Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

I’ve been circling this topic for years in my personal life, and today I’m finally ready to name it out loud: what it means to center men—and the quiet, persistent ways it costs us. This isn’t a takedown of men. It’s a conversation about the water we swim in, how it shapes our choices, and why so many of us end up orbiting someone else’s needs while abandoning our own. In this first of a two-part series, I briefly unpack the language and the lived reality—androcentrism, “woman as Other,” the male gaze, compulsory heterosexuality, and self-silencing—and connect those ideas to everyday moments in dating, marriage, work, family roles, and even how we present ourselves. I also go deeper into patriarchal bargains,something I see over and over in my own life, the lives of my clients, and most (if not all) of the women I know. I weave in my own story and experiences from clients and friends so you can spot the pattern with compassion, not self-blame. This is what you’ll hear in this episode: A clear metaphor for “centering men” (the sun and orbit) and how it shows up in real life. Plain-language definitions of key terms (androcentrism, male gaze, “woman as Other,” patriarchal bargains, comphet, self-silencing). Why patriarchal bargains often feel like safety—and why the price tag grows over time. Everyday examples across dating, long-term partnership, work, family labor, and appearance. The emotional, relational, and cultural costs: confusion of identity, chronic anxiety, resentment, power imbalances, and internalized policing. How health can be impacted when self-silencing becomes a lifestyle (and why this deserves reverence, not shame). A gentle invitation to notice where you might be orbiting—and what questions to journal on before we move into solutions. Part one names the pattern and its costs so you can see it with clarity and care in your own life: centering men isn’t a personal failing—it’s a survival strategy many of us learned. Awareness is the first move.  In part two (in two weeks), we’ll focus on solutions: how to decenter without burning your life down, rebuild self-trust and voice, and practice relational autonomy in dating, work, and partnership.  Resources from this episode: Get updates on my new book Live Like You Give a Damn (out December 9!) Learn about Devotion and see if it’s for you The invention of “The Male Gaze” article by Laura Michelle Jackson Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/697 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m so excited to welcome back Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina to talk about something so many of us quietly wrestle with: emotional outsourcing. Béa is a master certified somatic life coach, UCSF-trained family nurse practitioner, and breath work meditation guide who helps humans socialized as women break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing so they can reclaim their joy. A lot of what we cover in today’s episode shows up in her brand new book End Emotional Outsourcing. We dig into what emotional outsourcing really is, how we hand over our sense of safety, belonging and worth to everyone and everything outside of ourselves, and the ripple effect that has on boundaries, relationships and your nervous system. Béa explains why talk therapy alone can leave you stuck, what is actually happening when you freeze in the moment, and how perfectionism can sneak into healing and personal growth. And because you know I love practical takeaways, Béa shares simple somatic tools you can use right now to come back home to yourself. These small but powerful shifts help you rebuild self trust and stop outsourcing your emotional wellness. What you will hear in this episode: What emotional outsourcing really is and how codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing all fit under it (3:58) Béa explains what she means when she says, “you do this healing in relationship…” (25:36)  Practical somatic practices to rebuild self-trust and move away from outsourcing (32:32) How to begin to rebuild trust with yourself and hear what your body wants (38:30) Resources from this episode: Andrea’s email list:andreaowen.com/free Andrea on Instagram Andrea’s coaching and application page Beatriz’s book Beatriz’s website Episode 531: Navigating Triggers and Calming the Nervous System with Beatriz Victoria Albina Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ https://andreaowen.com/podcast/696 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When Maureen first reached out to me, she was carrying more than anyone should have to juggle at once. She was stuck in a business that was draining her, driving hours to care for both parents as their health declined, and feeling the weight of all that stress on her marriage. To cope, she turned to drinking… which wasn’t exactly a new coping mechanism. On the outside she looked like a successful fitness professional, but privately she was stuck in shame, self-judgment, and the feeling that she was out of alignment with who she truly was. In this episode we do something a little different. Every once in a while I invite a former client to share how coaching shaped their life, not as an infomercial but as a window into what is possible when curiosity and compassion replace shame and judgment. You’ll hear how a single intake question asking, “Is there anything else you want me to know?” opened the door to self-honesty, how coaching helped Maureen finally set boundaries and leave a job that was crushing her, and how one art project I assigned to her revealed what she was hiding behind perfectionism, numbing, and people-pleasing. You can see a photo of Maureen with that project here. Today, Maureen is not only living alcohol-free but also coaching other women through the same struggles she once faced. Her story is proof that shame can lose its grip when met with curiosity, and that lasting change often starts with a single brave conversation. What you will hear in this episode: Why Maureen reached out for coaching: the job that did not fit, caregiving for sick parents, and rising drinking as a coping strategy The surprising intake moment, how a small answer on a form opened the door to talking about alcohol (and why that mattered) How curiosity and non-judgmental questions changed Maureen’s relationship with herself and her drinking The “Armor of Control” art project: turning pain into an image that shows the lies vs. the truth underneath The science that changed her: gray-area drinking, neuroplasticity, and the empowering truth that your brain can be rewired Practical hope: how you can get many of the outcomes you seek (social ease, down-regulation, fun) without alcohol If you found this episode helpful, forward it to a friend who has been quietly struggling. Sometimes hearing one human story is the nudge another person needs. Resources from this episode: Andrea on Instagram Andrea’s coaching and application page Maureen’s website Maureen on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/695 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m back with a deep dive into a topic that many listeners have either asked me directly or perhaps quietly wondered about but may not say out loud: what happens when one partner is invested in personal growth and the other isn’t? Drawing from my own journey, years of interviews with experts, and Gottman Institute research, I explore in this solo episode how this dynamic plays out in relationships and what it can mean for intimacy, compatibility, and long-term partnership. Relationships don’t always end because of one big betrayal or crisis. Sometimes, they slowly drift apart as one person evolves and the other prefers comfort and predictability. I’m unpacking the tension between growth-oriented partners and stability-oriented partners—and ask the hard question: can these two ways of being coexist, or does the gap eventually become too wide? What you’ll hear in this episode: How growth-oriented and stability-oriented partners value relationships differently  The ways personal transformation can unintentionally feel like criticism  Why recurring arguments often reveal deeper, unspoken dreams  What happens when one partner turns toward—or away from—bids for connection  How couples can accept influence from each other without fully sharing the same goals  A framework for building a shared meaning system that balances stability and growth  The moment of clarity that comes from realizing you’re asking for more than the relationship can provide  Why leaving isn’t always failure, but sometimes an act of integrity At its core, this conversation is about honoring both your partner’s truth and your own. My invitation to you is to invite you to reflect on what you most deeply want in a relationship and to trust your intuition when the paths no longer align. Resources from this episode: Email me (support@andreaowen.com) or send me a DM on Instagram if you’re interested in deeper work in a new group program I’ll be offering soon! 691 When Growth Rocks the Boat668: Lesson 8: Leaving people behind to find yourselfSeven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/694 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m welcoming back Wendy Valentine, a pocket full of sunshine, reinvention expert, and empowerment coach, to celebrate her brand-new book, Women Waking Up: The Midlife Manifesto for Passion, Purpose, and Play. Whether you’re in midlife yourself or looking for a thoughtful gift for the women in your life, in this conversation and throughout her book, Wendy shares inspiration and tools you can carry into any season.  In this episode, Wendy brings frameworks, strategies, and encouragement for waking up to your fullest self. We explore what it means to move through the dark night of your soul, those heavy, disorienting seasons that can actually serve as a sacred initiation into your next chapter. Plus, we talk about self-reflection as the foundation for all of it, including simple ways to carve out space to check in with yourself, even when life feels overwhelming. What you’ll hear in this episode: The most common disempowering thought in midlife and how to overcome it (5:20) The Freedom Framework: Wendy’s seven-step process for creating lasting change (16:10) Midlife, menopause, and perimenopause and why these transitions are catalysts, not crises (24:48) The Stop, Drop, and Roll method as a practical tool to reframe negative thoughts (32:15) How to make self-reflection a priority, even when life feels too full (33:48) Resources from this episode: Andrea’s email list: andreaowen.com/free Wendy’s website Wendy’s book, Women Waking UpWendy on InstagramApp blocker ✨ If you’re in a season of stretching, expanding, or navigating complex emotions in your relationships, I’ve got something coming up just for you. This new, deeper program is designed to help you build shame resilience, reconnect to self-trust, and stop abandoning yourself for others’ comfort. It’s still brewing—but if you’re curious, DM me on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email us at support@andreaowen.com. I’ll personally reach out with more details to see if it’s for you.  Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/693 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith joins me to unpack procrastination, self-sabotage, reparenting, and the art of saying no, topics that shape how we show up every single day. Together we explore how these patterns are rooted in our nervous system from a young age, why they’re often survival strategies in disguise, and how compassion is the foundation for lasting change. As this conversation highlights, “There is another way of being, and I am going to be curious about it.” Elyssa’s stories and strategies will give you permission to start small, with what I call “turtle steps”, and remind you that self-compassion is always the key. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!  What you’ll hear in this episode: Procrastination: why it’s more than just a “bad habit” and how it often stems from trauma (4:26) Reparenting: practical and surprisingly simple ways we can support our own emotional healing (15:46) Self-sabotage: how it shows up, the role shame plays, and the importance of gratitude and self-compassion when facing it (29:59) Saying no: why choosing yourself is part of the healing process and how to start saying no without drowning in guilt (43:47) Resources from this episode: Elyssa’s Facebook Group: Stress Less Lounge Elyssa’s website ElyssaCSmith on Instagram Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliot PhD (book) ✨Interested in a future Rythmia Ayahuasca retreat with me? I now have details! Drop a DM on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email support[at]andreaowen.com with the subject line “AYA Interested” and I’ll share more information with you. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ https://andreaowen.com/podcast/692 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to the third and final part of a “series” that’s become a whole love letter to personal growth, grief, and what happens when those two things crash up against the realities of our relationships. If you missed episodes 687 (The Perpetual Pregnancy of Grief) and 689 (The Grief That Comes After the Relationship Ends), consider this the closing chapter of a conversation on becoming more yourself, and what that means for the people who’ve been walking alongside you… your partner(s), friends, and family.  This episode is about that challenging, complicated (and often painful) space where your healing starts to create tension in a relationship. Maybe you’re in a season of deep inner work, therapy, journaling, finally setting boundaries… and suddenly, something in your partnership (or friendship or family dynamic) starts to feel off. This isn’t just about romantic relationships—though that’s often where it hits hardest. It’s about what happens when one person evolves faster, deeper, or differently than the other. And what we do with the grief, the self-doubt, and the desire to stay connected without losing ourselves. What you’ll hear in this episode: The three outcomes that tend to happen when one person outgrows the relationship’s current dynamic How shrinking to keep the peace becomes a subtle form of self-abandonment What it looks like to “go back to old behaviors” to avoid rocking the boat Why love doesn’t have to be perfectly paced to still evolve together What happens when you give someone the dignity of their own process—even if it means walking away The real reason why some grief only shows up after you feel safe enough to grow Why your healing is not the villain (even if it feels like it’s causing a rupture) Reflection questions for your own growth  If you’re in a season of stretching, expanding, or navigating complex emotions in your relationships, I’ve got something coming up just for you. This new, deeper program is designed to help you build shame resilience, reconnect to self-trust, and stop abandoning yourself for others’ comfort. It’s still brewing—but if you’re curious, DM me on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email us at support@andreaowen.com. I’ll personally reach out with more details to see if it’s for you.  Resources from this episode: Episode 687: Carrying Grief: A Perpetual Pregnancy of the Soul Episode 689: The Love That Let Me Feel Again Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ https://andreaowen.com/podcast/691 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What really happens in your brain during an ayahuasca ceremony? I’m talking with Dr. Jeff McNairy, Chief Medical Officer and co-founder of Rhythmia Life Advancement Center in Costa Rica, about the science, the spiritual side, and how plant medicine can support deep healing, if it’s right for you. Psychedelic therapy isn’t for everyone, and I get that. But when the soulful, spiritual side of healing meets actual neuroscience, I’m all in. At the end of the day, it’s about your health, your healing, and knowing all of the options available to you. Plant medicine is something I’ve been exploring, and it’s been profoundly helpful in my own growth. That’s why I’m bringing you this conversation with Dr. Jeff. We get into how trauma gets stored in the body, what’s really going on in your brain during ayahuasca, and why it’s not a cure-all (and not for everyone).  What you’ll hear about in this episode: How untreated trauma gets stored in the amygdala and shows up as anxiety and why our “push through it” culture makes it worse (7:38) Dr. Jeff’s path from running rehab and psychiatric programs in LA to working with plant medicine in Costa Rica (16:19) Why ayahuasca isn’t for everyone, what to consider before trying it, and how to know if you feel “called” (22:14) The neurochemistry of ayahuasca: what DMT does in your brain and how it can help release trauma (27:31) Common results Dr. Jeff sees at Rhythmia: from reduced anxiety and depression to long-term emotional shifts (49:26) My own “double reaction” during ceremony and Dr. Jeff’s take on what was happening physically and spiritually (56:56) Resources from this episode:✨Interested in a future Rythmia Ayahuasca retreat with me? Drop a DM on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email support[at]andreaowen.com with the subject line “AYA Interested” to be added to the interest list! My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast seriesRythmia Retreat Andrea on Instagram @heyandreaowen Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/690 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I know, I know, I’ve been talking about grief a decent amount lately, and this week’s episode brings yet another angle—one we don’t talk about nearly enough. This is about the kind of grief that sneaks in long after the breakup papers are signed and the dust has settled. The grief that only makes itself known once you’ve created enough distance, or when—surprise!—you fall in love again and finally feel safe enough to feel. And this doesn’t just happen after a marriage ends and someone falls in love again. It can happen in our friendships, relationships with family, even jobs or careers.  In this episode, I’m sharing the surprising grief that surfaced two and a half years after leaving a long relationship. This isn’t the obvious “heartbreak grief” that hits you right after the end. This is the grief that comes from looking in the review mirror. From realizing how much you self-abandoned, finally feeling seen and loved, and grieving all the versions of yourself that didn’t get that. We’re also looking at what it really means to “grow apart” in a relationship, why you can’t prescribe someone else’s evolution (aka “how can I get my partner to be into personal growth more?”), and how love (new or long-term) can become an amplifier for healing if you let it. If you’ve ever asked, “How do I get my significant other  on board with my personal growth and their own?” or “Why does this new relationship feel so tender and terrifying at the same time?”—this one’s for you. Why “growing apart” is more than a vague excuse—and how to tell when it’s actually happening The quiet grief that follows clarity and hindsight How self-abandonment can masquerade as “keeping the peace” The sneaky ways we shrink to feel loved (and how that resentment creeps in) What happens when new love cracks you wide open in the best (and hardest) ways Why some grief only shows up after you feel safe How love can either be a bypass or an amplifier; and why the difference matters Interested in my next group program? It’s deep, intimate, and designed for this kind of layered, soul-level work. It's still in development (she doesn’t even have a name yet, but currently referring to it as “The Deep Work” 👀), but if you're curious, send me a message and I’ll personally reach out with more details when I have them soon.  Resources from this episode Leaving People Behind podcast episode DM me on Instagram @heyandreaowen and tell me what resonated most from this episode. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ https://andreaowen.com/podcast/689 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is all about spiritual deconstruction, what it is, why it happens, and what comes after. I’m joined by Brittney Hartley, an atheist spiritual director with a Master’s in Theology who has created a captivated following with her content. I love how Brittany talks about this topic with honesty, clarity, and depth. I wanted to bring this topic to the podcast because so much of what I teach is about deconstructing beliefs that no longer work for us and figuring out what does actually work for you. Religion is often one of those things. From both my personal experience and what I know so many of you have gone through, I think you’re going to love this conversation with Brittney. Here’s what really hit me in our conversation: spiritual deconstruction isn’t just about