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Did you marry the man of your dreams, only to now find alcohol seeping into every part of your family? As a woman of faith, committed to your vows, do you struggle to walk out your convictions amidst the chaos and confusion that has devastated your marriage? Do you wish you had someone to confide in without judgment, consequences later or let’s be honest, hearing the worst advice EVER from well meaning people? Despite your relentless efforts, do you feel betrayed, stuck in a cycle, praying for a breakthrough and wondering if things really will be ok? This is how everything was in my marriage for SO long!! I get it!
In this podcast you will find hope regardless of your current situation. As you tune in each week your spirit will be lifted as you recognize that you are NOT in this battle alone. You will come to know that only through Him can you learn to model a much needed peaceful presence to your children, whose little hearts are also wondering if things will be ok. My mission is to share my experience, strength and hope with women like me who are praying for breakthrough. The Lord’s light shines even in the darkness of addiction, and the darkness cannot overcome it.
I am a wife, a homeschooling momma, and a woman who has learned that nothing is impossible for God. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t had to learn all of this while withstanding circumstances that I would have rather avoided - but then would my faith be this strong without all the trials? You might listen and mistakenly assume that I have it “all figured out”, because if I am honest, I still can’t figure out how to keep track of my phone most days. However, I , without a doubt, have found a peace that surpasses understanding and I want to share everything God has taught me with you as you navigate this road as well. I have found that applying the Bible to my situation allows me to shift my eyes off the problem and to refocus on my God who can redeem and restore otherwise hopeless situations. Psalms 55:22 tells us, “Cast your burdens on the Lord and he will sustain you. He will not permit the righteous to be moved”.
In the eye of the storm it is hard to have a right perspective when everyday you are walking on eggshells trying to keep your family together! I have a suspicion that I am not alone here and if you can relate with anything I have said, then this podcast is for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes, right? :) So, if you are ready to experience some breakthrough, listen up. You do not have to do this alone and you didn’t find this podcast by accident.
Take a deep breath even when it seems impossible. Be willing to trust that God can do more than you even imagine.....right where you are today which is so far from where you wanted to be. I know you are running everywhere and doing everything for everyone, but THIS moment of rest is for you! Allow me to serve you a little peace on the rocks.
In this podcast you will find hope regardless of your current situation. As you tune in each week your spirit will be lifted as you recognize that you are NOT in this battle alone. You will come to know that only through Him can you learn to model a much needed peaceful presence to your children, whose little hearts are also wondering if things will be ok. My mission is to share my experience, strength and hope with women like me who are praying for breakthrough. The Lord’s light shines even in the darkness of addiction, and the darkness cannot overcome it.
I am a wife, a homeschooling momma, and a woman who has learned that nothing is impossible for God. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t had to learn all of this while withstanding circumstances that I would have rather avoided - but then would my faith be this strong without all the trials? You might listen and mistakenly assume that I have it “all figured out”, because if I am honest, I still can’t figure out how to keep track of my phone most days. However, I , without a doubt, have found a peace that surpasses understanding and I want to share everything God has taught me with you as you navigate this road as well. I have found that applying the Bible to my situation allows me to shift my eyes off the problem and to refocus on my God who can redeem and restore otherwise hopeless situations. Psalms 55:22 tells us, “Cast your burdens on the Lord and he will sustain you. He will not permit the righteous to be moved”.
In the eye of the storm it is hard to have a right perspective when everyday you are walking on eggshells trying to keep your family together! I have a suspicion that I am not alone here and if you can relate with anything I have said, then this podcast is for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes, right? :) So, if you are ready to experience some breakthrough, listen up. You do not have to do this alone and you didn’t find this podcast by accident.
Take a deep breath even when it seems impossible. Be willing to trust that God can do more than you even imagine.....right where you are today which is so far from where you wanted to be. I know you are running everywhere and doing everything for everyone, but THIS moment of rest is for you! Allow me to serve you a little peace on the rocks.
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Does your husband push back when you mention Al-Anon—or accuse it of being “husband bashing”? You’re not alone. Many Christian wives long for support but feel trapped when their spouse doesn’t approve. In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll talk honestly about the struggle of wanting help with addiction and alcoholism while facing resistance at home.
You’ll hear:
Why secrecy feels like lying, but sometimes becomes survival when you need support.
The truth about what Al-Anon really is (and isn’t).
Online meeting options through the Al-Anon app and other accessible resources.
Alternative programs and supports that can meet the same needs.
How coaching or courses (like my upcoming fall program) can give you faith-based support without secrecy.
You don’t have to choose between honoring your marriage and getting the help you need. The gaslighting of him saying that there isn't an issue in the first place and trying to make that make sense with what you are experiencing.......This conversation will help you sort through your options and move forward in wisdom and peace.
👉 Submit your questions for future episodes at https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
Curious about the fall course I am opening - Holiday Survival Course- email me to check out details and get on the waiting list! hello@wifeontherocks.com
Are you ever unsure if your actions are helping your alcoholic husband—or actually enabling him? Many Christian wives fall into codependent patterns without realizing it, believing they are loving, protecting, or supporting their spouse. But what feels like care can quietly fuel addiction and rob you of peace.
In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll explore what codependency really is, how to recognize enabling behaviors, and compare the dictionary definition with my personal definition. Together, we’ll look at the common patterns wives fall into, why they don’t work, and what I am in charge of compared to what I am not.
You’ll hear:
The difference between helping and enabling in addiction.
Common enabling behaviors like monitoring, covering, or rescuing—and why they backfire.
The emotional toll of codependency (guilt, exhaustion, dysfunction).
How to grieve what you hoped for in marriage while feeling guilty for not continuing the cycle.
Simple first steps to begin breaking free from enabling patterns. Ask yourself this question.
If you’ve ever thought, “Am I helping him or just making things worse?”, this episode will bring clarity and hope for your journey as a Christian wife walking through addiction.
👉 Submit your questions for a future episode at hello@wifeontherocks.com.
👉 Want personalized support? My fall 1:1 coaching sessions are now open. Book directly here: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
When you’re married to an alcoholic, it feels almost impossible not to keep watch over his drinking. Maybe you’ve counted bottles, checked the liquor cabinet, or tracked every sip at dinner—hoping that if you could just measure the problem, you could somehow control it.
In this episode, we’ll talk about why monitoring an alcoholic’s drinking doesn’t work and how it keeps you trapped in a cycle of anxiety, hypervigilance, and codependency. Addiction hijacks the brain, and no amount of checking or policing can make your husband choose sobriety. His recovery is his responsibility—not yours.
You’ll learn:
Why watching his every move fuels your fear instead of giving peace.
How addiction and alcoholism shift accountability away from him when you try to manage it.
The emotional cost of living like a detective in your own home.
What it looks like to release control and reclaim your peace in Christ.
If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe if I just keep track, I can get ahead of this,” this episode will show you a healthier way forward. Your husband’s sobriety is not your responsibility—but your peace, your healing, and your walk with God are.
📩 Do you have a question you’d like me to cover on a future episode? Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com.
📅 Want to go deeper? My one-on-one coaching sessions are open now. Book here → (Temporarily unavailable. Email the above address and we will set a time:)
When gaslighting leaves you questioning your reality and your worth, it’s easy to spiral into anger, defensiveness, or despair. As wives, we long for our husbands to meet our emotional needs, but the truth is—no spouse can carry that weight fully. And when addiction and gaslighting are present, the gap feels even bigger than we ever imagined.
In this episode, I share how I’ve learned to regulate my emotions in the face of hurtful, confusing words. You’ll hear:
Why it’s dangerous to seek validation from a spouse who cannot give it.
Practical ways to counteract gaslighting without losing your peace.
How knowing who I am in Christ steadies me when my marriage feels like less than I ever expected.
Why Galatians 5:22 reminds me that the Holy Spirit equips me with self-control—even when I’m tempted to lash back in anger.
If you’ve ever thought, “I didn’t sign up for this—I expected so much more,” this episode will give you encouragement and practical tools to hold your ground in truth and respond with Spirit-led self-control.
📩 Do you have a question you’d like me to cover in a future episode, or a testimony of what God is doing in your life? Does your husband have a question for my husband? We are working on building our next interviews! Email me at https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
Living with alcoholism in your marriage can leave you feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. The lies, broken promises, and constant chaos can make you wonder if hope is even possible. If you’ve ever whispered, “I can’t keep doing this,” this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, I share 3 Christ-centered, practical tips to help you take one small step forward when you feel hopeless and defeated. These aren’t about fixing your husband—they’re about helping you anchor your heart, care for yourself, and invite God into the exhaustion.
You’ll learn:
Where your hope belongs when his choices keep breaking it.
Simple acts of self-care that bring life back into your day—like stepping outside in the sunshine, turning on praise music, or moving your body to clear the heaviness.
How to invite God into your weariness, trusting Him to carry what feels impossible.
Hopelessness doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you need fresh ways to steady your soul in Christ. With Him, you can take the next step, even in the storm.
📩 Do you have a question you’d like me to cover on the show, or a testimony of how God is meeting you in this journey? Email me at https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
Addiction, Co-Dependency, Boundaries, Alcoholic, Marriage, Hope
Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between a healthy boundary and one that only sounds right on the surface. Boundaries are like real vs. counterfeit money—you need to know what the genuine thing “sounds” like in order to recognize when something is off.
In this episode, I’m sharing examples of both unhealthy and healthy boundaries side by side so you can hear the difference for yourself. Poorly stated boundaries often come out of anger, sound controlling, or place the accountability on you instead of where it belongs. Healthy boundaries, on the other hand, are calm, clear, and protective without trying to control another person’s choices.
You’ll learn:
Why tone and phrasing matter more than you might realize—especially when you’re dealing with alcoholism, addiction, or gaslighting at home.
Why practice builds confidence in speaking boundaries that actually work.
How a “bad boundary” sounds compared to a “good boundary”—so you can stop feeling stuck and start protecting your peace.
If you’ve ever thought, “My boundaries sound right, so why don’t they work?”—this episode will help you start spotting the difference. Whether you’re navigating life with an alcoholic spouse, recovering from the effects of addiction, or learning how to respond to gaslighting, you’ll find practical insight and encouragement here.
👉 Have a question you’d like me to cover in a future episode? Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
👉 Want help practicing boundaries that actually work? My one-on-one summer coaching sessions are open now → https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
When you’re living in the chaos of an alcoholic marriage, boundaries aren’t just helpful—they’re essential. But here’s the thing: not all boundaries are created equal. Some can actually cause more damage, fuel defensiveness, or leave you carrying all the accountability.
In this episode, I’m sharing three specific things I don’t do when I set boundaries—habits I’ve learned to leave behind so my boundaries are clear, effective, and truly protective for me and my family.
We’ll talk about how to avoid the traps that make boundaries backfire, and how to phrase them in ways that lower defensiveness instead of triggering it. Listen in to hear exactly what these three things are and how you can start shifting your approach today.
If you’ve been struggling to set boundaries that actually work, this is for you.
📩 Got a boundary question you’d like me to answer on the show? Email me at https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
Setting boundaries in a marriage impacted by addiction is hard enough—but what happens when we set boundaries that backfire?
In this episode, we’re walking through 4 common boundary mistakes Christian wives often make when navigating life with an alcoholic spouse:
Boundaries made in anger – when emotions take over and clarity is lost
Not following through – the emotional toll of boundaries that don’t stick
Poorly communicated boundaries – the best of intentions, but instantly the defensiveness shows up from hubby!
Controlling boundaries – These sounded so good in my head, but only caused fights and a cycle of NO change.
You’ll hear real-life examples of what these mistakes look like in the home—and how to reframe them with love, clarity, and biblical wisdom. Plus, I’ll show you how to spot the difference between a boundary that punishes and one that protects.
💬 Have a question you’d like answered on the show? Or want to share something God is doing in your life? I’d love to hear from you. Email me at https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
There’s a specific kind of heartbreak that comes when you realize the life you dreamed of isn’t the life you’re living—and that setting a boundary might be the only way to protect your peace, your children, or your sanity.
In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of grieving what I thought family life would look like—and the painful but necessary process of accepting that I had to set boundaries in an addicted marriage in order to stay grounded in reality, not fantasy.
You’ll hear:
The emotional weight that comes before setting a boundary
What it’s like to pray and wrestle with God before taking action
How it feels to be forced into choices you never wanted to make
The internal tug-of-war between loyalty to your marriage and protecting your children
If you’ve ever asked, “How did it get this bad?” or “Why do I have to be the one to draw the line?”—this episode is for you.
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If you’re feeling torn about where to draw the line, you’re not alone. Email me at https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
Welcome back to Part 2 of my honest conversation with my husband, who is now in long-term recovery from alcohol. This episode dives into some of the most painful questions Christian wives face when living with an alcoholic spouse:
💔 Should I keep bringing up the drinking?
🙏 Can I encourage AA or other recovery programs without nagging?
🔁 Why does it feel like we’re repeating the same toxic cycle over and over again—and he doesn’t even see it?
If you’ve ever felt like something big happens, emotions explode, and then everything just quietly resets without real change... you’re not alone. We talk about why this cycle happens, what we’ve learned from it, and how God can open the door to true conversations and healing—even when it feels impossible.
