And Just Like That... We Found Therapy - A Sex and the City Podcast

This week on And Just Like That… We Found Therapy, I’m joined by therapist and in-house sexpert at Killing Kittens, Calandra Balfour, to unpack one of the boldest episodes of Sex and the City: Season 3, Episode 2 — Politically Erect.Calandra Balfour is a professional Dominatrix, sex therapist, kink workshop facilitator. and owns sex shop and dungeons in Brighton, UK. With regular appearances on UK TV Channels 4 and Channel 5, Calandra has a knack for putting clients at ease with her insightful and entertaining take on sex. Check out her website.Killing Kittens holds world-famous hedonistic events and are the ultimate adult playgrounds. Celebrating 20 years of empowerment, KK crafts unforgettable hedonistic experiences around the world, through parties, retreats, cruises and more. Step into a world of liberation, where excitement is limitless. Check out their Wax App.In this episode, we explore:​Are we attracted to power, or to the safety we think power provides?​Why high-achieving men often crave sexual submission​How to introduce a kink into a relationship without blowing it up​The difference between compromise and self-abandonment​Whether sexual fulfillment translates into confidence in leadership​Why wanting what you cannot have feels intoxicatingWe also discuss how power shifts inside relationships, why vulnerability can be the ultimate power move, and how clarity is often sexier than control.Smart, spicy, psychologically layered and still wildly relevant.Thanks for tuning in. I love y’all ❣️Follow the pod for updates & upcoming episodes 🎙️

Season 3 is officially here — and we’re starting strong.In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Hannah Aaron Brown to break down Sex and the City S03E01, Where There’s Smoke — the episode that asks what happens when you’re freshly heartbroken, a little lost, and suddenly back in the dating world.From firemen fantasies to political crushes, from post-breakup paralysis to the pressure to “move on already,” we unpack what it really looks like to start again after a big love ends.In this episode, we talk about:✨ Why being freshly single makes even small dating moments feel overwhelming✨ The danger of chasing fantasy instead of reality✨ When wanting to be “rescued” actually means avoiding your own healing✨ Why hot doesn’t always mean good — in dating or in bed✨ Learning to enjoy dating again without turning it into pressure✨ And how sometimes the best reset is choosing your friends, not another relationshipHannah brings her sharp pop-culture brain, honesty, and humor to a conversation about breakups, boundaries, and why finding your way back to yourself matters more than finding the next person.You can follow Hannah on IG and TikTok and check out her podcast Not Aspirational for more of her brilliant takes.Thanks for tuning in. I love y’all ❣️📲 Follow the pod for updates & upcoming episodes:Instagram/TikTok/Substack: @wefoundtherapypod

I’m finally back with new content — and so excited to kick off a brand new season of And Just Like That… We Found Therapy.This teaser is a little hello before Season 3 officially drops next week, and a preview of everything that’s coming your way — including our Season 2 Wrap episode with Tom Flaherty from Rejection Rehab.In this episode, I share:What’s changing this season and whyWhy the show is becoming even more listener-ledHow you can get involved in the new segment “He’s Not Your Mr. Big”What to expect from upcoming solo episodes and lighter conversations with friendsAnd yes… a little life update, because of courseStarting this season, you can DM your dating questions to the pod and I’ll match you with the best therapists, dating coaches, and matchmakers in my Rolodex — so you get real answers, not just vibes.Next week kicks off with our Season 2 Wrap episode with Tom Flaherty.If you’ve been here since the beginning, thank you.If you’re new — welcome. Season 3 is for you.Thanks for tuning in. I love y’all ❣️📲 Follow the pod for updates & upcoming episodes:Instagram/TikTok/Substack: @wefoundtherapypod

This episode is the Season 2 wrap — and the start of something new.I’m joined by Tom Flaherty, host of Rejection Rehab, for what I like to call Carrie’s Bootcamp: a full walkthrough of Sex and the City Season 2, episode by episode, through the lens of rejection, mixed signals, emotional unavailability, and why we stay when we shouldn’t.Tom hasn’t watched a single episode of SATC — so he steps in as the brutally honest guy friend, helping me unpack Carrie’s relationship with Mr. Big in real time.We talk about:✨ Why sexual chemistry doesn’t guarantee emotional commitment✨ The myth of “if I wait long enough, he’ll choose me”✨ When effort is real vs bare minimum dressed up as romance✨ Why consistency matters more than intensity✨ The danger of loving potential instead of reality✨ And the moment every Carrie has to face: “Why wasn’t it me?”If you’ve ever romanticised inconsistency, ignored red flags, or stayed because it almost worked — this one’s for you.You can also follow Tom and his brilliant work on Instagram at @rejectionrehab and listen to his podcast here.Thanks for tuning in. I love y’all ❣️📲 Follow the pod for updates & upcoming episodes:Instagram/TikTok/Substack: @wefoundtherapypod

This week’s episode is a solo episode. This episode to me is a big part of why I started the podcast. Carrie’s insistence in making things right with Mr Big, finding a happy ending or manipulating him into choosing her again have fanned the flames of too many of us that couldn’t stomach not being “chosen”.So this is my version of a therapy session with a few insights and tricks to reclaim your power and start your healing journey from that someone that will eventually fade into the void and become a dinner anecdote at most. Trust me.I did a lot of research and recorded many attempts, so please reach out or leave a comment with feedback on today’s episode.I’ll be taking a little break before coming back for season three to focus on my socials, so don’t forget to follow me on:​Instagram;​TikTok; and​Substack

This week Liv (Lesbian Super Club’s manager and youth correspondent to many) joins me to discuss season 2 episode 17 of Sex and the City.Tune in to listen to our debate on crabs, Rolodexes and hoedowns as Freya chimes in from the distance.Find Liv in any of the following links:​Liv’s IG page​Liv’s TikTok page ​Her Talent Management Agency IG pageNext week get ready for a very special episode for the season finale. Thanks for listening, don’t forget to share and rate 5 stars ✨ I love y’all ❣️

Welcome back to another therapy session!Join me and pod repeat guest Alejandra Welsh Peña as we dissect season 2 episode 17 of Sex and the City.We talk all things tantra and tantric sec, dating a recovering addict and overcoming blockages in the bedroom.Please follow Alejandra and find the links to her page and workshops below:​Alejandra’s instagram page​The 5th house website​Questionnaire to participate in her curated single nights (she’s doing one in Ibiza soon and in Lisbon in October!)​Freebies to lingam and yoni massagesThank you for listening and don’t forget to share and rate 5 stars 🌟. Oh, and leave me comments 💬Love y’all ❣️

Join me and Freya on another episode where we discuss:​Premature ejaculation​Hooking up with your friends’ siblings​Breaking up with your significant other’s family​Slut shaming; and ​Gay clichésDon’t forget to follow Freya and the podcasts socials below:​Freya’s IG account​Freya’s TikTok​Lesbian Supper Club’s IG account; andLSC’s TikTokThanks for listening! I love y’all ❣️

This week I am here with my brilliant friend and repeat guest: Certified Sexologist and Founder of Wonderlust… Natassia Miller!Tune in if you want to hear tips on breaking your dating patterns, how to successfully navigate fuck buddy relationships and even maybe friends with benefits.Don’t forget to check out Natassia’s sites:​Wonderlust website​Natassia’s IG page​Link to her fun card gamePlease don’t forget to share, rate 5 stars and leave comments!Love y’all ❣️

Join me and Archie Kennedy as we explore why people fixate on their exes after a breakup.From ignoring red flags to reliving the past. Understanding these patterns can help you move forward.We also dive into whether or not it is advisable (and healthy) to play games when dating and even in a relationship.Archie was a great sport and I loved getting his point of view.Hope you enjoy it as much as I did.Don’t forget to share, follow and rate 5 stars 🌟.I love y’all ❣️

Erica Lemke is back to discuss with me La Doleur Exquise (season 2 episode 12 of SATC).Following her appearance on The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives where they discuss fetishes, Erica helps me unpack this iconic episode of Sex and the City.Trust me to ask all the important questions like why are foot fetishes so common and what’s behind someone who keeps ending up in relationships that feel - in the words of Carrie - like S&Ms relationships.Please find Erica in the following links:Her IG page​Link to her offerings, including upcoming workshops​And Season 2 Episode 4 of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives!I love y’all ❣️Don’t forget to share, follow and rate 5 stars 🌟

The big guns have arrived and it could be no other than the legend Dr Vali to take the reins of The Evolution episode.Join us as we talk all things fertility, making sure you get a drawer at your boyfriend’s place and hair plugs.Please make sure you catch Dr Vali:​At Selfridges 3rd Floor​Her IG page​Her TikTok pageThis episode was super special to record. Thank you to all of Dr Vali’s team for their help and amazing resources.I love y’all ❣️Hope you enjoy it as much as I did

Nicole Nasr is back! This time she is joining me to discuss episode 10 of the second season of Sex and the City: The Caste System. Man oh man had I missed her! Nicole shares her best tips on how to navigate differences in relationships, making peace with being at different levels within a partnership and holding your ground when faced with a two faced employee of your date of the month!In case you missed it, she was also on episode 4 (listen on Spotify or also available on Apple Podcasts).Here are the links to all things Nicole:​Nicole’s IG page​Journey’s IG page​Journey’s website​Journey’s TikTok ​This podcast’s IG​This podcast’s TikTok Follow her, do reach out if you’re looking for a therapist, she’s the best.Don’t forget to follow, rate 5 stars 🌟 and share with your friends!​I love y’all ❣️

This week I am joined by Kristina Kennedy, Notting Hill neighbour, friend and therapist.We discuss season 2 episode 9 of Sex and the City, Old Dogs, New Dicks.Join me and Kristina as we discuss letting go of control in relationships, working on your own secure attachment style and letting go of prejudice (over uncircumcised penises).I will keep you posted on Kristina’s book and podcast through our IG page.You can get in touch with Kristina through her website or through me.Love y’all ❣️

This podcast’s graphic designer joins me to discuss season 2 episode 8… The Man, The Myth, The Viagra. We get Trump, we get Steve and most importantly we get Yasmina Aoun’s point of views on Carrie and Big becoming a thing again, Sam dipping her toes in the geriatric pond and the delulu of it all.If you want to find this very talented graphic designer you may do so below:​Through her IG page​Yas’ websiteIn case you are not following this podcast’s socials yet:​Our IG page​Our TikTok I love y’all ❣️

Sabrina joins me to discuss Season 2 Episode 7 of Sex and the City: The Chicken Dance!This episode is all about love at first sight, bread crumbing and breaking some patterns that stink of settling.Join me and my lovely - feisty - Sabrina as she burns through my questions and fires some great advice.Here are the links to all the things mentioned in the episode:​Sabrina’s IG account​Sabrina’s tickets to her shows in the UK 🇬🇧 ​Sabrina’s TikTok account​Sabrina’s retreat in Spain 🇪🇸 ​This podcast’s IG account​This podcast’s TikTok account Don’t forget to follow ⤵️, rate five stars 🌟, share with your friends 👯 and leave me any comments 💬 I read them all and they mean SO much to me ❣️

SHE IS BACK!!! One of my besties and podcast pro Freya is back to deliver in this episode of AJLTWFT!Please dive in for our hot takes in Charlotte’s ride through the shiny world of the power lesbians of Manhattan, Carrie is “officially” back with Mr Big, Miranda’s competing with VHS porn and Samantha is here to teach us all about 90s pubic hair trends.Links to Freya and all things LSC:​Freya’s IG account​The lesbian supper club IG account​Freya’s TikTok page​LSC TikTok ​This pods IG PAGE​And this pods attempt at TikTok As mentioned in the episode, I’ll be taking a short break to line up some more guests and continue to deliver the best and most fun advice!Do reach out if you want to volunteer yourself or somebody else to come on!I appreciate and love y’all ❣️

Deaths, rebirths… revaluations.. welcome to another episode of And Just Like That… We Found Therapy! For this episode I am so happy to have our first ever guest repeat, could be no other than powerhouse Vana Koutsomitis!Tune in for some tips and advice if you’re thinking about texting your ex and how to navigate dating in this day and age.Some useful links:​Vana’s IG page: do reach out with your stories about love​Vana’s new book: From Boardroom to Breakthrough ​This podcast’s IG page​This podcast’s TikTok pageLove y’all ♥️

In this episode I am joined by the one and only Scarlett Plott. In addition to being one of my best friends, she’s the co-host to @lesbiansupperclubpodWe discuss being single, the fun and trauma of it, and the joy of self partnering.Check out @_scarlettjp instagram, where you can actually put a face to Ziggy’s bark and follow her journey as she starts her new amazing podcast on the intersection between extreme sports and mental health with a splash of LGBTQ.Love y’all ✌🏽

We are joined by founder of the 5th House - Alejandra Welsh Peña for this episode!Alejandra works with a lot of men and women in helping them conquer the dating experience and cultivate better intimate relationships.I am so excited for you to listen to this episode for some tips on first dates, dating burnout and how to get the best out of the experience!Here are some links to Alejandra and her work:​5th House IG page​Link to her 1-on-1 sex, love and relationship coaching​The Pleasure Code: 5 week course for men on how to pleasure women. Happens 3 times a year! Next one is in July​How to Pleasure a Yoni: 1-hour workshop for women & men​30-day challenge: for men to overcome approach anxiety and confidently connect with women in real life.Please follow her. Don’t forget to share, rate 5 stars 🌟 and comment!Love y’all ❣️