How To Relate

What is imposter syndrome, and why do so many successful people still feel like they don’t belong? In this episode of How to Relate, Brittani and Drew explore the psychology of imposter syndrome, including the fear of being “found out,” chronic self-doubt, and the pressure to prove ourselves in work, dating, and relationships. Unpack how imposter syndrome shows up in everyday life—from dating anxiety and people-pleasing to parenting pressure and professional perfectionism—and discuss practical ways to challenge the inner critic and build self-trust. You'll Learn: What imposter syndrome actually is The fear of being “found out” as a fraud How imposter syndrome develops Perfectionism, comparison, and performance pressure How imposter syndrome shows up in dating and relationships The connection between embarrassment and shame Imposter syndrome in careers and parenting Practical ways to challenge self-doubt and build self-trust   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate    Brittani's Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

What if the key to better decisions—in your life, relationships, and business—wasn’t more intuition, but better data? In this episode, Brittani sits down with therapist Everett Uhl to explore how data-driven decision making can transform the way we approach our careers, personal habits, and even emotional awareness. They dive into the hidden problems with many therapy trainings, the pressure therapists feel to constantly “level up,” and why tracking the right metrics might matter more than adding another certification. From sleep scores and protein intake to client referrals and lifetime customer value, this conversation explores how information—not impulse—can help you build a more sustainable and aligned life. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by self-improvement culture or unsure how to make clearer decisions in your work or relationships, this episode offers a refreshing framework: use your feelings as data, not directives. Everett's Training https://partiful.com/e/VSKwdFAM3Y43ioVARBUV?rsvp=true Work with Everett: https://www.everettuhltherapy.com/  Brittani's Resources Sign up for the weekly newsletter for insight and action into relational wellness:  https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc Work with me: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

In this episode of How to Relate, therapist Bianca Hughes joins Brittani to explore the exhausting cycle of perfectionism, the pressure to meet others’ expectations, and what it truly means to live in alignment with your authentic self. Bianca shares her personal journey—including selling her home and taking a global sabbatical—to illustrate how reconnecting with your true identity can create freedom, trust, and joy. You'll understand how perfectionism develops, why authenticity is often suppressed, and how small mindset shifts can help you reconnect with who you really are. If you’ve ever felt stuck trying to be “enough,” this conversation will help you rethink success, identity, and what it means to live authentically. In This Episode We Cover Why perfectionism often develops in high achievers The hidden cost of living by others’ expectations What authenticity actually means (beyond the buzzword) How Bianca’s sabbatical changed her relationship with work, identity, and consumerism Why trusting yourself is the foundation of confidence How to create your own version of a “sabbatical” without quitting your life Why living authentically benefits everyone around you   Bianca's Resources: Website: https://www.authenticallybeyou.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/authenticallybeyou   Brittani's Resources Weekly Newsletter: ⁠⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠⁠ Work together: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠      

It's a solo episode! Together we'll explore how shame quietly shapes our reactions, conflict patterns, and intimacy. Drawing from the work of Brené Brown, Joseph Burgo, and John Gottman, she breaks down the four “buckets” of shame, how shame turns into defensiveness, and why we project our internal stories onto the people we love most. You’ll learn how to move from reaction to responsibility — and how real intimacy begins when you stop delegating your self-worth to someone else. Get the PDF guide for this episode: https://howtorelate.kit.com/92ab8c9359    Brittani's Resources Work with me: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

How does attachment with our peers impact our attachment as adults? Drew and Brittani are discussing attachment beyond styles. Key takeaways" -Attachment on the relational spectrums of teens and adults -Social media's impact on teen attachment -Peter Pan syndrome in modern society -The Wendy Dilemma -Balancing freedom and responsibility in adulthood  

