AllPaths Podcast

This episode features longtime member of the AllPaths community Colleen, who shares her journey through the emotional devastation of recurrent pregnancy loss and IVF. After five losses and two unsuccessful IVF cycles, Colleen and her husband decided to take a much-needed break, but in a shocking turn of events, discovered she was pregnant the day after the sudden death of her father. Despite her history of loss and initial expectation that it would end badly, the pregnancy defied the odds, with HCG numbers doubling quickly, leading to the confirmation of a viable pregnancy. Their son, Liam John (named after her father, John), was born prematurely at 33 weeks and six days and required a two-week stay in the NICU. After deciding to try for a second child with strict parameters, they successfully conceived their son Logan on the very first attempt, who was born full-term in May 2020 during the early stages of the pandemic lockdown.Throughout the conversation, Colleen offers insights into coping with grief and the importance of community and advocates for using transparency and humor to break the isolation associated with loss, arguing that suffering in silence by "pretending I was okay" was the hardest part of the whole experience. From sharing about her experiences through her blog and social media and her volunteer work with AllPaths, Colleen has channeled her experiences into breaking the isolation and silence surrounding loss and the complexities of motherhood after loss, to help others feel less isolated while on their own difficult journeys.Connect with Colleen on Instagram @notquitejustright.A Special thank you to Mass General Brigham, for being a Champion Sponsor of our upcoming Footsteps for Family Building Walk!If the Center for Infertility and Reproductive Surgery at Brigham and Women’s Hospital or Massachusetts General Hospital Fertility Center have been an important part of your journey, you can donate to or join Team MGB at https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamMGB.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:pregnancy loss, chemical pregnancy, HCG test, positive pregnancy test, miscarriage, recurrent pregnancy loss, unexplained infertility, fertility testing, IVF, genetic testing, ectopic pregnancy, methotrexate, NICU, humor as coping mechanism, blog, peer groups, relationships, grief, failed IVF cycles, pregnancy after loss, parenting after loss, parenting after infertility, family building, infertility support, pregnancy loss, recurrent miscarriage, IVF journey, emotional support, family growth, community support, pregnancy after loss, coping with grief, fertility treatments, parenting after loss, emotional wellness, support groups, navigating infertility, mental health in pregnancyCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

On this episode of the AllPaths podcast, we welcome Maggie Stryker, a former AllPaths group attendee and current volunteer to share her journey. Maggie and her partner began trying for a family in 2022, navigating a history of endometriosis while simultaneously undergoing multiple foot surgeries and recoveries. After eight or nine months of unsuccessful attempts, and facing physical and emotional pain, they pursued fertility testing, which ultimately led to the frustrating diagnosis of "unexplained infertility". This "worst diagnosis" meant discovering treatment effectiveness through trial and error, a process Maggie likened to being a "test bunny."Maggie's path included medicated cycles with Clomid and three rounds of IUI, all without success, eventually leading her to IVF. During this time, the world around her questioned her decision to pursue fertility treatments alongside her ongoing medical issues, but found crucial support, community, and practical advice through AllPaths’ support groups. After multiple egg retrievals, Maggie underwent a successful embryo transfer on a leap day, experiencing an early scare but ultimately having a successful pregnancy with her baby girl, Charlie. Throughout the conversation, Maggie emphasizes the crucial role of self-advocacy in medical care, the profound impact of genuine support from loved ones, and how the AllPaths community provided invaluable understanding and practical advice that outsiders couldn't. Planning to try to grow her family through remaining embryos, Maggie also hopes to become a fertility doula, drawing on her experience to support others on their journeys.A Special thank you to Champion Walk Sponsor Evernorth for their support and commitment to the fertility and family building community.If you've been helped by Freedom Fertility or VFP Pharmacy Group along your journey, you can donate to or join Team Evernorth at https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamEvernorth.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:family building, infertility journey, endometriosis and fertility, IVF experiences, unexplained infertility, fertility testing, emotional support in infertility, egg retrieval process, Clomid cycles, intrauterine insemination (IUI), coping with medical issues, support groups for fertility, community support in IVF, challenges of family planning, navigating fertility treatments, advocacy in infertility, dealing with pregnancy loss, emotional resilience in family building, personal stories of infertility, empowering friends in support, endometriosis, clomid, IUI, IVF, egg retrieval, rescue ICSI, frozen embryo transfer, hope, pregnancy after infertility, self-advocacy, patient advocacy  CONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

In this episode, we are joined by Kristen Darcy, a long-time professional in the fertility industry, shares her personal family-building journey, which she describes as "months tricked into years" before she transitioned "out of the bedroom into...surgery and procedures." She recounts questionable diagnoses and fertility treatment, experiencing an ectopic pregnancy requiring emergency surgery, a challenging physical and emotional recovery, and eventually the births of her son and daughter. Kristen emphasizes the "invisible" nature of infertility, where individuals may appear "normal" outwardly but struggle immensely internally.Kristen's experiences deeply impacted her professional path, transitioning her from a preschool teacher running an early childhood learning center to an author and fertility coach, driven by the desire that "no other woman should feel this way". Her coaching practice offers a holistic, energetic, and spiritual approach to fertility support, tailored to individual needs. And Kristen has authored three books based on her personal and professional experiences: Girlfriend to Girlfriend: A Fertility Companion, Love and Infertility, and Making Dads, co-written with Sara Naab. As Kristen has seen the fertility industry evolve, the ongoing need for emotional support has largely remained unchanged. Kristen advocates for self-empowerment, encouraging listeners to find balance, and leverage their inner strength as they navigate treatment, advising that anyone struggling with family building commit to doing "one nurturing thing every day" that will “remind you about how powerful you are and how you are enough.”LINKS:Connect with Kristen at https://www.kristendarcy.com/.SPECIAL THANK YOU to The Lemon Grove: Doula Agency & Perinatal Wellness Collaborative, for being a Leader Sponsor of our upcoming Footsteps for Family Building Walk! Donate to or join their Walk team at https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamLemonGrove.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Infertility, fertility treatment, IUI, IVF, ectopic pregnancy, pregnancy loss, secondary infertility, community support, support, author, coach, wellness, fertility planning, for family and friends, communication, setting boundaries, grief, emotional fatigue, hope, resilience, advocacy, women’s health, holistic health, family building journey, infertility support, emotional impact of infertility, fertility treatment options, coping with infertility, personal stories of infertility, support for parents, navigating fertility challenges, self-care during infertility, infertility coaching, resources for fertility, secondary infertility, emotional resilience in parenting, holistic fertility approaches, community support for infertility, fertility and relationships, understanding unexplained infertility, family building resources, advocacy in fertility care, the journey to parenthoodCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

In this episode, we talk with Mirna Nova, founder of Fertility Inspired, about her 12-year-long journey to parenthood. Mirna opens up about her early diagnosis of PCOS, which she knew would make conceiving challenging, the physical toll of undergoing various treatments including Clomid, IUI, and multiple rounds of IVF, and the profound emotional impact of her journey. After over a decade Myrna's story took a hopeful turn when she decided to follow her gut and seek a new fertility specialist, resulting in the birth of her "little miracle," a daughter born at 26 weeks.Despite the unwavering support of her husband, Mirna experienced deep feelings of isolation and self-blame throughout the years spent trying to conceive. Inspired by her own lack of resources and support during her arduous journey, Mirna founded "Fertility Inspired" offering connection and guidance for those who are still struggling to grow their families. By providing a safe space for people to share their stories and access resources, Fertility Inspired focuses on addressing the mental and emotional pressure of fertility treatments, beyond just the physical injections and hormonal changes.In a few weeks, Fertility Inspired is hosting its first event, Let's Talk Fertility brunch on Sunday, September 14, at Granite Links in Quincy, MA featuring Mirna’s own Reproductive Endocrinologist Dr. Aaron Styer of CCRM Boston and other experts to educate and build community support in the New England area. This free event aims to create a beautiful, nurturing space for connection and friendship, recognizing that those facing infertility deserve a supportive and understanding community.LINKS:Connect with Mirna at https://linktr.ee/FertilityInspiredRSVP for the Let’s Talk Fertility brunch at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/lets-talk-fertility-embracing-hope-on-the-journey-to-parenthood-tickets-1423799926909THANK YOU to the Advocate Sponsors of our Footsteps for Family Building Walk! If any of these amazing clinics and organizations have been a part of your journey and you want a way to say thanks and give back, donate to or join their Walk team:Boston IVF - https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamBostonIVFCCRM Boston - https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamCCRMBostonFemasys - https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamFemasysFirst Fertility - https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamFirstFertilityGrain Fertility - https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamGrainFertilityLabcorp - https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamLabcorpSeattle Sperm Bank - https://bit.ly/2025WalkTeamSeattleSpermBankTOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:family building, infertility support, PCOS and fertility, IVF journey, emotional...

This episode of the AllPaths podcast features Olivia King, a Rhode Island-based singer-songwriter who, through sharing her fertility struggles on social media, has found purpose in helping others feel less alone as they navigate their own journeys. Olivia and her husband married with the immediate intention of starting a family. However, after trying unsuccessfully on their own and an unexplained infertility “diagnosis” despite normal or even "better than average" test results, they embarked on a difficult journey through three unsuccessful IUI cycles and multiple IVF attempts. Olivia recounts the devastating setbacks, including a first IVF cycle where only one out of fifteen retrieved eggs fertilized, and eventually no embryos were viable, leading to a significant decline in her mental health. A crucial turning point came when her husband encouraged her to seek support, leading her to AllPaths Support Groups, which provided her with much-needed hope, shared experiences, and practical advice, reflecting that, “just having someone who really understands the weight of infertility can make such a difference in how you cope with the struggles that come along with it.”Despite switching doctors twice in pursuit of hope and solutions, Olivia's journey continued to be fraught with challenges, as doctors initially dismissed her long-standing, severe period pain. It was a third doctor who finally suspected and confirmed Stage 4 Endometriosis, a condition that had been "wreaking havoc" in her body for over 20 years and was likely the underlying cause of her "unexplained infertility". This diagnosis, despite prior dismissals from medical professionals, brought both validation and immense frustration at the systemic issues in endometriosis care and has made Olivia a vocal proponent of self-advocacy in the medical system. While Olivia doesn’t know where the next steps in her journey will lead, she now uses her platform and her music as a therapeutic outlet, partnering with Play it Forward to fundraise for AllPaths Family Building, turning her pain into a powerful purpose to educate and advocate for others.Get a free download of Olivia’s song "In My Head" and watch the music video by donating to AllPath at https://www.playitforward.com/projects/olivia-king-fertility-fundraiserTOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Fertility treatment, IUI, unexplained infertility, IVF, gallbladder, patient advocacy, self-advocacy, endometriosis, endometriosis, excision surgery, MIGS surgery, family building, fertility journey, unexplained infertility, IVF experiences, endometriosis awareness, support for infertility, self-advocacy in healthcare, emotional impact of infertility, coping with fertility challenges, mental health and infertility, finding purpose in struggle, community support for family building, fertility testing, navigating fertility treatments, emotional support groups, growing your family, personal stories of infertilityCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

In this episode of the AllPaths Podcast, we speak with Trystan Reese, a father of three, advocate, educator, and an "all-around nerd" when it comes to transgender fertility and family building. Trystan shares his personal and professional journey, starting with his experience growing up in a conservative town as a transgender man without the language to understand his identity, leading him to initially believe "there was something wrong" with him. He recounts how, after transitioning and taking testosterone, he chose to keep his reproductive organs, allowing him to ultimately build his family through both adoption and biology.Trystan reveals that as a young person, he never wanted to be a parent, a sentiment that aligns with data showing many transgender adolescents do not envision themselves in parental roles. Looking back on that time, Trystan reflects that “it's very possible that transgender youth, including myself at that age, just don't really see a world where they could ever be a parent.” He highlights the significant lack of fertility counseling he received 20 years ago when medically transitioning, where he was wrongly told testosterone would render him infertile. This experience fueled a healthy skepticism towards medical providers, as he found community knowledge often outpaced medical understanding. Trystan elaborates on his own pregnancy journey, describing it as a "cool weird science thing" that was mostly neutral, defying the universal expectation of dysphoria for trans pregnant people, as about a third feel neutral, and another third find it surprisingly improves their body comfort.His decision to go public with his pregnancy aimed to share a positive trans story and demonstrate expanded possibilities for others and was surprised that it was such a "big deal" outside the trans community. Since deciding to be public about his fertility journey, Trystan has been a passionate advocate for the entire trans community, including non-binary people, trans people of color, and transgender women. From training medical centers and fertility clinics globally on providing trauma-informed care and respectful communication for transgender patients to working towards reshaping public narratives and promoting broader trans inclusion through his sharing his own story, Trystan hopes to inspire everyone to use their "sphere of influence" to advocate for trans inclusion in their communities and workplaces.LINKS:Connect with Trystan at Collaborate Consulting and Trans Fertility Co..Read Trystan’s books How We Do Family (sharing his family's story through kinship adoption and pregnancy) and The Light of You (children’s book celebrating a pregnant transgender dad’s journey to bringing a new baby into a family)TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Trans fertility, reproductive care, adoption, kinship adoption, transgender community, dysphoria, gender identity, trans pregnant people, trans parents, feminist kids books, allyship, inclusion, provider support, reproductive justice, transgender reproductive justice, gay dad, transgender man, seahorse dad, author, activist, consultant, public speaker, transgender family building, fertility preservation for transgender individuals, LGBTQ+ parenting, parenting journeys, adoption and transgender families, transgender pregnancy experiences, support for transgender parents, navigating family building, reproductive health for transgender people, community support for LGBTQ+ families, emotional challenges in family building, resources for transgender...

This episode of the AllPaths podcast features a conversation with Alexis Eyler, the Executive Director of On Your Feet Foundation, a nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting birth parents post-placement. On Your Feet Foundation, founded in 2001, addresses the historical lack of post-placement services for birth parents, recognizing that open adoption, considered best practice since the 90s, highlighted a significant unmet need. The organization started with small "gap grants" and peer-led retreats, but now provides a comprehensive suite of services, including support groups, drop-in calls, a mentorship program, holiday assistance for children parented and placed, and enhanced mental health support for birth parents, including a soon-to-be-launched Postpartum Mood and Anxiety Disorder (PMAD) Assessment Tool specifically for birth parents and group practice to provide direct, sustainable counseling and therapeutic services with adoption-competent therapists.The foundational belief of On Your Feet Foundation’s work is that by empowering and supporting birth parents, there is a positive "ripple effect" that ultimately improves outcomes for the entire adoption constellation. And while the organization's primary focus is providing crucial post-placement support for birth parents, Alexis shares about the specific resources they’ve developed for adoptive parents and those hoping to adopt. A key initiative is their "Activism in Adoption" program, which offers adoptee and birth parent-centered adoption education. This program provides an invaluable space for prospective adoptive parents and adoptive families to learn from the lived experiences of those most impacted by adoption, going beyond traditional education to foster a deeper understanding of race, relationships, and resilience within the adoption constellation. LINKS:For prospective adoptive parents, here is the direct link to the blog post Alexis talks about in her episode: Ethics in Adoption: 10 Questions about Birthparents that Prospective Adoptive Parents Should Ask When Vetting AgenciesConnect with On Your Feet Foundation and Activism in Adoption: Websites: https://onyourfeetfoundation.org/ and  https://www.activisminadoption.org/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/onyourfeetfoundation and https://www.facebook.com/ActivismInAdoptionInstagram: @OnYourFeetFoundation and @ActivisminAdoptionTwitter/X: @Here4BirthmomsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/10148868/admin/dashboard/TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Birth parent support, Illinois, US, Canada, post-placement services for birth parents, parenting resources, adopted people, adoptive families, Activism in Adoption, adoption education, adoptee and birth parent centered adoption education, hopeful adoptive parents, adoption constellation, Mammha, PMADs, mental health grants, family building, adoption support, birth parent resources, postpartum mood disorders, adoption...

This episode of the podcast features Heather Smidt, owner of Wander Well Acupuncture in Lexington, MA and longtime AllPaths community member. Heather shares her family building journey, which included a late diagnosis of endometriosis, multiple losses, and the joy of her "rainbow baby" son, conceived during acupuncture school. She candidly shares the struggles of self-advocacy and feeling unheard by medical providers, contrasting her first, lonely journey with her secondary infertility experience, which was supported by the AllPaths community. Heather’s personal journey intertwines with her professional one, when her own experiences with decreased period pain after acupuncture led to her becoming a licensed acupuncturist, massage therapist, and reiki practitioner specializing in fertility. From helping to manage inflammation and treatment side effects to reducing stress and having a positive impact on emotional health, Heather shares how fertility acupuncture can complement traditional medical treatments and address the physical and emotional aspects of a family building journey. Throughout the conversation, Heather emphasizes that the fertility process is constantly clouded by "what ifs" and that whatever tools someone uses should be about making them feel better about their journey regardless of the outcome, rather than adding to their stress or self-blame.LINKS:Connect with Heather at https://wanderwellacupuncture.com/ or on Instagram @wanderwellacu.For help finding a fertility acupuncturist near you, visit the AllPaths Professional Directory at https://allpathsfb.org/professional-directory/ or The Acupuncture and TCM Board of Reproductive Medicine website at https://aborm.org/.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Endometriosis, acupuncture, East Asian medicine, reproductive endocrinologist, clomid, letrozole, IUI, pregnancy loss, rainbow baby, IVF, secondary infertility, one and no longer trying for another, Massachusetts, endometriosis care, endometriosis advocacy, professional directory, mind-body wellness, yoga, meditation, mental health support, talk therapy, guilt, blame, massage therapy, reiki, Lexington MA, preconception, assisted reproductive technology, fertility, for family and friends, family building, infertility support, endometriosis awareness, acupuncture for fertility, emotional support during IVF, navigating infertility, reproductive health, fertility journey, holistic family building, self-advocacy in healthcare, coping with infertility, secondary infertility, mindfulness in fertility, Eastern medicine for conception, holistic wellness for families, managing stress during IVF, community support for infertility, resources for family building, fertility acupuncture benefits, personal stories in infertility

In this episode, we chat with Valerie Imparato, a lawyer and artist originally from Haiti, currently living in Somerville, Massachusetts. Valerie shares her often complicated journey to parenthood. She recounts her initial easy conception followed by a miscarriage in Italy during Covid, and the subsequent "excruciating" nine months of trying before conceiving her daughter unexpectedly during a vacation where she was "not doing all the things" typically recommended for optimal fertility. Valerie also opens up about enduring two more miscarriages and an unsuccessful round of IVF, and her ongoing, emotionally taxing second IVF cycle.Our conversation delves into the profound impact her family building struggles have had on her relationships. She discusses the guilt of navigating secondary infertility while raising her three-year-old daughter, feeling as though she might be "robbing her of her childhood" due to the demands of treatments like IVF. She shares the frustration of comparing her journey to friends who conceive easily, and the strain the constant emotional and physical burden has placed on her marriage. We also touch on the unique generational grief experienced when family members pass away before new babies can be born. Some of Valerie’s biggest sources of support include a Bible study group specifically for women who have experienced miscarriages and fertility issues and the unexpected comfort of television shows like Severance that portray fertility struggles authentically. A significant part of Valerie's coping mechanism and expression is her art, which she uses to process emotions and experiences that are difficult to articulate through words. She emphasizes that her art often captures the "strange and alienating and lonely and clinical" aspects of IVF, rather than solely the outcome of having a baby, as she initially assumed IVF would be a guaranteed success. This includes the bureaucratic challenges like red tape, insurance issues, and constant phone calls related to treatments. A favorite piece from her show earlier this year is a portrait of Valerie in a hospital gown, depicted through embroidery for her body and skin, with actual hospital gown fabric and silk for the bed sheets. This piece took a "billion years" to create and, while rooted in her IVF journey, evokes memories of being in the hospital after her miscarriages, creating a feeling of "deja vu" and a "merry-go-round" of emotions related to trying to have or losing a baby. The expression on her face in this piece is described as "resigned". Sharing her art has created a sense of community with others who have experienced similar struggles and Valerie hopes that one day her daughter will see her art and understand "what this was like for me and why maybe sometimes I was the way that I was". Valerie is currently working on new art that will continue to explore this topic, but with a stronger link to her mom's illness. Listeners can view Valerie's art at her website https://www.valeriepimparato.com/ or by following her on Instagram @vp_visualart.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:IVF, secondary infertility, guilt, relationships, grief, pregnancy after loss, bible study, fertility challenges, art, visual art, community support, connection, shame, stigma, Severance, infertility in the media, family building, infertility support, miscarriage experience, IVF journey, parenting while trying to conceive, emotional impact of fertility issues, fertility consultation, pregnancy loss, trying to conceive tips, women’s health and fertility, coping with miscarriage, family dynamics during fertility struggles, supportive community for infertility, navigating pregnancy after loss, emotional well-being during IVF, fertility...

This episode of the AllPaths podcast features Amanda Nordberg, a volunteer for the Footsteps for Family Building Walk, who shares her struggle with recurrent pregnancy loss and the emotional experience of pregnancy after loss. Amanda and her husband Andy began trying to conceive in 2020 and while they discovered that her body was "great at getting pregnant," it struggled to "stay pregnant". Over time, Amanda experienced multiple types of loss: an early miscarriage at 11 weeks (where the baby stopped growing at 9 weeks), which required a D&C procedure; an ectopic pregnancy around 6 weeks that was treated with methotrexate shots; and a chemical pregnancy. Eventually Amanda did have two nerve-racking, yet ultimately successful pregnancies resulting in her son Miles and daughter Zoey. Her journey highlights the multifaceted emotional toll of pregnancy loss, impacting not only the immediate moment of loss but also significantly altering subsequent pregnancies.Amanda's story also emphasizes the critical role of support and open communication. After her first loss, she decided to share her experience publicly on social media, which led to an outpouring of support from others who had gone through similar struggles. She connected with AllPaths (then Resolve New England) and found solace in their pregnancy loss support groups. Throughout the conversation, we explore how to navigate feelings of grief and hope, and how finding community can work towards ending the stigma surrounding pregnancy loss. Amanda's advocacy for openness and vulnerability shines through as she encourages others to find their people and allow themselves grace in their family building journey.Learn more about AllPaths’ pregnancy loss support groups and resources.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Missed miscarriage, D&C, miscarriage management, pregnancy loss, pregnancy loss group, ovulation testing, ectopic pregnancy, methotrexate, chemical pregnancy, recurrent pregnancy loss, Boston IVF, pregnancy after loss, fear, anxiety, jealousy, anger, support, childbirth, therapy, Emily Oster, normalizing loss, find your people, walk, Footsteps for Family Building, AllPaths Family Building, annual walk, family building, pregnancy loss, infertility support, emotional support for pregnancy loss, coping with miscarriage, family growth journey, support groups for loss, navigating pregnancy after loss, community support for families, pregnancy after miscarriage, infertility awareness, mental health in pregnancy, pregnancy loss resources, stories of loss and hope, celebrating family building, sharing your pregnancy story, support for expecting parents, fertility challenges, pregnancy after loss experiences

On this episode of the AllPaths podcast, we invite Meg to share her continuing journey through recurrent miscarriages, unsuccessful fertility treatments, and an unflagging quest for answers. Meg, who runs "For the Barreness”, a infertility-focused blog and Instagram account, delves into her experience with seven miscarriages and eight rounds of IVF, highlighting the emotional and physical toll of recurrent losses, including the infrequently discussed postpartum experiences after miscarriage. Meg also shares the long road to receiving diagnoses of endometriosis, adenomyosis, autoimmune disorders, and a Müllerian Abnormality, several that were conditions she suspected she was dealing with for years due to severe menstrual pain, but was dismissed by medical professionals until after her recurrent losses.Meg elaborates on the creation of "For the Barreness," which she initially started out of loneliness in order to connect with others experiencing similar challenges, explaining how the name "Barreness" reclaims the often hurtful word "barren" to signify strength and regality within the community. The platform has grown into a vibrant online space where people offer mutual support, share stories, and find validation for difficult emotions such as anger and jealousy. Throughout our conversation, Meg also talks about other strategies and tools that she’s found to be helpful along this path, including finding a therapist with a fertility background who provides direct guidance and her love of reading "smutty fantasy" books as a form of escapism. Meg remains hopeful about the future and continues to grow the “For the Barreness” community, celebrating the resilience and beauty of all family building paths and outcomes.To connect with Meg at For the Barreness, visit https://www.forthebarreness.com/ or @for_the_barreness on Instagram. And if you are looking for support and resources around Recurrent Pregnancy Loss, we highly recommend checking on the nonprofit Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Association: https://rplassociation.org/TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:TTC, endometriosis, adenomyosis, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, fertility treatment, IVF, recurrent pregnancy loss, reproductive endocrinologist, reproductive immunologist, recurrent loss specialist, patient advocacy, self-advocacy, education, therapy, books, romantasy books, escapism, toxic positivity, Meg Faith, For the Barreness, family building, fertility struggles, miscarriage support, recurrent miscarriage, endometriosis awareness, IVF journey, emotional support for infertility, parenting without children, community for infertility, overcoming fertility challenges, navigating family planning, resources for miscarriage, pregnancy loss awareness, building a family after loss, mental health and fertility, infertility and grief, reproductive health education, support groups for infertility, chronic illness and pregnancy, finding hope after loss

This episode features Jessica Katz, licensed clinical social worker and certified perinatal mental health therapist, and parent to an egg-donor conceived child. During our conversation, Jessica shares her deeply personal and often challenging journey to parenthood, from her early struggles with irregular periods and feeling shame around her body and reproductive health, to an eventual diagnosis of ovarian insufficiency leading to the recommendation for donor egg IVF. The donor conception process was not without challenges, from navigating outdated agency databases to the emotional blow of discovering a seemingly ideal donor didn't pass medical testing. These setbacks ultimately led her to the realization that health and good character were far more important than physical traits in a donor.Jessica's journey continued with immense gratitude for her chosen donor, who demonstrated remarkable kindness and resilience even through a stressful pharmacy mishap during the retrieval cycle. After facing a continued stream of obstacles to an unsuccessful frozen transfer, a second cycle - though still plagued with challenges - ultimately was successful, and Jessica is now a proud mom to an almost one-and-a-half-year-old daughter. Now navigating parenting a donor conceived child, Jessica values openness with her daughter about their journey, wanting to instill in her how special she is “because it took three people to make her and three people that all have such amazing strengths”.Inspired by her experiences, Jessica founded Empress Counseling, a practice dedicated to helping others navigate infertility, pregnancy, and postpartum challenges, named after the Empress Tarot Card symbolizing nurture and maternal energy. In her work, she advocates for compassion-focused therapy, encouraging clients to validate their feelings, practice genuine self-care beyond checklists, and give themselves permission to have needs. Jessica stresses that infertility is a unique "beast" and she works to dismantle the shame and blame often associated with it, emphasizing that your struggles or the results of your family-building efforts do not diminish your inherent worth.Connect with Jessica through her website (https://www.empresscounseling.com) or on Instagram @empresscounseling.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Fertility treatment, infertility, Irregular cycle, reproductive endocrinologist, diminished ovarian reserve, ovarian insufficiency, donor egg, donor conception, guilt, IVF, donor egg IVF, DEIVF, egg donor agency, anonymous egg donor, frozen embryo transfer, therapy, mental health support, parenting donor conceived children, trauma, shame, healing, therapist, compassion-focused therapy, self-care, compassion, Jessica Katz, Empress CounselingCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

In this episode we welcome Lisa Rosenthal, President of the AllPaths Family Building Board of Directors. Lisa shares her deeply personal and often challenging six-and-a-half year journey through infertility, which began when she was 26 and "very naive" about conception. She recounts undergoing extensive fertility treatments, including being one of the first patients in the US to use Lupron injections. Lisa discusses the significant challenges of the time, noting that IVF success rates were only around 19% for the best candidates, and the personal struggle of balancing privacy with the need for support, often feeling "the nastiest, meanest, infertile person in the world". She famously made the decision to openly share her journey with 200 colleagues, a move that unexpectedly revealed 15 others in the same struggle, including two best friends who were unaware of each other's experiences, profoundly shaping her commitment to advocacy and transparency around fertility and family building challenges.Lisa eventually achieved her dream of parenthood, welcoming three children. Her journey profoundly impacted her professional life, leading her to dedicate 37 years and counting to patient advocacy in this space. She highlights that despite advancements in science and technology, the biggest patient complaint remains not feeling seen and heard, emphasizing the critical need for a "human touch" in fertility care that often gets lost. Lisa shares valuable advice, encouraging those struggling to connect with trustworthy non-profit resources like AllPaths, emphasizing the importance of open communication and setting boundaries with friends and family during treatment, and promoting "radical self-acceptance" throughout the process. Her ambition for AllPaths is to triple its reach so that fewer people will say, "I didn't know you existed" when they needed support most.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Infertility, fertility treatment, patient advocate, American Fertility Association, magazine, Lupron, IVF, pregnancy rate, pregnancy loss, advocacy, therapy, resources, support, boundaries, legislation, genetic testing, community support, isolation, board service, volunteer, AllPaths Board of Directors, First Fertility, support group, connection, communication, radical self-acceptance, unsolicited advice, for family and friends, family building, infertility support, fertility treatment, reproductive health, patient advocacy, IVF journey, emotional support, parenting journey, family growth, AllPaths Family Building, community support, fertility awareness, reproductive endocrinology, coping with infertility, parenting advice, emotional wellbeing, fertility resources, infertility stories, peer support groups, navigating family buildingCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

This episode of the AllPaths podcast features Bruce, an attorney in the Boston area. Prior to becoming a lawyer, Bruce and his husband built their family through surrogacy with gamete donation, going through the process twice with different surrogates in different states. After leaving his previous career to become a stay-at-home parent, his own family building experience and encouragement from his husband led him to law school and ultimately his solo practice Modern Family Law, which focuses exclusively on matters related to family formation through assisted procreation.Our conversation delves into the emotional journey of family building, noting that gay men pursuing surrogacy often begin with optimism, contrasting with the skepticism or despair some heterosexual couples may experience after long struggles with infertility. Bruce also discusses his role as an advocate in Massachusetts, particularly his significant involvement in the coalition to pass the Massachusetts Parentage Act (MPA), which was finally signed into law in 2024 after over eight years of effort. He explains that the MPA provides much-needed clarity on parentage for families created through modern methods like gamete donation, embryo donation, and surrogacy, moving beyond traditional definitions. The Act simplifies the process for intended parents to establish legal parentage and clearly states that donors are not parents, offering crucial protections and streamlining legal procedures. Beyond his legal practice and advocacy work, Bruce also teaches at his alma mater, Northeastern University School of Law. There he helps shape the future of family law, a specialty that in his eyes goes beyond assisted procreation or family formation, to touch everyone and helps to shape people's identities and relationships in the world. LINKS:Connect with Bruce at modernfamily.lawTOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Third-party reproduction, assisted-procreation law, family formation law, assisted reproduction technology law, private practice, LGBTQ+, same-sex couple, intended parents, surrogate, gestational carrier, surrogacy, egg donation, gamete donation, embryo donation, remaining embryos, full genetic siblings, egg donor, sperm donor, known donor, family law, teaching, Northeastern School of Law, advocacy, Massachusetts Parentage Act, parentage, parental rights, family building, surrogacy, gamete donation, LGBTQ parenting, Massachusetts Parentage Act, assisted reproduction, family law, infertility solutions, intended parents, emotional journey to parenthood, family formation law, legal rights in surrogacy, navigating fertility clinics, parentage laws, advocacy in family law, third party procreation, egg donation, embryo donation, support for LGBTQ families, establishing parentageCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

In this episode, we welcome Annika, an attorney specializing in assisted reproductive technology (ART), who offers a unique perspective as both a professional in the field and someone who built her own family through reciprocal IVF. Annika shares her personal journey with her wife, including the decision to use reciprocal IVF (her wife's egg, Annika carried) and the financial and emotional considerations that guided their path. The conversation highlights the significant financial hurdles of fertility treatment and the inequity of insurance coverage that exists, even in states like Massachusetts that have a fertility mandate. In addition to being their preference for non-clinical reasons, reciprocal IVF was medically recommended for their family, but was considered "elective" because they did not attempt conception "the old-fashioned way" or through IUI/ICSI first. A 2013 graduate of BU Law, Annika studied assisted reproductive technology (ART) and was particularly interested in ARTs intersection with "intent-based parentage". A past co-chair of the Massachusetts LGBTQ Bar Association and current GLAD Law Board Member, Annika shares her passion for her practice, which combines estate law, family formation, confirmatory adoptions, and pro bono name changes for the transgender community. She also discusses her advocacy work for the Massachusetts Parentage Act (MPA), sharing how her daughter, Maya – affectionately known as the "MPA baby" – was born during the campaign and even participated in its signing.In both her practice and her own personal experience, Annika has witnessed the societal stigma surrounding fertility treatments, contrasting the openness in the queer community about needing medical intervention with the shame often experienced by straight couples. She criticizes outdated terms like "social infertility" and "elective" treatments, emphasizing their harm in insurance advocacy. The importance of updated terminology isn’t just reserved for during the family building process, but is also important for when talking about parenting, from intent-based parentage in law to the need for updated language in medical forms that are more inclusive of diverse family structures.LINKS:Connect with Annika: https://www.absesq.com/TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:family building, reciprocal IVF, LGBTQ family planning, fertility treatment options, assisted reproductive technology, parenting with same-sex couples, emotional support for parents, fertility insurance coverage, navigating fertility challenges, queer family advocacy, medical history for families, parenting and legal rights, family formation law, financial aspects of IVF, support for LGBTQ parents, personal experiences in family building, family planning resources, parenting journeys, overcoming fertility stigma, legal issues in family creation, Attorney, assisted reproduction technology law, reciprocal IVF, LGBTQ+ fertility, two moms, same-sex couples, queer couple, queer family, donor sperm, donor conception, PCOS, natural cycle, cost of fertility treatment, fertility, family building, Massachusetts Parentage Act, insurance coverage for fertility care, confirmatory adoption, social infertility, inclusive insurance mandates, family formation law, intent-based parenting, intent-based parentageCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

In this episode of the AllPaths podcast, we speak with Will Baird, a father of three who grew up with a unique perspective on family building. Will shares how his father, a PhD in animal sciences who began working in human IVF in the late 80s/early 90s, exposed him to the lab environment from a young age. He and his twin sister, conceived through IUI, have fond memories of going to the IVF lab with his father on weekends. As an adult, Will worked alongside his father and ultimately became a fertility patient himself. Will openly shares the emotional experience of going through IVF as a patient, even while working in the field, highlighting in particular the challenge of managing expectations through the process of attrition – the natural decrease in the number of eggs and embryos from retrieval to blastocyst stage. Inspired by the stress and false alarms associated with traditional cryostorage tank monitoring using simple methods like yardsticks and temperature probes that don't indicate liquid nitrogen levels, Will talks about the shift his career path took to address this critical need. He is now CEO and co-founder of Boreas Monitoring Solutions, a company providing a weight-based monitoring system that sits under storage tanks to infer the liquid nitrogen level. Will's focus is on raising awareness about this new technology and educating the next generation of embryologists about safer storage methods. Reflecting on his path, Will is grateful for being able to help families and contribute to the field in a way he feels has a significant impact, including keeping his last embryo safe as it sits in a tank monitored by his system.LINKS:Learn more about Boreas Monitoring Solutions at https://www.boreasmonitoring.com/Connect with Will on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/william-baird-1b930195TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Unexplained infertility, IVF, genetic testing, IVF lab, lab work, cryostorage, quality control, Boreas Monitoring Solutions, family building, IVF journey, emotional support in fertility, infertility struggles, IUI, assisted reproductive technology, managing expectations in IVF, parenting after IVF, egg retrieval process, embryo storage, fertility clinic support, family growth stories, infertility resources, navigating infertility, family building podcast, various monitoring IVF, understanding IVF success rates, attrition, embryologists, emotional journey of IVF, fertility awareness, connecting with IVF patientsCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

This episode features speaker and author Jodi Mitchel Tolman, who shares how she and her husband navigated multiple paths over six years to build their family after facing challenges with fertility. Their family ultimately consisted of three children: one genetic child from a previous marriage, one adopted daughter, and one son born via donor egg. Now all grown, Jodi was inspired to write their story in her recently released book, One From Each Column: My 46-Year Trek from Abusive Childhood to Elusive Motherhood.Throughout the conversation, Jodi details the various paths she took, starting with miscarriages, followed by unsuccessful IUI and three rounds of IVF using her own eggs. She recounts her "hair-raising" adoption story, which involved her daughter Chloe's birth mother changing her mind multiple times and an eight-month legal process, while emphasizing that this traumatic experience is infrequent and not the norm in adoption. She also shares the successful journey of having her youngest son, Jack, via donor egg at age 46.  Jodi’s story not only tells of her road to parenthood, but explores how her early challenging life experiences fostered the resilience needed to overcome obstacles in family building. A key takeaway from Jodi's advice is that the ultimate goal is parenting and that there is zero difference in how you love a child regardless of the road they took to find their way home. LINKS:https://www.joditolmanspeaks.com. https://www.instagram.com/joditolmanspeaks https://www.linkedin.com/in/joditolmanspeakshttps://www.facebook.com/joditolmanspeaksTOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:family building, adoption stories, infertility support, parenting journey, donor egg process, IVF experiences, secondary infertility, emotional support for parents, parenting through challenges, family dynamics, navigating adoption, fertility treatment, conversations with children about family, parenting goals, resilience in parenting, family building options, personal stories of motherhood, open adoption discussions, coping with miscarriage, family support networks, Jodi Mitchel Tolman, Adoption, Donor Egg, IUI, miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, resilience, One from Each Column, Parenting, family dynamics, communication, personal boundaries, support, birth mother, origin story, secondary infertility, normalizing conversationsCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

In this episode of the AllPaths Podcast, Matt Smith, founder of Wandering Soul Beer Company, shares his personal experience with stillbirth and how this profound loss directly inspired the creation of his brewery and its flagship beer, Melody Maker. Matt and his wife Abby were expecting their first child and had just purchased their first house when their journey took a tragic turn when their daughter, Melody, passed away at 35 and a half weeks gestation. Adding to the trauma of losing Melody, Abby had to undergo emergency surgery after Melody was delivered. Matt recounts being in the hospital, seeing Abby taken away, and wondering if he would ever see her again. This “double whammy sort of situation” left both he and Abby feeling broken and unsure where to turn. In the days and weeks following, Matt and Abby found help through friends, family, hospital teams, others who had experienced stillbirth, and AllPaths (then Resolve New England). Matt acknowledged how difficult it was to take the first step in seeking support and how isolating it all felt when some family and friends said nothing because they were afraid of saying the wrong thing. Matt explains that his experience with Melody is directly tied to his work with Wandering Soul. His main beer, Melody Maker, is dedicated to her, with the story printed on the can. Creating Wandering Soul has allowed him to process many of his feelings, even though he sometimes feels like an "alien" in the typically "fun and happy beer" world. This unexpected platform has reached many people, prompting them to reach out with their own stories of grief and loss. Matt shares how he has realized the importance of being honest about how he is doing, contrasting it with a societal tendency to avoid talking about sadness, and is committed to honoring his daughter's memory, while raising awareness and normalizing discussions around grief through his openness with their story.As Matt discusses how he and Abby continued to grow their family, the conversation underscores that grief is not linear and does not disappear just because they have gone on to have two living daughters. Matt and Abby make sure to talk about Melody with her sisters, acknowledging that she is just as much a part of their family as they are. By being open about Melody within their family and the larger community, Matt hopes he is helping to normalize conversations about grief and family building struggles, encouraging others to find community and realize they are not alone. Connect with Matt at https://wanderingsoulbeer.com/story/TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Pregnancy loss, stillbirth, maternal near miss, grief, loss, communal grief, community support, hypervigilance, trauma response, family building support, pregnancy loss resources, stillbirth awareness, grieving process, parenting after loss, community support for families, emotional healing through grief, stories of loss and recovery, family building journeys, support for grieving parents, mental health and parenting, coping with stillbirth, raising awareness of pregnancy loss, Wandering Soul beer, grief and trauma response, connecting through shared experiences, navigating family building challenges, honoring lost children, pregnancy after loss, support for fathers in griefCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

In this episode of the AllPaths podcast, we welcome guest Shannon Cook to share her journey. Shannon recounts her experience navigating fertility struggles, including early attempts at conception, misdiagnoses like hydrosalpinx and stage three endometriosis, and multiple miscarriages. Despite feeling defeated at times, she emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy and trusting your intuition throughout the process. Shannon's journey ultimately led her to IVF, surgery to address a tubal issue she suspected early on, and finally, a successful transfer. She shares openly about the emotional rollercoaster of IVF, the impact of the journey on her relationships, and the process of grieving her losses. Currently ending her second trimester of pregnancy, Shannon talks about resilience, self-care, and finding community throughout her journey.Shannon also discusses practical aspects of coping, such as the pitfalls of relying too heavily on Dr. Google or even ChatGPT for emotional support, and the importance of setting boundaries on information seeking. She talks about how taking mindful breaks and engaging in activities unrelated to the fertility journey have helped her maintain a sense of self. Shannon has also found it helpful to get involved in fertility advocacy work, starting with sharing her story in small circles like her yoga classes and aiming for broader conversations and larger advocacy events to break down the stigma surrounding fertility challenges.Connect with Shannon on Instagram @shannoncookyogaTOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Family Building, Fertility Journey, Fertility Struggles, Fertility Challenges, Infertility, Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, Hydrosalpinx, Endometriosis, Misdiagnosis, IVF, In Vitro Fertilization, Egg Retrieval, Embryo Transfer, Euploid Embryo, Surgery, Self-Advocacy ,Trust Your Intuition , Grief, Processing Loss, Relationships, Partner Support, Friendship Support, Family Support , Coping Mechanisms, Therapy, Mindfulness, Anxiety, Information Overload, Dr. Google, ChatGPT, Setting Boundaries, Advocacy, Stigma, Community, Support, Resilience, Self-Care, Not Rare, Not Shameful, Don't Compare Yourself, Ask Questions, Dr. Bortoletto, Boston IVF, Dr. Jessica Zucker, "I Had a Miscarriage", IVF journey, fertility struggles, infertility support, emotional support, reproductive health, self-advocacy, fertility challenges, endometriosis awareness, community support, mental health during pregnancy, coping with miscarriage, fertility education, mindful practices, family growth stories, women's health advocacy, navigating fertility treatments, holistic family building, fertility yogaCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!

This episode features Lauren Hart Clancy, a perinatal advocate, AllPaths peer group leader, parent through IVF, and co-chair of the 2025 Footsteps for Family Building Walk. Lauren shares her journey through multiple IVF cycles, a delayed male-factor infertility diagnosis, and health complications after an egg retrieval. Throughout the conversation, Lauren talks about the vital role of emotional support and finding community, highlighting the significant impact a supportive provider and the AllPaths community had in the journey to her second son. A longtime educator and advocate focused on maternal and child health, Lauren shares how she transitioned from being a participant in support groups to becoming an AllPaths group leader, helping others navigate their own transition to pregnancy and parenthood after a complex family building journey. She also discusses her advocacy work with the Boston Chapter of Chamber of Mothers, focusing on the need for systemic support for families via affordable childcare, paid leave, and improving maternal health outcomes and emphasizing that the journey to parenthood is not just a personal struggle but a societal issue as well. Connect with Lauren on Instagram @VillageAdvocate and at the Boston chapter of Chamber of Mothers at https://chamberofmothers.com/ or by emailing bostonchapter@chamberofmothers.com. And join Lauren this fall at our Footsteps for Family Building Walk - sign up at https://bit.ly/FootstepsforFamilyBuilding2025.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Public health advocate, volunteer, peer group leader, 2025 Footsteps for Family Building Walk, fertility testing, male factor infertility, depression, anxiety, grief, shame, fertility treatment, IVF, PGT-A testing, pregnancy loss, biochemical pregnancy, testicular extraction, expecting after infertility and/or loss, parenting after infertility/loss, therapy, community support, Chamber of Mothers, accessible childcare, maternal health, paid family medical leave, family building, fertility journey, IVF support, emotional support for families, parenting after infertility, reproductive health, male factor infertility, fertility treatment options, community support for parents, mental health in family building, coping with pregnancy loss, advocacy for parents, infertility awareness, maternal health advocacy, peer support networks, AllPaths Family Building, navigating fertility challenges, emotional resilience in parenting, finding the right fertility clinic, family planning resourcesCONNECT WITH ALLPATHS FAMILY BUILDING: https://allpathsfb.orgFollow us on social media @allpathsfbWant to share your story or ask a question? Get in touch at podcast@allpathsfb.org!