Masala Podcast: The South Asian feminist podcast

Have you ever felt so angry you could scream, but swallowed it to keep the peace? For generations, women have been taught that our anger is ugly, hysterical and unladylike. We are conditioned to be the 'good girls' and the peacemakers. But what happens to all that unexpressed rage? It literally makes us sick.In the Season Premiere of Masala Podcast, host Sangeeta Pillai explores the devastating physical and mental toll of suppressing female rage - from chronic stress and high cortisol to the staggering rates of autoimmune diseases in women.To break this conditioning, we don't need sanitised Western wellness. We need the unapologetic wisdom of ancient Indian culture. Join Sangeeta as she travels to a sacred Snake Temple in Kerala to witness untamed female energy, unpacks the profound feminist symbolism of Goddess Kali, and shares a raw, physical practice (Simhasana / Lion's Breath) to help you release trapped anger and reclaim your boundaries.Let your anger be the fire that burns down what no longer serves you. Let’s roar together! 🔥In this episode, we cover:00:00 - Introduction: Are You Swallowing Your Anger?01:30 - The Feminist Issue: How Suppressed Rage Makes Women Sick05:00 - The Serpant Temple: Witnessing Wild Female Energy in Kerala14:00 - Goddess Kali: The Ultimate Feminist Icon of Sacred Rage20:00 - The Practical Cure: Lion's Breath (Simhasana) for Releasing Anger25:00 - Journaling Prompts: Reclaiming Your Boundaries & Your Anger27:00 - Final Thoughts: Pulling the Threads Together & Channeling Your Inner Kali29:30 - Outro & DisclaimerFree Resources & Connections:🖤 Free Feminist Course: Claim your free course at baddaughter.co.uk💌 Share your thoughts: What did you think of this episode? Email Sangeeta at [email protected] 📱 Follow the journey: Connect on Instagram @soulsutras for more ancient Indian feminist wisdom. Want to follow my Kerala journey? Follow me on SubstackCheck out my work on Soul Sutras and my book Bad Daughter(Disclaimer: While we explore deep healing and ancient wisdom on this podcast, Sangeeta is not a medical professional. If you’re struggling with your mental or physical health, please reach out to a qualified therapist or doctor. You do not have to do this alone.)

Healing Trauma with Ancient Indian Feminist Wisdom in KeralaWhy am I leaving my safe London life, packing away my podcast awards and returning to the very culture that traumatised me?After 11 years in my beautiful canalside flat, I am giving away 70% of my belongings, shedding my "London Sangeeta" identity, and taking nothing with me but my mother’s burnt orange silk sari. I am going back to the lush green backwaters of Kerala.In this deeply vulnerable bridging episode, I am opening up about a mystical vision in a Kerala temple that changed the entire trajectory of my life. For years on Masala Podcast, we have talked about the cultural taboos that damage South Asian women. Now, we are entering a new era.Modern women are exhausted. We are burnt out by a misogynistic world that masquerades as progressive, constantly telling us we are never enough. To survive, we have to stop playing by their rules. Over the next six solo episodes, we are going to explore ancient Indian feminist wisdom to heal modern feminist issues. We will dive into the raw, unapologetic power of the fierce goddesses—and learn how to re-wild ourselves.The culture that hurt me is going to heal me. I want to be guided by the Goddess on this new path and I want to be your guide, if you’ll let me.In this episode, we explore:The emotional cost of decluttering and leaving my life in the UK.Why I rejected Kerala and the Malayalam language for 50 years.A profound spiritual vision of my grandmother that told me: "I am the temple."Escaping the traps of patriarchal brainwashing and capitalist wellness.What to expect in this brand new season of Masala Podcast.MY FREE 5-DAY "BAD DAUGHTER" COURSE!Resources & Links I've mentioned on this episode:✨ My Substack piece on the power of female anger in the Serpent Temple: 📖 My inspiring memoir, Bad Daughter🌿 Follow my journey moving to Kerala on Instagram: @SoulSutrasLet me know what you think of this new direction! Email me at [email protected] or send me a DM on Instagram.⏱️ Episode Chapters:0:00 - The Burnt Orange Sari & Leaving London01:30 - Decluttering 21 Years & Leaving My Trophies03:15 - Why I Rejected Kerala For 50 Years05:00 - A Mystical Vision in the Temple07:30 - Shedding My "London Sangeeta" Identity09:15 - Discovering Raw Goddess Energy11:00 - Modern Feminist Issues & Patriarchal Brainwashing12:45 - Re-wilding Ourselves with Ancient Wisdom14:30 - What's Coming Next on Masala Podcast15:30 - Taking My Mother Back to KeralaABOUT MASALA PODCAST:Masala Podcast (winner of 6 British Podcast Awards, 1 Audio Product Award & Spotify SoundUp Award) is the UK's biggest South Asian feminist podcast. Created and hosted by Sangeeta Pillai, this is a highly respected podcast exploring intersectional feminist topics around culture, sex, sexuality, menopause, periods, trauma and fierce feminist rebellion. Sangeeta and Masala Podcast have been been featured extensively in the press from BBC Radio, Guardian, Metro, Cosmopolitan, Evening Standard, Stylist, Eastern Eye to Huffington Post. As well as on giant billboards in New York, London, Dublin, Cardiff & Glasgow.

