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What if your kink is a key to your healing? In this episode, Eamon sits down with Chloe Macintosh, founder of Kama, to explore how kink and somatic awareness can be used to understand early imprints, work through shame, and build more honest relationships.They discuss Chloe’s personal journey into conscious sexuality, the link between formative memories and erotic wiring, and how containment and co-regulation support deeper intimacy. Chloe shares the story of a pivotal roleplay experience, reflects on working with male clients, and challenges the idea that kink is something separate from everyday life or healing work.Chloe Macintosh is the founder of Kama, a sex and wellness platform offering guided practices and tools to help people connect with their erotic intelligence. She previously worked in design and tech before turning her attention to intimacy, embodiment, and pleasure-based personal development.LinksChloe Macintosh (@chloe_macintosh)Pleasure is health | Kama

Can you train dominance or is it who you are? Today Eamon and Madeline sit down with Orpheus Black, Eamon’s teacher and one of the most respected voices in conscious BDSM, to explore dominance, archetypes, power.This conversation dives  into energetic dominance, BDSM as an embodied art form, and how archetypes like Daddy, King, and Magician can shape, (or distort) erotic power dynamics. Orpheus shares his journey from Baptist rebel to Buddhist kink educator, explains why most men get stuck in “daddy” mode, and outlines the difference between topping, dominance, and true mastery. They explore responsibility, mentorship, and how our deepest wounds often fuel our fantasies.Orpheus Black is a Los Angeles-based teacher, certified “Behavioral Health Support Specialist,” and thought leader at the intersection of kink, polyamory, and spirituality. Known for his sexcraft demonstrations, martial arts-informed techniques, and mythopoetic approach to masculinity, Orpheus helps people reclaim power, desire, and shadow integration through conscious BDSM.Timestamps(04:00) The Origin of the Name Orpheus Black and Leading with Shadow(08:00) Breathplay, Angel Lust, and Erotic Energy Loops(12:00) Flogging as Energetic Transmission and the Art of Impact Play(19:00) The Four Erotic Archetypes: Father, Teacher, Director, King(24:00) Mentorship, Liminal Space, and the Path to Masculine Power(28:00) Why Dominants Often Give What They Most Desire to Receive(33:00) Power, Desire, and Claiming Leadership in Relationships(42:00) Can You Train Dominance, or Is It Who You Are?(47:00) Switching Dynamics, Tops vs. Dominants, and Responsibility(52:00) Mentorship Loss, Betrayal, and the Cost of Power(56:00) Daddy Doms, Abandonment, and Playing with Archetypes(01:02:00) Littles, Brats, and Healing Through Archetypal Roles(01:06:00) Casual Play vs. Deep Archetypal Commitment(01:09:00) Erotic Fantasy, Devotion, and Lowering the Bar to Succeed(01:12:00) Mistress Energy, Feminine Power, and Closing ReflectionsLinksGuru Orpheus BlackGuru Orpheus Black - Instagram

In this episode of You Like It, Eamon and Madeline slip behind the velvet curtain of New York’s erotic underground with Daniel D’Ottavio and Inka Nevala of SNCTM. Lovers, collaborators, and curators of kink, this couple blurs the line between fine art and sensual play.Together they explore the role of aesthetic in erotic space, how to show up to play parties with grace and integrity, and what it takes to create magnetic performance art. The conversation moves through artistic ritual, the origins of SNCTM's theatricality, and how the couple navigates intimacy, power, and pleasure in their personal and professional lives.Daniel D’Ottavio is a photographer, performance host, and artist affiliated with SNCTM. Inka Nevala, also known as LouLou D'vil, is a world-renowned burlesque performer, multiple-time winner at the Burlesque Hall of Fame, and the creative director behind SNCTM’s stage shows. SNCTM is a members-only erotic society known for hosting immersive, upscale play parties and artistic performances in New York, Los Angeles, and Miami.Timestamps(04:00) – Designing an Erotic Home(06:30) – What Is Art? And What Is Erotic Art?(13:00) – Magical Spaces in NYC: The Box, the Chelsea Hotel and Beyond(22:00) – Inka and Daniel Join SNCTM: The Muse and the Host(34:00) – Burlesque as Expression and Competition(42:45) – Tips for Play Party Navigation(47:00) – Brotherhood in Erotic Space(49:00) – What is SNCTM? Membership, Community, and Philosophy(55:00) – Erotic Collaboration and Relationship GrowthLinksSnctm - A Private Members ClubSNCTM Boudoir PhotographySNCTM (@snctmsociety) • Instagram photos and videosLouLou D'vilLouLou D'vil a.k.a Inka 💋 (@loulou_dvil)Daniel D'Ottavio PhotographyDaniel D'Ottavio (@dottavio77) Contact: Daniel@snctm.com

You don’t need to impress to dominate. You need to attune, surrender, and show up human. In this raw, funny, and soulful conversation, kink educator Kimi Inch joins Eamon and Madeline in bed (literally) to unravel the heart of ethical domination.Together, they explore the evolution from performative Dom to embodied erotic leader, how to work with fantasy as soul medicine, and why surrender is a skill for Doms too. Kimi shares her framework of “power with, not power over,” how to avoid harm in professional kink work, and why even the most badass Doms need aftercare. Along the way, you’ll hear real talk about attunement, humiliation, theater kid kink, and the healing power of endings done right.Kimi Inch is a Pro Domme, a trauma-informed somatic therapist,, an author, a  kink educator, and a motivational spanker with over 20 years of experience. Known for her playful rigor and soul-deep approach, she helps clients and erotic leaders explore power, surrender, and transformation through conscious kink, fantasy work, and embodied presence.Timestamps(06:00) – Humor, safety, and perverting everything(12:00) – Letting go of scripts to access deeper play(18:00) – Baby Doms, ego traps, and why presence > performance(21:00) – Attunement, consent, and power with (not over)(28:00) – Erotic leadership: co-creation vs. control(30:00) – Fantasy as sacred message, not compulsive script(36:00) – The ethics of FinDom and capitalist kink culture(42:00) – Why great Doms learn to sub(45:00) – Dom drop, aftercare, and the sacredness of endingsLinksKimi Inch (@kimiinch) · Instagram photos and videos&More - Your Pleasure Is Our Passion

In sex-positive communities, how do we hold each other with care when things go wrong? In this vital episode, Eamon and Madeline dive deep with educator and consent specialist Misha Bonaventura to unpack the risks, responsibilities, and real talk behind conscious kink.In this episode, Eamon and Madeline talk with Misha about how to navigate harm in sex-positive spaces with clarity, care, and community. They cover how to respond when you’ve caused harm, and why most trauma comes from how we react, not what happens. They dive into consent as an art form, kinky communication that stays hot while staying safe, and how to educate communities before cleanup is needed. You'll also hear about the Bonobo Network’s approach to party protocols, the limitations of pod processes, and the emerging role of accountability coaching. Whether you're a Dom, sub, party host, or just playing with power, this one’s essential.Misha Bonaventura is a sex-positive coach, conflict educator, and social change agent at SoulPlay Festival. Formerly a co-leader of San Francisco’s Bonobo Network, Misha brings years of experience developing consent protocols, facilitating community repair, and supporting those impacted by harm through trauma-informed, heart-forward processes.Links:Misha Bonaventura: www.mishabonaventura.comBonobo Network: BonoboNetwork.comSoulPlay Festivals: SoulPlay.coBonobo policy docs: http://bit.ly/bonobodocumentsMischa Byruck Evolve Men: https://www.evolve.men/Timestamps:(05:00) – Misha’s journey into sex-positive community and personal power(11:00) – The Bonobo Network origin story & creating safer sexual spaces(16:00) – Consent education as culture-building(20:00) – The art of sexy, poetic, ongoing consent(28:00) – Risk awareness in kink and navigating edgy play(31:00) – What to do when a scene goes wrong: Whoopsies vs harm(36:00) – How to respond if you’ve caused harm (templates & nervous system tips)(49:00) – When should a community intervene?(53:00) – The limits of pod processes and emerging best practices(56:00) – Spiritual resilience after being harmed & the slow arc of healing(01:01:00) – Leading community with care: carrots, values, and clear boundaries(01:06:00) – Best-in-class resources and next steps

Why are we drawn to dark role play, and how can these games provide lasting healing? Today on the show, Eamon and Madeline sit down with legendary author and therapist Dossie Easton, whose work has broadly shaped kink, ethical non-monogamy, and Western sexuality.The conversation begins with the roots of kink culture, exploring Dossie’s formative experiences with psychedelics and her journey into early Bay Area BDSM communities. Dossie shares some of her most important personal fantasies, and they discuss how engaging in intense role-play scenarios—especially those involving darker themes—became sources of profound healing and personal evolution.Dossie Easton is the co-author of influential books including "The Ethical Slut," "The New Topping Book," and "The New Bottoming Book." Since the early 1970s, she has been an essential figure in San Francisco’s leather and polyamory communities, continuously inspiring others through workshops, writings, and her unapologetically adventurous life.Links:Dossie EastonThe Ethical SlutThe New Topping BookThe New Bottoming BookNavigating Consent - Dossie EastonShadowplay: Journeys to Our Abandoned SelvesTimestamps:(05:14) Psychedelics and Sexuality(06:27) Exploring BDSM and Polyamory(12:22) Early BDSM Community and Cultural Impact(23:10) Role Play and Intimacy(39:08) Therapy vs. Kink: A Distinction(43:52) Exploring Inner Child and Shadow Work(55:11) Kink in Mainstream Culture(01:01:19) Navigating Consent and Power Dynamics

Today Eamon  and Madeline  welcome a true legend in the world of kink: the illustrious Domina and educatrix, Colette Pervette. Known for her signature blend of softness and strength, Colette embodies the kind of dominance that disrupts expectations—sensual, grounded, and spiritually attuned. On the show, Eamon, Madeline, and Colette explore kink archetypes, the artistry of dominance, and the transformative power of shadow work. Colette opens up about her pedagogical journey—from training professional mistresses around the world to launching her groundbreaking new offering, The Shadow Series. The conversation also dives into the delicate dance of power and integrity and the necessity of reclaiming softness in powerful spaces.Colette Pervette is a San Francisco–based dominatrix, educator, and visionary creator. Colette fuses academic rigor with the erotic arts, developing immersive experiences and courses that guide individuals through personal transformation using kink as a sacred tool. She’s trained hundreds of women in the art of domination and continues to shift the cultural narrative around power, healing, and sexuality.Timestamps(08:26) Writing in Bed and Creative Expression(12:50) Living for the Plot(25:30) Exploring the Shadow Self Through Kink(30:02) The Therapeutic Power of Kink(35:00) The Joy and Playfulness in Kink(37:59) Diverse Styles of Domination(47:39) The Importance of Safety and Communication(58:44) The Cultural Impact of KinkLinksColette Pervette, PhD (@colettepervette)Colette PervetteColette Pervette on Life is a Festival

In today’s special episode, Mistress Madeline takes the reins to interview her dear friend and fellow Domina, Mistress Seren, while co-host Eamon   steps back to listen in like a true fly on the dungeon wall. Settle in as these two powerful Dommes share intimate stories, candid reflections, and plenty of laughs from their journey together in kink.Madeline and Seren dive deep into their intertwined history, from Madeline’s unforgettable first scene, to bonding through the six-month BDSM intensive that forever shaped their practice. They explore the power of voice notes, Seren’s infamous worm scene, and  how Seren balances sweet-hearted sadism with genuine emotional connection. Along the way, the duo offers invaluable insights on what to do when scenes  go off-track, the art of being a Domme within a romantic partnership, and how to skillfully navigate BDSM dynamics when working with couples.Mistress Seren is a luxury Domina whose diverse career in art, tech, fashion, and finance informs her deeply psychological and meticulously tailored BDSM practice. Raised in the Rocky Mountains, her approach integrates Mother Nature’s raw power and Carl Jung’s theories of individuation to create authentic and emotionally profound experiences. A true sadist known for her high standards and artistic approach, Seren’s work emphasizes catharsis, transformation, and self-discovery.Timestamps(05:24) Madeline and Soren's Origin Stories(14:11) The Intensive BDSM Course(20:36) Voice Notes and Creative Collaboration(24:27) The Art of Sadism and Masochism(35:47) Evoking and Expressing Anger(38:30) The Role of a Caring Dom(42:53) Ethics and Pitfalls in Doming(55:13) Navigating Romantic Relationships and Boundaries(01:06:58) Empowering Couples Through BDSMLinksMistress SerenMiss Seren (@its.mistress.seren)Mistress Seren (@MistressSeren) / XBonded Masterclass

Today on the show, Tantric educator and kink connoisseur Lauren Harkness stops by to demystify everything from group clitoral stroking and Kundalini awakenings to the pitfalls of “Tantra f*ckboys” and sex cults. This episode explores the intersection of kink and Tantra, asking whether everyone has the capacity to switch between Dom and sub roles. The conversation covers Lauren’s journey from novice seeker to seasoned teacher in multiple traditions, highlighting the impact of clitoral stroking in group settings and why communal practice can accelerate healing. Lauren unpacks the essence of Neotantra, from subtle Kundalini work to the undeniable charge of erotic embodiment and offers a behind-the-scenes glimpse of what it means to train as a Modern Priestess, avoid “Tantra fuckboys” and navigate the pitfalls of sex-cult dynamics.A trained Tantrika and Advanced Certified Tantra Educator through Charles Muir’s Source School of Tantra, Lauren’s studies encompass Lafayette Morehouse practices, D/s arts and Shamanism with Om Rupani, Somatic Experiencing with Peter Levine, and the Mastery Program at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts. Co-Founder of The Tantra Institute of NY, Lauren teaches Tantra and other healing modalities to large groups worldwide—including appearances at Burning Man, FYN, and Dark Odyssey—and offers private Tantra Sessions, coaching, and Reiki Healing Attunements. Her work is a powerful stand for personal freedom, grounded erotic exploration, and a life ablaze with awakened pleasure.Timestamps(03:12) Lauren's Journey and Teachings(07:54) Clitoral Stroking and the Power of Group Practices(19:09) Neotantra and Kundalini (30:53) The Intersection of Kink and Tantra(37:55) Is Everyone a Switch?(45:10) Training to be a Modern Priestess(49:12) Beware of the Tantra Fuckboy(57:40) How to Avoid a Sex CultLinksLauren Harkness@sensualalchemistress - Lauren HarknessTantra Illuminated: The Philosophy, History, and PracticeSource School of Tantra Yoga Lafayette MorehouseOm Rupani WorkshopsMama Gena

Are you a Nice Guy or Bad Boy? Today’s guest, legendary Dom Om Rupani says they are both distortions of the masculine. Buckle up for some edgy gender politics as Madeline and Eamon get a masterclass in polarity, containment and what it really takes to become an integrated man and a good Dom.In today’s conversation they discuss D/s archetypes and the importance of training and containment in power exchange. It gets spicy with a conversation on why women can’t train their men (unless they’re professionals), and whether egalitarianism really works in relationships. Om makes a compelling case that you can’t perfect a man by criticizing him and teaches how men can move from Nice Guy Syndrome into true masculine integration through kink.Om Rupani is a master Dom based in New York City with decades of experience at the intersection of Tantra and BDSM. He’s the author of Prerequisites to Ecstasy and the creator of courses like The Dominant Man and Tantra Meets BDSM. He also runs The Modern Priestess of Eros, a six-month immersive designed to train professional Dommes. Whether you’re new to kink or a seasoned player, Om’s insights cut straight to the heart of what it means to embody power, intimacy, and integrity.Timestamps(04:07) The Importance of Training in BDSM(10:23) Understanding Kink Archetypes(23:55) Containment vs. Penetration(45:28) The Problem with Nice Guys(53:15) Egalitarianism vs. Polarity(01:03:42) Men's Burnout and Containment(01:12:35) Feminism and Relationship Dynamics(01:19:53) The Importance of RespectLinksYou like It CommunityOm RupaniOm Rupani PodcastPrerequisites to Ecstasy: A No-Nonsense Guide to What It Really Takes to Create the Love and Sex We Say We WantSlavecraft: Roadmaps for Erotic ServitudeDossie Easton

Internal Family Systems (IFS) has never spoken on BDSM… until today. On this episode of You Like It, Dick Schwartz, founder and head honcho of the popular psychotherapy technique weighs in on kink while Madeline and Eamon get a little free therapy of their own.  On the show, Madeline, Eamon, and Dick discuss the foundational principles of IFS, explore why sexual parts are often exiled, and examine how legacy burdens and ancestral trauma can influence relationships and personal growth. They also explore the liberation found in role play and address the dark elephant in the room, whether healing parts means healing kinks. During the conversation Dick generously invites both Eamon and Madeline to do a little impromptu IFS.  Dick Schwartz is a renowned family therapist, systems thinker, and the originator of the IFS model. Since its development in the 1980s, Internal Family Systems has gained international recognition for its unique approach to understanding and harmonizing the various sub-personalities that exist within an individual. Schwartz is also the author of multiple books, including his latest release, No Bad Parts, and continues to expand IFS to address a wide range of therapeutic and personal growth contexts. Links Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. - The Founder of Internal Family Systems IFS Institute: What is Internal Family Systems? No Bad Parts: Schwartz, Richard Patricia Rich: No Bad Sex Parts Timestamps (02:33) Dick Schwartz explains Internal Family Systems (16:36) Exiling Sexual Parts (21:59) Legacy Burdens and Ancestral Trauma (27:26) The Liberation of Role Play (39:01) Live IFS Session: Eamon (51:27) Does Healing Parts Mean Healing Kinks? (56:33) Masculinity and Cultural Legacy Burdens (01:02:48) Integrating IFS into Group and Sexual Healing Work (01:10:07) Live IFS Session: Madeline

If you’re craving a crash course on the philosophy of kink won’t find a better guide than the Sexual Freedom Philosopher herself, Nicolle Hodges. This episode of You Like It dives deep into the mythological implications of kink, the subtleties of power dynamics, and the vital role of trust in BDSM. Hodges sheds light on common misconceptions, reveals gaps in BDSM literature, and discusses how kink can serve as a powerful avenue for healing and self-discovery. The conversation also covers cultural shifts sparked by phenomena like Fifty Shades of Grey, the significance of community evolution, and the rewards and challenges of exploring the shadow self through BDSM. Nicolle Hodges is a journalist, author, and Sexual Freedom Philosopher, as well as the founder of Girls Who Say Fuck—an incubator for projects and conversations that instigate change. She is the author of Oh, the Places You’ll Go Oh Oh, a Dr. Seuss-style exploration of the power of female orgasms. Hodges also created the video series Men Who Take Baths and launched the Garden of Earthly Delights event series to challenge societal norms around sexuality. Currently, she is completing a new book that explores BDSM as therapy, continuing her mission to expand conversations and empower people to embrace their own desires. Links Nicolle Double L (@nicolledoublel) Nicolle Hodges (@nicolledoublel) / X Nicolle Hodges Substack Oh, the Places You'll Go Oh Oh! Men Who Take Baths Men Who Take Baths (@menwhotakebaths) Unbound: A Woman's Guide to Power: Urbaniak, Kasia Existential Kink The Deep Psychology of BDSM and Kink Getting the Love You Want Discovering Kinbaku Member Spotlight: Susan Wright Timestamps (03:12) Exploring BDSM and Sexual Freedom (05:47) The Philosophy of Dominance and Submission (09:40) Literature and Resources on Kink (11:43) Misconceptions and Realities of BDSM (20:58) The Role of Trust and Consent (31:57) The Healing Power of Kink (35:06) The Myth of Inanna (39:32) Kink and Personal Growth (42:06) The Healing Journey of Kink (46:16) Advice for Kink Beginners (51:08) Kink in the Context of Modern Culture (57:12) Masculinity and Sexual Expression

Welcome to the very first episode of You Like It, the provocative new podcast exploring kink, erotic intelligence, and the transformative power of desire. Join hosts Madeline Pryor and Eamon Armstrong as they share why they like kink, why they launched this show, and how it can guide you toward deeper intimacy and erotic fulfillment.  On this episode, Madeline and Eamon discuss the origin of the name “You Like It,” the Erotic Blueprint framework, Kink archetypes, Daddy dynamics, the art of erotic tension, and the power of containment. Madeline is a sex educator and NYC-based dominatrix, focused on the study of erotic intelligence through tantra, BDSM, power dynamics and polarity. Her core philosophy Body Alchemy is designed to heal, balance, and awaken the body as a primary tool to creates stronger connection to ourselves and deeper intimacy with one other. A podcast host, writer, speaker, and lifestyle Dom, Eamon also hosts the Life is a Festival and Psychedelic Therapy podcasts. He’s finishing his first book, an investigation of integrated masculinity through festival culture, psychedelics, and alternative sexuality. Links You Like It Website You Like It Instagram You Like It WhatsApp community Timestamps (02:13) The Origin Story: Naming the Podcast (06:57) Understanding Kink: Frameworks and Blueprints (12:36) Madeline’s and Eamon’s Personal Journeys (19:59) Integrating Kink: Balancing Pervert and Good Man (25:06) Dominance and Submission: Professional and Personal Insights (27:27) Understanding Men Through Intimacy (30:43) Daddy Archetype and Masculinity (34:05) Kink Archetypes and BDSM Test (41:25) The Birth of the Podcast