Time with Tim Fletcher

Hal Hughes appeared to have everything in place. A wife, four children, a respected career as a police officer, and a reputation built on strength and service. Then a violent on-the-job assault changed the trajectory of his life, leaving him with a traumatic brain injury and setting off a gradual, unseen unraveling.In this deeply honest episode, Hal shares what followed. PTSD, chronic pain, identity loss, and an addiction to prescribed painkillers that slowly took control. He speaks openly about how close he came to losing his family, his career, and himself, and about the moment that finally forced him to confront the cost of survival without boundaries.Now sober for many years, Hal has rebuilt his life as a registered psychotherapist, speaker, and advocate for trauma-informed healing. This episode is for anyone navigating trauma, addiction, burnout, or the question of who they are after everything falls apart.🫂 If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone in your life. They may truly need it.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

00:00 How Narcissists Win Your Trust19:23 The Devaluation Stage42:59 The Temporary Discard and Hooks59:15 The Discard PhaseSubscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Joining Andy and Tim, our guest Jen shares how complex trauma shaped her identity long before she had words for it. Growing up with ADHD, emotional gaps, and a persistent sense of “badness,” she learned to survive by adapting to others, carrying emotions that weren’t hers, and losing connection to herself. Together with Tim Fletcher, the conversation explores pre-verbal trauma, shame, attachment patterns, marriage strain, nervous system healing, and why menopause can intensify trauma symptoms for women. This episode offers clarity, validation, and hope for anyone who feels like healing hasn’t worked or wonders why things suddenly got harder later in life.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

On this special Christmas Day episode of Time With Tim, Andy brings together members of Tim’s team to talk about why this season can feel tender for so many people. Christmas is often portrayed as magical, yet for many it brings reminders of loss, loneliness, and change. In this episode, you’ll hear honest reflections on grief, chosen family, new traditions, and the quiet hope that grows through connection. The Fletcher family also shares a heartfelt message to close the episode. Wherever you are today, may you feel a sense of belonging. You are not alone.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

In this episode, Tim and Andy dive into one of the most challenging parts of healing from complex trauma: boundaries. Together they explore why boundaries often feel confusing, scary, or “selfish,” and how unhealthy family systems shape the rules we grow up with. Tim explains the difference between internal and external boundaries, why willpower alone isn’t enough, how shame and fawning affect our ability to hold limits, and what loving, sustainable boundary-setting actually looks like in real relationships. If you’ve ever struggled to stand up for yourself, collapsed around other people’s emotions, or felt guilty for having needs, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools for change.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

NARM® (The NeuroAffective Relational Model®) is a therapeutic approach developed by Dr. Laurence Heller that helps people heal developmental and complex trauma by restoring connection with their authentic self in the present moment. It focuses on shame, survival patterns, and disrupted attachment, offering a compassionate path toward agency, self-trust, and inner coherence. Andy sits down with fellow LIFT coach and facilitator, Gabriel Schüßler, to cover this fascinating modality.Learn more about NARM: https://narmtraining.com/Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Human trafficking often hides in plain sight. In this conversation, Katelyn Campbell from the Joy Smith Foundation shares how emotional pain, shame, and the longing for love can make people vulnerable to manipulation and exploitation. With Tim and Andy, she explores how traffickers use trust and affection to control, what warning signs to look for, and how awareness and compassion can help protect others and bring hope to those healing from it.Learn more with the Joy Smith Foundation: https://joysmithfoundation.com/https://www.instagram.com/joy.smith.foundation Listen to the Luma and Bloom Podcast:https://lumaandbloom.com/ ​https://www.instagram.com/lumaandbloomofficial/ 00:00 – Katelyn’s Story: From a Good Childhood to Hidden Wounds13:00 – Emotional Abuse and Vulnerability44:00 – Understanding Human Trafficking57:00 – Warning Signs and Prevention1:27:00 – Healing, Hope, and Taking ActionSubscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

After a traumatic childhood, Morag’s life spiraled into judgment, drinking, and searching for validation in all the wrong places. In this episode of Time with Tim, she shares her journey from trauma and addiction to freedom, spirituality, and self-compassion. Morag opens up about the roots of her pain, the moment everything began to change, and what it means to heal the “little girl inside.” Her story is a powerful reminder that healing is possible for anyone willing to face the truth—and that it’s never too late to find what makes your heart sing.Grow from Within: https://www.growfromwithin.com.au/Join LIFT: https://www.timfletcher.ca/lift-online-learningSubscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Troy Koerntjes’ path led from outlaw motorcycle clubs and chaos to recovery and compassion. Through injury, grief, and therapy, he discovered the kind of belonging he’d always searched for and now leads programs that help others find connection, strength, and healing.Follow Troy and Complete Health Geelong: Instagram: @troykoerntjesWebsite: https://completehealthgeelong.com.au/YouTube: @CompleteHealthGeelong⁩Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Breanne Fletcher joins Andy Carlson for an honest and inspiring conversation about her journey through complex trauma, addiction, and recovery. She shares how inner child work, reparenting, and facing painful emotions became turning points in her healing, and how those experiences now shape her leadership in the LIFT program. This episode explores what it means to step out from behind perfectionism, embrace authenticity, and discover that healing is possible, even when it’s hard.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Tim and Andy speak with author and embodiment coach Jamie Lee Finch about healing from religious trauma, rebuilding self-connection, and reclaiming identity. Their conversation explores body image, sexuality, shame, and somatic practices like movement and meditation as powerful tools for trauma recovery and personal growth.Follow Jamie Lee Finch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamieleefinchWebsite: https://www.jamieleefinch.comExperiential Anatomy Podcast: http://exanatomy.substack.com/Use coupon code TIM to join Jamie's Your Body is a Person course for 20% off: https://course.jamieleefinch.com/pages/your-body-is-a-personSubscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Why is it common for people with Complex Trauma to not know who they are? Are there practical tools that can help them get to know who they are?This is a lecture originally published on YouTube on Aug 27, 2021 [link]. We are making some of Tim's lectures available as bonus episodes on the podcast so you can listen on the go. To see all of Tim's talks, visit YouTube, where you can find hundreds of his talks both old and new.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

What does it really mean to be the “problem child” in a dysfunctional family? In this powerful conversation, Andrea Ashley (host of The Adult Child Podcast) joins Tim Fletcher and Andy Carlson to share her story of growing up with an alcoholic parent, being scapegoated, and turning to addiction as a teen. Andrea opens up about the shame that shaped her identity, the turning points in her recovery, and how she transformed pain into purpose through her community. Together, they explore how addiction is often just a symptom, why sobriety alone isn’t enough, and what it takes to heal from complex trauma.Follow AndreaInstagram | https://instagram.com/adultchildpodLinktree | https://linktr.ee/adultchildpodcastSubscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Andy sits down with LIFT Staff Member Núria to explore her journey of living with both autism and ADHD while healing from complex trauma. She opens up about shame, masking, and the search for authentic connection, sharing how recovery programs, community, and self-compassion helped her break old patterns and begin to truly see herself.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

In this episode of the Time with Tim podcast, Tim and Andy sit down with Dr. Les Carter of Surviving Narcissism to discuss the roots of narcissism, how it develops through trauma, and what healing looks like for those who’ve been impacted. Dr. Carter tells us about the spectrum of narcissism, why we’re drawn to familiar dysfunction, and how recovery begins with self-awareness, boundaries, and connection.Follow Dr. Carter: https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissismhttps://www.instagram.com/survivingnarcissism101/Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Tiayrra Bradley shares how art became a powerful refuge after childhood trauma, helping her reconnect with herself and the world around her. In this deeply personal conversation, she explores the role of creativity, safe spaces, and authenticity in long-term healing. Her story highlights the power of art to transform pain into joy, and isolation into community.Follow Tiayrra & Birth Dei Co: @abrilliantnomad @birthdeicoSubscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

In this episode, Tim and Andy talk with Valerie Rubin about her journey healing from anxiety, trauma, and anxious attachment. She reflects on how childhood, family dynamics, and cultural identity shaped her sense of self and safety. Together, they explore the link between anxiety and shame, the role of spirituality, and how somatic practices like brainspotting support healing. The conversation also touches on boundaries, intuition, and the power of validating lived experience.Follow Valerie: Instagram: @healwithvalListen to the Anxiety Recovery Podcast on:Apple PodcastsSpotifySubscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Co-host Andy speaks with Gabriel, a self-described recovering "nice guy", about healing from codependency, reparenting, and shame. They explore how vulnerability, curiosity, and self-compassion support personal growth. Gabriel reflects on German cultural influences on complex trauma, deconstructing ideals, and the importance of inner stability over external validation. This is a grounded and down-to-earth conversation on love, relationships, and the importance of showing up for yourself.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Psychotherapist and LCSW Vanessa Reiser, shares her powerful personal story of surviving narcissistic abuse and how she helps others break free through her practice. From trauma bonding to radical self-love, Vanessa explains the hidden tactics of manipulation and what true healing looks like. Whether you're recovering from emotional abuse or trying to understand it, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools.Follow Vanessa:Instagram: @vanessareiserlcswBuy her book: Narcissistic Abuse - A Therapist’s Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative PeopleLinktree: @vanessareiserSubscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

In this powerful episode of Time with Tim, we sit down with Alicia—an Indigenous hoop dancer, writer, early childhood educator, and survivor of human trafficking and gang involvement. Alicia shares her raw and courageous story, revealing how she endured years of violence, addiction, and systemic failure, and how she ultimately found healing through culture, community, and inner transformation. From her early years of overachievement and hidden pain to the moment she reclaimed her life, Alicia speaks with honesty and heart. She discusses the role of Indigenous hoop dancing in her recovery, her experience with inner child work, and how rebuilding safety and trust became the foundation for freedom. This conversation is about survival—but more than that, it’s about reclaiming identity, agency, and joy. It’s an episode for anyone navigating trauma, addiction, or the path of healing.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at