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Dirty Laundry with Ollie is a podcast that elevates personal stories and supports women in trusting themselves again. Through honest storytelling, gentle psychoeducation, and meaningful conversation, each season explores themes like identity, motherhood, relationships, healing, and personal growth. This is a space to unlearn the noise, reclaim your voice, and build community. My hope is that every woman who listens feels grounded, seen, empowered, and confident in who she already is. Together, we are healing out loud.
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Welcome back to Dirty Laundry with Ollie. This is a BONUS episode this week and I am so excited to share it with you. Lately, I’ve been getting more and more questions about my therapeutic services and how people can actually go about finding the right therapist. So in this episode, I wanted to slow down and talk about it. Whether you’re considering working with me or with someone else entirely, my hope is simply to help break down some of the stigma around therapy and give you a better understanding of what the process can look like.I’m joined by Sophia, another therapist from Navigate Wellness, and together we talk about how to start the search for a therapist, what to look for, and how to know if someone might be the right fit for you.If you’ve ever been curious about therapy but didn’t know where to start, this conversation is for you. And if you have questions about therapy, my services, or just want to connect, please don’t hesitate to reach out. My hope is always to educate, support, and help people feel more confident in reconnecting with themselves and their stories. AND wait till the end where I share some questions you can bring into your first session to help you feel more grounded.Links: Dirty Laundry Links Book a FREE 15 minute Introduction Navigate Wellness Connect with Sophia LPC-IT
This episode felt like a deep exhale.I’m really excited about today’s guest. Katy Rexing is a meditation coach, host of the Within podcast, retreat leader, mom, and so much more. Her work gently guides women back to themselves and reminds them that they already have everything they need within. You can check out more of her work on her website, you will not be disappointed. In today’s episode, we have a really gentle, honest conversation about coming back to yourself when life feels loud, demanding, and full of other people’s needs.We talk about meditation, but not in a complicated or intimidating way. More like… where do you even start when your brain won’t shut off and you feel like you don’t have five spare minutes to yourself?We also get into the mental load so many of us carry, especially in relationships and motherhood, what it looks like to communicate your needs to your partner without feeling guilty or like you’re asking for too much, how to stop holding everything alone, and how to name what’s actually weighing on you.Katy and I talk openly about codependency and enmeshment with our kids, not in a shame-filled way, but in a really compassionate and empowering way. We explore how to stay deeply connected to your children while also letting yourself be your own person, and how separating your emotions from theirs can actually create more peace for everyone.This conversation is soft and grounding, but also really empowering. It’s about slowing down, noticing yourself again, and realizing you’re allowed to take up space in your own life.Today on Dirty Laundry with Ollie: • How to start meditating in a way that actually feels doable • What “coming home to yourself” really looks like in everyday life • How to talk to your partner about mental load without it turning into conflict • Why carrying everything alone feels so exhausting and how to share the weight • What codependency and enmeshment with your kids can look like in real life • How to stay connected to your children while still being your own person • Simple ways to slow down, check in with yourself, and feel more groundedLinks:Dirty Laundry LinksKaty Rexing InstagramKaty’s Resources
Today we’re taking a brief pause from our motherhood season for a special National Women’s Day conversation — and in honor of Endometriosis Awareness Month — because some stories deserve their own spotlight.I’m joined by Kaity Thompson as we talk about endometriosis, medical gaslighting, and what it looks like to advocate for your body when the system isn’t listening. This episode is about female empowerment, trusting your intuition, and reclaiming your voice in spaces that try to silence it.If you’ve ever felt dismissed, doubted, or unseen — this one is for you.Links:Dirty Laundry LinksConnect with Kaity
There is something sacred about female friendship and something stretching about it, too. In this ✨special✨collaboration with Three Peas and a Pod, we sit down for an honest, gentle conversation about how life transitions, especially entering motherhood, can quietly or loudly shift the rhythm of our friendships. What happens when one friend becomes a mom and the others do not? How do we stay connected when our nervous systems are fried, our identities are evolving, and our calendars look nothing alike?We talk about supporting new mothers, what it tangibly looks like to show up well, and how women in motherhood can extend grace back to their single or child-free friends. We also unpack the cultural urgency around nervous system regulation, the pressure to heal faster, and how enmeshment with our children can blur identity and friendship boundaries. This episode is honest, therapeutic, and full of encouragement for women navigating friendship transitions, postpartum life, identity shifts, and emotional regulation.Because maybe the question is not, Why has this friendship changed?Maybe it is, How can we love each other better in this season?NOTE: I have been learning SO much from Katy Rexing and her podcast, Within. Some of the ideas/ concepts I mentioned were learned from her. With that being said, I want to give credit where credit is due. I would HIGHLY recommend checking her out! On this episode of Dirty Laundry, we explore:How female friendships shift during motherhood and major life transitionsPractical ways to support a new mom, including meals, housework, and real emotional supportWhy our culture’s obsession with nervous system regulation can create more urgency than healingUnderstanding enmeshment in motherhood and how to maintain identity and healthy boundariesHow to extend grace, empathy, and emotional maturity to friends in different seasons of lifeIf you have ever felt the quiet grief of a changing friendship, the overwhelm of early motherhood, or the tension of loving someone whose life looks different than yours, this one will feel like a deep breath.Links: Dirty Laundry LinksThree Peas Friendship Book
Welcome back to Dirty Laundry with Ollie—this season is all about motherhood.The beautiful parts, the messy parts, and everything we don’t usually say out loud. Around here, we don’t fold it up neatly, we air it out. Real stories, honest conversations, and reminders that you’re not alone in this. So wherever you’re listening from, take a breath… this is motherhood, aired out. On today’s episode, I’m sitting down with former Broncos cheerleader, design enthusiast, business owner, wife, mama, and everything in between, Sophie Gregory. We’re talking honestly about the transition into motherhood and the identity shifts that come with it — who you are as a woman, a partner, and a professional once kids enter the picture.We get into balancing life and homemaking, the mental load no one warns you about, real conversations around partnership, support, and the courage it takes to ask for help — including navigating mom guilt along the way. Sophie also shares what it’s really like building a business while raising a family, how faith anchors her in the chaos, and what it means to create a life rooted in purpose, peace, and legacy. This one is real, grounding, and full of permission. Please enjoy!LINKS:Dirty Laundry with Ollie LinksSophie’s InstagramQuilt Website Book: Habits of the Household
Welcome back to Dirty Laundry with Ollie—this season is all about motherhood.The beautiful parts, the messy parts, and everything we don’t usually say out loud. Around here, we don’t fold it up neatly, we air it out. Real stories, honest conversations, and reminders that you’re not alone in this. So wherever you’re listening from, take a breath… this is motherhood, aired out. In this episode, I’m joined by Kate Lowman—mom of three boys (9, 7, and 3), an Ohio-based creative, former corporate retail merchant turned mom, stylist, Substack writer, and an all-around incredible human. We talk about the quiet ways moms stop showing up for themselves—and how something as simple as getting dressed each day can shift your mood, confidence, and sense of self. From “what do I wear besides leggings?” to dressing a body that keeps changing, Kate shares practical, guilt-free advice for feeling put together without adding pressure.We cover rituals, romanticizing everyday life, decision fatigue, closet staples, sustainable shopping, and why buying clothes that fit right now actually matters.If you’ve ever felt disconnected, lonely, or like the old you is on pause—this episode is your permission slip to show up for yourself again.Comfortable. Confident. No perfection required.Links:Dirty Laundry LinksRequest the 2026 Goal Guide: hello@dirtylaundrywithollie.comKate Lowman Kate’s Substack
January has a way of sneaking up on us with a clipboard.New year. New goals. New version of you. Welcome back to another episode of Dirty Laundry with Ollie and HAPPY NEW YEAR. Today marks one official year of Dirty Laundry and I am just so grateful to be here. If you’ve been here since the beginning or this is your first episode, I just want to say THANK YOU for listening. I am super excited about today’s episode because I am joined by my friends Erin and Rhianna. Today we’re chatting about GOALS and new years resolutions. Here’s a question for you…What if the goals we’re setting aren’t actually ours?What if they’re born from pressure… comparison… or the belief that rest has to be earned?In this episode, we’re slowing the conversation down. We’re talking about the goals we set because we think we’re supposed to and the ones that look good publicly—but quietly drain us privately.We’re asking the uncomfortable questions:How do you know when a goal is aligned versus just noise?Where do you think the pressure to “optimize our entire lives” actually comes from?What would change if we measured goals by how we feel instead of what we produce?And more…We’ll name the guilt, the pressure, the quiet habits that actually sustain growth, and the goals no one will ever see on Instagram. Maybe the problem isn’t that we’re failing at goals. Maybe the problem is how we’ve been taught to measure success.Let’s get into it!!Links:Dirty Laundry LinksRequest the 2026 Goal Guide: hello@dirtylaundrywithollie.comRhianna WienssErin Monfre
In this deeply moving episode of Dirty Laundry with Ollie, we sit with a couple as they share the story of their son, Quinn, who was stillborn. They take us back to the early days of pregnancy—the anticipation, the excitement, and the moment everything shifted. With heartfelt honesty, they talk about the day they learned something wasn’t right, what it was like to leave the hospital without their baby, and how their minds, bodies, and spirits have navigated the weight of grief.We explore the realities of postpartum after loss and the confusion of a body grieving differently than the heart. They open up about therapy, somatic work, and the courage it takes to grieve out loud in a culture that often prefers silence.They share the tender complexities of telling Quinn’s story, the emotional pause when someone asks how many children they have, and the intentional ways they keep Quinn’s presence alive. Now expecting again, they reflect on carrying new life while honoring the memory of the one they lost.This episode is for anyone touched by loss, longing, or fresh grief. It offers compassion, connection, and the reminder that healing isn’t a destination—it’s a daily practice.Links:Dirty Laundry Links
This week on Dirty Laundry with Ollie, we’re joined by Cedric, a counselor whose journey toward healing began in the aftermath of unimaginable loss. When his childhood best friend passed away, it became the moment that shifted everything, sparking not only his faith but also his purpose.In this heartfelt conversation, we explore what it truly means to move through grief rather than simply get over it. Cedric opens up about the lessons learned from loss, the ways grief can shape who we become, and how pain can ultimately point us toward purpose. Together, we unpack how men and women often experience and express grief differently, and the influence that culture, faith, and even feminism have on men’s mental health and identity.This episode also dives into the heart of vulnerability: what healthy emotional expression looks like, how women can support the men in their lives without rescuing or minimizing, and how men can reclaim the courage to feel deeply without shame.Because healing isn’t weakness; it’s courage in motion. It’s learning to let go without losing who you are.LINKS: Dirty Laundry Links Cedric Hoard’s Instagram Cedric’s Book
Today on Dirty Laundry with Ollie, a space for real stories, honest conversation, and healing out loud we’re opening the door to a story that is both deeply personal and painfully common — a story about motherhood, mental health, and the complicated, often flawed systems that families are forced to navigate.Our guest is a mother whose son lives with multiple mental health diagnoses and has had significant interaction with the criminal justice system, including a false accusation that changed the course of their lives. To protect her family’s privacy and to honor the sensitivity of what she’s sharing, she will not be visible on video, and we will not be using her or her son’s names. Their identities will stay confidential, but their experience is no less real and no less important.As you listen, I invite you to approach this conversation with empathy rather than judgment. This is not a story about blame. It’s a story about a mother doing everything she can for her child, and about the holes in our systems that often fail the very people who need the most support.We’re here to shed light, not shame. To ask better questions. To understand the human beings behind the headlines. And to offer space for healing out loud, even when that healing has to happen behind the scenes.This is Dirty Laundry — where we honor the truth, hold space for the hard, and believe that storytelling can help change the way we care for one another.Links / Resources: Dirty Laundry with Ollie LinksTED Talk “A Tale of Mental IllnessI’m including a link to the TED Talk “A Tale of Mental Illness— a powerful story from a woman living with schizophrenia who has built meaningful friendships, found success, and continues to live a full life. While the individual in our episode has a different diagnosis, this talk is a reminder that people with mental illness deserve the same dignity, opportunity, and respect as anyone else and that their lives hold inherent worth and limitless potential, regardless of what they do or accomplish.Books:The Autism Spectrum, Sexuality, and the LawAutism Spectrum Disorder, Developmental Disabilities and the Criminal Justice SystemRepresenting People with Mental Disabilities Caught in the Web of the Criminal Justice SystemDemystifying Disability - What to Know, What to Say, and How to be an Ally The PDA Effect - An Autistic Teenager’s Guide to UnderstandingNeurodiversity – Affirming Handbook
In this special Thanksgiving episode, we’re pressing pause on the grief season and leaning into gratitude — the kind that comes from remembering where it all began.We take it back to the story that changed everything for us. The day we found out we were pregnant with our son, Wes. You’ll hear both sides of the story — what it was like in that exact moment, what we felt, how we told each other, and how that one “ordinary” day became one of the most defining moments of our lives.From there, we open up about what gratitude really looks like for us. Not just during the holidays, but in the messy, beautiful, everyday moments of marriage and parenthood. We talk about the blessings that didn’t feel like blessings at first, the ways uncertainty shaped our faith, and how we’ve learned to romanticize the small things.Stay till the end because Zach shares some practical ways to bring gratitude into your daily life — small habits that can help shift your perspective and deepen your joy in the season you’re in.This episode is about remembering, reflecting, and realizing how gratitude has changed the way we love, parent, and live.Grab your coffee, take a breath, and join us as we look back on the moment that started it all and celebrate the heart of Thanksgiving: gratitude.Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Dirty Laundry Links
This week on Dirty Laundry with Ollie, we pull back the curtain on a story that proves even under the brightest lights, shadows can linger.Our guest, Lauren Sisler, is an Emmy Award–winning ESPN sideline reporter – a familiar face on college football Saturdays. But before the cameras, before the confidence and the sideline smiles, came a tragedy that would change her life forever.At just 18 years old, during her freshman year at Rutgers University, Lauren lost both of her parents—within hours of each other—to hidden battles with prescription drug addiction. It’s a story she carried silently for years, even as she chased her dreams and built a career on resilience and professionalism.In this raw and deeply human conversation, Lauren shares what it means to grieve in a world that keeps watching, how shame can silence healing, and how she eventually learned to dance again—both on and off the sidelines.This isn’t just a story about loss. It’s a story about faith, authenticity, and the courage to let your pain become your purpose.Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Dirty Laundry LinksLauren Sisler’s websiteLauren on social media: Instagram Facebook X LinkedIn YouTube Sideline ShimmyShatterproof: How I Overcame the Shame of Losing My Parents to Opioid Addiction (and Found My Sideline Shimmy)
In this powerful episode of Dirty Laundry Podcast, we sit down with Reja, whose story is woven with love, loss, resilience, and an unshakable will to keep moving forward. From the joys and struggles of being high school sweethearts with her husband to the heartbreak of losing him far too soon, Reja’s life has been marked by grief that could have broken her—but instead became the fuel for her strength.Her story is layered: surviving her own near-death experience where she flatlined for seven seconds, walking through the pain of her father’s passing, and shouldering the weight of raising her son and daughter alone after her husband’s death. Through it all, she has been the backbone not only for her family but for herself—choosing again and again to stand back up when life tried to keep her down.What makes Reja’s journey remarkable is not just what she endured but how she flipped the script. She transformed tragedy into testimony, refusing to be defined only by loss. Instead, she has learned to carry grief and resilience side by side, turning pain into purpose.At its heart, this conversation is about legacy, love, and the power of choosing strength when the world gives you every reason to give up.LINKS / NOTES: Dirty Laundry Links Reja’s Instagram Reja’s Website Free Mobility Work with Reja
In this episode we sit down with grief counselor Melissa Minkley to explore one of the most universal yet often misunderstood human experiences: grief. From her personal journey into this work to the insights she’s gained walking alongside others, Melissa helps us unpack what grief really is and why it matters that we understand it beyond the loss of a loved one.Together we talk about the many ways grief shows up, in death, in divorce, in illness, in unmet dreams, and in countless other life transitions. We challenge common misconceptions, explore how grief is different from sadness or depression, and discuss the physical, emotional, and spiritual toll it can take when it goes unrecognized. We also dive into how culture and upbringing shape the way people process loss and what it means to build resilience in the midst of it all.Our conversation also introduces The Power of Showing Up, a training Melissa offers through The Grief Training Center of Wisconsin. Listeners will learn why presence often matters more than advice, how the “Three-Legged Stool” approach can guide us, and what true empathy looks like in action. We highlight practical ways to recognize distress, strengthen active listening, and set healthy boundaries while still being deeply supportive.Whether you’ve experienced loss yourself or want to better walk alongside others, this episode will give you tools, insights, and encouragement to lean into connection, empathy, and resilience.Stay tuned until the end to learn how to connect with Melissa Minkley and get involved with The Grief Training Center of Wisconsin.LINKS / NOTES: Dirty Laundry Links Grief Wellness Homepage | Grief Wellness Center
In this episode, I sit down with a mother whose life was forever changed by the tragic loss of her daughter, Esther.She shares her story of that devastating day and her journey of grief. We talk about what it means to grieve as a parent while still showing up for her other children, and the emotional duality of holding both grief and joy at the same time.We also explore how friendships shifted, what helped (and what hurt) in the aftermath, and the surprising ways her children have carried their grief — from dressing up Esther’s bear for Halloween to navigating milestones she’ll never reach.This conversation is raw, powerful, and deeply human. If you’re walking through grief, you’ll hear hard-won wisdom, tender hope, and a reminder that it’s okay not to be okay. Remembrance WOD: ESTHER JOBuy In: Bike 313 calories10 Rounds:9 Thrusters 135/1058 Bar Facing BurpeesCash Out: 28 Bar Muscle Ups313 calories for how many days we were blessed with her. 10 months, 9 days.If this hurts half as much as it hurts to lose you. I love you Esther Jo ❤️Dirty Laundry LinksBereaved Together Book: It's Ok That You’re Not Ok Taylor’s Instagram//Water bead Advocacy Resources//https://abc7ny.com/amp/post/toy-water-bead-recall-esther-bethard-recalled-products-beads/13805513/https://abc3340.com/news/spotlight-on-america/why-does-it-take-a-child-to-die-before-a-product-is-recalled-spotlight-on-america-water-beads-dangerous-products-buffalo-games-chuckle-and-roar-activity-kit-consumer-product-safety-commissionhttps://www.consumerreports.org/babies-kids/toys/consumer-safety-agency-new-rules-water-beads-neck-floats-a2051187866/https://www.consumerreports.org/babies-kids/toys/water-beads-pose-a-serious-safety-risk-to-children-a6431187819/
Love With No Place to Go: a Season on the Duality of GriefGrief has a way of reshaping us. It’s the shadow that follows love, the ache that lingers when someone or something dear is gone. But grief isn’t only sorrow—it’s memory, it’s presence, it’s love with no place left to land.In this season, we’ll explore the duality of grief: how it pulls us into the depths of loss while also teaching us to notice the beauty of what remains. Through honest conversations and tender stories, we’ll hold space for both heartbreak and hope, laughter and longing, absence and presence.Season 05 is about the tension of living in between—the place where love and grief walk hand in hand.In this week’s episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing business owner, influencer, WBCA hall of famer, and Milwaukee Icon, Erin Monfre. What an absolute honor.What does grief teach us about love, resilience, and living with purpose?Today, you will hear Erin share her powerful story of losing her mom at 21 and how that loss continues to shape her life today. Erin opens up about her favorite memories with her mom, the day everything changed, and the ongoing cycles of grief through milestones and everyday moments.We talk about how grief has reshaped her relationships, her ability to set boundaries, and her passion for creating Black Box, a space “where movement meets mental health.” Erin shares how fitness has been both healing and empowering, and how she helps others navigate grief and mental health through movement.This conversation is encouraging, honest, and full of hope for anyone who has experienced loss or loves someone who has.🎧 Tune in to hear Erin’s story of love, loss, and the strength to keep moving forward.LINKS: Dirty Laundry Links Erin MonfreBlack Box 100Workout Freebie
A podcast special: What happens when two friends sit down, drop their guards, and share the kind of secrets that never make it into group chat? In this episode, we go deep—exploring the raw, unfiltered truths of our lives, and how vulnerability shapes the bond between women. From whispered confessions to laugh-until-you-cry moments, we unpack what female friendship really means: the unspoken support, the hard conversations, the joy, and the heartbreak.It’s intimate, it’s messy, it’s real—just like the best friendships.//Show Notes//- Dirty Laundry Website- Dirty Laundry Instagram- Book - Fighting for Our Friendships: The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women's Relationships
S04E30 What happens when your marriage, your dreams, and your faith are all tested at once?In this powerful episode, we sit down with Becky and Mike as they open up about their journey—one marked by deep love, devastating loss, and a relentless pursuit of healing. From the early years of marriage filled with hope and plans for the future, to the heartbreak of infertility, multiple miscarriages, and the weight of unspoken grief, their story is a raw look into the realities many couples silently carry.Becky shares the emotional rollercoaster of fertility testing, surprise pregnancies, and what it felt like to miscarry in silence. Mike offers his perspective on navigating invisible depression and learning how to show up when he didn’t have the answers. Together, they unpack the strain that grief placed on their relationship—and the healing they found when they turned back toward God and each other.You’ll hear how they walked through adoption, wrestled with identity and loss, and ultimately found a deeper connection by surrendering the expectations they once clung to.Whether you’re in the thick of a hard season or supporting someone who is, this conversation is a reminder: there is still hope on the other side of heartbreak.//Show Links//]Dirty Laundry Website
S04E29 In this thought-provoking episode of Dirty Laundry, we sit down with Morley Robbins—creator of the Root Cause Protocol and widely known as the “Magnesium Man”—to explore a rarely discussed angle of infertility: mineral imbalance.Morley shares insights from years of research and thousands of one-on-one consultations, diving into how the delicate interplay between magnesium, iron, copper, and calcium may be at the root of chronic symptoms, including hormonal dysfunction and fertility struggles. If you’ve felt frustrated by conventional answers—or lack thereof—when it comes to infertility, this episode offers a fresh perspective worth considering.Please Note: I am not a doctor, and this is not medical advice. I don’t endorse everything shared in this episode, but I do believe Morley is a valuable resource. This conversation is meant to spark curiosity, not offer absolute truth. Do your own research, ask questions, and use this episode as a stepping stone on your journey toward understanding your body.// Show Links //Dirty Laundry WebsiteRoot Cause Protocol Supplements Root Cause Protocol Instagram Stops and StartsMorley's Email: morleyrobbins@gmail.comMorley's Phone Number: 847-922-8061
S04E28 What is it like to bring a baby into the world at 19— and then make the brave, heartbreaking decision to place him for adoption?In today’s episode, Trina shares her story from the very beginning: finding out she was pregnant, navigating school, family, and relationships, and the emotional process of choosing adoption. She opens up about how she chose the adoptive family, what it felt like healing from a C-section without a baby in her arms, and the complex journey of grief, identity, and grieving someone who is still alive.We also dive into what she wishes more adoptive parents understood about loving and honoring birth moms—not just in the adoption process, but for a lifetime.This conversation is raw, vulnerable, and full of wisdom for anyone touched by adoption or the unseen layers of motherhood, sacrifice, and love.
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