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Welcome to a space of safety, acceptance, and understanding. Where we frankly and bravely dialogue about the harmful effects of pornography, betrayal trauma, and narcissistic emotional abuse. We’ll explore reclaiming your core self by more thoroughly understanding these heartbreakingly complex interpersonal situations, no matter your relationship status. You are not alone in your pain, shame, and disbelief about a reality that can feel like a living nightmare. You might have thought you had a near-perfect relationship and devoted partner. I did.
A Life, Folded is hosted by Lainey Cathan, a divorced, Christian woman. A little about Lainey: many years ago, I made the devasting discovery of my husband’s hidden life. Eventually, I chose to leave my decades-long union after trying everything humanly possible to save him and our marriage. Once his mask was removed, my unfaithful addict and covert narcissist husband cruelly and deliberately set out to destroy my heart and soul. I promised myself if I survived his horrible discard behaviors, I would dedicate my life to help others in the same situation. I’m here to help you take a journey from the dark unknown forward into healing and empowering knowledge. Onward.
#alifefolded #pornkillslove #betrayaltrauma #emotionalabuse #narcissist #narcissisticawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #cheatinghurts #selflove
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After being betrayed, abused by a narcissist, or suffering through the devastating realization of your partner's pornography use, you may feel broken. That you have nothing of value left to give. That is simply not true. We all have a divine, unique reason for being on the earth at this moment. We all have been enriched with individual talents and gifts that bring value to those around us. What is your purpose and how will you bless the world, simply by being you?
#alifefolded #PurposeDriven #purpose #purposefulliving #UniqueYou #helpingothers #helping #helpingpeople #youmatter #youmattermorethanyouknow #YouMatterAlways #healingjourney #healing #DivineDestiny #devinedesign #GoForIt #stepintoyourpower #giftsandtalents #nonfiction #nonfictionreads #selfhelpbooks #empowerment #empowerwomen #empoweringwomen #empoweredwomen
Spencer J. Condie, Russell M. Nelson : Father, Surgeon, Apostle (2003), 192
There is nothing fair about the fallout of going through betrayal trauma, being cheated on and manipulated, and being forced to pick up your life after it has exploded in your face due to actions of someone you deeply loved. But is there a way to reframe the message such that it honors your pain yet allows you to heal and start your healing?
#itsnotfair #alifefolded #depressionisnotajoke #depressionslife #depressionfighter #yourlifematters #youarenotalone #hope #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #cheatinghurts #selflove #symptomsmatter #divorce #divorcing #nervoussystemhealing #traumainformed #healingjourney
When you experience betrayal trauma in your life, it often causes resultant symptoms that can mirror PTSD. There are common behavioral, emotional, and even physical symptoms after you have been betrayed by your intimate partner. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, they are completely normal and you are not alone.
#alifefolded #depressionisnotajoke #depressionslife #depressionfighter #yourlifematters #youarenotalone #hope #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #cheatinghurts #selflove #symptomsmatter #nervoussystemhealing #traumainformed #healingjourney
Once you start to understand, heal, grow, exert boundaries, and improve yourself in any way, you will encounter the ire of the narcissists in your life. Cluster B personality-disordered individuals want you captive in the quagmire of their manipulation, gaslighting, and abuse. When you begin to break free, you might be a cause of their mask slipping, revealing to the world the monster behind the persona. Whenever they are called on their reprehensible behavior, they begin to hate you and you will forever be their enemy. But these intimidation tactics should never stop us from distancing ourselves and healing our wounds. We all deserve peace and genuine relationships in our lives.
#alifefolded #manipulation #manipulationtactics #manipulationawareness #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic #narcissistsaredangerous #gaslightingrecovery #gaslighting #gaslightingawareness #gaslightingsurvivor #gaslighting101 #glowup #GlowUpSeason #glowUpJourney
People often rationalize emotional affairs as harmless because they are "just emotional." But, the opposite is true. Emotional affairs are cheating. Emotional affairs crumble relationships as one partner goes to another for support, affirmation, and validation. This often leads to secrecy, shame, and unhealthy comparisons. This groundwork of intense emotional connection often leads to physical affairs. Porn is also another type of emotional affair, taking time and energy away from the primary relationship. If your partner has engaged in emotional affairs, your feelings of betrayal are valid. Don't let anyone tell you that emotional affairs are not cheating and that your feelings of devastation and deep pain are not valid.
#EmotionalAffair #pornischeating #hope #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #cheatinghurts #selflove
A small act of service on a difficult day changed the trajectory of my life and how I viewed everything moving forward. As we are navigating the excruciating pain of betrayal trauma and abuse at the hands of the narcissist, it is easy to begin thinking that we contribute nothing good to the world. But, take heart, the kindness learned through refining experiences do bless the world. You bless the world.
#alifefolded #betrayaltrauma #grief #griefhealing #betrayaltraumarecovery #ActsofKindness #actsofservice #ActsofLove #SmallActsBigImpact #SmallActsofKindnessChallenge #SmallActsofKindness #SmallActsBigLove #giving #giveback
When navigating the pain and uncertainty of betrayal trauma, it is not at all uncommon to have your body and nervous system go into survival mode. Everything has changed. Nothing seems real anymore. Everything you thought was true was not. You might find yourself struggling to seek to control something, anything. You might began to feel an almost compulsive need to start amassing items or to make complicated rules around activities you used to enjoy with no stress. Please be patient with yourself. Survival mode can be a way to feel like you are managing the unmanageable. Many of us have been there and self-kindness and compassion will serve you well.
#alifefolded #betrayaltrauma #grief #griefhealing #betrayaltraumarecovery #survivalmode #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic
Perhaps as you go about making your new year's goals and undertaking a self-audit of your relationships, you have come to a disconcerting realization: that you are allowing, even encouraging, people to use you as their own personal doormats. People pleasing and unfettered helping behaviors at the expense of your own needs are often a survival skill adopted to navigate toxic relationships. The problem is that when we neglect our own needs and put everyone above ourselves, we show up, but we are often resentful and feel used, misunderstood, and unloved. But, with time, healing, and strong boundaries we learn to say no, to take a break when needed so that when we do show up, we do so all in with no underlying resentment and with true gratitude to be able to help.
#alifefolded #selfcare #selfimprovement #betrayaltrauma #betrayal #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #boundaries #boundariesmatter #boundariesarebeautiful #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic
After learning that I was married to a narcissist, I began doing a lot of research to learn and make sense of my life. I was so surprised to read that one common complaint about narcissists is their purposeful habit of interrupting the proper sleep and rest of their partners. That had been my experience too; I had no idea I was not alone in living this through this kind of manipulative behavior. Why would someone who claims to love you engage in such inappropriate and harmful behaviors that create havoc with a basic human need?
#alifefolded #manipulation #manipulationtactics #manipulationawareness #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic #narcissistsaredangerous #gaslightingrecovery #gaslighting #gaslightingawareness #gaslightingsurvivor #gaslighting101
Have you suffered issues with depression after being betrayed by your intimate partner? If you have, please know that this is an extremely normal reaction to such a jarring and traumatizing event in life, but it seems that it is not spoken about as frequently as other health issues. Have you also found that when you are vulnerable and open up about your struggles, the supportive reaction that you hoped for is not always evident? Why do people seem to want to sometimes shut down when the conversation of depression is brought up, when this is such a common part of our mortal experience?
#alifefolded #depressionisnotajoke #depressionslife #depressionfighter #yourlifematters #youarenotalone #hope #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #cheatinghurts #selflove
His porn use must have something to do with you, right? If you looked more like a porn star, had the surgical enhancements they have, he'd stop, right? You can change and that will make him change, right? WRONG. Porn use, emotional affairs, and nefarious cheating has nothing to do with you and it never has. This is about an individual is choosing to hide behind porn use instead of addressing their character flaws, pain, shame, and healing work they need to do. Please, please don't ever harm yourself or alter your natural beauty because you are being gaslit that if you looked different, he'd stop. These are not the words or requests from a healthy, loving, and committed partner.
#alifefolded #alifefolded #stopporn #pornography #pornkills #pornkillslove #pornaddiction #nomore #selfesteem #selfesteemmatters #selflove #selflovejourney #selfloveisthebestlove #selflovematters #explantsurgery
https://www.antell-md.com/blog/glamour-what-no-one-ever-tells-you-about-breast-implants/
How can we discern if behaviors in our relationship are simply troubling or moving into an area where undue influence is being exerted? The concern with manipulation is that it is slow and insidious in its progression such that it eventually begins to feel normal, caring even. We can at times worry that those we love, or even ourselves, are being manipulated. But how do we know? This episode explores some of the common tactics used by manipulators to control, abuse, and exploit.
#alifefolded #manipulation #manipulationtactics #manipulationawareness #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic #narcissistsaredangerous #gaslightingrecovery #gaslighting #gaslightingawareness #gaslightingsurvivor #gaslighting101
Hoovering is a common tactic used by cluster b personality disordered individuals to suck their sources of supply back in to their cycle of abuse and drama. What is hoovering? How do you know what is real and what has been made up to influence you? How do you recognize hoovering tactics? Why is it dangerous? And, how do you protect yourself from the narcissist's unending toxic cycle of love bombing, denigration, and discard?
#alifefolded #hoovering #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic
It is common to hear things such as: porn hurts no one! It's a harmless past time! It protects me and actually keeps me from cheating. Nonsense. If individuals don't understand that porn is cheating, they need a bracing reality check. This episode delves further into how porn is permanently damaging not only the self-esteem and feelings of self-worth of the partner but ALSO the consumer of porn.
#alifefolded #stopporn #pornography #pornkills #pornkillslove #pornaddiction #nomore #selfesteem #selfesteemmatters #selflove #selflovejourney #selfloveisthebestlove #selflovematters
Why would people who have been your friends, neighbors, or even family members suddenly start to vilify and lie about you? Well, if you are removing yourself from a relationship with a narcissist or cluster b-personality disordered individual, they have to have individuals who support and champion them, no matter what horrible behavior they engage in. Hello, flying monkeys! Why do flying monkeys exist, who are they, and what is their motivation for such hurtful and unfair behavior?
#alifefolded #selfcare #selfimprovement #betrayaltrauma #betrayal #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #boundaries #boundariesmatter #boundariesarebeautiful #flyingmonkeys #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic
https://www.verywellmind.com/narcissists-and-flying-monkeys-7552473
What if what makes you the most attractive to others is when you are living your authentic life, healing, discovering yourself, and not inhabiting a space where you tell yourself you can only be happy when you have a partner?
#alifefolded #betrayal #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #selflovematters #selfcare #datingafterdivorce #datingafterbetrayal
After doing a lot of research, I learned that one common complaint about narcissists is their unsafe and erratic driving patterns. Why do so many narcissists drive unsafely?
#alifefolded #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic #narcissistsaredangerous #gaslightingrecovery #gaslighting #gaslightingawareness #gaslightingsurvivor #gaslighting101
This podcast often delves into painful subjects about abuse and betrayal and the resultant loss of dreams, loneliness, and the shattering effects from the potential dissolution of your family. However, there are joys to being single. It is wonderful to be freed from the shackles of a dysfunction partner and relationship and learn the beauty of thriving alone.
#alifefolded #postdivorce #postdivorcelife #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #cheatinghurts #selflove #happysingle #happysinglelife
When you have made the painful decision to divorce, it is sometimes easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you need to catch them just one more time in doing something wrong before the divorce is final. This can be especially true if you were married to an emotionally abusive partner who wore down your ability to trust yourself. When you know it is time to leave your marriage, you need no more reasons or vindication. It's okay to exit a relationship knowing that you did your best and made a painful, but necessary, decision and that no more evidence is needed to follow in this a correct course. And then you can move forward into your new life of peace and healing.
#alifefolded #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic #betrayaltrauma #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayaltraumahealing #cheatinghurts #selflove #divorcing
When you decide it is time to divorce your narcissistic spouse, prepare for the battle of your life. Yes, the narcissist is going to make it nasty and miserable. Yes, they are probably going to drag it out and fight everything reasonable you ask for. But there are tools to help you stay strong, get what you are legally entitled to, and keep your forward momentum forward toward peace.
#divorcinganarcissist #alifefolded #postdivorce #postdivorcelife #narcissist #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissistic
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