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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast | Covert Manipulation | Systemic Gaslighting | Cultural Conditioning

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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast | Covert Manipulation | Systemic Gaslighting | Cultural Conditioning | Untangling Toxic Patterns

Validate. Rebuild. Revolutionize | For Scapegoats | Dismantling Patriarchy | Gender Roles | Emotional Labor

Discover a safe haven and a wellspring of insight with the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast. In this candid, relevant, and eye-opening show, host Lynn, author and passionate recovery advocate, guides you through the landscape of toxic relationships and covert narcissistic abuse dynamics. With honesty, depth, and tough love, Lynn helps you recognize subtle manipulation tactics and offers practical strategies to heal, rebuild, and reclaim your power.

Episodes dive deep into the complexities of narcissistic family systems, exploring roles like scapegoat and golden child, and shedding light on the pain of ostracization and family rejection. If you've been the family scapegoat—blamed, dismissed, and cast aside—this podcast validates your experience and provides a roadmap for breaking free from toxic family patterns. We tackle topics like going no contact, setting boundaries, understanding scapegoat dynamics, healing from family trauma, and uncovering covert manipulation that keeps you from thriving. Our conversations go beyond personal trauma to examine how narcissism is woven into broader cultural systems, including patriarchy's influence on gender roles and equality.

  • In-Depth Conversations: Learn about covert tactics like gaslighting, emotional manipulation, and financial control, and discover actionable steps for setting boundaries and reclaiming independence.
  • Practical Guidance: From detailed strategies for going no contact to insights on handling emotional labor and overcoming self-doubt, our episodes offer tools you can apply right away.
  • Broader Perspectives: Understand how narcissistic abuse intersects with societal issues like gender inequality, workplace bias, and cultural conditioning. Our work goes beyond personal relationships to show how narcissism is embedded in cultural systems and structures like patriarchy. By unpacking gender roles and systemic inequality, we aim to reveal how these dynamics shape our lives.

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This podcast exists to expose and challenge the systems that diminish, control, and silence. We focus on what has been overlooked, question what has been normalized, and create space for healing, clarity, and collective strength. Serving as a resource of hope, encouragement, and validation, so victims of narcissistic abuse can rebuild their lives and pursue dreams, visions, and intentional living.


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Lynn is a trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coach, author, and creator of the YouTube Channel, Wake the Elephant. Her books include Overcoming the Devastation of Narcissistic Abuse: How to Heal, Recover and Take Your Life Back and Master Manipulators: Discover Covert Tactics Narcissists Devise to Manipulate, Deceive and Control.


This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please seek help from a qualified professional or contact a local crisis hotline.


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You remember what happened. But everyone around you—and maybe even you yourself—insists you're wrong. If you've ever caught yourself second-guessing your own memories of childhood neglect, blame, or abuse, you've experienced something deliberate: systematic memory invalidation designed to keep you confused and powerless.This episode reveals the hidden mechanics of how scapegoats are trained to distrust their own perceptions, and why this doubt persists long after the abuse has ended.• Why gaslighting specifically targets your memory—and what that reveals about who needed to control your narrative• The pattern that proves your memory isn't faulty (even though you've been told it is)• How memory doubt follows scapegoats into their adult relationships, careers, and self-worth• The moment you can reclaim trust in yourself, even when no one else validates what you rememberThis isn't about recovering lost memories. It's about recognizing that your doubt was manufactured—and learning to trust the voice inside you that knows the truth. If you've spent years wondering if you're "too sensitive" or "overreacting," this episode will reframe that question in a way that changes everything.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityTune in to see how these two tactics work together to keep you trapped and what it means to reclaim your ability to trust your own mind.Our Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
If you find yourself constantly saying 'yes' to everyone, apologizing for things that aren't your fault, or walking on eggshells to avoid conflict, you're not alone. This pattern didn't develop by accident—it was forged in an environment designed to keep you blamed and silenced. In this episode, we explore the deep connection between scapegoating and people-pleasing behavior, and why survivors of narcissistic abuse often develop these exhausting patterns that seem impossible to break.You'll discover:• Why your nervous system learned to read the room before you could even read—and what that hypervigilance is really protecting you from• The shocking truth about why people-pleasing never actually works long-term with a narcissist, no matter how hard you try• How the family system requires your self-abandonment to function, and what that means for your recovery• The question that changes everything: whose emotions have you been managing, and at what cost to yourself?This isn't about shame or weakness—it's about understanding that your survival strategies made perfect sense in an unsafe environment. But survival mode isn't meant to be permanent, and you don't have to stay trapped in patterns that were never meant to serve you. Listen in to understand why you became a people pleaser, and get clarity on what comes next in your healing journey.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Blog Article Here: Our Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You've felt it happen countless times: your feelings are brushed aside as overreactions, and then later you're told you imagined the very thing that caused those feelings in the first place. This isn't two separate tactics working independently—dismissing and gaslighting are deliberately linked weapons designed to systematically dismantle your ability to trust yourself. One invalidates your emotional experience while the other erases the reality that caused it, leaving you questioning not just how you feel, but what actually happened.• Discover why dismissing your emotions is always the setup for a gaslighting follow-up that destroys your reality• Understand how this combination attacks both your internal compass and your external perception simultaneously• Learn why someone skilled at these tactics knows that confused, self-doubting victims are far easier to control• Recognize the pattern that's keeping you from setting boundaries and seeking help from others🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityTune in to see how these two tactics work together to keep you trapped and what it means to reclaim your ability to trust your own mind.Our Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You've learned to apologize for your own emotional needs. When you ask for support, comfort, or genuine connection, a small voice whispers that you're being too demanding, too needy, too much. But what if the real problem isn't that you want too much—it's that you've been systematically trained to want too little? This episode reveals how patriarchal conditioning teaches women from childhood to find virtue in emotional self-sufficiency, creating the perfect conditions for lifelong emotional neglect in narcissistic relationships and family systems. It's not about personal weakness or low self-worth. It's about a cultural blueprint that measures a woman's value by how little she requires.• Understand why you've normalized emotional unavailability in others and learned to blame yourself for needing support• Discover the specific ways patriarchal conditioning makes you an ideal target for people who want relationship without reciprocal emotional investment• Explore how your training to minimize needs has made it harder to recognize when you're being manipulated and drained• Question what you've been taught about selflessness versus self-abandonment, and what healthy emotional reciprocity actually looks likeTune in to uncover the hidden conditioning that's shaped your relationships and what it means to reclaim your right to have needs in recovery.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You've learned to question your own emotional reality. When you express what you're feeling, you're told you're being too sensitive, too dramatic, or overthinking. But what if the problem isn't your emotions—it's a system designed to make you doubt them? This episode reveals how patriarchal conditioning systematically devalues women's inner lives, creating the perfect conditions for narcissistic abuse and scapegoating. It's not just about individual family dynamics or relationships. It's about a cultural blueprint that teaches everyone, including you, to treat your thoughts, feelings, and intuitions as less valid than men's.• Why the dismissal you experienced wasn't about your emotional sensitivity but about a system designed to keep women's inner worlds invisible and unimportant• How narcissistic family members and partners exploit centuries of conditioning to silence your experiences without needing to do much work• The dangerous way you've been taught to override your own intuition and warning systems, making you vulnerable to people who benefit from your self-doubt• What recognizing this systemic pattern reveals about whose voice actually matters in your relationships and recovery🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You've been taught that your value comes from what you give, not from having needs of your own. From childhood, you learned that being a 'good woman' means being selfless, nurturing, and always putting everyone else first—no matter what it costs you emotionally. The problem is, this programming doesn't just shape how you see yourself. It shapes how narcissistic family members and partners treat you. They know you've been conditioned to find your worth in service, to tolerate emotional neglect as a sign of your generosity, and to blame yourself when relationships feel one-sided and draining.• Why being praised for your selflessness in one context becomes weaponized against you in another—and how to spot the difference• The subtle way narcissistic systems exploit your 'good woman' conditioning to keep you focused on everyone else's needs while your emotional reality disappears• How you learned to measure your worth by how little you require rather than how much you deserve—and why this trap feels impossible to escape• The shocking realization about what healthy relationships actually require from both people, and why you were never taught this🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You were taught to be 'nice,' to 'not make waves,' to be the easy-going girl who doesn't cause trouble. These weren't just parenting choices—they were deliberate messages about your worth relative to everyone else's comfort. And by the time you were five years old, you'd already internalized a dangerous belief: that your feelings mattered less than keeping the peace. What you didn't realize then was that you were being systematically prepared to tolerate emotional neglect, to minimize your own needs, and to prioritize everyone else's well-being over your own. This conditioning didn't happen in isolation. It was reinforced by teachers, family members, peers, and the culture itself. And it created a template that narcissistic family members and partners would exploit ruthlessly for years to come.• How early gender conditioning becomes the invisible foundation that narcissistic systems build their control on—and why you blamed yourself instead of recognizing the pattern• The specific ways patriarchy trains girls to doubt their own perceptions about mistreatment, making them the perfect targets for emotional neglect• Why you were taught to celebrate the bare minimum and overlook major harm—and how this made you vulnerable to someone who gave just enough to keep you hoping• The shocking realization about what your instincts were actually telling you all along, and why the culture trained you to distrust themIf you grew up feeling like your needs were 'too much' or believing that being understanding and accommodating was your highest responsibility, this episode traces how that conditioning set you up for the specific dynamics of narcissistic abuse—and what it actually means to break free from it.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You expressed legitimate frustration about being mistreated, and instead of addressing their behavior, they told you that you were 'too emotional' or 'hormonal.' This wasn't a coincidence. It was a calculated tactic designed to silence you, avoid accountability, and make you question your own reality. In narcissistic family systems and relationships, women's anger is weaponized against them—reframed as irrational instability to discredit valid concerns and maintain control. But here's what the narcissist doesn't want you to understand: your anger wasn't the problem.• Why narcissists deliberately mischaracterize your emotions as biological rather than responsive—and what they're really trying to hide• The specific way this tactic works in family dynamics versus romantic relationships, and why it's devastatingly effective in both• How internalizing this dismissal changes your relationship with your own emotions and keeps you trapped in the cycle• The surprising truth about what your anger was actually telling you—and why silencing it served the narcissist's agenda, not yoursIf you've ever felt gaslit about your emotional responses, blamed your justified anger on hormones, or started questioning whether your feelings were even valid, this episode reveals the pattern beneath the manipulation and shows you what reclaiming your anger actually means for your recovery.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You were chosen for the leadership role. Promoted. Trusted. Finally recognized for your competence. So why does it feel like you're being set up to fail?Performative inclusion looks like fairness on the surface. It feels like progress, recognition, and opportunity. But if you're the only woman in the room, or one of very few, and you've noticed that your visibility comes with a target on your back, you're experiencing something much more calculated than you might realize.In narcissistic families and relationships, elevating women to leadership positions isn't about honoring their abilities—it's a sophisticated control tactic. These roles come with all the responsibility and blame, but none of the actual power or support. You get the title while absorbing criticism meant for the entire group. You're set up to manage impossible situations and then criticized for predictable outcomes.And here's the cruelest part: when you point out that the position is impossible, they remind you that they chose you. As if that choice was about your value instead of their need for a perfect scapegoat.• Why being "chosen" for a leadership role might actually mean you've been positioned for maximum control and blame• The psychological manipulation hidden in praise: how narcissists weaponize your competence against you• The impossible math of performative inclusion: responsibility without power, visibility without actual authority• What real inclusion would actually look like—and how to recognize when you're being exploited insteadIf you've ever succeeded in a leadership position only to realize you were set up to fail, or if your visibility in your family or relationship has made you a target rather than truly valued—this episode reveals the patterns you've been living with and what they really mean about where the actual problem lies.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You've probably heard it a thousand times: that your emotions are "too much," your ambition is "unfeminine," or that it's "natural" for you to sacrifice your needs. But what if those aren't innocent observations about gender—what if they're a sophisticated control tactic designed to keep you trapped and invisible?In narcissistic families and relationships, abuse doesn't always look like rage or obvious cruelty. Sometimes it looks like someone calmly explaining why your independence is selfish, why your career goals threaten the family, or why traditional roles are just "how things are." They wrap sexism in the language of respect, biology, and timeless values. They make their control feel inevitable and your resistance feel unnatural.This is what I call sanitized misogyny, and it's one of the most insidious ways narcissists keep scapegoats trapped while maintaining their image as reasonable people.• What if the "traditional values" being forced on you were never really about honoring anything—but about maintaining absolute control?• How narcissists weaponize legitimate concepts like gender roles, biology, and cultural values to justify emotional abuse• The double bind that makes you feel crazy: conform and disappear, or resist and be labeled as going against nature itself• Why you've internalized their gendered criticisms as truth instead of recognizing them as manipulation tactics designed to keep you smallIf you've ever been silenced with the claim that you're "just being emotional," dismissed because your goals weren't "appropriate for a woman," or told you're ungrateful for questioning arrangements that benefit everyone but you—this episode will help you see the control hiding behind the respectability.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You followed the rules. You respected the traditions. You honored the customs that everyone assured you were there to protect you. Yet somehow, those same structures keep you trapped in relationships that harm you, obligated to people who exploit you, and guilty for wanting to protect yourself.It's not coincidence. Narcissists are masters at weaponizing the very systems designed to create safety—using laws, family customs, cultural expectations, and social pressure as invisible chains that feel impossible to break without appearing ungrateful, selfish, or wrong.What if the real barrier to your freedom isn't just the narcissist—but the structures they've learned to hide behind?• Discover how family loyalty customs get weaponized to force you back into harm's way under the guise of tradition• Uncover the legal vulnerabilities that leave emotional abuse victims with almost no protection or recourse• Understand why breaking free feels like violating every rule you were taught to respect—and what that tells you• Learn the shocking ways social institutions reinforce narcissistic control while appearing neutral and fairYour autonomy isn't negotiable, and not every system that claims to protect you actually does. This episode exposes the structures keeping you trapped and shows you what true freedom actually requires. 🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You've felt it—that crushing guilt after a conversation where your legitimate pain somehow became about comforting them instead. Your empathy, the quality that makes you compassionate and connected, has become a target. A weapon. A trap that keeps you complicit in your own harm.Narcissists don't just exploit your actions—they exploit your heart. They've learned that your natural compassion is more powerful than any threat, more effective than any argument. All they have to do is trigger it at precisely the right moment, and suddenly you're the one apologizing.If you've ever felt drained after trying to set a boundary, confused about why you ended up comforting the person who hurt you, or guilty for having feelings that "hurt" them—this episode is for you.• Uncover how narcissists weaponize your greatest strength against you in ways that feel impossibly subtle• Discover the specific moments and tactics that turn genuine compassion into a tool for control• Learn what actually happens in your nervous system when empathy gets exploited—and why you feel so confused afterward• Recognize the critical difference between reciprocal empathy and manipulation disguised as vulnerabilityYour empathy isn't the problem. But understanding how it's being used against you changes everything about how you protect it.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Our Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You've watched the same patterns repeat for years—maybe decades. The same conversations circle back. The same conflicts resurface. The same blame, the same denial, the same refusal to acknowledge harm. And absolutely nothing changes, no matter how much time passes or how hard you try.If you've ever felt trapped in an emotional time loop with your narcissistic family member or partner, stuck watching them remain exactly the same person while everyone else around them grows and evolves, you're not imagining it. This isn't about them being incapable of change—it's about why they're actively choosing stagnation.Emotional stagnation in narcissistic systems is one of the most frustrating and confusing experiences for scapegoats. It's the heartbreaking realization that your efforts to create growth, understanding, or healing are being deliberately blocked by the person who has the most power to prevent it.In this episode, we expose the mechanics of emotional stagnation and what it really reveals about narcissistic systems.• Discover why narcissists have a vested interest in keeping everything frozen exactly as it is—and what they're protecting• Understand the hidden mechanism that makes your growth feel like a threat they must neutralize• Learn what it means when someone refuses to evolve despite decades of opportunity and evidence• Uncover the surprising truth about whose responsibility it actually is to break this cycleYour instinct that something is fundamentally wrong with this endless repetition is absolutely correct. This episode will help you understand why stagnation exists and what your next step actually is. 🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Our Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You heard 'I'm sorry'—but it didn't feel like an apology at all. Instead, you felt more confused, more guilty, more responsible for accepting their non-accountability. If you've ever wondered why an apology from a narcissistic parent left you feeling manipulated instead of validated, you're not alone. And you're not imagining it.Pseudo apologies are one of the most insidious manipulation tactics in narcissistic families. They look like accountability on the surface but function as control underneath. They're designed to shut down your complaints, reset the dynamic, and maintain the narcissist's image as a 'good person'—all while your genuine hurt remains completely unaddressed.In this episode, we're exposing the different types of pseudo apologies and why they cause additional harm beyond the original wrongdoing.• Uncover why 'I'm sorry you feel that way' isn't an apology at all—and what it's really doing to you• Discover how narcissists use tears, excuses, and self-pity to flip the dynamic so you end up comforting them• Learn the hidden mechanism that makes accepting pseudo apologies keep you stuck in cycles of false hope• Recognize what genuine accountability actually looks like so you can stop settling for performances disguised as repairYour instinct that something felt off about their apology was correct. This episode will help you understand exactly what went wrong and why you don't need their apology to validate your experience. 🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Our Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You spent years managing their emotional crises, apologizing for things you didn't do, and silencing your own needs because they were always the one suffering more. But what if their victimhood was never genuine? What if it was a calculated performance designed to trap you?Emotional martyrdom is one of the most insidious manipulation tactics in the narcissistic playbook. It's how a narcissistic parent casts themselves as the perpetual victim while systematically controlling everyone around them. When you tried to set boundaries, suddenly you were the cruel one. When you needed support, their crisis conveniently overshadowed your needs. When you questioned their behavior, their suffering was ready as evidence of your heartlessness.In this episode, we're unpacking the psychology behind weaponized victimhood and why it's so effective at keeping you trapped in cycles of guilt, caretaking, and self-abandonment.• Why narcissists use their pain as a shield against accountability—and how this destroys your ability to trust your own reality• The subtle ways a victim narrative becomes a tool of control that rewires your nervous system to prioritize their feelings over your safety• How you were trained to believe that expressing your needs makes you the aggressor in the dynamic• A shocking truth: the exhaustion and confusion you felt wasn't weakness—it was the predictable result of interacting with someone whose emotions were tactical, not genuine🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Our Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You've spent years obsessing over every mistake, convinced that if you could just be perfect enough, the criticism would finally stop. But what if that relentless drive for flawlessness isn't actually about excellence—it's a trauma response you developed to survive in a narcissistic family system? In this episode, we expose the dangerous cycle that keeps scapegoats trapped in exhausting perfectionism, and reveal why no amount of achievement will ever satisfy an abusive system designed to keep you striving.• The hidden reason perfectionism feels like strength but operates like a prison—and why your nervous system still believes mistakes are dangerous• Why narcissistic parents move the goalposts no matter how much you accomplish, and what that reveals about what's really happening• The critical difference between healthy standards and survival-based perfectionism that most people never recognize• What your relentless self-criticism actually proves about the system that shaped you, not about who you really areIf you've wondered why achievement never feels like enough, or why you're still haunted by that internal voice demanding perfection, this episode reveals the truth about the scapegoat's armor and what happens when you finally take it off. 🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In our previous episodes, we've talked about the respect gap and how respect often becomes transactional in long-term relationships. Today, we're looking at something that might help you trust what you've been observing.Have you ever been told, "I don't know what you want," or "women are so confusing"? This episode explores a pattern that challenges that excuse. We'll look at how many men demonstrate respect regularly and skillfully with other men, which reveals something important: they know what respect looks like. The question isn't about confusion. It's about where that respect gets directed.This episode is gentle and observational. We're not making accusations. We're simply inviting you to notice patterns you may have already been seeing. And if you have been seeing them, we want you to know: you're not imagining things.In This Episode, we will talk aboutHow many men demonstrate respect with other menObservable patterns in listening, defending, and protectingWhat the "confusion" excuse really meansWhy this is about choice, not capacityWhat it means for you if you're not receiving that same respectListen if you want to:Validate what you've been observing for yearsUnderstand why "I don't know what you want" might not be trueTrust your perception about different treatmentGain clarity about capacity vs. choice🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Also, listen to episodes 88 and 89, and 112 and 113, as they are related to this oneTop Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You're watching it happen again. Your parent explodes over something minor. Your sibling's face changes as they absorb another wave of criticism that doesn't match the crime. And you're standing there caught between two people you love, not knowing what to do that won't make everything worse.This is one of the most painful positions in family dynamics. You see the disproportionate anger. You know it's affecting your sibling deeply. But speaking up feels risky, and staying silent feels like betrayal.In this episode, we're tackling what it means to be the witness when a parent consistently scapegoats one sibling. We'll explore the hidden dynamics at play, why this pattern exists, and what it does to everyone involved, including you.You'll discover:Why scapegoating happens and what function it serves in dysfunctional familiesThe real reason your sibling can't see the pattern clearly (and why your perspective matters)What actually helps versus what makes things worseHow to speak up without rescuing, mediating, or getting destroyed in the processThe uncomfortable truth about what you can and cannot changeWe'll also address the fear that keeps most people silent: will challenging your parent destroy your relationship with them? The answer might surprise you, because what gets damaged when you stay silent is something even more important.If you're tired of feeling helpless while watching unfair treatment unfold, if you're done being pulled into conflicts that aren't yours, or if you want to support your sibling without losing yourself in the process, this episode will give you a framework for moving forward.Because here's the truth: you can't fix this dynamic. But you can refuse to participate in the silence that allows it to continue. And sometimes, that's the most powerful thing you can do.🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
If you listened to our last episode on the respect gap, you heard about the distance between what people say about respect and what actually happens. Today, we're going deeper.After years, maybe decades in a relationship, why does respect still feel like a business transaction? Why does every considerate gesture come with strings attached? And why does the person who's polite to everyone else become someone completely different behind closed doors with you?This episode unpacks the transactional nature of performed respect in long-term relationships. We'll explore how some people use "respectful" behaviors as currency over years, creating invisible obligations. And we'll look at the difference between those who genuinely don't realize they're doing this and those who are completely aware and strategic about it.If you've spent years feeling like you could never repay the debt, like your gratitude was never enough, or like basic decent treatment came with a price tag, this episode will help you understand why. And if you're just now seeing these patterns clearly after years of questioning yourself, you're not alone.In This Episode:Why "respectful" behaviors in long-term relationships often function as transactionsThe difference between public image and private reality in established marriagesWhy are some people fully aware they're performing respect, not practicing itWhat it means when respect doesn't keep score🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Also, listen to episodes 88 and 89, and 112, as they are related to this oneTop Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Have you ever felt like something was off in how you're being treated, but couldn't quite name it? Like the words say one thing but the actions tell a completely different story?You're not imagining it. There's a gap between what many people claim respect looks like and what it actually feels like to receive it. And for women, especially those recovering from narcissistic relationships, understanding this gap changes everything.In this episode, we're pulling back the curtain on why this disconnect exists and persists. We'll explore how respect gets performed rather than practiced, why some people know exactly what they're doing when they withhold it, and what it costs them to actually give it. This isn't about blame. It's about clarity. Because once you can see the pattern, you can stop questioning yourself and start making informed choices about what you're willing to accept.If you've ever been told you're "too much," "too sensitive," or "asking for too much" when you simply asked to be valued, this episode is for you.In This Episode:What the "respect gap" really is and why it's not in your headThe difference between performing respect and actually practicing itWhy the "I don't understand what you want" excuse is strategic, not confusionHow narcissists weaponize the appearance of respect as a control tactic🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here  🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course🤍**Coaching with Lynn** 1:1 Connect with Lynn - Coaching🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree⭐ *****Benefiting from the Show? *****Leave us a Positive Review***** Also, listen to episodes 88 and 89 as they are related to this oneGo here to read more: https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/covert-sabotage/.Top Episodes on the Patriarchy:Episode 109: When the Whole World Acts Like Your Ex.Episode 106: How Societal Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Manipulation Became Cultural NormsEp. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women FaceEp. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to DisconnectEp. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation, and Your ComplianceEp. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in RelationshipsEp. 84 How Misogyny is the Rite of Passage for MasculinityOur Gumroad Store Social Media Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CourseGrief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery WorkbookSomatic Audio Healing Sessions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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