Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions

Apologies are supposed to heal wounds, but what happens when “I’m sorry” just isn’t enough? In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we dive into the messy, beautiful, and often controversial world of relationships to explore why some apologies fail, how emotional repair actually works, and what couples can do to rebuild trust when words fall flat.From the excitement of dating to the challenges of marriage, we’ll unpack the complexities of love, connection, and reconciliation. We’ll talk about:Why apologies sometimes feel fake, defensive, orincomplete.How generational patterns and cultural influences shape the way we say “sorry.”Research from Marriage & Family Therapy that shows what really repairs broken trust.Short stories of couples who got stuck in the “sorry cycle”—and how they finally broke free.Practical steps to move from words to genuine healing and reconnection.Expect humor, raw truth, poetry, and the emotional “wine” that comes from those relationship tears. Whether you’re dating, engaged, in a situationship, in a long-term commitment, or married—this conversation will push you to rethink what true accountability looks like.👉 Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content! Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates. Check out my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon. Followus on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook

Is it passion—or pressure?In today’s dating and relationship culture, intensity is often mistaken for intimacy. Grand gestures, constant communication, fast emotional attachment, and overwhelming affection can feel like a fairytale—until it doesn’t. In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we unpack the emotionally confusing line between genuine love and manipulative love bombing, and why too much, too fast can sometimes be a red flag instead of romance.This episode dives deep into what love bombing really is, how it shows up in dating, long-term relationships, and marriages, and how it differs from authentic affection, compassion, emotional intimacy, and healthy attachment. We explore how trauma, attachment styles, generational patterns, and unmet emotional needs can drive both the giver and receiver of intense love—and why many couples don’t realize they’re caught in a cycle until emotional exhaustion, control, or resentment sets in. Through real-life couple scenarios, research-backed insights from Marriage & Family Therapy, poetry, and honest conversations, we break down: Why love bombing often feels intoxicating at firstHow it quietly shifts into emotional controlThe red flags most people missHow cultural expectations, social media, and generational trauma normalize unhealthy intensityAnd how couples can build slow, secure, emotional safe love without losing passionWhether you’re dating, engaged, married, healing from a past relationship, or questioning the pace of your current one, this episode offers clarity, validation, and practical tools to help you choose connection over confusion.✨ Expect honesty.✨ Expect humor.✨ Expect a little discomfort.✨ Expect growth. Don't forget to:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTubeVisit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.comFollow on Social Media ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookPurchase Poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon

At what point does “we’re building together” quietly turn into “I don’trecognize myself anymore”?In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we dive into one of the most overlooked—and most damaging—relationship patterns: losing your identity in the name of love. While connection, compromise, and partnership are essential, there’s a dangerous line where “us” starts erasing “me.” And when that happens, resentment, emotional burnout, loss of desire, and disconnection aren’t far behind.This episode explores why losing yourself in your relationship can feel romantic at first—but eventually becomes costly. We unpack how cultural expectations, gender roles, attachment styles, trauma bonding, and generational relationship patterns normalize self-abandonment in dating, long-term relationships, engagements, and marriages. We also call out the red flags that signal you’reshrinking yourself to keep the peace, and—most importantly—offer real solutions for maintaining your individuality while still being deeply connected as a couple.Through relatable short stories, humor, research from Marriage & Family Therapy, relationship psychology, and honest conversation, this episode gives couples permission to stop confusing love with self-sacrifice. Because healthy relationships don’t require you to disappear—they require you to show up as your whole self.If you’ve ever thought:“I don’t do the things I love anymore”"I’ve changed so much to make this work”“I don’t know who I am outside of this relationship”…this episode is for you.This is the podcast for couples who want real, raw, and often controversial conversations about love, dating, marriage, emotional connection, and the distractions that pull us away from ourselves—and each other.Don't forget to:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTubeVisit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.comFollow us on social media: ⁠Instagram | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck out my poetry book ⁠⁠ Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon

At what point did “we’re building something” turn into “we’re just existing”?In this raw, honest, and deeply relatable episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we unpack the quiet emotional shift that happens when couples move from intentional dating into committed relationships—and how that shift can slowly sabotage desire, intimacy, emotional safety, and connection.This episode dives into the uncomfortable truth many couples don’t want to admit: effort often fades after commitment, emotional availability gets replaced by assumptions, and what we call “peace” is sometimes just passionlessness in disguise. We explore how complacency sneaks into relationships unnoticed, why boredom isn’t always about attraction, and how autopilot love creates emotional distance even when two people still care deeply for each other.Through real-life relationship stories, culturally sensitive insights, humor, and research-based perspectives from Marriage & Family Therapy, we challenge the idea that love naturally sustains itself without intention. We discuss unmet needs, emotional neglect, generational relationship patterns, and the danger of staying comfortable instead of connected.Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or questioning if your relationship still feels alive, this episode offers clarity, reflection, and real conversations that help couples recognize the difference between being settled and being checked out.Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content!: Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates.Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook.Check out my poetry book ⁠⁠⁠ Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon

S2 EP4: “Swipe Right or Walk Away: Are Dating Apps Helping or Hurting Love?Dating today doesn’t start with a glance across the room—it starts with a swipe. But what happens when love becomes an algorithm, attraction becomes a profile, and connection feels disposable?In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we uncork one of the most controversial relationship questions of our time: Are dating apps actually helping us find love—or slowly teaching us how to avoid it?From ghosting, breadcrumbing, and “roster dating” to decision fatigue, emotional detachment, and the illusion of endless options, we explore how digital dating is reshaping expectations, behavior, intimacy, and commitment. We talk honestly about how dating apps impact self-worth, attachment styles, emotional availability, communication patterns, and long-term relationship success—especially for couples who met online and are now trying to build something real.This episode isn’t anti-dating apps—but it is anti-mindless dating.We’ll break down:How swiping culture affects emotional connection and commitmentWhy dating apps feel empowering and exhausting at the same timeHow generational dating patterns influence how we approach love todayThe difference between having options and avoiding intimacyWhat couples who met online wish they had done differentlyWhether dating apps help you find love—or help you avoid accountabilityWith real couple stories, research-based insights from Marriage & Family Therapy, relatable humor, and raw conversations you won’t hear anywhere else, this episode is for:Singles dating onlineCouples who met through appsLong-term partners navigating modern distractionsMarried couples reflecting on how dating culture has changed loveGrab your wine—because some of these truths might sting before they heal.Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content!: Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updatesFollow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck out my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon

S2 EP3: "The Art of Letting Go: How to Release Resentment in Relationships"What happens when the argument ends—but the pain doesn’t?In this powerful and emotionally honest episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we’re unpacking one of the most silent but destructive forces in relationships: resentment. From unspoken expectations and unresolved conflicts to generational trauma and emotional neglect, resentment doesn’t just show up overnight—it builds slowly, quietly, and often unnoticed until connection begins to erode.In The Art of Letting Go, we dive deep into why holding grudges can poison intimacy, damage trust, and turn love into obligation. More importantly, we explore how couples can release old wounds, rebuild emotional safety, and learn to forgive without minimizing their pain. This episode isn’t about “just getting over it”—it’s about understanding what resentment is trying to teach us and how to heal without losing ourselves in the process.Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, co-parenting, in a long-term partnership, or navigating love within the LGBTQ+ community, this episode meets you where you are. We’ll explore how resentment shows up differently across cultures, genders, and generations—and why ignoring it often leads to emotional distance, chronic conflict, or quiet disconnection.Expect real talk, research-backed insights from Marriage & Family Therapy, relatable couple stories, reflective poetry, and a few uncomfortable—but necessary—truths about love, accountability, and emotional maturity. Because sometimes the deepest healing doesn’t come from holding on tighter… it comes from learning how to let go.If you’ve ever said, “I forgave them, but I still feel angry,” this episode is for you.Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content!: Visit our website: www.AllishazDistractions.comFollow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck out my poetry book: Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon

What if the idea of a soulmate is doing more harm than good?In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we uncork one of the most romanticized—and damaging—beliefs in modern relationships: the myth of “the one.” From fairy tales and rom-coms to social media relationship goals, many couples are chasing perfect love… only to feel disappointed, disconnected, or like they chose wrong.This episode dives deep into why the search for a flawless partner sets couples up for unrealistic expectations, emotional burnout, and silent resentment—and what real love actually looks like when the fantasy fades.We explore:Why believing in soulmates can sabotage healthy relationships.How dating culture, marriage myths, and generational patterns fuel perfectionism in loveThe difference between chemistry, compatibility, committment, and choice.How couples in long-term relationships and marriages can reconnect without chasing fantasy.Why love isn't found - it's build, repaired, chosen, and protected.This is a real, raw, and sometimes uncomfortable conversation for couples who are dating, engaged, married, LGBTQ+, rebuilding trust, or questioning whether love should feel easier than it does.If you’ve ever wondered:"Did I choose the wrong person?""Why doesn't love feel like it used to?""Is something wrong with us - or with what we were taught about love?"…this episode is for you.🍷 Grab a glass, breathe deep, and let’s talk about the love behind the fantasy—where the real work (and real beauty) lives.Don't forget to:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTubeVisit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.comFollow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck out my published poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon

Episode 35: The Unspoken Apology: How Nonverbal Gestures Can Speak Louder ThanWordsCan actions really speak louder than words in love? In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we uncover the silent power of nonverbal apologies—those small, intentional gestures that say “I’m sorry” without a single word. From a gentle touch on the arm to brewing your partner’s favorite coffee after a fight, these unspoken acts of love can sometimes heal wounds more deeply than verbal apologies.We’ll explore:How body language, tone, and presence communicate remorseWhy generational patterns affect the way we show (orfail to show) regret.The fine line between genuine nonverbal apologiesand manipulative gesturesReal-life stories of couples who learned to apologizethrough actionMarriage & Family Therapy insights on how behavior bridges emotional disconnectWhether you’re dating, engaged, or married, this episode challenges the way we think about apologies and emotional repair. Expect humor, raw honesty, and maybe even a few uncomfortable truths.👉 Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content!👉 Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates.👉 Purchase a copy of my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon👉 Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookThis is the podcast where tears—our “wine”—flow not just from pain but from breakthroughs in love, connection, and growth.

Have you ever wondered if the apology you received—or even the one you gave—was truly heartfelt, or just a strategy to dodge responsibility? In this raw and eye-opening episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we dive deep into apology manipulation—when "sorry" isn’t about repair but about control, guilt-tripping, or shifting blame.From dating red flags to long-term marriage struggles, we’ll unpack how manipulative apologies show up in every kind of relationship. You’ll learn the psychological tactics behind fake remorse, how to recognize when guilt is being weaponized, and practical ways couples can push past empty words to real healing.Expect engaging short stories, thought-provoking Marriage & Family Therapy insights, and even a few controversial questions that might make you rethink your own approach to forgiveness. Whether you’re newly dating, engaged, or in a decades-long marriage, this episode gives you the tools to spot manipulation, demand authenticity, and rebuild trust the right way.👉Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content! Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates. Check out my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon. Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook

We’ve all heard it before—“I’m sorry, but…” Is that really an apology, or is it just another way to shift blame? In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we’re diving into the messy world of apologies: the heartfelt, the half-hearted, and the downright manipulative.Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, co-parenting, or navigating blended families, knowing the difference between a true apology and a blame game can be the deciding factor in whether your relationship thrives or quietly crumbles.We’ll unpack why apologies matter, how generational and cultural patterns shape the way we say “sorry,” and why some people weaponize apologies instead of using them to repair love. Expect real talk, short stories of couples, controversial questions, and research-backed insight from Marriage & Family Therapy, relationship books, and even poetry that captures the raw emotions behind “I’m sorry.”💡 What you’ll walk away with:Honest conversations about what love, commitment, and marriage really look likeReal advice for overcoming challenges and growing togetherPersonal stories from couples and expertsDeep dives into emotional complexities of relationships, from dating to marriageTips on setting boundaries that actually work and why they matterThis is not your sugar-coated relationship advice. This is real, raw, and sometimes uncomfortable—because love deserves honesty.👉 Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content! Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates. Purchase a copyof my poetry book “Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon. Follow us onsocial media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook

Is kink the spark your relationship needs—or the match that burns it alldown?In this raw, real, and often controversial episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we’re untying the ropes around a hot-button topic: Kinky sex. From BDSM and swinging to polyamory, fetishism, and sex toys—we’re exploring the truth about whether embracing non-traditional sex strengthens intimacy or quietly erodes connection.Couples newly dating? You’re not immune. Married for 10 years? Still relevant. LGBTQ+? Absolutely included. No matter your background, orientation, or relationship status—this episode invites you into a judgment-free zone where we ask: Are we exploring desire… or escaping something deeper?With eye-opening research, shocking statistics, real-life couple stories, Marriage & Family Therapy insights, and even a poetic twist, this episode unpacks the emotional wine behind the distractions of kink, curiosity, and commitment.🎯 What to Expect:Real conversations, no sugar-coatingControversial questions most couples avoidTools to open up, reconnect, and get honest about your desiresStories of couples who saved their relationship through kink—and those who broke under the weight of it🛑Let’s talk about the distractions that make you feel alone—even in the same bed.📣 Call to ActionSubscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content!Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates.Purchase a copy of my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on AmazonFollow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook

Welcome to another soul-stirring, taboo-challenging episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, where we sip on the emotional complexities of love and relationships—from passionate beginnings to the chaotic middle.In this episode, we're diving deep into one of the most silently suffered relationship struggles: intimacy after parenthood. Whether you're newly navigating diaper duty or balancing PTA meetings with pillow talk, this episode is for every couple who's asked themselves:"Where did our sex life go—and is it ever coming back?"We'll explore:Why the arrival of children often derails intimacyThe emotional, physical, and hormonal toll of parenthoodGenerational myths around motherhood, fatherhood, and sexReal stories from couples trying to reconnectTangible ways to reignite desire and rebuild emotional safety in the bedroomThe truth about "scheduled sex", resentment, and the fantasy of spontaneityInclusive conversations for biological parents, step-parents, co-parents, LGBTQ+ parents, and blended familiesExpect raw truths, laughter, maybe even a few ah-ha tears—and as always, a controversial twist or two.💡 This episode is packed with relatable insights, therapist-backed advice, poetry that stings a little too real, and short couple stories you’ll swear were about you.Don't forget to:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and contentVisit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updatesFollow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck out my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon

Are you having the sex you really want — or the sex you think you’re supposed to want? In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we strip away the societal “shoulds” and unspoken bedroom rules to uncover the truth about what truly excites us. From the pressure to perform to the myths that media, culture, and even family have passed down, we’re getting real about how expectations shape our intimate lives.This is your safe space to laugh, learn, and challenge everything you thought you knew about your own desires. We’ll explore:Why "normal" sex might not actually work for you (and that's okay).How cultural, religious, and generational norms shape our sexual expectations.What happens when couples fake satisfaction for the sake of harmony.How to ask for what you really want - without shame, guilt, or awkwardness.Real stories from couples who ditched the "script" and reignited their passion.Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or somewhere in-between, this is the conversation that could change how you see intimacy forever.Expect raw honesty, expert insights from Marriage & Family Therapy research, a few laughs, and maybe even a blush or two.💬 Let’s talk about what really turns you on — not what the world told you should.Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content!Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates.Purchase a copy of my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon.Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook

What does it really take to build a 36-year marriage, raise four globally successful children, and still follow your divine calling?In this week’s powerful guest episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we’re joined by the multi-faceted and deeply inspiring C. Natasha Richburg— wife, mother, author, preacher, professor, and entrepreneur—for a soul-stirring conversation on what it means to walk in purpose, stay grounded in faith, and love through life’s many transitions.With her signature message, “Turn Into the Spin,” Natasha invites us into the deeper parts of her journey—navigating whispers from God, building legacy through marriage and motherhood, and staying rooted in who she is while wearing many crowns.If you’re someone questioning your path, struggling to find peace in partnership, or wondering whether purpose and partnership can co-exist—this is your episode.Call to Action:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions onYouTube for exclusive episodes and content! Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates. Purchase a copy of my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon. Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck Out C. Natasha Richburg's books:"Married to the Dream" by C. NaTasha Richburg, Ericka Richburghttps://www.audible.com/pd/B0DDDTGKFQ?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=library_overflow"People Ask...What is the secret of our 36-year marriage?" https://www.audible.com/pd/B0D6CM28KS?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=library_overflow"Abandoned Guilt and Absorbed Gladness: My 4,718-Day IVF Journey" by C. NaTasha Richburg, Ericka Richburghttps://www.audible.com/pd/B0D9HZ9JDY?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=library_overflow

Are you craving closeness, but not necessarily sex? Or maybe you’re feeling rejected because every hug seems to come with an expectation? In this raw and deeply vulnerable episode, we’re peeling back the layers of affection and exploring why non-sexual touch is the lifeline many relationships are starving for.We’re talking about the hand-holding that heals, the cuddles that comfort, and the gentle back rubs that whisper “I’m here.” Because intimacy isn’t always about what happens in the bedroom—it’s about how connected we feel when nothing sexual is expected.Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or married for decades, this episode dives into:Why affection and sex are not interchangeableHow affection gets lost in routine, resentment, or traumaWhy some partners say “Don’t touch me!” and what they really meanThe role of love languages and attachment styles in affection needsWhat to do when one partner craves touch and the other pulls awayPlus: stories from couples, poetry that captures the ache, and research that reveals how touch—or the lack of it—can make or break your bondWe don’t shy away from the controversial, and this one hits deep. Let's talk rejection, avoidance, shame, over-sexualization, and even cultural taboos around affection.✨ This is a safe space for ALL couples—LGBTQ+, interracial, married, engaged, or just figuring it out. ✨💔 So if you’ve ever whispered “I just want to feel close again,” this one’s for you.🛎️ Call to Action:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content! Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates. Purchase a copy of my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon. Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook

Has your bedroom turned into a battleground—or worse, a ghost town? In this episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we’re unpacking one of the most intimate yet quietly devastating truths couples face: when sex starts to feel like a chore. Whether you're dating, newly married, or years into your commitment, this episode dives deep into the emotional, psychological, and cultural shifts that make sex feel like another task on the to-do list instead of a shared act of love.We’ll explore:Why emotional disconnection, resentment, and stress kill desireThe myth of spontaneous sex and why scheduled intimacy is not unromanticHow generational beliefs and gender roles shape sexual expectationsWhat "reclaiming intimacy" looks like across different stages of loveTools from Marriage & Family Therapy and real-life couples who turned things aroundYou’ll hear relatable stories, controversial truths, expert insights, and poetic reflections that will make you laugh, think, and possibly cry. But most importantly—this episode offers real solutions to rekindle the passion in your relationship, one conversation at a time.💬 Don’t suffer in silence or settle for a sexless love—let’s talk about it.🛎️Call to Action:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content! Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates. Purchase a copyof my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon. Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook

Should every hidden truth see daylight, or can silence sometimes protect the ones we love? In this fiery, research-backed deep dive, licensed marriage & family therapist and relationship coach Allisha Minor-Gaines, MA, MS, LCMFT, LMFT uncorks the ethical, emotional, and downright controversial world of secrets—from harmless white lies to vault-level betrayals.Expect raw stories from couples (straight, queer, dating, engaged, and 30-year veterans), eye-opening stats (did you know 60 % of partners admit to at least one major secret?*), quotes from classic love poetry, and clinical insights you can use tonight. We’ll laugh, maybe cry, and definitely challenge the idea that “what they don’t know won’t hurt them.”Listen if you’re craving:Honest relationship advice, marriage advice, and dating advice that actually feels human.Tools to navigate trust, intimacy, and accountability without the shame spiral.A safe, culturally sensitive space where LGBTQ+, intercultural, and neurodiverse couples all belong.“Secrecy, once accepted, becomes the habit of a life.” —Lewis F. Kornhauser, Family Law ScholarCall to Action (keep exactly as requested)Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content! Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates. Purchase a copy of my poetry book Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon. Follow us onsocial media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠Facebook

You said you forgave them… but why does your chest still tighten every time their phone lights up?In this raw and unfiltered episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions, we’re diving headfirst into one of the most painful questions in any relationship:“Can you ever really trust someone again after they cheat?”Spoiler alert: The answer isn’t simple—and it sure as hell isn’t one-size-fits-all.From the emotional aftershock of betrayal to the science of oxytocin, fromforgiveness myths to cultural silence, and from toxic positivity to realrebuilding rituals—we’re pouring truth into every glass. 🍷Whether you’re newly dating, ten years deep in a marriage, or healing from someone who broke your trust and called it “love,” this episode offers clarity, compassion, and controversy.We break down:The lie behind "once a cheater, always a cheater"Why forgiveness isn't permissionWhen to stay and when to save yourself firstRebuilding trust through daily rituals, not empty apologiesHow your identify, culture, and generational patterns shape how you heal💔 Plus, real stories, poetic moments, research-backed advice, and a little shade—because sometimes healing hurts before it helps.This isn’t just a podcast. It’s your emotional reset.Don't forget to:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content!Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates.Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck out my poetry book ⁠⁠⁠"Distractions of the Heart" on Amazon.You can find my poetry book at Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie - on Amazon

Dive deep into the messy middle ground between casual hangs and committedrelationships. In this candid episode, we unpack the invisible pitfalls ofsituationships—the #1 dating trend that's equal parts thrilling and emotionallydraining. Perfect for couples newly dating, long‑term partners, and evenseasoned spouses looking to understand modern relationship dynamics.Expect:Honest, culturally inclusive, engaging conversation (yes LGBTQ+ stories too).Research-backed insights from Marriage & Family Therapists. Real couples stories filled with humor, tears, and "aha" moments.Actionable advice: how to spot the red flags, set boundaries, initiate that awkward but necessary "define the relationship" talk.Quotes, poems, & therapy tips woven throughout.Why tune in? Because you deserve emotional clarity, not guesswork. You’ll learn how to avoid commitment limbo and build real intimacy—whether you're dating,engaged, or married.Don't forget to:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube for exclusive episodes and content!Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates.Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck out my poetry book ⁠⁠⁠"Distractions of the Heart" on Amazon.You can find my poetry book at Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie- on Amazon

Ever wondered how an “innocent” flirtation turns into a full-blown situationship? This episode of Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions unpacks what happens when emotional (or physical) involvement with someone outside your relationship quietly becomes the main storyline—and your relationship becomes the side piece.Whether you’re just starting to date or you’ve been committed for years, this episode explores the silent creep of betrayal through emotional connections, secret texting, "work spouses," and intimate bonds that feel like relationships but get labeled "just friends." Spoiler: They're not just anything.From emotional and financial cheating to generational patterns and cultural influences on fidelity, we’ll challenge the controversial truths about infidelity in today’s dating and marriage culture—including LGBTQ+ dynamics, spiritual bypassing, trauma bonding, and yes, even toxic closure conversations.Don't forget to:Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at Hearts Wine from Hearts Distractions on YouTube Visit our website at www.AllishazDistractions.com for more resources and updates.Follow us on social media: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ | ⁠FacebookCheck out my poetry book ⁠⁠⁠"Distractions of the Heart" on Amazon.You can find my poetry book at Distractions-Heart-Allisha-Marie- on Amazon