How does trauma impact our relationships and how do we heal trauma in our relationships? Brittany Wyche, PhD LCHMC, therapist, professor, and educator discusses the concept of trauma from a response-based perspective, the importance of understanding trauma within relational and systemic contexts, and how play and creativity can enhance trauma recovery. You'll gain insights into the trauma healing process, the interplay of dating and trauma, and the importance of self-connection in relationships. Plus Brittany talks about the tv show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and the complex dating dynamics. Enjoy! Brittany Wyche Website: https://www.salembloom.com/about A Lot More Nuanced: https://www.patreon.com/cw/alotmorenuancedpodcast/posts Brittani's Resources: Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Vince Benevento, LPC, is a licensed counselor in both NY and CT, a husband, father, speaker, entrepreneur, and author of Boys Will Be Men: 8 Lessons for the Lost American Male. He holds a BA from Wesleyan University and a Masters’s in School Counseling from Fairfield University. Vince possesses nearly 20 years of experience working specifically with men and young men as a coach, mentor, and therapist. The organization Vince founded and has directed for the last 15 years, Causeway Collaborative, has supported over 2000 men and young men from 14-30, effectively changing the way that therapy has been done for guys who have been resistant to help over that time. Now, Vince hopes to share key lessons with men who seek to become better versions of themselves and those who love them.     00:33 Meet Vince Benevento: Founder of Causeway Collaborative 01:20 The Journey to Starting Causeway 03:28 Challenges and Needs of Young Men 04:40 The Role of Male Mentorship 05:02 Practical Life Skills and Career Readiness 05:52 The Importance of Purpose-Driven Work 07:23 The Evolution of Causeway's Approach 08:05 Therapy vs. Career Coaching for Young Men 11:14 Building Confidence Through Competence 15:22 The Crisis of Modern Masculinity 18:25 Changes in Client Archetypes Over the Years 21:32 Overcoming Inertia in Young Men 28:01 Writing 'Boys Will Be Men': A Personal Journey 31:56 The Birth of the Book 33:44 The Eight Lessons 35:14 Brick by Brick 36:58 Name It to Tame It 38:26 Provision is Not a Substitute for Presence 40:34 Find Your Inner Wild 43:16 Never Tap Out 44:42 Iron Sharpens Iron 45:53 Gentle Strength 47:22 Find Your Thing 55:16 Lessons from Adversity  Vince's Resources: Boys Will Be Men Book: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Will-Be-Men-American/dp/1959170317/ref=zg_bsnr_g_11390_d_sccl_20/000-0000000-0000000?psc=1⁠  Causeway Collaborative: ⁠https://causewaycollaborative.com/⁠     Brittani's Resources Newsletter: ⁠https://brittaniprocknow.substack.com/⁠  Website: ⁠https://brittaniprocknow.com⁠ 

What makes behavior change stick? We'll dive into different theories including The Fresh Start Effect and new year inspiration, Self-Determination Theory, willpower vs discipline, and temporal landmarks.    00:11 Discussing Behavioral Change 01:28 Challenges of Behavioral Change 03:01 Regret, Shame, and Identity 05:47 The Fresh Start Effect 06:30 Temporal Landmarks and Cultural Significance 15:49 Willpower vs. Discipline 27:46 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation 28:44 Exploring Competence and Relatability 30:02 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation 34:33 Impact of Self-Determination in Workplaces 36:20 Dark Sides of Self-Determination Theory 38:54 CrossFit and Community Building 41:07 Incorporating Self-Determination in Daily Life 45:26 Navigating Interests and Decision Fatigue 49:53 New Year's Goals

Michael Fulwiler specializes in helping therapists and mental health organizations enhance their marketing strategies. We'll discuss the importance of understanding your target audience, the common mistakes therapists make in their marketing, and actionable tips for creating effective, clear messaging. Michael shares his journey from a student intern to the Chief Marketing Officer at the Gottman Institute, emphasizing the value of niche marketing and ethical promotion.    00:49 Michael's Journey into Therapist Marketing 01:52 Working with the Gottman Institute 03:58 Challenges in Therapist Marketing 04:57 Effective Marketing Strategies for Therapists 05:51 Common Mistakes in Therapist Marketing 08:42 Mindset Shifts for Therapists in Marketing 11:18 Ethical and Authentic Marketing 13:38 Optimizing Therapist Websites 16:28 Crafting a Clear Marketing Message 18:47 Defining a Somatic Approach 19:47 Holistic vs. Research-Based Therapy 20:58 Couples Therapy Marketing Strategies 23:34 Importance of Clear Messaging 26:03 Exercises for Effective Marketing 31:18 Local SEO and Google Business Profile 33:09 Final Thoughts on Therapist Marketing   Michael's Resources Website: https://michaelfulwiler.com/ Therapy Marketer Newsletter: https://www.therapymarketer.co/      Brittani's Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

Dating habits you need in 2026.   00:49 Reflecting on the New Year 01:54 The Dating Therapists: New Series Introduction 03:23 Balancing Dating and Personal Growth 05:49 Exploring New Social Activities 16:08 Intentional Dating and Ambivalence 29:10 Discovering Hidden Gems 29:17 Crafting Engaging Stories 29:49 Personalizing Your Profile 30:55 Profile Grammar and Spelling 34:14 Balancing Self and Relationships 36:33 Men and Achievement in Relationships 45:40 Setting Realistic Goals 55:48 Foundations of a Healthy Lifestyle

Cheers to 2026! Welcome to this solo episode deep dive into fresh starts, self determination theory, and my personal goals for this year on the podcast. Enjoy!

We may not enjoy regret, but we can make it useful. Brittani and Drew are here to talk about how we can examine the emotional landscape of regret to help us understand what we want for our lives. Check out the resources for articles and more in the show notes. Enjoy!   00:00 Introduction to Regret 00:02 Emotional Landscape of Regret 00:58 Personal Experiences and Identity 01:33 Religion and Regret 02:26 Career Choices and Regret 03:20 The Power of Regret 04:27 Mindfulness and Optimism   Episode Resources Regret Research: https://www.danpink.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Results-of-the-American-Regret-Project.pdf Unlocking Us Podcast: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/the-power-of-regret/    Podcast Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

Understand play therapy & integrative family dynamics with Hannah Edwardson, LCMHC. Hannah is a Synergetic Play Therapy certified provider working with kiddos and parents. She uses the family system to help parents understand their children and help children understand their nervous system through play. Enjoy this comprehensive exploration on the importance of play for all.   00:33 Hannah's Journey into Play Therapy 02:04 Working with Different Age Groups 03:04 Common Issues in Child Therapy 04:57 Nervous System Regulation in Kids vs. Adults 11:32 Integrating Therapy with School Systems 18:17 Parental Involvement and Challenges 24:44 Balancing Child Autonomy and Parental Authority 26:23 Generational Trauma and Parenting Support 27:01 Balancing Parenting and Personal Support 27:26 COVID Babies and Parenting Challenges 28:33 Role of Therapists as Advocates for Children 29:10 Role Play: Handling Mealtime Tantrums 30:05 Strategies for Encouraging Children to Eat 40:03 Role Play: Managing Sibling Conflicts 47:06 Disrupting Patterns and Building Connections 48:05 Conclusion and Resources   Hannah's Resources: IG: https://www.instagram.com/counselingwithkiddos/  Website: https://www.carolinacounselingandplaytherapy.com/    Brittani: Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠      

In this episode of the How to Relate Podcast, we explore the topic of confidence with Ashley Emmons. Ashley shares her unique journey from paralegal to therapist, experiences in wilderness therapy, and private practice. The conversation delves into confidence distortions, examining perfectionism, and practical approaches to building genuine self-trust. Ashley also discusses her Confidence Cohorts, a women's coaching program to help cultivate self-trust and confidence. Additionally, she invites listeners to a free holiday workshop focused on maintaining confidence during the holiday season.   00:00 Introduction and Warm Welcome 01:23 The Journey to Becoming a Therapist 03:50 Wilderness Therapy and Career Transition 07:18 Graduate School and Yoga Therapy 10:08 Private Practice and Specialization 12:22 Understanding Confidence and Perfectionism 20:54 Confidence Distortions and Data Gathering 24:35 Aligning Nervous System and Mindful Responses 25:49 Confidence Distortions: Identifying and Debunking 32:13 The Impact of Self-Criticism on Self-Trust 34:17 Urgency and Its Effect on Confidence 40:32 The Power of Group Dynamics in Building Confidence 45:58 Upcoming Workshops and Programs 49:57 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Ashley's Resources: IG: https://www.instagram.com/_ashleyemmons_/ Confidence Cohorts: https://www.mondaywellness.com/cohorts Intro Call: https://mondaywellness.hbportal.co/public/682b41d95df02c0007a09acf     How to Relate: Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better

Jaclyn Ditter is back! We're reviewing the best and worst dating events of 2025. Plust why Charleston is the city for men to date, are run clubs still the new dating app, and how to approach people at the gym. Enjoy!   00:54 Charleston Adventures 03:05 Relocation Thoughts 05:26 Dating Dynamics and Social Skills 08:49 Speed Dating Experience 11:53 Pitch a Friend Event 14:16 Pickleball and Social Events 17:55 Run Clubs and Socializing 21:10 Gym Etiquette and Approaching People 24:58 Bold Moves at the Gym 25:25 Building Familiarity in Shared Spaces 26:11 Navigating Gym Etiquette 26:46 Approaching Conversations with Confidence 27:36 The Importance of Social Cues 28:13 Making Friends at the Gym 29:11 Shifting Focus from Dating to Community 31:17 First Date Conversations 31:56 Discussing Religion and Values Early On 38:16 The Role of Dating Apps 39:48 The Challenge of Choice Fatigue 42:19 Men and Women in the Dating Scene 44:59 Practical Tips for Improving Your Dating Life 46:29 The Barista Challenge 49:21 Podcast Update   Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better

Daniel Fleshner, LPC, AASECT Certified therapist shares his experiences with mental health tech companies, and offers a balanced perspective on the optimistic and cautionary aspects of AI in therapy.   00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:12 Discussing AI in Therapy 00:44 Challenges in Mental Health Tech 02:41 Insurance and Mental Health 08:28 Global Healthcare Systems 09:47 Consulting in Mental Health Tech 13:24 AI and Therapy Innovations 18:11 Ethical Concerns with AI Therapists 22:34 AI in Relationships 25:51 The Personalization of AI 27:13 Hopes for AI in Therapy 27:57 Therapists' Perspectives on AI 32:04 Ethical Concerns with Data Usage 39:51 AI and Intimacy 46:54 Final Thoughts and Contact Information   Daniel: https://inflectionpointtherapy.com/about-daniel/ Disrupted Therapist Substack: https://thedisruptedtherapist.substack.com/about    Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Explore 7 verbs of intimacy, blocks, and understand how you can deepen intimacy with self and others.     00:31 Exploring Different Types of Intimacy 01:56 The Seven Verbs of Intimacy 03:02 Understanding the Verb 'Ask' 04:19 The Importance of 'Taking' 05:19 The Vulnerability of 'Receiving' 06:58 The Act of 'Giving' 09:34 The Power of 'Refusing' 11:55 The Joy of 'Playing' 14:26 Identifying Intimacy Blockers 17:10 Addressing Maladaptive Patterns   Show Resources: Intimacy Blockers: Understand and Unblock https://app.kit.com/publications/17948707/reports/overview  Esther Perel Blog: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/language-of-intimacy-and-7-verbs   Connect: Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Shame runs deep inside all of us. What if we switched the narrative from eradicating shame to working with it? Drew and Brittani deep dive into the definitions, origin stories of shame, and how we can begin our healing journey.   02:17 Podcast Format Change Announcement 04:28 Deep Dive into Shame 04:55 Defining Shame and Its Impact 10:23 Shame in Development and Relationships 23:43 Shame vs. Other Emotions 28:07 The Garden Analogy for Shame 28:48 The Garden of Shame and Secrets 29:58 Addiction and the Power of Secrets 31:35 Exploring Vulnerability 33:05 Vulnerability in Dating 35:57 The Role of Hope in Vulnerability 37:18 Healthy Shame and Narcissism 43:01 Brene Brown's Approach to Shame 44:45 Narcissism and Leadership 50:04 Rewriting Our Stories 57:58 Final Thoughts on Shame and Vulnerability   Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

A wounded Marine combat veteran, Chris overcame his own challenges and is now a thriving psychotherapist. With a foundation in cognitive behavioral therapy, he specializes in EMDR for performance enhancement and psychedelic integration therapy. Having worked with 7-figure business executives and startup founders, military combat and special operations veterans, athletes, creatives, first responders, and other clinicians - he has a passion for helping people reach their highest potential. Over the past decade he's served on various public health, non-profit, and advisory boards; as well as national committees focused on clinical quality and rehabilitation research. Chris is a founder and the CEO of Helicon, a public benefit corporation committed to advancing EMDR for societal mental health.   00:11 Exploring EMDR and Its Challenges 01:50 Building a Tech Platform for Therapists 02:46 Marketing Insights and Collaborations 03:52 Helicon: Vision and Implementation08:12 Understanding EMDR: A Deep Dive 15:31 Personal Experiences with EMDR 24:55 Transitioning to Private Practice 25:26 Introduction to Psychedelic Therapy 25:48 Introduction to Psychedelic Studies 26:08 Training During COVID 26:48 Parallels Between Psychedelic Therapy and EMDR 27:51 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy 30:29 Ethical Considerations and Guidelines 31:02 Phases of Psychedelic Assisted Therapy 32:15 EMDR in Psychedelic Therapy 34:56 Neuroplasticity and Psychedelic Therapy 36:36 Client Experiences and Outcomes 43:24 Addressing Skepticism and Trust 47:46 Contact Information and Conclusion     Learn more about Helicon: gowithhelicon.com Connect with Chris: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cdbrownvet/   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc    Therapist Threads Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb 

00:20 Event Overview: North Carolina Sport and Performance Professionals Conference 01:41 The Importance of Community and Real-Life Connections 02:27 Building a Supportive Team for Athletes 13:54 Challenges and Benefits of Planning the Conference 19:59 Final Thoughts and Encouragement to Join 21:45 Introduction and Sign-Up Information 22:16 Welcome Back to the Podcast 22:31 Event Overview and Details 23:52 Importance of Community and Teamwork 27:27 Broadening the Definition of Athlete 30:38 Conference Schedule and Activities 35:25 Planning and Challenges 41:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement