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Should I be dating during recovery?" Drawing from his personal recovery journey, Elisha reveals the intense challenges he faced – including persistent wet dreams featuring porn stars and severe cognitive impairment. He explains why recovery is an inherently "selfish" time focused on rediscovering identity and healing childhood trauma. Elisha ultimately advises against dating during active recovery, emphasizing that the goal should be becoming a complete, healed person before entering a relationship

In this Spirit-led conversation, Melinda Patrick shares her journey as a Christian parent whose daughter walked away from biblical teaching by embracing an LGBT identity. She offers scripture-based wisdom gained through her own painful mistakes and God's faithful guidance. Melinda delivers a biblical critique of popular pastor Andy Stanley's compromising stance, while emphasizing how parents can maintain their biblical convictions without losing relationship with their children. Throughout the discussion, she balances God's unchanging truth with Christ-like compassion, reminding Christian parents that God is sovereign even in their most difficult parenting seasons, and providing practical, Scripture-rooted guidance for responding in a way that honors both God and their children.Connect With Melinda: Website : https://melindapatrick.org/the-bridge-between-us/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/melindahpatrick/Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/@melindapatrick9775Comments on Andy Stanley : An LGBTQ Mom Responds to Andy Stanley (w/ Melinda Patrick) - Ep. 77The Daring Rescue :  https://melindapatrick.org/the-daring-rescue/

In this raw and unfiltered conversation, Pastor Tunde Cole of The Transformers Church shares his journey from experiencing spiritual abuse in church leadership to founding his own ministry focused on truth and freedom. He discusses how to recognize toxic church environments, navigate spiritual abuse, and practical steps for leaving unhealthy church situations. Pastor Cole also opens up about personal struggles with pornography, revealing how unresolved pain and unforgiveness created a pathway for addiction. Throughout the interview, he emphasizes the importance of prioritizing authentic relationship with Jesus over religious performance, and offers candid insights about the challenges of pastoral ministry and maintaining healthy boundaries with church members.00:00: Introduction to Pastor Tunde Cole00:59: Who is Tunde Cole: "A guy who loves truth and freedom"01:56: The vision behind Transformers Church05:21: Advice for Christians suffering abuse from church leadership06:11: Understanding your spiritual freedom: "No one owns your life"10:32: Practical steps for leaving an abusive church12:42: Pastor Tunde's personal experience with church abuse15:04: Avoiding church leadership "ambush" situations17:35: Why you shouldn't enter an ambush: "It may take only God's grace to recover"19:27: The importance of forgiveness in spiritual healing20:02: The danger of remaining in toxic environments24:26: Finding true identity in Christ26:30: Using interactive teaching to transform lives28:31: The problem with Christians wanting pastors to do everything31:04: Leading with vulnerability: "Netflix was programming my mind"34:11: Being honest about struggles as a pastor39:10: Pastor Tunde's journey with pornography41:10: The connection between pain and addiction: "Pain and hurt could be a breeding ground"42:55: Fighting spiritual battles: "The force left me and my head was pounding"46:16: The Holy Spirit's role in identifying root issues47:24: Allowing the Holy Spirit to guide you to freedom48:41: Closing thoughts on finding freedom in Christ

In this powerful interview, fashion designer and ministry leader Bobbi Kumari shares her extraordinary journey from sexual brokenness to freedom. She discusses her background in Hinduism, childhood sexual abuse, and her descent into addiction and promiscuity before a supernatural encounter with a demonic entity changed everything.00:00: Introduction to Bobbi Kumari00:56: Why the Passion for Sacred Sexuality?03:43: Bobbi's Background: Hindu Home, Molestation & Finding Jesus07:12: The Backsliding Years: Hedonism, Drug Use & Rock Bottom09:36: The Demonic Attack: "This Spirit Hates You"11:22: Understanding Sex Demons & Spiritual Soul Ties14:06: Instant Deliverance vs. Mind Renewal: The Process of Freedom17:09: Soul Ties Explained: The Covenant Nature of Sex21:07: Breaking Soul Ties: The Practical Steps23:34: Addressing the Root Causes of Sexual Sin26:34: Sex as a Blood Covenant: Why It's Sacred31:31: True Repentance: The First Step to Freedom34:17: Breaking 300+ Soul Ties: The Process40:32: Healing from Sexual Abuse & Trauma46:55: What Men Are Really Looking For: Beyond Physical Needs49:45: Dealing With Ongoing Sexual Desires55:52: The Intimacy Question: "Father, How Are You Today?"57:14: About Bobbi's Conferences: Sexpose & More59:32: Celebrating Your Sex Drive: A Final Encouragement

Struggling with pornography addiction often feels like fighting an invisible enemy. But what if one of your most powerful weapons is simply a pen and paper?In this eye-opening episode , I reveal WHY journaling is not just helpful but essential for breaking free from porn addiction.Discover how this simple daily practice targets the root causes of addictive behavior by:Bringing hidden triggers and emotional patterns into the lightCreating a personal accountability system that actually worksTransforming negative thought cycles that lead to relapseBuilding self-awareness that medication and willpower alone cannot provide

o you know that many Christians silently battle with shame and guilt after watching porn? In this powerful episode, I share my personal journey of self-forgiveness and why it's crucial for your spiritual healing and relationship with God. Learn biblical principles and practical techniques to release self-blame, embrace God's forgiveness, and move forward without the weight of past mistakes.Discover how forgiving yourself isn't just permitted but actually essential for Christians struggling with porn addiction. Join me to start your path towards self-acceptance through Christ's redemptive love and find freedom from the cycle of shame and addiction

In todays' episode I speak on why and how I struggled with lust and ways to beat it. So to all my brothers who are in that season or struggle like I was, Grab your pen and paper. Because this one has too many gems.

Are you struggling to break free from porn addiction as a Christian? You're not alone. Many believers face this battle daily, feeling trapped between their faith and persistent temptations.In this powerful episode, host Elisha Kolade shares his personal journey and the three essential parameters that can lead to lasting freedom. Drawing from his own experiences and biblical principles, Elisha reveals how understanding your identity in Christ, transforming your mind, and presenting your body as a living sacrifice creates the foundation for victory.Whether you're a new Christian or have been walking with God for years while secretly battling this addiction, this episode offers practical, spiritually-grounded guidance without judgment or condemnation. Discover how to navigate today's sexually charged society while maintaining your faith and finding true freedom.Join Elisha for this transformative conversation that addresses one of the most common yet least discussed struggles in the Christian community

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of procrastination, watching your potential slip away day after day? Many of us were never taught how to build sustainable habits, and as a result, we fall into patterns that limit our growth rather than nurture it. Establishing good habits isn't about perfection—it's about creating systems that work with your natural tendencies, not against them.Whether it's with our morning routines, our health practices, or our work habits, consistent patterns are the foundation for transformation. But in order to build them effectively, we need to understand the key factors that shape successful habits—what truly motivates us, our personal capacity for change, and the reality that sometimes, building a new habit means letting go of comfortable old ones.In this episode, I share my journey from chronic procrastinator to productive early riser, offering practical insights on identifying areas for improvement, navigating common pitfalls, and experiencing the remarkable ripple effect that even small habit changes can create across all aspects of life.

Struggling with porn addiction? This podcast reveals my 13-year battle and complete recovery plan. Learn effective strategies to overcome PIED, regain confidence, and rebuild intimacy. Discover practical NoFap techniques, addiction recovery tools, and brain rewiring methods that worked when nothing else did. Find hope, accountability, and step-by-step guidance for your own freedom journey from pornography dependence and masturbation habits. Real solutions for lasting recovery.

SummaryThis conversation explores the profound impact of explicit content, particularly pornography, on sexual preferences and behaviors. Elisha discusses how exposure to such content during formative years can shape perceptions and relationships, often leading to behavioral changes that individuals may not consciously recognize. He emphasizes the importance of understanding these influences and the need for intentional reflection and renewal of the mind to counteract negative effects.

SummaryIn this conversation, Elisha explores the multifaceted nature of sex, emphasizing its spiritual dimensions and the profound impact it has on individuals' lives. He discusses the importance of understanding the three dimensions of human existence—spiritual, soulish, and physical—and how these dimensions interact during sexual encounters. Kolade warns about the potential dangers of engaging in sexual relationships without awareness of the spiritual implications and the emotional consequences that can arise from such interactions. He encourages listeners to reflect on the spiritual connections they form through sex and to consider the kind of spirits they are engaging with.

In this conversation, Elisha discusses the relationship between pride and relapse, particularly in the context of addiction recovery. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and humility in maintaining recovery, sharing personal experiences and insights. The discussion highlights the subtle dangers of pride, the characteristics to watch for, and the need for a strong foundation in faith and community support to sustain healing.

In this powerful episode, Elisha addresses the struggles of contemplating life and the search for purpose. He emphasizes the importance of understanding that the battle against suicidal thoughts is fought in the mind and is a spiritual warfare. Drawing from his personal experiences with addiction and despair, he provides insights on reclaiming control over one's thoughts and life. Elisha introduces the concept of the 'sword of the spirit' as a tool for empowerment and encourages listeners to engage actively in their mental battles through spiritual practices and daily strategies.

SummaryIn this conversation, Elisha Kolade discusses two distinct mindsets that influence recovery from pornography addiction: the Grasshopper mindset and the Lion mindset. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing these mindsets and choosing to adopt the Lion mindset, which embodies strength, empowerment, and the ability to overcome challenges.Through personal anecdotes and biblical references, Kolade encourages listeners to reflect on their self-perception and commit to a transformative journey towards recovery, suggesting a 90-day challenge as a pathway to achieving lasting change.

In this episode, Elisha Kolade explores the profound impact of imagination on personal experiences, particularly in relation to early exposure to pornography and masturbation. He shares his own journey, detailing how these experiences shaped his identity and behavior. Elisha emphasizes the importance of making a conscious decision to change, providing practical steps to reconfigure one's imagination and break free from unhealthy habits. The conversation encourages self-reflection and evaluation of personal choices, ultimately aiming for transformation and growth. Chapters 00:00 The Impact of Imagination on Reality 07:40 Deciding to Change: The First Step 10:39 Intentionality in Reconfiguring Imagination 11:42 Strengthening New Neural Pathways

In this episode, Elisha Kolade addresses the struggles many face during the night season, particularly regarding sleep and the temptation to consume pornography. He shares his personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of transforming the night into a productive time for personal development and spiritual growth. Elisha discusses the significance of preparation and self-awareness in overcoming these challenges, encouraging listeners to take ownership of their night season and approach it with a mindset of empowerment. Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Night Struggle 02:49 Transforming the Night into Power Hours 05:59 The Importance of Preparation for Night Challenges 11:57 Taking Ownership of Your Night Season

Summary In this conversation, Elisha Kolade discusses the three forces that contribute to porn addiction: the environment, the body, and the brain. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in overcoming these forces and breaking the cycle of addiction. Elisha encourages listeners to reflect on their habits and triggers, and to cultivate self-awareness as a crucial skill for personal growth and recovery in 2025. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Three Forces 02:57 The Importance of Self-Awareness 04:36 Breaking the Convergence of Forces 10:54 Empowering Yourself for 2025

Breaking free from pornography addiction can feel like an endless cycle of trying and relapsing. In this powerful episode, the host shares insights gained from 15 years of recovery, introducing the "Triple Threat Point" (TTP) - the crucial intersection of body, mind, and environment that drives addictive behavior. Through clear examples and practical guidance, you'll discover how understanding these three forces creates a path to lasting freedom. Rather than relying solely on willpower or quick fixes, you'll learn how to become a careful observer of your own patterns and develop strategies that address all components of the TTP framework. Whether you're just starting your recovery journey or have tried multiple times before, this episode offers both hope and concrete tools for building a pornography-free life in 2025.

Are you hiding your porn addiction from your wife? Living with the constant fear of being discovered? In this crucial episode, we provide a proven blueprint for men who are ready to take the courageous step of disclosing their porn struggle to their partner. Research shows that 80% of marriages can be rebuilt when porn addiction is disclosed voluntarily rather than discovered accidentally. We'll walk you through: The critical difference between your wife discovering your porn use vs. you choosing to tell her How to mentally prepare yourself for this life-changing conversation A tested framework for disclosure that prioritizes honesty and respect What to expect and how to handle the first 24 hours after telling her Specific strategies to handle her questions and reactions Common mistakes to avoid when discussing your porn struggles How to present your recovery plan and rebuild trust This isn't just about confession - it's about taking the first step toward freedom from porn addiction and rebuilding a stronger, more honest relationship with your wife. While this may be the hardest conversation you'll ever have, it could also be the most important one for your marriage.