=42594726838374&uid=9&oid=1&affid=44A herpes diagnosis does not end your sex life. I break down what herpes really is, how it spreads, and why shame has no place in the conversation. I explain HSV-1 and HSV-2 in plain language, talk through real transmission risks, and share how antiviral medication and honest communication protect both partners. We tackle the biggest myths head-on and redefine what fulfilling sex looks like after a diagnosis. This is about facts, agency, and staying connected without fear.In this episode: 00:00 Welcome and the lie about herpes00:28 What Taboo To Truth is about00:55 The initial fear after diagnosis01:25 Herpes is a virus, not a moral issue01:55 What herpes actually is. HSV-1 and HSV-202:40 Asymptomatic shedding and why many people do not know03:15 Outbreaks, triggers, and how common symptom-free cases are03:45 Antiviral medication and risk reduction04:20 The big dating truth about herpes04:55 Why herpes scares people so much05:20 Common misconceptions explained06:05 Antiviral treatment options and daily suppressive therapy06:55 Testing, sharing the episode, and closing message Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:

💗 For her pleasure, head to https://www.goodvibes.com/sex-toys/c/gv004/vibrators💓 Use code: TABOO10 for 10% off at https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/c/3000/vibratorsIn this episode, I sit down with Ana Ornelas to dismantle everything we were taught about pleasure. We talk clitoracy, real anatomy, and why penetration alone leaves most women disconnected from orgasm. We break down the clitoris as a full internal organ, explain why arousal time matters, and expose the myth of the vaginal orgasm. This conversation closes the pleasure gap with facts, empathy, and practical guidance you can use immediately.In This Episode:00:00 Welcome and why clitoracy matters02:45 What clitoracy really means06:10 The clitoris versus the penis anatomy truth10:05 Why position changes pleasure14:20 Clitoral erections and arousal timing18:30 The vaginal orgasm myth explained22:40 Real orgasm statistics women never hear26:55 Context, stress, and desire30:40 How to learn what turns you on34:20 Communicating pleasure with a partner37:20 Closing the pleasure gap and final takeawaysWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Ana Ornelas, known as Pimenta Cítrica, is a Brazilian erotic writer, s//x educator, and pleasure activist based in Berlin. She wrote her first erotic story at twelve and never stopped. Growing up queer in Brazil, she absorbed deep s//xual shame. That experience shaped her mission. She chose to become the voice she needed earlier in life.Since relocating to Berlin in 2016, she has created s//x positive content across different formats, including scripts, audio and video for different brands, workshops, live experiences and public speaking.She co created I Am The Clitoris, a project dedicated to clitoral anatomy, pleasure, and education. Her work now extends into advocacy, where she challenges censorship and pushes s//xual wellness into the public conversation.Connect with Ana Ornelas :Website:...

Flirting after 50 is not subtle. It is intentional. It is confident. It is clear.In this episode, I break down how women over 50 signal interest without spelling it out. Flirting after 50 looks different. It is clearer. It is more confident. I walk through real world cues men miss every day. Eye contact. Touch. Humor. Questions that are not random. I also share subtle lines women use to open the door without chasing. If you are dating in midlife, this helps you read the room and respond with confidence.Timestamps:0:00 How Women Over 50 Signal Interest0:35 Why Flirting After 50 Is Clearer1:05 Eye Contact That Is Intentional1:40 Playful Teasing and Real Listening2:15 Touch and Body Language Cues3:00 The Hint Dropping Men Miss3:40 Fishing Questions About Your Status4:10 Flirty Lines That Open the Door5:15 Texting Signals and Compliments5:55 The Truth About Midlife Flirting Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack:

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserThis episode is the best of 2025 and pulls together the moments that defined Taboo To Truth this past year. Let’s revisit the conversations that sparked the most reactions, the questions listeners were afraid to ask, and the truths that changed how people think about sex, desire, and relationships in midlife. This year we discussed why intimacy breaks down, why communication matters more than technique, and why owning your pleasure changes everything. This is a fast paced reset for anyone who wants better connection and more honest conversations about sex.Thank you for being with me and for being part of Taboo to Truth this year. These conversations work because you show up ready to learn, ready to question, and ready to talk about the things everybody else avoids. If one of these moments today stood out for you. Share it with someone who needs it.Timestamps:00:00 Why these moments mattered01:25 Desire versus obligation03:10 The orgasm gap explained05:05 Why communication fails06:55 When intimacy starts to fade08:40 Pleasure changes with age10:20 The advice listeners needed most12:00 What to take forward from 2025Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: a...

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserDo you fall fast and then feel abandoned when they pull away? You are not broken. In this episode I explain the anxious and avoidant attachment cycle and why it feels so intense. I walk you through what is happening in your nervous system and how early patterns replay in adult relationships. You learn how to soothe yourself, set real boundaries, and redefine attraction so secure love stops feeling boring and starts feeling safe. This episode is for anyone tired of chasing connection and ready to choose consistency.Timestamps:0:00 The relationship pattern that keeps repeating1:45 Anxious and avoidant attachment explained3:30 Why avoidants pull away when things get real5:10 What anxious attachment feels like in the body6:55 Familiar pain and childhood wiring8:30 Why answers from them never bring relief10:00 How to calm your nervous system before reacting11:45 Redefining attraction and chemistry13:20 What secure love actually feels like14:20 Closing reflection on choosing safety Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: a...

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserSex feels like work for many women. Desire fades. Resentment builds. In this episode, Annette Benedetti explains why this happens and how intimacy breaks down over time. She unpacks the orgasm gap, the damage of performance driven sex, and why penetration centered intimacy leaves women disconnected. You hear why foreplay throughout the day matters, why aftercare changes desire, and how owning your own pleasure transforms relationships. This episode gives men clarity and gives women permission to stop performing and start feeling.In this episode: 00:00 Why sex starts to feel like work03:40 The orgasm gap and why it matters07:50 How sex becomes performative for women12:30 Why desire fades in long term relationships16:45 Foreplay happens all day21:30 Why penetration centered sex fails women26:10 Aftercare and emotional safety30:40 What men want and why they feel unwanted35:20 How to talk about sex without blame39:10 Owning your own pleasure and reconnecting Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Annette Benedetti is an intimacy coach and host of Talk Sex with Annette, the go-to podcast for bold, unfiltered conversations at the intersection of sexuality, identity, and empowerment.From k*nk to connection, self-love to sexual healing, Annette dives into the topics most people are too afraid to touch—with expertise, raw storytelling, and a feminist lens that challenges shame and reclaims pleasure.Connect with ___:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannettePodcast: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance...

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserDating apps promise connection, but for many midlife daters they deliver frustration, confusion, and burnout. In this solo episode, I share why I stepped away from dating apps, what repeated dead-end conversations taught me, and how honesty, boundaries, and self-awareness matter more than chasing matches. We talk about pursuit, ghosting, who should ask first, who should pay, and why rejection is information. If dating feels exhausting, this conversation is for you.Timestamps:In This Episode:0:00 Intro and why dating apps felt different this time1:05 Frustration, negative energy, and attracting the wrong matches2:20 Why app conversations stall and go nowhere3:35 Moving from texting to phone calls and what silence signals5:00 Who should pursue, ask first, and pay6:35 Politics, dealbreakers, and dodging bullets earlyWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack:a...

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserSuzanne Noble joins me for a raw, funny, direct conversation about dating, sex, kink and honesty after 50. You hear what dating looks like in the UK versus the US, why so many men think they are going to be the one to “fix” your orgasm, how porn shapes expectations, how women think about body image as we age, and why younger partners are on the rise. Suzanne breaks down the UK’s kink culture, why dominatrixes are fully booked, and how to explore safely. We also talk about jealousy, non-traditional relationships, safety on dating apps, catfishing, and why so many of us refuse to shave our pubic hair for a man. This episode is candid, smart, and packed with insights about midlife dating and sexual confidence.Timestamps:In this episode:00:00 Holiday masterclass offer00:35 Welcome intro and episode setup01:18 Are Brits more open about sex02:22 The UK’s kink history and boarding school culture03:58 How early life stages shape sexual dynamics05:20 BDSM clubs and the UK Femdom scene06:35 Why kink is built around control, not intercourse07:40 Are Brits really more open than Americans08:32 Dating men who listen to the podcast09:48 Younger men and orgasm expectations10:42 Why people hide their curiosity about sex11:30 Porn influence, squirting, and sexual performance myths12:45 The rise of sexual repression in America13:40 Dating younger partners and why it appeals to women14:55 Midlife relationships, jealousy, and complexity16:05 Opening relationships and personal boundaries16:58 How to stay safe while dating after 5018:10 Spotting catfish and bot profiles19:22 When a profile is too good to be true20:15 Shifting into body image and aging21:00 Feeling confident naked as you age21:48 When men do not match their claimed fitness22:25 Grooming norms. Pubic hair expectations in the UK23:05 Saying no to grooming requests you do not want23:42 Early experiences with kink24:30 Why experience matters for safety in kink25:10 Learning impact play in community spaces25:35 Closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Suzanne Noble is the Co-founder of Startup...

Many people fantasize about exploring intimacy with three people, but very few know how to talk about it or where to begin. In this episode, I walk through communication steps, boundary-setting, and five setups that help people feel grounded instead of overwhelmed.In this episode, I break down what people over 50 are most curious about when it comes to trying a threesome. You get clear guidance on communication, consent, emotional grounding, and five practical positions that make a threesome feel exciting instead of overwhelming. This episode gives you structure, safety, and real world tips you can use to talk with your partner before anything happens.Timestamps:In this episode: 00:00 Intro. Why group intimacy is a top fantasy00:20 What makes a three person experience different00:45 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:05 The reality of trying a threesome in midlife01:32 The question no one asks. What do you do with three bodies01:55 Five setups to make things feel comfortable02:05 The disclaimer on dynamics02:18 Why talking before touching matters02:52 Boundaries, desires, and clear agreements03:18 Position 1. Lounge chair03:45 Position 2. Tandem touch04:15 Position 3. Side by side connection04:42 Position 4. Double rider05:15 Position 5. The bridge05:55 Essentials. Consent, protection, and sharing the spotlight06:25 Laughing off the awkward parts06:48 Final thoughts on curiosity and exploration07:00 Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: a...

In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with surrogate partner and intimacy coach Brian Gibney to talk about what happens when touch, sex, and therapy meet. We walk through the origins of surrogate partner therapy, how it supports traditional talk therapy, and why it sits inside the world of sex work while still holding clear ethical boundaries. Brianan explains who seeks out this work, what sessions look like in real life, how attachment and feelings show up, and why sex itself often turns out to be a symptom rather than the real issue. We also talk about non-monogamy, money, how to vet an ethical surrogate partner, and Brian’s very expansive definition of sex.Timestamps:In This Episode:00:00 - What if sex was part of your therapy01:08 - What surrogate partner therapy is and why talk therapy hits a limit03:42 - Masters and Johnson and the birth of surrogate partners06:05 - Sex work, the “whorarchy”, and where surrogates sit in it09:18 - How surrogate partner therapy differs from full service intimacy work11:52 - The therapeutic triad: client, therapist, surrogate13:40 - Who seeks this work: trauma, pain, cancer, disability, shame17:05 - First sessions, nerves, and why the work starts with “hello”19:40 - When clients expect something more and run the “checklist” for access22:15 - Entitlement, hard conversations, and repeating old patterns24:05 - Attachment, feelings, and why the “box” stays small26:10 - Brian’s non monogamy and protecting his own relationships28:30 - Boundaries to this work30:35 - How to vet a legitimate surrogate partner and red flags32:10 - Brian’s expansive definition of sex and why PIV is not the gold standard34:00 - Final thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Over the course of his life, Brian has worn many hats: research scientist (BA, Molecular biology; Masters, Microbiology), teacher, professional artist, performer, and parent.  The common thread that has run through all of those vocations has been his joy in learning, discovery, and improvement. In parallel with his professional life, He has also been keenly interested in interpersonal interactions, intimacy, and authenticity.  These two facets have merged in his practice as a Surrogate Partner.  He...

In this episode, I react to  a provocative cultural shift highlighted in Vogue’s viral piece “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?”. Straight women are hiding their partners online. Faces are blurred. Fiancés are cropped out. Entire relationships are reduced to a hand on a steering wheel. The fear is that posting a boyfriend makes a woman look less independent and less culturally relevant. I  compare this to myr own experience as a boomer who grew up with the belief that partnership was an achievement. I explore how this shift affects men, why younger women feel pressure to appear single, and what it says about the evolving politics of heterosexual relationships. The episode asks listeners to rethink why sharing a romantic partner feels risky now and whether avoiding visibility is about independence, superstition, image, or something deeper.Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:22 The purpose of breaking taboos00:45 Why women hesitate to like or share sex content01:15 Introducing the episode and today’s question01:33 The Vogue article and the rise of “boyfriend embarrassment”02:05 How age and upbringing shape views on partnership02:40 The clash between independence and being partnered03:15 How shifting gender roles impact men03:45 Why posting a partner feels risky for some women04:20 The 70 year old who feels odd saying “my boyfriend”04:48 Why Karen sees partnership as joyful, not submissive05:15 The fear of judgment and the pressure to appear independent05:48 Why some women reject men after negative experiences06:20 Karen’s final questions about posting your partner06:45 Closing message and sex positive reminderWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout The HostKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh...

Menopause does not wait until you feel “old,” and it does not only live in your hot flashes. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Lauren Streicher, one of the leading experts in menopause and sexual medicine, to talk about sexless relationships, painful penetration, and why so many women suffer in silence when solutions exist.We break down what really happens to your hormones, blood flow, muscles, nerves, and brain during perimenopause and postmenopause and how all of that shows up in your sex life. Dr. Streicher explains why painful sex is never something you should push through, why lubricants on their own rarely fix the problem, and why local vaginal estrogen is one of the safest and most misunderstood treatments in midlife.We also talk about access to care. Who helps you when your doctor shrugs, you live outside a big city, you are on Medicare, or you survived cancer and nobody ever mentioned sex in your follow up. Dr. Streicher shares what a real sexual medicine consult looks like, why pelvic floor physical therapy often changes both back pain and bedroom pain, and why there is no expiration date on your vagina, even after years of a dry spell.If you are in a sexless relationship, scared of hormones, or confused about where to start, this episode will give you language, options, and hope, plus a roadmap to Dr. Streicher’s new deep dive audio course, “Come Again,” for women and professionals who want real data, not fear.In This Episode:00:00 – Welcome and show intro.00:32 – Why sexless relationships link to menopause.02:10 – Menopause is not an “old woman’s” issue.04:20 – Sexual problems that start before menopause.06:30 – What a normal sexual response needs.09:25 – How estrogen loss affects sex and desire.12:40 – What happens in a sexual medicine consult.15:20 – Why doctors rarely refer to sexual medicine clinics.18:05 – Telehealth for menopause and its limits.21:30 – Why menopause never fully “ends.”25:05 – Painful sex and the need for accurate diagnosis.29:10 – Vaginal estrogen use, placement, and safety.33:15 – Partners, pain, and the “use it or lose it” myth.36:40 – Pelvic floor pain, SSRIs, and low libido.38:40 – Wrap up and closing message.Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Lauren...

Part 2 of my interview with Dr. Tara goes deeper into erotic solutions for long term relationships, techniques that rebuild desire and the practices couples use to reconnect without penetration. Dr. Tara breaks down yab yum, sexual meditation, mutual masturbation and the role lube plays in midlife pleasure. You learn why women respond differently to pressure, why adoration matters more than appreciation and why most couples never speak honestly about kink. Dr. Tara also explains sex parties, sex cruises, female ejaculation, squirting technique, cuckolding, hot wifing and how non monogamous couples build trust. This episode gives you practical tools to increase intimacy, try new experiences and communicate without fear.Timestamps:00:00 Part 2 intro00:18 Why couples need more than toys00:40 Erotic solutions for sexless marriages01:05 Yab yum explained02:02 How yab yum builds intimacy02:45 Breathwork and skin-on-skin connection03:20 Removing pressure and responsive desire04:05 Why midlife women shut down sexually04:42 The role of lube in midlife pleasure05:20 How to give a yoni massage06:10 Slip and slide technique with lube06:45 Why receiving is hard for many women07:20 Why hand jobs are powerful for connection08:02 Using a vibrator while giving a hand job08:40 Why giving can boost intimacy09:20 Appreciation vs adoration10:15 Why women need adoration to feel sexy11:00 Emotional safety and sexual openness11:32 How to ask for kink without scaring your partner12:10 Using the media mention method for kink12:52 Dr. Tara’s sexual profile13:33 What “kinky” means for different people14:10 What erotic parties are really like15:02 Why sex parties are safer than nightclubs15:45 The age differences at sex parties16:12 Female led sex parties and sex cruises17:05 Dr. Tara’s first sex party experience17:40 Understanding squirting and female ejaculation18:15 The technique that triggers squirting19:02 Can you make yourself squirt19:40 Cuckolding and hot wifing explained20:10 How open couples build trust and connectionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!About the Guest:Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app,

In part 1 of this episode, Dr. Tara joins me for a conversation about sexual repression, sexual expression, mindful masturbation and why communication shapes every satisfying relationship. You learn how cultural conditioning shapes your sex life. You learn why exposure therapy helps you rebuild confidence with sexual pleasure. You learn how to restart sexual conversations in long relationships without shame or pressure. You also learn why non penetration activities often bring couples in midlife back to desire. This episode delivers practical tools you can use tonight. And be sure to come back for part 2 on Friday! In this episode:00:00 Intro00:26 Why orgasms trigger emotional release02:15 Dr. Tara’s background and early sexual repression04:55 Culture shock and body confidence in Finland06:45 Moving to the US and studying relationships08:24 The moment she shifted into sexuality research09:32 Divorce, shame and rebuilding sexual identity11:05 Ethical non monogamy and communication skills12:14 How exposure therapy builds sexual comfort13:28 Mindful masturbation and sexual meditation14:42 How to restart sexual conversations with your partner15:51 Erotic solutions for sexless or low desire marriages17:10 Part two coming soon! Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!About the guest: Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.Connect with Dr Tara:Website: https://www.luvbites.coInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.coBook: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) - https://a.co/d/1XloTnjAbout The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of...

🩷 Head to https://www.arya.fyi for 15% off with coupon code: TRUTH15 - An Intimacy Concierge for couples⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure!https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserIn this episode of Taboo To Truth, I break down the four techniques I teach men who want to turn their partner on with confidence. I explain why old moves fail with a new partner. I show you why bragging about your skills shuts a woman down. I walk you through the steps most women respond to. You learn why slow kissing matters, why touch needs intention, how oral sex shifts with hormones, and why toys increase pleasure for women at every age. This episode gives you a simple plan to become a more attentive and more satisfying lover.Timestamps:00:00 When old moves stop working00:32 Why bragging about your skills backfires01:06 Why slower sex increases arousal01:50 The four techniques women respond to02:10 Deep, slow kissing03:00 Touch that builds tension04:03 Oral sex based on her cues05:12 Why toys boost pleasure06:30 Why penetration rarely leads to orgasmTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram:

Masturbation is not a throwaway habit. It is training and you are probably doing it wrong. In this episode, I sit with sexologist and Love Lab host Kevin Anthony to show men how mindful self-pleasure upgrades stamina, sensitivity, and confidence in and out of the bedroom.We cover the biggest mistakes men make, including rushing to the finish and outsourcing arousal to porn. Kevin walks through the arousal scale, edging, and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. We dig into delayed ejaculation, the “death grip,” desensitization, and how to resensitize your body. We also break down strokers, pumps, condoms, and when meds help or hinder. You get a practical framework to slow down, feel more, and choose when to ejaculate.Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:05 Why a masturbation practice matters for men05:12 How habits train performance in bed06:48 The speed problem and the orgasm gap08:58 Porn use. Hyper-stimulation and desensitization12:52 Delayed ejaculation and loss of sensation15:16 The “death grip.” Injury and numbness risks17:48 Edging, tantra, and Taoist ejaculation frequency21:22 Orgasm vs ejaculation. Physiology and separation24:58 Mindful masturbation. Arousal scale and pacing28:12 Step-by-step: build, back off, repeat, choose the finish29:56 Tools and strokers. When they help. When they hurt32:04 Pumps vs meds. Health-first strategy and retention rings34:56 Mindset shift. Slow down, train, feel more36:22 Lightning round: definition of sex, best multi-orgasmic run, beach fantasy38:10 Wrap-up. Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology, a Certified Tantra Counselor, Certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years I have worked with men, women, and couples to help them have stronger, happier, more loving relationships, and the best sex of their lives!He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, co-founder of the popular YouTube channel a...

Most people are texting wrong. In this episode I break down why the “Hi. How are you?” cycle kills attraction and how to turn texting into a tool for real connection. Learn how to craft messages that show curiosity, spark chemistry, and move things off the screen and into real life. If your conversations keep dying in the chat, this episode will change the way you text forever.Timestamps:00:00 – You’re Texting Wrong: Why Conversations Die Fast00:45 – The “Hi. How Are You?” Trap01:32 – Lazy Texting and the Emoji Problem02:40 – Crafting Better Questions that Build Connection03:28 – The Secret to Flirty, Fun Banter04:20 – How to Use Curiosity to Spark Chemistry05:00 – Move From Text to Real ConnectionKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at a...

Men perform. Women please. Connection suffers. In this episode, I sit down with midlife sex expert Susan Bratton to decode desire, libido mismatch, and orgasmic skills for long-term couples. You get a clear map: responsive vs spontaneous desire, why “grab a boob and stick it in” fails, how to warm up arousal, and practical fixes for delayed ejaculation and low drive. Susan lays out small offers, nurturing touch, arousal timelines, orgasmic intercourse techniques, and regenerative sexual health tools. The goal is simple. Create consistent, mutually satisfying intimacy where both partners pursue pleasure without shame.Timestamps:00:00 Why performance culture kills connection02:05 Responsive vs spontaneous desire in plain terms04:36 Libido mismatch is often bad information and bad sex07:10 Small offers that rebuild safety and interest10:02 Nurturing touch vs sensual vs sexual touch12:45 Female arousal timeline and the 20–30 minute lift15:18 Orgasmic intercourse techniques the vagina likes18:04 Yoni massage, oral basics, and expanded orgasm21:12 Toys that enhance sensation and shared control23:55 Shame, appetite, and creating permission for desire26:08 Scheduling intimacy without killing the vibe28:30 Delayed ejaculation Drivers and a practical stack31:05 Blood flow support Nitric oxide, vacuum training33:10 Acoustic wave therapy overview and outcomes35:05 Rapid-fire Q&A Definition of sex, best orgasms, fantasyWatch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! https://youtu.be/WGPTHeP-eP0Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company. She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing.Susan has been...