We also explore:
How to invite your husband to open AA meetings (even as a recovery date night!)
Why some AA meetings don’t go well—and why it’s okay to try again
The role of prayer and timing in recovery conversations
Encouragement for when you’re discouraged, stuck, or silently suffering
This episode is for the wife who is doing her best to hold it all together with grace, but who needs real support, real answers, and real hope.
Full Listener Question:
"My husband admits his drinking is a problem, but he's not doing anything about it. If I ask him if he’s looked into AA, Celebrate Recovery, or Regeneration, he says he hasn’t had time and will look into it later. He’s gone to AA meetings before but says he doesn’t think it’s for him. Do I keep bringing this up? I don’t want to nag him, but it’s eating at me inside not to say anything. I feel like we’re in a painful cycle—something happens, we talk about it for a couple days, then we move on until it happens again. I feel like he’s just appeasing me in those moments because he knows I’ll eventually stop asking. He doesn’t communicate his feelings at all, so I have no idea what he’s thinking."
🔗 https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
In this special two-part episode, I sit down with my husband—who is in long-term recovery from alcoholism—to answer a heartfelt and all-too-relatable question from a listener:
"My husband admits his drinking is a problem, but he's not doing anything about it. If I ask him if he’s looked into AA, Celebrate Recovery, or Regeneration, he says he hasn’t had time and will look into it later. He’s gone to AA meetings before but says he doesn’t think it’s for him. Do I keep bringing this up? I don’t want to nag him, but it’s eating at me inside not to say anything. I feel like we’re in a painful cycle—something happens, we talk about it for a couple days, then we move on until it happens again. I feel like he’s just appeasing me in those moments because he knows I’ll eventually stop asking. He doesn’t communicate his feelings at all, so I have no idea what he’s thinking."
Together, we reflect honestly on what life was like when we were in that same stuck place—and what we wish we had known then. From both sides of the struggle, we share what was helpful, what wasn’t, and what conversations planted real seeds of change.
In Part 1, we explore:
The mindset of an alcoholic who knows there's a problem but isn’t taking action
What a first conversation about recovery looked like in our home
How to approach your husband without nagging—and why timing and tone matter
The emotional toll of watching someone you love choose not to get help
Whether your husband is just beginning to wrestle with his drinking or you feel trapped in a repeating cycle of hope and disappointment, this episode offers honest insight and encouragement from our story and our victory!
Resources Mentioned:
Joe and Charlie Tapes- 2 Old Timers in AA walking and talking through the Big Book and breaking it down in a way only they can do:) These are available on YouTube and also on the AA app. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLhl3xlE0-GdweI1gG5QoeY9iIRCt2w_aI
If you have a question you'd like answered on a future episode—or just want to connect—you can email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com.
If you’re interested in going deeper into the dynamics of your specific situation, you can book a summer 1:1 session with me here:
https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
Part 2 continues next week with more discussion, insight, and tackling the repetitive cycle that conversations tend to have in active addiction. (Alcohol or Drugs will elicit the same patterns of the cycle resisting sobriety and recovery.)
Summer is supposed to be a time of fun, family, and freedom — but for Christian wives of alcoholics, events like the 4th of July, barbecues, and neighborhood gatherings can catch you off guard with behavior not anticipated. Expecting Family Time but your husband self sabotages in order to drink and you end up alone or with all the kids without him?
In this heartfelt episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about the real effects of alcohol in marriage — not just on the alcoholic husband, but on the wife and the family unit as a whole. From grill outs where he’s the only one drinking, to family plans that suddenly unravel into chaos, to fireworks nights you end up attending alone with the kids… we get into all of it.
You’ll hear:
How summer events often reveal painful patterns in alcoholic behavior
The emotional toll of being pushed away so he can drink in peace while you carry the family.
The subtle (and not-so-subtle) sabotage that ruins what should be family time
Why choosing not to attend certain events can actually be wise
What it looks like to reclaim peace, even when your heart is breaking
And most importantly, we talk about how you can walk this hard road with strength, with faith, and without losing yourself. Even when it hurts, even when you’re crying on the drive to the fireworks — you are not alone.
💬 Want to share your story or suggest a future episode topic? Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
📅 Want to go deeper into your situation? Book a 1-on-1 session here:
https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about what it feels like to live in a world full of uncertainty—when bombs are being dropped overseas and emotional bombs are going off in your own home.
With growing tensions between Israel and Iran and news of U.S. involvement, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the global instability. But for Christian wives married to alcoholics, the chaos isn’t just out there—it’s also right here, in the home. How do we process fear about the future when we’re already living in a constant state of survival? How do we prepare our families wisely when our husbands aren’t in a position to lead, protect, or even participate in the conversation?
We explore:
What to do when your alcoholic husband can’t offer the strength and stability your family needs
How to talk to your kids when they need reassurance
Why self-sufficiency and emergency planning feel overwhelming when addiction dominates your daily life
Practical steps to quiet your mind and lead your family in peace, even when the world feels like it’s spinning out of control
How to reset your spirit with Scripture and walk in God’s wisdom, not fear
We’re anchoring this episode in two powerful verses:
Philippians 4:4-7 – “Do not be anxious about anything…”
Matthew 6:25-34 – “Do not worry about tomorrow…”
If you're feeling anxious, under-equipped, or just plain tired of holding it all together—you’re not alone. This episode will help you take a deep breath, reset your mind, and find your footing again with God’s peace as your guide.
🕊 Book a private coaching session: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession
More dates are being added soon—watch for the full July calendar to be released next week and this link will update dates automatically.
📩 Have a question you'd like answered on a future episode? Send it to: hello@wifeontherocks.com
How do you know if someone is safe to talk to about your marriage, your alcoholic husband, or the chaos addiction is causing in your home? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we explore a powerful litmus test to help Christian wives of alcoholics discern who they can trust with their story—and who might cause more harm than help.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you should open up to a friend, family member, pastor, or counselor about your situation, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how to recognize the difference between biblical counsel and secular advice and how to spot red flags in emotional conversations.
We talk about:
Navigating life with an alcoholic spouse through a Christian lens
How to find safe, biblical support for Christian wives of addicts
The dangers of emotional affairs and male “mentors”
Why gossip and broken trust can hurt your healing
Secular vs. faith-based advice for wives of alcoholics
What makes someone a trustworthy, prayerful support
The importance of recovery groups like Al-Anon for family members of addicts
Plus, I share how Christian coaching for wives of alcoholics can be a lifeline when you don’t have a safe person in your life who understands what you’re walking through. As someone who’s lived this personally, I offer faith-based, confidential coaching to help you navigate this painful season with clarity, peace, and spiritual strength. Email me at Hello@wifeontherocks.com to gain access to the schedule and book a session!
Keywords: Christian wife, alcoholic husband, addiction in the home, Christian counseling, faith-based support, boundaries in marriage, recovery, Al-Anon, emotional safety, biblical advice, Christian marriage help, alcoholism, Christian addiction counseling, wives of addicts, Christian coach, safe support for addiction, Godly counsel for wives, alcohol addiction recovery support.
Are you the only one paying attention to the warning signs? What even are the warning signs for Liver Disease and Liver Cirhossis and when to expect them. There may be NO symptoms or concerns at this time, but looking in the future has you concerned? Maybe you are seeing his yellowing eyes, his constant fatigue, his mood swings? Let's unpack this together.
The only one praying for his health — while he shrugs it off?
If that’s you, I want to start with this:
You are not crazy.
You are not overreacting.
And you are not being controlling for caring deeply about the man you love.
In this episode, I speak directly to the Christian wife who feels alone in her concern — like she’s watching a slow-motion car crash while everyone else looks away. We’ll talk honestly about what alcohol does to the liver, how quietly damage can build, and why your fear makes perfect sense. I’ll also walk you through what you can lovingly release, because it was never yours to carry.
💡 You'll hear:
What the liver actually does and why alcohol attacks it silently
What liver damage looks like in real life (and why symptoms often come late)
The real reason your concern matters — even if he’s not ready to change
What it means to care without carrying
A reminder that you are not his doctor
This isn’t just about biology — it’s about the burden of love, and the freedom of surrender.
📩 Got questions or want to connect?
You can reach me anytime at hello@wifeontherocks.com
Hepatic Liver, Liver Cirhossis, Liver Disease Signs, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Fatty Liver, Pancreatitis,
You are not alone, sister.
And you were never meant to carry this alone.
As a Christian wife living with an alcoholic husband, you’ve probably wrestled with a deep emotional conflict: “I know I’m supposed to forgive, but I’m furious.” In this episode, we’re opening up the conversation about anger—what Scripture really says, why it’s not a sin to feel it, and how to move through it without shame.
We’ll unpack the emotional toll of carrying an unfair burden, the conflict between Christian service and soul-level exhaustion, and what options are actually available to you as a woman of faith in a hurting home. If you’ve been stuffing your emotions to be the "good Christian wife," this one is for you.
📩 I'd love to hear your story or pray for you—email me anytime at hello@wifeontherocks.com
🎙️ Special Tribute: Phil Robertson
Before we close, I’m honoring the life and legacy of Phil Robertson, founder of Duck Commander, beloved husband to Miss Kay, and a man radically transformed by the grace of Jesus. His early years were marked by addiction and brokenness, but God wrote a redemption story that has reached millions.
Their powerful testimony is captured in the film The Blind, which tells the raw and beautiful journey from chaos to Christ. You can also hear Phil and his family on their podcast Unashamed, where they boldly share Scripture, real-life struggles, and the power of the gospel without holding back.
Phil’s story reminds us that no life is too far gone for Jesus to redeem. And that hope? It’s for your home, too.
Still unsure if your husband is “just” a heavy drinker or a true alcoholic? The truth is: chasing a diagnosis often becomes a distraction that delays the healing process.
In this episode, we talk about why trying to “figure him out” won’t fix anything—and what you can do instead. Whether your husband meets a textbook definition or not, the chaos still hurts, and you deserve peace.
You'll hear:
Why obsessing over the “right” label can keep wives stuck in fear and codependency
4 litmus test questions to help you decide when a boundary is needed
How both heavy drinking and alcoholism cause emotional instability in the home
A Christian perspective on stepping forward without all the answers
Real-life discussion of when helping crosses the line into enabling
This episode is an invitation to stop diagnosing and start discerning what God is calling you to do in your family.
💌 If you have questions you’d like me to cover on the podcast, or want more info about 1-on-1 coaching, email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
Are you constantly wondering whether your husband is an alcoholic or “just” a heavy drinker? Maybe you've searched for clarity in books, blogs, or online quizzes—hoping that labeling his behavior will give you peace.
In this episode, we break down what the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says about the three types of drinkers, including what defines a “real alcoholic”—and why understanding this framework may help, but it’s not your responsibility to diagnose.
You'll hear:
A clear overview of the 3 drinker types described in AA literature
What a "real alcoholic" looks like according to the Big Book
Why this knowledge can offer insight—but also keep wives stuck
Real-life home examples of what each type might look like in daily life
Encouragement for Christian wives navigating confusion and chaos
This episode offers education—not to label your husband—but to help you understand what you’re dealing with and why his drinking affects your heart and home either way.
If you want to read the full chapter regarding this in the Big Book of AA here is a link to the Big Book for free online on the AA website. Scroll down for Chapter 2. There is a Solution. (pp.17-29)
https://www.aa.org/the-big-book
💌 Want to be added to the waitlist or learn more about 1:1 coaching?
Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
💭 Have a question you'd like answered on the show?
Email me anytime at hello@wifeontherocks.com and I may include it in a future episode.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re helping your husband or enabling his addiction, this episode is for you. As Christian wives, we’re called to love and support—but when codependency creeps in, it can be hard to tell if our actions are helping or hurting.
In today’s episode, I share two simple but powerful questions—your litmus test—to help you decide where a boundary might be needed. These questions will help you check your motives, discern if you're stepping into an enabler role, and bring clarity to those hard, in-the-moment decisions.
We’ll talk about how not setting boundaries can leave you feeling more like his mother than his wife, and how resentment often builds when we’re stuck in a cycle of codependency. We'll also explore the ever-shifting line between helping from a place of faith and unintentionally enabling, and why that line often has to be redrawn with each situation.
If you're navigating the storm of loving a man in addiction and want to reclaim your peace, this episode offers both practical tools and spiritual encouragement.
✨ Want to be added to the waitlist or get more info about 1:1 coaching sessions?
📩 Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com – I’d love to support you.
💬 Have a question you’d love to hear answered on the show?
Send it to hello@wifeontherocks.com, and I’ll try to include it in a future episode.
In this episode on boundaries, we return to the basics—what they are, why they matter, and how they serve as a powerful shield for your peace. Think of boundaries not as walls to keep your husband out, but as a protective dome that creates space between you and the chaos of addiction. This distance isn’t about punishment—it’s about preserving your well-being and protecting your children.
If you're a Christian wife navigating life with an alcoholic husband, this episode is for you. Whether you’re just beginning to explore boundaries or need a fresh reminder of why they matter, you’ll find clarity and encouragement here.
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