Is It Culture or Is It Control? The Truth About 'Honour'-Based AbuseSPECIAL EPISODE IN PARTNERSHIP WITH THE UK GOVERNMENTWhat do you think of when you hear the words ‘Honour’-Based Abuse? If you think it doesn’t happen to people like you, in cosmopolitan cities like London, then this is a must-listen episode.This week, I, Sangeeta Pillai, am talking about something deeply important and often misunderstood: ‘Honour’-Based Abuse (HBA). This isn't just a distant headline; it's a reality for thousands of women in the UK, from all walks of life. I’ll share my own personal story of facing an arranged marriage, and we'll unpack the shocking statistics that show HBA is more common than you think.Let’s do what we always do on Masala Podcast. Let's grab a cup of chai, sit down, and talk about the things we’re not supposed to talk about. Because pressure, control, and fear are not our culture.Support ResourcesIf you or someone you know is experiencing ‘honour’-based abuse, please know that you are not alone and confidential, free help is available.Karma Nirvana: A specialist charity for victims of honour-based abuse and forced marriage.UK Helpline: 0800 5999 247 (Monday - Friday: 9am - 5pm)Website: https://karmanirvana.org.uk/Forced Marriage Unit: +44 (0)20 7008 0151Southall Black Sisters: Providing information and support for Black and minority women experiencing violence and abuse.Helpline: 020 8571 0800Website: https://southallblacksisters.org.uk/Refuge (National Domestic Abuse Helpline): Free, 24-hour confidential support for women experiencing domestic abuse, including HBA.Helpline: 0808 2000 247Website: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/In an emergency, always call 999.In This Episode, We Talk About:What ‘Honour’-Based Abuse Really Is: Understanding the official definition beyond the headlines.My Personal Story: I share my own experience of being pressured into an arranged marriage at 18.The Shocking Reality of HBA in the UK: Exploring the latest statistics from Karma Nirvana, including the fact that cases have risen by 35% since 2022.Who Are the Victims?: HBA happens to educated, professional women (and men). We look at the data on age, location, and ethnicity.The Triggers for Abuse: From family disputes and having a boyfriend to simply "being female."Stories of Survival: Fictionalised but realistic stories of women like 'Layla' and 'Sonia' to show what coercive control and forced marriage can look like.Understanding Coercive Control: How abuse can be silent, emotional, and financial, leaving no physical bruises.The Burden of "Shame" and "Honour": Why these two powerful words stop so many women from seeking help.How You Can Help: Learning to spot the signs of HBA and understanding that culture is never an excuse for abuse.Thank you for listening to Masala Podcast. Please share this episode with your friends and family—you never know who might need to hear it.Connect with me on Instagram at @soulsutras or email me at [email protected] with your thoughts - I'd love to hear from you.This episode is edited by The Podcasting Company @https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepodcastingcompany/

Breaking the Cycle of South Asian Cultural Shame | Masala Podcast I'm peeling back the layers on a tough topic for South Asian diaspora experience: Cultural Shame. This isn't just about feeling "different"; it’s about the deep-rooted psychological burden of feeling that our culture, our bodies, and our very existence are "wrong" in a Western context.1. Why We Feel Cultural Shame We didn't wake up with this feeling; it was designed. We explore the "why" behind our embarrassment and our "Log Kya Kehenge" thinking:The Colonial Hangover: Centuries of being told our traditions were "uncivilized" created a deep-seated internalized racism within all of us. It’s so deep-rooted that we don’t even know it’s there. Like everything we’re unaware of, it manifests in so many areas of our lives from school, to work to relationships.The Integration Trap: The pressure to "fit in" to survive and succeed in Western spaces means we learn (often subconsciously) to hide our true South Asian selves. We learn that being more Western, being more accepted in the world we live in.Generational Weight: Our parents' survival instincts taught them to also blend in and now draw attention to their more Desi parts. And growing up with those values, we turned into our cultural baggage.2. How Cultural Shame Manifests in Our Lives Shame isn't just a feeling; it’s a set of behaviours that are deeply rooted in our bodies and minds.The "Log Kya Kahenge" Filter: We might learn that others are judging us and this might dictate our career, clothes, and relationships.Code-Switching: We feel the exhaustion of switching versions of ourselves between home and the outside world. And yet, sometimes this is so embedded in us, we don’t even realise that we’re doing it.Policing How We Look: The shame is subtle yet it’s there. It might surround our hair, our skin tone, and our physical presence. This would explain why we might style our hair to look more Western, why we might wear more “neutral” clothing.3. What We Can Do to Change In this episode, I share how we can begin the work of reclaiming our identity:Radical Vulnerability: Speaking the "shameful" things out loud to strip them of their power and that might even mean admitting it to ourselves.Curating Our Own Culture: Perhaps we could start by picking and choosing those parts of our heritage that nourish us, those parts of ourselves that we have ignored for such a long time.This episode is an invitation to stop hiding, to embrace those beautiful parts of our identity. It’s time to move from shame to radical South Asian pride.I wrote a longer article here about cultural shame and some solutions:https://soulsutras.co.uk/unpacking-cultural-shame-south-asian-diaspora/#MasalaPodcast #SouthAsianIdentity #CulturalShame #DesiMentalHealth #LogKyaKahenge #SouthAsianFeminism #HealingTrauma #DiasporaStories #SangeetaPillai #BrownGirlProblems #UnlearningShame

Have you ever looked at your life and thought it looked perfect on the outside—maybe even "Instagrammable"—yet felt a deep, invisible ache inside? In this episode of the Masala Podcast, host Sangeeta Pillai gets more personal than ever to break the silence around a global epidemic: Loneliness.Sangeeta shares the raw reality of her own "peak" moment—standing in London’s Leicester Square looking at her own face on a giant billboard, only to realize she had no one to call and share the news with. We dive into why so many South Asian women feel like they are living inside a "glass bubble," disconnected even when surrounded by family, friends, or a partner.In this episode, we discuss:The "Invisible" Epidemic: Why you can be in a room full of thousands of people and still feel entirely untetheredThe Health Cost: The shocking reality that loneliness is as damaging to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day and its links to anxiety, heart health, and cognitive declineThe Price of Rebellion: How choosing to be a "Bad Daughter" and rejecting traditional cultural scripts—like getting married and "settling down"—can lead to a unique type of isolationThe Transformation Shift: Why your circle might change as you grow, and how to navigate the grief of losing old friendships that no longer fit the woman you’ve becomeFrom Loneliness to Solitude: Practical tips on losing the shame, sitting with your grief, and finally emerging into a world where you are truly seen and heardThis is a conversation for every woman who has ever felt like she was "carrying a beautiful story with no one to tell it to". It’s time to stop the numbing and start the healing.