Just Ask Her - Dating Advice for Single Men

If you’re dating and keep thinking “something’s missing,” this episode reframes the whole game—rejection as data, not failure, and curiosity as the healthiest starting point before real connection forms.Host Gracie and her mom/co-host Tracy (certified life coach) break down three listener submissions and show how to stay grounded: stop spiraling after “no,” stop chasing fireworks, and learn how to ask for clarity without wrecking your confidence (or your friend group dynamic).This one is for men who want to date with more self-respect, less anxiety, and a mindset that actually helps you move forward—especially around Valentine’s week, when emotions can run high.Time Stamps / Chapters00:00 Intro: Managing your mind as the key to enjoyable dating00:26 Welcome to Just Ask Her + episode setup (Valentine’s week)00:48 Valentine’s Day as intentional love (not just romance)03:09 Listener comment: “When is the good data coming in?”04:56 “Rejection is data”: neutral info you can use06:46 “Fail forward”: why dating needs reps and missed swings08:15 Perfectionism trap + sports stats analogy10:12 Dating = baseball: adjustments after every “miss”12:18 Community shout-outs + missed episode note13:36 Q1 (Hunter): excitement is gone—is this normal?15:21 Gracie: mind management changed everything18:41 Curiosity before attachment (healthy early-stage emotion)20:13 Women + attraction building over time22:11 “Comfortable, interesting, easy” vs “electric” early on24:24 Feelings vs decisions: dating to choose, not be chosen26:19 Q2 (John): how long to wait to avoid being a rebound?27:57 Rebounds aren’t defined by time—focus on readiness31:35 Integrity + clarity: how to bring it up respectfully34:09 Self-made Man Dating Journal announcement35:24 Q3 (Student in Austria): mixed signals + group dynamic fear39:17 Signs to consider: initiation, group-only hangouts40:24 “Just ask her”: clarity beats speculation46:57 Trust yourself to handle the outcome—rejection as Intel48:01 Wrap-up + share the episodeKeywords:rejection is datahow to handle dating rejectiondating mindset for menstop spiraling after rejectionfail forward datingdating without butterfliesno spark on first datecuriosity in early datingattraction builds over timehow to avoid being a reboundhow long to wait to ask her outdating someone newly singlemixed signals in datingcrush in friend grouphow to ask for clarity in datingHashtags:#datingadvice #confidence #relationships

Dating confidence starts before the date, when you stop performing to be chosen and start showing up as the chooser. In Episode 62 of Just Ask Her, Gracie and certified life coach Tracy respond to three listener submissions on transactional relationships, dating after separation, and building real first-date chemistry.If you’ve ever felt “behind,” struggled with rejection, or keep hearing “it’s not you, it’s me,” this episode gives you practical mindset shifts and grounded reminders that real connection is built, not bought, and emotional resilience is something you grow through experience.You’ll also hear how to stop relying on “safe” but stagnant connection, how to handle the grief of dating endings (even early on), and how to create a stronger emotional experience on dates without becoming performative.In this episode:Why transactional connection can reduce real-world dating initiativeThe difference between kindness and lack of boundariesA neuroscience-based reframe for why early rejection hurts so muchHow to build emotional resilience through dating experiencesWhy first-date “fit” isn’t enough—chemistry is physiologicalHow playful contrast (used sparingly) can create romantic tensionThe “chooser mindset” exercise that changes your energy on datesThe 5-minute pre-date reset to avoid “please choose me” modeTime Stamps / Chapters00:00 Pre-date mindset: stop performing, start choosing00:41 Welcome to Just Ask Her + “dating with confidence” mission01:00 Minneapolis deep-freeze + “economic ice out” context04:48 Submission 1 (Ralph): paid companionship/OnlyFans + feeling “behind”09:11 Why transactional connection blocks real relationships14:14 Protective narratives, dopamine spikes, and the post-date “crash”22:05 Practical plan: pause the exclusive online tie + 90-day app commitment25:01 Submission 2 (Chris): 65, post-separation, rejection grief + resilience31:02 “You’re grieving the possibility”—why it hurts after 3 in-person dates37:03 “Is it too late?” + uncertainty is part of dating (not a problem)39:53 Self-Made Man Dating Journal announcement (Amazon link in show notes)41:12 Submission 3 (Drew): first dates → “it’s not you, it’s me” texts46:21 Chemistry = felt experience + playful contrast (don’t overdo it)55:11 The chooser exercise + 5-minute pre-date reset01:00:15 Wrap: Episode 62 closingHashtags:#DatingAdvice #DatingConfidence #EmotionalResilienceKeywords:dating with confidencechooser mindset datingstop people pleasing on datesemotional resilience in datinghandling dating rejectiondating after divorce at 65dating after separationgrieving the possibility datingtransactional relationships datingfirst date chemistry tipshow to get a second dateplayful banter on a dateboundaries in datingmindset before a date

If you’re stuck in mixed signals, waiting to be “reconsidered,” or navigating a relationship where marriage and long-term goals don’t match, this episode breaks down what to do next,without chasing, arguing, or negotiating your needs away.In Episode 61 of Just Ask Her, the hosts respond to three submissions: a confusing “pheromones” rejection, an 8-year relationship where ambition and lifestyle expectations diverged, and a 14-year partnership where one person wants marriage and closeness while theother doesn’t.This is for anyone who wants clarity, stronger boundaries, and a reality-based way to decide whether to stay, especially when love is present but alignment isn’t.Time Stamps:  00:00 — If nothing changes: the question you have to answer00:31 — Episode 61 begins + submission from Steven01:03 — “Pheromones didn’t agree”: rejection + confusion02:39 — Why people rarely give the real reason04:44 — “I’m not interested” is the only sentence you need06:10 — Attraction isn’t a debate + closure is self-made09:13 — Submission from Jay: 8-year relationship + proposal plans12:18 — Living like roommates: provider mindset vs connection15:20 — Love vs misalignment: wanting to co-create a life20:12 — Resentment, pressure, and the breakup dynamics22:08 — Stop pausing your life; release the fantasy future23:13 — Self-Made Man Dating Journal promo (Amazon)24:32 — Submission from Paul: 14 years together, no marriage26:18 — Facts vs story: loneliness + competing for attention30:07 — Is there a compromise that both people choose?  Keywords:mixed signals after rejectionshe said not interestedpheromones dating excuseattraction is not a debateclosure after breakuprelationship misalignment goalslove isn’t enough relationshipone partner wants marriageshe doesn’t want to get marriedloneliness in a relationshiplong term relationship adviceresentment kills intimacyhow to stop waiting for an exdating boundaries for menself trust in relationshipsHashtags:  #relationshipadvice#datingadvice#relationships#boundaries#selftrust

Episode 60: Should You Take Her Back? Plus Confessing Feelings to Your Best FriendWelcome back! After a brief hiatus to upgrade our studio setup, Gracie and Tracy are back with real talk on navigating tricky dating situations.In This Episode:Question 1: Should I Give Her Another Chance?Rick shares his story about a woman who ghosted him after two months of dating, only to reach out months later with an apology. Should he take her back? We discuss:How to separate facts from fear-based interpretationsThe difference between compassion and accommodating bad behaviorWhat to watch for if you decide to give someone a second chanceWhy confidence comes from trusting yourself in uncertainty, not predicting outcomesQuestion 2: How Do I Tell My Best Friend I Have Feelings?Dan writes in about having romantic feelings for his lifelong best friend (who also happens to be his boss's daughter). We cover:Why the real fear isn't "weirding her out"—it's facing potential rejectionHow 68% of relationships actually start as friendshipsThe difference between a dramatic "confession" and a mature conversationHow to handle the situation professionally regardless of the outcomeQuestion 3: Why Should Men Listen to Women's Dating Advice?An anonymous listener challenges why women should give dating advice to men. We address:The difference between facts and the stories our brains tell usHow contempt and defensiveness make you undateableWhy expertise comes from observing what creates results, not genderThe importance of filtering the information you consume onlineKey Takeaways:You're not here to be chosen—you're the chooserConfidence is earned by doing hard things and surviving any outcomeThe risk isn't rejection; it's self-abandonmentYour job is to become a man you trust, then learn to choose wellResources Mentioned:The Self-Made Man Dating Journal - available on AmazonConnect With Us:Rate us on Spotify or Apple PodcastsShare this episode with friends who need to hear itNext Episode: More real dating questions, more honest answers. See you next week!

Chemistry and availability aren’t the same thing—and that’s a key reason dating can feel confusing. In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and her mom/co-host (certified life coach) Tracy answer three real submissions about mixed signals at work, dating after a layoff, and why first dates from apps often get canceled last-minute.If you’re dating with intention and you keep wondering “What did I do wrong?”, this episode helps you separate the facts from the story your brain is trying to write—so you can move forward with more confidence and less overthinking.You’ll hear practical scripts and mindset shifts for navigating modern dating dynamics (especially on the apps), plus how to protect your time and self-respect while still staying open to connection.In this episode:Why “chemistry” doesn’t equal “availability” (and how faith/values can change outcomes)Friendly vs. flirty in work settings—and how to get clarity without spiralingShould you mention unemployment on your dating profile? (Spoiler: no)How to talk about a recent layoff on a first date with confidenceWhy app dates get canceled so often—and how not to take it personallyThe better response when someone cancels (so you don’t carry the whole reschedule)Why comparison is wrecking your confidence (and what to do instead)Time Stamps / Chapters:00:00 — Welcome to 2026 + new studio setup00:02:21 — Submission #1: Mixed signals at work + mini golf invite “180”00:05:56 — Friendly vs. flirty: how to get clarity (especially at work)00:10:42 — Faith/values + “two truths can coexist”00:13:02 — Lesson: you can do everything right and still not control outcomes00:15:44 — Submission #2: Laid off—how it affects dating + your profile00:19:06 — Why you shouldn’t disclose unemployment on apps (and what to say instead)00:24:11 — Mind drama, shame, overexplaining: what actually hurts your dating life00:28:49 — Submission #3: Dates keep canceling + confidence crash from comparison00:32:05 — App reality: most matches don’t meet + lots of day-of cancellations00:37:49 — What to text when she cancels (and why “pick a new time” backfires)00:45:00 — Stop over-texting before the date: save conversation for in-person00:47:32 — Episode wrap: Episode 59 + what’s nextKeywords:chemistry vs availability datingfriendly vs flirty at workmixed signals workplace crushhow to ask her out clearlydating after being laid offunemployed and dating adviceshould I mention unemployment dating profilewhat to say when she cancels datedating app dates cancelled last minutewhy dating apps ghosting happensstop over texting before first dateconfidence after rejection datingdating apps decision fatiguehow to reschedule a date textmodern dating advice for menHashtags:#DatingAdvice #OnlineDating #Confidence

Are you ready to take control of your dating life and attract the women you want? In Episode 58 of the "Just Ask Her" podcast, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt celebrate a year of growth, share their impressive Spotify Wrapped stats, and answer real listener questions about dating challenges, mindset shifts, and self-confidence.In this episode:The Just Ask Her podcast’s first full year recap and top Spotify Wrapped achievements (Top 5% of videos, most shared show, and more!)Meet Noodle, the adorable new dachshund puppy joining the showListener submissions: Navigating dating with neurodivergence, overcoming “bad luck” in relationships, and embracing singlehood with confidenceMindset advice for men who feel stuck or defeated in datingThe importance of self-awareness, communication, and taking the lead in your dating journeyAnnouncing the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help single men track, reflect, and improve their dating experiencesExciting updates for 2026, including a new production team and upgraded video setupWhether you’re struggling with dating setbacks, wondering how to be the “chooser” in your love life, or just want to hear real, no-nonsense advice from women who get it, this episode is packed with actionable tips and inspiration.Resources mentioned:Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracieDon’t forget to rate, review, and share the show on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to help more listeners find us!

Feeling alone this Christmas Eve? You’re not the only one. In this special holiday episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt get real about why so many men find themselves single during the holidays—and what you can do to make sure next year is different.We’re not here as coaches or experts, but as your family—your older or younger sister, your mom—ready to tell you the truth you need to hear. We’ll talk about the real reasons you’re stuck in your dating life, the stories you tell yourself that keep you from moving forward, and the steps you can take to break the cycle of loneliness.Key topics include:Why comparing yourself to others on social media is sabotaging your happinessThe truth about texting your ex (and why it never helps)How to get unstuck and start attracting the relationship you wantThe three steps to change: Decide, Get Clarity, and Do the WorkPractical advice for building confidence, meeting new people, and becoming someone you’re proud ofA 90-day challenge to transform your dating lifeYou’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Tune in for honest, no-BS advice, encouragement, and a promise: next Christmas can be different—if you decide to do the work.Subscribe for weekly episodes with actionable tips, real talk, and the support you need to change your dating life for good.Merry Christmas from Gracie, & Tracy

Welcome back to Just Ask Her, the no-nonsense dating advice podcast for men who want real answers from a woman’s perspective! In Episode 56, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle your toughest dating dilemmas, from decoding mixed signals to making the most of first dates.In this episode:How to tell if she’s interested or just being friendlyThe power of direct communication: Why “just ask her” is the best strategyNavigating texting habits, physical touch, and gift-giving in modern datingCoping with rejection and building confidence after lossReal listener submissions: Rekindled friendships, workplace crushes, and moving on after heartbreakThe best first date ideas for online matches and in-person connectionsAre singles events and speed dating worth it? Pros, cons, and creative alternativesSpecial announcement: The Self-Made Man Dating Journal is now available on Amazon—track your progress and level up your dating life!Plus: Rapid-fire Q&A, reality TV talk, and why being the chooser (not just the chosen) is the key to dating success.Resources & Links:Grab your copy of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracieIf you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with your friends. Your support helps more men find real, actionable dating advice!Tune in next week for a special holiday episode!

Show NotesEpisode 55: Why She Didn’t Text Back: Real Talk on Dating Apps, Instagram DMs, and Moving OnWelcome back to Just Ask Her—the no-nonsense dating advice podcast for men, hosted by dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt. In this episode, Gracie and Tracy tackle three listener submissions that highlight the most common struggles men face in modern dating: ghosting, mixed signals, and the frustration of online dating.In this episode:Submission 1: A listener wonders if an ex’s Instagram like means she wants to reconnect, and Gracie and Tracy break down why social media signals are rarely what they seem—and how to move forward with confidence.Submission 2: Tyler asks why women don’t respond to his Instagram DMs, despite his best efforts and a strong profile. The hosts explain the hidden variables of online messaging, why your worth isn’t tied to replies, and the “Rule of 100” for building dating resilience.Submission 3: Dan shares his story of heartbreak after divorce and struggles to find connection on dating apps. Gracie and Tracy offer advice on reframing rejection, increasing your “reps” in dating, and why your past doesn’t define your future.Plus:The launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help single men track their dating progress, reflect, and grow.Why mindset is the most important factor in dating success.How to separate facts from stories when facing rejection.The importance of volume and persistence in online dating.Key Takeaways:Don’t read too much into social media interactions—focus on real communication and alignment.Your value isn’t determined by how many replies you get; it’s about choosing yourself first.Dating is a numbers game—get more reps before drawing conclusions.Healing from heartbreak is a journey, and every experience is a step toward the right relationship.Resources Mentioned:Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracieIf you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with your friends! New episodes every Wednesday.

Should You Approach Her When She's Alone? Ghosting, Rejection & Building Real Confidence (Ep. 54)Show Notes:Listener submissions spark honest conversations about:The right (and wrong) ways to approach women in different contextsHow to handle mixed signals and trust your instincts after being hurtWhy ghosting and rejection don’t define your worthThe hidden pitfalls of dating apps and how to reframe “rejection”Building confidence and self-awareness for better connectionsPlus, Gracie and Tracy share personal stories, Thanksgiving chaos, and announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help you track, reflect, and level up your dating life.Don’t miss the practical advice, mindset shifts, and real talk that will help you date with more confidence and clarity.Listener questions featured from: James, Kyle, Jake, and Miguel.Resources mentioned:Self-Made Man Dating Journal (available now on Amazon Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracieNew episodes every Wednesday!You’ll learn:When (and how) to approach women respectfully—alone or in groupsWhy ghosting and rejection aren’t reflections of your worthHow to trust your instincts and set healthy boundariesThe truth about dating apps and self-sabotaging beliefsActionable tips for self-awareness and authentic connectionPlus, hear about the new Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help you track your progress and break old patterns.Tune in for honest advice, relatable stories, and the mindset shifts you need to succeed in modern dating.Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday, and follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok @datingwithgracie.Grab your copy of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon

Episode Description:Gratitude, Growth, and Real Talk: Navigating Dating Challenges & Self-TrustIn this special Thanksgiving and birthday episode, Gracie and Tracy reflect on the power of gratitude, embracing new chapters, and the lessons learned at 25. They answer listener questions about moving on after betrayal, dating after divorce, and how to handle fast-paced connections in the digital age. Plus, they introduce the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help you track your progress and date with intention.Feeling stuck in your dating life or struggling to move on after heartbreak? In this episode, Gracie and Tracy get real about gratitude, personal growth, and the messy realities of modern dating. They answer listener questions about letting go of toxic relationships, dating after divorce, and how to communicate your needs and boundaries. Whether you're navigating new connections or healing from the past, you'll find practical advice and encouragement to help you trust yourself and date with intention. Plus, discover the new Self-Made Man Dating Journal—your guide to tracking progress and building better relationships. Listen now for a dose of honesty, hope, and inspiration!

Welcome to the anniversary episode of Just Ask Her! Gracie and Tracy celebrate a full year of empowering single men with honest, actionable dating advice. In this special episode, they reflect on the journey so far, the growth of their community, and the impact the show has had on listeners around the world.To mark the occasion, Gracie and Tracy take your most-asked dating questions out of the studio and into the real world—specifically, the Mall of America! Hear candid, unfiltered answers from women of all ages and backgrounds as they share what really matters in dating, what green and red flags they look for, and their best advice for men looking to improve their love lives.Highlights:The story behind the podcast’s evolution and its first anniversaryWhy men’s vulnerability and willingness to seek advice is so powerfulThe importance of mindset and community in dating successOn-the-street interviews with women answering your top dating questions:Most attractive qualities in a manApproaching women: what works and what doesn’tDating apps vs. real life vs. mutual friendsHeight, self-improvement, and who should pay for the first dateBiggest red and green flagsThe best advice for single menReflections on the value of honest conversations and the supportive Just Ask Her communityResources: Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon ⁠⁠Submit your questions for future episodes via the show’s submission form⁠ Dating Differently Application Thank you for being part of our journey! If you’ve found value in the show, the best anniversary gift you can give is to share this episode with someone who needs it and leave us a review. Here’s to many more years of real talk and real results!It’s our one-year anniversary! To celebrate, Gracie and Tracy take your most-asked dating questions to the Mall of America, getting honest answers from real women. Tune in for fresh perspectives, heartfelt reflections, and practical advice that will help you date with confidence. Don’t miss this special episode packed with insights, laughs, and gratitude for our amazing community. Share, review, and keep your questions coming—because no matter where you are, you can always Just Ask Her.

Episode 51: Breaking Patterns & Building Self-Trust in DatingDescription:In this episode of "Just Ask Her," Gracie and Tracy dive into three listener submissions that highlight the real challenges men face in modern dating. From navigating attachment styles and dating app fatigue to finding emotionally available partners and breaking free from self-sabotaging patterns, this episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt coaching. Plus, Gracie announces the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help single men reflect, grow, and date with intention.Show Notes:Intro & Halloween BanterGracie and Tracy kick off the episode with some lighthearted Halloween talk, sharing personal stories and family traditions.Submission 1: Sal’s StorySal, a father of four and firefighter, shares his journey from anxious to secure attachment style.Struggles with dating app fatigue and finding emotionally available women.Gracie and Tracy discuss the pitfalls of over-labeling attachment styles, the scarcity mindset, and the importance of real-life connections.Advice: Leverage your strengths in real-world environments, seek shared purpose, and remember that every "failed" connection brings you closer to alignment.Submission 2: Kyle’s QuestionKyle wonders why it seems women don’t have hobbies and how to meet like-minded singles.Discussion on generational trends, burnout, and the importance of reframing blanket statements.Tips: Switch up your social activities, challenge self-sabotaging beliefs, and remember that the right partner will appreciate your diverse interests.Submission 3: Greg’s PatternGreg, an Australian Air Force sergeant, describes a recurring pattern of women pulling away.Gracie and Tracy explore confirmation bias, self-trust, and the importance of detaching from painful narratives.Practical steps: Name the pattern neutrally, detach from identity, decide what you’ll do differently, and let people reveal themselves over time.Resource Mentioned:Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Now available on Amazon! Designed to help single men track dates, reflect, and grow. Limited first run—grab yours before they’re gone.Listener Call to Action:If you enjoy the show, please rate and review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share with friends!Submit your questions for future episodes.Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon ⁠⁠Submit your questions for the anniversary episode via the show’s submission form⁠ Connect with Gracie:Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracieNew episodes every Wednesday!

Episode 50: Real Dating Questions Answered – Confidence, Signals & Starting OverDescription:In this milestone 50th episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener questions about modern dating. From overcoming shyness and reading signals to building confidence and starting over after a long relationship, Gracie and Tracy deliver no-nonsense advice straight from a woman’s perspective. Plus, they announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal and tease a special anniversary episode coming soon!Whether you’re struggling to approach someone new, wondering how to get noticed, or navigating the dating scene after years away, this episode is packed with practical tips, research-backed insights, and encouragement to help you take control of your dating life.Show Notes:00:00 – Welcome & Introduction01:30 – Listener Submission #1: Should I ask out the Home Depot girl?05:00 – How to read signals vs. friendly behavior08:30 – Building confidence and taking action despite shyness12:00 – The truth about rejection and courage in dating15:00 – Launch Announcement: Self-Made Man Dating Journal18:00 – Listener Submission #2: Why don’t women notice me?22:00 – The science of attraction and nonverbal cues25:00 – How to shift from seeking validation to radiating confidence29:00 – Listener Submission #3: Dating after a 30-year relationship33:00 – Navigating small communities and changing your identity37:00 – Advice for starting over and expanding your social circles41:00 – Anniversary Episode Teaser: “Man on the Street” Q&A44:00 – How to submit your questions for the special episode46:00 – Final thoughts & where to find Gracie onlineResources Mentioned:Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon Submit your questions for the anniversary episode via the show’s submission form Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracieIf you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review Just Ask Her on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share it with your friends!

Episode 49: Ghosted, Blocked, and Bouncing Back — Real Dating Dilemmas & Self-Made Man AdviceEpisode Description:Are you tired of feeling stuck in your dating life, confused by mixed signals, or left wondering why she ghosted you? In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener submissions about ghosting, blocking, and the emotional rollercoaster of modern dating.From decoding sudden disappearances to reframing rejection and building emotional resilience, Gracie and Tracy offer no-nonsense advice straight from a woman’s perspective. They break down the “self-made man” mindset, share practical tips for handling heartbreak, and answer tough questions about honesty, closure, and moving forward.Plus, enjoy a fun behind-the-scenes recap of their recent trip to Ireland, complete with cultural takeaways and travel mishaps!Show Notes:0:00 – Welcome & Introduction: Why dating feels so confusing today2:30 – Listener Submission #1: Why did she ghost and block me after a great date? 18:00 – The “Self-Made Man” Mindset 25:00 – Listener Submission #2: “Why do I feel like I’m preparing women for other men?” 38:00 – Listener Submission #3: “Should I tell women my ex-wife is a lesbian?” 48:00 – Product Spotlight: The Self-Made Man Dating Journal 52:00 – Ireland Recap: Banter, culture shocks, and travel lessons 1:05:00 – Final Thoughts & How to Work with Gracie and Tracy Resources Mentioned:The Self-Made Man Dating Journal (available on Amazon)Application link for coaching https://form.typeform.com/to/zJkel6VK?utm_source=xxxxxFollow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracieSubscribe for new episodes every Wednesday!

Dating After Divorce – Confidence, Apps & Real Connections for Men Over 40 Ep. 48Hosts: Gracie Pleschourt & Tracy PleschourtIn This Episode:[00:00] Welcome & Introduction[01:30] Listener Question: Starting Over After Divorce at 45 Breaking old routines and building new momentumIs there a “market” for divorced men over 40?How to meet new women and rebuild your social circleThe fastest-growing demographic on dating appsThe importance of self-awareness: knowing what you want and what you bring to the tableTips for getting comfortable with dating appsHow to treat dating as research, not a performance[18:00] The Self-Made Man Dating Journal Launch How journaling can help you track progress and avoid repeating old patternsBuilding confidence and clarity through reflectionWhere to get the journal (Amazon link in show notes)[22:00] Listener Question: Revealing a Physical Difference (Amputee Experience) How to talk about insecurities and physical differences with confidenceWhy your story and self-acceptance matter more than “the reveal”The power of vulnerability and authenticity in dating[30:00] Listener Question: Competing for Women’s Attention Why confidence and self-value matter more than “winning” attentionShifting from scarcity to abundance mindsetPractical tips to stand out: eye contact, conversation, and authenticityHow to become unforgettable by making women feel seen and at ease[40:00] Final Thoughts & Where to Find Gracie Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracieApply for 1:1 coaching (link in show notes)Rate & review the podcast on Spotify or Apple PodcastsResources Mentioned:Self-Made Man Dating Journal https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=11:1 Coaching Application https://gracie.clickfunnels.com/optin1758810316648Follow Gracie: Instagram & TikTok @datingwithgracieSubscribe for new episodes every Wednesday!

Are you tired of feeling like someone’s backup plan in your dating life? In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener questions about complicated romantic situations, building self-confidence, and setting healthy boundaries.From navigating “work spouse” dynamics and emotional gray areas to overcoming social anxiety with women and learning to trust yourself after heartbreak, Gracie and Tracy offer no-nonsense advice to help you take control of your love life. Whether you’re struggling to move on from a relationship, worried about making social mistakes, or wondering if you should pursue someone who’s already taken, this episode is packed with actionable insights and tough love.Show Notes:[00:00] Welcome & Updates: Gracie and Tracy share personal updates, including an upcoming trip to Ireland and behind-the-scenes podcast planning.[04:00] Listener Submission #1: “Am I the Second Option?” — Advice for men caught in complicated relationships, why pursuing someone who’s unavailable is a losing game, and how to protect your self-respect.[18:00] The Self-Made Man Dating Journal Launch: Introducing a new tool for single men to track, reflect, and improve their dating experiences.[20:00] Listener Submission #2: “Social Mistakes with Women” — How to handle awkwardness, why confidence is really about self-trust, and why women care less about your blunders than you think.[35:00] Listener Submission #3: “Trust Issues After a Breakup” — Rebuilding trust in yourself, letting go of relationships that no longer serve you, and why your future happiness depends on your own decisions.[50:00] Key Takeaways: Why boundaries, self-awareness, and emotional resilience are the real keys to dating success.[52:00] Call to Action: Rate, review, and share the podcast; follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok @datingwithgracie.Resources Mentioned:The Self-Made Man Dating Journal: Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracieIf you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with your friends! Got a question for Gracie and Tracy? Submit it for a chance to be featured in a future episode.

Are you tired of feeling stuck in your dating life, striking out on dating apps, or wondering why nothing seems to work? In this episode, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt answer real listener questions and share no-nonsense advice to help men attract the women they want and build lasting confidence.What You’ll Learn:Why dating apps might not be working for you—and what to do insteadThe mindset shifts that turn “invisible” guys into irresistible partnersHow to break free from self-sabotaging beliefs and rewrite your dating storyPractical tips for meeting women in real life (and why it’s often more effective than apps)How to stand out at speed dating events and make a memorable first impressionThe truth about confidence, self-worth, and why women are drawn to men who trust themselvesHow to handle rejection, scarcity mindset, and the pressure to “have it all figured out”Listener Questions Answered:“I’ve been on dating apps for 20 years with no luck. What am I doing wrong?”“How do I prep for a speed dating event and avoid the friend zone?”“Why do I feel like every woman is already taken, and how do I stop feeling average?”Special Segment:Introducing the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—your new tool for tracking dates, building self-awareness, and making real progress in your love life. Limited batch available on Amazon—grab yours before they’re gone!Join the Conversation:Take our poll on Spotify and let us know: Do you love the personal banter, or do you prefer us to get straight to the dating advice?Share your thoughts and questions for future episodes!Connect with Gracie:Instagram & TikTok: @‌datingwithgracieCheck out Gracie’s membership for hands-on coaching and support https://form.typeform.com/to/zJkel6VK?utm_source=xxxxxIf you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with a friend!No matter where you are or what your situation is—just ask her.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome & Listener Feedback06:00 – Why Dating Apps Aren’t Working18:00 – Mindset Shifts for Dating Success30:00 – Real-Life Dating Tips & Speed Dating Advice45:00 – Overcoming Scarcity and Building Confidence55:00 – Introducing the Self-Made Man Dating Journal60:00 – Final Thoughts & Calls to ActionResources Mentioned:Self-Made Man Dating Journal https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1Gracie’s Membership https://form.typeform.com/to/zJkel6VK?utm_source=xxxxx

Break the Cycle: Real Advice for Dating Confidence, Moving On, and Finding LoveEpisode 45 – Just Ask Her PodcastEpisode Summary:In this episode, Gracie and Tracy tackle some of the most common and challenging dating dilemmas sent in by listeners. From navigating on-again, off-again relationships to overcoming self-doubt and building confidence, this episode is packed with real talk and actionable advice for anyone looking to level up their love life.What You’ll Learn:How to recognize and break free from unhealthy relationship cyclesWhy you can’t “save” someone else—and how to set healthy boundariesThe truth about attraction, self-image, and why confidence matters more than looksHow to handle rejection, negative comments, and the pressure of dating appsPractical tips for moving on after heartbreak and getting back into the dating sceneWhen to follow up (and when to move on) in online dating conversationsWhy chemistry on the first date isn’t everything—and what to focus on insteadListener Submissions Featured:Todd: Struggling with an on-again, off-again relationship and wondering if he should wait or move onDrew: Battling self-confidence issues and negative feedback while re-entering the dating worldAnonymous: Unsure about next steps after a breakup and facing challenges with dating apps and first datesSpecial Segment:Gracie and Tracy announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help single men track their dating experiences, reflect, and grow. Limited quantities available on Amazon!Resources & Links:Self-Made Man Dating Journal on AmazonConnect with Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @‌datingwithgracieSupport the Show:If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share with your friends!New episodes every Wednesday. No matter where you are or what your situation is—just ask her.

Episode 44: Living at Home, Gym Love, and Mixed SignalsHosts: Gracie Pleschourt & Tracy PleschourtStruggling with dating while living at home? Unsure if you should make a move at the gym? Confused by mixed signals from someone you like? In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle your toughest questions with no-nonsense, real-world advice.We answer listener submissions about:How to date confidently when you’re not financially independent or still living with your parentsNavigating the tricky world of gym romance and whether you should look for love outside your workout routineWhat to do when someone gives you mixed signals after turning you downKey Takeaways:Confidence and clarity about your life path are more attractive than financial status.Don’t apologize for your situation—own your story and values.Mixed signals usually mean “no”—don’t wait around for someone to change their mind.The gym isn’t the only place to meet active partners; try apps, clubs, and social events.Focus on what you can control and keep your dating mindset positive.Connect with Gracie:Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracieSupport the Show:Rate and review on Spotify or Apple PodcastsShare this episode with friendsPurchase the Self-Made Man Dating Journal:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1New episodes every Wednesday!