Mindful Poetic Stories Podcast

Introduction In this heartfelt December episode, Patricia shares stories of Christmases past, present, and future, and how the festive season, while full of joy, can also bring exhaustion, overwhelm, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and emotional strain. Patricia shares a poetic reflection on her former “autopilot Christmases,” the impact of mental fitness on transforming the holiday experience, and practical tools to help you reclaim peace, presence, and personal power this festive season. How you can not only survive Christmas but thrive through it.   Whether you celebrate Christmas or any other big holiday, this episode offers guidance to help you thrive, not merely survive.   Key Takeaways Christmas stress is often habit-driven. Much of the overwhelm comes from autopilot patterns: needing to control, please, or perfect everything. The Power of the Pause can transform your emotional experience, helping you choose peace, compassion, and presence rather than chaos and reactivity. A Personal Christmas Mission Statement brings clarity and intention to the season, helping you stay aligned with what truly matters. Emotional wellbeing > perfection. People remember connection, humour, and togetherness, not flawless dinners or pristine décor. Boundaries are essential. Saying yes to everything often means saying no to yourself. Support children with empathy. Christmas consumerism can heighten expectations; teaching emotional awareness and kindness helps them navigate disappointment. Joy is created, not bought. Connection, generosity, and shared traditions hold much deeper value than gifts.   Notable Quotes “Between every stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.” – Viktor Frankl “No one can drive you crazy unless you give them the keys.” “This Christmas, begin with the end in mind and choose what truly matters to you.” “Your wellbeing is priceless, kindness and connection last longer than perfection.” “The power is not in the choice itself, but in consciously choosing.”   Practical Recommendations Write Your Personal Christmas Mission Statement Reflect on: Past Christmases—your memories, values, and lessons The present—your intentions and what you want to cultivate The future—how you want to feel in early January Turn your reflections into a short, positive, written daily reminder such as: “This Christmas, I choose………… calm, connection, and presence.”   Practice the Power of the Pause Use mindful pauses to: Regulate your emotions Reduce reactivity Redirect energy from chaos toward love, compassion, clarity, and peace   Let Go of Autopilot “Needs” Need to control: Prioritise kindness over being right; release tension for the greater good. Need to be perfect: Embrace imperfection. Chaos often becomes the story everyone laughs about years later. Need to please: Choose your “yes” and “no” consciously. Set boundaries. Ask for help. Delegate.   Support Children Emotionally Validate their feelings, especially around disappointment or comparison Use creative outlets to help them express emotions Teach the joy of giving with family kindness lists, handmade gifts, or toy donations   Remember What Christmas Is Really About Connection. Joy. Presence. Compassion. Shared moments—not perfect gifts or flawless planning.   Food you can buy more of! Gifts you can buy more of!   But time is something you can’t buy!   contact me via my website www.pacoaching.co.uk or email me hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

In this episode, Patricia explores the surprising science, psychology, and emotional wisdom behind tears. Why we cry and why it matters. From childhood beliefs about “crying alone,” to the therapeutic power of being seen, to the extraordinary microscopic landscapes of Rose-Lynn Fisher’s Topography of Tears, this conversation reveals why tears are far more than a sign of sadness, they’re a biological release, an emotional reset, and a universal human connector.   Introduction We often rush to stop our own tears, and the tears of others. Yet emotional tears are uniquely human and play a crucial role in healing, connection, and self-understanding. Today’s episode explores the biology of crying, why we’re uncomfortable with emotions, how coaching spaces can invite healthy release, and the unexpected beauty contained within a single tear drop.   Key Takeaways Emotional tears are biologically healing, releasing stress hormones and boosting oxytocin and endorphins. We often shut down tears due to discomfort, not compassion, yet supportive presence can make crying therapeutic. Tears can appear in coaching spaces when clients finally feel safe, seen, and heard. Microscopic tear patterns are unique, revealing emotional “landscapes” as shown in Rose-Lynn Fisher’s Topography of Tears. Crying is universal but deeply personal, influenced by culture, context, and human connection. Not all crying is cathartic, its healing depends on how others respond. Tears mark emotional turning points, allowing acceptance, release, and renewal. There is nothing to fear about tears, they connect us to ourselves and to one another.   Notable Quotes “We have nothing to fear from tears.” “Comforted tears heal, ignored tears may deepen pain.” “Tears are landscapes of emotion, tiny maps of the human soul.” “We cannot control the ocean, but we can learn to surf.” “Tears mark turning points, moments of acceptance, release, and renewal.” “If you need to cry, cry unapologetically.” “A safe space can turn tears into empowerment.”   Recommended Books The Topography of Tears – Rose-Lynn Fisher A stunning visual exploration of human emotion through microscopic tear photography. The Crying Book – Heather Christle A poetic, literary, and deeply moving examination of why humans cry. Why Humans Cry – Ad Vingerhoets A scientific look at crying, catharsis, and emotional expression. In Praise of Therapeutic Crying – Jeffrey Von Glahn (article) A compassionate exploration of crying as a healing tool   Contact me via my website www.pacoaching.co.uk or email hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

Listening The Art of Listening, Where Love Begins   Episode Summary In this reflective and heartfelt episode, Patricia explores the profound power of listening to others, to life, and most importantly, to ourselves. Drawing from personal stories, coaching experiences, and emotional lessons learned, this episode invites you to slow down, embrace silence, and reconnect with your inner Sage wisdom. You’ll learn why listening is one of the most transformational acts of love, how active listening nurtures deeper relationships, and how mental can help us cultivate self-listening and help us build emotional resilience, and meaningful human connection.   Key Takeaways Listening is the foundation of love and human connection. To feel listened to is to feel seen, valued, and loved. Listening builds trust, belonging, and emotional safety, things every human deeply needs. Silence is not emptiness, it's powerful. Silence helps nourish wisdom, create space for deeper reflection, and reveal truths often missed in noise and distraction. Active listening transforms relationships. Listening without interruption, judgment, fixing, or assuming allows others to process their own thoughts and uncover their own answers; “the brain that contains the problem also contains the solution.” Listening to yourself is an act of self-love. Your mind, body, intuition, and emotions are constantly communicating with you. When disconnected or distracted, you lose access to your inner wisdom. Our digital, fast-paced world weakens our listening muscles. Overconsumption and constant distraction make it easy to lose touch with our inner voice—and with each other. Advice is often less helpful than curiosity. Well-intentioned advice can interrupt someone’s thought process. Curious questions create space for clarity and empowerment. Mental fitness reduces self-sabotage and strengthens your inner Sage. By diminishing self-neglect and the self sabotaging Saboteur voice, you create space for intuitive, compassionate, aligned decision-making. We must relearn deep listening in our families. Partners, children, and friends thrive when we give them the gift of undivided attention, especially during emotional moments. Self-listening is needed before we can listen to others well. You cannot offer presence, compassion, or understanding if you don’t practice them with yourself first. Listening is love in action. A five-minute conversation where someone feels truly listened to is more nourishing than hours of distracted half-presence.   Notable Quotes “Silence is the sleep that nourishes wisdom.” Francis Bacon “Listening is an art form.” Nancy Kline “Love is listening, and listening is loving.” Patricia Ahern “Silence is not empty, it’s full of answers.” “The brain that contains the problem also contains the solution.” Nancy Kline “Listening is where love begins.” Patricia Ahern “Every view is the wrong view if held as the only view.” “Your brain is always eavesdropping on your mind.” “You are a miracle, and self-love is your most powerful asset.” Patricia Ahern   Your Call to Action This Week Make space to listen to others Offer someone you love the gift of your full, uninterrupted presence. No fixing. No advising. Just listening. Make space to listen to yourself Ask yourself with compassion: What do I think? What do I feel? What do I believe right now? Create micro moments of silence Let silence nourish your inner wisdom. Strengthen self-love through self-listening Place a hand on your heart and affirm your worth. Reconnect with your childhood self. Stop saying yes when your heart says no. Make meaningful time for yourself.   Final Reflection Listening heals. Listening connects. Listening helps us belong. And when we learn to listen deeply to others and to ourselves, we awaken our inner Sage and live with greater clarity, purpose, and compassion. Thank you for listening with an open heart, open mind, and open ears.   Connect through my website www.pacoaching.co.uk or email at hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

Mindful Poetic Stories Shownotes Episode Title: Consumerism Part 2 - From Self-Neglect to Self-Care: Breaking Free from Overconsumption and Finding Conscious Freedom Episode Introduction In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Patricia explores how modern consumerism, manipulation in marketing, and emotional conditioning keep us trapped in a cycle of problem–reaction–solution. Sharing her personal awakening to the hidden toxicity and waste surrounding daily life, she invites listeners to reflect on how our buying habits impact both our mental health and the planet. Through storytelling, cultural insights, and thought-provoking documentary recommendations including; The Story of Stuff, Ethos: A Time for Change, and Buy Now! The Shopping Conspiracy, Patricia invites us to slow down, buy mindfully, and reconnect with our values. This episode is a heartfelt call to move from self-neglect to self-care, from unconscious consumption to conscious living.   Key Takeaways We are conditioned to consume through emotional manipulation and social pressure. Overconsumption and “retail therapy” often mask deeper emotional needs. Fast fashion and planned obsolescence fuel environmental and human exploitation. Awareness is the first step toward sustainable, mindful change. Mental fitness and self-love are foundations for conscious living. Every purchase is a vote for the kind of world we want to create.   Featured Topics Eco-conscious living and reducing toxic exposure Fast fashion, Shein, and the hidden cost of cheap clothes Consumer psychology: marketing, persuasion, and emotional triggers Sustainability documentaries that inspire change Mindful consumption and small, practical steps to reduce waste Mental fitness and self-care coaching for a more intentional life   Notable Quotes “We don’t buy products, we buy what a product promises us.” “Awareness is the first step to move from unconscious living to mindful action.” “Our body is our ultimate home. When we love and care for it, we naturally care for our planet.” “Letting go gives us freedom and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If in our heart we still cling to anything be it anger, anxiety or possessions we cannot be free”. Thich Nhat Hanh   Recommended Documentary; The Story of Stuff (2007) Documentary; Ethos: A Time for Change (2011) Documentary; Buy Now! The Shopping Conspiracy (2024) Book; Brave New World   Call to Action If this episode inspired you, share it with friends, family, or your community. Start conversations about consumption, sustainability, and self-awareness. Remember — small consistent steps create lasting change.   www.pacoaching.co.uk email at hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

In this powerful episode, Consumerism to Mindful Activism (Part 1), Patricia explores the deep connection between our inner world and the outer choices we make. Patricia shares her personal journey from external pursuit of happiness to inner reconnection, explaining how shifting mindset, healing the gut, and making conscious, sustainable lifestyle changes transformed her health, energy, and sense of purpose. This episode dives into consumerism, self-awareness, gut health, emotional wellbeing, and practical tools to help you begin your own journey toward intentional, mindful living, one small step at a time. Key Themes Moving from external validation to inner fulfilment Understanding how consumerism and overconsumption affect mental and physical health Reconnecting with the “Wise Sage” self through mindfulness and self-compassion The link between gut health, energy, and emotional wellbeing Making sustainable, toxin-free lifestyle choices without overwhelm Building mental fitness through awareness, curiosity, and self-love Powerful Quotes “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer “We are all wounded healers.” – Gabor Maté “People are fed by the Food Industry, which pays no attention to health, and treated by a Health Industry that pays no attention to food.” – Wendell Berry “It’s easier to fool people than to convince them that they are being fooled.” – Mark Twain “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.” – George Bernard Shaw “Every view is the wrong view if it is held as the only view.” – Thich Nhat Hanh “The very reason I write is so that I might not sleepwalk through my entire life.” – Zadie Smith “I can’t see a way through,” said the boy. “Can you see your next step?” asked the horse. “Yes.” “Then just take that.” – Charles Mackesy The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse   Recommendations & Resources Apps: YUKA App – Scan food and cosmetic barcodes to check for health impact and hidden additives. Documentaries: The Gut: Our Second Brain (2013/2014); How our gut microbiome influences mood, energy, and immunity. Fed Up (2014) – The truth about sugar, processed foods, and how the food industry shapes our health. Books: Activate Your Vagus Nerve by Navaz Habib; Learn how to restore calm, resilience, and optimal health through vagal tone. Other Mentions: Dirty Dozen List; Environmental Working Group’s (EWG) guide to fruits and vegetables with the highest pesticide residues. https://www.ewg.org/foodnews/dirty-dozen.php Eco-conscious brands like SEEP, Who Gives a Crap, and homemade natural cleaning solutions. https://theseepcompany.com/collections/all https://uk.whogivesacrap.org/pages/about-us Complimentary Therapist https://maresawalsh.ie/   Key Takeaways Awareness is the first step to move from unconscious living to mindful action. Small, consistent changes in what we eat, buy, and consume create long-term wellbeing. Happier people make healthy choices, and healthier choices make happier people Gut health is central to both physical energy and emotional balance. Mindful activism starts with understanding, self-love, curiosity, and compassion. You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight, simply “take one step at a time.” Call to Action If today’s episode resonated with you, take one small conscious action, whether it’s scanning your food labels, switching to natural products, or simply pausing before your next purchase. Subscribe for Part 2 of “From Consumerism to Mindful Activism”, where Patricia explores the hidden costs of overconsumption and shares more inspiring resources for sustainable, conscious living. Want to go deeper? Book a free discovery coaching call to explore how mindful awareness and mental fitness can help you reconnect with your true self.   www.pacoaching.co.uk or email hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

In this week’s episode, Patricia explores the beauty and power of art as healing, human connection, and compassion in action. Following last week’s tribute to inspirational changemakers of the past, today’s story celebrates the people creating positive change right now, those dedicating their time to supporting others and making the world a kinder, more hopeful place. This episode is inspired by Tara Dominick, Artist and co-founder of the Kakuma Art Project, this episode shares my poetic story Through Your Paintings, born from a creative connection that has turned into a continuing inspirational movement of creativity, love, and empathy. The Kakuma Art Project began with one painting, The Boat, which sparked an initiative bringing therapeutic art workshops to refugees in the Kakuma Refugee Camp in Kenya.   Through the lens of creativity, the film (The Good Lie), and the wisdom of thought leaders like Gabor Maté, Elif Shafak, and Jane Goodall, Patricia reflects on how trauma, art, healing and compassion intertwine, and how every small act of kindness can ripple out to change lives.   Key Points Discussed: The Kakuma Art Project’s Origin: How one painting, The Boat, inspired a movement that provides art workshops for refugees in Kenya, and much more. The Power of Connection: The friendship between Tara and Hubert, co-founders of the Kakuma Art Project, and how creativity builds bridges across borders. The Good Lie: Reflections on the 2014 film inspired by true events in Sudan and the Kakuma Refugee Camp, and its deep emotional impact and its continued resonance today. Understanding Trauma: Insights from Gabor Maté on how trauma lives in the body. Creativity can provide a pathway to healing, an inner connection but also human connection. Post-Traumatic Growth: The idea that from deep pain can come love, connection, resilience, creativity, and empathy. Numbness vs. Evil: Elif Shafak’s perspective on how apathy, not evil, may be the true opposite of goodness. The Role of Art in Healing: How painting, writing, and creative expression can help release pain and the power of creating safe emotional spaces. Rising Above Fear: Using awareness, kindness, and self-compassion to move from trauma to empowerment. A Call to Action: Supporting humanitarian initiatives like the Kakuma Art Project — and recognising that every act of kindness matters.   Quotes: “War is what happens when language fails.” – Margaret Atwood “War is itself the enemy of the human race.” – Howard Zinn “I’m fed up to the ears with old men dreaming up wars for young men to die in.” – George McGovern “Trauma is not what happens to us, it is what happens inside of us as a result of what happened to us.” – Gabor Maté “Perhaps the opposite of goodness is numbness.” Elif Shafak “Holding anger and hatred in you is a poison… it eats you up from inside.” “What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you wish to make.” – Jane Goodall   Key Takeaway: Art can be a bridge between pain and peace. Through compassion, creativity, and awareness, we can all play a part, however small, in bringing light to those living in darkness.   Together, we can help amplify the voices of those whose stories deserve to be heard.   Call to Action: If the Kakuma Art Project resonates with you and you’d like to contribute or learn more, there are lots of options as outlined below, please reach out via the following links;   Donate to Kakama Art Project; https://linktr.ee/Kakumaartproject?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=1ea5d87f-a981-44f0-8967-c27cdc44de5c Buy the book Power of One Painting available on amazon £12.99 https://amzn.eu/d/bI0dsyK If you are interested in any of the art/paintings reach out to Tara Dominick email info@taradominick.com Website https://www.taradominickartist.com/ Submit your own piece of creativity to the fundraising online gallery on Kakuma Artline Grids https://kakumaartproject.com/ - your paintings, music, photography, favourite tree, your pet etc. £27 per submission Buy the book; Creative Souls; Poetry. Music Art Compilation - which is supporting the Kakuma Art Project fundraising https://amzn.eu/d/3LdaRxh £16.99   “Kindness is contagious.” Yours is much appreciated. Thank You   Connect with Patrica via email hello@pacoaching.co.uk Linktree: https://linktr.ee/pacoaching.co.uk    

How Inspirational Quotes Shaped My Life In this powerful and poetic episode, Patricia reflects on the transformative power of inspirational quotes and the legacy of the great minds who spoke them. "Ode to the Greats" is a heartfelt tribute to legendary change-makers like Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, Maya Angelou, Benjamin Zephaniah, and others whose words still spark action, self-love, resilience, and post-traumatic growth. From teenage diary entries filled with motivational clippings to a “Words of Wisdom” box shared with her mother during lockdown, the journey of self-discovery is steeped in wisdom, emotional intelligence, mental fitness, and the power of the pause. This episode is more than gratitude, it’s a call to awaken, to step into your legacy with courage, to feed light instead of the dark, to move with love instead of fear, and to let inspiring words guide your healing, justice-seeking, and soulful action. Discussed in this episode: Resilience Building with Mental Fitness Emotional awareness Women's rights and justice Legacy building Emotional intelligence Post-traumatic growth Words of wisdom Power of pause Critical thinking Self Love Journey to inner empowerment Notable Quotes from the Episode: "Let your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears." – Nelson Mandela "Between the stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response." – Viktor Frankl "We are all one. Only egos, beliefs and fears separate us." – Nikola Tesla "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." – Margaret Mead "Do what you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better." – Maya Angelou " All men dream; but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds Awake to find that it was vanity; But the dreamers of day are dangerous men. That they may act their dreams with open eyes to make it possible. ." – T.E. Lawrence "A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not in the branch but in its wings." "Just don’t give up. Don’t let them grind you down. Rise up all ye sisters and brothers who know better, stand firm in the downturn." – Benjamin Zephaniah POETRY BOOK; Creative Souls – published “Ode To The Greats”, available to buy on Amazon https://amzn.eu/d/f7ZgaQI   Call to Action: Share your favourite inspirational quote with us! Which words have shifted your thinking or shaped your life’s path? Leave a comment below. Subscribe, Rate, and Review If this episode moved you, inspired you, or gave you pause, please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share it with someone who needs a dose of wisdom and courage today. Join the Conversation Let’s co-create a community that thrives on wisdom, compassion, courage, and legacy. Use the hashtag #OdeToTheGreats If you wish to know more about Mental Fitness and how it can help you email me hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

Reclaim Your Mind in the Age of Digital Distraction Episode Summary In this powerful and thought-provoking episode, we dive into the hidden costs of social media and technology on your mental health, relationships, emotional wellbeing, and even identity. Inspired by the eye-opening docudramas The Social Dilemma and TikTok Boom, Patricia shares a deeply personal reflection on how digital overload is disconnecting us from our humanity. Discover how mindfulness, mental fitness, and positive intelligence can help you reclaim your time, attention, and peace, and why now is the time to take back control before we lose ourselves in the algorithm.   Discussed in this Episode The true psychological and emotional cost of constant digital engagement Why social media addiction is more than just screen time, it’s about manipulation Insights from The Social Dilemma and TikTok Boom How coaching, mindfulness, and emotional intelligence can reconnect us with our wise inner self Practical steps: creating tech-free zones, journaling, and digital detoxing Why building mental fitness is more urgent than ever in the AI age A call to action: How to protect yourself, and future generations, from digital disconnection   Quotable Moments "If you're not paying for the product, you are the product." "Mindfulness doesn’t happen while scrolling, it starts when we step away from the noise." "AI may be smarter, but it will never be wiser than a connected human being."   Key Takeaway Awareness is the first step to transformation and transformation is process of reconnection. When we consciously reduce our digital distractions and prioritise mental fitness, we reclaim our power, our presence, and our peace.   Mentioned in This Episode The Social Dilemma (Netflix) TikTok Boom (Docuseries) 10 Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media – book by Jaron Lanier Super Brain, book by Deepak Chopra & Rudolph E Tanzi Amusing Ourselves to Death – Book by Neil Postman Robert Kiyosaki quote: “Your future is created by what you do today, not tomorrow” Mark Twain “A lie can travel around the world while the truth is still putting on its shoes.” The Age of Surveillance Capitalism, book by Shoshana Zuboff , “the MARKET now trades exclusively in HUMAN FUTURES at scale”   Listen Now & Start Reconnecting Feeling overwhelmed by your devices? Tune in for deeper awareness of potential damage and learn how to cut through the digital noise and reconnect with your true self, before it’s too late, for you and your loved ones.   Connect with Patricia if you want to know more about how Mental Fitness can help you.   Hit the subscribe button for more weekly episodes.   www.pacoaching.co.uk email hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

This episode is powerful and heartfelt, and is all about moving from self-sabotage to self-welcoming with self-care, reclaiming body love and inner wisdom. Today Patricia dives into the inner critic that lives in all of us, the voice that tells us we’re not good enough. But what if it’s not only the world that’s to blame? What if it’s the stories we tell ourselves? Patricia shares a deeply personal journey of body shame, low self-worth, and the lifelong impact of unrealistic beauty standards. From the harsh truths about the media's influence to the importance of self-welcoming over self-improvement, this episode calls on women, and all listeners, to reconnect with their true essence, their "sage" within. Through reflections on culture, parenting, and healing, you'll discover how embracing your natural, authentic self isn’t just liberating, it’s revolutionary.   Concepts Discussed: body positivity overcoming low self-esteem unrealistic beauty standards self-worth and parenting emotional healing women empowerment body image issues makeup-free movement self-acceptance for women sage mindset vs saboteurs generational healing confidence in your own skin   Notable Quotes: “It’s not always the world telling us we’re not good enough. Sometimes, it’s just the stories we tell ourselves from our own perceptions.” “My Mindful Poetic Stories podcast isn’t about self-improvement, it’s about self-welcoming.” “If all women woke up and decided to love their bodies, half the beauty industry would collapse.” “You are loved for your unique miracle self. Now repeat that to yourself.” “Flawless doesn’t exist in nature, so why are we trying to chase it?” “When we come home to ourselves, our world changes for the better”. We live in a society which is very much dependent on roles and roles depend on how other people see you, so we all want to be seen in the best possible light and society punishes us for being authentic Gabor Mate "I don't have ugly ducklings turning into beautiful swans in my stories. I have ugly ducklings turning into confident ducks. Maeve Binchy "We get courage from other people's stories. We get consolation from the way they tell about failures, disappointments and crises. It means that we are not alone." Maeve Binchy   Call to Action - If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs a reminder of their worth. - Follow the podcast and leave a review on your favourite platform—it helps more people join this self-love revolution. - Tag me on Instagram with your favourite takeaway using #MindfulPoeticStoriesPodcast. - Subscribe for weekly reminders to reconnect with your beautifully imperfect self.   www.pacoaching.co.uk or email on hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

In today’s deeply personal episode, Patricia explores the emotional toll of the “pleaser saboteur”, a self-sabotaging behaviour rooted in the fear of rejection, unmet childhood needs, and a relentless desire to be accepted by others. Drawing from both her own transformation journey and a poetic story inspired by the heartbreaking story of a friend’s experience with coercive control, Patricia shares insights into how empathy, when left unchecked, can lead to burnout, emotional manipulation, and the loss of self-identity. In this episode Patricia uncovers: How unconscious saboteur patterns like the pleaser and controller can trap us in unhealthy dynamics. Why self-love is not selfish, but essential, to our wellbeing and happiness. The danger of attachment disguised as love, and how to spot it. Why mental fitness and frameworks like Positive Intelligence help build resilience. How to set boundaries that protect your well-being and still honour your capacity to love. The words of wisdom that run through all of Patricia’s podcast episodes, “You wouldn’t sabotage someone you truly loved. And you wouldn’t self-sabotage if you truly loved yourself.” Join Patricia on a journey from self-abandonment to self-mastery, from self sabotage to self care, with reflections from thought leaders like Gabor Maté, Brené Brown, Carl Jung, and more. Powerful Quotes from the Episode: “You wouldn’t sabotage someone you truly loved. And you wouldn’t self-sabotage if you truly loved yourself.” Patricia Ahern “The power is not in whether we say yes or no; the power is in our conscious capacity to choose.” Patricia Ahern “My love is unconditional. But my presence is not.” “It is not others’ responsibility to think of me; it is my own.” Patricia Ahern “Being in the wrong relationship can be detrimental to your health.” — Gabor Maté “Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” — Lao Tzu “The near enemy of love is attachment.” — Brené Brown “Before you heal someone, ask him if he's willing to give up the things that make him sick.” — Hippocrates “I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make others happy because they know what it feels like to feel absolutely worthless.” — Robin Williams “Empaths fall in love with those destroying them—not out of weakness, but because they are unconsciously seduced by the other’s wounds.” — Carl Jung   References and Mentions: Gabor Maté – Expert in trauma, addiction, and mind-body health Brené Brown – Researcher on vulnerability, shame, and wholehearted living Lao Tzu – Ancient Chinese philosopher Carl Jung – Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Robin Williams – Quoted on the pain behind people-pleasing Paul Brunson – Relationship coach (conversation with Gabor Maté) Hippocrates – On true healing and personal responsibility Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine – Framework of saboteurs and Sage mindset Serious Crime Act 2015 (UK) – Legal recognition of coercive control as abuse   RECOMMENDED BOOKS - if you are dealing with highly controlling or narcissistic behaviour   Why Does He Do That - by Lundy Bancrofts - inside the minds of angry and controlling men The Empath’s Survival Guide - Life strategies for sensitive people - by Judith Orloff Toxic Magnetism - How and Why Empaths attract Narcissists by Kara Lawrence Will I Ever Be Good Enough? - Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Karyl McBride Maybe You Should Talk To Someone - by Lori Gottlieb Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents - How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting Or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay Gibson. Daring greatly - How The Courage To Be Vulnerable Transfers The Way We Live, Love Parent and Lead by Brene brown   Takeaway Message: This episode is a heart-centered call to action for empaths, caregivers, and people-pleasers to turn their nurturing inward. Self-love is the foundation from which all healthy relationships are built. The journey may be challenging, but it’s the only one that leads to freedom, wholeness, and authentic connection, with yourself and others. Highlights: Pleaser saboteur Self-sabotage behaviours Coercive control in relationships Empaths and narcissists Mental fitness coaching Positive Intelligence saboteurs Healing childhood wounds Setting emotional boundaries Unmet emotional needs Emotional burnout recovery Self-love and empowerment Narcissistic abuse awareness Emotional manipulation signs Inner child healing Women’s emotional health   www.pacoaching.co.uk connect with me via social media or via my email hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

Podcast Show Notes: Episode 36 Episode Title: My Fridge, The Bigger Picture   Episode Summary In this soul-nourishing episode, we explore the emotional root of cravings, the difference between hunger and emotional eating, and how societal conditioning traps us in cycles of self-sabotage. Patricia shares deeply personal reflections, insights from her coaching practice, and powerful tools to start healing your relationship with food, all through the lens of self-love, compassion, and conscious choice. "We must learn to love ourselves so we self-care, not self-sabotage." Key Takeaways & Themes Cravings vs Hunger: Hunger is a biological need; cravings often stem from emotional longing or unmet needs. Emotional Eating Patterns: Food becomes a "pacifier" to numb discomfort, pain, or stress, leading to cycles of guilt and shame. The Power of the Pause: Creating space between the craving and the action allows us to tune into our "true essence" and choose differently. The Judge Saboteur: Harsh inner criticism perpetuates shame and can drive emotional overeating. Quick Fix Culture: From slimming pills to injections, many chase short-term solutions that ignore root causes, and the potential long term consequences. Hormonal & Biological Factors: Ghrelin, GLP-1, and other hormones play a significant role in hunger regulation, it's not just willpower. Reclaiming Power Through Self-Love: Healing starts by nurturing compassion, joy, and patience within yourself.   Quotes to Remember “Am I hungry? Or am I craving something else right now?” “What felt like comfort was a cycle, an emotional rollercoaster masquerading as relief.” “You are not weak when you binge eat, you're weary.” “Learn to love yourself so you self-care, not self-sabotage.” “Gaunt is not good. Tricking the body into not eating is not healing.” “Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself.” — Jim Kwik “Nothing is more desirable than to be released from an affliction... but nothing is more frightening than to be divested of a crutch.” — James Baldwin “People are fed by the food industry which pays no attention to health, and treated by the health industry which pays no attention to food.” — Wendell Berry “At some point we need to stop just pulling people out of the river, we need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” — Desmond Tutu   Referenced in This Episode GLP-1 Drugs / Slimming Jabs (e.g. Ozempic, Wegovy) Vanessa Feltz Show: Commentary on slimming injections and societal attitudes toward weight Lizzie Cundy: On anorexia recovery and caution about slimming drugs Documentaries on food education (not named but mentioned) Psychologies Magazine – daily affirmations: o “Eat to nourish, not punish” o “Move to the rhythm of your body”   Tools & Practices Shared The Power of the Pause — slowing down before reacting to cravings Daily affirmations to rewire your beliefs around food Self-inquiry prompts like “Am I really hungry?” Listening to your body’s signals over societal conditioning Understanding hormones and how they influence cravings and hunger   ❤️ Final Message You are not alone in your struggle with food, cravings, or emotional eating. The path to healing starts with self-awareness, continues with self-compassion, and is empowered by self-love. This isn’t about perfection. It’s about progress, presence, and patience. “You are not your body, but your body responds to how you treat it. Choose to drive it with love, not fear.”   👉 Join the Self Love Movement — a community focused on healing from the inside out. 📩 To find out more about my work check out my website www.pacoaching.co.uk 🎧 Subscribe & share this episode if it resonated with you!   Hear more about my weight loss and self love journey on my conversation with Martha Rice on her Casting the Net Podcast  https://www.youtube.com/watch?reload=9&v=w04jsaohKQE&feature=youtu.be   www.pacoaching.co.uk, contact me to find out more or to book a free discovery call      

Podcast Series: Self Love to Self Sabotage   Episode Overview In Part 1 of this 2-part deep dive, Patricia shares a deeply personal journey of overcoming emotional eating, food addiction, and a once-toxic relationship with her fridge, which was not just an appliance, but an emotional crutch. From binging to self-awareness, from comfort food to self-love, this episode unpacks the psychological, societal, and biological reasons why we eat when we’re not hungry, and what finally helped Patricia break free. If you’ve ever turned to food for comfort, felt shame after eating, or battled diet culture, this one’s for you. ________________________________________ Key Quotes “You are not weak when you binge eat. You’re weary.” “My fridge wasn’t just an appliance — it was my emotional comfort blanket.” “Happier people make healthier choices.” “Self-love is a revolutionary act.” Abiola Abrahms “I don’t work on my body anymore, I work with my body.” Patricia Ahern There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” Desmond Tutu “And I said to my body, softly, ‘I want to be your friend.’ It took a long breath and replied, ‘I have been waiting my whole life for this.’” Nayyirah Waheed ________________________________________ Key Topics Emotional eating recovery Comfort eating triggers Treats & sugar dependency Slimming pills vs self-love Diet culture myths The obesity crisis and societal influence Self-love and body image Healing through emotional awareness What You'll Learn Why emotional eating isn’t just about willpower, it’s also about emotional suppression How childhood experiences may create lifelong associations between food and comfort The truth about diet culture, slimming drugs, and marketing manipulation How I shifted from food dependency to nutritional empowerment How I went from numbing to nourishment Why self-love is the foundation of sustainable health and helps us make healthier choices Actionable tips to begin your own healing journey with food and body image Listener Tips Write your WHY – Why do you want to feel better in your body? Connect with your why. Start small – One mini healthy shift a day is enough. Talk to your reflection – Build a positive, kind connection with your body. Use your fridge as motivation, not a crutch – Put reminders or photos that empower you. Remember: willpower is depleted by dependency and addiction. Healing refuels it. Final Thoughts This episode is more than a story about food, it’s about breaking cycles, reclaiming power, and learning how to love yourself from the inside out. If this resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs to hear they’re not alone. Let’s spread the message that healing is possible, and self-love is the real miracle cure. Mentioned in this Episode Mariana Cardore F* The Diet book and podcast - recommended Listen - https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/how-is-your-mental-fitness-interview-patricia-ahern/id1623052831?i=1000579711827 – Next Week To be continued….. Part 2 – My Fridge: The Bigger Picture – will zoom out and explore the wider landscape of slimming jabs, public health, convenience culture, and how we all got here. Plus: how to build resilience in a world that profits off your self-doubt. Don’t miss it. Call to Action 🎧 Enjoying the podcast? Here’s how you can support: ✨ Subscribe to the podcast for more soulful conversations on emotional well-being and personal transformation. 🌟 Leave a 5-star rating and a written review on Apple or Spotify ✨ Share this episode with someone who needs hope or healing today. 💌 Join the conversation: DM me on Instagram @pacoaching_foryou or email hello@pacoaching.co.uk 💻 Explore Coaching/Mental Fitness: www.pacoaching.co.uk      

Host: Patricia Ahern Theme: Grief, Resilience, Mental Fitness, Self-Healing, Rebirth ________________________________________ 🔥 Episode Summary In this powerful and poetic Part 2 podcast episode, Patricia explores what it means to rise from the ashes of loss, trauma, and emotional pain — just like the mythical phoenix. This is an honest and compassionate reflection on grief, emotional healing, self-reconnection, and building resilience. Through personal stories, the transformative RAIN framework by Tara Brach, and the pain of losing a dear friend to suicide, Patricia takes us on a journey of radical acceptance, inner trust, and mental fitness. If you’ve ever felt the weight of grief, regret, or emotional disconnection — this episode is a heartfelt guide to rising stronger, wiser, and more compassionate. ________________________________________   💬 Memorable Quotes "Time alone doesn’t heal wounds — healing comes from being open to learning and feeling." Patricia Ahern "To heal, we must feel. To rise, we must trust that we can." Patrica Ahern "You can’t get enough of something that almost works." – Dr. Vincent Felitti "The biggest tears at a graveside aren’t for loss — they’re for regret." "Mental fitness is not self-improvement — it’s self-welcoming." Patricia Ahern ________________________________________ RAIN: A Path to Healing and Acceptance Tara Brach’s RAIN framework is a mindfulness tool for processing difficult emotions. Learn more: RAIN Practice by Tara Brach R – Recognize what’s happening A – Allow it to be there I – Investigate with kindness N – Nurture with self-compassion ________________________________________ Resources & Mentions 🔗 Tara Brach’s RAIN Practice 📘 Radical Acceptance & Radical Compassion – by Tara Brach o https://www.tarabrach.com/ 🎓 Amusing Ourselves to Death – by Neil Postman 🧘‍♀️ Brahma Kumaris Meditation & Teachings o https://www.brahmakumaris.com/ 🧠 Positive Intelligence & The Sage Perspective o https://www.positiveintelligence.com/ BACP Therapist Directory https://www.bacp.co.uk/about-us/home/ UKCP Register https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/about-ukcp/our-register/ Counselling Directory UK https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ Mental Health Ireland https://www.mentalhealthireland.ie/ MIND https://www.mind.org.uk/ ________________________________________ 📢 Call to Action ✨ Explore therapy or mental health support — your healing matters. 🎧 Enjoying the podcast? Here’s how you can support: ✨ Subscribe to the podcast for more soulful conversations on emotional well-being and personal transformation. 🌟 Leave a 5-star rating and a written review on Apple or Spotify ✨ Share this episode with someone who needs hope or healing today. 💌 Join the conversation: DM me on Instagram @pacoaching_foryou or email hello@pacoaching.co.uk 💻 Explore Coaching/Mental Fitness: www.pacoaching.co.uk   If you’re grieving, struggling with inner pain, or feeling stuck — know that you are not alone. Healing begins with self-awareness, compassion, and connection.   email hello@pacoaching.co.uk website www.pacoaching.co.uk    

In this deeply personal and reflective episode, Patricia shares the first part of a two-part series on rising after loss, with an emphasis on grief, suicide, and emotional healing. Through a vulnerable recounting of her own experience losing a close friend to suicide, Patricia explores how emotional pain, when faced and processed, can lead to profound personal transformation. This episode is a gentle yet powerful reminder that from our darkest moments, we can rise—stronger, wiser, and more compassionate. 💬 "Our darkest times can be our greatest teachers and motivators." ________________________________________ Trigger Warning This episode discusses grief, trauma, and suicide. Please listen only if you feel emotionally safe to do so. Resources for support are included below. ________________________________________ Key Takeaways We Can Rise From Pain Healing is a conscious process, not a passive one. Pain avoided becomes pain prolonged; pain processed becomes transformation. "We may fall or fail, but these experiences define a life—they do not define us." ________________________________________ Grief and Loss Are Unique Journeys Based on the Kübler-Ross 5 Stages of Grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. These are not linear, nor the same for everyone. They are an emotional guide, not a rule. “The brain tries to protect us, but sometimes it traps us in past pain.” ________________________________________ The Power of Meditation and Reconnection Healing began through meditation at the Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University. Introduced the concept of a “diamond within”—our inner light muddied by life’s burdens. Brahma Kumaris UK https://www.brahmakumaris.com/ ________________________________________ Positive Intelligence & Mental Fitness Positive Intelligence (PQ) teaches us to recognize Saboteur voices vs. the inner Sage (the diamond). The Saboteurs see everything as bad and it will never be good. The Sage sees challenges and even our darkest moments with a gift or opportunity within. “The question: Which is true? The answer: Whatever you believe is true—for you.” Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine https://www.positiveintelligence.com/ ________________________________________ Suicide Prevention & Awareness Honouring Patricia’s friend’s memory, she shares some charities she supports for suicide prevention: Charities Mentioned: 🇮🇪 HUGG Ireland – Support after suicide loss 🔗 https://hugg.ie/about-us/ 🇮🇪 Pieta House – Suicide and self-harm prevention 🔗 https://www.pieta.ie/about/ 🇬🇧 Silence of Suicide (SOS) – Breaking stigma around suicide 🔗 https://sossilenceofsuicide.org/about-us/ 🌻 The OLLIE Foundation – Youth suicide prevention 🔗 https://theolliefoundation.org/ ________________________________________ Mental Health Insight: Post-Traumatic Growth 2023 Collective Trauma Conference Patricia first heard the phrase Post Traumatic Growth The concept that growth can follow trauma—emotionally, spiritually, even socially. "Not just healing—but rising. That’s what post-traumatic growth means." ________________________________________ Quote Spotlight “Trauma is not what happens to us, but what happens inside us as a result of what happens to us.” – Dr. Gabor Maté “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.” – Robin Williams ________________________________________ Support Resources BACP Therapist Directory https://www.bacp.co.uk/about-us/home/ UKCP Register https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/about-ukcp/our-register/ Counselling Directory UK https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ Mental Health Ireland https://www.mentalhealthireland.ie/ MIND https://www.mind.org.uk/ ________________________________________ Closing Reflection This episode is a tribute to those lost too soon, we remember you and we rise in your name, and also a reminder to anyone struggling: you are not alone. You can heal. You can rise. ________________________________________ Next Episode Teaser: Part 2 In the next episode, we’ll dive into: Recognising self-sabotage patterns from pain The power of engaging and reconnecting with your Sage within Tara Brach’s RAIN Method for emotional healing   🎧 Enjoying the podcast? Here’s how you can support: ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode 🌟 Leave a 5-star rating and a written review on Apple or Spotify 📲 Share this episode with someone who might benefit 💌 Join the conversation: DM me on Instagram @pacoaching_foryou or email hello@pacoaching.co.uk 💻 Explore Coaching/Mental Fitness: www.pacoaching.co.uk      

In this soulful episode, Patricia’s explore the transformative power of cultivating patience on your journey of self-love. Learning to trust the process of personal growth and healing. In a world obsessed with speed and instant results, this is your invitation to slow down, breathe, and trust your natural rhythm. Through storytelling, reflections, and poetry, she uncovers why patience is not just a virtue, but an essential ingredient for emotional resilience, habit change, and long-term success. Whether you’re facing setbacks, navigating illness, or feeling frustrated by slow progress, this episode will gently guide you back to a place of self-compassion, trust, and peace. Key Takeaways Growth takes time, just like a seed needs nurturing to bloom. Patience is active, not passive; it’s about keeping a good attitude while waiting. There are three types of patience: o Interpersonal (with others) o Hardship (during major life challenges) o Daily hassles (traffic, delays, etc.) Self-sabotage and perfectionism often block progress, patience helps dismantle them. Mindfulness, gratitude, and tiny consistent steps cultivate a patient mindset. Learn to trust your timing and honour your body and mind’s natural pace. Celebrate the small wins, they’re the seeds of long-term change. Line from the poetic story; "Know you won’t reap rewards from the seeds you never plant." Quotes "Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting." — Joyce Meyer "Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience." — Ralph Waldo Emerson “Patience is the calm ability to wait in the face of frustration or adversity” - Sarah Schnitker   Practical Tools Shared Mindfulness & Meditation – observe impulses, reduce reactivity. Gratitude Practice – recognise progress, practice delayed gratification. Micro-Goal Planning – break ambitions into daily manageable steps. Reframe Frustration – focus on what your body can do. Let Go of Control – adopt the pace of nature.   Call to Action If this message resonated with you, please share, subscribe, and leave a review. Come back to this episode whenever you need a reminder to trust your journey, nurture your inner self, and move with love, not pressure.   Contact me via my website www.pacoaching.co.uk email me on hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

From Change to Transformation: Reconnecting to Your True Self In this powerful continuation of our conversation on change, Patricia shares a transformative poem titled "The Light" by Helen Amery, from the groundbreaking book Poetry for Coaching – Transformation Through Verse. This episode explores how embracing transformation over superficial change leads to lasting growth, self-awareness, emotional resilience, and reconnection to your true self. Patricia dives into neuroscience, mindset, habit formation, and the power of the Reticular Activating System (RAS), and uncovers how mental fitness coaching offers a more sustainable, compassionate path to inner transformation.   Key Takeaways: The Power of the Brain: Learn how the RAS (Reticular Activating System) filters your reality and reinforces what you believe — both limiting and empowering. From Change to Transformation: Why change is external, but transformation is internal — a return to your authentic self. Mental Fitness & Positive Intelligence: How shifting from self-sabotage (saboteurs) to inner wisdom (Sage) creates sustainable mental wellbeing. Identity & Beliefs: Rethinking how you use the phrase “I AM” and breaking free from conditioned identities like people-pleaser, perfectionist, procrastinator. The Habit Myth: Busting the "21-day" myth - real habit formation takes on average 66 days, and up to 254, according to research. Resilience Metaphor: Trees thrive by bending with the wind. So can we, through learning flexibility, self-awareness, and inner connection, via mental fitness. Coaching Equation: “Performance = Potential – Interference” (Tim Gallwey) - it's not about becoming better, it's about removing the inner blocks that are interfering.   Science-Based Tools & Concepts: Neuroplasticity Confirmation Bias Reticular Activating System (RAS) Subconscious Conditioning Self-Sabotage vs. Inner Wisdom Positive Reinforcement & Growth Mindset Mentioned Tools & Frameworks: The R Coaching Framework: o Recognise your patterns o Realise which serves and what is interfering o Reconnect to your Sage true essence, and Release Mental Fitness Coaching: o Thrive through inner Sage o Shift out of survival mode o Build lasting transformation and resilience Quotes: "People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits, and their habits decide their futures." — F.M. Alexander “All that I know is that I know nothing”. Socrates   Resources Mentioned: Book; Poetry for Coaching: Transformation Through Verse (Creative Coaching Collective, Nov 2024) Research; Phillippa Lally's Habit Formation Study (2010) – Link to Study Book; The Inner Game of Tennis – Tim Gallwey Book a call via my www.pacoaching.co.uk or email hello@pacoaching.co.uk  

Change: From Resistance to Transformation   In this deeply personal and thought-provoking episode, Patricia dives into one of life’s most challenging truths, change is inevitable. Patricia explores how our resistance to change keeps us stuck in old emotional patterns, especially within relationships, and how developing mental fitness, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness can help us embrace change as a path to personal growth and inner peace.   Drawing from her own transformational journey, including powerful stories about her relationship with her mother, Patricia shares what it truly means to be the change you wish to see in the world and how the ripple effect begins with you.   Whether you're navigating personal transitions, emotional reactivity, or challenging relationships, this episode will inspire you to shift your perspective and start the healing from within.   Key Topics & Takeaways: Why we fear change (and how to embrace it instead) The neuroscience of transformation Emotional intelligence vs. emotional reactivity What it means to co-create dynamics in relationships How healing your inner world impacts the outer world The role of mental fitness coaching in long-term change Moving from transactional to transformational change Understanding projection and the power of self-responsibility Real-life story: Healing the mother-daughter relationship   Resources Mentioned: TED Talk: “Honest Liars: The Psychology of Self-Deception” by Dr. Cortney Warren https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YpEeSa6zBTE Tune in next week for Part 2: moving from change to transformation, how the brain can help us, and how coaching helps with new habit formation that drives real transformation   If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and share with someone who needs a reminder that true healing begins within.   Connect with me via my website @pacoaching.co.uk or via email hello@pacoaching.co.uk      

In this deeply honest and transformative episode, Patricia dives into the all-too-common feeling of overwhelm, what it really is, how it manifests in our bodies and minds, and most importantly, how we can move through it with mindfulness, self-compassion, and intentional living. Patricia shares her own journey, from being debilitated by anxiety, stress, and internal self-sabotage, to reclaiming peace, balance, and self-love through simple, consistent practices of mental fitness and emotional resilience. With insights rooted in personal experience, neuroscience, and mindfulness coaching, this episode is a heartfelt reminder that healing is possible, and that you are the centre of your reality-making. ________________________________________ Key Takeaways: What overwhelm truly is: a perceived imbalance between demands and internal resources How stress, anxiety, and fear are often rooted in inner beliefs, not external events The power of mindfulness, breathing techniques, and mental fitness practices (like PQ reps) Overcoming overwhelm is not a one-time event, it’s journey, it’s a daily choice Small steps, when consistent, lead to long-lasting change Your thoughts, if unmanaged, can run your life, but you can take the reins The shift from self-improvement to self-welcoming is where deep transformation happens ________________________________________ Tools & Strategies Shared: Breathing techniques: Box breathing, diaphragmatic breathing, alternate nostril (Nadi Shodhanam), Ujjayi (Victorious Breath) Mindfulness practices: Sensory-based awareness, PQ reps, the “Power of the Pause” Self-care rituals: Walking, dancing, myofascial stretching, affirmations, mindful reflection Mental fitness tips: Quieting the inner saboteur, building new neural pathways, choosing thriving over survival https://www.positiveintelligence.com/   ________________________________________ Recommended Resources: The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle Daring Greatly – Brené Brown Superbrain – Deepak Chopra & Rudolph Tanzi The Oxygen Advantage – Patrick McKeown   Quotes “We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be”. May Sarton Be brave enough to live creatively…… The creative is the place where no one else has ever been. You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition…… not quite knowing what you are doing. But what you will discover will be wonderful. Yourself. Alan Alda “You are at the centre of your reality-making. The problem may be with you, but so is the solution.” “Healing is not linear, it’s a continual choice to weed out negativity and sow seeds of positivity.” “Mindfulness isn’t about removing stress; it’s about learning how to respond to it with presence.” ________________________________________ Listen & Subscribe: 🔗 https://mindfulpoeticstoriespodcast.podbean.com/ 💌 Share with a friend who needs this message 🌱 Follow for more episodes on mindfulness, mental fitness & thriving   www.pacoaching.co.uk    

"Let Mistakes Make You Stronger: Embracing Failure with Self-Compassion & Mental Fitness" In this heartfelt and deeply personal episode, Patricia dives into something every human experiences, mistakes, failures, and errors, and how we can transform them into powerful opportunities for growth. Through storytelling, science, and emotional wisdom, Patricia shares how our childhood conditioning, internal critic, and neuroscience of error recognition can shape our view of failure, and how we can rewire those patterns through mental fitness, self-love, and resilience. You'll hear personal stories of growing up with fear and shame around mistakes, the indelible marks left by red pens, and how she has shifted from self-criticism to self-acceptance and intuitive learning. Plus, she explores powerful research on Error-Related Negativity (ERN) and how your brain reacts to mistakes before you’re even aware of them. Let’s learn to fail forward, reclaim our worth, and rewrite the stories we tell ourselves—with gentleness, curiosity, and courage. ________________________________________   Key Episode Highlights The emotional and neurological impact of mistakes and failure Personal childhood stories of shame around error and the red pen Neuroscience of failure: how the brain reacts to mistakes (ERN + Error Positivity) How your internal saboteur can reinforce old beliefs and fear Shifting from reflexive self-criticism to reflective self-inquiry The power of positive intelligence and mental fitness Why your brain is always listening to your mind Inspirational quotes from Denzel Washington, Giannis Antetokounmpo, and Thomas Edison The acronym F.A.I.L – First Attempt In Learning How to stop taking mistakes personally and start learning from them How building emotional awareness helps you bounce back faster The concept of "feeding what you want to grow" in your mindset ________________________________________ Resources & Links Mentioned 🎥 Denzel Washington – “Fall Forward” Motivational Speech Watch on YouTube 🎥 Giannis Antetokounmpo on Failure and Success Watch on YouTube 🧠 Neuroscience Article – Kids Frontiers Understanding Mistakes and the Brain 📖 Recommended Book: Super Brain by Deepak Chopra & Rudolph Tanzi 🧠 Positive Intelligence; https://www.positiveintelligence.com/   ________________________________________ Call to Action 👉 If this episode spoke to you, please rate, review, and share it with someone who needs to hear that they are not their mistakes. ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on self-love, mental fitness, and emotional mastery. 💬 Let’s connect! Share your biggest takeaway on Instagram or your favourite platform and tag me! ________________________________________ Quote of the Episode "Take the ‘I’ out of Mistakes—and replace it with Intuitive Learning."   www.pacoaching.co.uk  

Featured Poem: A heartfelt original piece inspired by a conversation between two child-free women - one by choice, one by circumstance.   In this deeply personal episode, Patricia opens up about her decision not to have children, exploring themes of time, choice, societal expectations, and alternative forms of motherhood. With tenderness and honesty, she speaks to women who have chosen not to have children, as well as those who grieve the children they couldn't have. Through stories, reflections, and a heartfelt poem, Patricia honours the many ways we love, nurture, and leave a legacy beyond biology. This episode is for you if you've ever: Felt pressure from your “biological clock” Faced judgment for not having children Grieved infertility or loss Been a mentor, godparent, aunt, or carer who has loved deeply Wondered about your legacy outside of motherhood Topics Covered: Choosing child-free living with intention The emotional weight of societal and familial pressure Reflections on adoption, foster care, and shared parenting Emotional intelligence in parenting and relationships The power of nurturing beyond blood ties A poetic tribute to the children who’ve touched Patricia’s life Key Quotes: "To mother not with the body, but with the heart." "Your love matters. However it shows up in the world." "Legacy is not only about lineage — it’s about presence, care, and connection." Mentioned Resources: Poem: This Be The Verse by Philip Larkin Book: Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman Inspiration from writer Maeve Binchy on the ‘borrowed parent” 🙏 Dedicated with love to: all the beautiful children I have been blessed to know in my life   🎧 Enjoying the podcast? Here’s how you can support: ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode 🌟 Leave a 5-star rating and a written review on Apple or Spotify 📲 Share this episode with someone who might be feeling lonely 💌 Join the conversation: DM me on Instagram pacoaching_for you or email hello@pacocaching.co.uk 💻 Explore Coaching with me: www.pacoaching.co.uk   book a call by emailing; hello@pacoaching.co.uk