Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

In part two of my conversation with Venus O’Hara, we go beyond toys and into power. Venus shares the beginner anal toy she designed for absolute first-timers and the triple-motor toy created for layered external pleasure without pressure to penetrate. We talk about new tech in sex toys, from thrusting and tapping to air stimulation, and what actually feels different versus what is hype.Then we shift into something deeper. Venus explains orgasmic manifestation and how she used sexual energy to transform her life. We unpack sex magic, intention setting, affirmations during arousal, and why sexuality is powerful rather than shameful. We close with my signature questions, including her definition of sex, her most impactful orgasm, and the fantasy she still wants to experience.This episode is about agency, curiosity, and using your pleasure as power.Timestamps: 0:00 Why we had to go deeper 1:05 Beginner anal design and safety basics 3:15 The triple-motor toy and layered stimulation 5:40 New tech beyond vibration 7:30 AI and the future of sex tech 9:05 The three levels of sexuality 11:20 Discovering sex transmutation 13:30 How orgasmic manifestation works 16:00 Intention setting and affirmations during arousal 18:20 Definition of sex and sacred energy exchange 19:45 Her most impactful orgasm 21:00 Fantasy still to be explored 22:10 Where to find Venus and final thoughtsKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout Venus O'Hara:Raising orgasmic awareness. Author. British expat in Spain. Sex toy tester & designer. Brand Ambassador for Satisfyer. YouTuber. Fetishist. Feminist. Vegan. Yogini. Zen. Creator of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast.Connect with Venus O’Hara:Website: https://www.venusohara.org/about-venus-oharaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusohara/Book: a...

If you love her but feel like you are one wrong sentence away from a blow up, this episode is for you.In this Valentine’s Day special, I speak directly to men who want to support their partner through menopause without making things worse. Mood swings. Withdrawal. Irritability. Low libido. Exhaustion. These are not signs your relationship is failing. They are signs her hormones and nervous system are under pressure.I break down five practical tips that help you show up steady, calm, and supportive. You will learn how to regulate instead of fix, how to stop taking it personally, how to bring back touch without pressure, how to ask better questions, and how to reframe Valentine’s Day around relief instead of performance.I also share thoughtful gift ideas that say “I see you” without implying sex is expected. Cooling tools. Nervous system support. Body safe lubricants. Comfort focused intimacy.Menopause does not ruin relationships. Misunderstanding does. When you show up informed and grounded, she feels safe. And safety is the foundation of desire.In this episode:00:00 One Wrong Sentence Away From a Blow Up 00:26 Show Intro and What This Episode Covers 00:55 Substack Community Announcement 01:28 What Menopause Is Really Doing Behind the Scenes 02:05 Tip 1 Stop Fixing and Start Regulating 02:50 Cooling Tools and Smart Valentine’s Gift Ideas 03:20 Tip 2 Don’t Take It Personally 04:05 FirmTech Sponsor Message 04:45 Tip 3 Bring Back Touch Without Pressure 05:32 Tip 4 Ask Better Questions 06:05 Lubricants and Comfort Focused Intimacy 06:20 Tip 5 Make Valentine’s Day About Relief 06:45 Men and Menopause Course and Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!🔥Exclusive VIP Products & Discounts 🔥Get the toys and products I actually recommend. Use my personal discount codes!🧊 Shop my favorite Cooling Tools! Cooling Sheets https://amzn.to/3O2zyHWCooling Pillow Cases https://amzn.to/4rCfhajPersonal Air Conditioner https://amzn.to/4ttkDquCooling Necklace https://amzn.to/4ttkGTcCooling Bracelet https://amzn.to/4qjsrIfHandheld Fan https://amzn.to/4qjsrIfBra Inserts https://amzn.to/3O9s3yH🕯️ Shop my favorite massage candles🛒 Link: https://www.eyeoflove.com/collections/massage-candle?source=aw&sv1=affiliate&sv_campaign_id=2661196&awc=100459_1770841541_f93e5a416535be534c557d25c95deaab💦 Shop my favorite sub from at Pjur 🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur🍆 Save 15% off MaxPR using code TABOO15🛒 Link:

In this episode, I sit down with Venus O'Hara, one of the most trusted voices in pleasure education, to talk about sex toys for midlife bodies. We break down what makes a toy worth your time, how to spot safe materials, and why novelty alone does not equal pleasure. Venus shares how her standards changed after reviewing over a thousand products and what consistently delivers real orgasms in midlife. We also talk about boundaries, nervous system safety, and why confidence matters more than hype. This is a grounded, practical conversation for anyone who wants better sex without embarrassment or guesswork.In this episode: 0:00 Why I listen to professional sex toy testers0:36 What this show is really about1:15 Substack announcement and community invite2:00 Welcome to Taboo To Truth2:42 Introducing Venus O’Hara3:55 What makes a sex toy worth reviewing5:30 Why Venus avoids realistic toys6:55 The rabbit vibrator and external use9:10 Why penetration is not always the goal10:45 Toys as tools for couples and connection12:10 Erotic manifestation and fantasy14:00 Testing toys alone vs with partners15:20 Vibrators, insecurity, and partner dynamics16:55 Panty vibes, humor, and playful teasing18:30 Toys for menopause, dryness, and ED19:55 Wands, massage, and slowing things down20:50 Part two teaser and closing remarksPart 2 drops next Tuesday! Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Raising orgasmic awareness. Author. British expat in Spain. Sex toy tester & designer. Brand Ambassador for Satisfyer. YouTuber. Fetishist. Feminist. Vegan. Yogini. Zen. Creator of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast.Connect with Venus O’Hara:Website: https://www.venusohara.org/about-venus-oharaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusohara/p

In this episode, I break down anal sex without hype, fear, or pressure. I explain why curiosity shows up in midlife and why it has nothing to do with identity or performance. You learn how pleasure works anatomically, what safety really looks like, and why pain is never the goal. I cover common myths, real risks, emotional blocks, and how to talk about curiosity without turning it into pressure. This episode gives you information so you decide from choice, not shame or fear.In This Episode: 0:00 Anal feels less scary than you think0:30 Podcast intro and what this episode is really about1:10 Curiosity, fear, and why anal feels taboo2:05 Why curiosity shows up in midlife2:55 Why anal pleasure exists anatomically3:55 Clearing identity myths and penetration misconceptions4:45 Safety, condoms, and basic preparation5:45 Mess anxiety, prep myths, and expectations6:35 Pain myths, lube, and pacing7:20 Psychological blocks, shame, and consent8:20 Choice, communication, and closing messageWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!🔥 b-Vibe Best Butt Plugs and Anal Sex Toys for Solo & Couples🛒 https://bvibe.pxf.io/YRr3oPKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite:

Hormone therapy helps. But it does not fix everything.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Diane Mueller to break down why libido often fades again after the initial HRT boost.You learn why desire is multi-layered, why lab work often misses real problems, and how blood flow, thyroid health, nervous system overload, pelvic floor function, and relationship dynamics all shape your sex drive.We also talk about erotic repair, redefining sex, rebuilding safety, and why pleasure is a health practice, not a luxury.If you feel frustrated, broken, or confused about why hormones did not solve your libido, this episode gives you clarity and next steps.Timestamps:0:00 Celebrating 150 episodes and why none of us are broken1:22 What Taboo To Truth is really about2:30 Why HRT feels great. Then libido disappears5:05 Chronic problems need more than one fix8:10 Why standard labs miss real issues11:05 Thyroid testing mistakes and energy loss13:30 Blood flow inflammation and nervous system disruption16:10 Pelvic floor myths women and men get wrong18:40 Blood sugar and numbness in arousal20:20 Desire mismatch and getting back on the same team22:55 Erotic repair and redefining what sex means25:40 Presence pleasure and why women dissociate28:10 Orgasms stress regulation and vibrators30:30 Libido as a health warning and where to start Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, Board-Certified Sexologist (American Board of Sexology), is your go-to libido expert who’s been through the trenches herself. With dual doctorates in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine, she founded MyLibidoDoc.com and hosts The Libido Lounge podcast to help women rediscover their pleasure and feel alive again.Connect with Dr. Diane Mueller:Website: https://mylibidodoc.comInstagram: a...

You were probably taught to fear masturbation. I see this every day in my work with men and women. The problem is not self pleasure. The problem is guilt, misinformation, and nervous system disconnection. In this episode, I break down the biggest masturbation myths and explain what actually supports sexual health, erections, confidence, and pleasure after 50. I talk about porn use, erectile dysfunction, testosterone fears, technique, frequency, and shame. I also explain why orgasms act like pelvic floor training and why mindful self pleasure strengthens partner sex instead of replacing it. This is a no shame conversation about choice, awareness, and reclaiming pleasure as part of wellness.In this episode: 0:00 You were lied to about masturbation0:28 What masturbation is really linked to1:10 Why people feel guilt and anxiety around self pleasure1:55 Orgasms and pelvic floor health2:35 Why masturbation supports sexual function3:05 Myth one porn is the problem3:55 Myth two masturbation causes erectile dysfunction4:40 Myth three guilt is harmless5:15 Myth four technique does not matter5:55 Myth five masturbating too much6:25 Testosterone fears and final reframing of pleasureWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Mindful Masturbation For Men: Last Longer, Feel More, Perform Better with Kevin Anthony | Ep. 129 https://youtu.be/abRZQbLYaJ0Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite:

In this episode, I sit down with Jim Benson to break down what multi orgasmic pleasure really means for men and why most men never learn it. Jim explains the difference between ejaculation and orgasm, why pleasure does not need to end with climax, and how presence, relaxation, breath, and body awareness change everything. They explore how men learn these skills over time, why partners play a powerful role in success, and how aging does not signal the end of sexual growth. This episode reframes male pleasure as something expansive, learnable, and deeply connected to emotional safety and presence.In This Episode:00:00 Why men believe orgasm equals ejaculation02:10 What multi orgasmic pleasure really means04:05 Why relaxation creates more sensation06:20 Breath and body awareness explained08:30 Orgasms without erection or ejaculation10:40 How partners support the learning process13:00 Practicing alone versus with a partner15:10 How long it takes to feel real change17:25 Aging, presence, and deeper pleasure19:40 Why sexual growth does not end with age21:10 Final thoughts and resourcesWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Jim Benson has dedicated his life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully.For the past 20 years, he has been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” His Awakened Masculine program blends best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.Connect with Jim Benson:Website: https://awakenedmasculine.com/Use code KBIG50 to save $50 off The Multi-Orgasmic Lover course https://awakenedmasculine.com/program/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life,

If you want a clear breakdown of your choices, download the ED Options Cheat Sheet with links and exclusive discounts here: https://www.taboototruth.com/ed-options-cheat-sheet In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I talk honestly about erectile changes in midlife and beyond. I explain why ED happens, why it often starts with blood flow and heart health, and why silence and shame delay real solutions.I cover what most men are never told. Why Viagra and Cialis stop working for some men Why guessing and self adjusting doses backfires How lifestyle shifts protect erections instead of punishing you What actually works when pills fail The truth about pumps, rings, shockwave therapy, hormones, injections, Botox, fillers, and implantsErectile dysfunction is not a moral failing. It’s a health signal. And there is no stage where options disappear.In This Episode:0:00 Erectile changes are normal and treatable0:58 Why erections change with age2:05 Blood flow, heart health, and ED3:10 Why pills stop working4:05 Pumps and rings explained5:00 Shockwave therapy and hormones6:05 Injections, Botox, fillers, implants7:30 The real takeaway and next stepsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram:

Pre-order 'The Bedroom Gap' here: https://mariasophoclesmd.com/bookIf you think menopause is tough. Wait until it collides with andropause. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Maria Sophocles to talk about what she calls “The Bedroom Gap”. I wanted this conversation because I see how often couples drift apart in midlife, not from lack of love, but from lack of understanding and communication. We talk about what really changes in women’s bodies during menopause and in men’s bodies during andropause. We dig into pain, erectile changes, loss of desire, and why avoiding sex often creates more damage than addressing it directly. We focus on how couples can stay connected by redefining sex, learning together, and talking honestly.In This Episode:00:00 Menopause Meets Andropause02:10 Introducing the Bedroom Gap05:40 How Midlife Body Changes Affect Sex09:15 Why Couples Stop Talking About Intimacy13:00 Pain, Erectile Changes, and Sexual Avoidance17:10 Redefining Sex Beyond Intercourse20:45 Pleasure, Health, and Longevity24:20 How to Start Hard Conversations About Sex28:10 What Supportive Partners Do Differently31:40 Overlooked Menopause and Andropause Symptoms34:30 Final Takeaways and Book MentionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Maria Sophocles has been a leader in women's healthcare for nearly 30 years, specializing in menopause management and female sexual health. She founded Women’s Healthcare of Princeton, a progressive gynecology practice, and has been a visiting professor and NIH researcher in Switzerland. A board-certified ob/gyn and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she has pioneered innovative treatments, including CO2 laser therapy for vaginal atrophy. She serves as CMO of EMBR Labs, Director of Women’s Health Services for Curia Health, and is an advocate for women’s health policy. Dr. Sophocles is also an author, TEDWomen2023 speaker, and frequent media contributor on women's health topics.Connect with Dr. Maria Sophocles:Website:a...

Today I’m talking about a topic people whisper about or judge from the outside. Cuckolding. And no, it’s not what you’ve been told. In this episode, I break down what cuckolding actually is, how it differs from hotwife and stag vixen dynamics, and why the women drawn to it are not insecure or desperate. I explain the psychology behind it, the role of power and consent, and why this dynamic only works inside emotionally healthy relationships. This is a conversation about sexual autonomy, confidence, and telling the truth about desire.In This Episode: 00:00 Why this topic makes people uncomfortable 00:40 What cuckolding actually means 01:25 Cuckolding vs hotwife and stag vixen 02:10 The stereotype versus the research 03:05 The traits women in this dynamic share 04:05 Sexual autonomy and power 05:00 The question we should be askingWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack:

You think you know how to please a woman. Most men miss the basics.I sit down with Certified Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner & Somatic Intimacy Guide and & Virgin Island TV Expert Andre Lazarus to talk about what men misunderstand about sex, connection, and their own bodies. We cover emotional vulnerability, masculine and feminine energy, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and why performance pressure kills pleasure. Andre shares what actually helps men reconnect with sensation, desire, and confidence in bed. This conversation goes deeper than technique. It starts with presence.In this episode: 00:00 Why most men miss the basics of intimacy01:10 Welcome to Taboo To Truth02:05 Introducing Andre Lazarus03:40 From U.S. Marine to intimacy work05:15 The biggest misconception men have about intimacy07:40 Why vulnerability feels dangerous for men10:10 Midlife dating and emotionally unavailable men12:45 Masculinity, culture, and emotional shutdown15:20 The little boy behind the tough exterior17:40 Masculine and feminine energy in relationships20:30 Who seeks this work and why22:45 What surrogate partner therapy really involves25:10 Attachment, endings, and rejection27:30 Sexual challenges men bring into sessions29:40 Practical tools to reconnect with the body31:45 Rapid fire questions and closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastConnect with Andre Lazarus:Linktree: https://linktr.ee/comingcloserwithandreInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandreAndre Lazarus is a somatic intimacy guide and trusted voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. A former U.S. Marine, he brings a grounded perspective to vulnerability and desire. He is known for his work as a professional surrogate partner on the UK series Virgin Island, where he helped participants navigate intimacy with safety...

🩸Head to ProDx and use CODE: TABOO12 for 12% off! https://prodxhealth.com/products/full-10-home-collection-kit?variant=42594726838374&uid=9&oid=1&affid=44A herpes diagnosis does not end your sex life. I break down what herpes really is, how it spreads, and why shame has no place in the conversation. I explain HSV-1 and HSV-2 in plain language, talk through real transmission risks, and share how antiviral medication and honest communication protect both partners. We tackle the biggest myths head-on and redefine what fulfilling sex looks like after a diagnosis. This is about facts, agency, and staying connected without fear.In this episode: 00:00 Welcome and the lie about herpes00:28 What Taboo To Truth is about00:55 The initial fear after diagnosis01:25 Herpes is a virus, not a moral issue01:55 What herpes actually is. HSV-1 and HSV-202:40 Asymptomatic shedding and why many people do not know03:15 Outbreaks, triggers, and how common symptom-free cases are03:45 Antiviral medication and risk reduction04:20 The big dating truth about herpes04:55 Why herpes scares people so much05:20 Common misconceptions explained06:05 Antiviral treatment options and daily suppressive therapy06:55 Testing, sharing the episode, and closing message Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:

💗 For her pleasure, head to https://www.goodvibes.com/sex-toys/c/gv004/vibrators💓 Use code: TABOO10 for 10% off at https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/c/3000/vibratorsIn this episode, I sit down with Ana Ornelas to dismantle everything we were taught about pleasure. We talk clitoracy, real anatomy, and why penetration alone leaves most women disconnected from orgasm. We break down the clitoris as a full internal organ, explain why arousal time matters, and expose the myth of the vaginal orgasm. This conversation closes the pleasure gap with facts, empathy, and practical guidance you can use immediately.In This Episode:00:00 Welcome and why clitoracy matters02:45 What clitoracy really means06:10 The clitoris versus the penis anatomy truth10:05 Why position changes pleasure14:20 Clitoral erections and arousal timing18:30 The vaginal orgasm myth explained22:40 Real orgasm statistics women never hear26:55 Context, stress, and desire30:40 How to learn what turns you on34:20 Communicating pleasure with a partner37:20 Closing the pleasure gap and final takeawaysWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Ana Ornelas, known as Pimenta Cítrica, is a Brazilian erotic writer, s//x educator, and pleasure activist based in Berlin. She wrote her first erotic story at twelve and never stopped. Growing up queer in Brazil, she absorbed deep s//xual shame. That experience shaped her mission. She chose to become the voice she needed earlier in life.Since relocating to Berlin in 2016, she has created s//x positive content across different formats, including scripts, audio and video for different brands, workshops, live experiences and public speaking.She co created I Am The Clitoris, a project dedicated to clitoral anatomy, pleasure, and education. Her work now extends into advocacy, where she challenges censorship and pushes s//xual wellness into the public conversation.Connect with Ana Ornelas :Website:...

Flirting after 50 is not subtle. It is intentional. It is confident. It is clear.In this episode, I break down how women over 50 signal interest without spelling it out. Flirting after 50 looks different. It is clearer. It is more confident. I walk through real world cues men miss every day. Eye contact. Touch. Humor. Questions that are not random. I also share subtle lines women use to open the door without chasing. If you are dating in midlife, this helps you read the room and respond with confidence.Timestamps:0:00 How Women Over 50 Signal Interest0:35 Why Flirting After 50 Is Clearer1:05 Eye Contact That Is Intentional1:40 Playful Teasing and Real Listening2:15 Touch and Body Language Cues3:00 The Hint Dropping Men Miss3:40 Fishing Questions About Your Status4:10 Flirty Lines That Open the Door5:15 Texting Signals and Compliments5:55 The Truth About Midlife Flirting Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack:

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserThis episode is the best of 2025 and pulls together the moments that defined Taboo To Truth this past year. Let’s revisit the conversations that sparked the most reactions, the questions listeners were afraid to ask, and the truths that changed how people think about sex, desire, and relationships in midlife. This year we discussed why intimacy breaks down, why communication matters more than technique, and why owning your pleasure changes everything. This is a fast paced reset for anyone who wants better connection and more honest conversations about sex.Thank you for being with me and for being part of Taboo to Truth this year. These conversations work because you show up ready to learn, ready to question, and ready to talk about the things everybody else avoids. If one of these moments today stood out for you. Share it with someone who needs it.Timestamps:00:00 Why these moments mattered01:25 Desire versus obligation03:10 The orgasm gap explained05:05 Why communication fails06:55 When intimacy starts to fade08:40 Pleasure changes with age10:20 The advice listeners needed most12:00 What to take forward from 2025Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: a...

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserDo you fall fast and then feel abandoned when they pull away? You are not broken. In this episode I explain the anxious and avoidant attachment cycle and why it feels so intense. I walk you through what is happening in your nervous system and how early patterns replay in adult relationships. You learn how to soothe yourself, set real boundaries, and redefine attraction so secure love stops feeling boring and starts feeling safe. This episode is for anyone tired of chasing connection and ready to choose consistency.Timestamps:0:00 The relationship pattern that keeps repeating1:45 Anxious and avoidant attachment explained3:30 Why avoidants pull away when things get real5:10 What anxious attachment feels like in the body6:55 Familiar pain and childhood wiring8:30 Why answers from them never bring relief10:00 How to calm your nervous system before reacting11:45 Redefining attraction and chemistry13:20 What secure love actually feels like14:20 Closing reflection on choosing safety Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: a...

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserSex feels like work for many women. Desire fades. Resentment builds. In this episode, Annette Benedetti explains why this happens and how intimacy breaks down over time. She unpacks the orgasm gap, the damage of performance driven sex, and why penetration centered intimacy leaves women disconnected. You hear why foreplay throughout the day matters, why aftercare changes desire, and how owning your own pleasure transforms relationships. This episode gives men clarity and gives women permission to stop performing and start feeling.In this episode: 00:00 Why sex starts to feel like work03:40 The orgasm gap and why it matters07:50 How sex becomes performative for women12:30 Why desire fades in long term relationships16:45 Foreplay happens all day21:30 Why penetration centered sex fails women26:10 Aftercare and emotional safety30:40 What men want and why they feel unwanted35:20 How to talk about sex without blame39:10 Owning your own pleasure and reconnecting Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Annette Benedetti is an intimacy coach and host of Talk Sex with Annette, the go-to podcast for bold, unfiltered conversations at the intersection of sexuality, identity, and empowerment.From k*nk to connection, self-love to sexual healing, Annette dives into the topics most people are too afraid to touch—with expertise, raw storytelling, and a feminist lens that challenges shame and reclaims pleasure.Connect with ___:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannettePodcast: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance...

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserDating apps promise connection, but for many midlife daters they deliver frustration, confusion, and burnout. In this solo episode, I share why I stepped away from dating apps, what repeated dead-end conversations taught me, and how honesty, boundaries, and self-awareness matter more than chasing matches. We talk about pursuit, ghosting, who should ask first, who should pay, and why rejection is information. If dating feels exhausting, this conversation is for you.Timestamps:In This Episode:0:00 Intro and why dating apps felt different this time1:05 Frustration, negative energy, and attracting the wrong matches2:20 Why app conversations stall and go nowhere3:35 Moving from texting to phone calls and what silence signals5:00 Who should pursue, ask first, and pay6:35 Politics, dealbreakers, and dodging bullets earlyWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack:a...

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserSuzanne Noble joins me for a raw, funny, direct conversation about dating, sex, kink and honesty after 50. You hear what dating looks like in the UK versus the US, why so many men think they are going to be the one to “fix” your orgasm, how porn shapes expectations, how women think about body image as we age, and why younger partners are on the rise. Suzanne breaks down the UK’s kink culture, why dominatrixes are fully booked, and how to explore safely. We also talk about jealousy, non-traditional relationships, safety on dating apps, catfishing, and why so many of us refuse to shave our pubic hair for a man. This episode is candid, smart, and packed with insights about midlife dating and sexual confidence.Timestamps:In this episode:00:00 Holiday masterclass offer00:35 Welcome intro and episode setup01:18 Are Brits more open about sex02:22 The UK’s kink history and boarding school culture03:58 How early life stages shape sexual dynamics05:20 BDSM clubs and the UK Femdom scene06:35 Why kink is built around control, not intercourse07:40 Are Brits really more open than Americans08:32 Dating men who listen to the podcast09:48 Younger men and orgasm expectations10:42 Why people hide their curiosity about sex11:30 Porn influence, squirting, and sexual performance myths12:45 The rise of sexual repression in America13:40 Dating younger partners and why it appeals to women14:55 Midlife relationships, jealousy, and complexity16:05 Opening relationships and personal boundaries16:58 How to stay safe while dating after 5018:10 Spotting catfish and bot profiles19:22 When a profile is too good to be true20:15 Shifting into body image and aging21:00 Feeling confident naked as you age21:48 When men do not match their claimed fitness22:25 Grooming norms. Pubic hair expectations in the UK23:05 Saying no to grooming requests you do not want23:42 Early experiences with kink24:30 Why experience matters for safety in kink25:10 Learning impact play in community spaces25:35 Closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Suzanne Noble is the Co-founder of Startup...

Many people fantasize about exploring intimacy with three people, but very few know how to talk about it or where to begin. In this episode, I walk through communication steps, boundary-setting, and five setups that help people feel grounded instead of overwhelmed.In this episode, I break down what people over 50 are most curious about when it comes to trying a threesome. You get clear guidance on communication, consent, emotional grounding, and five practical positions that make a threesome feel exciting instead of overwhelming. This episode gives you structure, safety, and real world tips you can use to talk with your partner before anything happens.Timestamps:In this episode: 00:00 Intro. Why group intimacy is a top fantasy00:20 What makes a three person experience different00:45 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:05 The reality of trying a threesome in midlife01:32 The question no one asks. What do you do with three bodies01:55 Five setups to make things feel comfortable02:05 The disclaimer on dynamics02:18 Why talking before touching matters02:52 Boundaries, desires, and clear agreements03:18 Position 1. Lounge chair03:45 Position 2. Tandem touch04:15 Position 3. Side by side connection04:42 Position 4. Double rider05:15 Position 5. The bridge05:55 Essentials. Consent, protection, and sharing the spotlight06:25 Laughing off the awkward parts06:48 Final thoughts on curiosity and exploration07:00 Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: a...