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☕️ Coffee and Conversations for MEN🎙 #18 Episode Title: Men’s Health – Topics We Avoid Talking to Our Doctors About🎯 Theme: Breaking the Silence on Men’s Health🎧 Episode OverviewMen often avoid talking about health issues until something forces the conversation. In this episode, Jay and Brian explore the topics men commonly skip with their doctors—from sleep, heart health, and sexual health to stress, nutrition, and preventive care. With honesty and vulnerability, they highlighthow avoidance affects fitness, nutrition, mental health, relationships, and lifelong learning—and how awareness and advocacy can change your life.💡 Key Messages-Men often normalize symptoms until it’s too late—listening to your body matters.-Fitness, nutrition, and stress are interconnected; ignoring one affects the others.-Mental health is part of overall health—therapy and self-advocacy are strength, not weakness.-Relationships and sexual health matter—shame and stigma should not prevent care.-Lifelong learning includes understanding your health, asking questions, and taking action.☕️ 0:48 Overview☕️ 2:10 What’s in Your Coffee Cup?Jay – Café Cabrera Cuba☕️ 3:24 The Why???💪 5:27 Fitness & Men’s Health: Listening to Your Body-Recognizing warning signs in sleep, heart rhythm, and overtraining-Fitness as empowerment vs. masking underlying issues🥦 20:15 Nutrition & Men’s Health: Fuelling for Life-Weight, blood sugar, and metabolic health impacts-Overcoming denial and embracing small, sustainable changes🧠 27:09 Mental Health & Men’s Health: Naming the Unspoken-Stress, anxiety, and depression in men-Therapy, self-advocacy, and addressing symptoms beyond the physical❤️ 35:24  Relationships & Men’s Health: Sexual and Emotional Well-being-Prostate health, sexual function, vasectomies, and STI awareness-Recognizing partner violence and seeking support without shame📘 50:45  Lifelong Learning: Advocating for Yourself-Asking questions, tracking your health, and taking informed action-Turning avoidance into awareness and creating a proactive health plan📚 Referenced ResourcesSupport for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse: 1-866-887-0015 (toll free)Addis,M. E., & Mahalik, J. R. (2003).Men, masculinity, and the contexts of help seeking. American Psychologist, 58(1),5–14.https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.58.1.5Courtenay, W. H. (2000)Constructions of masculinity and their influence on men’s well-being: A theory of gender and health. Social Science & Medicine, 50(10), 1385–1401.https://doi.org/10.1016/S0277-9536(99)00390-1Galdas, P. M., Cheater, F., & Marshall, P. (2005).Men and health help-seeking behaviour: Literature review. Journal of Advanced Nursing, 49(6), 616–623.https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1365-2648.2004.03331.xMahalik, J. R., Burns, S. M., & Syzdek, M. (2007).Masculinity and perceived normative health behaviors as predictors of men’s health behaviors. Social Science & Medicine, 64(11), 2201–2209.https://doi.org/10.1016/j.socscimed.2007.02.035World Health Organization. (2018).The health and well-being of men in the WHO European Region: Better health through a gender approach.💬 Final Reflection“Taking care of your health doesn’t make you weak, it keeps you presentfor your partner, friends, family, your future, and yourself.”“Silence doesn’t protect you; it can cost you. Awareness and action arestrength.”“Men’s health is more than physical, it’s fitness, nutrition, mental health,relationships, and lifelong learning combined.”👥 Join the ConversationDM us or email to share your experience with men’s health. This podcastis a space for men to grow, learn, and be real together.Jay and Brian📲 Connect with UsInstagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMENEmail: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.comFacebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN 

☕️ Coffee and Conversations for MENEpisode Title: Building Muscle After 40, Losing the Gut, and Escaping the All-or-Nothing TrapHosts: Jay & BrianGuest: Coach Lee HaywardIn this episode of Coffee and Conversations for MEN, Jay and Brian sit down with Coach Lee Hayward from Newfoundland, Canada — a former competitive bodybuilder and one of the true pioneers of online fitness coaching.Lee launched his Total Fitness Bodybuilding website way back in 1997, began creating YouTube content in 2006, and in 2011 was selected as the top bodybuilding coach in YouTube’s Next Trainer Program.Today, Lee’s mission is clear: helping men over 40 build muscle, lose fat, and reclaim their confidence through his Muscle After 40 Blueprint Coaching Program.We dive deep into Lee’s popular “Lose Your Gut Challenge” and connect it to our Five Pillars: Fitness, Nutrition, Relationships, Mental Health, and Lifelong Learning.⏱ Episode Timeline & Topics0:54 – Episode Overview2:00 – What’s In Your Cup? ☕️Jay's coffee: https://49thcoffee.com/?srsltid=AfmBOop5f2h7i7nQ2oxr34xdEdZDnNm7sXbr1QZkHT4jbYBUOq0ws-iXBrian's coffee: https://balzacs.com/?srsltid=AfmBOooSK6zkv8Y7FZZcq2NsyVvFXHmyuN7RWIEx24G2QtPHT0a5Qdpj💪 FITNESS3:46 – Feeling intimidated returning to the gym? Lee shares practical advice for men starting over without embarrassment.5:22 – Escaping the all-or-nothing trap: what realistic, sustainable training looks like for busy men.9:16 – How Lee’s training philosophy changed after stepping away from competitive bodybuilding and becoming a father.🥗 NUTRITION10:37 – “No starving, no cutting carbs, no crash diets”: the core philosophy behind Lee’s sustainable nutrition approach.12:27 – Moving beyond chicken-and-broccoli diets to enjoyable, realistic eating habits.16:26 – Learning to recognize emotional eating vs. convenience eating vs. true hunger.🤝 RELATIONSHIPS18:40 – Balancing family responsibilities with fitness goals—without guilt.22:29 – Why community and accountability are game-changers for long-term success.26:06 – How to avoid the comparison trap and stay focused on your own journey.🧠 MENTAL HEALTH31:26 – The “yo-yo trap”: how much of it is mental—and how men can finally break the cycle.35:20 – Fitness as therapy: how consistent movement and nutrition build mental resilience.29:08 – From competitive bodybuilding to sustainable fitness coaching: the biggest lessons Lee had to unlearn.📚 LIFELONG LEARNING38:10 – Essential mindset shifts for staying strong, lean, and healthy after 40.43:09 – The one skill every man should learn to support lifelong health.46:12 – Advice Lee would give his younger self.47:53 – What’s next for Coach Lee?50:40 – Wrap-Up & Final ThoughtsHow to Contact LEE HAYWARD🌐 Blog: https://leehayward.com/blog/🔥 Lose Your Gut Challenge: https://leehayward.com/blog/lose-your-gut-challenge-2025/📧 Email: LeeHayward.com@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @leemhaywardA space for real men, real talk, and real growth.— Jay & Brian📸 Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4men▶️ YouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMEN📘 Facebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN📧 Email: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com

☕ Coffee and Conversations for MenEpisode #16 – Q&AEverything from Mental Health, Masculinity, Mindfulness & the Modern ManYou asked. We answered.In this Q&A episode, Jay & Brian dive into powerful listener questions from around the world, exploring what it means to be a modern man navigating strength, vulnerability, mental health, relationships, and self-growth. Honest conversations, practical insights, and grounded wisdom,over a great cup of coffee.0:45 – Episode OverviewJay & Brian set the tone for the episode, sharing what inspired this Q&A and why these conversations matter for men today.1:40 – What’s In Your Cup?This month's coffee feature: Ground Kopi Luwak Coffee from wallaceacoffee.com ☕A brief conversation about flavour, ritual, from CAT SHIT Coffee6:02 – How do I balance being strong and being vulnerable?(Mark – Australia)True strength isn’t emotional suppression, it’s courage. The guys discuss redefining strength as honesty, emotional ownership, and intentional vulnerability. Learn how “selective vulnerability” helps men stay grounded while being authentic.11:05 – Why do men see anxiety, depression, and burnout as weakness, especially with other men?(James – Manitoba, Canada)Cultural expectations around masculinity have taught men to equate emotional struggle with failure. This segment explores stigma, silent competition among men, and why breaking the pattern requires someone willing to go first.16:55 – Why do men struggle to connect with and express their emotions?(Francois – Toronto, Canada)Many men were never taught emotional language. Jay & Brian unpack emotional illiteracy, conditioning from childhood, and why emotional expression is a learnable skill, not a personality trait.22:44 – Why do men have difficulty talking about their feelings?(João Carlos – São Paulo, Brazil)Talking about emotions feels risky when men are trained to fix problems rather than feel them. This discussion explores fear of judgment, lack of emotional roadmaps, and why discomfort doesn’t mean inability.27:24 – How do I open up without feeling like a burden to the people I care about?(Anu – New Zealand)Sharing struggles is an act of trust, not weakness. Learn how structured vulnerability, clear communication, and asking for consent to share can deepen connection instead of overwhelming loved ones.38:15 – How can I practice better self-talk without suppressing my inner demons?(Chris – Ontario, Canada)Healthy self-talk isn’t denial, it’s relationship. Jay & Brian explore self-distancing, naming emotions, and how to acknowledge difficult thoughts without letting them take control.43:49 – What questions can I ask my partner to show vulnerability?(Pat – Elora, Ontario, Canada)Practical, relationship-building questions that invite emotional intimacy, safety, and connection, without forcing or oversharing.66:00 – What if I’m not where I thought I’d be in life?(Ben – Ontario, Canada)Feeling “behind” is common, especially when success is measured by timelines. This conversation reframes progress through growth, self-compassion, and letting go of unrealistic expectations.ResourcesJustin Baldoni – Man EnoughBrené Brown – Daring GreatlyDavid Deida – The Way of the Superior ManLewis Howes – The Mask of MasculinityDr. Sue Johnson – Hold Me TightEthan Kross – ChatterAmir Levine & Rachel Heller – AttachedMark Manson – The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck*Have a question you want answered on the show?DM us and we’ll include it in an upcoming episode.This is a space for real men, real talk, and real growth.— Jay & BrianInstagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMENFacebook: Coffee and Conversations for MENEmail: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com

☕ Coffee & Conversations for Men2025 Season 1  Recap: Real Talk, Real GrowthIn this special episode, Jay and Brian sit down to reflect onSeason 1 of Coffee & Conversations for Men, the wins, the hardconversations, and the moments that stretched us as men.This season wasn’t about having all the answers. It was about asking better questions.From men’s health and discipline to identity, grief, finances, andaddiction, Season 1 challenged the idea that strength is just muscle or money, and replaced it with balance, self-awareness, and community.Grab a coffee and join us as we revisit the conversations that shaped the foundation of this podcast.🔁 Season 1 Episode Recap3:48  #1 – More Than Muscle: The Missing Piece of Men’s HealthWhy physical fitness alone isn’t enough and how mental, emotional, and relational health complete the picture.5:26  #2 – From Stuck to Unstoppable: The DISCIPLINE Blueprint for MenBreaking through procrastination and excuses by redefining discipline as daily alignment, not punishment.7:58  #3 – Behind the Mask: Tackling Insecurities in Fitness, Relationships & BeyondAn honest look at what men hide and how vulnerability becomes real strength.10:15  #4 – Permission to Say NO: People Pleasing & Setting BoundariesWhy boundaries aren’t selfish and how saying “no” protects your purpose.12:57  #5 – Men Behaviour: The Good, The Bad, The UglyExamining learned behaviours, accountability, and how men can choose growth over reaction.16:30  #6 – Father Figures: Real Role Models for Real LifeThe impact of fatherhood, mentorship, and becoming the example you may never have had.17:19  #7 BONUS – Interview with Justin BrothersHealthy at HOME to YOUR HOME Discovering real food freedom andsustainable health.17:40  #8 – Beyond Blood: FindingYour Tribe & AlliesWhy brotherhood matters and how strong communities change men’s lives.20:14  #9 BONUS – Interview with Mark SparvellAuthor of Good Brain, Bad Brain Understanding how your brain works for (or against) you.21:02  #10 – Turning Failure into Fuel & Rejection into ResetsReframing setbacks as tools for growth, not proof you should quit.23:13  #11 – If the Purpose Isn’t the Paycheque, Where Do You Find Your Identity?Unpacking identity beyond work, titles, and external validation.25:25  #12 – From Breakdown to Breakthrough: A Real Talk About GriefAn honest conversation about loss, healing, and giving men permission to grieve.27:28  #13 – The Financial Fight No One Trained You ForMoney, stress, responsibility, and why financial literacy is emotional literacy.29:27   #14 – Four Addictions, One Truth: Rock Bottom Looks Different for EveryoneUnderstanding addiction, shame, and the universal need for help and honesty.32:00.  Wrap Up: What does season #2 look like?🎯 What Season 1 Was Really About* Growth over perfection* Awareness before action* Strength through connection* Becoming intentional men in a distracted world👊 What’s Next* Season #1 laid the groundwork. Season 2 builds the house.* If you’ve been walking this journey with us — thank you. If you’re just joining, start anywhere and stay awhile.Because better men build better lives.This is a space for real men, real talk, and real growth.— Jay & BrianInstagram:@coffeeandconversations4menYouTube:@CoffeeandConversationsforMENFacebook:Coffee and Conversations for MENEmail: ⁠CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com⁠

☕️ Coffee and Conversations for MEN💡 Podcast Theme: Four Addictions-One Truth: Rockbottom looks different for everyone.Subtitle idea: Exploring Addiction Through four different lives: Justin, Ben, Zac and Colin.In this deeply honest and unfiltered episode, we explore addiction through the lived experiences of four men—Justin, Ben, Zac, and Colin—each fought a different battle, but all confronted the same truth: addiction is a war most men were never taught how to fight.From alcohol to cocaine to the grief of losing family members to addiction, we unpack how substance use impacts every dimension of a man’s life—the body, the mind, relationships, and long-term growth.Through these stories, we challenge the stigma surrounding men and addiction, and highlight the resilience, community, and emotional literacy needed to heal.This episode is for any man who feels alone in the struggle, any family trying to understand addiction, and anyone ready to break generational cycles.🧭 Key Takeaways🧩 Overarching MessagesAddiction is not a character flaw — it’s a complex, often silent,struggle.Men are conditioned to suppress, hide, and self-medicate pain rather thanexpress it.Recovery requires community, vulnerability, and a willingness to rebuild.You can’t fight addiction alone, and you shouldn’t have to.00:44  Introduction01:55. What’s In Your Cup?            Jay: https://silverscootercoffee.com/            Brian: https://www.streetsaheadcoffeeroasters.ca/🏋️ FITNESS4:08 Justin’s Story – Alcohol AddictionKey Message: Addiction slowly breaks down the body, but discipline and movement can help rebuild it.💡 Takeaways:Alcohol addiction often leads to physical decline: reduced strength, inflammation, exhaustion, and long-term health complications.Fitness becomes a framework for recovery, discipline in the gymtranslates into discipline in managing cravings.🧠 MENTAL HEALTH19:54 Ben’s Story – Cocaine AddictionKey Message: Addiction and mental health are inseparable; one always affects the other.💡 Takeaways:Cocaine addiction often co-exists with anxiety, depression, trauma, or emotional avoidance.Addiction masks emotional pain temporarily, but worsens it long-term.❤️ RELATIONSHIPS35:30 Zac’s Story – Alcohol AddictionKey Message: Addiction doesn’t destroy relationships overnight—it's a slow erosion of trust, connection, and communication.💡 Takeaways:Alcohol addiction deeply impacts spouse/partners, children, friends, and extended family.Family support and groups like AA can accelerate healing for everyone involved.📚 LIFE-LONG LEARNING49:49 Colin’s Story – Family Loss toAddictionKey Message: Recovery only happens when the addict wants to change.💡 Takeaways:Colin lost both his brother and brother-in-law to addiction, turning his grief into advocacy and learning.Knowledge allows families to support loved ones without enabling destructive patterns.🎧 Listen Now If You…Are battling addiction or supporting someone who isWant to better understand the emotional, relational, and physical impacts of substance useFeel stuck, ashamed, or overwhelmed by cravings, triggers, or past mistakes📌 Resources MentionedA 7 Step Handbook for Ending Any Addiction — Lance M. DodesFreedom from Our Addictions — Russell BrandA Father’s Journey Through His Son’s Addiction — David SheffHow Science and Kindness Help People Change — Jeffrey Foote, Carrie Wilkens, Nicole Kosanke & Stephanie Higgs🎙️ Hosted by Jay and BrianIf this episode moved you, please subscribe, rate, and share.No man should fight addiction alone, and after today, you don’t have to.Forward this link to a friend.📲 Connect with UsInstagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMENEmail: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.comFacebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN

Show Notes☕️ Coffee and Conversations for MEN🎙 #12 Episode Title: From Breakdown to Breakthrough: A Real Talk About GRIEF🎯 Theme: Grief, Loss & the Hidden Stories Men Carry🎧 Episode OverviewIn this powerful and revealing episode, Jay and Brian open the door to one of the most unspoken and misunderstood experiences for men: grief. But not just the grief of losing someone—this is a conversation about the many formsof loss that go unnamed.From lost careers to death of loved ones, from injuries and aging bodies to broken friendships, this episode explores how men experience grief in silence—and how that silence shapes our fitness, food, emotions, and identity.With honesty and vulnerability, Jay and Brian share personal stories and insights that help listeners recognize and release the grief they didn’t even know they were carrying.💡 Key Messages-Grief isn’t just death—it’s the loss of identity, dreams, relationships, and time.-If you don’t process grief, it processes you—through your habits, health, and hidden pain.-Movement and food can be healing—but they can also be a mask for what hurts.-Giving grief a name is the first step toward healing.-You don’t need a funeral to grieve. And you don’t need to suffer insilence.☕️ 0:47 Overview ☕️ 2:08 The Why??? ☕️ 4:21 What’s in Your Coffee Cup?Jay – https://www.receivercoffee.com/collections/coffeeBrian – https://estatescoffee.com/🔍 Featured Topics & Segments💪 6:16 Fitness & Grief: When Movement Masks the Pain-Grieving the body, career, and routine post-retirement-Obsessive fitness as control and coping-Numbness hidden behind wellness🥦 15:23 Nutrition & Grief: When Regret Shows Up on Your Plate-Emotional eating as silent grief-The gut-brain-grief connection-Comfort foods as coping, not nourishment🧠 23:38 Mental Health & Grief: Naming the Unspoken Loss-Grief isn’t always sadness—it can be anger, addiction, anxiety-Trauma stored in the body, triggered decades later-Midlife crisis… or midlife grief?❤️ 35:30 Relationships & Grief: When Friendships Fade-The invisible pain of broken brotherhoods-Making peace with endings that don’t have closure-Missing people who are still alive📘 47:00 Lifelong Learning: What Loss Leaves Behind-Grief as a teacher, not just a taker-From journaling to storytelling—healing through meaning-Finding growth in the cracks left by grief📚 Referenced Research & ResourcesAnderson, E. & Stell, A. (2020). Masculinity and Social Loss.Psychology of Men & Masculinities.Cryan, J. F., et al. (2019). The Gut-Brain Axis in Grief and Emotion.Neurobiology of Stress.Harper, F. G. (2022). Unfck your grief:Using science to heal yourself and support others (E. Bennett, Narr.) [Audiobook]. Blackstone Publishing.Levine, P. (2021). Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. NorthAtlantic Books.McAdams, D. (2015). The Art and Science of Narrative Identity. APA Psychology.Prigerson, H., et al. (2021). Prolonged Grief Disorder. WorldPsychiatry.💬 Final Reflection“Grief doesn’t always look like mourning—it can look like running, numbing,overeating, overworking.”“You don’t have to lose someone to feel loss. And you don’t need permission togrieve.”“Grief, named and voiced, becomes wisdom. Silence only gives it power.”“You’re not broken. You’re grieving.”👥 Join the ConversationDM us or email to share your own experience with grief—whether it's a relationship, identity, body, or time you lost.This podcast is a space for men to heal, grow, and be real—together.Jay and Brian📲 Connect with UsInstagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMENEmail: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.comFacebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN 

Show Notes☕️ Coffee and Conversations for MEN🎙 #11 Episode Title: If your purpose isn’t your paycheque, where do you find your IDENTITY🎯 Theme: Men’s Identity in the Workforce & Life After the Title🎧 Episode OverviewIn this deep and personal episode, Jay and Brian explore the silent crisis many men face when their career ends, shifts, or no longer defines them. From job loss to retirement, from burnout to body image—this episode dives into how identity gets tangled in performance, status, and validation.Through personal stories, powerful research, and the Five Pillars of Wellness, the conversation invites men to redefine who they are—not by what they do, but by how they live, love, feel, and grow.💡 Key Messages*You are not your title. Your work is what you do—not who you are. Identity rooted only in roles is fragile. Build purpose beyond performance.*Masculinity evolves. Real strength lies in expression, not suppression.*Growth doesn’t end with a job—it begins again.3:12     What’s in your Coffee Cup?            Jay- Shell Shock by 8 Bite https://www.8bitbeans.com/product-page/shell-shocked-chocolate-caramel-and-butter-pecan             Brian- Ridge Blend by Grey Ridge https://greyridgecoffee.ca/products/ridge-blend?variant=43073480949918💪 4:02 Fitness & Identity: When the Body Becomes the Brand-From emotional collapse to obsessive control -Using strength as a shield, muscles as a mask-The illusion of control through workouts-Reclaiming fitness as self-expression, not validation🥦 13:56 Nutrition & Identity: When Eating Becomes Ego-When “clean eating” becomes a performance-The shame spiral after indulgence-Biohacking and discipline as status signals-Returning to flexible, intuitive eating for well-being🧠 23:54 Mental Health & Identity: “I’m Not My Job”-Why career transitions hit men harder than expected-Masculine identity traps: The Fixer, The Stoic, The Provider-High-functioning on the outside, quietly breaking inside-Tools for emotional expression & support❤️ 37:44 Relationships & Identity: When Being Needed = Being Worthy-The invisible burden of “being the provider”-Reconnecting with partners and kids beyond your paycheck-Common identity traps: emotional suppression, performative reliability-Loving and being loved beyond usefulness📘 50:11 Lifelong Learning: Redefining Life After the Title-The disorientation of retirement or career endings-How new routines, hobbies, and roles restore purpose-Rediscovering self-outside of productivity-Who are you when no one’s watching?”📚 Referenced Research & ResourcesBoettcher, N., et al. (2019). Men’s Work-Related Stress and Mental Health. American Journal of Men's Health, 13(2).Roberts, K., et al. (2023). Athletic Identity & Mental Health inRetirement. Journal of Sport Rehabilitation, 32(5), 630–634.Tribole, E., & Resch, E. (2020). Intuitive Eating (4th ed.). St. Martin's Publishing Group.Lee, J., & Lee, S. (2016). Caring is Masculine: Stay-at-HomeFathers and Masculine Identity. Psychology of Men & Masculinity.Newton, N. J. (2022). Older Canadians' Identity and Well-Being in Retirement. International Journal of Aging & Human Development, 95(1), 91–109.💬 Final Reflection“Your work is not your worth. Your title is not your truth.”“Your body is your home—not your brand.”“Your value is in how you show up, not just what you do.”👥 Join the ConversationDM us or email to share your story, reflect on your own identityevolution, or connect with a men’s support group. You’re not alone—and you don’t have to carry it all in silence.Jay and BrianConnect with Us:Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYou Tube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMENEmail:CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.comFacebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN

Podcast Show Notes💡 Episode 010: Turning Failure into Fuel and Rejection into ResetsOverviewIn this powerful and raw episode, we unpack the ways that rejection and failure show up in men’s lives—from the gym to the kitchen, from the boardroom to the bedroom—and how to reframe these setbacks as setups for growth.Hosts Jay and Brian shares deeply personal stories—from being cut from a baseball team to battling binge eating to learning to own emotional vulnerability—and we reflect on how masculinity myths, shame, and isolation can compound pain. But with intention, support, and emotional literacy, we cantransform rejection into redirection and failure into feedback.This episode is for any man who’s ever felt defeated, pushedaside, or not good enough—and is ready to turn that pain into power.🧭 Key Takeaways🧩 Overarching MessagesRejection and failure are universal, not personal. Normalize the experience.Masculinity myths distort how men process pain—emotional literacy is essential.Growth is less about what happened and more about how you respond.------🏋️ FITNESSKey Message: Failure is part of physical growth; mindset makes the difference.💡 Takeaway: Reframe failure as part of training. Resilience >perfection.📚 Research: Men who tie self-worth to physical performance are more prone to shame and depression when injured (Anderson et al., 2018).-----🥦 NUTRITIONKey Message: Nutritional progress isn’t about perfection—it's about learning from your slip-ups.💡 Advice: Use slip-ups as data, not defeat. Educate yourselfand stay the course.📚 Research: Disordered eating patterns in men are increasing, often tied to body image and control (Byrne et al., 2024).------🧠 MENTAL HEALTHKey Message: Rejection doesn’t define you. It refines you.💬 “A 'no' today might just be a 'not here.' Keep showing up.”📚 Research: Brain scans show social rejection activates the same pain centres as physical injury (Eisenberger & Lieberman, 2004).------❤️ RELATIONSHIPSKey Message: Rejection in love or friendship can be devastating—especially when we’re taught not to talk about it.💬 “Some ghost you. Some grow with you. Let them.”📚 Research: Men who experience social disconnection and rejection are at higher risk for suicide—especially without strong support networks (Joiner et al., 2009).-------📚 LIFE-LONG LEARNINGKey Message: Failure is tuition. Wisdom is the degree.💬 “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.”📚 Research: Growth mindset improves resilience and motivation, even after failure (Yeager et al., 2019).------🎧 Listen Now If You...*Feel stuck in shame from a past mistake*Are navigating a job, fitness, or relationship rejection*Want practical tools to bounce back stronger*Believe masculinity can include vulnerability, connection, and honesty------👥 Join the ConversationWhat rejection have you reframed?What failure helped you grow? DM us your story or tag us @coffeeandconversations4men or email us at CoffeeandConversationsformen@gmail.com-----📌 Resources & Research MentionedAnderson et al. (2018) – Physical failure and male self-worthByrne et al. (2024) – Disordered eating in male adolescentsEisenberger & Lieberman (2004) – Rejection and brain pain centresJoiner et al. (2009) – Social isolation and suicide risk in menYeager et al. (2019) – Growth mindset and academic resiliencehttps://contextualscience.org/act🎙️ Hosted by Jay and BrianSubscribe, rate, and share this episode if it resonated. Your story isn’t over—it’s just getting started.

☕️ Coffee and Conversations for MEN — Episode Title: Good Brain, Bad Brain with Mark SparvellRelease Date: July 2025Length: 55 minutesHost(s): Jay Guy & Brian Jones🎙️ Episode SummaryIn this BONUS guest episode of Coffee and Conversations for MEN, we sit down with Mark Sparvell, global education thought leader, keynote speaker, and author of Good Brain Bad Brain. With over 30 years of experience at the forefront of educational innovation and human development,Mark brings a unique lens to the way our minds shape our live—and how we can take control back.Together, we explore what it means to live with a "survivalbrain" in a success-driven world, how emotional intelligence truly evolves, and what practical rewiring looks like when you're feeling stuck. Mark shares powerful insights, stories from his personal turning points, and one takeaway he hopes every listener remembers.Whether you're leading a team, raising a family, or just navigating the daily grind—this conversation will challenge the way you think about thinking.👤 About Our Guest: Mark Sparvell*Author: Good Brain Bad Brain*Global Keynote Speaker*Well-being & SEL Consultant*Technology Executive & Influencer*Marketing and Leadership ProfessionalMark Sparvell, B.Ed., M.Ed., is a global education leader with deep expertise in digital transformation, emotional intelligence, and leveraging technology to humanize learning. He helps leaders unlock the tacit knowledge within communities to drive meaningful and sustainable change. His work has impacted classrooms and boardrooms worldwide.______________________🔍 Topics We Cover1) Why Mark wrote Good Brain Bad Brain2) The survival brain vs. the success brain3) The moment Mark realized he was running “outdated mental software”4) Rewiring your brain when change feels too hard5) The evolution of emotional intelligence6) Practical strategies for daily mindset shifts7) What Mark would tell his younger self_____________________📚 Episode Highlights“Our brains are not broken—they're outdated. But outdated doesn’t mean irreversible.”“Emotional intelligence isn't soft—it's essential. And it grows with you, if you let it.”“The best leaders? They’re not the smartest in the room. They’re the most aware.”_____________________💡 One Key TakeawayIf you only remember one thing from this conversation, let it be this:You are not stuck. Your brain is plastic, adaptable, and ready—if you are._________________________________🔗 Links & Resources*Get the book: Good Brain Bad Brain by Mark Sparvell http://bit.ly/goodbrainbadbrain*Follow Mark on X @sparvell*Follow Mark on LinkedIn: Mark Sparvell____________________________🙌 Stay ConnectedEnjoying the show?Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who needs a mindset shift.Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYouTube:  @CoffeeandConverationsforMENSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7D150YdAR25cQiKoakjdx9Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/coffee-and-conversations-for-men/id1790889485Email: CoffeeandConversationsforMen@gmail.com  

🎙️ Podcast Show NotesEpisode 008: “Finding Your TRIBE and ALLIES – For Men”In this powerful episode of Coffee and Conversations for MEN, Jay and Brian dive into a topic that hits close to home for many men—especially as they age: How do we find our tribe? How do we build meaningful, trustworthy connections with other men in a world that often discourages vulnerability and emotional brotherhood?Through the lens of the Five Pillars—Fitness, Nutrition, Mental Health, Relationships, and Lifelong Learning—this episode offers insight, real stories, and strategies for finding your people and cultivating lasting brotherhood.If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing life solo, or if you’re cravingdeeper, more authentic male friendships—this episode is for you.🎯 Episode Highlights00:00 – Overview01:02 – The Why03:17 – What’s in Your Cup? 04:24 – Fitness: Brotherhood Through MovementPhysical activity isn’t just about strength—it’s about solidarity. Men bond shoulder-to-shoulder, and movement creates space for trust and openness. From hiking clubs to pickup basketball, building your tribe might start with lacing up your shoes.13:33 – Nutrition: Sharing Meals, Sharing LifeBreaking bread is ancient. From potluck dinners to trying new ingredients, food becomes a space for vulnerability, laughter, and community among men.19:48– Mental Health: Strength Through Shared StruggleYou don’t need to “man up”—you need to “man together.” Discover how shared experiences, gym nights, and community play spaces foster emotional connection, especially for single fathers and isolated men.29:13– Relationships: Brotherhood Beyond BloodlinesJay and Brian share powerful stories of male influence. Legacy lives in how we treat each other, and connection can come from shared values, not just shared DNA.39:00 – Lifelong Learning: Growth That Gathers Men TogetherWhether it’s reading a new book, learning a skill, or simply staying curious, personal growth creates connection. When men learn together, they grow together—and build community that lasts.☕ What’s in Your Cup?Jay’s Cup. 8bitbeans https://www.8bitbeans.com/(Shell Shocked) Brian’s Cup Kicking Horse Coffee (ThreeSisters) https://kickinghorsecoffee.com/collections/coffee 🔗 Connect with Us:Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYou Tube:@CoffeeandConversationsforMENEmail: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.comFacebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN 📚 References & Mentions:FITNESS:Torres, Z., Tomás, J.M., Sentandreu-Mañó, T., Fernández, I., & Pla-Sanz, N. (2024). Social participation, loneliness, and physical inactivity over time: Evidence from SHARE. International Psychogeriatrics, 36(9), 799–807. https://doi.org/10.1017/S1041610224000504NUTRITION:Dunbar, R. I. M. (2017). Breaking bread: The functions of social eating. Adaptive Human Behavior and Physiology, 3(3), 198–211. https://doi.org/10.1007/s40750-017-0061-4MENTAL HEALTH:Kimmel, M. (2010). Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become MenRELATIONSHIPS:Putnam, R. D. (2000). Bowling alone: The collapse and revival of American community.Simon & Schuster.Junger, S. (2016). Tribe: On homecoming and belonging. Twelve.Ellemers, Naomi & Stam, Daan & de Gilder, Dick. (2013). FeelingIncluded and Valued: How Perceived Respect Affects Positive Team Identity and Willingness to Invest in the Team. British Journal of Management. 24. 10.1111/j.1467-8551.2011.00784.x.LIFELONG LEARNING:Ellemers, Naomi & Stam, Daan & de Gilder, Dick. (2013). FeelingIncluded and Valued: How Perceived Respect Affects Positive Team Identity and Willingness to Invest in the Team. British Journal of Management. 24. 10.1111/j.1467-8551.2011.00784.x.Stay strong. Stay curious. Stay connected. 

🎙️ Podcast Episode Title:From Healthy at HOME to Your HOME: Discover Real Food Freedom and the Story Behind “HEALTHY AT HOME 905”📅 Episode Release Date: JUNE 16, 2025🎧 Guest: Justin Brothers – Founder of Healthy at Home 905Episode Summary:In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Justin Brothers, the passionate founder of Healthy at Home 905—a game-changing meal prep service based in Bowmanville, Ontario. What began as Justin’s personal mission to make healthy eating more accessible has grown into a beloved community resource known for its customizable meals, no-subscription model, and a people-first philosophy.Justin shares the journey of building his business from the ground up, how it aligns with the pillars of holistic well-being, and why food is more than just fuel—it's a connection to better health, stronger relationships, and community support. Whether you’re trying to eat better, move better, or live better, this episode has something for you.🕒 Episode Breakdown:00:00 – IntroductionMeet Justin Brothers and get a sneak peek into today’s topics.01:05 – What’s in Your CUP?We explore what fills Justin’s emotional and energetic “cup” and what keeps him grounded.Fueling physical performance and sustainable habits02:00 – How Healthy at Home meals support fitness goals like muscle gain, endurance, and fat loss03:20 – Collaborating with trainers to develop custom meal strategiesEmpowering better choices and personalized health06:10 – How Justin balances taste and nutrition without falling into restrictive dietingNourishing the mind through food and community09:05 – The role of food in men’s mental wellness beyond just nutrients10:47 – Stories from clients who’ve experienced relief from meal planning stressStrengthening bonds through food and shared values13:47 – How food and shared mealtimes foster deeper connectionsGrowth mindset, adaptability, and self-discovery15:27 – Advice for men overwhelmed by health info: where to start with better eating18:19 – How entrepreneurship has transformed Justin’s personal and professional growth20:35 – Justin answers: “What advice would you give your younger self?”🎯 Key Takeaways:Meal prep can be stress-free, flexible, and fulfilling.Nutrition is a powerful tool for both physical and mental wellness.You don’t need to be perfect—you just need to start where you are.Entrepreneurship is a journey of constant learning, both about business and yourself.🔗 Resources & Links:Visit Healthy at Home 905: https://healthyathome905.caSubscribe & FollowDon’t miss future episodes—subscribe, leave a review, and follow us on [platforms you use].Got feedback or a guest recommendation? Reach out—we’d love to hear from you!💪 PILLAR 1: FITNESS🥗 PILLAR 2: NUTRITION🧠 PILLAR 3: MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH🤝 PILLAR 4: RELATIONSHIPS📚 PILLAR 5: LIFELONG LEARNING

🎙️ Podcast Show NotesEpisode 006: “Father Figures: Real Role Models for Real Life”In this episode of Coffee and Conversations for MEN, Jay and Brian explore the evolving concept of fatherhood and mentorship through the lens of influence, not biology. Whether you're a dad, uncle, guncle, coach, mentor, grandfather, older brother or someone who simply shows up in a guiding role for others this episode is for you.We dive into the importance of positive male role models, challenge traditional views of fatherhood, and open the doorto a more inclusive conversation around what it means to lead, support, and show up in real time for the people in our lives. This episode is not just for fathers—it’s for any man who's ever wondered: Am I making a difference?🎯 Episode Highlights·      00:46 – Overview·      01:46 - The Why?·      02:52 - What’s in your Cup?·      03:45 - Fitness: Building strong bodies starts with showing up—just like father figures do in real life, consistency and presence matter more than perfection.·      12:58  - Nutrition: Nourishment isn’t just about what we eat—it’s about the values and support we feed into others through mentorship and daily actions.·      22:35 - Mental Health: Positive male role models can be powerful anchors for emotional resilience, helping men navigate identity, purpose, and connection.·      38:57 - Relationships: True fatherhood is defined by influence and presence, not biology—what matters most is how we show up for others.·      43:33 - Lifelong Learning: Every experience as a mentor or father figure becomes a lesson, showing that growth and leadership evolve through real-time engagement and reflection.💡 Key Takeaways:You don't have to be dad to make a difference.Being a role model is about how you show up, not a title you hold.Presence, consistency, and emotional honesty are powerful tools.Legacy is built moment by moment-often in the ordinary, not the grand☕ What’s in Your Cup?Jay and Brian: Nicaragua Brand from Manitoba Canada https://greyridgecoffee.ca/🔗 Connect with Us:Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYou Tube:  @CoffeeandConversationsforMENApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/coffee-and-conversations-for-men/id1790889485Email: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.comFacebook: Coffee and Conversation for MEN📚 References & Mentions:FITNESS: RobinsonEL, StGeorge J, Freeman EE. A Systematic Review of Father Child Play Interactions and the Impacts on Child Development. Children (Basel). 2021 May 13;8(5):389. doi: 10.3390/children8050389. PMID: 34068176; PMCID: PMC8153002.NUTRITION:Chu YL, Farmer A, Fung C, Kuhle S, Storey KE, Veugelers PJ. Involvement in home meal preparation is associated with food preference and self-efficacy among Canadian children. Public Health Nutr. 2013 Jan;16(1):108-12. doi: 10.1017/S1368980012001218. Epub 2012 May 11. PMID: 22578854; PMCID: PMC10271544.MENTAL HEALTH:Ibrahim MH, Somers JA, Luecken LJ, Fabricius WV, Cookston JT. Father-adolescent engagement in shared activities: Effects on cortisol stress response in young adulthood. J Fam Psychol. 2017 Jun;31(4):485-494. doi: 10.1037/fam0000259. Epub2016 Nov 3. PMID: 27808523; PMCID: PMC5415433.RELATIONSHIPS:Gibson, L. C. (2015). Adult children of emotionally immature parents: How to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents. New Harbinger Publications.Hausner, L., & Freeman, D. K. (2009). The legacy family: The definitive guide to creating a successful multigenerational family. Palgrave Macmillan.LIFELONG LEARNING:Rollè, L., Gullotta, G., Trombetta, T., Curti, L., Gerino, E., Brustia, P., & Caldarera, A. M. (2019). Father involvement and cognitive development in early and middle childhood: A systematic review. Frontiers in Psychology, 10, 2405. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02405Stay strong. Stay curious. Stay connected.

SHOW NOTESEpisode 005: “Men’s Behaviour – The Good, The Bad, The Ugly”In this episode of Coffee and Conversations for Men, we’re diving deep into a topic that hits home for a lot of us—but isn’t often unpacked in honest, vulnerable ways: men’s behaviour. From the way we show up in the gym to how we handle conflict, relationships, and our own emotional responses, male behaviour is shaped by everything from culture and upbringing to trauma and pride.This episode isn’t about judgment—it’s about awareness. We take a look at what’s working (The Good), what needs a hard reset (The Bad), and what we really need to confront (The Ugly). Whether you're trying to grow, heal, or just understand yourself better, this conversation offers a mirror—and hopefully, a path forward.We touch on how men’s behaviour affects fitness, food, mental health, relationships, and personal development. And of course, we serve up practical insights, personal stories, and action steps that you can take with you long after the episode ends.Episode Highlights:·      0.00 – Intro·      0.58 – Disclaimer·      1:53 - Overview·      3:20 – What’s in your CUP?·      4:45 – Why this TOPIC: Men’s Behaviour: The Good The Bad The Ugly• 6:57 – Fitness:Masculine ideals around strength and toughness often lead to overtraining, ignoring pain, or treating health like a competition. We explore how to shift from ego-driven routines to self-respecting habits that support longevity and performance.• 18:48– Nutrition:From bulking culture to restrictive diets, we look at the pressure men face to eat a certain way—and how this can impact both physical and mental health. Let’s talk about the importance of eating for yourself, not your image.• 29:06 – Mental Health:Suppression, denial, and isolation—too often, men are taught to internalize their struggles. We break down how behavioral conditioning shapes emotional suppression, and why emotional expression isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.• 39:01–Relationships:We’re getting real about how behaviors like defensiveness, emotional unavailability, or avoidance play out in romantic, platonic, and professional relationships. Spoiler: Emotional honesty and accountability are attractive.• 49:00– Lifelong Learning:Some men resist change or new knowledge due to fear, ego, or deeply held beliefs. We explore how behavioural patterns can hold us back and how to embrace a mindset of curiosity, growth, and courage.Throughout the episode, we challenge outdated notions of masculinity, highlight healthier ways to navigate life as a man, and encourage deeper reflection. It’s time to own the good, work through the bad, and face the ugly—with grace, grit, and a little humour.What’s in your cup?Grey Ridge Coffee https://greyridgecoffee.ca/Connect with Us ReferencesFITNESS: Matthews, M. (2012). Bigger leaner stronger: The simple science of building the ultimate male body. Legion Athletics. Lee Hayward- @leemhayward    Matt Griffiths- @coach.mattgriffithsPhil Robertson- @the_pr_methodDirk Schultz- @dirkfitm3NUTRITION:University of Surrey. (2024,October 9). Having a sweet tooth is linked to higher risk of depression, diabetes, and stroke, study finds. ScienceDaily.Retrieved March 13, 2025 from www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2024/10/241009122507.htmMENTAL HEALTH:Howes, L. (2017). The mask of masculinity: How men can embrace vulnerability, create strong relationships, and live their fullest lives. New York, NY: Rodale Books. RELATIONSHIPS:Wisner, W.(2023, March 21). Anxious ambivalent attachment: An overview. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/anxious-ambivalent-attachment-overview-7369281LIFELONG LEARNING:Haddock-Millar, J., Stokes, P., & Dominguez, N. (2023). Towards a theory of reciprocal mentoring. In Reciprocalmentoring (1st ed., pp. 14). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781003302537

SHOW NOTESEpisode 004: “People-Pleasing: Setting Boundaries”In this episode of Coffee and Conversations for MEN we dive into a topic that many men struggle with but often go unspoken: People-Pleasing. Too often, men feel pressured to say yes, be the fixer, and constantly prioritize others' needs over their own. This tendency can lead to burnout, resentment, and a loss of self-identity.In this episode, we explore how people-pleasing behaviours show up in key areas of life—fitness, nutrition, mental health, relationships, and lifelong learning. We also discuss the importance of setting healthy boundaries, why it’s essential for personal growth, and how to reclaim your sense of self without guilt.Episode Highlights:03:39 – Fitness: How people-pleasing manifests in fitness routines, from overtraining to sacrificing your own health to meet others’ expectations. Plus, strategies to set boundaries and prioritize your health.11:52 – Nutrition: The pressure to conform to diet trends or social expectations around food can lead to disordered eating or neglecting your own nutritional needs. We’ll discuss how to set boundaries around food choices and develop a healthy, individualized approach to eating.21:38 – Mental Health: People-pleasing can lead to mental exhaustion and emotional burnout. We’ll unpack how setting boundaries can improve your emotional well-being and share tips on protecting your mental health from external pressures.31:30 – Relationships: Constantly putting others first in relationships can strain your connections and leave you feeling unappreciated. We’ll talk about the importance of balancing give and take, and how to communicate your needs and set boundaries without fear of rejection.41:18 – Lifelong Learning: The fear of disappointing others or falling short of expectations can prevent men from pursuing new skills or personal growth. We’ll explore how setting boundaries can help you focus on your development and overcome imposter syndrome.Throughout the episode, we share practical advice, personal experiences, and actionable strategies to help you recognize people-pleasing tendencies and take steps toward healthier, more authentic living. By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clearer understanding of how to set boundaries without guilt and start reclaiming your time, energy, and peace of mind.What in your cup?Jay’s Cup. 22 SierraCoffee Company: Death from Above (Dark Roast)https://22sierracoffee.com/pages/about-us Brian’s Birch BarkCoffee Company. Two Spirit (Dark Roast)https://birchbarkcoffeecompany.com/pages/about-birch-bark-coffee Connect with Us:Instagram: @coffeeandconversations4menUTUBE: @CoffeeandConversationsforMENSPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/7D150YdAR25cQiKoakjdx9APPLE PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coffee-and-conversations-for-men/id1790889485Email: coffeeandconversationsformen@gmail.comReferencesFITNESS:Cloud, H. (2012). The boundaries book: When to say yes, how to say no to take control of your life. Zondervan.NUTRITION:Tribole, E., & Resch, E. (2012). Intuitive eating (3rd ed.). St. Martin's Press. ISBN 978-1-250-01418-4 (e-book)Olien, D. (2017). SuperLife: The 5 Forces that Will Make You Healthy, Fit, and Eternally Awesome. HarperOne. https://superlife.com/superlife/ MENTAL HEALTH:Brown, B. (2010). The gifts of imperfection: Let go of who you think you're supposed to be and embrace who you are. Hazelden Publishing. RELATIONSHIPS:Sheldon, R. (2025). Setting healthy boundaries in relationships. Help Guide. https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/social-connection/setting-healthy-boundaries-in-relationshipsLIFELONG LEARNING:Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The new psychology of success. Random House.

SHOW NOTESEpisode 003: “Behind the Mask:Tackling Insecurities in Fitness, Relationships, and Beyond”In this episode of Behind the Mask, we dive deep into the universal struggle of insecurities—how they manifest in our fitness journeys, relationships, and other areas of life. Insecurities can quietly creep in and hold us back fromachieving our potential, whether it’s feeling inadequate in the gym, struggling with self-doubt in relationships, or facing fears that keep us from pursuing personal growth.We’ll break down how insecurities show up in the five key pillars of life: Fitness, Nutrition, Mental Health, Relationships, and Lifelong Learning. More importantly, we’ll share actionable tips and insights to help you confront these feelings and work toward overcoming them.Episode Highlights:• 03:00– Fitness: How insecurities in the gym can hinder progress and ways to overcome self-doubt and build confidence through small wins.• 16.03– Nutrition: Tacklingthe insecurities around body image and food choices, and how to create a healthier relationship with food.• 31:43 – Mental Health:Understanding how self-doubt and negative thinking impact our mental well-being, plus practical strategies for building emotional resilience.• 41:30– Relationships: How insecurities can affect communication, intimacy, and connection in relationships, and tips for building trust and confidence with others.• 52:30 – Lifelong Learning:Overcoming the fear of failure and imposter syndrome when pursuing new skills, personal growth, or career development.Throughout the episode, we share personal stories, real-world examples, and practical tips to help you tackle insecurities head-on and start living a more empowered, authentic life.ReferencesFitnessAnderson, E., & Shivakumar, G. (2013). Effects of exercise and physical activity on anxiety. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 4, 27. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2013.00027NutritionWang, Y., McKee, M., Torbica, A., & Stuckler, D. (2019). Systematic literature review on the spread of health-related misinformation on social media. Social Science & Medicine, 240, 112552. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.socscimed.2019.112552 Reno, T., & Kennedy, R. (2021). The Eat-Clean Diet for Men: Your ironclad plan to a lean physique. Robert Kennedy Publishing.Dooner, C. (2019). The Fck It Diet:Eating should be easy (eBook edition). Harper Wave.  https://forums.onlinebookclub.org/viewtopic.php?t=499159 Mental HealthJaspan, J. (2019, August 21). Howinsecurities impact mental health. High Focus Centers. https://pa.highfocuscenters.com/insecurities-impact-mental-health/#:~:text=Working%20as%20a%20therapist%20for,disorders%20and%20substance%20use%20disorders RelationshipsFortson, M. (2020). Emotional support, self-esteem, and adult attachment styles as predictors for relational well-being in romantic relationships (Publication No. 27995496)[Doctoral dissertation, Capella University]. ProQuest Dissertations & Thesis. Lifelong learningMcCombs, B. L. (1991). Motivation and LifelongLearning. Educational Psychologist, 26(2), 117–127. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15326985ep2602_4 Wilson, J. (2022). The man the moment demands: Master the 10characteristics of the comprehensive man. Gallery Books. .What’s inyour CUP? Jay’s cup Kicking Horse Coffee Com. Three Sisters.Medium Roast https://kickinghorsecoffee.com/collections/medium-roast Brian’s cup JackUp Coffee Com.  Last Christmas. https://www.jackedupcoffee.com/ LINKSINSTAGRAM~ @coffeeandconversations4menEMAIL- CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.comUTUBE- www.youtube.com/@CoffeeandConversationsforMEN #MenMentoringMen#MindfulMen #CoffeeandConversationsforMEN #WellnessWarrior #Mindfulness#PersonalGrowth #MasculinityRedefined #MenSupportingMen #BALANCE #SelfDiscovery#PositiveMasculinity #MentalHealthMatters #EmpoweredMen #Discipline

SHOW NOTESEpisode 002: “From Stuck to Unstoppable: The DisciplineBlueprint for Men”In this episode of Coffee and Conversation for Men, Jay and Brian dive into the power of discipline and how it’s key to unlocking your potential. Discipline isn’t just about willpower—it’s about building systems, habits, and mindsets that keep you moving forward. They explore how discipline impacts fitness, nutrition, mental health, relationships, and lifelong learning, helping men go from “stuck” to “unstoppable.”If consistency’s been a struggle, this episode offers practical strategies to harness discipline and transform your life.Episode Highlights:02:24 – Fitness: The role of discipline in building strength and momentum through consistent exercise.14:40 – Nutrition: Why disciplined eating fuels your body and mind for better focus and well-being.25:30 – Mental Health: How maintaining mental health habits like meditation and journaling builds emotional resilience.38:18 – Relationships: How disciplined communication and time management strengthen connections with others.45:00 – Lifelong Learning: The importance of disciplined learning for personal and professionalgrowth.Jay and Brian share actionable tips and real-life examples to help you apply discipline in every area of life and become your best, unstoppable self.REFERENCES FITNESS & DISCIPLINE Boat R, Cooper SB. Self-Control and Exercise: A Review ofthe Bi-Directional Relationship. Brain Plast. 2019 Dec 26;5(1):97-104. doi: 10.3233/BPL-190082. PMID: 31970063; PMCID: PMC6971834. Marcus, A. (2018). Own the day, own your life:Optimized practices for waking, working, learning, eating, training, playing, sleeping, and sex. HarperCollins. NUTRITION & DISCIPLINEHelland MH, Nordbotten GL. Dietary Changes, Motivators, and Barriers Affecting Diet and Physical Activity among Overweight and Obese: AMixed Methods Approach. Int J Environ Res Public Health. 2021 Oct 9;18(20):10582. https://healthyathome905.ca/@healthyathome905https://www.hellofresh.ca/?locale=en-CA Olien, D. (2016). Super life: The 5 forces that will make you healthy, fit, and eternally awesome. HarperCollins.MENTAL HEALTH & DISCIPLINEMenefee DS, Ledoux T, Johnston CA. The Importance ofEmotional Regulation in Mental Health. Am J Lifestyle Med. 2022 Jan 12;16(1):28-31. Sparvell, M. (2024). Good brain, bad brain: How the brain's wiring makes us who we are. Independently Published. @sparvellMaté, G. (2000). Scattered minds: The origin of andsolutions for attention deficit disorder. Vintage CanadaRELATIONSHIPS & DISCIPLINEZuo PY, Karremans JC, Scheres A, Kluwer ES, Burk WJ, KappenG, Ter Kuile H. A Dyadic Test of the Association Between Trait Self-Control and Romantic Relationship Satisfaction. Front Psychol. 2020 Dec 21;11:594476. Shetty, J. (2023). 8 rules of love: How to find it, keep it,and let it go. First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition. New York, NY: Simon & Schuster.LIFELONG LEARNING & RELATIONSHIPCordero, Y. (2024, October 23). The role of discipline insuccess. Brian Tracy Publishing. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/role-discipline-success-brian-tracy-publishing-pjmxc/Bishop, G. J. (2019). Stop doing that sh!t: Endself-sabotage and demand your life back. Harper One.Bishop, G. J. (2022). Love unf*cked: Get your relationshipright. HarperOne.What’s in your cup?Jay’s cup Black Rifle Coffee “Spirit of ‘76” https://bit.ly/40FcL8G@blackriflecoffeeshopsBrian’s cup Canter Coffee “White ChocolateMacadamia Nut” Lattehttps://cantercoffee.com/@canter_coffeeLINKSINSTAGRAM~ @coffeeandconversations4menEMAIL- CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com#MenMentoringMen #MindfulMen #CoffeeandConversationsforMEN #WellnessWarrior #Mindfulness #PersonalGrowth #MasculinityRedefined #MenSupportingMen #Discipline #SelfDiscovery#PositiveMasculinity #MentalHealthMatters #EmpoweredMen

SHOW NOTES001 | Episode: More than MUSCLES: Creating BALANCE in Fitness, Food,Mindset, and MOREIn this inaugural episode of Coffee and Conversations for Men, Jay and Brian dive deep into the key areas that contribute to a balanced and fulfilling life: physical fitness, nutrition, mental health, relationships, and lifelong learning. They explore how these five pillars interconnect to enhance well-being, reduce stress, and foster resilience. EpisodeHighlights:• 03:32 ~ Fitness: How exercise influences both physical andmental health, boosting energy and resilience.• 12:58 ~ Nutrition: Fueling your body and mind for improvedfocus, health, and success.• 22:48 ~ Mental Health: The importance of prioritizing mentalwell-being for a strong foundation in all aspects of life.• 32:47 ~ Relationships: Building emotional support throughhealthy connections with family, friends, and partners.• 42:40 ~ Lifelong Learning: Staying adaptable and sharp byembracing continuous growth and self-improvement. Jay and Brian’s engaging conversation offers practical advice and insights to help you find balance in your own life. Whether you're juggling responsibilities or seeking personal growth, this episode will provide the tools to build a more fulfilling, well-rounded lifestyle.REFERENCES FitnessXu L, Gu H, Cai X, Zhang Y, Hou X, Yu J, Sun T. The Effects of Exercise for Cognitive Function in Older Adults: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis ofRandomized Controlled Trials. Int J Environ Res Public Health. 2023 Jan 7;20(2):1088. doi: 10.3390/ijerph20021088. PMID: 36673844; PMCID: PMC9858649.NutritionWorks, H. P., NY, N., Rupa, O., & Patient, F. A. Q. (2023). Functional Nutrition Strategies for Weight Management and Metabolic Health. Nutrition.Mental HealthMcKenzie SK, Oliffe JL, Black A, Collings S. Men's Experiences of Mental Illness Stigma Across the Lifespan: A Scoping Review. Am J Men’s Health. 2022 Jan-Feb;16(1):15579883221074789. doi: 10.1177/15579883221074789. PMID: 35125015; PMCID: PMC8832600.RelationshipsPezirkianidis, C., Galanaki, E., Raftopoulou, G., Moraitou, D., & Stalikas, A. (2023). Adult Friendship and Wellbeing: A Systematic Review with Practical Implications. Frontiers in Psychology, 14, 1059057. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1059057LifelongLearningLeanos, S., Kürüm, E., Strickland-Hughes, C. M., Ditta, A. S., Nguyen, G., Felix, M., Yum, H., Rebok, G. W., & Wu, R. (2023). The Impact of Learning Multiple Real-World Skills on Cognitive Abilities and Functional Independence in Healthy Older Adults. The Journals of Gerontology: SeriesB, Psychological Sciences and Social Sciences, 78(8), 1305–1317. https://doi.org/10.1093/geronb/gbad053What’s in Your Cup?Jay's cup: Black Rifle Coffee "Spirit of ‘76"About Us | Veteran Founded@blackriflecoffeeshopsBrian's cup: Velvet Sunrise “San Sebastian”Great Coffee for the French Press by Velvet Sunrise Coffee Roasters@velvetsunrisecoffeeLinksInstagram: @coffeeandconversations4menEmail: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.com Let us knowwhat topics you’d like to hear more about!#MenMentoringMen#MindfulMen #CoffeeandConversationsforMEN #WellnessWarrior #Mindfulness#PersonalGrowth #MasculinityRedefined #MenSupportingMen #BALANCE #SelfDiscovery#PositiveMasculinity #MentalHealthMatters #EmpoweredMen 

☕️ Coffee and Conversations for MEN🎙 #13 Episode Title: The Financial Fight No One TrainedYou For🎯 Theme: Mastering Health and Wealth Through Discipline &Intention🎧 Episode OverviewIn this rich and revealing episode, Jay and Brian dive into the deep connection between financial wellness and their five pillars (fitness, nutrition, relationships, mental health, & lifelong learning. From gym routines to grocery budgets, from investing in your health to managing money in marriage, they explore how the choices men make daily affect both their energy and their equity.Through personal stories, hard-earned lessons, and powerful mindsetshifts, this episode will challenge you to rethink the way you move, eat, spend, and save.💡 Key MessagesFinancial stress is a silent killer—and it shows up in your body.Discipline in your fitness mirrors discipline in your finances.Your grocery list is a budget—and your plate is an investment.Your relationship with money gets passed on—whether you talk about it or not.Small, consistent habits build a strong body and a secure future.☕️ 0:48 – Overview☕️ 2:05 – What’s in Your Coffee Cup? Streets Ahead Coffee Roasters  streetsaheadcoffeeroasters@gmail.comhttps://www.facebook.com/Streetsaheadcoffeeroasters/☕️ 3:40 – The WHY?💪 5:17 ~ Fitness & Finances: Why Discipline in One Shapes the OtherHome gyms built on a budgetFitness expenses as long-term investmentsTracking workouts + tracking expensesQuote: “You don’t skip leg day—don’t skip financial planning either.”Research Highlight: Kiyosaki (2000) reminds us to “build assets, not liabilities.” For many men, fitness is an asset.🥦 15:32 Nutrition & Finances: Pay the Farmer or the PharmacistCSA shares as proactive meal planningThe power of meal prepFast food = fast debtQuote: “Healthy eating isn’t expensive—it’s planned.”Research Highlight: Tyson (2021) explains how budget leaks—like takeout—can sabotage long-term goals.🧠 26:26 Mental Health & Finances: Breaking the SilenceThe stress of unspoken financial anxietyEmotional spending and retail therapyOne-car families, delayed gratification, and financial peaceQuote: “Understanding money is the first step to controlling your life.”Research Highlight: Ontario’s 2020 curriculum now includes financial literacy—a game-changer for the next generation.❤️ 37:17 Relationships & Finances: Marriage, Money & MentorshipAllowances, jars, and teaching kids about moneySurprise vacations, secret savings, and collaborationFinancial check-ins and shared decision-makingQuote: “Your relationship with money is passed down—whether you talk about it or not.”Research Highlight: Tyson (2020) emphasizes clarity, communication, and shared planning in successful financial relationships.📘 47:27 Lifelong Learning: Financial Fitness Is a JourneyLiving below your means—even when income increasesEmergency funds, bad debt, and learning to investWill, power of attorney, insurance—your financial foundationQuote: “The best time to start learning was yesterday. The second-best is today.”Research Highlight: Chilton (2006) and Hill (1937) both stresspersistence, clarity, and long-term mindset in building wealth and success.📚 Referenced Research & ResourcesChilton, D. (2006). The Wealthy Barber.Hill, N. (1937). Think and Grow Rich.Kiyosaki, R. (2000). Rich Dad, Poor Dad.Tyson, E. (2021). Personal Finance for Dummies.👥 Join the ConversationDM us or email to share how you’re growing—financially, physically, or both. What habits have helped? What lessons have you learned the hard way? This is a space for real men, real talk, and real growth. Jay & Brian📲 Connect with UsInstagram: @coffeeandconversations4menYouTube: @CoffeeandConversationsforMENEmail: CoffeeandConversationsforMEN@gmail.comFacebook: Coffee and Conversations for MEN