walking away from religion. It’s about rebuilding a sense of meaning that actually aligns with who you are, not who you were told to be. Brittney shares what helped her through the unlearning process, how religious trauma shows up in sneaky ways (especially for women), and why reclaiming your intuition and identity is deeply spiritual work. What you’ll hear about in this episode: Brittney’s spiritual deconstruction story from Mormonism to theology school to becoming an Atheist Spiritual Director (5:40) Personality traits more likely to lead to deconstruction (spoiler: empathy, curiosity, and authenticity play a big role) (13:27) The sneakier signs of spiritual trauma for women raised in patriarchal religions (15:33) Anchors and practices that helped Brittney rebuild her identity, including discovering core values (20:34) The biggest culprit of religious trauma for women (28:35) Resources from this episode: Interested in doing deeper work within a group setting and with me? Drop a DM on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email support[at]andreaowen.com with the note “Interested in your deeper work” and I’ll send you more details. Britt’s website Britt’s book, No Nonsense Spirituality Britt on Instagram @nononsensespirituality The Heroine’s Journey, Maureen Murdock Deconstruction, Dogma, and Spiritual Beliefs with David Hayward Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/688 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Grief isn’t just for death and divorce, but can and is often woven into the everyday tapestry of our lives. It can be quiet, sneaky, and many times overlooked. In this solo episode, I’m talking about the grief we don’t always see: the loss of old dreams, former versions of ourselves, identities, even ambition. And how if we don’t acknowledge it, it finds a way to show up. Whether you’ve been triggered by someone on Instagram or you’re navigating life after a major loss, my hope is that this episode will meet you where you are, with curiosity, compassion, and the reminder that our healing starts when we’re willing to name what we’ve lost. What you’ll hear about in this episode: Why grief is more than just sadness and how it can manifest as anger, disconnection, or “What’s wrong with me?” How to recognize the invisible griefs in your life, from motherhood shifts to identity changes The power of curiosity to disrupt autopilot thinking and uncover deeper truths What a triggered Instagram spiral taught me about grieving old versions of myself How grief is especially necessary right now in our collective moment and why we need to make space for it Journaling questions from this episode: How did this topic of grief land for you? What if you could let yourself name what you lost? Where might grief be quietly shaping your decisions or energy? Is it speaking for your inner critic? Resources from this episode: Andrea on Instagram Devotion 1:1 Program Podcast episode on feeling alive and whole My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Interested in a future Rythmia Ayahuasca retreat with me? Drop a DM on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email support[at]andreaowen.com with the subject line “AYA Interested” to be added to the interest list! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/687 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m thrilled to welcome back Erin Claire Jones to talk about her new book How do you choose? a human design guide to what’s best for you at work, in love, and in life. I geek out on anything that helps us better understand ourselves, like astrology, personality assessments, and of course, Human Design. So you know this conversation lit me up. Not just because I love the mystical-meets-practical vibe of Human Design, but because Erin dropped so many truths around self-trust, letting go of old patterns, and finally owning what fuels you. Here’s my biggest takeaway from our conversation: Human design can be a real tool for self-acceptance. It helps you look at parts of yourself you may have spent years trying to fix, and instead help you love the hell out of them. What you’ll hear about in this episode: What human design actually is (6:27) A breakdown of the five energy types and what they reveal about how you move through the world (7:56) What your design might say about your patterns in relationships (15:51) Why decision-making is at the heart of human design and how to stop overthinking and start trusting your body (16:51) The importance of knowing and understanding your Human Design authority (26:05) The connection between your Human Design and your career path (33:51) Resources: Interested in private coaching with me? Email support(at)andreaowen.com or DM me on Instagram @heyandreaowen Devotion: A 6-Month Private Coaching Experience Look Up Your Human Design Blueprint Get Your Custom Human Design Blueprint Guide - Use the code NOISE for a 10% discount Erin’s book, How do you choose?Erin on Instagram @erinclairejones Human Design Coaching Certification - Use the code NOISE for a 10% discount Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/686 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if healing isn’t a single moment or a fireworks-style breakthrough? What if sometimes healing is a long quiet burn - a long sunrise? In this solo episode, I’m sharing what it’s been like to be in the middle of the most gutting transition of my life. I’ve been through change before, but this one has stretched across years. It’s shed versions of myself I’ve lovingly, but slowly, let go of. And the truth is: there is no pressure to rush your transition, or what I’m calling a “sunrise”. It’s not a race. It’s a return to who you are at your core. What you’ll hear about in this episode: That “I thought I’d be done by now” feeling and the myth of arrival The metaphor of the longest sunrise and why your healing doesn’t need to look like a montage How ignoring your intuition in the past might still hold insight for today, and what changes when you believe your intuition now Letting go of the need for dramatic transformation and embracing slow, steady shifts If you’re deep inside your own transition, wondering when clarity will arrive, this is your reminder: you’re not behind. You’re just in the sunrise. Resources: Public Facebook post Andrea on Instagram Devotion: A 6-month private coaching experience My Ayahuasca Experience My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series ✨Interested in a future Rythmia Ayahuasca retreat with me? Drop a DM on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email support[at]andreaowen.com with the subject line “AYA Interested” to be added to the interest list! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/685 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we’re talking all about anxiety, ketamine therapy, and how this treatment is helping high-functioning women finally feel emotional relief. You don’t need to stay in a perpetual state of anxiety - there are resources out there that can truly help. In addition to therapy and other healing modalities, ketamine therapy has been a game-changer for me in managing anxiety. So I invited Dr. Kristin Arden from Mindbloom and Stephanie Trunzo the CEO of MERGE for a roundtable discussion on what ketamine therapy really is, how it works in the brain, and why it’s worth considering; especially if you’re a high-functioning woman navigating anxiety and overwhelm. We dig into what actually happens during treatment, the emotional rewiring that takes place, and how to know when it's working. If you’ve tried everything and still feel stuck, I hope this conversation opens the door to a new kind of healing. What you’ll hear about in this episode: Why so many high-functioning women struggle with anxiety (6:13) What actually happens in the brain during a ketamine therapy session (10:11) The stigma around ketamine and how it’s being used safely and effectively today (19:40) What emotional rewiring really means and how to know it’s working (27:38) Resources: Devotion: A 6-Month Private Coaching Experience My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Andrea on Instagram @heyandreaowen Mindbloom Ketamine Therapy Episode 600: Advice and Insights About Ketamine Therapy with Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, Kristin Arden Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link:https://andreaowen.com/podcast/684 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“You don’t just do Ayahuasca, you carry her with you forever.” The time is here, I’m ready to share more about my experience participating in an Ayahuasca ceremony. This episode isn’t a step-by-step rundown of every moment of my four nights in Costa Rica at Rythmia Retreat– I’ll save that for the private podcast series. In this episode, I am giving you the “quick and dirty”: what this medicine actually is, why I felt called to it, and how it changed me. Let me be clear: this is sacred. Not a wellness trend. Not a party drug. Not something you DIY with a dude named Chad who ordered a vine online. This is indigenous medicine, with a deep history and lineage that deserves reverence, not appropriation. I chose Rythmia specifically because of their relationship with respected indigenous leaders like Taita Juanito, a Colombian shaman who led one of the most profound nights of my entire experience. They do it right: sacred space, trained facilitators, traditional songs and prayers, deep intention-setting.  Ayahuasca is a full-body, full-soul, spiritual experience. Not recreational or for kicks. It's for healing, and if you feel the quiet pull toward it, there might be something there for you. And if you don’t? That’s okay, too. This path isn’t for everyone, and it’s not supposed to be. There are so many other transformative modalities to support your healing. Listen to that voice, she knows what’s right for you. What you’ll hear about in this episode: What Ayahuasca actually is, and the powerful compound it shares with the brain during birth and death The sacredness of honoring the cultures and lineages that carry this medicine (*see below for more cultural context) Why some people feel called to sit with this medicine (and how you’ll know if that’s you) What happens in ceremony, like, yes, the purging, but also the healing Why this isn’t a magic bullet, but a powerful tool for release, rebirth, and reconnection Want more details? I’ll be breaking down each ceremony: including the wild fourth night where I thought I was gonna die over in my free private Ketamine Therapy podcast series. Head to andreaowen.com/journey for access. *Now for some more cultural context: cultures and lineages who have used Ayahuasca for generations: Shipibo-Conibo (Peru): Known for their healing songs, icaros, and intricate patterns that come from ayahuasca visions Asháninka (Peru and Brazil): Use ayahuasca as part of spiritual practice and plant dietas Kofan and Siona (Colombia): Taita Juanito (facilitator I experienced at Rythmia) is from this lineage Huni Kuin (Brazil): Use ayahuasca (called nixi pae) in collective healing rituals Tukano and Yawanawá peoples (Brazil/Colombia): Deep ceremonial history with plant medicines, including ayahuasca Resources: Devotion: A 6-Month Private Coaching Experience My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Rythmia Retreat Andrea on Instagram @heyandreaowen Episode 666: 365 Happy Bedtime Mantras with Shannon Kaiser Episode 636: Letting Go of What’s Holding You Back with Shannon Kaiser ✨Interested in a future Rythmia Ayahuasca retreat with me? Drop a DM on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email support[at]andreaowen.com with the subject line “AYA Interested” to be added to the interest list! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/683 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m joined by Alanna Kaivalya, PhD,  author of The Way of the Satisfied Woman, expert on mythology, psychology, and spiritual empowerment. Alanna was someone I could’ve talked to for hours. From the second I learned her book title, I knew I had questions. She brings insight on what it actually looks like to live a fully embodied, empowered life as a woman, and how we can unlearn the conditioning that tells us we need to overfunction, overgive, and override our truth in order to be loved. Throughout our conversation, Alanna breaks down the truth about self-abandonment, why so many strong women end up in relationships that drain them, and how reclaiming our feminine energy is the key to living a life that actually feels satisfying.  What you’ll hear about in this episode: Why women tend to overgive in their lives and relationships and how to recognize self-abandonment when it's happening (4:49) How dropping the “mask of masculinity” led Alanna to reclaim her energy and live more authentically (15:57) Why strong, capable women often find themselves in unhealthy relationships and how to shift the dynamic or walk away (21:13) The interplay between masculine and feminine energies in a relationship, and how it looks when it actually works (34:24) Resources: Devotion: A 6-Month Private Coaching Experience Andrea on Instagram @heyandreaowen Alanna’s Resources to Becoming a Satisfied Woman Alanna’s website Alanna’s book, The Way of the Satisfied Woman Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/682 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had a powerful conversation with a client this morning that led me here: the topic of guilt, and more specifically, what it looks like when guilt keeps us from choosing ourselves. This client shared that radical self-acceptance, for her, meant removing guilt when I make decisions based on what I want. This is so common. Especially for women. We are deeply conditioned to believe that putting ourselves first is selfish, that our value lies in how much we give, how selfless we are, how much we sacrifice. So in this episode, I’m breaking down what guilt actually is (and what it isn’t), why we often believe getting rid of it completely is the goal (hint: it’s not), and how we can begin to untangle our conditioning from the truth. In addition, I talk about practicing a little self-awareness when guilt shows up. What you’ll hear about in this episode: Guilt is woven into the tapestry of our social conditioning as girls and women The differences between guilt, shame, humiliation, and embarrassment and why that matters Guilt is about behavior: about making a mistake and making amends, not about who you are as a person Why we often feel guilty for putting ourselves first, even when we’ve made no mistake This episode featured two reflective questions which I’ll leave here for reference: How often have you said no to yourself out of fear of feeling guilty?  When guilt shows up, ask: Is this truly something I need to make amends for? Or is this just my conditioning?” Remember, you get to choose what’s true for you, even when guilt tries to argue otherwise. Resources: Rythmia Retreat ✨Interested in a future Rythmia Ayahuasca retreat with me? Drop a DM on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email support[at]andreaowen.com with the subject line “AYA Interested” to be added to the interest list! Devotion: A 6-Month Private Coaching Experience Make Some Noise  Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/681 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m so excited for you to hear this conversation with Amina AlTai. She’s enthusiastic, warm, and wicked smart, and her work around ambition is deeply important. Amina is a holistic career coach and chronic illness advocate who helps leaders lead from their brilliance and truth. Her new book, The Ambition Trap, reframes what ambition means, and how it can be a tool for healing and wholeness instead of burnout and over-functioning. We discuss the two types of ambition: the kind rooted in purpose and values, and the kind that comes from pain, people-pleasing, and old wounds. Plus, Amina shares her own story about autoimmune diagnoses and near organ failure; and how they shaped the framework she now teaches.   As Amina says, “Ambition is the desire to grow,”and anything is possible with your ambition when it's coming from that place of purpose and wholeness. You’ll hear us talk about: Ambition rooted in purpose vs. ambition driven by family or societal expectations (aka purposeful ambition vs. painful ambition) (6:13) Why overworking is often a systemic and economic issue, plus signs you're caught in the cycle and how to break free (10:25) What it means to live above the resentment line and how it applies to your professional life (12:56) The three E’s of identifying your zone of genius: excellence, energy, and ease and how they help align your career with your true self (15:25) How to shift your perspective around the word ambition, especially if it’s always felt a little uncomfortable (21:39) Practical strategies to prevent burnout while still pursuing your goals (24:08) The internalized beliefs that equate your worth with your work and how core belief and shadow work can help flip the script (32:53) Resources: Rythmia Retreat Andrea on Instagram @heyandreaowenMy Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast seriesAmina’s websiteAmina’s book, The Ambition Trap: How to Stop Chasing and Start Living Amina on Instagram @aminaaltaiThe Big Leap, Gay Hendricks Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome, Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey, Harvard Business Review Book recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/680 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m joined by Sharon Pope, Certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert, and we’re getting into why women often leave relationships emotionally way before they physically do, how to rebuild self-trust, and what it takes to get clarity when you’re stuck in the “should I stay or go?” spiral. We even discuss the topic of infidelity, and what it actually looks like to repair after betrayal. Sharon works with people who are stuck in the “What the hell do I do with this relationship?” phase. Whether that means healing it, improving it, or walking away from it. Whether you're married, dating, single, or “it's complicated,” this conversation is one you’re going to want to hear. You’ll hear us talk about: Why women often leave relationships mentally years before they leave physically (what Sharon calls “the quiet quit”) (6:12) Self-trust: what it is, how to build it, and why it matters (11:16) How to have hard conversations with more ease—where do you even begin? (27:46) Finding clarity around whether to stay or go in a marriage (33:58) What happens when someone cheats? Can the relationship be salvaged? (Hint: Sharon says, “You have to be willing to do the work…”) (37:07) Resources: Rythmia Retreat Andrea on Instagram @heyandreaowen My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Episode 671: Life Lesson 10 on Growth Isn’t Linear, And That’s the Whole Damn Point Episode 432: CASTMWUP: Andrea and Amy on profound humiliation and its impact Sharon’s website Sharon’s free video course: Calming Your Constant Marriage Indecision Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: ⁠https://andreaowen.com/679⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode was inspired by a question I brought into a recent ketamine therapy session: “What do I need to know to feel fully able to receive, to feel safe to do so?” What unfolded sparked a powerful exploration into the art of receiving. I’m breaking down what receiving really looks like (it’s not always graceful), why it’s so often tied to control and worthiness, and how you can begin to gently examine your own patterns. If you’re ready to reflect more deeply on your relationship with love, money, and support, this solo episode offers insight and questions to guide that process. You’ll also hear me read straight from my journal and revisit two childhood moments that shaped my beliefs about being “too much” and what happens when people can’t meet you where you are. These stories opened the door to deeper understanding; not just about my past, but about how those early experiences still impact my ability to receive today. What you’ll hear about in this episode: Receiving love or money can activate old nervous system patterns like fear, unworthiness, and the need to prove your self-sufficiency How early wounds of being “too much” can create deep shame and mistrust The messy, emotional “potion” of receiving The devotion to receiving as a full-body surrender; trusting your emotions and your softness. “Maybe receiving isn’t something we do—it’s something we become.” Resources: Coaching Single Sessions with AndreaMy Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast seriesEpisode 661: Lesson 3 on The Magic of Surrender Episode 664: Lesson 5 on What's Important for a Long-term Relationship Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/678 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices