Kingdom Sexuality

Looking sexy and feeling sexy are two different things, and the KS Team breaks down why. Learn how the brakes-and-accelerators work, why more lingerie won't help if your foot is still on the brake, and grab a simple exercise to try with your spouse this week! Tune in!! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course!!!! Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: Kait Tomlin's ⁠IG post My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 0:00 – Episode sneak peek and Welcome 0:41 – Today's verse: John 6:40 0:57 – Looking sexy vs. feeling sexy 5:48 – The myth of "I'll feel sexy when…" 9:00 – What actually makes us feel sexy (and what makes a wife feel seen) 12:17 – Finishing Well course 13:12 – The accelerator and brake analogy 15:25 – Spectatoring 16:44 – Hormones, cycles and desire 23:00 – Common brakes and accelerators 25:56 – Faith, purity culture and "Can Christian women be sexy?" 31:10 – Song of Songs and receiving a compliment 32:20 – How to feel sexier this week 38:07 – Things to do together 39:28 – Prayer and takeaways 40:16 – Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Think your spouse’s habits are a green flag, a red flag, or just a “nothing burger”? Tune in to hear the KS team chat through some scenarios that our Instagram followers once wondered, "Is this normal?" Some of them are going to surprise you... Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Joey Odom episode: Less Phone More Intimacy Is Your Phone Ruining Your Marriage? episode Morgan Cutlip: Mental Load Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course!!!! Out Of Sync Audio Course Figuring Out What I Like Guide Resources: ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 – Open and welcome 00:31 – Show intro and today's verse (Ephesians 4:15) 01:02 – Instagram questions and a sponsor break 01:35 – Setting up the green, yellow and red flag game 03:12 – Sleeping in separate rooms because of snoring 04:16 – Tangent on nose strips 04:50 – Different bedtimes (11 PM vs. 3:30 AM) 07:03 – Husband plays video games after work 09:45 – Too much phone time (the daughter yelling "daddy") 10:46 – Husband cooks and preps meals, wife cleans up 11:16 – Never having an orgasm with penetration 12:00 – Couples who don't watch the same shows 14:30 – Promo for the Out of Sync course on mismatched libido 15:50 – Wife rejects intimacy before a work trip, then helps herself when he's gone 16:36 – Two king-size beds pushed together 18:38 – Trusting your husband about porn or cheating 19:20 – Wife wants to be led but won't give up control 20:12 – Wife leaves her shoes everywhere (and the shoes-in-the-house tangent) 22:19 – Couples who don't talk while eating 24:10 – Getting ready for bed at different times 24:50 – Husband loses his erection during long foreplay 25:36 – Wife doesn't know what turns her on 26:10 – Closing round: a green flag in each host's marriage 27:10 – Wrap-up and sign-off 27:41 – Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered if finishing at the same time is the secret to great sex?? Or how to even do it? Tiera, Alana, and Kyle keep it real about timing, communication, and trying practical ways to get in sync- without turning the bedroom into a performance! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course!!!! Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Intro, podcast mission, and the new orgasm course 01:25 — Audience poll on whether couples finish together 03:17 — Why do couples want to orgasm at the same time? 04:02 — Assuming everyone finishes together before marriage 05:16 — Learning each spouse’s path to orgasm 06:10 — Talking about arousal, interruptions, and cues 07:05 — Giving the slower-to-orgasm partner a head start 08:06 — Same-time orgasm is optional, not better sex 09:04 — Coordinating timing beyond penetration 10:16 — Preparing for transitions and staying present 11:35 — Communicating before the finish line 13:40 — Planning for when timing doesn’t match 14:06 — Treating it as teamwork and experimentation 15:40 — No single position makes it happen automatically 16:01 — Tips for slowing down and reducing sensation 17:44 — Using a stop signal to delay climax 19:26 — Reducing stimulation by stopping movement 20:10 — Communicating clearly and keeping what works 21:02 — Adjusting pace and reading each other’s cues 22:19 — Listener tips and real-world examples 25:25 — Learning each other’s rhythms with practice 26:30 — Why some couples take turns instead 27:15 — Final takeaway: mutual enjoyment over finishing together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode mentions self harm and infidelity. Please listen with care. Carl and Laura Lentz kick off our 'Real Marriage' series! It's a raw, honest conversation about infidelity, rebuilding trust, and the hard work of healing! This is a conversation about what it really takes to rebuild a marriage from the inside out. Pre-order their new book now! 10 Conversations That Heal The Hurt Preorder Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course Out Of Sync Audio Course Resources: Codependent No More Lights On Podcast 10 Conversations That Heal The Hurt Preorder ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Episode Hook: Facing Betrayal 00:15 — Kingdom Sexuality Podcast Introduction 01:02 — Sponsor Break 01:15 — Meet Carl and Laura Lentz 03:42 — How They Met 05:15 — Early Marriage and Sexual Expectations 08:10 — Betrayal, Infidelity, and the Breaking Point 12:45 — Choosing Healing Over Immediate Decisions 16:34 — Helping Their Children Through the Crisis 17:34 — Public Scrutiny and Starting Over 23:41 — The “Street Pharmacist” Story 25:24 — Rebuilding in Private 29:11 — Therapy, Trauma, and Doing the Work 31:59 — Rebuilding Emotional and Sexual Intimacy 39:38 — Navigating Different Desires 42:51 — Learning How to Love Each Other Better 46:10 — A Myth About Christian Sexuality 48:18 — Rapid-Fire Questions 49:21 — Where to Find Carl and Laura 49:51 — Closing Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you have ever wondered whether a Christian woman can use a vibrator to help her orgasm, this conversation gives you a biblical framework instead of shame or guesswork! Plus Tiera and Alana even give you a sneak peek into what the toy section looks like in the Finishing Well orgasm course! (Use code FINISHING30 to get 30% off for a limited time!) Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Products: Finishing Well Orgasm Course! code FINISHING30 for 30% off for a limited time! ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 00:00 — Opening: Faith, Sex, and Orgasms 00:31 — Course Reminder, Verse, and Sponsor Break 01:03 — Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys in Marriage? 03:19 — Questions Couples Should Consider 03:51 — Communication, Consent, and Prayer 04:26 — Needing More Stimulation Is Normal 05:28 — Reassurance for Husbands 06:01 — Can Vibrators Create Dependence? 07:08 — There’s No “More Spiritual” Way to Orgasm 07:38 — Inside the Course: Toy Education and Demonstrations 09:12 — How the Course Supports Couples 09:49 — Course Sale and Enrollment Details 10:50 — Participant Testimonial 12:24 — Closing Thoughts and Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices