The Calm Confidence Podcast (Formerly the "Therapy on Tap Podcast")

In this episode I explore the role of negativity bias in social anxiety. We often believe we have an objective understanding of ourselves, when in reality our narrative shapes everything we see. In this episode I will challenge you to challenge yourself and your beliefs about yourself and the world. Maybe we've got this thing all wrong.Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidenceSources:Hertel, P. T., Brozovich, F., Joormann, J., & Gotlib, I. H. (2008). Biases in interpretation and memory in generalized social phobia. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 117(2), 278–288. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-843X.117.2.278 Beard, C., & Amir, N. (2010). Negative interpretation bias mediates the effect of social anxiety on state anxiety. Cognitive Therapy and Research, 34(3), 292–296. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10608-009-9258-6Johnston, C. R., Quarmley, M., Nelson, B. D., Helion, C., Murty, V. P., & Jarcho, J. M. (2023). Social feedback biases emerge during recall but not prediction and shift across the development of social anxiety. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, 120(52), e2308593120. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2308593120

This is the audio from a short video I made on YouTube. Social anxiety can also impact our relationships. It can make us worry about where we stand with someone, if they are mad at us, if they like us, etc... These worries can sometimes lead to destructive behaviors (seeking validation and reassurance) that ultimately do more harm than good. In this episode I explore what can be done about your desperation so you can feel more confident in your relationships.Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidence

Social Anxiety makes us passive, but the more passive we are the less control we feel over our own lives. We hold onto narratives decades old because we have no new information to change them. If we want to change how we think and feel about ourselves, we have to change how we act first. Give yourself a chance to learn something new about yourself. Maybe you are not the unlikeable loser you have always thought. Maybe if you put yourself out there enough times, you can find people who like all the weird things about you. Time to get out of our heads and take action. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #lonely #loneliness Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidenceYoutube episode: https://youtu.be/KZdJjPdUWQ0

Alcohol, unfortunately, can be very good at calming our nerves. I say unfortunately because this can create a very dangerous cycle. If we rely on alcohol to get through our social situations, we increase our likehood of having alcohol problems. We are also not addressing the fear of socializing at it's core. When we drink we are finding a loophole around the fear, which doesn't allow us to overcome the fear in the longrun. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #sociallyawkward Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidenceSources:National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. (2023, May 9). Alcohol and other substance use to cope with social anxiety. Spectrum. https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/news-events/spectrum/volume-15-issue-2-spring-2023/alcohol-and-other-substance-use-cope-with-social-anxietyProtective Strategies Study Team, Villarosa-Hurlocker, M. C., Bravo, A. J., Pearson, M. R., Prince, M. A., Madson, M. B., Henson, J. M., Looby, A., Gonzalez, V. M., Henslee, A. M., Cuttler, C., Wong, M. M., & McChargue, D. E. (2019). The relationship between social anxiety and alcohol and marijuana use outcomes among concurrent users: A motivational model of substance use. Alcoholism: Clinical and Experimental Research, 43(4), 732-740. https://doi.org/10.1111/acer.13966Book, S. W., & Randall, C. L. (2002). Social anxiety disorder and alcohol use. Alcohol Research & Health, 26(2), 130-135.Hart, G., Panayi, M. C., Harris, J. A., & Westbrook, R. F. (2014). Benzodiazepine treatment can impair or spare extinction, depending on when it is given. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 56, 22–29. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brat.2014.02.004Skelly, M. J., Chappell, A. J., Carter, E., Weiner, J. L., & Gujar, N. (2015). Adolescent social isolation increases anxiety-like behavior and ethanol consumption in adult C57BL/6J mice. Pharmacology, Biochemistry & Behavior, 133, 7-15. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.pbb.2015.04.004Bisby, J. A., King, J. A., Sulpizio, V., Degeilh, F., Curran, H. V., & Burgess, N. (2015). Extinction learning is slower, weaker and less context specific after alcohol. Neurobiology of Learning and Memory, 125, 55–62. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.nlm.2015.07.014Rosen, C. S., Greenbaum, M. A., Schnurr, P. P., Holmes, T. H., Brennan, P. L., & Friedman, M. J. (2013). Do benzodiazepines reduce the effectiveness of exposure therapy for posttraumatic stress disorder? The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 74(12), 1241-1247. https://doi.org/10.4088/JCP.13m08592

Self-consciousness prevents us from living and acting freely in the world. When we are in a social situation and we become self conscious it becomes nearly impossible to engage in conversations because we feel we need to constantly watch and edit ourselves. In this episode I explore why we are self conscious and what mindset shifts and practical skills we can adopt to step outside of ourselves and rid ourselves of fear and social anxiety. Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidenceSources:Fistikci, N., Saatcioglu, Ö., Keyvan, A., Kalkan, M., & Topçuoğlu, V. (2015). Attentional bias and training in social anxiety disorder. Noro Psikiyatr Arsivi, 52(1), 4–7. https://doi.org/10.5152/npa.2015.8777 Arad, G., Azriel, O., Pine, D. S., Lazarov, A., Sol, O., Weiser, M., Garber, E., Bloch, M., & Bar-Haim, Y. (2023). Attention bias modification treatment versus a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor or waiting list control for social anxiety disorder: A randomized clinical trial. The American Journal of Psychiatry, 180(5), 357–366. https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.ajp.20220533Amir, N., Foa, E. B., & Coles, M. E. (2009). Attention training in individuals with generalized social phobia: A randomized controlled trial. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 118(1), 159–170. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0013643

PODCAST NAME CHANGE! THIS WAS FORMERLY THE "THERAPY ON TAP PODCAST."Sometimes it feels like no matter how many times we put ourselves in social situations, nothing gets better. We are still filled with the same dread and anxiety, despite people and mental health professionals telling you "you have to challenge yourself" if you want to overcome fear and build confidence. In this episode I explore why exposure therapy doesn't always work, and what you can to actually make the progress you are looking for.Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidenceSources:Edgar, E. V., Richards, A., Castagna, P. J., Bloch, M. H., & Crowley, M. J. (2024). Post-event rumination and social anxiety: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Journal of Psychiatric Research, 187, 87–97. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychires.2024.03.013Watkins, E. R., & Roberts, H. (2020). Reflecting on rumination: Consequences, causes, mechanisms and treatment of rumination. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 127, 103573. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brat.2020.103573Donohue, H. E., Modini, M., Abbott, M. J., Rapee, R. M., & others. (2024). Psychological interventions for pre-event and post-event rumination in social anxiety: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Journal of Anxiety Disorders, 102, Article 102823. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.janxdis.2023.102823Price, M., & Dalgleish, T. (2010). The impact of cognitive behavioural therapy on post-event rumination in social phobia. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 48(8), 673–678. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brat.2010.04.003Maeda, S., Yoshida, K., Amano, K., Tamagawa, A., Hayashino, Y., & others. (2022). The effect of distraction versus post-event processing on cortisol recovery in individuals with elevated social anxiety. Biological Psychology, 182, Article 108918. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.biopsycho.2022.108918Gray, E., Beierl, E. T., & Clark, D. M. (2019). Sub-types of safety behaviours and their effects on social anxiety disorder. PLOS ONE, 14(10), e0223165Evans, R., Chiu, K., Clark, D. M., Waite, P., & Leigh, E. (2021). Safety behaviours in social anxiety: An examination across adolescence. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 144, Article 103931

When we feel anxious in social situations, we play it safe. We don't tell the funny joke, we sit in the corner of the room, we don't share our interests. This can temporarily make us feel more safe and at ease, but actually exacerbates the anxiety in the long run. In this episode I explore why playing it safe is a dangerous game, how it traps us from truly accepting ourselves and allowing others to accept us, and how it makes things worse in the long run. #socialanxiety #shyness #shyguy #socialskills #confidence #confidencebuilding Sources:Gray, E., Beierl, E. T., & Clark, D. M. (2019). Sub-types of safety behaviours and their effects on social anxiety disorder. PLOS ONE, 14(10), e0223165Evans, R., Chiu, K., Clark, D. M., Waite, P., & Leigh, E. (2021). Safety behaviours in social anxiety: An examination across adolescence. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 144, Article 103931Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidence

Every socially anxious person's nightmare... You're in a conversation, things seem to be going ok, when suddenly... your brain freezes. Now your heart and your thoughts are racing, trying to come up with something to say. What do you do now? In this video I dive deep into this commonly asked questioned by social anxiety sufferers, and the answer may not be at all what you expected. #socialanxiety #shyness #shyguy #socialskills #confidence #confidencebuilding Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidence

Self confidence can be quite the Paradox. If you don't already have confidence, no amount of achievement will give it to you. This is because our low self esteem doesn't allow us to appreciate our successes. In this video, I explore a more reliable way to attain and build confidence; learning to trust ourselves to overcome rather than measuring ourselves based on our perceived achievements. #confidence #selfconfidence #selfsteem #perfectionism #perfectionist Interested in working with me:For NY/NJ: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For Non-NJ/NJ: https://www.calm-confidence-coaching.com/Podcast:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=hk7Fd58VTZK0pyocVxv34gApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calmconfidencecoaching/?igsh=MXQyYnppMHJ2cGV5OQ%3D%3DTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@calmconfidencecoach?_t=ZP-8vQMixBga6Q&_r=1

Marijuana has become more accepted both culturally and legally, and on the whole this has been a good thing. However, I think we are being dishonest if we don't acknowledge the very real dangers of marijuana. Marijuana has been proven to increase the likelihood of psychosis and schizophrenia. It is also not as effective as advertised in treating anxiety and depression. I'm not saying you need to stop smoking, you just have to be careful. #mentalhealthawareness #psychosis #schizophrenia #anxiety #depression #marijuanalegalization

Depression isn't always an internal problem. Sometimes we are depressed because our life is simply not going well. Some of these reasons are out of our control, others are in our control but we're having difficulty making the appropriate changes. In this episode I explore how modern therapy and psychiatry has become lazy by labeling everything a "disorder." It's not a disorder if we are seeing things objectively, but just not happy about it. #depression #depressed #depressionawareness #mensmentalhealth #mentalhealth Socials:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidence

You may not realize this, but by trying to "improve" your social skills, you are actually making your social anxiety worse. If you struggle with social anxiety you already obsess about how you come across, what you are saying, how you are saying it, etc. By trying to "improve" your skills, you actually exacerbate the obsessiveness. In this episode I will discuss how you can let go and finally find the freedom you are looking for. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #shyness #shygirl #shyguy Socials:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidence

We can't avoid judgement from others, so don't bother trying. Our attempts to avoid it only make our social anxiety worse and it won't stop the judgment from coming anyway. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #confidence #resilience #freedom Interested in getting in contact?https://charlesperrytherapy.com/Podcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

We're often taught that if we want to feel confident in something, we have to practice until we have mastered it. We believe that confidence comes from developing skills and constantly improving ourselves. While this is sound advice in certain situations, it does little in building long lasting, internal confidence. What do we do if we are learning something new? How can we feel confident in ourselves if confidence is only supposed to come through mastery? In this video I explore a simpler, yet deeper form of confidence. #confidence #confidenceboost #confidencebuilding #selfimprovement #wisdom #depression #anxiety Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-sessionPodcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Anxiety, and mental health in general, is a dream crusher. It prevents you from living a full life and makes you believe you have to put your life on hold. Your life will slowly shrink more and more as you give in to the anxiety. In this video, I explore how you can begin to break free of this cycle and start dreaming again. #anxiety #anxietyrelief #anxietyanddepression #anxietyrelief Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-sessionPodcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Are you an overthinker? In this video I break 4 common mistakers overthinkers make, and how to overcome them! #overthinking #worry #rumination #anxiety #anxietyrelief Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-sessionYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CharliePerrymentalhealthPodcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Depression will change you in ways you cannot even imagine. It's important we recognize the power of depression so we don't fall into the trap of blaming ourselves, and we are able to recognize how depression is clouding our thoughts, emotions and behaviors. #depression #depressionawareness #depressed #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-sessionYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CharliePerrymentalhealthPodcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Social anxiety isn't just a fear of talking to others. In this video, I examine 6 oddly specific symptoms/signs of social anxiety that you may relate to. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #socialanxietyproblems #selfconscious Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-sessionYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@CharliePerrymentalhealthPodcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

I've battled with social anxiety for most of my life. Now older and wiser, I've reflected on the 5 main ideas/mindset changes that helped me break free of my social anxiety and become a more confident person. In this video, I share these 5 ideas in hopes that it can connect to some of you out there who are struggling with social anxiety so you can live a freer and more confident life. It's time to rid yourself of all that self-consciousness that is preventing you from being the person you want to be and living the life you want to live.Chapters0:00 Intro0:55 Idea 1 - Don't value those who judge2:12 Idea 2 - Seeking approval is a never-ending loop3:40 Idea 3 - Respect is not earned, it is assumed5:14 Idea 4 - I'm not awkward, I'm anxious6:39 Idea 5 - Do Less, Not More8:01 Outro #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #selfconscious #selfacceptance #confidence #shyness #shyguy #shygirl Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-sessionYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@CharliePerrymentalhealthPodcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Are you tired of being a people pleaser and constantly suppressing your emotions? In this video, we'll explore the connection between people-pleasing, emotional suppression, and social anxiety. Learn why managing anger and expressing emotions in healthy ways is essential for building confidence and setting boundaries. In this video I discuss how anger can be a powerful tool for communication and self-understanding, rather than seen as something to suppress or judge. I'll explain like why suppressing emotions causes anxiety, how to stop being a people pleaser, and how to reframe negative emotions as valuable information. You’ll learn practical strategies to overcome the fear of expressing emotions, set healthy boundaries, and stop feeling like others can trample over you. If you’re looking to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing, overcome social anxiety, and empower yourself emotionally, this video you may find this video helpful. Let’s explore how to stop judging your feelings, reframe anger as a positive force, and build the confidence to express yourself authentically in every situation. #PeoplePleaser #SocialAnxiety #SetBoundaries #EmotionalHealth #ExpressYourself #OvercomingAnxiety #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealthTips Interested in getting in contact? For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/ For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30min https://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-session Podcast link: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6a Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585 Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecp Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d https://youtu.be/_efmZ97LIM8